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Hello Jizz, First off, like the nick name or perhaps it?s the real think I like more! LOL A little humour to break the tension. Now to you problem? you say that you have been with 3 SP?s and all attempts have been a failure. Well, my question is how have your attempts been with non-SP?s? Have you failed there? Or is it just with SP?s? If the latter, then you just haven?t found the right girl to make you feel relaxed and give you a more of an intimate experience. Compatibility is a very important thing, and not just in relationships, but with your SP as well. Maybe even more so since you might be doing things with her that you MIGHT never have done or thought of doing with a partner for what ever reasons. Also, you should consider what MOD said, ?book a multiple hour date?. This will really give you the time to get to know each other, chat, take your time with foreplay and so forth before diving into the naughtier action. Also, something I would add to that, I would find a girl that offers a GFE, or PSE experience because they are more intimate in nature; depending on the girl. Secondly, I would never use any form of inhabitants? such as alcohol or drugs; as these will decrease your sexual stimuli even further causing the outcomes you have been having with the past three SP?s. Thirdly, you have to regain control of your biggest sexual organ, your brain. It controls everything you do and experience. I?ll tell you why? You don?t supply us with enough information for us to give a proper informed guess about what might be at the root of your problem. So I?m going to make a stab at it in general. If I had to guess, I?d say that you are suffering from a case of performance anxiety. You don't need a doctor, drugs, pills, or alcohol;you just need to RELAX. Here?s how this nasty thing works. Say a ?guy? has a less than satisfying sexual experience for one reason or another. Before he knows it, he is replaying the incident over and over in his head, till that?s all he thinks about; especially when with another woman. The proverbial molehill soon becomes a giant mountain. This ?guy? then brings this anxiety to his next sexual encounter. His hyper-consciousness (brain) primes him for more disappointment. And then he again interprets all disappointment as a failure. Begins to doubt his sexual manly hood and so forth?Well, you can see where I?m going with this right Jizz? Your fears become self-fulfilling. Before you knows it, you begins to doubt yourself or resort to matters that make it worse. Your sexual encounters suffer. You soon think you have developed some sort of sexual dysfunction. And your self-esteem takes a nosedive. Your preoccupation with this problem makes it less likely that you?ll be fully present during sex with your partner (SP or otherwise), which pretty much fucks up your sexual responsiveness and any hope for spontaneity or a feeling of intimacy. It looks to me like performance anxiety is putting a damper on your sexual arousal and short-circuiting your sexual responses. This is nothing to fool around with, so grab a hold of the controlling factor, your brain and JUST ENJOY it all and NOT worry so much about the end product? It will all CUM back to you in the end. So get a hold of your brain, find the right SP or partner, don?t rush it, so a multiple date would be best and enjoy it all my fiend. Enjoy the sights, sounds, smells, touch and so forth? Use all your senses. Take care sweetie and I hope all works out for you?.