Samantha, you would make a wonderful sex therapist. You are not only knowledgeable, but also care for your clients genuinely and are smart enough to see things as they are.
Not trying to influence you in any direction, but just in case you want to retire, that would be an option, and that is a legitimate profession.
I am convinced that there are many sex therapists out there who have no idea about male sexuality and instead of fixing the clients they screw them up more.
Just an example. I sometimes listen to Dr. Laura, because I am bored and I love to talk back to her:)
She is an absolute idiot when it comes to giving advise. She is convinced that all you have to do to fix your marriage and sex life with your husband (husband only, because having sex with a boyfriend is shaking up LOL) is to be nice to him, give him a hug, give him a backrub and everything will be fine.
She has no idea that there are cases out there where husbands do NOT want to have a good sex life, because they need to experience something new or something kinky to be satisfied..... With other words, she has never been an sp and has NO IDEA what reality is like.
I am not judging anyone, I am just saying that the issue is a lot more complex, and I feel sorry for the women who are desperately trying to seduce their husbands and blame themselves when they fail, and stupid Dr.Laura tells them they should try harder, when the truth is that the husband needs to be spanked, whipped, stepped on or eat his own cum to be happy. Poor husband can't share this with the wife without risking her contempt, and sees sp's to get what he wants.
I am wondering, how would in a (pretty common) case like this a backrub help?
Another thing that pisses me off is when a husband cheats and she says to the wife "you are not treating him right, buy my book on how to spoil your husband" just to make a buck. On the other hand when a woman cheats she calls her a slut and asks the husband why did he marry her? Stupid Laura, maybe he is attracted to sluts! Go figure! Life is not black and white, and some people don't fit into your artificially happy world.
Anyway, when I started out with this post, I had no idea I will end up bashing Dr. Laura, but I will throw this out there and see what people think?
I am a moderate feminist, meaning that I want the same rights as a man has, not more, not less. And I absolutely resent to play the subordinate role to butter up my husband to have a happy marriage. If there is buttering up, it should be mutual in my opinion.
Maybe, that's why I am happily single ;)