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Too true. Winter windchill can turn an "outty" into an "inny", but I'll wear them in proper tradition down to around -30. My fav response to "The Question" is "good girls dinna ask such questions...and bad girls find out for themselves". Around here I think we know what the response of the SP's would be! K...

What a topic. I have to say I must disagree with some or at least provide a different opinion. There obvious dilemma of confusing lust for love. Although it may seem easy to determine the difference between the two I propose it is very difficult when you are right in the middle of it. r100rs asked if he fell in love? I think you did. It's okay....obviously painful....but the fact that you fell in love with your SP doesn't de-value the reality of your feelings. Are you in love with her? Probably.. Are you in love with her, her soul, everything about her and who she really is? Hard to tell only you will know that. Some described the chemical bonds that are associated with the time spent and being intimate with someone. The chemical reactions formed with the prolonged exposure to someone you connect with, share moments, being erotic and enjoying each other's company. The chemical reactions that are created and that your body longs for and eventually needs. Perhaps it is just chemistry but I think these are the side effects for falling for someone. Love can have many spectrums, many intensities, many chemical levels. It could be that simple actually. I mentioned confusing lust and love earlier.. but loving someone and being in love can also be confusing... I guess my point is that.. yes you can fall in love here... both sides can.. how you deal with it.. well each person has their own way I guess.. Can it be painful? certainly.. but then again life is full of pain and happiness.. We are human after all but I guess some days it could be easier to be trees! r100rs... I hope heart is feeling better ! hnh ps If I have confused you by reading this well ..... it is a text about love you know.. :)

This is quite a topic. One that many would not wish to recognize as being possible. But, believe me, it is. It is tough to acknowledge and then deny our true feelings. How much do we lose or how much do we gain in doing that?

First off, I would like to welcome Belladonna to the CERB community. You seem to be a passionate person. I admire that very much. I agree with you that it is easy in this hobby to get attached to and maybe even fall in love with the other person. As a hobbiest for many years, I have grown attached to many service providers and did miss them greatly as they retired or as they moved on to other things. However with time I have learned to understand my emotions. In general I am a caring person and I care for and appreciate most people around me including the older lady that serves me breakfast at a local pub and the SP that is much more intimate with me. Where I disagree with you, is with your definition of GFE. We must be careful not to equate GFE with romance. There are some people who desire more than just genital simulation that leads to orgasm. Sex can be and for myself must be more than just a sprint to the finish goal. One of the most pleasurable parts of sexual intimacy is the experience of touching and being touched all over. For many, touching and kissing have great benefits such as feelings of reassurance, calmness and happiness. This calmness helps me to survive and to thrive in the busy world that I live in. So when I seek out a GFE, I am not on a quest for romance, but rather simply a more fulfilling experience.

Yeah, sure, maybe. Lol. This whole board could be about self-indulgence, I guess. (Just a guess.) Ultimately, for me, in any particular instance: don't know, don't care. As long as Mod didn't ban anyone, it was probably okay. Lol.

Stalkers would disagree......