Started this wonderful hobby this year, so I know the catch 22.
Begin by seeing a lady who doesn't need a reference. There are ladies that don't require one.
When you see the lady, be a gentleman, and have good hygiene. Good hygiene, self explanatory. As for gentleman, respect her boundries, be courtious, pay up front...in short be nice and respectful.
Also, prior to the meeting, ask her if there is anything you should know, helps with the boundries.
No blocked numbers
Good luck
Have fun