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I just don't get it. When I go to a restaurant and have a bad meal, I don't go back. Well, maybe once, to see if it was an off day. But if I come to the conclusion that the food's not good, I don't go back. I certainly don't keep going back and complain about the food over and over again. If someone doesn't like CERB, the rules, the culture, the MOD, whatever... Nobody is forcing them to log in. One would think such people would just move on.

I respectfully disagree that it's impossible to find someone who can fulfill all the needs of a person, whether it be sexual, emotional, physical, etc. I think it is possible (how easy it is to find that person is a whole new bag of worms) to find that person, it just can take some time. I don't know if you any of you ever watch How I Met Your Mother (greatest show ever), I always wish I was more like Barney Stinson, but in reality I guess I'm more like Ted Mosby. I've been in numerous relationships, some of have ended well, some have ended not so well, but in all of them, I did feel she fulfilled those needs, and didn't feel the need to search for someone else. I'm a glass half full type of person, I suppose. I do believe in monogamous relationships, I do not think they are over-rated. I might be in the minority here, but it's just what works for me. At the same time though, what works for me, doesn't mean it works for everyone else. Although, I disagree with poly type relationships, it doesn't mean they are wrong. I still respect those people the same as anybody else is. The truth is, I don't think there is a right or wrong relationship. Both have an immense type of benefits and both can work. As long as all parties involved in the relationship are all on the same page, and there is honesty, that's all that matters. Honesty is the key policy and as long as that is there, then you'll always have a a working relationship, and that's what matters.

Yeah that sucks Cheektocheek especially after you warned her not to do it. Not all SPs are like this. Bad business move on her end.

It's not just BDSM that can go wrong this way: every aspect of sex (and other things in life) can collapse and tumble into that yawning chasm between expectation and practical reality. For virgins, it's sex, period: it's supposed to go wonderfully and smoothly like in all the movies, but in reality knees and elbows and things start getting in the way. You lean on her long hair and she can't lift her head. You find out you can't actually bend that way, or you're not quite coordinated enough to do THIS and THAT at the same time. It can be frustrating, disappointing, and spoiled. Even for the experienced, it happens commonly with fetishes. Like simple sex is for the virgin, a fetish is an obsession nursed for a lifetime before that moment, with little scenarios lived and re-lived countless times in the fetishist's imagination. You can bring a partner somewhat up to speed with good communication, but some parts of what a fetishist is after can remain mystifying and really, even the most caring partner is unlikely to match the detailed script and knowing ease of fantasy partners. It's something that has to be learned over time, and adapted to fit REAL people instead of fantasies. BDSM falls into the same zone as fetishes of course: it's intimacy carried out in the context of dense symbols and deep, subconscious triggers and meanings. And the solution is the same here as it is for virgins, or fetishists: take it slow, build up an understanding (for you and your partner) of how things really work, and start to adapt your expectations to match what you're learning in real life. Eventually, you build a bridge from your side outward as you acquire practical experience. And you build a bridge from the other side towards you, as you adapt your idealized expectations and incorporate some of the new and exciting real-world stuff you've learned. I think you're bang on, Samantha, that your client was too heavily invested in the other side of the chasm: how things SHOULD be, in an elaborate scenario he had fixed in his mind but wasn't equipped to act out yet. There was no line connecting that, with his present self. Some things you need to LEARN, and can't just do at the drop of a hat. You've gotta take it in little steps until the gap closes from both sides of that gulf.* I've been lucky enough to have eased gently into many of my favourite little pet fantasies, and got all the way to the deep end after a few sessions, with some talented and insightful SPs. Not so much luck through the decades when I've tried things in my "real" relationships, though. * I'm reminded of a friend who, when she had her first child, was distraught that she didn't "get" how to breast-feed the instant she first held her infant son. She figured it out of course, but it didn't happen in that dreamy, effortless perfection that she imagined it would go. This is an issue with LOTS of things besides sex. It's a problem most especially in things that are heavily charged with meaning for us, whatever those things may be.

Events on weekend left me "wanting" for a young blond, so when I saw Bella post with introductory rate for new "5-star" lady, who happened to be a young blond I was there. Easy to make arrangements with Bella's and arrived at Julia's D/T hotel to be greeted by a gorgeous young blond spinner, wearing oversize sweater and underwear - "thats a very seductive outfit" I noted to her. She's quite tiny, with matching small boobs and a very well toned body (works out) and a tight tiny bum to die for! While looks are subjective she's certainly very pretty. Julia is relatively new to business and as such doesn't have the mechanical moves. She tends to leave it to guest to initiate - kinda just like a new girlfriend. So in that sense she really is a GFE. Service wise, nice lfk (not quite dfk), she seemed to enjoy daty and light digits, though not overly vocal) and returned favour with a slow bbbj (again not overly aggressive). After prolonged foreplay and 69, put on cover and tried multi positions (great cowgirl and just an awesome view in doggy where I finished. Afterwards we laid together and had a nice conversation - she is a smart girl and easy to chat with. For those that have met Constance, I'd say julia is very similar. Definate repeat. I'd put her on my short list.

Redefining Spinner So here I was cruisin the social group looking to join the Itty Bitty Titty Committee when I see a group, Not a BBW, not quite a spinner..So this catches my eye enough to open it. I glance over it and notice that a lot of the talk from the members are about how they enjoy their curves and such. Wait just a minute ladies, I just wanted to define a spinner for you. A spinner is a lady you would take a second glance, one beautiful enough to spin around. I'm not quite sure where and how some have it in their mind that just because they have lovely love handles or beautiful curves that they would not be considered a spinner. You don't need to be thin or a barbie doll for a man to take notice. Most men will tell you it's all about how a woman carriers herself, confidence and poise so ladies you are a spinner, curves and all..Let's re-define this stereotypical meaning of spinner together.

I would like to have a little celebration on CERB ..... the basement dweller (so perfectly named by Cowboy Kenny) has announced this, "I took down the blog a week ago because I got tired of all the bullshit that centered around it. The death threats from members of CERB, the threats and fake emails from aliases of the owner of "Ottawa's only hostess club", the lies from ex boyfriends and husbands and from the escorts themselves. It's gotten a little much for me to handle. I will be bringing it back to life one day, I'm just too busy for the drama now" I want to thank everyone who was involved in getting rid of this waste of life. And let it be known, if he decides to show up again, I will be on him again and again and again until he puts himself out of his own misery. I loath people like him and have no problem fighting back and standing up to these people. When we fight together for a common cause, justice always prevails. Good always triumphs over evil. And the basement dweller is pure evil and his blogs were nothing but hate speech against women. Ding Dong the basement dweller is gone... All sing along now.... Ding Dong the basement dweller is gone.

This is a touchy subject - it seems very simple to just waltz in and say oh well no thanks but it can be quite complicated on the providers end. 1. You booking an appointment for a certain time frame is taking up the escorts time. Someone else could of wanted that time and she declined because already booked. Loss of money 2. Lets say you call last minute or one hour in advance and the escort is out running errands, visiting a friend, eating or whatever (yes escorts actually go out and don't sit in bed by the phone all day *gasp*) She drops everything to go to the incall to accommodate and get ready for you. Loss of timehurtful 3. You showing up then saying I'm not interested can be and a blow to the ego. Emotional/negative feelings can arise 4. Lets say the escort only sees X amount of gentlemen per day because she doesn't want high volume going in and out of her incall to not be outed. You now have her location address which can be uncomfortable and raise questions. If you absolutely can't go through with it for whatever reason leave a small cancellation fee. There are lots of reco and review boards.

I could be wrong, but I don't think the term 'Spinner' quite means what you're thinking. Although I do prefer your take on things! Anyway, when a man refers to a woman as a 'spinner', I believe it means she's tiny enough to prop up and 'spin' her on his...member. Which is far worse! lol Just thought I'd give you another definition I've heard many times before.

Soulmate for me doesn't mean someone that you love and want to spend your life with. It can be, but I found it's often more a friend or a family member...I think I do have a soulmate...she is my dear friend for over 3 years and despite everything that happen, that I told her (she know that I am an SP), despite my life and love choice...she is still there. She challenge me like no tomorrow and she will often yell at me, when I am down and need to be push...when I feel like giving up, she will treat me like shit to make me realize that I am actually worth it and that I shouldn't let myself down that way.... We have so much in common it isn't even funny, a couple years ago we tried to dated because we were so alike...and actually some people though we were sister! I think that most people assume that soul mate is someone of the opposite sex and that you have a romantic connection with as this is the standard in North America. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.

No matter where you are, you are never alone

Definitely a powerful instant connection that just comes naturally the moment you meet. You two fully understand one another on every level and you've never loved anyone like that in your life. I believe it is a person who has the same views, values and beliefs etc. An intense bond that happens immediately -- just drawn to each other. One person on every level - spiritually, sexually, emotionally and mentally.

Aw.. Thank you everyone.I'm very appreciative of your positive support! I know have a top of the line security system,and am in high hopes the police collected the necessary information to catch whom ever did this. What a low life to do that to me. Or to anyone for that matter.

If you are the victim of bait & switch, you are entitled to leave whether she offered a "guarantee" or not.

Tacky and ghetto. I would never dream of doing this. I only reply to texts sent to me, i would NEVER engage the convo first, for fear of major repercussions for my client. Practices like this is what makes clients apprehensive about giving their information out, which makes screening harder and therefore all our lives more difficult.Not cool.

Honesty is any relationship. Whatever works, everyone is different so as long as you are happy. As long as we are honest with ourselves and partner(s), nothing can stop you from having a happy healthy relationship, no matter what kind. Just be who you are, yourself and don't change and as long as your lovers accept you for you, and no one is getting hurt than it sounds like a pleasant lifestyle.

I view CERB as kind of a cocktail party where you chat and kibitz and debate (sometimes). In my case during my 5 plus years of participation I've connected with one provider directly through CERB. I use CERB for the social stuff I mentioned above and look to other sites for reviews and other types of information and connections. I don't view this as a negative comment on this site.....after all I'm still here. Peace MG

As an SP, I WILL guarantee the following: - That I will be professional, friendly and polite - That the description I provide is accurate - Full discretion - The client will receive the services that were stated by phone or txt - The client will be given the full amount of time they were paying for unless they make the decision to leave before the time is up. I will NOT guarantee a client's money back if they did not have a good time or if I were not the type of person for them physically but they got the services they were looking for. Why? Because chemistry between two individuals is subjective, looks are subjective and then there are unsavory people out there who would say they had a horrible time just to get their money back. I think if a prospective client does his homework whether it's looking at an SP's site, her ads/pictures here and/or just speaking on the phone in a little more detail as to what he can expect will ensure a much more positive experience than those who did not bother and just wanted to someone on the fly.

If anyone can pick up the pieces off the carpet and make lemonade out of wet lemons, it's you Lexy! I'll pray that you find a place that's even better. :)

I don't think you can ever say one would be better than the other. The reality of the situation is that no one person is the same, as is no relationship. I can see how both could work as well as fail. Also, just because you were poly with a certain partner or two and were happy and all worked out, doesn't mean that in the future you'll be poly with another and be happy. I think all relationships are beautiful and wonderful if people are honest and there are real caring feelings being shared. That's the most important thing. I've experienced both, and nothing is better than being with the people you care for, regardless if others are involved or not. Whatever makes you happy and works at that moment. :icon_biggrin:

These shows are geared to advertising and that in turn is geared to the demographic that the show attracts. It's designed to deliver what the viewers expect, a self righteous view of the World According to Middle America. It is one more reason why I watch VERY little TV any more! CB

I don't define love as having a monopoly on somebody else's genitals. Monogamy is just how some relationships work and others not. If two people completely sexually satisfy each other, then I'm happy for them. I've been in many relationships where my partner completely sexually satisfied me, so I know it's possible. But it's not an achievement, and you shouldn't have to feel like you're "working for it" or "resisting temptation". If you're in a monogamous relationship, you shouldn't even think about it, it should just be the way things shake out naturally. So I don't really see any joy in monogamy itself, rather the joy is in the person with whom you're monogamous. And I agree with Berlin, it's pretty silly to expect one person to satsify all your social, sexual, physical, and emotional needs. I think lots of people throw out perfectly good relationships because they're sexually mismatched when they could hold onto that good relationship and value what it's good for while finding part or all of their sexual satisfaction elsewhere.

It is totally possible! I am currently in poly relationship with my common-law partner of seven years. I have a secondary relationship that's been going on for the last three. Everyone knows about each other and both of them know what I do for a living. Here's the thing--it is unrealistic to assume that one person can fulfill all of your sexual and/or emotional needs. But that doesn't mean that there isn't enough love to go around if you are considering polyamory. A mother loves each of her children, no matter how many she has. You are only limited by time. The key is communication, communication, communication. And this means a couple of things: 1. Don't assume. 2. Tell your partner how you're feeling and why when things like insecurity or jealousy arise (because they will--no one is perfect). And be honest and to the point. Don't be vague or try to make your partner guess. Also, get yourself a copy of the Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt. ASAP. Good luck!

Okay bear with me here, things are gonna get convoluted! CW McCall reminds me of the author Chris Moore because one of his books had a character named Slick McCall. Chris Moore's books make me happy with their outlandish plots and absurd humor. An independent film company, Troma, also makes me happy with the absurd humor and outlandish plots found in their low budget movies. The president of Troma entertainment is Lloyd Kaufman, who along with running Troma and directing films, also directs music vidoes. Which leads us to the following Kaufman directed video: Entombed - Seeing Red

Homewreckers certainly exist. They're the people with whom a married (I use the term loosely) man or woman begins an affair, which is great for a while, and who then start asking questions like, "When are you going to leave him/her for me?" And eventually they'll play the ultimatum card, and someone who only ever really wanted a better sex life will be in a horrible position, and they know their relationship with their SO will quite possibly be wrecked, either by splitting up with the SO or the vengeance of the jilted lover. But SPs are not these people. SPs don't demand that you call the day after (or ever, for that matter). They don't hand out ultimatums (ultimata?). They provide a release valve for those things with aren't being released within the relationship with the SO. yes, I'm sure there are a few SPs who may take a relationship with a client too far and become homewreckers - but I'm equally sure that this is a very small minority, that the vast majority save far more relationships than the ever endanger, and in the cases where the SP-client relationship becomes known to the SO that this is because of the client's carelessness in separating the two. So, yes, I'm sure you ladies reading this have probably saved a relationship or two (or three, or hundred), whether the client in question ever told you this or not.

I prefer to see someone that I'd enjoy spending time with.....clothed. Peace MG

For me it is very simple. Please don't lie to me. Omission of detail and purposefully deciding not to share something is fair, genuine, and polite and will be respectfully received. It works both ways, for me.

I'm going to try really hard to keep this within if you don't have anything nice to say don't say it at all. As a woman she has the choice to do whatever she wants. If that involves escorting that means she still has free will and choice. Just because somebody sells their body for sex doesn't mean that they are available for anyone with cash or involved in some sort of sexual slavery. For a lot of women on CERB its not all about money. That's what makes them top notch escorts. I find your statement really disturbing. Posted via Mobile Device

So, all escorts just need a White Knight to come and rescue them? I fear Dr Phil has overlooked some of the difficulties with this. To illustrate the point, allow me to tell you the sad story of the one time I attempted such a rescue of a damsel in distress. I began with the best of noble and heroic intentions: my armor freshly polished and shining in the morning sun, my worthy steed newly shod and fitted for battle by my loyal squire. And so I sallied forth that bright morning, and arrived promptly at the damsel's incall. Have I mentioned that her incall was at the top of a large condo block? It was. Bear this in mind. So, I arrived, a little sweaty from the ride, but not to worry: all good damsels in distress have a shower at their incall, don't they? Getting in the door (complete with steed) was a struggle, but one which was eventually accomplished. And then I encountered my first insurmountable problem... have you ever tried to get a horse in an elevator? No? Take it from me, it's not worth trying. So, my noble steed had to be abandoned in the lobby that I might proceed with my quest. A pity, but no great obstacle to a knight of any repute, surely? And so I encountered my second insurmountable problem... my lance was too long to fit in the elevator! Disaster! What was I to do? Clearly there was only one way forward... the stairs! No matter that my damsel in distress lived many floors above! Have you ever tried climbing many flights of stairs in full plate armor? I tried. Believe me, gentle reader, I tried. But I'm not as young as I used to be, nor am I particularly in shape, and it's really hard work lugging all that metal around. I made it to the fifteenth floor. But there my endurance reached its limit; I was forced to confront the horrible fact that I had failed, and that my damsel would remain distressed for the foreseeable future. And so I clanked my way sorrowfully down the staircase, swore at the stupid horse for crapping in the lobby, and went for a beer Sorry, Dr Phil. I did my best. I wasn't up to it. But if there's anyone out there who needs a rescue and happens to live on the ground floor, give me a shout :)

I'm really glad I don't have Dr. Phil as my therapist. Yikes. I had less self-esteem when I working for wages that progressively got lower and lower as the years have gone by, working as an admin. assistant for employment agencies that gouged the federal government by billing almost twice they pay me (talk about pimps). Over the years, I have had to work with some people who treated me like crap, never showed me or other any appreciation, stuck me with demeaning tasks and blamed me when things went wrong. I was also let go once because I refused to do a task that could have jeopardized my security clearance. Since I had no union protection and the agency didn't care, I had no recourse in that situation. Oh, but I'm supposed to be proud of that because it's better than escorting. According to who? Dr. Phil of the bible belt? Since I have gone from part-time escorting to full-time escorting, I can work part-time hours for full-time pay and not have to put up with all that bullshit. I'd like to see Dr. Phil give up his standard of living to live in public housing, go on assistance or have to rely on food banks or charities to get by. This lady needs to look at why she is burning out. She mentioned her clients treat her good. Not knowing her full story or the details behind it, I would hesitate to comment on what she needs to do, but it sound like time management issue may play into this. I believe I have more self-esteem now that I did when I was doing office work and being unrewarded and unappreciated for my efforts.

Of course it does (;)) and it works wonders! Add a sensual prostate massage in the mix at the same time and... I've been told on many occasions that it's one of the most ultimate feeling a man can ever experience!

ohhhh hell yes please! I want to be spanked ;) and most men neeeeed it! hehe ;) Soft, HARD, its all good and totally individual basis ;) I will try anything 3 times......... ;) xoxoxo