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I think this is an excellent question to raise. I've always found it interesting when it comes to women the norm is "every woman is different, learn your woman" especially in regards to oral sex but you never hear the reciprical comment geared towards men. Every man is different. No two men masturbate the exact same way so why would we think they like to be sucked the same way. I have techniques I like and enjoy but I always look, listen and feel for cues. Sometimes it is difficult and direction would be great. HOWEVER, like most things, it depends on how the direction is offered. There is a proactive shared communication and there is a "jerk with an attitude" type. Most people would not react well to the latter and it would definitely spoil the mood rather quickly. Sex is all about exploration and finding what's pleasurable and enjoyable. Communication and direction applies to everything: BJ's, oral, nipples, kissing etc. We are all different and we all react differently. I LOVE having a cock in my mouth and I believe I'm good at what I do because I am passionate about it and try to be tuned in. I always say once you believe there is nothing left to learn, it's time to die. As for deep throat, it depends on the cock. With men of size, depending on the throat, it can be uncomfortable where for another shape/size, it's heaven. Sex should never cause pain (unless you're into those aspects of BDsM) so if it's feeling uncomfortable or even painful, please stop it. I'm very interested to see more replies to this topic.

OK I confess I'm dumb in this area. But what is the benefit...advantage if you will of Twitter compared to say, email or texting. From my understanding it is short little statements (Tweets) that you post for all (well those who have access to your account) to see. Maybe (well likely) there is nothing tweet worthy in my life to post about which is why I don't fully understand it. And can everyone who has a Twitter account read your tweets. If restricted to only certain people, well those people would already be contacts in my two email accounts and via pm through CERB, so I don't know about any benefit for me at least to use Twitter I guess it is hard to understand for a guy whose text messages read like mini emails, so short posts are really hard for a guy like me to figure out BTW this isn't a bash of any sorts against Twitter, I truly don't understand it except for what I know already, and would appreciate any insights as to it's benefits. Thanks RG

This one is both guys and ladies to comment on. I've never been a huge fan of BJ's. I'm not completely sure why but I assume that it 's because I've not completely enjoyed the technique used by the lady. To a certain degree most ladies have a technique that they use and I guess that they assume that their specific technique is enjoyable given that it's been successful for them in the past. In fact some ladies I'm sure would think that they give awesome BJ's. I have had some BJ experiences that quite frankly were not only not enjoyable but actually uncomfortable and I've had to move the lady on to other activities to spare myself. However, recently in the middle of a lack luster BJ I decided to take control of the situation and provide "direction" to a lady on how to provide a BJ that I would enjoy. LOL, while she was proceeding I gave her detailed instructions on how I liked it how much pressure to use, what speed, how wet, and specific tongue techniques etc. What was a poor BJ turned in to a awesome one. I guess enjoyable BJ technique is something that is specific to each man so as a lady it might be difficult sometimes to determine what technique to employ to make it enjoyable for the man. A question I have for the ladies is would you find it rude for a man to interrupt your BJ technique by providing direction to you on how you should provide one to him? Also, gents can feel free to comment on their BJ experiences and perhaps some techniques that they preferred to others. For example, Deep Throat has always baffled me as I've ALWAYS found it uncomfortable given my size so I always cringe when a lady tries it. Cheers

I'm loving all these comments and discussions...like DUH, I love cock! Thanks for bringing up the BLS as I enjoy this as part of the overall lovin'. I find ball play is even more highly specific then a blow job and the one aspect I want input. I've found balls can range from "don't even look at them the wrong way they're so sensitive" to "put on those boots and trample me". I've had those who love to be licked but not sucked, sucked but not licked, hands only and everything in between. I do want to say, on a personal note, that I want to please you and would very much prefer communication, even if it has to be a forceful STOP, over suffering through. Sometimes I know I can be a little intense and I have thought to myself on an occasion or two whether I was reading or misreading cues; only human and all. If I'm being too intense or teasing too much, I would rather know especially if I am misreading. As Peachy said, we are always learning and growing and just because one is a professional, does not mean learning has stopped. Communication really is the key especially if you're only seeing someone every now and then. The longer the interactions and more frequent, the greater the ability to "learn" someone. Just remember to make the learning part of the fun and not a put down, demand or other negative aspect. let's share the pleasure, giving and receiving. Oral anyone??? *rawr*

True, but this will only really happen once she's decided to visit. I was talking more about the "Hey, I think you're really hot, will you visit my city" mails/PMs/whatever, which I'm sure have a fairly low conversion rate into actual bookings.

Well, you've got the link for the next social already. One other thing: Quite a few ladies have a social rate for this kind of thing (although it may be more aimed at going out than staying in), and if someone you'd like to see doesn't have a published social rate, you can always ask her if she does. If you're looking to hang out off the clock... if she asks to hang out with you, then that's great, and you'll probably have an awesome time. But if you ask her, then bear in mind that in her eyes you've probably just become yet another cheap-ass guy looking for free stuff, and she's probably got enough of those already. Once you get to know someone well it may be different, and close relationships do arise between SPs and clients... but if you try and force it then it almost certainly won't happen. I hate to be a downer on this, but it's probably wise to set your expectations realistically.

I have experienced anal a couple of times, and for me its not the taboo aspect, but that your partner is giving all of themselves to you. This is the last frontier for a woman, as bj's and vaginas are are the norm for sex, there is only one thing left. I agree that anal sex should not be rushed into, there should be practice first, to make sure all parties are both able and comfortable, then when the time finally comes, and pure ecstasy takes over, it can be a wonderful experience for both! Of course I wouldn't expect to do this every night, but a few times a year would be awesome, and of course the practice would have to be reciprocated on me either with strap on or in an mmf situation! Cool thread....

I have intel on her. If anyone wants it, then PM me.

They've sued each other back and forth, Apple suing Samsung was more on the design of the phone and not about security features or anything. Apple is not more secure than Android in terms of security. Maybe Blackberry would be a little more better in terms of security. Anyways, someone will always make something for someone and someone will want to use the technology. It would be very hard to control. Is what it is. Basically you can only do what you can do to keep things private from other people...you control your phone...or for some the phone controls them, but different topic all together lol

Well I maintain several account for different reasons. It's not so much about what I tweet but for me it's a chance to stay up to date about what's going on out in the world. You can follow any number of tweeteres on an endless variety of interests. There is no obligation for others to follow you or for you to make tweets. As an example, I keep up events in Ottawa, the media, BNN, just to name a few. I do also have a second account and follow some members of CERB, and some of the ladies. For you, there is no cost to opening an account and simply start to follow others, and when comfortable try a response. On my BB they have an app that I can switch back and forth between accounts.

Although I was a bit green in giving instruction, I have learned over the years to take cues from the ladies in terms of nipple and daty plays. When a lady pushes your head gently away from her nipples or says it is sensitive, it is time to stay off the area for a while. The same with daty, after her O or after a while, it is usually sensitive time and it is crucial to take the hint and give it a break. Like RG says, it is also nice to get feedbacks from a lady. So far, I have received comments like, "I like the way you kiss and touch here, it is so sensual", " I like you using your fingers to squeeze like this", and " I like your technique, I have been looking forward to seeing you,". These comments are gratifying and they make the whole experience that much more enjoyable. However, if I need improvement in some areas, a constructive criticism is also very helpful and welcome, I do not mind at all. :icon_smile:

That is something that can happen, which is part of the reason why some people, both women and men, don't want others touching that area. The fear/embarrassment/queasy, etc. And I totally respect that. I personally like anal, a lot. I've had some of my most intense orgasms that way. But as pointed out above, there always IS a possiblity that something 'unpleasant' may be visible on the condom afterward. Before an anal session, many girls (myself included) do some sort of preparation in order to prevent this from happening - but nothing is 100%. My attitude is, you wanted to fuck my ass, you need to be prepared for that small possibility. If that will gross you out, then it's not an activity we should share. There defintiely have been times when I've been on the giving end of anal play and things are there, but I don't bat an eyelash - I always have tissues and wipes right there, and it doesn't make me uncomfortable at all. The pleasure anal sex can bring to both women and men is way worth the small chance of a mess.

This is so nice to know, ie. instructing, or at least coaching. I have been very reluctant to interfer or give advice what a lady is doing, afterall, they are the pros. and I am not. It happened to me once that the lady was using a bit too much force and I could feel her teeth. It was very uncomfortable and unpleasant, and needless to say, I have never seen her again. Now I know what I should have done :icon_redface:.

Someone just sent me this link to this damn funny video from Garfunkel and Oates. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3HbaqlcmDCA I had time keeping my coffee from spurting through my nose. Love the line equating the clitoris to "Satan's doorbell".

In some country/religion a woman must remain a virgin until married but anal sex is Ok, it does not count. So many young girls have anal sex before marriage and some love it so much that this is all they seek after marriage.

Small or big, discreet or spectacular, tattoos has become pieces of art shown on an individual, and shared by the others. The more I see tattoos, the more I find them sexy, interesting, and try to find under those magnificent drawings what they say of the person who wears it and what the tattoo artist has accomplished. Many of the ladies here on Cerb wear tattoos, and I'm a fan. Tattoos have become part of our culture.

First thank you all for this thread awesome discussion! I find that the beauty in this industry is that no one does it the same..! I relate to sex the same way I talk about food.. at the end were talking about eating something!! lol The point is that not everyone enjoys the same restaurants!( Some are more popular than others !!) what makes a good restaurant? Service, Ambiance and Quality is what I look for usully... For a good service and a great BJ I think it works the same its not only about the strokes and the motion and the way she does it but also the will to please! I don't mind constructive criticism but like we say in french " Le ton fait la chanson.. " the way the delivery is done changes everything... The same way you Gents don't like the bad sassy attitude of some SP's the same way I don't like when men give me bad attitude when I am servicing them. Why? Simply it does not make me want to go the extra mile for him its a simple turn off! I love what I do and like Peaches said I love Cock!! Duh !! I find that there is a difference between the girl that just wants to pay the bills Vs the one that like what she does. When enjoying what you do the attention given to the other person is stronger and therefore better! For the technical part I would say that its not only about the shaft and oral sex is not about one spot and one technique... The whole body gets involved... from my breast touching your inner thighs while I have it between my lips to the soft touch of my hand on your skin, it involves the whole body. I'm curious to know what you guys think about the eye to eye contact when receiving a BJ?

The key difference RG between Twitter and e-mails or PMS is that e-mails are (generally) one-to-one, private communication. Twitter is about one-to-many, semi-public broadcasting. "Semi" public, because only the people subscribed to your feed will see what you tweet. Now imagine a whole bunch of those networks intersecting (everyone you follow, to you; and then you, to everyone who follows you) and you have the Twitter universe. Twitter often gets maligned as a means for boring people to share what they've just had for breakfast. But it doesn't have to be that at all. Lots of things people share on Twitter aren't about themselves specifically, but rather about something they saw that interested them -- either someone else's tweet (which you re-tweet to share with your community), or a link to something you found on the web. If you're plugged via Twitter into a community of like-minded people (you following some of them, some of them following you) then Twitter gives you a means to express short ideas and impressions and share things of interest quickly and easily. You don't have to be living the life of James Bond or the Dos Equis guy in order for it to be worth people's while to follow you; just use it as a means to share stuff that interests you with a lot of your friends and acquaintances at once. If they've subscribed to your feed, then they're already interested in what you care about and have to say about stuff. After all, it's a lot of those little "hey, whatcha thinking?" exchanges that cement friendships in the first place. Twitter is just another channel for the same stuff, quick and easy.

Nothing, the body is a magnificent machine and it never ceases to amaze me. Peace MG

ok...I'm wet. Thanks Pete :p

For me it may sound weird, but the first reaction when we see each other for the first time(or second, or third). Being greeted with a great big smile and kiss, makes everything else go away. That's truly what I'm looking for, that escape from everyday life. Anything else from there is a huge bonus for both of us!

In my opinion, a "friends ex" or your "ex's friend" should both be off the table. No2 this being said I have never been in this situation where I was hit on by my ex's friend, but I have been hit on by my friends gf's and wife's friends. Even with the insane "hotness" of some of these women, I had to decline all and kept my mouth shut about it ever happening(looking around to see if anyone recognises me). Now anyone I have been with know I'm a true gentleman in this matter. But that is just me and I'm not like everyone else. I just find it such a dirty thing to do to one you call a friend.

It is my strong belief that this will be the future of the internet as we know it. A general end to complete anonymity. We aren't anonymous in person, and the internet is real life now, so why should anyone be anonymous online? It's important to keep in mind that anonymity and privacy protection are not the same thing. If you read online news articles, or news blogs, and you scroll down to the comments, you are well aware that they can be a nasty place. I read articles about prostitution regularly, and some of the user comments are quite hurtful, incredibly ignorant, and often just simply false. We actually kind of discussed this here on CERB recently, on the thread about Verified Membership. Huffington Post has one of the most active online communities on the web. They have recently announced that soon they will no longer be allowing anonymous commenting on their articles and will introduce a new system for commenting. The argument is that people are much more civil to one another when they can't hide behind anonymity, and they have some kind of accountability. What are your thoughts? The Reason HuffPost Is Ending Anonymous Accounts By Jimmy Soni http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jimmy-soni/why-is-huffpost-ending-an_b_3817979.html

I know my phone, an android is password protected, so how to upload it I don't know. And my guess every type phone could be vulnerable, from what I read Apple sued Samsung (android) because they claimed it was a copy of the Apple technology RG

question: But would not the person have access to the phone to download the app???? I dont know but I have a security code on my phone that only I and I know, and do not share with anyone.. not even my SO.. And Piano I believe that app or something similar is also available for other celphones... But anyways... it is insane... sometimes technology reaches out off limits... we need to draw the line at some point

You're exactly right. There is no "one BJ fits all" approach and if a lady thinks this then there will surely be some disappointed men on the other side of her lips. However if you're a client that's not vocal or expressive it might be hard for a lady to please you. I'm not much of a "dirty talk" man but during a BJ it's a great opportunity to be more expressive for the lady and give her some not so subtle clues to help her help you LOL. Even maintaining the right balance between mouth and hand technique through out the duration of the BJ can be difficult for example I enjoy both hand and mouth to be soft and sloppy at the beginning with the lady using a little bit of a twisting motion with her mouth and hand on my shaft (and I'd want it to stay this way if I'd don't want to cum from BJ). However, if I'm looking for BJ to completion a little ways into the BJ I'll want her to tighten her grip a little and increase her actual suction. The whole process is an evolution that starts and finishes differently. Also eye contact, periodic eye contact is good and natural for me but constant eye contact will freak me out and will seem forced LOL.

In my youth, I used to think there was no such thing as a bad BJ. With more experience under my belt (pun), I've come to realize some techniques can make a BJ unpleasant. Unpleasant = teeth. During one such tooth session, I provided feedback to my SP, but to no avail. I finally had to request a change in venue. Fortunately, that experience was by far the exception. The remainder of my experiences range from ok to mediocre to exceptional. What makes for an exceptional BJ you might ask? I believe it's when the SP accurately reads her client's responses. Pleasure cues are often subtle, so the true professional needs to appreciate and interpret non-verbal communication. Body language, posture, positioning, facial expressions, silence, breathing, hand guidance - it's all part of the equation. Is it a science? Nope. An art - I believe so. But you decide.

RG, as I said I hate trial and error when it comes to sex so with a lady that I have a "different" type of relationship with (we're very playful and silly even at the intimate moments) I have actually outright asked her to critique me on my technique. In that case she "walked" me through a whole session and gave me lots of points and tips. Overall I found out I was pretty good at it LOL but did pick up a few special tricks (specifically clues to watch for when to employ certain special techniques). I'm never too good to be told and I'm not too proud to ask. Communication, communication, communication.

I have an adult son who has Asperger's Syndrome which makes him very much of the "introverted loner" type. I found what this article said very much "on the money". As a sidebar, the first thing my son bought when he moved out on his own was a dog. I worried about his ability to relate to the animal and care for it but in hindsight, it is probably the best thing he ever did, for at the dog park he fits right in. He doesn't seem any more socially awkward than the others there. The dog has given a very introverted young man a connection to the rest of society. So I certainly concur with introverts and pets comments previously made.

Unfortunately it's not just this app. There are many that utilize the GPS on your phone to track your whereabouts and some even post it somewhere. The only safe bet is to turn off all GPS functions. It's also important to read the features on apps because most times we're granting full access to these apps. We seem to be becoming a society of more monitoring and that is not a good thing.

Some of you ladies I have seen, some I have followed on here, but......... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hjCoBTzrN9E

It's the last stretch!! I've received a few more payments today, so the last spots are going fast! Remember, guys, payment ensures you are on the guest list!! Ladies, as usual, you can expect a little bit of baking ... would'nt be a social without one. I just need to dust off my recipes .... hopefully i'm not too much out of practice!! ;-)

Seeing that I have a LOT of catching up to do, I can never imagine anyone ever wanting to go there as far as I'm concerned. My Chocolate Starfish (sorry, Limp Biscuit reference) is taboo. I wouldn't want to subject any women to that area. If someone even wanted to slip in a digit, I would get incredibly uncomfortable. I could see me doing it, but only after I really knew someone, or after a bottle of wine.

Note sure if it is bad form to cite your own postings but NotchJohnson's comment reminded me of a funny video I saw http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=139882&highlight=God%27s+loophole

Is Emily too old for you? She would be perfect.

I love anal and everything to do with it.To me sex is not really complete unless I feel this sensual sensation within(Sapphire)

I think the short answer is more online privacy for the members in question. Some are just lurkers, will never post on Cerb and want to remain totally anonymous without revealing any personal details about themselves. Not even a location. On the other hand, some members post without having a location included in their profile but their post history is sometimes a good indication of where they are from... It just means that you have to look around a little to satisfy your curiosity ;) Regarding the comment meant about the visits to your profile and interest- you (and I am talking in general here) have to remember that there are a multitude of reasons why members decide to visit another's profile and one cannot directly correlate clicks on a profile to interest in the lady or her services. I would personally never add a city to my travel destinations based on that factor.

I have done anal with one lady of Cerb who did not offer it on her menu and I must admit it is a total different feeling all together. I think the big thing is that it is/was taboo and now it is more open so it all depends on what the lady likes or the gentlemen likes.

I went to go see Rona the other day .. She was in a fairly good mood , she kept joking around with me .. It was nice to see her smile so much .. I went for a hour , the massage started out as it always does with her hands she did my back .. Then she got up on the table and gave my back and legs a good walking on it was not the best back walking I have experienced but it was good .. About half way through she almost fell off as she had oil on my back .. It scared the heck out of me .. I thought am I going to have to call 911 lol .. , on the flip she was down to her undies she gave my front a good work over with her fake but nice breasts , it was almost a body slide , it was most enjoyable .. And as always she provided a awesome finish . She then gave me a good wipe down with hot towels , I know a few guy said the have left oilily from her place , myself I haven't had this issue , she has even offered to let me shower on most occasions , so guys if you feel she didn't clean you up enough I am sure she would let you shower or at least use the washroom to clean up

I met again with my new fave lady and the condom was indeed Skyn as Halifax mentioned. Man these things are better than good for me as its the closest to being au naturel I've ever felt! Add in they are not latex and avoiding potential allergies its pure win!

Anna Sweet from BP...a blonde Nicole Kidman-esque looking woman with high cheekbones, striking eyes and flawless skin.

Additional Comments: I disagree 100% Allow me to elaborate.... If you limit the amount of orgasms a man is allowed, you are selling an act not an experience. The act being ONE SOG. I personally don't see any GFE when a woman says "we can't have sex again because you already blew your load" -- A woman who says this sold SEX not TIME. (act vs experience) Yes, GFE is a lot more than just the completion of sex...that I do agree with....but saying MSOG is not allowed is super hypocritical if you advertise that your TIME costs X amount of dollars.

In April I found out that I have cancer and the prognosis was not good. I had known for a while that something was wrong, but being the person I am, I just shrugged it off as being over 40 and not a big deal. Clearly it was. Instead of dealing with the issue at hand and informing those I care about and love, I decided to keep things to myself. When I finally started to tell those people depression and anger had set in to my heart. It had become obvious to those around me that I was no longer myself, the positive attitude and sense of humour were gone. I was trying to push those I love and care about away so I could be left alone. I was a fool! After telling my father of the situation, he realized that darkness and despair had filled my heart. He flew over here on Friday to spend a solid couple of days with me. Knowing this I thought it was time to tell him everything about my life since I left home at 18 and joined the Royal Navy. He has always been a pillar of strength in my life, there to listen and never judge. I am sure there are things that I told him over the last couple of days that he never wanted to hear, but he never wavered and just listened. This morning as I told the last of what I wished to tell him, he put that gigantic paw of his on my shoulder, looked me in the eyes and said..."get your goddamn head out of your bleeping ass"!!!! He's right!!! After more words of wisdom from my father, I realize now that it is time to enter the fight. I want to say I am sorry to those I care about and love, I should have been stronger from the start and told you the situation. That was my mistake. Thanks to my father I have my positive attitude back and sense of humour. I do not want anyone's sympathy, for it is an emotion that commandos have little value in. What I want is for people to smile and laugh, that is what gives me strength and always has. Though there will be times where I will obviously not be around while I deal with certain things, those of you who I am in contact with and consider to be my friends will know the situation and where I am. I will not keep you in the dark any longer. Now to leave this on a funny note. ;) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8DdeLUA0Fms http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GLpO-OvJU74 Spud271

Hahaha .... Yes.... WestJet loves when I have a boner cause I ring dingle them and pop on over over the great lakes to Ottawa it seems lately ;) I need a plane !!! I shall name it "Boner"

If I was a man, I'd go wherever my boner was pointing me ;)

Eenie Meenie Miney Moe ;) Jk ;)

While I was hot in my youth, I was never one to "pick up". Maybe I was lazy, but hobbying was just so much easier, and in the end, cheaper. :) I hate bars, I hate picking up. I hate the dating game; and since I plan to never marry again, why bother? I need a woman, but I do not need a woman. :P (btw, Amelia Middleton's a class act!) Man, if your wife expects you to live without sex for the rest of your life from the young age of 30, I'm afraid you'll really have to sit down with her and honestly assess your relationship. You don't have to be married to be a great father. Just my bit of advice. If she doesn't want sex, have you broached the subject of you seeking sexual satisfaction elsewhere while remaining married?

In my case, it's a bit different... I am recently out of a 17 year relashionship. I do not in any way want to even date right now, or any time soon. Still have needs to fill... and to be honest, most of the girls I have met are nicer, more affectionate and just plain more fun then I have had in my life!

I love my tattoos. They all have meaning, and whenever i look at them i remember that period in my life, I can look back and smile. The one i have that takes up my whole left thigh is my fave, it was birthday present from a very close friend who drew it and tatooed it just for me. I represents me and my story; my life and who i am. I know no one will ever have that tattoo, its mine and mine alone. It is a life changing experience getting one, it changes you as you now have a marker in time, i.e. before this tattoo and after. Its almost like taking a photograph to me, freezing a moment in time. I have 8, i will always remember who i was with and what i was doing at that time in my life when i got them . I look at them its like looking back fondly over a scrapbook of my life, mementos that are always with me. To me,they symbolize something important to the wearer, something they want to express to the world. I always loved tattoos, I come from a place where almost everyone has quite a few, full bodies even. I'm done getting new tattoos, i might add to my existing ones, but at this time i think im done, except for my father's tattoo's. I think my love affair with ink started as a young child looking at his arms, i was fascinated with their beauty and begged for one ever since i can remember. I was with him when i got my first one, it was a great day i will always remember and cherish , it's truly one of my best memories. I always told him when he passes i will get his tattoos, maybe even in the same places as a tribute to the greatest man i have ever known :) To me thats what tattoos are a tribute on your body to someone or something that's eternal. To love/cherish something that much is true beauty.

tattoos are amazing <3