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I think the only opinion that matters on this is your own. Men are in this hobby for a multitude of reasons, and one of them is fantasy - if their fantasy includes being with a hot younger girl, as long as she's 18, who am I to judge? I personally do not like seeing clients who are 18-19. I have actually declined in the past, as my kid sister is around that age, and my nephew - so it makes me feel strange. I have friends with kids around that age. BUT, again, just because it makes me feel strange, I think nothing of women who do see those clients. They deserve to get their rocks off just as much as the next guy!

Whoa, that's a lot of assumptions there. This isn't going to be a one-size-fits-all answer, as sure, some 19 year olds may lack the maturity to make such a decision, but there are also plenty of folks in their 20s, 30s, 40s, etc who may just as equally be unable or unprepared to enter into sex work. That is not our call to make, or our judgement to pass, so long as the person in question is of legal age and legally able to consent. Coersion can also happen at any age.

Since you asked I'll chime in:)I feel if you are a man or woman over 20 you shouldn't be bothering with Teens, sp's or not. 18-19 is a teenager and still a child, imo. I don't care how mature they are. I had this conversation with a gent not long ago who was 60 or so and he asked what I thought of a man his age looking at an 18yr old and I said well that would make you a perv, that's my opinion! Its just not right in my mind for anyone of such a mature age to want to mingle with someone so young. Why? for many reasons, but I think I would ask the man or woman why they'd want to be with someone so young and I won't accept the excuse of youth is beauty because physically many men and women are beautiful right up into their senior years. Perhaps its a lack of maturity on the older persons side, or as I said before just a perversion I don't know but in my mind its not acceptable or right. Its different if a 60+ man goes after a 30+ woman or vice versa the maturity and life experience is there on both sides . Just how I see it.

I can say, I was once very happy and nothing brought me down. Life was great, my dreams were coming true. I had everything to look forward too. Even when things would go wrong I always saw the glass half full. I use to find the silver lining in everything and if I couldn't I was fine with that, nothing really bothered me much. That all came crashing down one day. My dreams where shattering I lost everything I ever wanted. The only thing I had left was the one I loved but I was loosing her as well. I began to be depressed but I didn't let it bother me much I needed to stay strong like I always had. Until one day it was too much I suffered a mental breakdown that's changed me ever since. I'll never forget the pain and pressure in my head from that day. I had never to my recollection had ever cried so hard or loud in my life. Since that day I can no longer control my emotions. Being happy is all I wish for now, but whenever I'm not sad or depressed I fell nothing a big emptiness like happy is an emotion or state that doesn't exist. Perhaps is the anti depressant preventing me or maybe that day when I broke down something did break in my head I don't know. I can say even thought depression has brought me down for a long time it's a battle I fight in hope someday I find happiness like I once had. I use to be ashamed of being depressed and suicidal to the point I spoke to no one about it. I thought I was alone and that I was crazy. Until I decided it was time for me to seek help. I would not be here today had I not, I urge anyone who feel the way I did to do the same. Talking about it has made it a lot easier. Even though I've yet to achieve happiness once again I prefer the numbness then the uncontrollable suicidal thought and the mental pain its brought. I still have my days were they come back and I still have no control over my emotions I am no longer ashamed of it. With plenty of therapy I can say I cannot control it but I can live with it unlike before.

For me, age is just a number and the greater factor is the person in question. I have seen (and have been) a very mature 18 year old due to the circumstances in my upbringing. I have also known people in their 40'2, 50's and up who have the maturity level of a fig leaf (yes, I'm sure you can figure the joke on THAT one). As long as both parties are of the age of consent and find something enticing and pleasurable about the other, I say enjoy it. Everyone has their own specific comfort levels and this is what should be the deciding factor. Do what you're comfortable with and what makes you feel good and if someone doesn't like it, it's on them. While I do agree that 18/19 while being the age of consent is quite young to determine whether being an SP is a positive move for them or not as some can be lured by the money, I don't believe we have the right to determine who can and who cannot handle it. Once we are adults of any age, our life path is on us to direct and the choices we make whether for positive or negative are on us. What we may think may not be the reality of a situation as we're seeing it through our own blinders and biases. We can offer advice (if it's asked for) and support those and share experience but we cannot make decisions for others. We would not want it done to us so the same is true for others.

I don't believe in being happy. I believe in being content. At this point, there are a few important areas of my life where I am very content yet at the same rate, there are some areas that need improvement. I also try to stop the negativity in my head whether it's about myself, those around me or a certain situation. I often find myself running away from drama now than being involved or around it. I have made leaps and bounds by removing people from my life who have caused stress and drama. This has helped a great deal. I have also become a lot more selfish in a way that I take better care of myself than I did before. In the past, this caused me a lot of stress, resentment and anxiety. I used to put everyone else before me and while I am still there for others that I care about, I realized I have to be able to take care of myself before I can help them. I just try to live my life day by day and looking at life as something to be cherished and enjoyed. I had one of my long time regulars tell me last week ( he's not a cerb member) that he was diagnosed with bowel cancer. When I heard that, it made me really sad and I find him in my thoughts more than ever now. There may be a chance we will never cross paths again. :( I gave him a big hug and kiss and told him not to give up and to fight it all the way. When he left, it really got me thinking about some of the trivial things I make a big deal out of and it has really opened my eyes. I realize as I get older that I am thankful for what I have rather than complaining about what I don't have. You only have one life so make good use of it and enjoy it to the fullest!

I genuinely feel that I have an obligation to share with people about the industry as I know it and have sat in Regents shoes on many occasions. I consider it a very personal PSA Coles Notes that I willingly hand out for free. What I have learned is that I don't need to change their POV, all I need to do is put a face on it that challenges their beliefs. Meeting sex workers that don't fit the stereotype makes people reconsider what they believe to be true about the sex trade. It makes them question what they think are facts. I never take an activist stance, I'm very easy going in my delivery; avoiding the hard line presentation so they have nothing to push back against. Having them repeat their mistaken views verbally simply entrains it deeper. Instead I bring a light hearted tone to the conversation, smiling when I deliver the truths of my story. I've worked in every aspect of this industry save SWing and would do so again in a heart beat. I don't glamourize it but I also bring to light the good that I see. When they start pointing into dark corners, I simply parallel the facts with other lines of work equally as perilous and that sheds a certain inarguable light on things. Remember, you don't need to "win" the war. You just need to show them there actually isn't a war going on, simply a life as we chose it. Changing a belief starts with one seed taking root and growing. Not as quickly as we might like, it may be buried deep and take a long time to break the surface which requires patience on our part with liberal amounts of sunshine and water. Most often, they will supply the sunshine; they will reflect back on the conversation time and time again, every time allowing your essence to influence their perceptions just a little more. All you have to do is water it. Just don't over or under water, both will kill the seed before it can take root and flourish... cat

Seems I am in the minority (at least as far as the posts go) but I am very unhappy. However, having said that, I have reached a point in my life where lately I have been re-examining everything I have done up to this point. It's funny that this thread has popped up when it did, because I was actually toying with the idea of posting on here asking for advice, mainly because there seems to be a lot of people on here willing to help people out on a variety of subjects. I just hadn't made up my mind to do it yet. Lately I have actually been doing a lot of soul searching, crying, self-analysis, more crying, reflecting, reminiscing, and just generally trying to figure out what went wrong to get me to where I am now. I've come to realize that what went wrong was simply me. More specifically the choices I have made, most of which have not been good ones. I have done things that I thought would make me happier, when in fact they just made things worse. I realize that I am often too impulsive when it comes to making decisions, and tend to jump too quickly before getting all the facts. I also am too trusting though and have made decisions based on promises, only to have the person making them not live up to their end of the agreement, causing me stress and worry, and further adding to the unhappiness. (like my present situation) I also found that as things got worse, so has my self esteem. I cannot motivate myself to do anything to better my health for example, because (and this is something I've only just realized, and may sound overly melodramatic) somewhere along the line I think I've subconsciously decided I no longer want to live. I also seemingly have no purpose in life, at least in my mind. Not that I am actively going to go out and kill myself, but I seem to deliberately do things that will put me at great risk for heart attacks, strokes, etc. I am considered morbidly obese, and do nothing to lose weight, even though I keep telling myself I will. I have been diagnosed as a borderline diabetic, and am supposed to watch my diet, exercise and monitor my blood sugar, yet I do none of these. I started to when I was first told, but it lasted maybe a month. I even went out and bought a mountain bike, which I ride occasionally, but nowhere near regularly. I completely lack discipline in my personal life, yet in my professional life I am completely the opposite. Haven't figured out why that is yet though. Add to this the fact that I have struggled with depression for years without knowing what it was, and looking back I can see how my depression has influenced a lot of my decisions. I did have a prescription for an anti-depressant that actually worked for me, after a lot of trial and error, but since my doctor moved away I can't seem to find one that will renew my prescription. Seems a lot of the newer doctors don't seem to believe in them, or are overly cautious about prescribing them. Also add in that I am shy and reserved by nature, so don't connect with a lot of people. Funny thing is I talk to hundreds of people in a day for my work, and get along fine, but when it comes to my personal life forget it. This is actually how I found CERB. I know I need human contact, and started thinking that if I found an SP or two it might help me out in that way. So now that I've posted all this negative stuff, I will end this on a positive note; now that I am coming to understand that my life is exactly the way I made it, I'm pretty sure that going forward I will now look at things in a different light. Hopefully it will translate into better decisions, as well as a renewed way of looking at myself and how I feel about myself. I know it is going to take a lot of hard work, but I think the biggest thing is just getting out of some bad thought patterns, which now that I see them I can hopefully change them. p.s. sorry for the negative rambling. I didn't post this to get anyone's sympathy or anything, in fact still not sure I should be posting this at all, but since MBR asked.....)

So, a bit of a heavy topic. I'm in an ongoing conflict/dialogue with an acquaintance who's very anti-sex work. (Though I'm about ready to throw my hands up in disgust.) I recently asserted that it's easy to be an ethical consumer of the sex industry if you actually care about being an ethical consumer, and that the more direct interaction you have with a worker, the easier it is to make sure that they're doing the work consensually and by choice. (So making a solid ethical choice when seeing a service provider is easier than doing so when watching porn on the internet, for example.) She asked me how one could know. It seems pretty obvious to me, but I'd rather not just give a flippant response based exclusively on my own perceptions and experiences, which are obviously limited - I work as a SP, I have many friends who are current and former workers in various parts of the sex industry and I've worked in social services where I had clients who were SPs, but I don't have any experience as a male hobbyist hiring a SP, and I do know that when I am a client at say, a strip club, my interactions with the women working there are really different than the interactions men have. So, if you were giving advice to someone who had never seen a SP before and was really concerned about the risk of seeing someone who had been trafficked or who was being coerced* into the work, what would you tell them? I'm interested in responses from both SPs and hobbyists. Things I would recommend: See someone who**: - works independently & has their own website - participates in online communities for hobbyists and/or SPs - is involved in sex worker rights activism/blogs or talks about their experiences and their work publicly - screens their clients Get to know them a bit, either through their interactions online or by booking some social time where you plan to just talk. * When I talk about coercion, I mean through violence, emotional manipulation or abuse. One of the popular arguments against sex work is that there is no free choice when there are economic pressures that might influence a person's choice to do this type of work. Ultimately though, that adds up to an argument against capitalism and all work being coercive, and doesn't logically or meaningfully single out sex work, without doing a bunch of mental gymnastics. ** Obviously not meeting these criteria doesn't mean anything and many SPs who choose this work don't meet these criteria. Additionally, this is really complicated too, because these sorts of screening criteria could further marginalize already marginalized workers, by steering good potential clients away from them and towards workers who are already more privileged. But at the same time, those who are making the argument that it's impossible to do this type of work consensually or that it's impossible to be an ethical consumer are already seeking to force us all out of this line of work anyway, which, imo, does far more to marginalize already under-privileged workers.

While I don't totally disagree with most of the comments posted. I do not believe that maturity or age is a factor in all this. The most determining factor is, what is your criteria. Just like some will choose a brunette over a blond, or prefer an exotic looking partner, it's a matter of personal preferences. Age might or might not be a factor to some, or might be very important to others. Two immature individual in a relationship probably won't last long but you can't live their life for them. We all have to make choices eventually and learn from them for better or for worse. I know for me, it is a factor. I don't have an upper limit but I do have a minimum. My logic behind it might seem irrational to some. But it is one those things where someone else's opinion shouldn't matter. As long as both adults are consenting, it's not my place to interfere. If the opinion of others is important to you, I would recommend you re-evaluate what it is you're looking for.

I am in no way passing judgement on the next person because I do believe we all have that right to live and do as we please...No one can make our decisions for us and in no way are we better than the next because we choose to do something that another person doesn't BUT in my opinion and this is for myself only I choose not to interact with gentlemen 18-25 I prefer the older gentlemen for their passion and the respect they give me as an sp provider...yes I am have seen younger than 30 and.a few were very mature and the time we spent was enjoyable...but me being a mature lady I prefer the same...we have a better connection and so much more to talk about...the sex is great either way but the older gentlemen have much more life experience xo Please No disrespect towards the younger gents just my opinion

Good afternoon everyone, I posted some photographs, thoughts, and feelings about my trip to South America on my blog. To view my blog, click here. I just got back yesterday. There's no place like home, seriously! I'm feeling really grateful to be back, surrounded by people I love and cherish, and in my own bed! It's never felt so good to sit at my computer desk. I hope you enjoy the pictures, Nat xox

Love and sex are two completely different things. Over time our culture has put the two into the same bed, so to speak. Bad idea as 2 people can love each other but have different needs that have nothing to do with the heart. One can love someone, but have sex with someone else and that doesn't change that love, unless you cannot separate the 2. One is an emotion, one is an activity. Your reasons are your own and your question is one I think we ALL ask ourselves at one point or another. Only you can answer it honestly. For whatever choice we are here, most of us are here because we want to be, SP or Provider. There are exceptions of course, and thats when the struggle begins. It is a good question to ask yourself, but is it a reflection of you having sex with an SP, or an SP having sex with you? Additional Comments: In this I have to respectfully disagree. You are talking in completely monogamous terms. The human species was never meant to be monogamous but our culture dictates whats right and whats wrong. If you follow mainstream norms, then yes your statement stands. But who really falls into that category other than sheeple? No rudeness intended, I just disagree, :) C

I agree. I find that myself and my sisters have guilt issues. I often find that I am guilted into doing things for family members that I really don't want to do. Sometimes I will say no but when I do, that guilt of NOT doing it is there. This has carried over into relationships of mine where I'm always trying to make sure people are happy. I'm not a doormat where I will do anything for anyone...no way because there is that feisty, fery side of me as well. However, there is always some sort ofpeople pleaser quality and frankly I'm sick of it. I know exactly where it comes from and often times it's hard to not feel that way and I just have to turn it off. I come from a family where everyone took care of one another and while it's a good quality to have, often times people exploit that or use it to their advantage. As for parents, I've stopped trying to get their approval a long time ago. I am doing what I wish to do. They don't have to live my life or pay my mortgages on properties or my bills and I'm in control. I've been quite independent from a young age and moved out when I was 19. What I've realized is that parents are human beings as well and WILL make mistakes in raising their children. Whatever expectations they had are not the expectations I have of myself. I have come to accept them for who they are are, faults and all. This has made my relationship with them much better. I'm the person in my family that does whatever I please while everyone else wishes they could do it but don't. And this doesn't apply to anything in specific in my life. I'm more of the rebel and had the balls to do things. Now I am their "go to" person when shit hits the fan and it gets quite tiring. I'm just living my life as I see fit.

Everyone has their own opinion and can only go by their own experiences...I myself have had great experiences with both older and younger gents and yes you can be just as immature in your 40s as in your early 20s bit I feel so much more comfortable with an older gentlemen closer to my age as I am in my 30s...I personally feel a stronger connection with those older...but I'm sure if I were younger I would probably feel closer to the younger gents...to each their own...No one has a wrong answer how can you ?

Personally I'd never, ever see anyone under 21. I understand that maturity varies, but I can imagine lots of otherwise very mature and capable young women of 18-20 still misjudging their ability to foresee and navigate the pitfalls of acting as a paid companion. Practically I tend to see SPs in their 40s and up, as I'm in my late 40s and prefer to see women somewhere around my own age. There are exceptions; a few years ago I saw a very bright and insightful woman in her late 20s and had one of my best experiences ever.

I came across an interesting article about nutrition myths today :) It includes lots of solid info, with links to it's sources to back up it's claims. Lots of common sense, but unfortunately people still believe a lot of this mumbo jumbo that's been perpetuated for decades. Top 13 Nutrition Lies That Made The World Sick and Fat - http://authoritynutrition.com/top-13-nutrition-lies-that-made-the-world-sick-and-fat/

For me, and only me, it would be ethically wrong to see a 18, 19 year old. But I'm 52 years old and would have problems having an encounter with a teenage girl I'm not passing judgements here, just speaking for myself My comfort zone is mid twenties to fifty+ RG

I often laugh at the "holier than thou types" that are condescending when they refer to SP's and what they do. I suspect that there is a dark side to most all professions. As a long time "bastion of the International Business world" I can assure you that the sex trade in Canada is absolutely no worse than any other industry in this country especially when it comes to coercion and exploitation. I'm sure some will read this and say "that olderguy is a cynical bastard", but really it is just a realistic observation.

I think you have outlined all the points that one could take into account to ensure themselves That they were dealing with someone who was independent or working for a service by their choice. Recommend this site, that would be a sure bet:) But don't bother to get into heated arguments with those who condemn or don't agree with this type of work. They have their opinions, to which they are entitled and, never will you sway them. As there will always be those who understand and accept this profession and those who don't. I wouldn't let their negative feelings affect your feelings either. We all make choices and the only one that has to be happy with those choices is the person making them:)

I like that HalifaxMan58 and Miquelon have a serious bromance going on. Not that anything's wrong with that. It's just nice to see two many men embracing their affectionate side.

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Thank you Peachy, so well put, its not surprising that someone like you would write this, kindness, peace and understanding+ your big heart. You are truly beautiful inside and out. This post should be the motto for all of us in the business:)

I think for the most part I am a happy guy. I am not one to hold grudges against people, and I am quick to forgive. I've been through difficult times in my life same as everyone else, and lived through them. I have enough to eat, a roof over my head, I really don't want for anything, after finding this great site. I have people I can call friends, I am making new friends here and in my day to day life out in the world, I have people who love me, so I would say life is presently good to me, and I am a very lucky happy guy.

Each person is born perfect with 100 percent power to manifest anything in the world they want. We are born with a sense of true happiness, with the ability to stay this way, that has always been the plan for human beings. However the human mind makes up reason as we age to be unhappy. We quickly lose that perfection we are born with and if we are not aware, conscious individuals soon we create misery instead of abundance and happiness. It is very true that appreciation for what we have is one of the keys and the more we appreciate the small things the larger will follow. When the energy field is clouded with dissatisfaction, fear and worry more will follow. If we can spend just a few minutes a day in appreciation and true gratitude it is surprising what will happen. I consider myself to be very happy and a co creator with the universe. Anything I wish for comes to me easily and freely. What I want is already mine, if I can see it, it is. Not that I do not have times of being angry or pissed but that is also part of happiness. You can't have one without the other.

I will engage with you one more time, and only one more time, on this subject. Beyond that I'm not interested in conversing with anyone who defends having sex with minors. Pamela Smart is an excellent example of the dynamic at work in underage relationships, specifically the power imbalance. Note in the wiki article that she was accused of "seducing 15-year-old William "Billy" Flynn and threatening to stop having sex with him unless he killed her husband," which was supported by Flynn's own testimony. Smart had sex with Flynn specifically to make him emotionally dependent and groom him for murder. Of course very few relationships include murder as the endgame; but it does demonstrate the unhealthy power imbalance inherent to such relationships, where the younger partner is completely unready for its emotional impact. I started with a 12-year-old example because that's the earliest age at which sex might not be a crime in Canada (specifically, when it happens between two people of that same age), and since you're proposing that age limits should be relative and negotiable, you need to deal with that case in your own arguments. Our laws allow same-age juveniles to have sex with each other without going to jail not because them having sex is a good idea, or because they're remotely ready for what they're doing, but because in such cases both parties have messed up equally and shown the same poor judgement. We let them off the hook precisely because we recognize their ability to judge and understand their decisions hasn't developed yet. Simply being young and stupid isn't a criminal offense; instead it requires parental intervention. However, when there's sex between a minor and an adult it's not only much more stupid, but the older party has a legal responsibility to know better. Failing to display any such judgement, and so endangering a child the adult should instead be caring for, justly earns serious punishment. I don't consider the case you link to -- of sex between an abused, 35-year-old teacher suffering from manic depression and her 12-year-old male student producing two children -- to have "ended well". I can at best describe it as the "least disastrous outcome." We'd need to know these two people personally to fully understand their situation; as it stands, we can't know who else the 12-year-old boy might have become under different circumstances. We only know that much later he decided to continue the relationship with the woman, the mother of his two children, once she was released from prison. How can the man in that case really judge his relationship and situation against another had his life unfolded normally? And the exaggerated, childlike terms the woman continues to use to describe their ongoing relationship -- "eternal and endless" etc. -- suggest she has a badly under-developed understanding of real adult relationships, the nature of their current situation, and the gravity of her role in initiating a sexual relationship with a 12-year-old. Still, there may be an oddball case somewhere of a young person who was particularly well developed emotionally and intellectually, conducted a relationship with someone significantly his/her senior, and some happy relationship did ensue. But I think it's impossible to tell ahead of time which children this might apply to, and this remote possibility is no reason to lessen the fixed protections we have in place for the vast majority of still-developing minors who are not remotely ready for such things and will be irreparably harmed should they occur. As I said in my first reply: better to set an arbitrary bar that may inconvenience the, say, 1% of minors who could survive such a relationship but better protects the 99% who cannot, than to treat the cutoffs we have in law just as loose guidelines, impose on ourselves the burden of examining and proving each child's mental state in detail for every offense, and offer handy new arguments for use in a pedophile's defense.

Well.. "non-consensual" is just a nice easy-to-swallow term for rape, so it is of my opinion that it doesn't really matter where it started, why, who else is doing it, or how long it's been going on, as long as it stops. And if it took a bunch of media attention to make that many people realize chanting about rape was was wrong, so be it. With technology, others doing the same kind of thing only have so long before attention is brought to them too.

I noticed that, as well, and it makes me so sad. Young people are engaging in sexual practices at earlier and earlier ages, and it seems that people are too focused on what an "appropriate age" is instead of giving these kids information about consent and safer sex practices.

Personally I find both not acceptable. I'm sure the underage sex they chant about is about an adult male having sex with someone underage, which isn't consensual. They aren't chanting (or even thinking) about two teenagers having sex And I agree with you about non consensual sex (nice way to phrase sexual assault) non acceptable Chanting about underaged sex and non consensual sex inappropriate (a nice way to put it) Wonders what the mindset was that this chant was ever conceived of in the first place, and that the university allowed it to carry on all these years. And it would have carried on except they got exposed. They aren't sorry about the chant, just sorry they got caught RG

Well first of all, I think you should ask yourself why you're asking that question. What is it that is bothering you that would make you want to reach out and ask if you 'should' or 'shouldn't' feel something? I feel like if you were 100% fine with it, the question wouldn't even be in your mind. Second... What is there to be ashamed OF? I can relate to this question on the other side, because there is such a stigma attached to being a part of this lifestyle. But the fact is: people have non-emotional sex with each other all the time. Everybody 'pays' in some way - buying a girl drinks at a bar in exchange for the possibility of getting her in bed is the same as exchanging cash for the same; or a woman accepting those drinks in exchange for sex is still 'selling themselves'. Those people are just in denial about what they are doing, or justify it by saying 'well I didn't give her money for it!' - it's the same thing! I think if anything, this is a much better outlet and there is a lot more thought involved in choosing a lady that meets your interests and physical tastes; this is a hobby, after all (or in an SP's case, a career). You are way more likely to have chemistry, rapport, friendship via this outlet than another way.... so why feel ashamed about it? My two cents.

The problem is, the way you've posed the question leaves out anything at all about a really critical part of that sentence -- "I". Without knowing more about you, it's impossible to answer you. Let's start more generically: is seeing escorts inherently shameful? And the answer is: NO. Particularly with regard to the women you're likely to encounter here on CERB, escorts are smart, attractive, talented and capable women who know exactly what they're doing and why. They can offer a wonderful intimate human experience. How you make use of that experience, and the role it plays in your life, is up to you. That said, there can be issues associated with paid companionship. Most importantly: is the companion in control of what she's doing? Beyond that there are issues of playing safely, the impact your activities can have on other parties, and your overall conduct with regard to "hobbying". But all of those hinge on YOU, and your judgement, and so nobody can really answer your question yet with just the information you've provided.

If you're feeling shame you should probably get out of the game because it's not for you. I don't agree with those who said you should feel shame if you're married or in a relationship. I love variety and I play safe. I don't feel shame I just feel like I'm living my sex life to it's fullest.

Age is but a number! Younger, older or somewhere in between, each experience is unique and brings with it excitement, joy and pleasure. To limit oneself is sad but it is a choice to be made come what may.

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Perhaps you just need someone to keep you warm:)

I saw 'Blue Jasmine', the new Woody Allen flick. I really liked it. If you can enjoy movies in which the characters are not likeable, then I would verymuch recommend it. Very good acting all around. And, although it is not a comedy, it has more humour than the trailers would lead you to believe.

I bought rollerskates, and I joined a rollerboogie group. They felt awesome! The ones I used to rent were from the 70s and hurt my feet. Getting a new pair that fit well feels great!

I can't agree with you more, Peachy. Beauty on the outside is just that, superficial. To be a person well-liked, loved and admired by others, we also need inner beauty - self confidence, intelligence, honesty, fairness, and all the good personality traits. I must add that you are a well-liked, well-adjusted person and I hope and am certain that nothing would affect you negatively.

Why I voted as I did :)

Peachy's beauty has just shown through again with her post. I second what Tongue Twister and Cltchmcg said.

Watching the video. The part about the spouse being in a bad mood and somebody coming to the door. A) If my spouse is enjoying my bad mood, then he probably deserves it. And B) I don't make nice with anyone who comes to my door unexpected. Call first, and I'll try to receive you better. But just show up? You'll get what's happening. But that said, I don't really think this video was about happiness. I am a very happy person, in general, but I get pissed off, I get down in the dumps, I get snarly. That's just being human. It's when you can't just experience it, get it over with and move on that it's a problem. What the guy in the video is discussing is more what I'd call anger or mood management. My husband and I are both from families where our parents bore long lingering resentments and grudges. And when we were first married, we did too, because that was what we figured you did when you were married. But then one day, it's like a light just came on and we realized that it just doesn't have to be that way. Shit happens, and always will, but you have some wiggle room WRT how mangled you get by it, and you can optimize your experience by how you react to it. Judging by my daughter and her friends, it seems that many young people think that feeling less-than-fulfilled or disappointed or blue means you need therapy or antidepressants. While there are situations where a person does need these things, I'm convinced a lot of people are using them that really need to just understand that life isn't all rainbows and unicorns all the time. I think it's okay to be unhappy sometimes. And let's face it, we live in a world where we get run over daily, and have to witness some pretty terrible stuff. I think you have to decide you're going to be happy (if for no other reason than it will drive the bastards nuts ;) ). It helps to find happiness fixes. For me, Looney Toons cartoons and Just For Laughs Gags can knock me out of the fiercest funk. Other times, a good cry or chasing my partner around the house with a butcher's knife, threatening homicide really does the trick. But whatever you do, live in the moment and do it as authentically as possible. And pursue happiness. Because there is no heaven or hell after death. All you get is this life. Make it a heaven or languish in hell. Good luck!

I'm stunned, now that I've seen reference to specific phrases in the chant, that a) anyone could sing this without dropping dead of shame, and b) women in particular could actually sing along. Before I found the words involved (literally "underage" and "no consent"), I though the song might be, I dunno, "cheeky" or something vague. But it's so obviously horrible. There's something powerful at work here having to do with the burning desire to conform, be accepted, not rock the boat, and just go along to "succeed" within the prevailing social dynamic, whatever that may be. So my question is: how does a chant like this get made up, propagated, accepted, and sung aloud for years? How can anyone sing this without revulsion? I think there are valuable things about society to be learned here, and especially lessons on the entrenched obstacles to really confronting the kind of misogyny that remains pervasive and unremarked upon, even here in supposedly progressive and enlightened Canadian society. Additional Comments: No, I disagree. It's certainly possible for someone who's 12 to utter the phrase "yes". It's even possible for them to really mean it, in order to please the person making the request. What it's not really possible for them to do is fully grasp the weight of the thing they're agreeing to. The law says that people who are underage are considered incapable of the kind of will, judgement, self-awareness, and required agency to give meaningful consent to what's about to happen. Maybe a shorter way of putting it is, when you wrote "there might be ethical problems," THOSE are exactly the problems the laws are there to address. Granted, people vary, and some are ready for sex a little sooner than others. But I'd rather commit the sin of being arbitrary and picking a number we all must follow, than putting ourselves in a position where we'll have to evaluate the participants separately for each case of underage sex, after the fact, to determine what they're cognitively capable of. I can't control where other societies choose to put that line, but here in Canada the age of consent is encoded in law and must be obeyed: 16, 18 if there's involvement by an authority figure, and some special rules for close-in-age partners. And, much as young boys might fantasize about their teachers (I did!), they're equally unready for the powerful emotional consequences of the relationship, and can be badly damaged by it and its ensuing collapse. And, let's face it, if it's conducted by a significantly older woman at that age... is fundamentally fucked up on her part to begin with, so things aren't going to go well. For an extreme example of that dynamic at work, see Pamela Smart and her victim Billy Flynn.

I suspect the focus is on SMU because they are the first school to be featured in an Instagram video doing this. Having listened to the student body president and SMU president, my feeling is that unless they were in a coma during frosh week and just now woke up and are disturbed by what they did while in said coma, what they are really upset about is getting "caught". Had there been no social media video banging across the countryside, life would have gone on and the cycle repeated next year.

Thanks everyone :) I have done a bit of digging and discovered that it has only been disabled and not completely deleted yet. It also may have been done by accident, as I later on received a message saying their automated system labeled it as spam. So I have appealed the decision, and have to wait a few days to hear a decision. Fingers crossed. :)

In 2 weeks to the day, the social will be in full swing!!!!

Nine Circles is an excellent clinic. The staff are very community-oriented, have a healthy sex-positive approach and conduct themselves with professionalism, discretion and respect for your sexual preferences and lifestyle choices. I have been tested there on several occasions and have never experienced any judgmental attitude; I've felt entirely comfortable discussing some very intimate details with them. They will put you right at ease. Generally, on a first visit they will discuss your sexual background and history, and collect information that will be kept in confidence on your file. The counseling component is undertaken as a precaution with each patient. They want to ensure that you are ready and prepared in the event that a positive test result is found, and to offer counseling and follow up if that were to occur. Your concern about being lectured like a "clueless teenage boy" is a bit misplaced, but don't dismiss the value of the conversation you'll have with the health nurse. These people are pro's; they know what they are doing and they provide a valuable service to you. Leave your attitude at the door and you'll do okay. When I take my test at Nine Circles, I schedule a follow up appointment with the nurse. You book 2 weeks from the date of your test, and she will meet with you in private in their offices to provide you with your results. If you happened to test positive for an STI (like chlamydia), they will ask you about your sexual contacts encountered in the 3 months prior to the test date. That means "sexual" contacts, not someone you kissed; nor your s.o. if you did not have intercourse with her in that time period. Nine Circles staff will perform the appropriate tracing and make the confidential contact to those individuals advising that they should come in for testing. There is no disclosure of your identity to the traced contact. You've made a good decision to get tested, have an open mind and a relaxed attitude and let the staff assist you thru the process. Happy (and safe) Pooning!