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I think the only opinion that matters on this is your own. Men are in this hobby for a multitude of reasons, and one of them is fantasy - if their fantasy includes being with a hot younger girl, as long as she's 18, who am I to judge? I personally do not like seeing clients who are 18-19. I have actually declined in the past, as my kid sister is around that age, and my nephew - so it makes me feel strange. I have friends with kids around that age. BUT, again, just because it makes me feel strange, I think nothing of women who do see those clients. They deserve to get their rocks off just as much as the next guy!

Whoa, that's a lot of assumptions there. This isn't going to be a one-size-fits-all answer, as sure, some 19 year olds may lack the maturity to make such a decision, but there are also plenty of folks in their 20s, 30s, 40s, etc who may just as equally be unable or unprepared to enter into sex work. That is not our call to make, or our judgement to pass, so long as the person in question is of legal age and legally able to consent. Coersion can also happen at any age.

Since you asked I'll chime in:)I feel if you are a man or woman over 20 you shouldn't be bothering with Teens, sp's or not. 18-19 is a teenager and still a child, imo. I don't care how mature they are. I had this conversation with a gent not long ago who was 60 or so and he asked what I thought of a man his age looking at an 18yr old and I said well that would make you a perv, that's my opinion! Its just not right in my mind for anyone of such a mature age to want to mingle with someone so young. Why? for many reasons, but I think I would ask the man or woman why they'd want to be with someone so young and I won't accept the excuse of youth is beauty because physically many men and women are beautiful right up into their senior years. Perhaps its a lack of maturity on the older persons side, or as I said before just a perversion I don't know but in my mind its not acceptable or right. Its different if a 60+ man goes after a 30+ woman or vice versa the maturity and life experience is there on both sides . Just how I see it.

I can say, I was once very happy and nothing brought me down. Life was great, my dreams were coming true. I had everything to look forward too. Even when things would go wrong I always saw the glass half full. I use to find the silver lining in everything and if I couldn't I was fine with that, nothing really bothered me much. That all came crashing down one day. My dreams where shattering I lost everything I ever wanted. The only thing I had left was the one I loved but I was loosing her as well. I began to be depressed but I didn't let it bother me much I needed to stay strong like I always had. Until one day it was too much I suffered a mental breakdown that's changed me ever since. I'll never forget the pain and pressure in my head from that day. I had never to my recollection had ever cried so hard or loud in my life. Since that day I can no longer control my emotions. Being happy is all I wish for now, but whenever I'm not sad or depressed I fell nothing a big emptiness like happy is an emotion or state that doesn't exist. Perhaps is the anti depressant preventing me or maybe that day when I broke down something did break in my head I don't know. I can say even thought depression has brought me down for a long time it's a battle I fight in hope someday I find happiness like I once had. I use to be ashamed of being depressed and suicidal to the point I spoke to no one about it. I thought I was alone and that I was crazy. Until I decided it was time for me to seek help. I would not be here today had I not, I urge anyone who feel the way I did to do the same. Talking about it has made it a lot easier. Even though I've yet to achieve happiness once again I prefer the numbness then the uncontrollable suicidal thought and the mental pain its brought. I still have my days were they come back and I still have no control over my emotions I am no longer ashamed of it. With plenty of therapy I can say I cannot control it but I can live with it unlike before.

For me, age is just a number and the greater factor is the person in question. I have seen (and have been) a very mature 18 year old due to the circumstances in my upbringing. I have also known people in their 40'2, 50's and up who have the maturity level of a fig leaf (yes, I'm sure you can figure the joke on THAT one). As long as both parties are of the age of consent and find something enticing and pleasurable about the other, I say enjoy it. Everyone has their own specific comfort levels and this is what should be the deciding factor. Do what you're comfortable with and what makes you feel good and if someone doesn't like it, it's on them. While I do agree that 18/19 while being the age of consent is quite young to determine whether being an SP is a positive move for them or not as some can be lured by the money, I don't believe we have the right to determine who can and who cannot handle it. Once we are adults of any age, our life path is on us to direct and the choices we make whether for positive or negative are on us. What we may think may not be the reality of a situation as we're seeing it through our own blinders and biases. We can offer advice (if it's asked for) and support those and share experience but we cannot make decisions for others. We would not want it done to us so the same is true for others.

I don't believe in being happy. I believe in being content. At this point, there are a few important areas of my life where I am very content yet at the same rate, there are some areas that need improvement. I also try to stop the negativity in my head whether it's about myself, those around me or a certain situation. I often find myself running away from drama now than being involved or around it. I have made leaps and bounds by removing people from my life who have caused stress and drama. This has helped a great deal. I have also become a lot more selfish in a way that I take better care of myself than I did before. In the past, this caused me a lot of stress, resentment and anxiety. I used to put everyone else before me and while I am still there for others that I care about, I realized I have to be able to take care of myself before I can help them. I just try to live my life day by day and looking at life as something to be cherished and enjoyed. I had one of my long time regulars tell me last week ( he's not a cerb member) that he was diagnosed with bowel cancer. When I heard that, it made me really sad and I find him in my thoughts more than ever now. There may be a chance we will never cross paths again. :( I gave him a big hug and kiss and told him not to give up and to fight it all the way. When he left, it really got me thinking about some of the trivial things I make a big deal out of and it has really opened my eyes. I realize as I get older that I am thankful for what I have rather than complaining about what I don't have. You only have one life so make good use of it and enjoy it to the fullest!

I genuinely feel that I have an obligation to share with people about the industry as I know it and have sat in Regents shoes on many occasions. I consider it a very personal PSA Coles Notes that I willingly hand out for free. What I have learned is that I don't need to change their POV, all I need to do is put a face on it that challenges their beliefs. Meeting sex workers that don't fit the stereotype makes people reconsider what they believe to be true about the sex trade. It makes them question what they think are facts. I never take an activist stance, I'm very easy going in my delivery; avoiding the hard line presentation so they have nothing to push back against. Having them repeat their mistaken views verbally simply entrains it deeper. Instead I bring a light hearted tone to the conversation, smiling when I deliver the truths of my story. I've worked in every aspect of this industry save SWing and would do so again in a heart beat. I don't glamourize it but I also bring to light the good that I see. When they start pointing into dark corners, I simply parallel the facts with other lines of work equally as perilous and that sheds a certain inarguable light on things. Remember, you don't need to "win" the war. You just need to show them there actually isn't a war going on, simply a life as we chose it. Changing a belief starts with one seed taking root and growing. Not as quickly as we might like, it may be buried deep and take a long time to break the surface which requires patience on our part with liberal amounts of sunshine and water. Most often, they will supply the sunshine; they will reflect back on the conversation time and time again, every time allowing your essence to influence their perceptions just a little more. All you have to do is water it. Just don't over or under water, both will kill the seed before it can take root and flourish... cat

Seems I am in the minority (at least as far as the posts go) but I am very unhappy. However, having said that, I have reached a point in my life where lately I have been re-examining everything I have done up to this point. It's funny that this thread has popped up when it did, because I was actually toying with the idea of posting on here asking for advice, mainly because there seems to be a lot of people on here willing to help people out on a variety of subjects. I just hadn't made up my mind to do it yet. Lately I have actually been doing a lot of soul searching, crying, self-analysis, more crying, reflecting, reminiscing, and just generally trying to figure out what went wrong to get me to where I am now. I've come to realize that what went wrong was simply me. More specifically the choices I have made, most of which have not been good ones. I have done things that I thought would make me happier, when in fact they just made things worse. I realize that I am often too impulsive when it comes to making decisions, and tend to jump too quickly before getting all the facts. I also am too trusting though and have made decisions based on promises, only to have the person making them not live up to their end of the agreement, causing me stress and worry, and further adding to the unhappiness. (like my present situation) I also found that as things got worse, so has my self esteem. I cannot motivate myself to do anything to better my health for example, because (and this is something I've only just realized, and may sound overly melodramatic) somewhere along the line I think I've subconsciously decided I no longer want to live. I also seemingly have no purpose in life, at least in my mind. Not that I am actively going to go out and kill myself, but I seem to deliberately do things that will put me at great risk for heart attacks, strokes, etc. I am considered morbidly obese, and do nothing to lose weight, even though I keep telling myself I will. I have been diagnosed as a borderline diabetic, and am supposed to watch my diet, exercise and monitor my blood sugar, yet I do none of these. I started to when I was first told, but it lasted maybe a month. I even went out and bought a mountain bike, which I ride occasionally, but nowhere near regularly. I completely lack discipline in my personal life, yet in my professional life I am completely the opposite. Haven't figured out why that is yet though. Add to this the fact that I have struggled with depression for years without knowing what it was, and looking back I can see how my depression has influenced a lot of my decisions. I did have a prescription for an anti-depressant that actually worked for me, after a lot of trial and error, but since my doctor moved away I can't seem to find one that will renew my prescription. Seems a lot of the newer doctors don't seem to believe in them, or are overly cautious about prescribing them. Also add in that I am shy and reserved by nature, so don't connect with a lot of people. Funny thing is I talk to hundreds of people in a day for my work, and get along fine, but when it comes to my personal life forget it. This is actually how I found CERB. I know I need human contact, and started thinking that if I found an SP or two it might help me out in that way. So now that I've posted all this negative stuff, I will end this on a positive note; now that I am coming to understand that my life is exactly the way I made it, I'm pretty sure that going forward I will now look at things in a different light. Hopefully it will translate into better decisions, as well as a renewed way of looking at myself and how I feel about myself. I know it is going to take a lot of hard work, but I think the biggest thing is just getting out of some bad thought patterns, which now that I see them I can hopefully change them. p.s. sorry for the negative rambling. I didn't post this to get anyone's sympathy or anything, in fact still not sure I should be posting this at all, but since MBR asked.....)

So, a bit of a heavy topic. I'm in an ongoing conflict/dialogue with an acquaintance who's very anti-sex work. (Though I'm about ready to throw my hands up in disgust.) I recently asserted that it's easy to be an ethical consumer of the sex industry if you actually care about being an ethical consumer, and that the more direct interaction you have with a worker, the easier it is to make sure that they're doing the work consensually and by choice. (So making a solid ethical choice when seeing a service provider is easier than doing so when watching porn on the internet, for example.) She asked me how one could know. It seems pretty obvious to me, but I'd rather not just give a flippant response based exclusively on my own perceptions and experiences, which are obviously limited - I work as a SP, I have many friends who are current and former workers in various parts of the sex industry and I've worked in social services where I had clients who were SPs, but I don't have any experience as a male hobbyist hiring a SP, and I do know that when I am a client at say, a strip club, my interactions with the women working there are really different than the interactions men have. So, if you were giving advice to someone who had never seen a SP before and was really concerned about the risk of seeing someone who had been trafficked or who was being coerced* into the work, what would you tell them? I'm interested in responses from both SPs and hobbyists. Things I would recommend: See someone who**: - works independently & has their own website - participates in online communities for hobbyists and/or SPs - is involved in sex worker rights activism/blogs or talks about their experiences and their work publicly - screens their clients Get to know them a bit, either through their interactions online or by booking some social time where you plan to just talk. * When I talk about coercion, I mean through violence, emotional manipulation or abuse. One of the popular arguments against sex work is that there is no free choice when there are economic pressures that might influence a person's choice to do this type of work. Ultimately though, that adds up to an argument against capitalism and all work being coercive, and doesn't logically or meaningfully single out sex work, without doing a bunch of mental gymnastics. ** Obviously not meeting these criteria doesn't mean anything and many SPs who choose this work don't meet these criteria. Additionally, this is really complicated too, because these sorts of screening criteria could further marginalize already marginalized workers, by steering good potential clients away from them and towards workers who are already more privileged. But at the same time, those who are making the argument that it's impossible to do this type of work consensually or that it's impossible to be an ethical consumer are already seeking to force us all out of this line of work anyway, which, imo, does far more to marginalize already under-privileged workers.

While I don't totally disagree with most of the comments posted. I do not believe that maturity or age is a factor in all this. The most determining factor is, what is your criteria. Just like some will choose a brunette over a blond, or prefer an exotic looking partner, it's a matter of personal preferences. Age might or might not be a factor to some, or might be very important to others. Two immature individual in a relationship probably won't last long but you can't live their life for them. We all have to make choices eventually and learn from them for better or for worse. I know for me, it is a factor. I don't have an upper limit but I do have a minimum. My logic behind it might seem irrational to some. But it is one those things where someone else's opinion shouldn't matter. As long as both adults are consenting, it's not my place to interfere. If the opinion of others is important to you, I would recommend you re-evaluate what it is you're looking for.

I am in no way passing judgement on the next person because I do believe we all have that right to live and do as we please...No one can make our decisions for us and in no way are we better than the next because we choose to do something that another person doesn't BUT in my opinion and this is for myself only I choose not to interact with gentlemen 18-25 I prefer the older gentlemen for their passion and the respect they give me as an sp provider...yes I am have seen younger than 30 and.a few were very mature and the time we spent was enjoyable...but me being a mature lady I prefer the same...we have a better connection and so much more to talk about...the sex is great either way but the older gentlemen have much more life experience xo Please No disrespect towards the younger gents just my opinion

Good afternoon everyone, I posted some photographs, thoughts, and feelings about my trip to South America on my blog. To view my blog, click here. I just got back yesterday. There's no place like home, seriously! I'm feeling really grateful to be back, surrounded by people I love and cherish, and in my own bed! It's never felt so good to sit at my computer desk. I hope you enjoy the pictures, Nat xox

Love and sex are two completely different things. Over time our culture has put the two into the same bed, so to speak. Bad idea as 2 people can love each other but have different needs that have nothing to do with the heart. One can love someone, but have sex with someone else and that doesn't change that love, unless you cannot separate the 2. One is an emotion, one is an activity. Your reasons are your own and your question is one I think we ALL ask ourselves at one point or another. Only you can answer it honestly. For whatever choice we are here, most of us are here because we want to be, SP or Provider. There are exceptions of course, and thats when the struggle begins. It is a good question to ask yourself, but is it a reflection of you having sex with an SP, or an SP having sex with you? Additional Comments: In this I have to respectfully disagree. You are talking in completely monogamous terms. The human species was never meant to be monogamous but our culture dictates whats right and whats wrong. If you follow mainstream norms, then yes your statement stands. But who really falls into that category other than sheeple? No rudeness intended, I just disagree, :) C

I agree. I find that myself and my sisters have guilt issues. I often find that I am guilted into doing things for family members that I really don't want to do. Sometimes I will say no but when I do, that guilt of NOT doing it is there. This has carried over into relationships of mine where I'm always trying to make sure people are happy. I'm not a doormat where I will do anything for anyone...no way because there is that feisty, fery side of me as well. However, there is always some sort ofpeople pleaser quality and frankly I'm sick of it. I know exactly where it comes from and often times it's hard to not feel that way and I just have to turn it off. I come from a family where everyone took care of one another and while it's a good quality to have, often times people exploit that or use it to their advantage. As for parents, I've stopped trying to get their approval a long time ago. I am doing what I wish to do. They don't have to live my life or pay my mortgages on properties or my bills and I'm in control. I've been quite independent from a young age and moved out when I was 19. What I've realized is that parents are human beings as well and WILL make mistakes in raising their children. Whatever expectations they had are not the expectations I have of myself. I have come to accept them for who they are are, faults and all. This has made my relationship with them much better. I'm the person in my family that does whatever I please while everyone else wishes they could do it but don't. And this doesn't apply to anything in specific in my life. I'm more of the rebel and had the balls to do things. Now I am their "go to" person when shit hits the fan and it gets quite tiring. I'm just living my life as I see fit.

Everyone has their own opinion and can only go by their own experiences...I myself have had great experiences with both older and younger gents and yes you can be just as immature in your 40s as in your early 20s bit I feel so much more comfortable with an older gentlemen closer to my age as I am in my 30s...I personally feel a stronger connection with those older...but I'm sure if I were younger I would probably feel closer to the younger gents...to each their own...No one has a wrong answer how can you ?

Personally I'd never, ever see anyone under 21. I understand that maturity varies, but I can imagine lots of otherwise very mature and capable young women of 18-20 still misjudging their ability to foresee and navigate the pitfalls of acting as a paid companion. Practically I tend to see SPs in their 40s and up, as I'm in my late 40s and prefer to see women somewhere around my own age. There are exceptions; a few years ago I saw a very bright and insightful woman in her late 20s and had one of my best experiences ever.

I came across an interesting article about nutrition myths today :) It includes lots of solid info, with links to it's sources to back up it's claims. Lots of common sense, but unfortunately people still believe a lot of this mumbo jumbo that's been perpetuated for decades. Top 13 Nutrition Lies That Made The World Sick and Fat - http://authoritynutrition.com/top-13-nutrition-lies-that-made-the-world-sick-and-fat/

For me, and only me, it would be ethically wrong to see a 18, 19 year old. But I'm 52 years old and would have problems having an encounter with a teenage girl I'm not passing judgements here, just speaking for myself My comfort zone is mid twenties to fifty+ RG

I often laugh at the "holier than thou types" that are condescending when they refer to SP's and what they do. I suspect that there is a dark side to most all professions. As a long time "bastion of the International Business world" I can assure you that the sex trade in Canada is absolutely no worse than any other industry in this country especially when it comes to coercion and exploitation. I'm sure some will read this and say "that olderguy is a cynical bastard", but really it is just a realistic observation.

I think you have outlined all the points that one could take into account to ensure themselves That they were dealing with someone who was independent or working for a service by their choice. Recommend this site, that would be a sure bet:) But don't bother to get into heated arguments with those who condemn or don't agree with this type of work. They have their opinions, to which they are entitled and, never will you sway them. As there will always be those who understand and accept this profession and those who don't. I wouldn't let their negative feelings affect your feelings either. We all make choices and the only one that has to be happy with those choices is the person making them:)

I like that HalifaxMan58 and Miquelon have a serious bromance going on. Not that anything's wrong with that. It's just nice to see two many men embracing their affectionate side.

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Thank you Peachy, so well put, its not surprising that someone like you would write this, kindness, peace and understanding+ your big heart. You are truly beautiful inside and out. This post should be the motto for all of us in the business:)

I think for the most part I am a happy guy. I am not one to hold grudges against people, and I am quick to forgive. I've been through difficult times in my life same as everyone else, and lived through them. I have enough to eat, a roof over my head, I really don't want for anything, after finding this great site. I have people I can call friends, I am making new friends here and in my day to day life out in the world, I have people who love me, so I would say life is presently good to me, and I am a very lucky happy guy.

Each person is born perfect with 100 percent power to manifest anything in the world they want. We are born with a sense of true happiness, with the ability to stay this way, that has always been the plan for human beings. However the human mind makes up reason as we age to be unhappy. We quickly lose that perfection we are born with and if we are not aware, conscious individuals soon we create misery instead of abundance and happiness. It is very true that appreciation for what we have is one of the keys and the more we appreciate the small things the larger will follow. When the energy field is clouded with dissatisfaction, fear and worry more will follow. If we can spend just a few minutes a day in appreciation and true gratitude it is surprising what will happen. I consider myself to be very happy and a co creator with the universe. Anything I wish for comes to me easily and freely. What I want is already mine, if I can see it, it is. Not that I do not have times of being angry or pissed but that is also part of happiness. You can't have one without the other.

I will engage with you one more time, and only one more time, on this subject. Beyond that I'm not interested in conversing with anyone who defends having sex with minors. Pamela Smart is an excellent example of the dynamic at work in underage relationships, specifically the power imbalance. Note in the wiki article that she was accused of "seducing 15-year-old William "Billy" Flynn and threatening to stop having sex with him unless he killed her husband," which was supported by Flynn's own testimony. Smart had sex with Flynn specifically to make him emotionally dependent and groom him for murder. Of course very few relationships include murder as the endgame; but it does demonstrate the unhealthy power imbalance inherent to such relationships, where the younger partner is completely unready for its emotional impact. I started with a 12-year-old example because that's the earliest age at which sex might not be a crime in Canada (specifically, when it happens between two people of that same age), and since you're proposing that age limits should be relative and negotiable, you need to deal with that case in your own arguments. Our laws allow same-age juveniles to have sex with each other without going to jail not because them having sex is a good idea, or because they're remotely ready for what they're doing, but because in such cases both parties have messed up equally and shown the same poor judgement. We let them off the hook precisely because we recognize their ability to judge and understand their decisions hasn't developed yet. Simply being young and stupid isn't a criminal offense; instead it requires parental intervention. However, when there's sex between a minor and an adult it's not only much more stupid, but the older party has a legal responsibility to know better. Failing to display any such judgement, and so endangering a child the adult should instead be caring for, justly earns serious punishment. I don't consider the case you link to -- of sex between an abused, 35-year-old teacher suffering from manic depression and her 12-year-old male student producing two children -- to have "ended well". I can at best describe it as the "least disastrous outcome." We'd need to know these two people personally to fully understand their situation; as it stands, we can't know who else the 12-year-old boy might have become under different circumstances. We only know that much later he decided to continue the relationship with the woman, the mother of his two children, once she was released from prison. How can the man in that case really judge his relationship and situation against another had his life unfolded normally? And the exaggerated, childlike terms the woman continues to use to describe their ongoing relationship -- "eternal and endless" etc. -- suggest she has a badly under-developed understanding of real adult relationships, the nature of their current situation, and the gravity of her role in initiating a sexual relationship with a 12-year-old. Still, there may be an oddball case somewhere of a young person who was particularly well developed emotionally and intellectually, conducted a relationship with someone significantly his/her senior, and some happy relationship did ensue. But I think it's impossible to tell ahead of time which children this might apply to, and this remote possibility is no reason to lessen the fixed protections we have in place for the vast majority of still-developing minors who are not remotely ready for such things and will be irreparably harmed should they occur. As I said in my first reply: better to set an arbitrary bar that may inconvenience the, say, 1% of minors who could survive such a relationship but better protects the 99% who cannot, than to treat the cutoffs we have in law just as loose guidelines, impose on ourselves the burden of examining and proving each child's mental state in detail for every offense, and offer handy new arguments for use in a pedophile's defense.

Well.. "non-consensual" is just a nice easy-to-swallow term for rape, so it is of my opinion that it doesn't really matter where it started, why, who else is doing it, or how long it's been going on, as long as it stops. And if it took a bunch of media attention to make that many people realize chanting about rape was was wrong, so be it. With technology, others doing the same kind of thing only have so long before attention is brought to them too.

I noticed that, as well, and it makes me so sad. Young people are engaging in sexual practices at earlier and earlier ages, and it seems that people are too focused on what an "appropriate age" is instead of giving these kids information about consent and safer sex practices.

Personally I find both not acceptable. I'm sure the underage sex they chant about is about an adult male having sex with someone underage, which isn't consensual. They aren't chanting (or even thinking) about two teenagers having sex And I agree with you about non consensual sex (nice way to phrase sexual assault) non acceptable Chanting about underaged sex and non consensual sex inappropriate (a nice way to put it) Wonders what the mindset was that this chant was ever conceived of in the first place, and that the university allowed it to carry on all these years. And it would have carried on except they got exposed. They aren't sorry about the chant, just sorry they got caught RG

Well first of all, I think you should ask yourself why you're asking that question. What is it that is bothering you that would make you want to reach out and ask if you 'should' or 'shouldn't' feel something? I feel like if you were 100% fine with it, the question wouldn't even be in your mind. Second... What is there to be ashamed OF? I can relate to this question on the other side, because there is such a stigma attached to being a part of this lifestyle. But the fact is: people have non-emotional sex with each other all the time. Everybody 'pays' in some way - buying a girl drinks at a bar in exchange for the possibility of getting her in bed is the same as exchanging cash for the same; or a woman accepting those drinks in exchange for sex is still 'selling themselves'. Those people are just in denial about what they are doing, or justify it by saying 'well I didn't give her money for it!' - it's the same thing! I think if anything, this is a much better outlet and there is a lot more thought involved in choosing a lady that meets your interests and physical tastes; this is a hobby, after all (or in an SP's case, a career). You are way more likely to have chemistry, rapport, friendship via this outlet than another way.... so why feel ashamed about it? My two cents.

The problem is, the way you've posed the question leaves out anything at all about a really critical part of that sentence -- "I". Without knowing more about you, it's impossible to answer you. Let's start more generically: is seeing escorts inherently shameful? And the answer is: NO. Particularly with regard to the women you're likely to encounter here on CERB, escorts are smart, attractive, talented and capable women who know exactly what they're doing and why. They can offer a wonderful intimate human experience. How you make use of that experience, and the role it plays in your life, is up to you. That said, there can be issues associated with paid companionship. Most importantly: is the companion in control of what she's doing? Beyond that there are issues of playing safely, the impact your activities can have on other parties, and your overall conduct with regard to "hobbying". But all of those hinge on YOU, and your judgement, and so nobody can really answer your question yet with just the information you've provided.

This is a fine line. Just my opinion...but if the relationship as a whole is strained and is not working....and if you have done everything to correct it without success.....then why not just end it? I can't see how cheating fixes anything (and yes, seeing SP's behind your S/O's back is cheating). It just compounds an already bad situation. Now...if the emotional relationship itself is still healthy....if there is still love and caring and fulfilment there....and if the only thing missing is the physical aspect of the relationship (be it for medical reasons, psychological reasons, etc)....then I would say that yes, seeing SP's is totally acceptable....provided that your SO is aware of it and is comfortable with it. Lastly...if you're single....or if you're in an "open", honest and non-monogamous relationship. Then hey, why the hell not?! Dive in and have fun! :D Not trying to be judgmental to anyone's own situation. These are just my own views based on my comfort level. Dishonesty of any sort makes me feel guilty...whether its related to escorts or not. But at the end of the day, when it comes to sex between two consenting adults, the only one who can decide if you should feel guilty or not is you.

I agree with Cleo and MM on personal choices, etc. Whatever floats your boat. In general, I personally feel that I connect better with older lads, but I have had a few very nice, respectful younger gentlemen visit me too. If someone has a good approach, I don't discriminate. In conversation with some of my guests about this topic in the past, most gents almost always agree that feel more comfortable with a lady 25+ or even sometimes more closer to their own age. They might have more in common, more shared experiences, more to talk about, etc. Young people can certainly be mature for their age, and there is always exceptions, but there is no substitution for life experience. As for CERB verification of age, the answer is no, as that would be rather intrusive to ask every single lady for their personal identification to prove their age, when they have done nothing wrong. However, mod does take complaints from members seriously if they report seeing an SP who is advertising here and they think her age is questionable. It has happened before, and girls have been asked to provide identification, and have been suspended for not doing so.

When you contact the lady be open and upfront with her. Provide her with your real name, board handle (confirmed by PM, I assume she is a lady on CERB) contact phone number and email. Explain to her this is your first time seeing an escort and there isn't a companion who can provide a reference for you. She will likely have other ways to verify you I don't think being a student will be an issue, just so long as you can pay her donation in full. In your email be polite, respectful, in short, be a gentleman Good luck RG

When I got into this, the only understanding of the SP world was what I saw through Law & Order. Which is to say, I had a very poor understanding. It was sheer curiosity that I stumbled upon an MA's website. I knew things like body rub parlours existed and licensed by the city, so I figured it would be much more difficult to run trafficking operations in those organizations. But something resonated with seeking independents, and I've stuck with indys since the beginning. So when I contacted the first girl in this industry, she was very active on Cerb, and I spent hours reading her comments. I didn't want to stalk her or anything of that sort, it was just to confirm in my mind that this is an independent woman, who is doing this on her own accord, not forced by a pimp. Since then, like I said above, I've stuck with independents. I've also gone with people who have an active presence here or on different boards. Have comments that in some way impressed me intellectually. In person, they are natural extensions of their online persona, which gives me a bit of peace of mind that a pimp isn't faking all of it in the background. Other things matter, like the incall location. As a business owner myself, I try to work on the tiny details that may go unnoticed, but adds to the overall experience. I've seen the same sense of attention in this industry. An absolutely tidy incall, bottle of refrigerated water at hand, etc. I think someone who was in this for her own reasons and not forced in by someone else has a much greater drive to go the extra mile. The ads also play a role determining my comfort with seeking an SP out. If it's a short "here's my #, lets fuck", I never call. There are ladies who take the time making intelligent, and interesting ads. I feel that it adds another layer of professionalism and provides more proof they are in this without being coerced. Finally, the last, and probably the biggest thing would be when I see her, I'd like to think that if I feel there is a sense that somethings amiss, I wouldn't go through with it and figure out what to do next if I felt it was trafficking. Maybe it's a bit of an overkill, and I've passed over meeting some great people this way, but I rather err on the side of caution. With aspects of this industry being in the legal grey area, and politicians will continue to believe that sex is evil, it's the best that I could come up with.

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18?! If you meet her you'd better ask to verify her age somehow before you do anything at all. You're flying pretty low there.

I remember as a kid at the Ex with my Dad, staring at girls in the girly' shows they had back then, they had a catwalk outside where the girls would strut their stuff. Also, driving by where the Imperial Theatre on Bank where Barrymore's is they had huge posters of dancers, I was fascinated,and in Westboro there was Pandora's box I remember standing outside , just aching for a peek at one of the girls. When I reached drinking age my first stop was Spot 844 on Somerset, I could not freakin believe how good it was and I've never looked back. That place became Valentino's , a great spot, there was another place in Westboro in the 80's and one in a basement on Bank St. in the Glebe and there was one off St. Laurent in behind Burger King, can't remember the names ..and there was the Lido on the strip in Hull, and I was there for the opening of Barbarella's on Bank and Gilmour in 89...the same waitress is still working there.. To the girls; thanks for all the hugs n kisses and laughs over the years !

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I ve had bad and good moments in life... One thing I did learn is that the more I tried to fill up the glass the worse it was because you never get content with what you achieve... Maybe try to stop thinking so much how to get the glass full.. And just take one day at a time.. Pay less attention to the negative events and embrace the positive ones and make the best out of them! The glass will be filled!!! A few ywars ago I went through a really hard time... Even spent time at the hospital for depression... I think it was the best time for me.. Away from everything and everyone... Had time to think about just myself... Now I feel great, I am happy, may not have a" perfect" life..n but really, who does?? Or what is Perfect?? We all face problems, desicions, sadness, joy... We have to learn to accept with the good and the bad... And remember it can always be worse! Yes your mood reflects with the people around you.. I am a believer of that, it even reflects in things that can happen to you during the day... Think positive. And positive things will happen... Smile even when you don't feel like it.. Smile at everyone even if you don't know them... When you least expected you will feel always like a million bucks! And people around you will feel it.., specially your family and loved ones!

It's a sad thing that people seems to be focusing more on the underaged part then the no consent part. There's nothing wrong about underaged sex if it's consentual. Teenagers have always been having sex (or interested by it at least). And a lot of couples have 1-2 years difference, it's just natural that one turn 18 before the other. No consent however, that is never acceptable. To see them cheering like that about rape, it's utterly disgusting. It's very sad that nothing was said about it before now.

I read the title 'Sadistic' and got excited. Then kept reading.....and got bored. lol. I do not watch the news. I rather not know. Someone has to know what's up tho- so I am Glad other people watch it- but if you purposely watch something that's called News- then dont be upset or surprised that its graphic and disturbing- It's Not so much Sadistic as it is realistic. Sadistic would be YOU making ME watch the news knowing I no likey. ;) But, You making yourself watch the news and you dont like it....well thats just masochism lol.

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Mmmmmm sexy and food... THe lovely SaraMQ and I did a foodfight shoot a couple of years ago...