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I know sometimes it's hard to read tone in a post, so my post below is being written as an attempt to explain one point-of-view for not answering blocked numbers, it's not written in any confrontational way, and definitely not an 'I'm right, you're wrong' or anything like that. A few months back I posted a thread about one-word texts saying 'Hi'. I thought they were rude - and from the responses I received, I realized I was wrong. Things aren't always the way you think they are. I am truly sorry if some people think we're being rude by not answering blocked numbers - for me, it's part of keeping myself sane in this business, and it's not rude at all. Before I briefly retired from SP-ing and became and MA for a while, I used to answer blocked numbers. Because, as has been pointed out, sometimes men block their number because they are calling for some more info and don't yet want to give our their number. But I'll tell you what my experience was by answering those calls. For the info calls, after I answered the questions, the call would go one of three ways: the gent would accept the info, and decide to call back to book with an unblocked number. This was the least common result. The more common was to either try and convince me to give him my location info on the blocked number, and the second most common was for me to realize the man was jerking off on the other end of the line, no intention to actually book. Websites like cerb show us the wonderful side of this business; it helps you gentlemen to see how many other gentlemen there are that take part in this hobby. So it's easy to think it's simply gentlemen calling for info and hiding their privacy - but sadly, in reality, most of the time the people hiding behind those blocked numbers are not gentlemen: they are creeps. So, about half the time when I answered a blocked number, it went one of the three ways I mentioned above. The other half of the time... well honestly, the other half of the time I would receive demoralizing, and utterly deflating cruelty. I'd answer blocked numbers and have teenagers making prank phone calls. I'd have men breathing in my ears. I'd have people scream "WHORE!" when I answered. I'd have the sound of men jerking off. I'd have people calling with disgusting - and I mean DISGUSTING - requests. These calls would sometimes reduce me to tears. It was very hard to pick back up and put a smile on my face. The cruelty that can exist out there is staggering, and in my experience, these cruel assholes hide behind a blocked number. They're not going to expose themselves when they make these kind of calls. I've posted in the past about the main reason I left being an SP for a while, and went to an MA, but the phone calls are a big part of it as well. WHen I was an MA, there was someone else taking the calls. I didn't have to expose myself to those creeps. Yes, that also meant I didn't get to communicate with the true gentlemen out there. But my brain needed that break for a while. When I was able to come back, I set myself some limits in order to keep myself safe, and sane, in the business. And one of those things was to never, ever, answer a blocked number. And by doing that, I've almost eliminated those cruel, prank phone calls. So I do hope you can understand that it's not at all being rude by not answering those calls. But in this business, we need to set up barriers in order to stay safe, and for me at least, this is one of the things I do.

Perhaps it's because we are bashed everywhere! The problem is that if a provider doesn't want these kind of details "out in the open" then it shouldn't be anywhere for any reason. I don't care if you are getting pm requests, if your provider doesn't want that information disclosed you are betraying her trust by doing so even in a pm. If she doesn't want that information in her reco then she doesn't want it discussed and shouldn't be in pm or a private area. It's one thing to have information exchanged between hobbyists but please know that it's easy for someone to disguise themselves as a client and collect info on a provider then have it used against them in a child custody case etc. My concern isn't about the bashing, it's about the open availability of information that could cause irreparable harm in one's personal life. I am a prime example. My work was used against me in a custody case and I lost my daughters. Not because I was an unfit mother but because I was a sex worker and details clients discussed were read in open court in front of my daughters who were all minors at the time. There is one detailed review out there and by the time I knew it existed it was already framed on my parents dining room wall for my children to have to see every time they sat down to eat. It is why there is so little out there on me. Discussing services that are offered but not publicized is a no no anywhere. Bash me all you want but don't ever discuss what I do behind closed doors... cat

I think this has been brought up before, although perhaps it was on another thread, but you cannot have any legal contract that forces a person to perform a sexual act, or that punishes him or her for failing to perform that act. There are other rights that take precedence over contract law. So in terms of talking about a legal contract that can be enforced, I don't believe there can be one. In terms of compensation made to the client if a discussed act was not performed, I think that is fair if the provider agrees that the decision not to offer the service was not the fault of the client. I think it is a matter of reputation and professionalism on the part of the provider that is in her best interest. I also think that most clients are good people who don't deserve to go in with understandable expectations and then feel that they were deliberately misled and swindled. But I also think that the SP in question is the one best able to determine whether or not delivery of services was reasonable under the circumstances. I don't think forcing her to prove, somehow, to some kind of enforcement agency that she couldn't reasonably be expected to perform the act is possible. Putting someone in the position where they have to prove the impossible (how can she prove he was rude, or not clean?), or face punishment of some kind (financial, in this case) would leave a sense that a provider must do what sexual acts she's told or else. Especially when most contracts are apparently verbal. How does she prove she didn't agree to what he says she did? I assume the onus would be on him, but hopefully you see what I am aiming at. Talking about enforcing contracts leaves a lot of room for abuse and intimidation. Even if the contract is written (in emails, for example), in terms of enforcing that, how does a client prove that he did, in fact, have impeccable hygiene, or that he did not act offensively toward the provider? He's not any better able to prove his side of things than she is. As other's have pointed out, even if it were a contract enforcible by law, which I believe it isn't, there is so much he said/she said that I don't see any way to make a fair decision. And in terms of the decision, if a woman promises uncovered oral over the phone, and then declines during the encounter, what would one sue for? A $20 refund? $10 000 for mental anguish, including loss of self esteem? Again, I don't think potential punishment should hang over the head of a woman you are asking to perform sexual services for you. I understand that legal contracts were brought up to point out that there should be some protection for the client when contracting services, or simply out of curiously for how it would play out given the changing laws. But I am very, very uncomfortable with talk of enFORCING that sexual services be delivered. I do wish there were a way, other than doing a lot of research (I understand that sometimes anyone might want to make an impulse purchase of services with a feeling of safety) that would give clients some kind of guarantee that their money will be well-spent and their encounter will unfold as they hope. But whenever I look at punishing someone for not delivering sexual services it just gets a bit of a rapey vibe for me. Weighing the loss of money vs coercion to perform sexual acts, I find the loss on money is less bad. And I hold to that even as a client, since I sometimes see female MAs myself. I completely understand that clients feel they are always left without sympathy or recourse, so I hope this post hasn't sounded confrontational or, I don't know, lecturing. I'm just trying to show that the idea of having an enforcible contract in practice is not really workable.

I think an easier question is how many guys are single...... Posted via Mobile Device

There are 2 sides to everything! 2 labia minor, 2 outer labia, 2 breasts, 2 ass cheeks, 2 eyes, 2 ears, 2 lips, and perhaps 2 arms, 2 legs... But only one brain and you have to get past that to get to the 2's that bring the pleasure to the equation. The brain is the most important thing to seduce, follow the rules set by the grey matter and you're on your way to the centre of pleasure! Otherwise, there is always fleshlights... cat

I try not to deal in illusions, necessary or otherwise, more than I have to. To address one of the big ones: I neither know nor care how many other clients the person I'm with has seen today, or this week, or this month, or ever; the same goes for any other partners she may have had, or what she may have done with them. Not only is it none of my damn business; I can't see how knowing would do me any good, or even how I should interpret any answer I might get. I certainly don't avoid reading recommendations - indeed, I keep tabs on the reco threads for both ladies I've met in the past and those who I'm considering meeting in the future. I don't need to pretend that there's no financial exchange (I see no reason to dwell on it, but there's no need to sweep it under the carpet). I don't need the illusion that I'd be able to get naked with people who are way out of my league if there wasn't an envelope involved somewhere. What I really care about is that whoever I'm with also enjoys the time spent with me. This doesn't necessarily involve orgasms every thirty seconds, or that she think I'm the best thing since sliced bread, or that she'd do this for free if I asked. I don't have to be "treated like a king" (I've never seen an incall with a throne, and neither have I ever met a SP who employed minions to wait on me hand and foot) but if I get the feeling she's just going through the motions, or she'd rather be elsewhere, it's a huge buzzkill for me. And I'll make no bones about it: I've had encounters which have not been much fun because I got the overwhelming feeling that the lady I was with would just rather have been somewhere else. And this kind of thing is hard to simulate: you can fake smiles and orgasms and whatever else, but if you just don't want to be there then the mask will slip at some stage. So, to get back on-topic: I don't give a damn about some of the more common illusions that folks seem to worry about. But I do care - and care a lot - that the whole experience be mutually pleasurable. Does that make sense?

A treehouse? Really? I soooo want to be a part of this. I have a male patterned brain, does that count? I have a strap on with testicles? Please let me in? A tree house! I can bring beer, hotdogs and marshmallows; and I have mad cheap decorating skills. We could have a 108 flat screen HD, dish, pool table and antler chandeliers with lazy boy recliners all around! Wait, this is sounding very Fat Bastards... I'm not sure what purpose a male private section would serve but if our boys want it, I will support it. But I resent that I can't participate in it because I am so much better at understanding testosterone than estrogen!!!! cat

Well, please let us know if they ever indulge in any honest marketing. I see they now have a profile here - I'll be interested to see what happens with it, given that fake pics aren't allowed on CERB. In the meantime: http://www.cowboysdiary.info/wordpress/?tag=613-749-010, and I'll be sticking to indies and spas with better reputations :)

Wow, a lot of great points and responses. I'm really seeing now that there are a lot of potential negatives in a private section for men. I'm really glad I asked the question as I have now had the benefit of all of your perspectives on the matter. The safety of everyone is of the up most importance and if a private form for the men could add to the risk that is already taken by providers then I'd have to say that it is a bad idea. Thank you for your input everyone.

Could someone tell me exactly what the purpose of a "mens-only" forum would be? What would be posted in it? Who would gain access? How would we screen them? Access to the SP-only forum, per the FAQ: Like Cat, I am uneasy about what information could be shared behind closed doors. With a review or recommendation, I see what people write about me. I have the option to ask the member in question to change what they have written, or to contact a mod. Same with forum posts. I'm aware that information is sometimes shared via PM, and there is already the potential there for inaccurate or misleading information to be shared -- I don't think we need another venue for this. We have folks already posting private information on the forum occasionally -- addresses for incall locations, for example -- and at least in a public venue these things are flagged and removed quickly. How would a private forum be moderated, who would do it, and what would the rules be?

Hey there splitz: Thanks for sharing your concerns. Like realnicehat my responses weren't meant to dismiss your question, just to convey my own concerns with the idea. I've removed my couple of paragraphs' worth of side story in one post. I intended for that to illustrate that there's nothing we should be afraid to talk about here ("if I can write about THIS, and see, nothing happens -- then surely you can write about THAT!"), but maybe that looked like I wasn't taking concerns about privacy seriously. Sorry if you took it that way. I think one of the site's leading virtues is that everything IS out in the open here, and I'd very much like to keep it that way. The SP-only section is there to support providers' safety in a potentially dangerous profession. And since the providers take by far the greater risks in this industry, I'm happy to cede them some private space if that helps to reduce those risks. I really meant it when I asked in my first post to hear the merits of a private section, because I didn't want to just dismiss the idea out of hand even though I saw a lot of potential problems. But if it's just an issue of shyness or a sense of propriety... I'm still unconvinced. For some stuff there's simply no need for shyness, and it's better that guys overcome that rather than change the site to accommodate them. If it's a sense of propriety and a guy is just reluctant to share intimate details in a public forum, I understand and respect that. But if he's then perfectly willing to discuss those same details in a semi-public forum, as long as it's restricted only to other men... I have some trouble with that. If your sense of propriety tells you that some details shouldn't be discussed in public, it's okay to trust that and decline to share them -- at all. Maybe that feeling that "well I wouldn't want the SP to see this..." is telling you that maybe nobody should, and you should explain to PM-ers that you'd prefer not to elaborate beyond your public recommendation. And there remains that risk of people abusing the private section... not because anyone asking for such a section must want to bash SPs, but because it seems a natural hazard of creating an exclusive men-only area. Plus it wastes one of the best opportunities this site offers -- to involve SPs in discussions where they'd be awesome contributors -- because those discussions are hidden behind a wall in a space they can't see. I guess ultimately my own feeling is that adopting two different spaces with two sets of rules -- one exclusively "men only!" -- just wastes healthy open discussion, and lays the groundwork for a needless division.

Splitz, you were asked to provide your reasoning for a hobbyist-only section of Cerb, and I can appreciate that you've done so. However, while I understand what you are saying and I think you've respectfully tried to lay out your reasons, I still wouldn't want to see such a section created. You are right that I wouldn't feel comfortable in a public recommendation getting into details of a lady's physical attributes or sexual preferences/acts, etc. However, I also wouldn't feel comfortable doing so in a private section as you describe it. Just because the lady may not be able to see it doesn't, to my mind, make it "not public". Rather it would make me feel like I'm just talking about her behind her back, and my own feeling is that if she wants such details shared then she'll do so herself. Whatever benefit such a section may have also seems, to my mind, not to outweigh the potential harm and ways that it could be abused. Basically, I think it would cause more work and heartache than it would save. I've heard some other sites have very little involvement by the ladies. One of the things I specifically like about Cerb is how present and active the ladies are in the discussions. I'd hate to see anything that would take away from that. I know you said that any gent who wouldn't want to use a private-only section could just avoid it, but you also have been asking for opinions, so for what it's worth, there ya go. Cheers.

For me, it is easy to see CERB as a community mostly populated with caring, intelligent, adult men and women. And then a comment like Cleo's catches my eye and it's like walking into a cold shower. And I remember that even here there are bound to be a few card-carrying asshats. When I read things like that I am surprised, on some level or the other, that providers even open their doors to us. But I'm happy they do! :) Note: The previous comment was not specifically aimed at anyone participating in this discussion or any other.

I'm not sure I see the value. What do you think its value would be? What would be discussed there? Why would it be private? If it's about safety, there's already a public bait-and-switch / scams / dangerous encounters thread for each region or sometimes individual cities.

I think I've been hypnotized...

And that would be why you have the right to choose the provider that meets your needs and the providers have the right to refuse those that don't meet their requirements! :)

It's the only thing I have to know who you are. Yes, it could be spoofed, but there are always risks. If I let someone call me from a blocked number, and give them my address, let them in here and they do something to me, I have NOTHING to contact the police with. Nothing to go on. To me, it's not different than being picked up by a stranger outside. So for my safety and security, I will never, ever book from the blocked number. I google the phone numbers, and cross-check the bad date section. Many spoofed numbers are out there on the internet, so i've caught many. I know a phone number isn't much, but it's something. What I tell guys who say they want to contact me from a blocked one is this: If you don't trust me with your phone number, i don't trust you with my address. It's that simple.

How would you know? Do you happen to have a personal SP spy that reports to you? ;) Seriously though, there is no screening process to become a CERB member so anyone with a computer can get a CERB handle. Making an assumption like the one above is just, well, an assumption. Big difference: I do not go around saying so-and-so is to be avoided because she is B&S or she is (include whatever you want here) based on MY personal experience; when a member asks a question I will sometimes use a powerful tool called Google, accessible to anyone who dares to use it ;), and I will do a quick search and provide you with the extra information I find online so you can stay safe...

It's very easy to read the discussions and become disillusioned thinking that every guy on here is as great at the ones who post. But they're not. In fact, the two biggest creeps I've met, came from right here on cerb. I think this is something people need to keep in mind every time a similar conversation comes up on here (about pre-paying, references, anything to do with a lady's procedures). The guys who participate in the forums are probably not the ones we need to worry about. The procedures aren't necessarily for them (Even my own. I posted on another thread that I would ask someone to leave if they didn't put the payment down up front. I've met some gentlemen from cerb that I'm so comfortable with based on their post history/attitude on here I didn't even think of it, and wasn't at all worried about being ripped off. But that's the exception, not the rule - and it was MY choice to bend my rule, not his). The procedures are there for the big, sometimes dark, sometimes scary, part of this business that you guys just don't see on here. But that doesn't mean it's not there.

Thanks Cleo, the rest of the messages really were taking on the tone of "my way or the highway", or "because I said so". You are actually taking the time to explain the reasoning as you see it. Okay, I understand now, I guess my perspective was that most blocked numbers were just people seeking info, because that's what I would've done. But it looks like there's another group of people that are just creeps, which I hadn't realized were so prevalent. I wonder if these creeps show up depending on where you advertise? Where did you used to advertise before, and did it have an effect on which type of callers you got?

OMG get a pay as you go, do not make things so complicated for yourself. There are super cheap-no paper or e-bill that any s/o can trace back to you annnnnnnd you will no longer have to block your number so this way sp's will answer your call ;) Its a WIN-WIN :)

Bears are smart:

Providers "rudely" refusing to answer blocked calls? Probably the same ones that "rudely" refuse to see drunk clients. Really? Her life. Her rules. Are people actually getting "spammed" by ladies and agencies? Hmm... news to me. I guess I'm not understanding these threads that question provider's rules. Every person and business sets basic rules for contact. Part of life. Get past it. My two-bits worth.

I agree with you Cristy. These "men" wanted to engage in sexual activities with underage girls. They aren't the victims here, and in fact, if this wasn't a sting but a real BP/CL ad, they would have ended up arranging to have sex with underage girls. The only ones needing to be careful of BP/CL are those "men" who reply to ads for underage girls...and they deserve whatever punishment the law has for them. No sympathy whatsoever for them RG

My take on it ... A ladies private section is very valuable and provides safety among the ladies....cause they realllllly need it !!!! unfortunately.......and maybe even supports comradarie and soothes the atmosphere among the ladies working side by side in the industry ....I don't know...just surmising. Worst case a guy might not get his rocks off with a certain chosen provider or several maybe. Life goes on. A private section among the boys has the potential to destroy reputations and careers and livelyhoods of the ladies and in some cases their kids wellbeing. Even if moderated that sometimes will not and cannot prevent irreputable damage IMO. Life doesn't just go on and heartbreak and hard times can be involved..... Use the PM system and recco's fellas status quo is my opinion. That's all I got.

A new physique I mean, a one-year gym membership with personal trainer. Wish me luck!

Whiteman, ladies always have valid reasons to ask for specifics (no blocked calls, or a reference, etc.) and it is not this way because we want to make your life difficult or just because we want to make you jump through hoops ;) Guidelines/rules/instructions are in place to protect ourselves from xyz because of the delicate and unique circumstances we face as companions. Unfortunately, I have to disagree with you. The client doesn't make the rules and the ladies' "rules" are not up for negotiation. If one disagrees with them, he should move on to the next lady who has a more flexible "set of rules" that fit one's comfort level. If I may ask, although sex work is a unique industry, where else can you go as a client and ask businesses to compromise on their rules/standards/etiquette? Do you think it is acceptable to do with SPs because, well, they are only SPs and don't deserve the same respect as other business owners do? I am asking the above so I can understand the reasoning behind it and not to be confrontational ;)

He clarified himself. I always assume the best until someone shows me differently. Who would worry about hobbying if he thought his wife was a piece of shit... cat

Classic!!!

I've been vaccinated, by choice, and at my own expense. The HPV Vaccine Guardasil does not protect one from every strain of HPV virus, but I figure it's better to get it than not get it... right? Every bit of protection helps. I am over 35, but as I'm single and sexually active my doctor didn't think twice about prescribing it, I'm considered 'high risk' due to those circumstances. I'm sure it's also available to males outside the target age range depending on your specific circumstances. It's available no charge for young men and women late teens I understand they are vaccinated as part of the series of standard vaccinations. It's three needles, taken at 0, 3 and 6 months. As they have to be refrigerated you need to have them dispensed separately, so each needle is about $175 including dispensing fees.... approx $525 and worth every penny. I also got the Twinrix vaccine .. cost a couple of hundred bucks.. that's the one for Hep A & B. Also available from your doctor with a simple request.

I agree with moviefan..."the butler" is an amazing movie...even Oprah winfrey is quite good playing the butler's wife! I also watched Wolverine...I'm a big fan of Xmen...It starts slow but lots of action half way and through the end... Next one to see is men of steel...another "superman" movie i need to see :)

I've always been confused by these warnings. They are a contradiction in terms. If I hear about a sting on BP or CL that is attempting to catch people responding to underage ads I don't say a thing. The warning only reminds these people that they have to be more careful which makes it more difficult for the authorities to prevent the perpetrators from perpetuating the exploitation of these teens in the first place. Seriously though. WTF

Looks don't hurt, but as Charlie Sheen once said "for every extraordinarily beautiful woman, there is a guy that has had his fill of her". For me, it's a lady that is easy to talk to, that enjoys my company and there is some chemistry. If I have all that, then the sex will always be great because, at least for me, it's 95% mental and 5% physical.

It's simple. Most SP's advertise. Most SP's (although not all) fall into a specific cost category. Most SP's have pics and info either here or on their website. Reading this info can go a long way to answering your questions. And most SP's will not answer blocked numbers including myself. It is a safety factor but it is also a "oooo theres one of my favourite dates calling" thing. In my experience blocked numbers are a waste of my time and I suspect most other SP's as well. Safety is truly an aspect, perhaps the main one, that we don't answer blocked. We have only so many places to reference a prospective playdate. And yes most SP's keep a log of "their dates". Whether they're a waste of time by booking and not cancelling, no chemistry, rude, drunk, obnoxious, unhygienic. Whatever. It is too easy for our information to be out there, but I see no purpose for yours to be hidden. It's not like we are a bunch of women waiting to ruin your lives by hounding you, calling you up for a chat, or "telling" on you. That is like shooting yourself in the foot business wise. I am very surprised to hear that some will answer blocked calls and suspect these are few and far between. No SP worth her salt would do this. And if you do, you're asking for the lowest common denominator in clients. Obviously desperate for money for some reason or other that does the rest of us no favours.

to repeat with a lady I need to like them as a person. In other words, I need to be able to say to myself that if I met this individual in another context, I could/would be friends with them. There needs to be a degree of genuine affection, along with sexual attraction. Porthos

Assuming my hair and dick have not fallen off and I can retract my tongue, it would be great to attend! Get another treatment the Friday before, keep fingers crossed. Thank you for organizing! Tom The Liquor

A photo of Rick Santorum constructed entirely out of gay porn! Bah ha ha!

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At 1am a new explosion happened, the ground rumbled, huge lava bombs threatened the campsite, and a heavy rain of ash and smoke made it impossible to take pictures. Says Sergey, "I have been to many places and I have seen many extraordinary things, but witnessing the Plosky Tolbachik eruption deeply impressed me." Source: Sergey Gorshkov/ Wildlife Photogrpaher of the Year One night, Udayan camped near a nesting colony of gharials on the banks of the Chambal River two groups of them, each with more than 100 hatchlings. Before daybreak, he crept down and hid behind rocks beside the babies. I could hear them making little grunting sounds, says Udayan. Very soon a large female surfaced near the shore, checking on her charges. Some of the hatchlings swam to her and climbed onto her head. Perhaps it made them feel safe. It turned out that she was the chief female of the group, looking after all the hatchlings. Though he saw a few more females and a male, they never came close. Gharials were once found in rivers all over the Indian subcontinent. Today, just 200 or so breeding adults remain in just 2 per cent of the former range. The Chambal River is the gharials last stronghold, says Udayan, but is threatened by illegal sand-mining and fishing. Source: Udayan Rao Pawar/ Wildlife Photographer of the Year The fact that most images of polar bears show them on land or ice says more about the practical difficulties faced by humans than it does about the bears' behavior. With adaptations such as thick blubber and nostrils that close, polar bears are, in fact, highly aquatic, and they spend most of their time hunting seals on sea ice and are capable of swimming for hours at a time. Paul took his Zodiac boat to Hudson Bay, Canada, in midsummer to rectify this bias. He scouted for three days before he spotted a bear, this young female, on sea ice some 30 miles offshore. "I approached her very, very slowly," he says, "and then drifted. It was a cat-and-mouse game." When the bear slipped into the water, he just waited. "There was just a flat, world of water and ice and this polar bear swimming lazily around me. I could hear her slow, regular breathing as she watched me below the surface or the exhalation as she surfaced, increasingly curious. It was very special." The light was also special, but for a sinister reason. The midnight sun was filtered through smoke from forest fires raging farther south, a symptom of the warming Arctic the greatest threat facing the polar bear. As more and more sea ice melts earlier and earlier every spring, it becomes harder for the bears to hunt the seals they depend on. Source: Paul Souders/ Wildlife Photographer of the Year Additional Comments: The beaches of the Yucatan Peninsula, Mexico, near Cancun are traditional nesting sites for the endangered green turtle. But as Cancun has also grown as a holiday and dive resort, development has reduced the area available to turtles. Today, though, many nest sites are protected, there are turtle hatcheries to help numbers increase, and there is publicity to help local people and resort owners value the natural riches of the region. Luis earns enough from tourism photography to allow him time to document his beloved wildlife. "The turtles are so used to seeing people in the water that they think we're just part of the environment," says Luis, which means he has been able to get to know individuals, recognizing them from the markings on their faces. "This meter-long female, grazing on seagrass, took no notice of me, apart from glancing up briefly." Recently, Luis has noticed what he suspects may be a new threat: at certain times of the year, a yellowish alga covers some of the seagrass. The suspicion is that the algal growth is the result of sewage from the resort, which has already affected the coral. What is clear is that the turtles avoid eating it. Source: Luis Javier Sandoval/ Wildlife Photographer of the Year

Not to mention a serious lack of agencies and spas in Saint John. Or ones who advertise on Cerb, at least. :icon_cry:

SO they knew she was 16 ( although it was a sting) . I am glad they were caught, and I am also glad their names are published in the paper for all to see...Pedophiles should be outed. Period.

Some may think my statement harsh but if you know you are dealing with a 16 yr old you deserve prosecution, thats a child. In my opinion 18 is to young, but thats just me. I know in Canada you are considered an adult at 18 but that is still a teenager, so is 19 . It is alot to expect teens to deal with adults in their 30's,40's, 50's and beyond. Although I realize everyone matures differently I can only think back when I was a teen and I know I wasn't an exception to how immature and unprepared they can be.

Well this was like winning the SP lottery for me. In spite of the Rogers breakdown in the middle of booking, the stars lined up and it worked out. This may have been the best session I have ever had. If you read the recommendations you'd see I already have a very high opinion of VJ. And she did not disappoint, she was charming and alluring as ever, if not better. She made sure I was totally satisfied. I'm a broken down old geezer so she had to do a lot of the work, but she went at it with gusto. We spent a lot of time together and every moment was perfect. She completely focussed on the task at hand (or in her hand), the telephone was OFF, the TV was off. This rarely happens in Winnipeg, for those of you not from here. Non-photoshopped, accurate pictures...check Sexy accent...check Hot body...check Fantastic service...check Made me feel like a king...check Genuine GFE. At no time did she try to upsell, she never watched the clock, and she felt like a really good friend that I'd finally managed to "score" with. Will repeat repeatedly.

Great links Vitto - I'm switching my office chair out for a bicycle seat! I've overheard that "size doesn't matter", but aside from baby-making (which generally isn't a concern of cerb members, at least as far as I've been able to discern), I didn't know that volume mattered. Isn't less sticky stuff just less to clean up?

I thank most of you for your informative replys and I agree cerb is no place for negativity and that wasn't my intension with regard to a "tree house" section as some have dubbed it. There are some however who also made the point about being against negativity but then went onto write long sarcastic fantasies as to why it would be good to have a private section there by patronizing the person for asking the question in the first place. Was that not unnessasary negativity? I'm a relatively new member and I'm just trying to understand the logistics of this site a little better. I'm not trying to offended or hurt anyone. This is an open forum and as long as people are being respectful and not being negative they shouldn't have to be afraid to ask a question with out receiving "negativity". So heres another question and remember, it's just a question. Are service providers allowed to use the "bait and switch/dangerous encounters section or is it only for the hobbyests who don't need a private section because they have the bait and switch/dangerous encounters avenue?

Lol, thanks for the laugh, loved it:)

Discussing the laws themselves and what they mean is useful, but the more important questions is how those laws are used by the police. Some laws, although on the books, aren't enforced for a variety of reasons. For example, ninety-eight percent of prostitution related offenses are brought against outdoor sex workers. They are usually charged with s.213 (the communicating provision). If you're unknown to the police, largely work indoors (except when moving from your incall to their parked truck and/or motor home), and only rarely (very very rarely) move from your incall to their truck I really don't think you have anything to worry about (minus the safety precautions Jessica Lee mentioned). The police usually respond to community-based complaints against particular workers... I don't think you'll be targeted in that way. Of course, there's always a risk, but that's the case with having an incall too. IMHO, you're very unlikely to be targeted by the police. I've had clients drive me places after appointments on occasion and I never thought twice about it. While your situation might be different, no one knows that.

Rights Not Rescue: An Open Letter to the Salvation Army http://rabble.ca/babble/feminism/rights-not-rescue-open-letter-salvation-army It should also be noted that since this letter is a few years old, and The Salvation Army still has this campaign running and website up, they clearly did not heed the wise words of the women behind this plea. Just another reason NOT to donate your resources to The Salvation Army!

I've always found wantonness' to be very sexy. When I'm with a woman who is clearly turned on and wants me, there is nothing better. I've spent some of the most erotic times with partners who many would not call classically sexy, or even cute. I'm not the prototypical stud type, but when I'm with a wanton woman I feel like a sex god. IMHO there is nothing sexier than feeling like a sex god who is wanted by a sex goddess.