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These things are complex. So my vows were multifaceted and based on a number of mutually interdependent expectations/promises. Circumstances change, things become more complex. So, I've been married 25 years this year. I remain a "loyal" provider, friend, supporter. I devote myself 110% to the wellbeing of my family. I'm the sole breadwinner, I have supported my partner through a number of physical and mental health issues. We remain "in love", or at least in love the way two people with a deep emotional connection are. Physical intimacy has left that relationship, and has a long time ago. Over the past 15 years we have had sex twice. They are memorable occasions, so I do remember. We have tried, even recently, to rekindle a physical relationship, but at the end of the day my partner really just isn't interested/able to engage in that sort of intimacy. So, I guess I cheat. I have broken one of the vows I made. Who among us hasn't broken a vow at one point in time in our lives. At the same time, in most other respects I remain a completely devoted partner. Would it have been better to have left years ago on the basis that I wasn't happy with our sex life, while everything else in the relationship has been loving and supportive. It strikes me that would also have been devestating to her, and more than a little selfish. As an alternative, should I have stayed and become celibate. I'm 51 this year. Count back from the figures I gave you above, and I hope most would agree that ths would have been an unacceptable proposition. So what to do. Walk a mile in someone else's shoes. I think you are right RG ... "cheating" is inherently a pejorative and judgemental term. But there actually is no "value-free" term for this. "stepping out", "wandering", etc., etc. They all imply the breaking of the vows of monogomy and assume a degree of judgement. Perhaps the problem is really with the concept of monogamy. Is it possible to genuinely be in love completely and in all respects with one person your entire life. Does falling "out of love" necessarily require the ending of a relationship. Or can the relationship become something else, and yet remain meaningful. I'm not sure. I applaud and envy anyone that can. My parents hated each other but stayed together. I love my partner, but have sex with others. I'm extremely careful, and make sure that none of it comes back to harm her. For sure, I wish I could tell her and she would understand and accept. I know she couldn't do that. Yes, i cheat. I can live with it. Just a bit of philosophizing for what it is worth. Porthos

I am the pasta queen but no sauce ever tastes the same! I tend to create as I go and with whatever I have on hand. My fave is a pasta puttanesca variance. Always olive oil, black olives, sundries tomatoes, capers, garlic and then.....whatever is on hand, onions, sausage, bacon etc... You can't go wrong. Boil the pasta and add to the lightly fried ingredients. OMG...forgot the chilly flakes! Additional Comments: Best tomato sauce as a base to add other ingredients...heat olive oil, add a sliced shallot or two, some fresh minced garlic and a bunch of fresh basil, stalks and all. Once translucent, add San Marzano canned tomatoes...no other! Let simmer an hour, add salt and pepper to taste then create! This base can be added to spiced ground meats, sausage etc.

I left a girl at the alter. Figuratively, not literally. I met her 12 years ago. We were both in the same field and had the same interests. I had been in and out of a few bad relationships and this one felt right. We got engaged 6 months after we started seeing each other. Once engaged, she was comfortable enough to reveal her real side, though. She had a really bad temper. Her temper would flare up about really little things and she would belittle you to the point where you felt insignificant, stupid and not worthy of anyone. I remember taking her home after a really good night out. I don't remember what happened after that but we sat in the car for 45 minutes while she chewed me out about my shoes, the jeans I was wearing, the fingernails on my guitar strumming hand were too long and effeminate etc etc... It was humiliating. Finally after another embarrassing berating in public (on George St in the market), I told her to fuck off. She slapped me. Two big guys, just walking down the street, decided that she must have slapped me because I deserved to get beaten up, so they came to her "defence' and roughed me up. She didn't say anything in my defence and let them come at me. I was (and still am) a black belt in Taekwondo and I defended myself the way we were trained to do when backed into a corner. The two guys backed off but not before some punches and kicks were thrown. Once they left, I returned to my car and left her there. Although we talked on the phone a few times after, I never saw her again. Never wanted to. Couldn't believe I was ever attracted to her. But I'll never forget how sad I was during that whole engagement. When I called my family to tell them that I had ended the engagement, everyone congratulated me. They hated her. Said she turned me into someone who wasn't me and that they could tell I was unhappy. I met the woman I would eventually marry (we've been separated for more than 3 years now) a few months later at the Jazz Festival. When I look back on it now, I laugh. I prefer being alone. I go through moments where I want more and then I think back at all my failed relationships and think, "Maybe it's not them, maybe it's you, MikeM." And then I take my medication that keeps me from talking to myself, drift off to sleep in my big king sized bed alone and hog all the blankets and no one complains.

A week after I had got the keys to my first car I went to the grocery store. After I picked up all my groceries, I did what I had always done after I picked up my groceries ....... I walked home. 10 blocks later I get home and my room-mate asks me why I came in in the front door when our parking is in the back. I can only imagine what my face looked like when it finally dawned on my what I had done. I can still hear his howling laugh.

It is on the younger side, but not unheard of. I am always surprised when an sp or mp actually mentions this to someone as i kind of feel that as a provider we should just accept you as you are and not try to make you feel odd or awkward about choosing to do this lol. The majority of people seeing me are in the middle of the age range, with as many under 30 or under 25 as there are over 70, as in not many, but still more than most people would assume would be visiting sps or mps. :)

It absolutely is cheating in my mind. No worries with that judgement. Whether that is "bad", "good", "acceptable" or "unacceptable" is the basis of the judgements that I take exception too. As you say RG, everyone's circumstance is different, and the reasons for partaking in this lifestyle are different. I'm comfortable with the fact that I cheat. I know it would devastate my partner. These are choices we make and risks we take. We all have reasons. Porthos

Everyone should give Thanks, Rep Points and/or Nominations to those they feel deserve and earned it...not to mention their support to other members they feel deserve it. It all fits in with the community nature of CERB and keeps this a positive board RG

Was wondering if anyone's thoughts where similar to mine. As I have found out that I am not the only man in my situation. According to Mazlo's Hierarchy of Needs we all require self actualization. Which for most men, can be satisfied rather easily. As long as you are honest with your own emotions. I love my wife and family!!! A wise man (thanks RNH) told me that you can not have guilt when it comes to this hobby, if you do....well I don't! The main question is am I the only one that this happens to? I may have only been with 2 SP's to date; BUT after each encounter I feel more and more alive. Not that an encounter was better than the other, but completely different, and both filled every need for self actualization I could ever have. Ever since my initial "enlightenment" (Thanks Cleo) my home life has never been better. It brought me out of my shell again. I feel alive. Since I met SexxyRebecca the other day, the same thing again. Am I the only one who doesn't have guilt, but it kind of has the opposite affect? Would love to hear what y'all think THANK YOU TO ALL THE CERB LADIES WHO HAVE HELPED MEN LIKE ME!!!!

Evening All. My respite, relax and regain strength time gave me time to think about all the lovely Ladies and Gurls here on Cerb. I was sent a pm last week, asking why I am thanking so many MA's and SP's. It is quite simple really: -I appreciate well written, articulate and correctly spelled ads, even more if they contain some intrigue -I appreciate when schedules and pricing is clear and concise -I appreciate when the places I visit are clean, safe and drug free -I appreciate what the Ladies are doing to make "me" happy I give out thanx and nominations to Ladies and Gurls who I have had the pleasure of meeting, and also to the new cerbies who need a pleasant word. TheLiquor

Visiting an elderly friend of the family who has dementia and struggling to keep up a light conversation and seeing that she absolutely hates where she is. So sad.

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I try to give thanks when I'm grateful for someone's words. I've never had an opportunity to nominate a post... by the time I get there someone has always beat me to it LoL ...kind of like this one!! I guess great minds think alike :)

I probably don't take the time enough to thank and nominate posts. If you feel it theliquor, keep doing it. You shouldn't ever feel bad for showing your appreciation. Thanks everyone! You are all amazing!

I agree that avoiding FS shows some attempt to manage the risks of seeing an SP or MA. That said, though, if the question is "is act X cheating?" then the only answer is: what would your significant other say? If she would say it is... then it is. Where the guy's own preferred boundaries fall doesn't really matter when it comes to assessing the potential damage of X to his relationship with another person. Now, having established that, a guy might still have reasons why, despite the act being cheating, he still finds it appropriate for him to go ahead. That's cool. Grown-up lives come in all shapes and sizes, and maybe that decision is right for him in those circumstances. But unless a couple has agreed ahead of time that escort visits are cool, then the guy who says "aw, c'mon, this doesn't really count... right?" is just fooling himself, or trying to avoid taking responsibility for the decision he's really making.

I've had this happen on numerous occasions after being at a massage service. My GF saying "your skin is so soft!!!" lol. Those oils/creams do make your skin feel like silk for about 6 hours with showering and furious scrubbing. I know I never thought of this when first seeing a ma with a gf. Maybe it will help some people. My ultimate excuse (no time for guilt in this life) was that I had recently took a bath with salts and oils LOL..... Lucky for me there was salts and oils in the house PHEW. Just a lil story.

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Good morning, Thank you for an interesting visit in Moncton, it was great to get re-acquainted with old friends. This was my LAST trip to Moncton, if you wish to visit with me in the future it will have to be in one of the other NB cities I frequent. All the best xoxo Emily

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Very overused point of view IMO. Its all perspective, is it nice to give money to one charity over another? or would a "nice" person divide the donation. Good people are everywhere, but even the greatest of people have bad days. At that point they would seem to be quite the opposite. Who are we to label people good/bad/nice/not nice? I try to be a good person. Mutual respect...be good to me and I'll be good to you. Never hurt somebody unless they ask for it. : )

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Hope you had an awesome birthday, Rebecca!

I landed at a hotel recently, announced my arrival to the front desk only to find out I had not made reservations . Well I thought I had done that . Oops .

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As a social liberal I object to racial filtering but I have been told by girls that some cultural groups have attitudes towards women that are just plain wrong.

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Perhaps when all travelling ladies scratch Moncton off the list things will change . I was actually asked to stop I'm Moncton my last time through , once I agreed he cancelled . You know busy at work .

I also thank those who share of themselves over and above the spirit of the board. Some of the things shared within these walls are personal, intimate and heart felt and deserve to be thanked for the person sharing of themselves. I also thank for thoughts and perceptions that I share or that give me a new view on something or make me think. If something important is said or done or someone is being open and supportive of me or anyone else on the board. I am definitely one to use all these tools and am happy they are available.

Keiko provides Greek and knows how to set up correctly. She is a member of this board. Valerie

I think what you've established there is that, with respect to your relationship, your act IS cheating. But you won't stop for that reason alone, and instead you deal with that by mitigating the risks. As I said before -- that's fine, everyone knows best their own situation, boundaries, and priorities. But "cheating" is by definition a question about one's relationship, and not just one's own point of view. No single member within a relationship can decide by him/herself what does and does not count as cheating on their partner(s); it's something determined by the parameters of a shared relationship, not one solitary individual.

I come from a different era so these things are both simpler and more complicated. I personally don't consider what I and an SP or MA do together to be cheating. Since generally we are the only one's present, that takes care of that. Look up "situational ethics". I am aware that someone else, you for example, would consider it cheating. With all due respect, to quote Rhett Butler in "Gone With the Wind", "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn." You are not me. Would my SO think of it as cheating? Most likely. That's why I go to great lengths to prevent her from being there. In the true spirit of YMMV, it works for me.

I provide FS and nonFS hj only sessions, and from some clients it is the line in the sand they don't want to go past due to SOs. Since some guys go all FS, and some guys who only do FS with higher risk activities, and another group wants bj only, nothing else, I think it is kind of considerate really that a guy is choosing a particular service for moral reasons like what he considers cheating versus not cheating on the spouse. it is one of the lowest risk activities as well, so to me the consideration he is including the lower risk of bringing something home, which is also nice. Maybe my morality compass is skewed way too far to one side, but it seems like an honest desire to not cause harm?

I'm not sure I would agree that every individual has to decide for themselves, but I would say every couple (or polyamourous group) does. It all depends on what has been explicitly or implicitly agreed upon, and where the line is drawn will be different for every relationship. For some couples, having an orgy with strangers may not be cheating if it's been agreed on. Sometimes certain rules or restrictions may be in place. One couple may say it's OK to be intimate with someone as long as both partners are present or have been told. Another might say anything goes except unprotected sex. On the other side, simply going to a exotic dance club, or even regular dancing with another person could be considered cheating if that's the boundary you and your partner established upon entering the relationship. Now, what could count as justifiable reasons for a person to cheat is another topic entirely and I'm certainly not looking to judge anyone here. But if you're doing something at all sexual that you know your partner wouldn't approve of and realistically assumes you've agreed not to do, then it is what it is.

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A lot of the GENTLEMEN here know how to be a great client but for those who are still figuring it how might I suggest- 1.Be reliable 2.If you want your sp to be honest -be honest as well! 3.Be reliable 4.If you say you are coming back or going to call -COME BACK-OR CALL! There are lots of fish in the sea, if you don't plan a re-visit don't say you are going to. We'll survive and have fun meeting another client! 5. Be reliable 6.Don't gossip about other girls 7.If there was no chemistry, be a gentlemen and realize this, it might have been you, her or both. But to post about that is childish, catty and pointless. Chemistry is special and doesn't always happen, why expect it to and why be disappointed when it doesn't, move on and find it elsewhere. 8. Be reliable 9. Respect us and we'll respect you. Read through our sites, ads, posts. You'll find all necessary information there. We take the time to post it, the least you can do is take the time to read it! 10.Be discreet. Discretion goes both ways! Keep in mind most sp's use aliases, don't ask a neighbour, hotel staff where so&so lives/stays. If you get lost call. If you are going to be late call, if you are early call. Never assume anything. Every detail must be discussed and agreed upon. 11.If you say you are going to write a reco do so. If when you leave you felt that the experience wasn't worthy, what you expected or you just don't write them, why say you are going to? 12. Remember we are human, and even though many of us are experienced that doesn't mean we can perform miracles. If you are a man with issues in the bedroom don't expect that just because we are sp's we know everything about sex or have magic abilities. Setting your expectations to high will only lead to disappointments. 13. Be reliable 14. an added point to #7-If you like me, her, them. Good, great, wonderful. Write a reco, or don't that's your choice. If you didn't shut your mouth, again- this board says- if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. That rule should carry through with clients comments. If a lady just wasn't your taste, speed, look, etc, that doesn't mean she won't be some one else's. So why plant a bad seed? Would you like us to do that to you! 15. Be appreciative. We go to a lot of trouble to make our clients comfortable, happy, satisfied and glad they came! Give us a thank you, hug, smile, tip, something to show that you realize this and do it with honesty-refer back to #4.#11. 16. Enjoy, have fun and be happy!!

as others have said, lots of threads on this topic and you will see that the ladies also frequently post about particular issues and behaviours that upset them. The upshot of it all: 1) follow the lady's rules (everything from how to make contact, verification, to what happens in the encounter) 2) never negotiate price or services 3) be clean 4) behave like a gentleman and treat her with respect

I sure hope your kidding. What single mom would choose to have a sex toy for herself over a real toy for her child? If you know of one then perhaps the child should be living elsewhere. Just saying.

when my buddy lived in a ground floor apartment , I would drive around the half circle in front and pick him up at the end . a couple years later he and his wife are moving into their newly purchased home , I had rented a U-Haul to help them move . so I got a buddy with me going to their place to load up the truck and we are talking and I am just driving like always . I go up the half circle driveway and SMASH ! sheared off a quarter of the roof of the truck when I ran into the canopy by the front entrance . the superintendant was cool about it , he said " it's just wood " . we went ahead with the move , I returned the truck , U-Haul office was closed by time I brought it back so just dropped the keys in the mail slot . I was smart enough to sign up for the insurance while renting the truck . one phone call later to explain what happened , and that was it for that moment stupidity .

This recommendation is a little overdue. My apologies for that. During her most recent visit to St. Johns I was fortunate enough to spend some time with with the beautifull and talented Alanna Johnson. It had been about a year and a half since our last encounter, which was such an incredible one it was still fresh in my memory. As soon as I saw she was making another visit I sent her an e-mail to prebook. Alanna remembered me well and it was a pleasure as always communicating with her. I booked a longer encounter this time as I remembered a mere hour was not nearly long enough to enjoy the company of this fine lady. When the evening finnaly arrived and I walked down the hallway toward Alanna's room I could feel my heart beating in my chest. not sure if it was a tinge of nervousness or just anticipation. Either way I knew I was alive..lol. When the door opened there stood Alanna in a sexy curve hugging dress that was just made for her. Her youthfull flawless face framed in flowing brunette locks..a goddess to behold. Even though we had met only once before it was like talking with a good friend. Great looks are just part of what this lady has. She is actually one of the most intelligent personable ladys I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. She is down to earth with a great attitude and has some great ideas. My time in this hobby so far has been focused mainly on playtime, however if I ever want to enjoy social time or need a date for an event of some sort Alanna would definitely be one of my top choices. After we took care of formalities we sat on the bed to catch up over a glass of wine. It wasn't long before we were making out like a couple of teenagers. Alanna confessed to me she wanted to have a really hot time with me. I was happy to oblidge. I could tell by her kissing she wasn't fooling around. Alanna defines dfk. Her hot wet tounge swirling around in my mouth was just too much. I had to undress her. First came off the heels then her stockings revealing those smooth shapely lickable legs. Alanna wiggled out of her dress and lay on the bed in a sexy pose in just bra and panties. A sight to be savored for a few moments. Alanna loves an active participant in her encounters. She enjoys being teased and pleasured and is very responsive. Her breasts are natural and beautifull with perky suckable nipples. She loves daty and is quite tasty. Playtime is incredible in every way, however if there is one thing that makes it extra special is Alanna's ability to deepthroat and her love for it. The sensation is mindblowing not to mention the visual. Alanna is a GFE, although in my opinion she is more than that. I never knew it was possible but she stepped it up a notch from the last time. Alanna is generous with her time. I never feel rushed with her. I seem to more concerned with the time when I am with her as it tends to fly and I want to respect it. This was my second time with Alanna and I will repeat for sure and certain. She is in my opinion the perfect companion. We are fortunate to have a lady of her calibre make regular visits to our city..as well as all the other ladys who visit as well. Treat her well and you will be greatly rewarded Murdock