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These things are complex. So my vows were multifaceted and based on a number of mutually interdependent expectations/promises. Circumstances change, things become more complex. So, I've been married 25 years this year. I remain a "loyal" provider, friend, supporter. I devote myself 110% to the wellbeing of my family. I'm the sole breadwinner, I have supported my partner through a number of physical and mental health issues. We remain "in love", or at least in love the way two people with a deep emotional connection are. Physical intimacy has left that relationship, and has a long time ago. Over the past 15 years we have had sex twice. They are memorable occasions, so I do remember. We have tried, even recently, to rekindle a physical relationship, but at the end of the day my partner really just isn't interested/able to engage in that sort of intimacy. So, I guess I cheat. I have broken one of the vows I made. Who among us hasn't broken a vow at one point in time in our lives. At the same time, in most other respects I remain a completely devoted partner. Would it have been better to have left years ago on the basis that I wasn't happy with our sex life, while everything else in the relationship has been loving and supportive. It strikes me that would also have been devestating to her, and more than a little selfish. As an alternative, should I have stayed and become celibate. I'm 51 this year. Count back from the figures I gave you above, and I hope most would agree that ths would have been an unacceptable proposition. So what to do. Walk a mile in someone else's shoes. I think you are right RG ... "cheating" is inherently a pejorative and judgemental term. But there actually is no "value-free" term for this. "stepping out", "wandering", etc., etc. They all imply the breaking of the vows of monogomy and assume a degree of judgement. Perhaps the problem is really with the concept of monogamy. Is it possible to genuinely be in love completely and in all respects with one person your entire life. Does falling "out of love" necessarily require the ending of a relationship. Or can the relationship become something else, and yet remain meaningful. I'm not sure. I applaud and envy anyone that can. My parents hated each other but stayed together. I love my partner, but have sex with others. I'm extremely careful, and make sure that none of it comes back to harm her. For sure, I wish I could tell her and she would understand and accept. I know she couldn't do that. Yes, i cheat. I can live with it. Just a bit of philosophizing for what it is worth. Porthos

I am the pasta queen but no sauce ever tastes the same! I tend to create as I go and with whatever I have on hand. My fave is a pasta puttanesca variance. Always olive oil, black olives, sundries tomatoes, capers, garlic and then.....whatever is on hand, onions, sausage, bacon etc... You can't go wrong. Boil the pasta and add to the lightly fried ingredients. OMG...forgot the chilly flakes! Additional Comments: Best tomato sauce as a base to add other ingredients...heat olive oil, add a sliced shallot or two, some fresh minced garlic and a bunch of fresh basil, stalks and all. Once translucent, add San Marzano canned tomatoes...no other! Let simmer an hour, add salt and pepper to taste then create! This base can be added to spiced ground meats, sausage etc.

I left a girl at the alter. Figuratively, not literally. I met her 12 years ago. We were both in the same field and had the same interests. I had been in and out of a few bad relationships and this one felt right. We got engaged 6 months after we started seeing each other. Once engaged, she was comfortable enough to reveal her real side, though. She had a really bad temper. Her temper would flare up about really little things and she would belittle you to the point where you felt insignificant, stupid and not worthy of anyone. I remember taking her home after a really good night out. I don't remember what happened after that but we sat in the car for 45 minutes while she chewed me out about my shoes, the jeans I was wearing, the fingernails on my guitar strumming hand were too long and effeminate etc etc... It was humiliating. Finally after another embarrassing berating in public (on George St in the market), I told her to fuck off. She slapped me. Two big guys, just walking down the street, decided that she must have slapped me because I deserved to get beaten up, so they came to her "defence' and roughed me up. She didn't say anything in my defence and let them come at me. I was (and still am) a black belt in Taekwondo and I defended myself the way we were trained to do when backed into a corner. The two guys backed off but not before some punches and kicks were thrown. Once they left, I returned to my car and left her there. Although we talked on the phone a few times after, I never saw her again. Never wanted to. Couldn't believe I was ever attracted to her. But I'll never forget how sad I was during that whole engagement. When I called my family to tell them that I had ended the engagement, everyone congratulated me. They hated her. Said she turned me into someone who wasn't me and that they could tell I was unhappy. I met the woman I would eventually marry (we've been separated for more than 3 years now) a few months later at the Jazz Festival. When I look back on it now, I laugh. I prefer being alone. I go through moments where I want more and then I think back at all my failed relationships and think, "Maybe it's not them, maybe it's you, MikeM." And then I take my medication that keeps me from talking to myself, drift off to sleep in my big king sized bed alone and hog all the blankets and no one complains.

A week after I had got the keys to my first car I went to the grocery store. After I picked up all my groceries, I did what I had always done after I picked up my groceries ....... I walked home. 10 blocks later I get home and my room-mate asks me why I came in in the front door when our parking is in the back. I can only imagine what my face looked like when it finally dawned on my what I had done. I can still hear his howling laugh.

It is on the younger side, but not unheard of. I am always surprised when an sp or mp actually mentions this to someone as i kind of feel that as a provider we should just accept you as you are and not try to make you feel odd or awkward about choosing to do this lol. The majority of people seeing me are in the middle of the age range, with as many under 30 or under 25 as there are over 70, as in not many, but still more than most people would assume would be visiting sps or mps. :)

It absolutely is cheating in my mind. No worries with that judgement. Whether that is "bad", "good", "acceptable" or "unacceptable" is the basis of the judgements that I take exception too. As you say RG, everyone's circumstance is different, and the reasons for partaking in this lifestyle are different. I'm comfortable with the fact that I cheat. I know it would devastate my partner. These are choices we make and risks we take. We all have reasons. Porthos

Everyone should give Thanks, Rep Points and/or Nominations to those they feel deserve and earned it...not to mention their support to other members they feel deserve it. It all fits in with the community nature of CERB and keeps this a positive board RG

Was wondering if anyone's thoughts where similar to mine. As I have found out that I am not the only man in my situation. According to Mazlo's Hierarchy of Needs we all require self actualization. Which for most men, can be satisfied rather easily. As long as you are honest with your own emotions. I love my wife and family!!! A wise man (thanks RNH) told me that you can not have guilt when it comes to this hobby, if you do....well I don't! The main question is am I the only one that this happens to? I may have only been with 2 SP's to date; BUT after each encounter I feel more and more alive. Not that an encounter was better than the other, but completely different, and both filled every need for self actualization I could ever have. Ever since my initial "enlightenment" (Thanks Cleo) my home life has never been better. It brought me out of my shell again. I feel alive. Since I met SexxyRebecca the other day, the same thing again. Am I the only one who doesn't have guilt, but it kind of has the opposite affect? Would love to hear what y'all think THANK YOU TO ALL THE CERB LADIES WHO HAVE HELPED MEN LIKE ME!!!!

Evening All. My respite, relax and regain strength time gave me time to think about all the lovely Ladies and Gurls here on Cerb. I was sent a pm last week, asking why I am thanking so many MA's and SP's. It is quite simple really: -I appreciate well written, articulate and correctly spelled ads, even more if they contain some intrigue -I appreciate when schedules and pricing is clear and concise -I appreciate when the places I visit are clean, safe and drug free -I appreciate what the Ladies are doing to make "me" happy I give out thanx and nominations to Ladies and Gurls who I have had the pleasure of meeting, and also to the new cerbies who need a pleasant word. TheLiquor

Visiting an elderly friend of the family who has dementia and struggling to keep up a light conversation and seeing that she absolutely hates where she is. So sad.

We can invite you to meet Vitto (aka PassionVitto) She works out in aregular basis and has beutifuly shaped long legs...

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I try to give thanks when I'm grateful for someone's words. I've never had an opportunity to nominate a post... by the time I get there someone has always beat me to it LoL ...kind of like this one!! I guess great minds think alike :)

I probably don't take the time enough to thank and nominate posts. If you feel it theliquor, keep doing it. You shouldn't ever feel bad for showing your appreciation. Thanks everyone! You are all amazing!

I agree that avoiding FS shows some attempt to manage the risks of seeing an SP or MA. That said, though, if the question is "is act X cheating?" then the only answer is: what would your significant other say? If she would say it is... then it is. Where the guy's own preferred boundaries fall doesn't really matter when it comes to assessing the potential damage of X to his relationship with another person. Now, having established that, a guy might still have reasons why, despite the act being cheating, he still finds it appropriate for him to go ahead. That's cool. Grown-up lives come in all shapes and sizes, and maybe that decision is right for him in those circumstances. But unless a couple has agreed ahead of time that escort visits are cool, then the guy who says "aw, c'mon, this doesn't really count... right?" is just fooling himself, or trying to avoid taking responsibility for the decision he's really making.

A lot of Sps are willing to offer last min appointment.. BUT please give us a MINIMUM of notice. Lately I had a lot of request from people who wanted to see me RIGHT NOW, not even able to wait 15min to get ready. For our appointment, we like to be fresh & clean. We are NOT vending machine, put 2$ Im ready. No, no, no.... Please, I, and a lot of others girls, are happy to accomadate you.. But please, we do have a life too.. Its not because Im available Im already dress in lingerie waiting for you..

Happy Birthday Rebecca! Hope it was a good one!

Although I am not much of a pasta aficionado.. I like the Classico Alfredo sauce, I think its one of the better ones available from a jar. To kick it up a notch, I sprinkle (real) bacon bits, fresh cracked pepper. A few cappers I have tried also as well as more grated Parmesan. M 2c. Cheers :-)

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I'm late, but hope you had an amazing birthday! :D xx

I agree that the Nordic model is an unreasonable solution and that it would likely fail another Charter test. I also agree with Nikki's original post that in general there are sufficient existing criminal laws to deal with underage, extortion and trafficking. Some of them could be strengthened. If new laws are passed to completely criminalize prostitution (both selling and buying) that doesn't mean that they can't be challenged. There is a possibility that the new law could be successfully challenged under the Constitution. There is some limited precedent for the Supreme Court to "decriminalize" a criminal act. For example, the Supreme Court decided that the criminalization of abortion was unconstitutional. They also decided that the criminalization of safe drug injection sites was unconstitutional. In both cases the Court ruled that those laws violated the security of the person provisions of the Charter of Rights and Freedoms section of the Constitution. Security of the person is also at the heart of the Supreme Court's recent prostitution decision. Regardless of whether prostitution is fully or partially criminalized under any new laws, an interested party might mount a Constitutional challenge to test whether the new law has a reasonable or unreasonable impact upon security of the person. The Supreme Court will continue to ask questions such as "What public good is being achieved? Does the law place persons at an unreasonable and disproportionate risk of harm?" Having said all that, it's also not that simple. There's an important difference between abortion and safe drug injection sites when compared to prostitution. The abortion and safe injection site decisions both dealt with medical procedures. The criminalization of patients and doctors who were seeking and providing medical treatments respectively is quite different from the criminalization of clients and sex workers involved in prostitution.

Happy Belated Birthday Rebecca!!

Hi I'm stateside, lurking for a while I've been to a couple sc's in Quebec, openminded let's say. I just have a couple questions. As far as I can see, if you are hypothetically caught with your pants down in canada in a sc or with a sw you are most definitely in a world of hurt. As far as I can tell out calls are generally tolerated as well as "happiness" from ma's. As I live twenty minutes from our border, I'm not that interested in a hotel room. I was wondering what the exposure/cons to incalls are. I obviously appreciate Canada's more lenient attitude to this hobby in general, any information or direction to threads would be appreciated. Your friend from the south, Thanks

Hope you had an awesome birthday, Rebecca!

"Jack. This is where we first met" That has to be one of the stupidest movie quotes ever...the Titanic is sinking, and that is what the girl has to say. How that movie ever floated (pun intended) I don't know Never saw the movie before and ran through the channels tonight, Titanic was on that was the scene...stupid for me watching, 30 seconds of my life I'll never get back RG :-)

Book an incall with a well-known provider from this board and you will be safe. I see clients who drive over from the US frequently and I have never had any issues. I have no idea about SC because I have never worked there.

Grocery Store...where do I start? Little old lady stops to consult her list parked across the end of the aisle. "Excuse me" says I....no reaction, just keeps doing her check. "EXCUSE ME!" says I....no reaction...people are piling up behind me who all want to go down the same aisle. I finally swung down the next aisle and went to other end....little old lady still at end of aisle holding up production. I get to cash and she's wheeling into a cash line....took one beside her that had more people and still got out before her...she was probably questioning each price that the cashier swiped......Oiy Vey!!

+1 for CMJ have been a member since 2008 and never have I been unsatisfied with any of the hostesses:)

Homemade pizza using puff pastry as the crust! Homemade sauce, pepperoni, bacon, sausage, onion and green olives!

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I always love flowers and appreciate the thought. The only thing I ask of my guests coming to visit me is to place them in a bigger shopping bag for discretion purposes as I would also request when bringing bottles of wine.

I always appreciate when others take the time to recognize the efforts of a poster. Ranging from encouragement for newbies to acknowledgement of a useful or funny post, the Thanks, Nominations and Comments all signal that there is someone out there who cares enough to comment positively. So, thanks theliquor!

We all have our reasons for doing what we do, say, why we thank and nominate posts and who we see. For me thanking a post, especially one who has responded to my thread, is a show of politeness and thankfulness to them for taking the time to participate and to respond to my thoughts and opinions, also for adding their own. When I nominate a post or thread it's because what that person has stated is relevant, important and poignant to me.

I also thank those who share of themselves over and above the spirit of the board. Some of the things shared within these walls are personal, intimate and heart felt and deserve to be thanked for the person sharing of themselves. I also thank for thoughts and perceptions that I share or that give me a new view on something or make me think. If something important is said or done or someone is being open and supportive of me or anyone else on the board. I am definitely one to use all these tools and am happy they are available.

Keiko provides Greek and knows how to set up correctly. She is a member of this board. Valerie

I believe she was going by Aleasha Puddlez for awhile. I seen her a few months back. She played safe and was a decent experience. She also used to post on bp under the heading Barely Legal.

I think what you've established there is that, with respect to your relationship, your act IS cheating. But you won't stop for that reason alone, and instead you deal with that by mitigating the risks. As I said before -- that's fine, everyone knows best their own situation, boundaries, and priorities. But "cheating" is by definition a question about one's relationship, and not just one's own point of view. No single member within a relationship can decide by him/herself what does and does not count as cheating on their partner(s); it's something determined by the parameters of a shared relationship, not one solitary individual.

Well first not passing judgements, no one here knows anyone's relationship...but here are some spitballed thoughts. Do you keep your activities secret from your SO or are you open with her about them...if secret you know in your own mind it would be viewed as cheating How would a guy feel if his SO saw male escorts as frequently as you see female escorts How do you handle the issue of testing for STI/STDs...if in a relationship do you tell your SO she should also be tested, and if so do you explain why? Also a question, while you accept the risks (and use risk reduction ie condoms) did your SO also agree to accept those risks because of your activities? If the partner of someone who has activities in this lifestyle because you don't provide him a sex life, while you have a right to no longer have sex do you have the right to deprive your husband/boyfriend of a sex life and do you think he will agree to be celibate and stay with you Some quick thoughts, no judgements though RG

It is unfortunate that the gentlemen of Moncton won't have such a great lady come to visit anymore. But as anyone who has had encounters with Emily will attest, she is well worth a drive to one of the other NB cities she travels too. And its really not all that far for Moncton guys to drive to the other NB cities (I've driven longer distances in Ontario just for a few unforgettable hours with Emily) and she really is a lady worth seeing, and worth the drive Good luck Emily RG

I too LOVE CMJ. The Ladies I`ve meet their are GREAT !!

I'm not sure I would agree that every individual has to decide for themselves, but I would say every couple (or polyamourous group) does. It all depends on what has been explicitly or implicitly agreed upon, and where the line is drawn will be different for every relationship. For some couples, having an orgy with strangers may not be cheating if it's been agreed on. Sometimes certain rules or restrictions may be in place. One couple may say it's OK to be intimate with someone as long as both partners are present or have been told. Another might say anything goes except unprotected sex. On the other side, simply going to a exotic dance club, or even regular dancing with another person could be considered cheating if that's the boundary you and your partner established upon entering the relationship. Now, what could count as justifiable reasons for a person to cheat is another topic entirely and I'm certainly not looking to judge anyone here. But if you're doing something at all sexual that you know your partner wouldn't approve of and realistically assumes you've agreed not to do, then it is what it is.

I almost forgot, of those using the Calendar feature, the Social is now there: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/calendar.php?do=getinfo&e=2306&day=2014-3-20

Pork loin in an apple butter sauce, sweet potato fries and string beans...butternut squash soup to start.

as others have said, lots of threads on this topic and you will see that the ladies also frequently post about particular issues and behaviours that upset them. The upshot of it all: 1) follow the lady's rules (everything from how to make contact, verification, to what happens in the encounter) 2) never negotiate price or services 3) be clean 4) behave like a gentleman and treat her with respect

I sure hope your kidding. What single mom would choose to have a sex toy for herself over a real toy for her child? If you know of one then perhaps the child should be living elsewhere. Just saying.

The police officer was under investigation and not Pink Kitty. Pink Kitty is still actively in business. I am not related to Pink Kitty but I exchange relevant information with them Valerie