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Being an escort already IS legal. I pay my taxes as an escort - it's CRA industry code: Other personal services (including Online psychic, escorts, dating, party planning, personal shopping) - 81290. I am also registered for HST and 13% tax is included in my rates. I hatehatehate the assumption that escorts dont pay taxes. I am a self-employed woman running a legal business, and I pay my taxes just like any other business owner.

I respect your opinion Valerie, but I do disagree with two of your statements. I don't think there is any class system or hierarchy among sex workers, and saying you are an escort, NOT a prostitute, denotes a class system. I am an escort. I am a prostitute. I am a hooker. I actually feel so strongly on this issue I made a post in my blog about it last week - http://thetattooedcat.blogspot.ca/2014/01/whats-in-name.html I also don't agree that younger is better. The vast majority of my clients prefer women 25+ - or even 30+. A gentleman I saw recently was almost beside himself when I reminded him I was 29 when we first met. He only likes to see women over 30 - and he himself is only in his early 40s. I am proud to be an escort/hooker/whore/prostitute. I love ALL of my fellow hos.

Thank you for sharing your article, Valerie. I think if people want to speak to the media, we should be careful about comparing ourselves to other workers in negative ways. We don't need to be looking down on "hookers" and giving the media and the public more sensationalism. I don't agree that there is a "large and illegal demand for underage escorts", either. Discussing the difference in working/the experience is fine, I would just like to suggest that we try to keep it neutral -- so, "street-based worker" instead of "street-based hooker", and try not to compare ourselves by saying something like "well I'm not a prostitute because I do XYZ". It's fine to say, "I don't like the term hooker/prostitute/sex monkey". It's another thing to say "I'm not one of them", IMO.

http://www.ottawasun.com/2014/01/24/inside-the-business-of-happiness Here is the link to the Sun article which is being published. I am satisfied that the Sun did a good job within the constraints of of their readership. My photos and quotes were used with permission. I would like the opinions of other people. I am not sure if this is in the right section so feel free to move this to any other section which you feel might be more appropriate for this article.

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with the Sun reporter, Valerie. It takes a lot of courage to trust the media, and to speak with them about our experiences. Too often people don't reach out to us on issues that are important. However, as workers I do believe we have a responsibility to represent this industry accurately and fairly. I was wondering how you came to the conclusion that there is a high and illegal demand for underage escorts? I also agree with Kat and Cleo regarding the use of the term "prostitute". I think it's really important not to compare ourselves to street-based workers in a negative way. I feel so lucky, so incredibly lucky, to be able to work indoors and I fight really (really) hard in my personal and academic life for the life, liberty, and security of the persons of all sex workers, be they indoor or not. I count myself among the lucky ones, you know?

It's kind of alarming to think there are guys out there that think that another sp would be agreeable to help them find someone under age. I've never been asked or even had anyone hint about it. One thing, hopefully helpful, is the age of consent has been changed a couple of years ago to 16. That is still not, however, the minimum age for seeing sps, clients must know that the person they see is 18 and older. fwiw, i would pass on whatever contact info you have for these people to the appropriate authorities, along with copies of their requests that you find these underagers. :) When dealing with the general uninformed public, i always use the term sex worker. Sex worker means everyone, dominatrix, dancer, r&t provider, sp, escort, courtesan, whatever. They understand the term and that way we aren't forced into using the abolitionist's 'prostitute' who are trying to 'own' that word to dismiss and discredit us all. They've smeared the word to only mean the stereotype (as in starts at 14, on the streets, drug addicted, mental health issues, and of course, forced and pimped and unwilling, along with experiences of high levels of assault and violence. And they've twisted the word into meaning that, which is why my preference is to not use the word for any sex workers, not outside of those who understand the meaning at least). I liked the article overall, and thought both the writer and the Sun did a good job. I didn't even see the obligatory 20 year old short skirted, platform stripper shoed sp standing on the dark street corner for the photo to accompany the article lol. The only thing I would mention is that it seemed like you thought that you, as an indoor worker, are unable to communicate with clients about your services, etc. This is completely legal to do. The only time communication is illegal, at least for the next 11 months, is when it is in public. which is why it is the number one charge against street workers and their clients, and never the charge against any mp worker or sp incall, or escort outcall.

Sex work is legal. It is certain provisions around it that are not, such as hiring security or communicating in public. I pay taxes on my income like any other small business. Revenue Canada has a job code for escorting. Why is there always the assumption that we do not report our incomes, just because this is a cash-based income? It would be incredibly difficult to do things like sign a lease or a mortgage, get a credit card, buy a car and car insurance, etc if we were not claiming income.

Yes my friends, I have done it "my way"! Some may have noticed that my posts and threads are becoming minimal in nature (could be a good thing!). So as an update, the cancer continues to spread and has started to effect some nerves and cognitive stuff on a random basis. Docs tell me this is what I can expect for a while, nothing major, but all things being equal, by spring, my nerve endings will be really screwed up, memory may or may not be effected, speech may or may not be effected. They looked at me funny when I asked about my tongue! Anyway, hanging in, trying to get rid of this blasted cold provided to me by some uncaring asshole. Will continue to stay in touch while I can, hoping to be good for the next Ottawa Social, that is a focus! Will continue to drive and visit as long as I am able. Thanx, hope you all have a great weekend, play safe, play often and give the ladies lots of licks, kisses and hugs (YMMV)!!!!! Tom TheLiquor

There is a demand for underage escorts because I get called and emailed to put people in touch with younger ladies. Some websites somewhere posted that the age of consent in Canada is fourteen and I have been emailed by potential clients asking me if I know of anyone who is fourteen. I was advertising in the US for clients how come to visit Canada and those clients in particular emailed me about finding them fourteen year old escorts. I have also answered phones for an agency and the demand for younger ladies is certainly there. My age is posted on my website and still people call me to put them in touch with someone younger, as young as possible. When I was younger, no one ever called me to put them in touch with an older escort. It did not happen even once. I have clients who have seen me who have asked me to send them the names of younger ladies but never have I been asked for the names of older ladies. Not even once. This business has to be a cash business. I used to accept Pay Pal and I was burned. I used to accept credit cards and I was burned. It never ceased to amaze me how many men turned up with a credit card in the wife's name claiming that the wife never checked the bills. I have no personal objection to being called a prostitute or whatever. The Sun did take come liberty with what I said but I let them do it. The Sun has a readership that it needs to please and keep happy. The Sun needs to sell newspapers which is what makes it a profit. In that context, I find that what was said was fair. The point was that escorting is a legal taxable small business and it has all the problems and the challenges of any other small business. I think the Sun article succeeded in making that point.

I think you are overthinking the purpose of seeing sps and mps. The purpose is to skip over the getting to know you and seeing if we have a connection/chemistry/agreement. When you book an appointment, that is your agreement, a sure thing. with mps, as well there isn't full contact so you get massage, relaxation, touch, all combine to make you more comfortable with your decision to do this in the first place. There is no 100% perfect choice, there are only going to be the best possible choice. If you are having trouble with the first step, then i would recommend that you do not go to a spa/parlour, but rather than you connect with someone independent. This is something that you can email/pm first a few times, and see how it goes. Having said that, there are spa attendants (red named mps) who do have profiles here that you can interact with, depending on your location. I don't think a quick handshake and hello is really going to resolve your issue that you mentioned, actually. So a massageapalooza probably not a great way to meet sps and mps lol.

Quite frankly we are getting on. The threads having to do with cialis and Viagra speak to that. I still love the intimate contact with a beautiful woman. I loved my time with Lorraine Lacey, for example. What is your experience or interest?

With age comes experience, we all know that. What I've come to realize is that with experience comes a nice atmosphere, kind words and fun sex. I find older gentlemen usually enjoy our time (the activity and the conversation) without " powering through it ". I'm obviously having a hard time finding my words lol

A few issues here. First, when you enter a foreign country, you are entering at the discretion of a foreign government. You have no RIGHT of entry. With that in mind, everything on or about your person is subject to scrutiny under the laws of the receiving country. EVERY country has laws regarding the movement of people and goods across international borders. Second, when you enter a foreign country, the standards of law, evidence and reasonable search and seizure are those of the receiving country. You can be as "righteously indignified" as you wish, but it comes down to four words: "Their country, their rules." Last, and probably most important? If you don't want your dirty laundry seen by foreign governments, don't bring it along.

I love these spas and the women are just amazing. I've never had a disappointed time. From soft to deep they cover it all. Still need to try the hot stones though.

I think the problem is that we're taking personal experience and extrapolating that into the norm. Valerie and Cristy, your experience has been that clients are looking for underage women, so you assume that this is the case across the board. On the opposite spectrum, Nat and I have not personally experienced this, so we question how this could be the norm. I would be interested to see some real figures on this. Of course, any tracking/studies on sex work, and especially underage exploitation, is going to be difficult in terms of generalization.

I think Justin Bieber needs to be put under conservatorship so his life can be under control for the betterment. The problem is: who are willing to be his conservastors? He has been acting like teenager at age of adult so that is why he has been in trouble with laws lately. Soon he will may be arrested with a felony charge which is serious. Look at Britney Spears. Her life got in a real mess until her father and his lawyer took up conservatorship on her. Several years later, her life has been turned out to be real good as a better person.

And this great one from photographer Fedor Shmidt

I have had many wonderful visits with various ladies and not one of them could be categorized as 'disappointing'. I feel that the only safer bets than enjoying a visit with any of the lovely ladies here on cerb are death and taxes!

What makes them different-the location in which they work. We are all "sex workers" and the perceptions that some have of street workers don't end with them they are applied to all involved in the profession, some don't even think of it as a profession, but as a "fall from grace", a desperate time in ones life, not a choice, and so on. As I said in another article, call us what you will. The differences between workers in the sex industry are their titles, tags, labels, their personalities, styles of work, places they work from, ages, looks, manners of dress, education, rates, etc. None of which make any of us better or worse than one another or entitled to more or less respect. However many of our own like to give the impression that they are deserving of more respect and at higher level by titling themselves as courtesans,imo. But a title is just that:) As far as what society thinks of us, I don't think anything will ever changes it's perception. That sadly, is set in stone :) For me that is fine as I have always had a some what " I don't give a shit attitude " concerning what others think about me and what I do. I have to live with my choices, have peace of mind with what I do and I do and that is what is important to me, not what someone else thinks. I have and will continue to live my way and those that like it-thank you and those that don't-who cares:)

^^^ Word. More about "the sexy tax" : http://everydaywhorephobia.wordpress.com/2013/08/30/taxable-blow-jobs/ :biggrin:

35 for 1/2 massage 80 extra for topless HE Posted via Mobile Device

^^^ Reminds me of Sammy Davis Jr. He was very young at 7 years old, and obviously already know as a little performer, when this movie with Ethel Waters was made Do NOT watch this if you are offended by the portrayal of black people in Hollywood during those years, because it is totally filled with Scarlett Ohara's nanny type characters. However, this is also Ethel Waters, huge at the time, and the 1933 (I think?) movie is about how she dreams of her son becoming president, which of course at the time makes the movie a comedy and tragedy, and prophetic all at the same time. He's probably in his teens here, with his father and uncle in their act.

They advertise several times a week on craigslist under the heading "Full Body Relaxation Massage". The rates are in their ads. The phone number starts with 779. The tip for a HE is halfway between their 30 minute and 45 minute rates.

Disclaimer: I realize that the majority of you are paying for a sexual service and that your needs should be met within the boundaries of the escort in question. That is the service I am providing. However, that being said, I would like to call attention to what I like to refer to as "jack-hammering." This is basically extended penetrative sex and nothing else. You may be convinced that good sex requires only penetration and stamina--as well all know, women want a man who can last (I hope you can sense the sarcasm there), or perhaps it is purely selfish on your part, you do want to get your money's worth after all. So you pound your paid sex partner, over and over, squeezing in every possible available second. In which case, I am not a blow-up doll. I am not an object solely for your use. Keep in mind, I do not think it is a problem, for example, if you would like to simply pay to receive a blowjob, provided you realize the skill and time involved in administering a good blowjob. And I do not think penetrative sex itself is bad. But if you are interested in engaging in a full range of sexual behaviour, please realize that "sex" does not simply equal penetration for as long as humanly possible. After awhile it is painful, un-stimulating and rather boring. If a woman is not turned on, she doesn't create those delicious lubricating fluids that can make penetrative sex so wonderful. So take the time to pay attention to things like kissing and groping and licking and nibbling and so on. If the first thing you're going for is penetration, you have skipped so many amazing, naughty fun things to do to one another. While we are providing a very intimate service, aimed at generating your pleasure and satisfaction, we have emotions, and physical limits. So keep that in mind the next time you're with your favourite lady. Happy pooning!

I understand that having a chemistry/connection makes an intimate encounter, be it with a MA or SP all the better. But how long do you need to get to know a MA/SP before you feel you have chemistry with her and are willing to have a hour or two session with her. And a chemistry/connection I have discovered, develops over repeat encounters, I know for myself a second or third encounter was more intimate than the first, and the seventh encounter in one case well it was just special. But repeat encounters with a lady will never happen unless you take that first step Look at an encounter as the ultimate first date LOL. Maybe you'll click, maybe not. But nothing in life is guaranteed. Just schedule an encounter with a lady that interests you, and let the encounter unfold naturally. And remember, the ladies are professional and pretty good at making a man feel he's special to begin with. So no need for pre-encounter meetings in my opinion. A rambling RG

There are many passionate and proud providers, that post here. So perhaps you can help me. Now when I here the term "street worker" I envision a desperate, poor, un bathed woman who will do almost anything for cash. I've never been with a "street worker" and quite honestly only ever noticed one once when she tried to solicit me. Thus this is were the image come to mind. I know it's not a good image and I'm not here to offend people, but I'm sure their are others who don't have an accurate vision of a "street worker" If laws on "street worker" were to change society would have to change their perception of them. What make them different or the same as any other sex worker? I have an open mind and being someone who does his best to respect other, I can assume that as persons they are equals and are no worse or better than anyone else.

The government requires that all income is declared and that you pay your taxes accordingly. Does that mean everyone declares all of their income? No. There are people who evade paying or claim lesser amounts all across the board. But there seems to be a common assumption that escorts don't pay taxes, when we (the public) don't make that assumption of all other cash-based businesses.

I think this one bears repeating ... the fucking weather!!!

Hi gentleman I am avail in the evening after 5 and Monday and wed between 9 and 5 you can reach me at [email protected] advance notice please xo muah

I have not made it out in a while, just wondering if anyone has recent stories or if they know if it has been busy. The last time I was there some of the girls from a local MP were there and it was a Crazy good time! Additional Comments: I don't know if I am the only one, but I'll try to provide some information here. If somebody wants to correct me or add something, do so because I am not an expert. I don't think this is against CERB rules. Saturday night seems to be the busiest. Winter is busier than summer. It's quiet before 10 or 11. Sometimes it doesn't get bust until after the bar closes. Sometimes it doesn't get bust at all. I would suggest going 3 or 4 times before making a decision about the place. If after 3 or 4 visits you don't like the place, you probably never will. When you walk into the building someone will buzz you into the building. At this time you have choices: you can get a locker, single room, or bigger/ party room. I suggest getting a single room. It's not expensive and serves a few purposes. It gives you a place to hang out if it is quiet, a place to go if you are feeling overwhelmed, a place to go if you hook up. The person at the counter will then give you a key, towel, sheet, and condoms. As a side note bring some sandals with you. You will understand this later. You are expected to change in your room and walk around wearing the towel. No big deal, almost everyone does it. After you settle in your room and change, you are ready to go. Just walk around and explore the building. 3 floors where there may or may not be stuff going on. Some very interesting areas. Don't be disappointed if nothing is going on , and don't be in a rush. I would say stick around for at least 3 or 4 hours to get a feel for the atmosphere. As a side note; Aquarius is coed but started as a gay bath house and a lot of gay men still go there. It is quite possible they will hit on you. If it is not your thing, politely decline. If this bothers you, it's probably not the place for you. Good luck... anymore questions you can always PM me.

In the last 2 years I think I have left a gallon of cum at the south end hotel where she stays Additional Comments: I put her and maybe Emily J at the top of the heap in this department. It's not just a matter of technique, I think they really enjoy what they do (ymmv of course). That makes all the difference to me, and having a good personal chemistry

Sexy fun blue-eyed brunette ready to get down and dirty. Come play with me today and we can get freaky. I love to dominate and have a few sexy surprises that I love to use as well. I love my job and I'm great at it. I am very open-minded and love to play. I am working at Ottawa's most upscale spa in the west end of Ottawa. I'm 5'7, athletic build, perky B36 bust, angelic blue eyes, long dark hair, seductive lips, golden tan, open minded, 100% natural beauty, fun & comfortable to be with... Working every Friday 5pm to 11pm,Saturday 9amto 9pm,andevery Sunday 10amto 7pmto prebook an appointment on any other days send me a private message please. http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=N&t=148577 Services: Full Erotic body massage Reverse massage Slippery wet body slides Reverse body slides Hot tub for more intimate session Showers for 2 Domination Duos Fresh towels & linens ATM Cater to fetishes, just ask... Call today to book your appointment with me at 613-820-8887.

Pretty indiscreet to be outing the hotels ladies use.

I met my current established duo partner through a suggestion by a gentleman who had seen us both. He had seen us each on our own, so he knew what we were like, and he asked us each individually. She and I were open to it, met for a coffee, and the rest is history. I have received an occasional request from a prospective client, who I have never met, to offer a duo with a lady I have also never met. I decline. There is no harm in asking a lady, as of course each lady has her own opinions. But I would recommend knowing each lady first... a duo is the best when there is a comfort level there, coming in not knowing the other parties can be, awkward.

I can understand the sentiment that more testing = better policy, and that's true to a point. However, mandatory testing is actually counterproductive, and there's good evidence to suggest that it could actually make people engage in more risky behaviour, rather than the reverse. It comes down to something called the Peltzman Effect, a.k.a. Risk Compensation - whenever an external variable decreases risk, then people's own risky behaviour tends to increase as a result. Here's a simple narrative to illustrate this: A client walks into an incall, sees that the girl has her test results on display, and that her results say she's negative for HIV. He says, "Oh, you're clean and I'm clean, can we do BBFS?" He assumes that her negative test means there's no risk for him, so he chooses not to use a condom because he mistakenly believes that the test would have informed him if there was any risk. What he doesn't realize is that there's a 3-month incubation period during which HIV isn't detectable by any test, and he ignores the risk of other STIs - such as syphilis, for example - because he's not worried about contracting HIV. Here's another article I wrote about it, regarding Canada's HIV disclosure laws: http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/nikki-thomas/hiv-status_b_1937993.html The stats actually show that sex workers are more aware of STIs than the general public, and we tend to have lower STI rates as well, simply because we take proper precautions. It seems like contradictory logic, but the very fact that clients are concerned about STI risk from sex workers means they're far more likely to take proper precautions to reduce that risk on their own. Mandatory testing is not a good means for preventing the spread of STIs, and the UN didn't make that determination lightly - the evidence is very much in favour of not forcing mandatory STI testing on sex workers, not just from a personal perspective, but a public health perspective as well.

Thanks everyone, I appreciate the support you've given my article. It's had a surprising amount of staying power, and is continuing to make the rounds on Twitter and FB, even almost a week after it was published. I also published it through HuffPo (as I do with all my sex work blog posts) and it seems to have been shared through that medium as well, which is encouraging. I'm of the mind that our best course of action is to continue muddying the waters on all proposed alternatives (especially the Nordic approach) while continuing to both outline all the reasons why it won't work, and why it would be a step backward instead of a step forward. Most critical at this juncture is the need to overwrite the stereotype with a new narrative - the popularity of the Nordic approach in recent discourse is inherently based on the victimization model that is so prevalent in the discussion. Without that stereotype, the value of the Nordic approach declines significantly, because it's all about "saving" victims of the trade while criminalizing the "violent rapists" (a.k.a. the clients) to "help" us fallen women see the light. We all know it's BS, but the general public remains oblivious, without evidence to the contrary. Many other courageous sex workers have already stepped out into the light, and told their stories, and we've seen some progress in this respect. However, the unspoken side of the transaction remains, and we need client voices more than ever. I realize this is a huge imposition to ask, and an impossibility for many of you; and tell his side of the story, and we will be forever grateful that he chose to do this for us. I can't possibly ask other clients to do the same, but I can facilitate client activism in other ways. I'm very friendly with a handful of writers and columnists in the mainstream media (those who have respected my privacy and have been very discreet when interviewing others in the industry) and I would gladly put you in touch with them if you wanted to anonymously tell your story. We have been so fortunate to have built a community of respectful, pleasant gentlemen who love and admire us because of what we do, not merely in spite of it. So, now we're asking for your help - we would benefit greatly from your contributions in this critical time, and I'm happy to help your voices be heard in a way that protects your privacy. Please PM or email me if you'd like more info, and if we show the country how good the industry can be when it's done right, perhaps we can run out the clock on any new legislation, leave the status quo in place, and improve things for all of us. Let me know if you'd like to help out! :)

Congrats on yet another fantastic milestone, so much better than birthdays (IMHO).

I offer duos with Clarissa Delight in St. John's, as well as Emily Rushton and Nathalie Lefebvre when our schedules match up!!! :)

Mmmm duos.... I offer duos with Carrie moon when i'm in Ottawa and Eva pearl Ottawa and Montréal :) I'm open to offer duos with other amazing ladies of your choice! :) Bianca xxx

Effie White in Toronto and Veronica Lodge wherever we are together,

Eenie Meenie Miney Moe ;) Jk ;)