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For me, the determining factor for YMMV is based on hygiene 90% of the time, and other factors the other 10% of the time. For example: you are offered a shower (politely) but refuse? Your services are going to be limited. Your hands aren't clean or your fingernails not trimmed? Again... No digits for you. Your teeth aren't clean or your breath is bad, despite the mouthwash I always have in the bathroom? Kissing won't be a big part of our time together. The other factors are genital appearance (yours, for MY safety), and what I call "roughness". Now do NOT get me wrong... If we have arranged a PSE session and you wanna spank my ass or pull my hair, that's different. But if we are GFE and you are hurting me with digits, etc -- I will tell you to stop. Respect is also huge. You respect me and I'll look after you :)

A way for people who actually know what they are talking about can express and share their opinions. http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/cons/curr-cours/proscons-conspros/index.html#2014--02--17

Saw a reference for this on twitter today. Following is a link to a justice survey on the need for new sex laws in Canada, and I think we should all encourage a many people with similar views to fill it out. http://justice.gc.ca/eng/cons/curr-cours/proscons-conspros/index.html

So recently I was reviewed on another board, and although the review was positive, it was mentioned that the reviewer had higher expectations based on "all the reviews" he had read. I think he said the service was good, but he had expected great. My body was fine, but he expected better... something like that. Reviews are very subjective and after reading what this man had to say, I've decided to carefully go through the linked reviews on my site and remove some that are very explicit, exaggerated, or worded to flatter the reviewer more than the reviewed. I don't like people being disappointed and I think that's what happened here. After reading my reviews I suppose he expected something more or different that what I could offer. Number of reviews isn't near as important as the quality, accuracy and reliability of the review IMHO.

Excellent question as us ladies come into this for different reasons and leave for our own reasons too!!! For me, I originally got into it for the thrill factor, the fantasy factor and the plain and simple fact that I absolutely love sex. However, that has changed slightly for me... But for the better!!! I still love the thrill, the fantasy, and oh yes the sex!!! But I have also discovered a way to use my ability to connect with people in a very real and passionate way. I absolutely thrive on these connections, and find these interactions as emotionally and mentally good for me as I'm told it is for my clients. I have met some amazing women who I may not have had the chance to otherwise -- and continue to meet wonderful people. And I have also discovered my ability to become financially independent and stable -- something that hasn't always come easy to me :) So really, my answer is that I'm not sure. But I won't be going anywhere in the foreseeable future. :)

This is a great question! For me, the answer has nothing to do with anything remotely "sexual". Conversation, conversation, conversation!!! Before and after :) I absolutely love the conversation before, and consider it the greatest of foreplay. I also absolutely love the cuddling at first quiet, and then relaxed conversation afterwards. In regards to the "in between" conversation time ;)... I appreciate when a gentleman is genuine. Enjoys himself, immerses himself in the moments with me. :)

I love discussing desires, wants and needs prior. It gives me an idea of the gentleman and what he enjoys. Just because I know things beforehand doesn't mean that our date is scripted in ANY way but it's much easier to follow the flow of desire if I know that you might enjoy this or that and you're giving indications of wanting that as opposed to stopping in the middle to ask and then determine boundaries. I have discussed some things ahead of time only to have desire lead in a completely different direction during. Knowledge is simply a basis on which to build mutual exploration!

I have been a sexual creature right from the beginning of womenhood. It is a natural way for me to be. Men and women. Practice does help, you learn how to slow it down or speed it up. I learned men are visual creatures, so by giving him a nice view can allow you to get him aroused much easier. Also, I learned many men in their home life is missing the " nasty or playful" aspect of sex, so I try to fill that fantasy for them as I know he is not getting that at home, such as squirting, ball licking, dirty talk.

I am a straight forward person and I like those who I deal with to be the same. No one has to be crude but tip toeing through the tulips about questions, do's and don'ts is silly. Just ask! Most of us can tell when a question is being asked out of sincerity and for learnedness and when one is being used for perversion or a guy just being a pig. Having knowledge of both parties boundaries, likes and dislikes, do's and don'ts will only imo lead to a more successful and enjoyable time and I think very helpful. There can still be mystery after all, especially with a new client , his looks, characteristics, smell, abilities are all going to be things to look forward to and unknown until you meet, even with a known client a session can be like you've never met-new again. They are what we- client and sp- make them after all;) Additional Comments: Tell your friend fear not. Did you know that sometimes an sp can feel intimidated and not good enough as well. We too are human;) but also very caring and I'll speak for myself - I'd rather have you walk away feeling better as a man because I made you feel better mentally about yourself rather than you walking away thinking damn she gave great head! I know what it's like to feel insecure, uncomfortable and unsure. Pleasuring someone is easy making someone feel confident, secure and comfortable takes genuine care and concern. All clients should know their comfort in all aspects is the goal of an sp. We aren't here to judge we want to get to know YOU and make you feel glad you came;)

It's the first day of kindergarten and the teacher decides to do taste association. I'll blindfold you and give you a lifesaver and you tell me what flavor it is, she tells the children. So she gives them all a cherry flavour and says What flavor is that? The whole class answers Mmmm that's cherry. Very good the teacher replies. So she gives them all a grape and they reply Mmm that's grape. Very good she says again. Then she gives them all a honey flavor. The whole class sits perplexed by the strange taste, so the teacher says OK I'll give you a hint it's something your mom might call your dad. Billy spits his out on the floor and yells Spit 'em out everyone they're ASSHOLES!'

I find that experience and experimentation helps. there are certain 'signature' moves that I do because they get great feedback from the majority of clients. Others complain about it tickling, so one size does not fit all lol. Additional Comments: No. I've been very lucky. There have only been a couple of rare times when I have questioned why I agreed to see the person in the first place, just because it wasn't a good match and somehow i felt that i should have known that at the time of enquiry. Additional Comments: It is hard to know how to deal. I don't get a lot of reviews, but the only bad one I had seen was the first one I saw. it led me to join a review site in order to insist they take it down (someone had posted a fake bad review then was linking it to CL posts about me, in a harassing way. To put it short, the review site refused to remove it, even tho I could clearly prove it wasn't true. They had issues with this kind of defamation, in other words they permitted it to happen.) The review description of me in other words not done by someone who had seen me, but was extrapolating description in the ad. So that was how i dealt with that, reporting it as fake and having to deal with the fact that that review site preferred to harass sps rather than recognize their part in the process and do the right thing. In other reviews, i found the reviewers honest and accurate. In some maybe the 'looks' part stings, only because lets face it someone over 40 isn't going to get the same rates as someone younger, no matter how they look. I appreciate a review that lowers expectations because I can live up to lower expectations, it is much more difficult to live up to high ones lol. I've got two reviews fairly recent on a US based site, and those are pretty high marks I now have to impress people who might book based on those. Additional Comments: Attitude comes through in initial contact. That to me isn't an issue, i don't see guys with attitudes. Looks i could care less about. I'm not here to be wowed by someone's appearance, and it isn't about dating either. I am turned off by someone doing 'sexy voice' in the enquiring process, and/or promising me how great they are. It is a service, not POF. They don't have to impress me, and if they try in that way, chances are good I just won't bother to see them. Life is too short to deal with someone who thinks they are so great, no doubt I will probably accept a short changed donation or want to see them for free. I won't. I have guys who book and pay the rates who remind me of TV/movie stars, so i have a hard time believing anyone is so great that i will forget what I am here for lol

No shows are extremely frustrating not only because it impacts our livelihood but also because it is a complete lack of respect for someone else. If you have a date with your mother, best friend, brother, co-worker etc. and can't make it, I'm sure that you take 30 seconds to call or text or something to let them know. I understand that things come up but to completely disregard someone else's feelings like that is completely disrespectful. The only time that would not apply is in a life or death situation. On a positive note, it gives an indication about the type of person you're dealing with. This works on both sides as well, there have been hobbyists who have had a NCNS SP.

In an ideal world, we would all have a savings for these very instances. It's not always that simple -- well, not for me. But I am working on it :) my actual hope is to start paying for private health/dental insurance!! :)

I would have to say that some of the things I like least about my work have to do with stigma and judgement....as some of the other lovely ladies have already spoken to on this thread...but, in particular, for me, I find myself most impacted when it has unfolded during sessions with certain clients over the years....thankfully, not frequently enough to remotely make me stop loving my work...but there have been certain moments, often in the unsaid, the subtle glances and words where I can tell that it has been important for a client to maintain a sense that he is above me; somehow morally superior, more knowing and able to remove himself from some sense of the 'unsavory' he finds about my work. I suppose I am most impacted by this because, despite the obvious fact that there is a sacredness in sharing myself in pleasure and intimacy with my clients, and clearly something about those experiences that are ultimately valued even by a client who would engage in this behavior, that it is even an option to to judge and patronize...that there is a currency to it, is bothersome....hurtful The other judgement piece that irks me is when it's been inferred that my expiry date is about to come up, as though being anything past thirty puts me in a danger zone of becoming spoiled milk, lol! Interestingly enough, I have experienced this with a number of with clients who would find me to be on the younger end of the age range they prefer in an SP. So, the judgments, the inferences, don't even have to match up with the reality (of course they don't)....but there is a sort of paternalism there...and, I've noticed that it sometimes has occurred in contexts where a client is expressing romantic interest in me, and uses that as a card to discredit the idea that I should chose this as a longer term vocation.....to somehow make it seem unnatural. Odd! Sometimes the opportunity presents itself for me to have openly challenged such crap, but sometimes, there is no space for that...and then I chose to exercise the privilege of declining a repeat 'playdate', because there is no replacement, no price tag that can stand in place for dignity and self-love. Great thread Summer! Thanks for starting it :) Ox

Very well said Roamingguy. YMMV has to be included in everything because we are all individuals. What one person views in one way, another my view completely different. Not only that but even two people together can interact different depending on the day and the activity. This is part of what makes being human special. Extraordinary experiences that are never the same twice (even if they kinda are). To me, being with someone is about connection, pleasure, joy and fun. There are certain factors such as hygiene, nail care and respect that lend themselves in major ways to the experience you can have with someone. After that it's also about the person and how you relate. You may have said you do a certain thing but then realize that an adjustment is needed due to things like height, weight, cock size etc. You may expect one thign but get another. that doesn't necessarily make it negative or bad, just different and sometimes in a great way. The best encounters for me are the ones where someone wants to be with me and is interested in exploring with me. They don't have a lot of expectations besides enjoying their time and things flow naturally. I love when you can be lustful and passionate and also playful and joyous. Sex is bloody enjoyable...whoop it up! Additional Comments: I'm looking forward to Savannah's answer (if she wishes) on your question Chuck. For me, I couldn't be in this industry without genuine caring, desire and want. Everyone has something wonderful and beautiful about them and seeing that in every person is an amazing thing. Discovering what makes someone beautiful, amazing and sexy is intoxicating to me and I love when I'm allowed to fully express that.

This entirely depends on the SP you are speaking to. Some list things they enjoy/offer, some don't. Some will be ok with you asking, some won't. Some ladies don't like planning, some will be ok with it. This is very individual. That being said, if you aren't sure about something it is always best to be upfront and ask. I think most of us would be quick to let you know if we were ok with something or not, and are just as concerned about chemistry and compatibility as you are :) Being open, honest and upfront in a respectful manner is good! Do NOT contact an SP saying "so, how much to stick it in your ass?" Lol... I know none of you would do that anyway, but we do get those and I know for myself I just delete them :) xoxo

I am new here and new to the sp business, hopefully soon to meet some nice gentlemen

The Canadian Government, more specifically the Department of Justice, just launched a public consultation on "prostitution-related offences". It looks like the window will be open for one month, from today (February 17th) until March 17th. You can provide feedback via email at [email protected] or anonymously via their website, online at <http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/cons/curr-cours/proscons-conspros/index.html#2014_02_17>. Bombs away...

I say... If all you got is 80 bucks, you really should go to the grocery store with that! lol...

You go in my book. This year I'm super organized with my cute pink agenda. At the back of said agenda I have two lists "don't see" and " probation". No call no show? Don't see. Simple. Lol Word gets around about who makes ncns a pattern as well so that helps. It's frustrating and one of the only things I hate about this type of business

6 years ago, I began on another site. I did not know of CERB at the time. Being in a small city, I had many local competition and many haters. I was smeared all over the site, everyday waking up to new drama:( At first it was devastating, who ever was behind it new me very very well, right to last detail. They made bogus claims, I had AIDS, I was a thief, did heroin, OHHHHH MAN it was bad! I would get soooo upset, cry and spend my days trying to figure out who was behind it. That continued till I got on cerb in 2010, then it slowed down. If it wasn't for our Lovely Cat, I may have jumped off a bridge by this point! I was extremely upset! Then Cat said these words to me " Ohh hunni, if these things are not true, then your reputation will grow. Only cream rises to the top! If they are true, then we will know that too" Well must have all been lies, cause here I remain:) When I read something about me I first ask , who is this coming from? Do I remember the visit? Is anything at all accurate? Once a bad review said my tits hung to my waste, well this person defiantly never met me cause if you have, you know that my tits are too small to hang anywhere lol.... I now know and trust in my ability to run my business properly. I do not even entertain these reviews with a responds, as I know the gent's will figure it out!

I have to honestly say, from a physical appearance perspective the answer would be no. Both my parents are/were in the fashion industry and I spent an unusual amount of time with models growing up. So I know from experience physical appearance is only a very small portion of what makes up a person. Certainly being attractive can help with the confidence, but those woman who are, in my experience, only about looks tend to be very insecure. However, there have been a number of ladies whom I thought that they are out of my league from a budgetary perspective.

Well....first and foremost all the negative stereotypes about this industry have been shattered. Second....is how much I value intimacy and closeness compared to the sex itself. Third....is that I have grown such a huge appreciation for seeing beauty and sexiness in all ages and shapes and types of women. Perhaps once I had a particular "type" of lady in mind as my ideal, now I see an aspect of my "ideal" everywhere I look in virtually all women. Forth....I'm horny all the time now...lol

I thought I would answers this question from a virgin's perspective. I have learned that this lifestyle is more prevalent and dynamic than I would have ever thought possible and I have always considered myself to be very open minded. The community aspect was the most surprising, and the welcoming nature of it even more so. So in short, thank you to all the cerbies, for making me comfortable to explore this lifestyle.

Every encounter is different, special and unique. Even an encounter with the same companion each and every time is special and unique. A first time date, you are getting to know one another, a third, fourth, so on date, it's two friends getting together, you both know one another, obviously you both like one another, you both, for lack of a better phrase, have a shared common past which makes encounters all the more intimate, in the broadest sense of the word. Anyhow, if each and every encounter was the same as another, it would be awfully boring wouldn't it A rambling RG

In the beginning yes, these beautiful women, Goddesses, who could be PMOY, SI Swimsuit Models, Victoria's Secrets models, well you get the idea and then me, I make Al Bundy look good LOL...do I dare attempt booking an encounter But now, I've come to realize certain qualities appeal to the ladies. Being a gentleman, treating the lady like a lady, with respect. I've also learned inner beauty means a lot, if not more in the grand scheme of things. And that I am in these ladies' league, because aside from outwardly well Al Bundy has a leg up on me, inside where it counts, I'm a gentleman, and absolutely respect and adore these ladies for the companionship they provide, one which has a value far exceeding the donation requested Hope that is an answer RG I have to add this thought though. While I am in these ladies' league, it in no way takes away how grateful and appreciative I am for the time, companionship, memories and in some cases friendship they have shown me. Goddesses all, and being with them has brightened my life. The, for lack of a better word relationships have a intangible value far exceeding the donation. And here's a heartfelt thank you to all those ladies I got to know who have brightened my life

They don't teach common sense in school anymore. A few years ago I was trying the online dating thing. I took a girl I met online to a classy establishment for a first meeting "get to know you is there any spark" glass of wine and desert type date. A waitress that was serving another section passed by and commented "Good to see you again, what happened with the pretty girl you were here with yesterday?" (my previous get to know date).

I'm not sure I can answer if the question is, "the leap to being a hobbyist". As to the second part. The ad is important... unvarying ads might as well be web sites. I'm amazed at the number of ads that fail to tell me the basics of in/out, day/evg, where/how to find out more, and ideally, give me an idea if we are talking about 100s/hr, vs 1000s for a tryst. The pictures are interesting; not so much how lovely/erotic/etc. the lady is, as much as the question of what pictures and what poses she chose, and how she explained the pictures. I appreciate a lady that has her own web site that she controls... so I'm more impressed by a amateur site that I'm sure the lady was involved in creating and maintaining than a super flash intensive site that I know someone else wrote. It's because I'm interested in her thoughts and words. I do like ladies that have a blog... I don't find twitter useful, it's too public. There are at least three ladies where the words in her cerb ad was enough... the pictures were not important. Two of those ladies I did see, and although I haven't seen one of them for almost a year, I read their ads every week. In one, the ad was much better than the experience (I did not repeat). I do look at recommendations, and I do look for reviews on other sites. A disaster or two reported on other site is not a big deal... what matters is how things are/were handled. Additional Comments: No. She may be way out of my wallet's league. I've definitely said, "wow, she's way out of her league. Good luck with that"...

I first took the leap in the late 1970's. Means, motive and opportunity combined to make my first SP experience memorable and satisfying. I make my booking decisions based on several factors. I look for someone who will participate in types of sexual activities I enjoy. For example, I love all things oral; so kissing, cunnilingus and fellatio are high on my wish list. I look for someone with the right attitude, note the 'right' attitude can be different on different days. Attitude shows in how a provider advertises, both on CERB and elsewhere. Next I look at the physical - looks do form part of the equation however I tend to cast a wide net. I am older and am hardly a male model, so I do not hold physical appearance very high on the decision tree, but it is still a consideration. Availability also factors into the decision to book. I play when I get the chance, if our schedules don't line up then it does not matter if all other considerations are met. The final aspect to consider before booking with a particular provider is compensation. I play a lot; often two to three times a week for multiple hour long sessions. If a provider catches my eye, but is priced out of my budget, then sadly I let it pass. I do not begrudge any provider who sets their donation levels above my personal limit, but for now, I stick to those who fit into my budget. It is a long winded answer, but I believe you deserve to hear the complete answer.

I started because of school, at barely 21 years old and having x amount of debt when working at 8.25 an hr about 15 hrs a week...despite having loans and a schoolarship I was living on ramen noodle and always late in my bills. Now 4 years later, it has gain me lots of independence (how many 25 yrs old do you know who can say that they are in school and no debt at all and not being help by their parents?) I plan on doing it for at least another 3 years to finish my master, and maybe an extra year if I take some time off...after I'll see. But I like what I do as it afford me tattoos and travel also :D

As a client I've taken YMMV to mean two things. First and foremost, as Savannah says, certain activities are based on things like hygiene But also, at least to me YMMV also means encounters aren't clones of one another. Each encounter is a unique and hopefully special time between two people. Recommendations aside, a prospective client shouldn't expect his encounter to be exactly like another client's encounter. It doesn't mean it will be worse, or better, just a special unique time between two individuals getting together Anyhow, a rambling from a guy who finds YMMV to be something positive RG

I wish i had known about review sites and the discussion forums. I have learned a lot about how i deal with clients from the phone call, to arrival, to the ambiance, etc. When a review states what worked, what didn't, and I could see the small changes that fit within my boundaries or that small things that I could provide mattered, it just puts your encounters at the next level.

I Make sure I have some money put aside for emergency... BJ

I said I prefer incall in a hotel but you would be one of those exceptions I would like to make. The more of your post I read the more I want to schedule a trip to Halifax.

I know this message was directed more towards the gents but I wanted to add my cent and a half. I do incall only and I LOVE my space. I have created a little oasis of positive sensual energy, tantalizing scents, lighting, music and comfort that it has become an extension of sex for me. I love hosting and I love when people come to visit and feel comfortable here. It may not be grand but it's unique and it's those touches that I find wonderful.

To me, forgiving oneself is more "acts of self love". We all make mistakes, we all have done something that hurts someone else, this is life. No matter how hard we try, it happens. At that point we can either flay ourselves repeatedly until we believe we have paid the price (and then continue some more) or we can take responsibility for what we did, use it as a lesson for the future and cut ourselves some slack. Big or small, self love is a good thing. We are making ourselves better which gives those around us a better person to interact with which is a blessing for them. When we flog ourselves and treat ourselves badly for the things we have done, it doesn't make us feel very good. We may remove ourselves from the people who care most which is not only punishing ourselves but them too. Or we may then be around them and end up doing other things that make the relationship worse. Guilt is not a good emotion as it sucks the good out of us all. Practicing self love and forgiveness, allows growth and positivity and creates better relationships and moments. Not easy but definitely worth it. It's the little voice that says "I'll try again tomorrow"

What a wonderful thread, I've enjoyed reading all the responses. For me, I got tired of always giving my best to companies that didn't deserve it. I love sex, sensuality and intimacy and had a couple people tell me that I would do well doing this. My first few encounters were definite learners and I really enjoyed that aspect and the thrill during preparations, still do. I started out mostly as massage but found that while I loved it, I also loved more so now I do a free for all. I love pleasing and experiencing and meeting new people. I especially love connecting with them and as Savannah has said, it's those connections forged over time that make things better and better. I don't shy away from emotions, you can care for someone with no strings or expectations, as long as everyone is honest about boundaries. I love communicating and exploring with someone over a longer period of time. Finding new sensations and interests and sexual/sensual pleasure. There are so many amazing people in this industry and I've enjoyed getting to know them and learning from them. It is rough when it seems like there is back stabbing or undermining going on especially if you're not completely aware of the depths of it. There is so much stigma in the industry you want to believe that everyone watches everyone else's back. Thankfully I've been blessed with a couple friends who fully support me and think it's great. One of the hardest parts for me is when people just fade away. If they have been a connection especially and then nothing, you're left wondering. this isn't an industry where there is feedback on improvement or cheat sheets on market. lol. I have had amazing experiences, ones that I continue to think about and that make me smile. Not only experiences but people. I think anyone thinking about trying things out as a hobbyist should just do some research to find someone they are drawn to and then jump in and enjoy. We're all just people and out of all the women in the world, SP's understand and support the need, fear, desire, longing, anxiety etc. and make you feel alright.

I'm guessing you mean after the first "date" as an SP?! For me, it was exhilarating!!! There was so much excitement and nerves leading up to it. It was such a relief to have the first time under my belt. I felt incredibly confident and surprisingly relaxed :) I thought to myself... What's next? Bring it on!

Many SP's offer Duos with other ladies... is this a reflection of a true Bisexual interest or is it just part of the job because all guys have the fantasy?

I generally refer them to my website and will matter of factly respond with a simple, "Thank you for your inquiry, please note that my consideration is posted on my website. *link* If you would like to meet I would be happy to arrange such..." Then depending on how they inquired, ie. the tone, I may let them know that while I may not be available to them there are certainly a number of wonderful ladies that are available in the area and depending on how familiar I am with the city I might refer them to someone that is better suited to their request. Sometimes gents really are nice guys and simply cannot afford to meet you, far too often I see gents told "It never hurts to ask" and they genuinely don't realize that yes sometimes it does offend the ladies to ask. I try to give them the benefit of the doubt. If the tone of the email is rude, they didn't take a moment to properly introduce themselves or perhaps explain their reason for inquiry/situation then I will simply send them a link to my consideration... or I refer the request to my assistant (who has the patience of a saint) she may respond politely or if she's had the exact same inquiry from them a number of times I hear even she sometimes loses her patience. ;)

Both. It depends on my mood. I usually ignore but occasionally my smart ass comes out.

What has surprised me? That good looks do not always translate into a good encounter. And age is not a predictor of sexual prowess. What have I learned? I learned that if the male partner in the missionary position reaches down to the side with both arms and grabs the ass of his partner with both hands, then plain old missionary becomes a very wild ride with incredible penetration. What have I discovered? I can be more open and sexually honest with virtual stranger than I can be with my wife. To answer the spill over question, these encounters make me the man I am. This carries over into my civilian life in a myriad of ways from the subtle to the profound. Additional Comments: No never. I keep this part of my life to myself. I don't need or want a hobby buddy. The reason I shy away from social events is my fear of running into a friend, colleague or acquaintance. This is between no one but me, the provider and my anonymous CERB family.

Great encounters are all about chemistry between the two people involved. You can't create chemistry when there is none there. It's unrealistic for any client to go into a session expecting what happened with another client. If a client is silly enough to to expect that it's his own fault not yours. Client's should not try to base their expectations for their encounter on how an SP clicked with another client based on a review or Reco. A client should take the onus upon themselves to figure out if THEY will have chemistry with and SP based on their own assessment. You seem fantastic to me, don't worry about it.

I was on antidepressants for a while about 8 months ago. They had a sexual side effect that made it difficult for me to reach climax. Oh I still had desire and the ability to get a decent erection, but often I could not cum. Fortunately, I tend to live vicariously through the orgasms of my play partners. Being a cunnilingus aficionado and having a dick that did not pop off after five minutes helped in that area. Seriously, if my partner has a good time, then I had a good time. There was never any sense of embarrassment or shame, a little frustration possibly, if I'm totally honest. Additional Comments: Great question! It brings me to the reason I partake in this lifestyle. I have a good sex life with my wife of over thirty years. The only problem is that we have mismatched libido's. When we first met, I was a two to three times a day type guy and she was a two to three times a week type girl. Over the years we've both slowed down a bit; I'm down to 2-3 times a week and she is 2-3 times a month. Long ago we reached an understanding that if I kept my hobby discrete and always put my wife first, then she understood my needs and looked the other way. Having sex with lots of different and skilled partners has made me a better lover. My wife benefits from my practice sessions. Just recently I had a very satisfying play date and a few hours later repeated much of the same activity with my SO. Sure I was tired, but in the end we were both very satisfied and happy. In answer to the question was it written all over my face; no unless you used a black light you'd never know where my face has been.

LOL....my first session I was so nervous that I couldn't stay hard and didn't orgasm. Luckily the lady was very experienced and still made me feel great and I really enjoyed the intimacy. How I handled it was, pretty matter of factly, we both knew it wasn't going to happen so I just said it. The lady took a more reassuring approach and made me feel like it was ok and normal. I'm so glad I saw who I did and went with experience for my first time. Since others have mentioned her I've decided to edit my post to say Em was my first as well and I'm so grateful.

Me too. I can't imagine the cost and inconvenience of doing incalls in a hotel, and how impersonal it is. If a client is that worried about seeing any sp in her own location, he is considering seeing the wrong sps imo.

I think it's best to be honest. I never ignore anyone if they're polite and I answer all inquiries from those who again have been polite and haven't caused any issues. I'm not great at being diplomatic so however I'd word it I'd let them know we aren't a good match and perhaps suggest another lady who they might be better suited for.

I would tell "your friend" that most every man who's ever come to see an SP has felt the same pangs of anxiety and the same worries have crossed their mind. I would suggest that he take the time to look for a woman who speaks to him... One who stands out as someone who has similar thoughts and interests. One who he just likes the look of, the sound of, etc. Next, I would encourage him to feel the fear and do it anyway (one of my favourite mottos in life!!). IF he has chosen the right SP for him, she will pick up on his nerves, and be ready to make him feel comfortable and at ease. She won't apply pressure or have any expectations for their time together, and be willing to move at his pace. Tell your friend life is too short. Book that appointment. There is no such thing as being not worthy of desire and attention!!! :)

For me is the freedom I have. I have had other jobs, been self-employed in other facets, but this one I excel in:) I am able to be creative, be the " sensual giver" I am naturally. I care about my business, the industry and my clients! I have had a great day when I know I have boosted someone's self esteem, confidence and they leave feeling happy!