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Gentlemen would be astounded by the number of men who ask for change back but in my experience it's usually for the lower priced encounters. When I worked for an agency in Atlanta, they had appointments priced at 15 minute increments. Almost without fail, the client would arrive with $20's and want the $10/$5 change. At first I would scramble to give it, sometimes counting out quarters to ensure they got it; then the agency owner clued me in that it wasn't my responsibility to ensure they have the correct change. The clients knew the agency policy and were told on the phone to arrive with the exact amount but because I was new, they took advantage of my inexperience. I remember thinking to myself while giving it to them "If you can't afford to tip me 5/10$ then you can't afford to be paying for pussy; get your priorities straight!". Some peoples children... cat

Oh man, I ask for change all the time... Can you help me change out of my clothes... Shall we change positions... Should I change my technique... In fact, the best encounters leave me a very changed man, indeed! Er...but no, I haven't asked anyone if could change a twenty.

I would be slightly mortified if someone asked me for change for a multitude of reasons. Not because it's wrong per se, but mainly because 1) I probably wouldn't have any change to offer 2) it brings finances to the forefront of the encounter which isn't desirable and 3) it would be awkward. I have to admit that I would judge someone who asked. It would seem cheap. I also agree that it's the responsibility of the gentlemen (or woman, or couple) in question to have the appropriate amount... Cool thoughts for a Sunday morning. It's really unfortunate how professionalizing the experience makes it less desirable somehow. I wonder what the world would look like if we could ask for change like this and NOT have it be awkward or somehow 'cheap'. Again, it's the whole intersection of money and intimacy that makes all of this complicated, eh?

Wow... Really? Clearly you took nothing from the other thread you said this on last year. You seem to think that we just answer an email, lay on our backs and make a boat load of money - that we shouldn't be so ungrateful as to not rush to answer your email as we need to respect your money and time... And yet you cannot respect our time!?? Whether a lady does this full time or part time, it's a full time job. Answering emails, maintaining ads, keeping up their web presence, texting clients, making appointment arrangements, booking hotels, booking travel, making plans, upkeeping their blog, twitter account and website, arranging for new photos, I could go on. Oh right, and in addition to all of this, she's also building and maintaining relationships with her clients... Friendship, trust, etc. Then there's the "working days" themselves. And by the way? Outside of this industry, they are REAL PEOPLE!!! Some mothers, some wives, some girlfriends, some students, all homeowners or renters who have dishes to wash, laundry to do, and meals to prepare. Never mind a little something called downtime!!! I don't think you realize for a second how mentally, emotionally and physically taxing this profession is. Now don't get me wrong, I wouldn't trade it for the world. I LOVE it. But it is not "EASY MONEY". If you want the respect of an SP, and want her to be eager to reply to your emails, try showing a little respect yourself.

Never have I asked for change. If it is important to you, go to a corner store, buy something and break the $20.00 to get a $10 so you can have the exact amount. in the grand scheme of things, if you are paying several hundred dollars for an experience, the change is hardly a big deal.

I generally prefer e-mail as the initial mechanism of communication and contact. Texts are too short for initial introductions. Having said that, I fully expect that at some point there will be phone communication with the lady. The fact that I usually book well in advance, means that waiting a few days for a reply to an e-mail isn't a problem. At the end of the day, i'll use whatever method of communication the lady prefers. it is, after all, her business. Porthos

This is funny, sorry but I find it comical truly I do. :) I can't understand someone asking for change especially looking for 5/10 bucks back, lol. I recall a couple of visits where the ladies actually said " you gave me too much" wanted to hand it back, I smiled and said " you're cute, but no, that's yours,grab some lunch or dinner for yourself,enjoy"

I agree with the consensus that asking for change is bad etiquette. I also agree that the gentlemen who do ask are usually seeking lower priced encounters. If you are coming in for a 30 minute session you are either strapped financially or in a serious rush. If its the former and the 10 dollars means that much you should question whether you should have spent the rest. I have had this happen and it really does change the feeling in the room. Digging through my purse for a couple of 5's does not create a sexy goodbye :). most gentlemen tip and it really does create a positive feeling for the next visit. Just like the elimination of the penny we in this industry should agree to eliminate the 5 and 10 dollar bill... either that or I am going to add a fanny pack full of change to my lingerie collection. The man who wants change gets exactly what he asks for! Just my "2 cents" xoxo

No, never. It is embarrassing and sounds cheap to ask for change. I will rather make the effort to stop at a corner store and break it or give less tips at the end. I will not do anything to cause any uneasiness ( by asking for change) with the potential to ruin the fun.

There are so many kinds desires to be fulfilled... but two I can think of for myself (and not necessarily in the SP context) is: 1) some more MMF action as it's been way too long (oh yeah!), and also lots more play with sexually dominant/assertive/demanding women (double, oh yeah!!). Oh, and, I just wanted to say to the gents that who gives a shit if your fantasies are not about swinging off of the chandeliers, or if they might sound more vanilla than others....point is, they are your fantasies, and it's wonderful that you are sharing them, oxox

If my service is lets say 210 and you give me 220-you are entitled to your 10$ back, but I will be offended if you ask and yes I'll think you are cheap, just being honest. It is your responsibility to have the correct amount just as it is my responsibility to have all my necessities. Tips aren't to be asked for nor expected but being gracious and gentlemanly is:)

Asking for change sounds so funny it seems sad. I would NEVER do this. I am a planner so often have my dates set up well in advance and multiple hours. I make sure I know the appropriate donation amount and always have it prepared well before the date. Even if it was an odd number, let's say $535 and I was going to the bank...I would have the $35 in pocket and get $500. And I would probably count it out a few times just to make sure. Once we meet, the encounter is about us and our time together. I never want it to be about the money. Cub

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Text or email.....even though I have a great phone manner and a dulcet tone I prefer electronic communication. I have only spoken to a one or two SP's on the phone and those were requested confirmation calls. I don't get offended if some one doesn't return my email or text inquiries, I just move on. Peace MG

Sexy can be defined to myself in different ways, physical and mentally stimulating. * her face is flushed when she is a little nervous! had a little wine or is aroused sexually. * her smile that that is so sexy along with her laugh! then it is embedded in your mind like a everlasting photo. * her long or short beautiful hair * her nails on her hands and toes are manicured and she is wearing a sexy dress to accent her beautiful body. * she holds your hand while you both kiss * she wears sexy lingerie * candlelit dinner together where you get lost in her eyes. * taking a shower together embracing each other * her writing to you keeps you so excited about her * she is smart!speaks her mind!stands up for her beliefs * her attitude can be very sexy *her conifidence in herself and her desires in business and the boudoir. * loves to go on long walks and then hold hands or she puts her arm around your waist * her intelligence * her letting go of herself while making mad passionate love together. * the look in her face when she has succumb to the pleasure of her partner * spooning with her! and simply holding tightly * caressing her hair!and she does the same * knows that my nipples love to be played with a she pleasures you without you even telling her! instant sexy :) * GOOSEBUMPS rising on each other's skin....very sexy, along with erect nipples So much more

Never have asked for change. First I book multi hour encounters where that situation would end up working out. Second, since I plan ahead if I needed to break some money down to a five or ten I would do it before the encounter. Third, I tip, so if needing change a problem it also would balance out in the tip. And finally, for most of my encounters now, I use email money transfer so I can pay the exact amount Finally, if it is five or ten dollars, I couldn't be bothered worrying about it. My two cents (now that might be valuable with no pennies LOL) RG :-)

Leighxox, Zoe Zee, Kaylee Kisses, Kayla, Soleil, Krystal Rose, Keissy Hennessey... There's many women that provide excellent service.

I'd say (a quiet) confidence, quirkiness, and an off-beat sense of humor are pretty high on my list, along with intelligence. Yeah, these things do it for me :-D

I agree with some of you...sexy is a combiation of many things...but for me mostly...inteligence...smart is so sexy and smell...omg a man who smells good gets my knees weak...oufff add a smile to that and boom! :D BJ

I saw Rommy who is with a new agency here in Winnipeg and had a great time. Rommy is a super fit spinner with enhanced breasts who really gave me the GFE. Great location and atmosphere, had music and candles. Nice pre and post dual shower with great massage at end. Full length mirror in bedroom was enjoyed as well, got to see some great views :)Will repeat before she is gone.

If you have read some of my posts you will already know that I am a big hockey fan.... yep Toronto Maple Leafs.... and I have noticed over the years that people are more than happy to point out a the negatives about hockey so i thought I would point out a couple of recent hockey stories that show it in a more positive light... First... i have posted a link to a youtube video of the recent Rich Peverley event when he collapsed at the bench due to a cardiac event... he was saved and is ok but as you watch the video notice how all the players stop and support each other... the game is eventually canceled but it shows that while they battle hard with each other it is a game. http://https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9jivQgF6J1g The second story I would refer you to is the Ryan Smyth retirement last night in Edmonton.. at the start of the game he skated on the ice with his son.... and then as the game ended he sat on the bench crying as the crowd stood and clapped. Just two high points in hockey this season Just my opinion

I think there are a couple of things going on. We tend to think of what our engagement in this hobby/lifestyle, as exactly that. Certainly, it is purchasing a lady's time and companionship, and certain services that go along with that. Asking for change drives home the commodity aspect of the transaction, rather than the "relationship" aspect of the exchange. Also, it is a luxury item, so quibbling over 5 or 10 dollars, seems cheap. I have the same reaction when people complain of having to pay for parking when they visit a service provider. If you can't afford the parking, then you shouldn't be engaging in the hobby. There is absolutely nothing wrong with paying the exact amount requested by the provider. But I do not think that service providers can be expected to have change on hand. If one wants to pay the exact amount, then it is incumbent on the client to make sure they've figured that out in advance. I always have my money in the envelope. I have a "tip amount" tucked away and available. There are plenty of times I've had exact change, plenty of times when I've "overpaid" by 10 bucks. But to be honest, I've rarely felt like I've actually overpaid for what I received.

I just wanted to add something to what I have already said.. why would it be cheap for someone to ask for change? Not every gentleman that partakes on this life style has the same disposable income... what if for what ever reason this gentleman has a very restricted budget... and what if this gentlemen for what ever reason has no other way to have intimacy with a lady... We all have responsibilities and in a way we all have a budget for our regular day to day expenses.., and Fun expenses... some people has more than others but this does NOT make the Person CHEAP or a BAD Client... and yes what if For this person in particular the 10$ can be his bus fare to get to work.., or who knows... Yes I know that as providers (MAs or SPs) we are a luxury service... I much rather some one asks me for change than have someone barganing rates... I find trying to negociate much more insulting than asking for change... And to be honest os not that 5 or 10$ what is going to make a difference for me...

Sheesh ten bucks either way is nothing to lose sleep over. :confused0024: It probably costs that much in gas for some guys to go to the session.

I suspect you can almost guarantee it.

Just popped in my head, but I wonder if those guys that ask for change back are the same type of guys that would complain if the lady is a clock watcher and he only got the time he paid for Just wondering out loud RG

Hello Bros, was wondering if you could suggest any SP's that are similar in quality to Emily and by that I mean beautiful, sincere, safe, discrete and all and all a great person? Thanks, PM if you want

http://www.myspare.com/product/tomboi I have a pair like this and I LOVE it. No straps to dig into your sides, very comfortable and I've never had an issue with the dildo falling out!!! Ps: the garter straps are removable!!!

When you realize she looks as beautiful in a long glamorous gown on your arm going to the show as in shorts and a t-shirt painting the back fence together.

I have never asked a lady to make changes and don't think I ever would... i think it's my responsibility to get the money right before I get there. In all the times I have met a lady I don't think I gave not had the correct change more than once or twice and would feel pretty petty looking for a ten spot back. I can tell you that for the 1st time ever this past week I made a mistake and shorted a lady on the payment... it was an honest mistake on my part but I have to give kudos to the wonderful lady who handled it with grace an professionalism. She popped me a text and I apologized to her and rectified the oversight. My session with this lady was great and I would hope to see her again so I greatly appreciate the way she handled the situation.

I know of one lady (granted now she has a website) but when I met her, she didn't have a website. Her information was on her CERB profile page. Saw her for a couple encounters, plan to see her again this year. She has nine (deserved) pages of recommendations. She is a lady who takes her profession serious enough. Now on the other hand I saw a lady with a professionally styled website, one of the absolute worst ladies I ever saw. In fact not the worst, but the second worst SP I ever saw...but she had a website My point, don't rule out seeing a lady because she doesn't have a website. You may miss out on a seeing a gem. Personally, I do prefer contact via email. But I'm not so demanding that if she has another preferred method of contact, I'm not going to see her. And no matter what your preferred method of contact is, the lady, because it is her business, determines what is her preferred method of contact. If she prefers phone to email and I want to see her, then phone it is. Whatever the lady's preferred method of contact is, is what is used. It is her business to run, not yours, mine, or any other man's business. I also wouldn't be posting, where all CERB ladies can see, phrases like "if you don't communicate, you lose my business...." It just sets a negative tone, and the impression you leave isn't a good one. And maybe the lady didn't lose your business, she instead chose not to have you as a client. A morning rambling RG

Lol never been with a lady with a strap on toy... i guess I am a little intimidated by it ...... even more so now that I know you can't find one strong enough to stay together while you use it Cristy.. ;) lol

Nice to know there's some love to go around *kisses*

I think a woman can have sex with anyone they want for whatever price they want, including at no cost. To say a service provider is selling her service too cheap is assuming a lot from a limited perspective. Implying minimum acceptable prices makes the industry and your occupation your pimp in my opinion. I once had sex at no cost after a night out with a service provider I frequented for years, and this was at her invitation. (I asked her out for a friendly beer, I didn't "book" her for a date). Was she not allowed to act on a mutual connection due to our previous hobbying transactions? Of course this is very different, but what she chooses to do with her body and time is her choice, and being a member of this industry doesn't negate that fact. Its also important to remember that not all hobbyists can afford premium pricing, so should they not be able to procure services from a provider who is comfortable operating within their lower budget? Anyone who says they don't pay attention to rates when looking for a provider can obviously afford higher rates. I own a small company in a competitive trades industry, and am forced to quote against competition at prices I literally cannot match, often because they work unlicensed and cut corners, and while this seems difficult to deal with, my customers continue doing business with me because I fit what they are looking for, and they can afford to hire me. All I can say about those who go with the cheaper quote is I hope it works out for them, and give me a call if it doesn't. I'm not a frequent poster, but I am a frequent reader, and am well aware I've probably just set myself up for lots of criticism from any number of angles (which is part of the reason I don't often share my views), but I felt like sharing my opinion today, so there you are, have at it.

Besides google, just contact any advertiser with real great photo studio photos and ask for them to send you a link to their website. If they are 'borrowing' the photos, chances are very good that they do not have a website. This is not a 10000% guarantee, but most sps with professional quality photos also have websites. And sps who use those kinds of photos and do not have websites, you tend to question why they don't.

I find that most people are lazy when it comes to email - when it comes to NFLD from what I have heard from a few gentleman I know is the ladies want the "NOW" booking on the phone and not the eventual one over email. Its their loss as they are missing out on some of the nicest clients by being lazy. If you don't want to use email, don't put it in your ad or on your website. If you do use it but don't check it regularly it takes 2mins to set up an auto reply saying as much and to call if it is regarding a same day booking,etc. I only use email until the time comes to confirm via phone, and find that in the last few months most potential clients prefer this as there are WAY too MANY scams and untrustworthy ladies out there (sorry to say it, but its a reality). Building trust is important in this business and establishing a rapport in email prior to sharing a phone number is essential. I don't give out my number till I expect the potential client to provide me with theirs. Privacy is too hard to come by these days and unfortunately too many people have wrecked a basic trust in our business by random foolishness. i don't blame men for not wanting to disclose their numbers one bit.

I wake up in the morning, take a wonderfully long hot shower, and step out feeling ready for whatever may await. Looking into the mirror, the sexiest form begins to show through the mist. Then the mist clears. For those few fleeting moments before the veil lifts, however, I see my definition of sexy. And it is good. (Just in case it wasn't clear, that was a little self-deprecating humour there. Yeah. really. I look my best when I have no evidence to the contrary.) LOL... Seriously, though, Cristy hit the nail on the head. I've found, and still do, sexiness in all shapes and sizes, all types of personalities, and varied personal styles. Hard for me to nail it down to one thing. :)

What is sexy? It's the twinkle in the eye and the playful smile. It's being able to laugh at yourself and be ok with that. It's confident and intelligent and playful. It's being yourself even if it's not popular. It's a long t shirt and no underwear, leather gloves playing with a nipple. It's that kiss that promises more, it's the ability to be IN the moment with someone and going anywhere it leads. It's being able to make others feel special without sacrificing someone to do it. It's touching and being touched and having words whispered in the heat of passion. It's the taste and feel of someone you want and crave. It's the curve of a body, and the little personal things that someone does when they think no one is watching. It's love and acceptance, risk and vulnerability. And it's all the little things that are personal to us that make our stomach flutter, our pussies wet and our cocks hard. What is sexy? Everything!

Waiting to meet Black Sabbath.

I agree with you Nathalie. But really, the transaction aspect of this lifestyle shouldn't complicate matters, nor destroy the intimacy. It's simple, bring the correct donation and give it to the lady at the beginning of the encounter. If the client brings five or ten dollars too much, then that is money the lady should get. I suppose the lady could take another approach, the client is supposed to bring the correct donation. If he needs to get change he can run out to a corner store and get it and come back...but the clock has started ticking on his time. It was his fault he didn't come prepared. I guess as someone who tips/gifts I have no sympathy for someone who doesn't bring the correct donation and is so cheap, yes cheap that he wants five, ten dollars change back. Guess he doesn't tip. It's only that type of man that makes the intersection of money and intimacy complicated. For the gentlemen who appreciate a lady's companionship, this is a non issue to begin with A rambling RG

Thank you Savannah and Tracie, I think that's exactly what I need the underwear style harness, I'm excited to get one and to try it. Jabba the gent just needs to lay back and enjoy. Though not every girl gets off on performing pegging, there is great pleasure in it for those of us that do. For me it's naughty, so I think and that alone gets me excited, it brings sexual sensations to the man that those who like say are mind blowing, and watching a man become so aroused and into is in itself a huge turn on, also having the control to increase or decrease his sensations.

Guys...if you don't have the disposable (untraceable) cash, then its time for a different hobby. Just sayin.

Air miles? Seriously? Air Miles? You know the ladies pay a service charge on the transaction, and it is usually more when a premium travel card is used. Probably 3 or 4%, $10 on a standard visit. And it'd take you what, 3 visits to get enough arirmiles to buy a $10 Starbucks card? Pay her untraceable cash, and ask her to buy you a Starbucks card every 3 visits...

Have seen her several times, have had a good experience each time

Got home a little while ago...feeling sleepy( now who on heart ever thought a 6am flight would be a good idea...UGH!!! but cerbing some very interesting post here...now just got a call from my kid...gotta drive to Montréal to pick him up ....hopefully wont fall asleep on the road...would rather take a nap until tomorrow morning lol

I've recently been repeating with several of my regulars more often. And each session seems to get more intimate as time goes on. there is a level of trust and comfort that builds each time we meet. At times these become true GFE experiences. It makes it hard to see other new girls, when you know for sure that you will enjoy yourself with someone you have already seen many times.

I have seen many ladies, and developed some very special connections and memories with some, because they weren't concerned about a "NOW" encounter with me when I first contacted them (by email BTW) A NOW encounter something completely impossible for me to do due to my circumstances (living in smalltown Ontario) which requires me to always travel. But to those ladies, especially in my newbie days in this lifestyle, who took that leap of faith that I was a gentleman truly interested in an encounter with them, not just a "tire kicker" who liked to send emails to companions, a BIG THANK YOU Now I have, as I said first contacted the ladies by email. Some replied, wanting to talk to me over the phone, even if I was planning an encounter ahead of time. No problem, I asked the lady a good time to call her, and did in fact call her. If a phone call is part of a lady's screening protocols, I'll phone her (btw only two ladies requested a phone call before booking) And for some of us, phone calls are always long distance. But for all that I guess echoing Emily's point but from the other side of the coin. I'm one of those emailing clients/potential clients, but when I email you, it's because I want to see you. Granted, not "NOW" because a date "NOW" is impossible for me. But I need to plan "NOW" because I know in a few months I'll be free for a few hours to see you, and want to set up a encounter with you for then Anyhow, a long winded rambling from a planning ahead emailing client/potential client RG :-)

Well, it is not complicated and a reason exists for these qualification steps. The reason is that it stops most SHILL (Fake recommendations) being made. If we did not have this step the site could be (and would be) easily abused and the credibility of the recommendations goes downhill. so.... 1) Commenting on profiles does not count as a "POST" you need to comment on a public thread (Discussion). Join in a few conversations, contribute a little, let others see what you are all about as no one here will believe your recommendation without some substantial post history anyway. 2) Once you have 5 posts and have been a member for 5 days you can post a NEW recommendation for a lady who does not have one already. Other stuff opens up on the site when you contribute more as well (like elite member status opens the doors to some new threads here that standard members can not see but you need to earn those privileges by contributions) would you believe a recommendation from a new member with no post history? To me if it was the only thing that member posted I would just assume it was a SHILL post from the lady trying to stir up business or even a agent/friend/boyfriend/pimp/etc... the recommendations must be genuine and when you make it a little more difficult to just simply open a new account and post one it discourages a lot of this sort of undermined fake posting.

I believe that is why the OP referenced the smoking as a fetish. Many things that wind up one person's fetish motor completely turn someone else completely off. Part of the joy of Sexuality is the wide variety of it all.