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SexyLacy, Emily J, and Christycurves... together you have pretty much summed up all a man needs to know to enter into and fully appreciate the interactions between himself and his chosen partner. We, the gentlemen, should all aspire to be the "Mr Wonderful" Lara described in her blog. Thank you Lacy for launching this thread and thank you Emily J for contributing such an excellent find in the blogpost.

My checklist- honesty-you expect it so please give it. punctuality- I am, so please be. discretion-I give it, protect it, so please show me the same . Respect- not just when we are together, but continue to after we part, I will. I think the rest has been covered;)

There is so much I love in life and that makes me smile I could be typing for hours and never cover it all. The one love I will cover is the love of this thread that slows us down for a few minutes and focuses on the positive and wonderful in our lives. There's not enough of that so I love whenever it happens. Thank you :makeout:

I like quickies actually. Think they can be fun and kinky... The only problem with 15 min, I found, was what if it goes to 20 min or 22 min? How do you then stay with in your donation amount? If 15 min is 120, and HH is 160, and you go to 20min, does this now mean donation should be 130? lol....I stick to HH min, as most 15 min do go beyond 15 min anyways, especially when a shower is expected or offered.

I love so some many things, happiness, sunshine, kindness, compassion, generosity, but the most important things are- My parents. No matter how old I get I still think of them as mom and dad and need their support, hugs and kisses. Sadly, I no longer have my dad, I miss him terribly but I know I still have his love and I'm very grateful for having them both. I love my dogs, they are my children as I don't separate human importance over animal. They love me unconditionally and I them. They have emotions, feelings and I respect them and feel sad for those who can't or won't experience the special love and companionship a dog or any pet can give a human. Myself. No one can protect me better than myself, or be a better friend to me. It's taken years, as I've spent many listening to the negative noise of those who I allowed into my life who wanted only negativity for me, those who wanted to cause me harm and prove me unworthy. They have ALL been defeated:) Because I love me and I appreciate and love me for all my good points and bad. I'm certainly not perfect and that's what's so special about me, I'm flawed;) I can admit it, accept it and appreciate it all. To answer why I love those I do, because they love me, support/supported me and give/gave me a reason for being:) That's the core of love, it's unconditional, giving, undefeatable, precious and infinite. My father would have moved oceans for me, defeated any man that caused me harm and wanted nothing from me other than my happiness. How could I not love him:) My dogs don't give a shit about my looks, financial standing, what I'm wearing, smell like, how I talk, no judgements from them at all. They just want me to protect them, feed and shelter them, small price for all they give:) Love is such a wonderful emotion, lucky for those who experience it whether it be with a spouse, so, parent/child, human/pet, friend/friend, oneself, embrace it, share it, after all, we all need it. It makes us whole as people. It's the most precious gift to give and the most hurtful one to loose.

Fair point, however, in none of these examples do i see the sp doing the bbbj based on being asked for it by the client, she has done it voluntarily or offered. That is the point, of all of us cbj advertiser providers. Don't encourage clients to ask, don't ask, and don't expect that all the sps all do it all the time all it takes it to ask. This is the thing that we find offensive. To disrespect the ad and the sp, by this assumption that the ad is somehow a lie. Whether some sps put it in the ad, but provide it anyway is neither here nor there, the post was advising guys to ask for it regardless. The sp will let you know if this is something that is flexible or not, and the ones who are not flexible won't label you as a potential pushy problem client lol I don't know but if it were me as the client, I'd prefer not to be labeled as a potential pushy problem client guy, but more as a guy who doesn't ask for things that haven't been advertised.

Should be allowed back in general discussion area, it gives ALL clients a opportunity to read about important issues within this industry and getting an insight from ALL providers on different issues. It is not advertising, it is issues within the industry. Just saying ;) BTW great article SexyLacy.

I think there's a demand, and a place, for everything from 15 minutes to a week away on vacation. What matters is who is comfortable, and willing, to offer the service and which clients will be good clients no matter the time, or service, involved. I would never want an extended weekend stay with a lady as it's just not something I'm interested in, but I get why some do and think it's great. Although I don't think 15 minutes would be for me, I can see the appeal. Forgetting about all the logistics (time management etc.) behind the possible option, if the same level of respect is present as with the more commonly accepted options, why the hell not. :)

As a fetish companion, much of what makes a good client is the same as for any other service provider, but I do have some different criteria as well. Good clients read my website and include all the information I request in our initial contact. They know what they want and communicate clearly, so I have to do minimal clarification and we can keep our pre-session communication quick and succinct. I want a straight, to the point discussion about specific activities and vibe, since much of what I do is fulfilling very specific fantasies. Punctuality, hygiene, gracefully managing the money and being generally respectful are all important. In person, before we get started, they easily get on the same page with me as far as my in session expectations around communication, safewords and my limits. They honestly answer my questions about health conditions that might cause issues with some activities and what their limits are. In session, my best clients are responsive and communicative. Their body language and noises tell me that they're enjoying themselves. They communicate verbally about what feels good, what hurts too much, if they want more or less. They don't expect me to read their minds, and they understand that even if they're submissive, a hot scene is a collaborative effort, and they can't be a completely passive actor. They have realistic expectations for the session and understand that things may not go exactly the way they do in their fantasies, and that's no ones fault, it's just reality. They're honest about their focus and intention - if they tell me they want to do whatever I want, they're sincere about it and follow through. If they want to do something servicey because it gets them off, they're honest about it and don't pretend that it's actually about my pleasure first. And if they really are wanting to focus on my pleasure, they listen and actually do the things that I find pleasurable, not the things they assume a woman should find pleasurable. My favourite clients also are into the kinks that I want to explore or are into something totally novel that I never get to do. I have fun no matter what, with a good client, but I get giddy with delight when I get to try something new or do my favourite things. Good clients respect my time and don't linger long after our session is done. They have a reasonable idea of what they might need for aftercare and communicate that to me so I can build it into our session time (quick clean up and you're good? 20 minutes of afterglow, cuddling and coming down?) They're warm and interactive after the session and don't seem ashamed or distant (these are valid emotional responses too, particularly since we sometimes explore very taboo stuff, and it doesn't make a person a bad client at all, but it's a difficult response for me, because I want everyone I see to leave feeling amazing.)

While I'm sure politely asking is far from the worst thing a client can do, I can certainly see how it would be annoying to be asked. Think of it from the lady's point of view. You take the time to make your website/ad and put all necessary information in there that you can think of. And then despite doing so people still ask the question. That tells them you either didn't take the time to read their rules or don't believe what they say. Probably not so bad the first or second or fifth time it happens. But I'm sure it gets old fast, and a person gets tired of saying they mean it when they say no. Being put into a position where you have to say no can also be awkward for some people, especially when the question was already answered in the ad. To be fair, I'm sure some ladies don't mind being asked. Personally, I just don't think it's worth the chance at, even unintentionally, offending or annoying someone. While I disagree with your first point I at least understand it and see where you're coming from, but this part doesn't make sense to me at all. I'm sure some people do play around with figures on age and measurements, but you can't seriously equate that to posted rules and restrictions. I mean, using that logic would you also question a lady about her donation amount?

I've never been a fan of the envelope system. I sometimes wonder "Is it just full of Canadian Tire money?" and take a peek, just to be safe..lol I guess some people find it less, crass and feel it's classier? I don't know. As long as you don't show up with a ziploc full of loonies, or whip out your wallet and count it out into my hand (that's a mood killer), I'm fine with no envelope. Kim

I do understand some want a quick rub during lunch break but unfortunately by time we walk up my stairs I unzip your pants that will basically be 15 minutes lol I do offer 30 minute rub and tug for those in a rush but that isn't even enough time to actually chat and enjoy each other I do prefer the hour or longer because its gives us more time to cuddle and have some fun I am all about making that connection with whom I spend time with ... The longer the more enjoyable and more time to explore and ravish each other!

I am having a cup of tea and trying to calm the f*ck down!!! Someone pushed ALL my buttons and tested ALL my boundaries!!!

Such an awesome thread :) I love... My kids...most precious people in my life. they bring joy, laughter, headaches lol...but love every minute :D My parents and siblings...We are always there for each other...priceless! Playing volleyball...been my passion sport for over 35 years... The casino...just love playing cards (mostly poker) I got that from my parents :) The warm sun on my skin...feels so good! I love genuine positive smiling people...makes me smile :) Traveling and meeting new people...makes me feel wealthier! True friends...the ones you know have your back! Smart people...so stimulating...please pick my brains lol Dark chocolate...my weakness! The beach, the ocean...soothing! I love getting a compliment, specially from a total stranger...makes me feel special :) Bianca xxx

A good client to me would be: Please be on time as you would expect me to be (if for whatever reason you cannot make the appointment please give notice for cancellation...Life happens and I truely do understand that) Good hygiene is a must (I always take a shower and brush my teeth before the appointment please do the same...if you need to take a shower you are more than welcome to at my place) Respect! (The upmost important thing on my list) please put the donation in an envelope and place on table before the appointment Good communication and positive vibes always!

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Lots of very judgemental people here... Fact is, some guys don't want to get to know the girls because they have a SO at home. They don't want to develop a friendship, they don't want to hang out. They want sex! That's it. That's all. So maybe a 15 min visit is exactly the right thing. Lets not forget these are business relationships...

Everyone should routinely delete all their messages if possible. Things that are just joking around to you and your friends may look very different to someone else. And they have software that will run a quick check on every one of your contacts. So if any of them are red flagged you will be too. That red flag will stay on your file forever.

To me, 15 minutes would never be enough. I have been requested for 15 minutes to 1/2 hour, but it's just not something that I offer. I did offer them in the past, but found that they had no substance to them, it was just get in, get off, get out, not my style at all. I really like the time I spend with a gentleman to get to know him, talk with him, share thoughts, and a whole lot of fun!, especially the cuddling afterwards, how on earth do you fit that into 15 minutes?

I love Scottish castles. My family roots originated in Scotland. Castles represent luxurious lives of the royal and wealthy. Power and strength are also related with castles. Castles are also places of protection and safety. The romance. Large wood burning fireplaces in every room. The look and feel of the stone, wood plank floors and wood beam ceilings. The beautiful gardens and courtyards. There is always a warm bed for friends and family to rest. The peace and tranquility of the countryside. Secret rooms and passageways. Castles are a reminder of the past; where we came from; and how far we have come. I would love to live in a modern castle like the Darien Castle. http://dantyree.com/plans/darien/ I would have a live-in courtesan to keep me company.

I wasn't going to say anything as I believe to each his own.... but really? 15 minutes.... Two strangers who feel that sudden attraction, in the middle of nowhere! Find, let's get at it and quick... For a meeting with a lady that takes the time to get all done up, attractive, smelling amazing, looking amazing.... Well for me, I want to take the time to speak with her. I want to look at her, listen to her speak and laugh. I want to see her move... I want to really enjoy all she hast to offer. If I want a quick one, well I call upon 'Gertrude'... My right hand as I am right handed!! ;) Just saying!!

The best solution for the SPs who currently advertise CBJ only but usually provide BBBJ would be to advertise "BBBJ (YMMV)", or something to that effect. Unfortunately, few SPs are willing to do that. I suspect it's because they fear problems with clients to whom they don't want to provide BBBJ for hygiene or other reasons. That said, I don't agree with FO that a client who asks a provider who advertises CBJ only is pushy or problematic if he asks politely after the first session, "Would you consider doing BBBJ next time?" All the SP has to do is reply, "No, sorry, it's a strict rule and I don't make exceptions". On the other hand, if the client then attempts to negotiate somehow, that would definitely be pushy. One last note - very few SPs are totally honest about their ages, measurements and weights, so why should they be offended if a client questions other items in their ads such as CBJ only when it's well known that many SPs don't follow what they say about it?

Hmmm 1- Family- because they are so special in your life, especially siblings after us losing both parents in past years, brings everyone together on special occasions. 2- Women- especially those here on this board, as I have made many friendships over the years with them, and have made so many new friends now too. They allow me to explore my sexuality and desires that continues to grow. 3- Travel- love visiting different countries and also traveling within Canada. 4- Flowers- I enjoy gardening, I have a green thumb. 5- Sleeping Naked- just because I can :) 6- Love being Flirtatious- it arouses me, with women here on the board. 7- Love having a lady playing with my nipples- because it excites me;) I get goosebumps from it, the lady can bite,lick,flick,suck, I find it very erotic. 8-Love my 5 k walk in the am, and if I can squeeze in a 5-8 k bike ride in the am as well it's fabulous way to start the day. Cheers! :)

I had another fantastic session with Nikky the lovely Fox today. Oh my goodness, what a sweetheart she was and what work ethics! Let me explain. She was waken up by some construction just above her hotel room early this morning. My appointment was her first and early in the morning. Imagine the pressure and the unpleasantness for her to have to call the front desk to complain and having to change room, pack and unpack, take a shower, and grab something to eat for breakfast ( not even sure she had time for that!). But despite all that, you'd never notice all these hassles she had just gone through. She was fresh as a spring flower! She refused to let anything affect her level of service. With a big sweet smile on her face and wearing a beautiful little tight lingerie, she greeted me with big hugs and tons of dfk's! After giving her the goodies I got from Timmy and presenting her with a little gift, we went almost non-stop with passionate kisses. My, this little sweet goddess can kiss - her lips are so luscious and soft! I almost forgot how good it felt since I hadn't seen her for a while. The endearing part about her is she'd let me know what worked for her, which areas of her body she liked to be kissed, touched and caressed when I was pleasing her, and above all, she'd comment how good I was making her feel! Nikky is such a sweetheart - I will continue to see her for a long time!

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Because you are not an SP- that advertises CBJ only and only provides what she advertises...

A few issues here. First, when you enter a foreign country, you are entering at the discretion of a foreign government. You have no RIGHT of entry. With that in mind, everything on or about your person is subject to scrutiny under the laws of the receiving country. EVERY country has laws regarding the movement of people and goods across international borders. Second, when you enter a foreign country, the standards of law, evidence and reasonable search and seizure are those of the receiving country. You can be as "righteously indignified" as you wish, but it comes down to four words: "Their country, their rules." Last, and probably most important? If you don't want your dirty laundry seen by foreign governments, don't bring it along.

For me that is enough time to answer the door, let the lady in pour the glass of wine and we start the conversation, either getting to know one another if the companion and I don't know each other, or reconnecting if I'm having a encounter with a companion who is more a friend. I personally prefer longer encounters, now I like four hour encounter. And I have had very memorable encounters where roughly two and a half hours of that four hours were spent in the living room of the hotel suite with the lady just reconnecting and enjoying each other's company. So for me, and speaking for me only, a fifteen minute encounter would be a very empty encounter, serving primarily one purpose. That is not to criticize those that seek such encounters out, it's just not for me A rambling RG

I had an amazing time with Karmen and Scarlette at their condo. They offer a super hot duo massage experience that I highly recommend. The location was easy to find. Havind the entire place to ourselves,we had a great time!! We got to know each other while listening to some cool tunes in the living room. Karmen is Mandy66 on here so you can look up her profile and many great reviews. This was my first time seing her as an indy with her duo partner Scarlette. Mandy is as sexy as ever and really fit; she mentioned doing kickboxing. I have to say it was a huge turn on to see her be so affectionate with Scarlette. She has dark hair and cool tattoos. That ass!! Check out their profile on here for some pics. Both ladies are really skilled MAs that like having a good time and their positive energy is infectious.

CERBing and enjoying a nice glass of Spanish wine 'Campo Viejo Rioja' 2004 Really enjoying it!! And Jafo, there will always be people trying to push you to the limit! I'm with you you man! :)

Well, I didn't expect to drive home last night on snow covered, slick roads. LOL...like I said, just gotta laugh now. It's all good, though. Made a decision last week that was effectively a U-turn in my life. Scary, but needed. So, exciting times ahead for this annoying boy from Moncton. Enjoy your Friday and your Weekend. :)

purple with a little bow :)

Underwear? What are those? Lol .....absolutely none!

Your positive thoughts are 2nd to none, Tom, my thoughts are with you, my good man!

I really like Karmen & Scarlette. Karmen or Mandy66 has been reviewed here a lot. Just do a search. She's now indy and offers massage in a nice condo. I use to see her at cmj, but its fun to visit her in this discreet location. Its like a sexy adventure. You have the whole place to yourself!! Plus her duo partner is stunningly attractive. Scarlette is dark haired and has many cool tattoos. Still dreaming about that ass!! These hot vixens are very affectionate with each other too ;)

And I don't get this. This is at least the third time this has been expressed in this thread. Why would someone assume an SP could willingly provide a service directly opposite of what she advertises? Especially a service as polarizing as bbbj vs cbj? Am I missing something by taking an SP's website at face value?

That's fucking deliciously beautiful. I pictured all that in my mind and it was so hot and arousing.... self pleasure is an amazing thing and has it's own place just as does all forms of sex and sexual/sensual arousal.

Can you see it?

Again sorry you went through this Victoria. Too bad going to St. John's can't be a drama free (and sugar free ;-) ) city to tour for the ladies Pretty bad when a boy from Ontario can figure out what is going on...and no one on CERB is being bashed btw RG

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Just came to read this thread for the first time and... OUCH people! Wow is all i can say to some of these responses. I used to regularly offer 15-minute encounters when I started in the industry. A lot of guys liked it as a 'quick introduction' and would book longer the next time. They NEVER made me feel cheapened or like cum dumpster. I don't offer them regularly anymore (I don't really offer anything less than an hour) because I personally prefer longer encounters - but I would never, EVER judge someone for wanting a quick release. And I definitely would never demean a woman for offering it. If you need more than 15 minutes, great! You're in a place where many ladies specialize in longer encounters. The 'full experience' so to speak. But some guys can only afford a quick bj. Or maybe their SO is watching their time so really that's all they can fit in. ANd maybe the SP needs to money to pay her rent. If it doesn't work for you, then find what works - but why in the world are people judging and saying things like 'Okay great, glad to see people don't want these encounters'. All you're doing in insulting the people who DO, and the girls who DO offer them. And you know what? I do have one regular gent who pops in when he can for a quick BJ. I like it. He walks in, I get on my knees, and I get him off. Do you think that cheapens me? If you do, I shake my head at you, seriously. I thought this site was the place to keep it to yourself if you're not saying anything nice... well judging and insulting others for their choice of encounters is doing the exact opposite.

I've offered them on two occasions. 1) When I started to be an SP, I was living with roomates and had a really limited windows to offer incall so 15 minutes was better than a 4 hours session 2) When I had two regular that were clock wise, to see me two or three time a week for an in-out BJ during their lunch break. When I was in Ottawa, I used to live really close to gov building office My own personal opinion? I don'T like them. That's when I felt "use" as a whore, prostitute so to say and not as a human being , someone with feelings that may like to also receive a little of attention, be it a caress, kiss, slow lick I don't offer them anymore and will more likely soon remove the 30 minutes appointments.

What makes you think they don't look at this site? I know for a fact they do as I have spoken with police in the past in regards to the site. In fact a very nice lady police investigator contacted us not too long ago asking for assistance in a case. Now, your new so I suspect you think prostitution is illegal right? We watch a lot of american TV and prostitution in Canada (unlike MOST of the USA) is very much legal here. In canada streetwalking (public solicitation), brothels (common bawdy houses) and pimping/procuring is illegal. The actual exchange for money for sex in private is very much legal and since a website is not considered a PUBLIC PLACE discussing and advertising such activities in classified ads and online is NOT illegal. We do not allow discussions of illegal nature here. Included on this list is - streetwalkers - FS massage spa's - public brothels - sex in public (including "Car dates") - underage (18 is the legal age) - drugs - pimping and so on... Hope that helps