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I've found that being myself is a fabulous screening tool!! I'm very vocal on some boards and on twitter, I tell it like it is, sometimes I'm criticized for that and sometimes I'm applauded. People tend to either be turned on or off. If a gent doesn't like the way I post or tweet and doesn't book me because of that, it's a win / win... it's almost guaranteed he won't like me in the flesh. On the other hand, my posts and tweets have attracted some very wonderful gentlemen who appreciate my genuine nature. It's been a huge benefit to me to be myself, and it takes very little effort :)

I can be no other person except myself (everyone else is taken) because to do so doesn't show any self love. Sex, sensuality and connection are very intimate things and for me, I need to be personally involved in the moment to give them meaning and energy. I give no less then 100% of myself each and every time whether it is reciprocated or not. To me, sexy, beautiful, erotic etc. are a package deal: inside and out. You can't have a beautiful sexy outside if your inside is flat and emotionless. You can have an amazing inside which influences what others see on the outside. As Brad said, it isn't unauthentic to not fully disclose or share everything, it is human nature. We all reserve parts of ourselves for certain people, situations or even just for ourselves. We may temper our true nature for the person we are with but that doesn't mean they are not getting the authentic person; we all have nuances to our personalities and desires. I think most people are interested in an authentic experience with a real person and if they don't feel they are receiving that, they move on. I'm sure there are plenty of fly-by-night SP's who believed they could just show up and not give of themselves and many clients who felt there was no involvement or connection. We're human, touch and connection is part of our need and within that we like to feel valued.

Someone just sent me an email. All it said was, "menu/rates" ......so I sent a link to PizzaPizza.

I have been in plenty of threesomes over the years.. both on and off camera.. and when I'm with a partner who I know is 'ooing' and 'awing' way over the top.. I'm completely turned off and have no clue what to do .. to either match her fakeness or just fade into the background. BUT when this happens I'd say 50% of the clients/viewers love it.. and the other 50% are turned off like myself.. When it's genuine fun.. I"m in heaven.. and have a blast.. and this is evident to the participants/viewers.. Unfortunately I don't usually know the lady in question is disingenuous until we're in the thick of things.. and she's practically cumming before we've even started! ugh.. bleh and ick.. lol.. I personally don't know how someone can fake it for an hour or two and not be strained from it..

Just to fine-tune that interpretation, I think that the "I'm not racist, but..." prefix demonstrates that the speaker recognizes that other people are racism-sensitive... not that the speaker him/herself is more self-aware. In other words, it shows that they're aware that the environment of conversation is changing... but they still haven't examined their own content. I think one of the hazards of being a good SP is that, in making your clients feel comfortable and safe, you create an environment in which they let slip things they might normally guard from strangers. Also, because they're beginning to feel an intimate bond with you, they want to reinforce that bond with "honest sharing". It's a combination of showing you that they'll let their guard down, and (consciously or unconsciously) testing whether you're on the same team. Trouble is, some people's honest is too honest. Other professions I think suffer from this: doctors, lawyers, and of course psychologists. It's an occupational hazard when dealing with issues that go to your client's core self/identity and internal world.

In my opinion authentic trumps artifice every time. However, there is a place for subtle fakery. What if the provider is not in the best mood? What if she or he is slightly irritable? Should the client be exposed to the genuine mental & emotional state of the moment when the expectation is for a drama-free-getaway-from-it-all romp? I think as a quality service provider, presenting yourself as a projection of the client's expectations would be as much a part of the pre-date preparation as doing hair & make-up. That is not to say that a provider completely sublimates their own personality to be a play thing for the client, but rather a provider would strive to present the best themself they can be, despite real life circumstances. As with all things, it boils down to a matter of degree. I would expect my play date to be happy to see me, but I would not want forced or faked physical responses. The quickest way to ensure I will never repeat is to fake it when we are intimate. My longest lasting relationships with providers have all been with genuinely authentic personalities. I think I'm a fair judge of authenticity, in fact I think most people know instinctively when something does not ring true. Repeat encounters reinforce realness, as consistency comes into play. Over time the real personality begins to show, just like in the Real World or Big Brother. It may take more than a few visits, but in time even the most gifted faker will give themselves away. But even with my acute sence of veracity, I can be fooled. In the end we all believe what we want to believe. And yes, I want to believe that an attractive woman half my age finds me sexy. It is just better if the attraction is real.

I'm sure I'm not the only one that from day to day and even hour to hour can change my moods, desires and goals. I may start out the day in a buttoned up shirt and in a laid back attitude, being quiet and demure. Then later on I might want to turn it up a notch, feeling frisky and horny so I'll come here and verse those feelings openly if I want to attract someone in the same mood or just because I can. That's one of the nice things about cerb, our sexual lingo isn't censored we're free to express ourselves as we see fit. I think it would be a mistake for anyone to judge a person just because of their lingo on a sex site. People are complicated and layered and I think it is a beautiful thing to be as expressive as you feel. Explicit to risqué to demure and prim it's all allowed and enjoyable so long as there is some creativity involved, imo Crude doesn't =classless nor does posting pretty words=class:)

Katherine, Ms. Manda, Emily Wilson (although very restrictive service but fun nonetheless) all have beautiful behinds not to mention Sierra and based on her pics certainly Cristy Curves.

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I think it's been said but in my own words, I don't care and probably wouldn't be able to tell. I see the ladies because I want them to make me feel wanted and desired. I do choose the ladies based on what they write so as long as those conditions are met, I'm good with it. That said, if she is just going through the motions then obviously I don't feel wanted or desired. I guess there is no simple answer just subtle nuances.

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I know this is directed at the men but I wanted to say that even the most genuine of providers goes through the motions from time to time, it's almost impossible not to, unless you want to kill the moment for your partner. By this I mean even when those of us who have the luxury of being very selective with whom we meet, those of us who choose so there can be chemistry, even then we can have moments when it just isn't working or doesn't work, when you realized there is no chemistry, at those times you aren't going to let your partner know. You'd want him/her to still enjoy, right? This would be considered going through the motions. When I'm with the men I'm with I'm there for me as well. I treat all my chosen clients as actual dates. But even the most planned date can go wrong and sometimes you have to be/or do things that you wouldn't in your "normal" life . I'm very outspoken, forthright, yet sometimes I have to bite my lip, is this not being me, authentic? There are times in bed when in the beginning I was turned on but something changed, so I go through the motions, not being authentic? There have been times when I've accepted a booking from a client for him, not me, not both of us, but to suit his schedule, not authentic? My points are I think those of us who are ourselves have to act from time to time, it's the business, when dealing with people authenticity sometimes has to be replaced with a more manufactured persona, or you'd be considered rude or you might hurt someone's feelings and I'm trying to be more diplomatic;) These terms are used with to much importance anyway imo. They are as common now as gorgeous, amazing, beautiful, the best, classy, etc, etc. Anyone can call themselves or anyone what they wish it doesn't make it true and I'm not sure why we should care. I think we all need to be/do what works for you/me us and be happy:).

I was curious, to you men... do you prefer a genuine and authentic approach? One where the SP is truly herself, and fully immersed in the moment with you? One where everything she posts, emails, tweets, etc is a TRUE reflection of who she truly is? OR do you prefer the... somewhat less authentic approach, where the SP is clearly defined as such, posts, etc are clearly manufactured and during sessions she is clearly "going through the motions"? I know this seems like a no brainer and not worth questioning... But I don't think it is that black and white. Also, can you tell when an SP is being genuine vs one who is fake? Look forward to your responses. Please keep in mind that this is NOT intended to be a specific thread to pin point those SPs who may be one way or another. Keep your responses vague and non-specific!!! :) xo

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I think this thread illuminates the diversity that is present here in this community. For me, personally, I think it comes from both experience and personal preference. Some providers do advertise a little more explicitly and that's their decision to do so--it works for them and they prefer to advertise in that manner. I prefer not to do so. When I first started advertising, I kept advertising as a student. Yet, once I realized that every other girl was almost doing the same thing even if they weren't a student (lol), I decided to change how I advertised (save for the few obvious jersey pictures lol). This didn't happen because I wanted to be seen in a certain light. I did so because I wanted to be personalize my brand. For some girls, being explicit, that's their "thing." Others, not so much.

My initial thought to the question was 'of course she should be herself!'. But I don't think it's as simple as that. I think her online presence should be true to herself. I literally saw someone just because of a very different approach to how she advertised, and I liked that about her. I think that being someone else might attract people you wouldn't normally like to be with, even in a professional capacity (but I say this without any experience on the other side). But in person, it's a bit harder. In a different field that I work in, I have my own set of clients, some that I absolutely love, and some that I'm not that fond of. I do feel myself going through the motions (smiling, complimenting, etc) when my client is not someone I probably wouldn't get along with outside work, and to those clients, they deserve that version of me. It would be hypocritical for me to say that all SPs should only be themselves with a client, and not put on a show, because in the end of the day, this is a method of income, and to risk it for some idealized notion is not realistic in my opinion.

Hard to say what is best for you. If you are thinking on photography, you will be wise to start advertising say on kijji first to build your experience and to see if there are enough interest in all area's of photography. I say this because, if you are looking to only have escort boudoir clients, it will be far and few in between. From a finance point, it will be a hard go if only advertising for escort boudoir. As in any business the more versatile you are, the better your business can grow. Also, try to submit some pics into contest and or galleries, so that when people are enquiring and booking you, you can have some credentials to offer to the table. This is will set you into a professional category rather then just " another dude with a camera" . Would love to see you do this and succeed! Lord knows, it is hard to find a good and open minded photographer!

I never weighed in on Naomi. She is a really beautiful lady with a body that is remarkable. Her personality is very sweet and her massage is soft and tender. If you like that you will like her. if you like beautifully shaped large natural firm breasts you will be in heaven. Realizing there are varying tastes, sometimes many of us want to take it farther in massage, I didn't write a recommendation yet. But she is remarkable for guys that want to be with a beautiful woman that is warm and engaging. I have seen her a few times and really like her.

Twolips makes a lot of sense... in a funny way could be like a carnivorous flower loves meat lol

I agree this is a broader social problem, certainly not limited to clients. However, I find that the client-service provider dynamic makes addressing it complicated in unique ways. The power dynamics of relying on clients to make a living, plus the intimacy of our interactions weights my choices. Actions I might take in my personal life or in a different kind of professional setting have different consequences for me here. I may tolerate things I wouldn't in another setting. The expectations placed on me by clients are different from expectations from friends or other professional associates. My safety considerations are different. This issue absolutely arrises in all areas of life, but encountering it in our industry creates some unique challenges and considerations, and so I wanted to talk about it in that specific context. @Phaedrus, I think you're very right, that people are often unwilling to self identify as a racist or homophobe. They understand in an abstract way that these are undesirable things, and so to avoid cognitive dissonance with their self perception as a good or moral person, they don't integrate the idea of being a racist with their self identity. However, I think when someone seeks to make excuses for their behaviour, in the form of, "I'm not a racist, but..." or "I have gay friends...", implicit in that is recognizing that they're aware that their behaviour or choice of words is likely to hurt or offend someone. Even if they don't see themselves as racist, they know very well that the words coming out of their mouth are. Things are getting better and shifting slowly. There's more awareness and more dialogue in mainstream culture about these kinds of things. But it's a slow process - even if we all know that overt -isms are bad, there are so many harmful ideas and stereotypes that we're taught all our lives and that are so easy to accept without questioning. I just wish and hope that everyone would make an effort to be more kind, more compassionate, to recognize our shared humanity and to also recognize that we have diverse experiences and not everyone has been afforded the same opportunities.

That is just way to funny....problem is some poor girl at pizza pizza is getting asked for the GFE Pizza with BBBJ.... lolol

Genuine & Authentic.. yes please. I can tell the difference and will not book if it seems too over the top. Peace MG

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Since I'm not a subtle person perhaps I just don't notice:) I've been here since 2011 and I haven't noticed any changes, but then again I don't pay much attention to others ads and I only look at threads that I find interesting or ones I feel I could add to. My writings/ads/posts and threads vary from explicit to somewhat conservative. They sometimes are expressions of my moods and feelings but certainly don't define who I am or how much class I have or don't have or anyone has for that matter. This is a forum where there are a multitude of personalities selling and searching for sex so I think it should be expected to see x rated to prim and if someone is sensitive to explicit language this may not be the place for them. After all a lot of these ads are written in fun, with a desire to peek interest, arouse and stimulate, certainly not to offend:) and if they do ignore them and read the ones you like:)

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Meg, you care, you share, you're sexy and beautiful and you give of yourself to this community. You're up front when required, supportive and full of life. Thanks for everything and can't wait for the next 1000!

I would have to say my #1 wish for a professional service for providers would be security - as in I would be able to bring along a trusted bodyguard to keeps tabs on me in case an appointment went sour. I have been in a couple of situations with otherwise vouched-for hobbyists that were a little too uncomfortable for my taste, and I would have loved to have been able to hit that panic button to protect myself, especially given that I am rather petite and unfortunately have been raped in the past (not by a hobbyist). Of course these situations were before I became experienced at what I do, and of the mind to get pepper spray, but having a discreet bodyguard would put my mind at ease during a date. Of course, it might just be wishful thinking... My other need would to have someone take calls for me as I am hearing impaired, but then again I would hope emails, vouchers, and recommendations would suffice.

I had gone to Whitehorse and will be coming to Yellowknife with dates to be posted soon....

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I never weighed in on Naomi. She is a really beautiful lady with a body that is remarkable.

Well yes I am an SP like U Savannah but just wanted to say how I feel about it. One really nice SP here told me I was an open book and that also applies for who I am in bed with the gentlemen. I do have LOTS of fun in this profession and gentlemen bring me LOTS of fun!! And to be sure I have fun I provide guidance on how to give me a DATY, take me in the pussy or ass, make me squirt whatever for I just want to have and give true orgasms!! And with it doesn't work just don't hide it and say love U will need to listen to me more and well if the gentleman doesn't cum back well hey it's lost!!! I truly think being authentic can bring a lot and won't change the way I am. And really great thread Savannah! Well everyone have lot of fun here for it's a fantastic place to have great fun!!!

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Although Dorinda seems to be the only lady who actually lives in the area, there are other ladies who pass through/tour there on occasion. I plan on taking a trip to northern Ontario this summer and will most likely stop in Pembroke as I make my way to Timmins. I suggest you use the Search function to search on the word "Pembroke" and that should pick up any ads of ladies' who are touring there. Since there is no separate city listing for Pembroke, most would likely advertise under the Ottawa section. I would highly recommend you consider Dorinda Bloom who is a well reco'd courtesan. She's not only beautiful, but a real sweetie too!

I am sure this would be a load of fun and I wish you all the best in getting it up and running but it is not something that would normally get me to attend but hey to each their own. LOL

Very well said

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Might I suggest you first search out the one with whom you are most attracted then contact her buy her preferred method, no need to be apprehensive any of us will welcome your contact and be very appreciative for it, and correspond with her to see if there is any chemistry.Any professional sp is going to make your first time special, memorable and very comfortable, we'll want you to come;) again you see:)

For a client to expect a lady to be fully, well as open as she can be, that is a reciprocal relationship, requiring the client to be open with the lady too. That comes over time, and with mutual trust and respect. I do prefer a lady to be herself, but on a first, even second meeting, to expect a lady to show all herself (is that the right way to phrase it) is unreasonable. Likewise I'm not going to show all myself to a lady on a first or even second encounter. But I want the lady to be herself, personality wise when I see her. I can glean what her personality is through her website, posts on CERB, emails and so on. I assume she can get an idea of what my personality is the same way (well except I have no website) But still we are all somewhat guarded, we don't completely open up. Now when you start getting to the third encounter on, that's when, at least in my experience, the dynamic changes between the two of you, and you both start being more open than is required in a SP/Client relationship. Your relationship for lack of a better word starts evolving into more of a friendship. I don't know if that answers your question A rambling RG

Without question I'd want the SP to be the person she is most comfortable being with me and the world. Regardless of the person, in whatever areas of our life, I don't think we ever get to see the true person. We all have masks. But, sincerity has a way of breaking through those. I don't want to be on a stage and act when I'm with someone, or interacting online in it's many forms with them, so I certainly wouldn't want them to feel they need to. My 2 cents. :)

This one is so strange! While I was in Cuba, I had a dream that Marilyn Denis lived upstairs of me in an old shabby house!! LMAO...Like wha???? But her place was awesome, like on her stage. Why in the world would SHE be in my dream? hahaha

I'd suggest engaging strangers or newcomers in the conversations is how you get more people engaged and interested. If they are just not interested you'll never know they are there.

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Actually wasn't sure whether to post this Ottawa Police press release in the news section or joke section. Look who was arrested for exposing himself. RG http://ottawapolice.ca/en/mediaroom/newsreleases/14-04-29/8f13e582-b9aa-4d70-b7b9-d9d054d5e659.aspx

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Good advice. RG. As an aside, from the number of posts where you have stated (mistakenly) that you are rambling, maybe you need to change your handle from RG to RM. Rambling Man! lol

Your asked for feedback, and started a thread which is going to elicit honest discussion and comments about the themes many of us providing sexual services experience with men seeking our services. Those themes inevitably result in generalizations to achieve a very particular task, which in this case was to unpack the various reasons why some SPs choose not to see men under a certain age. I don't see any disrespect happening here. And, if you truly feel that you exude respect and maturity, consider taking the advice graciously given here about how to tactfully approach service providers in seeking their company. Good luck! Anna

The more, the better :D In all honesty, I don't really care what people think of my tattoos...I didn't get them with other people in mind. And when I'm an old 80 years old, I'm just going to be the wild colorful one rocking the dance floor. Also other way to see it...it can be a bit of tease to have a lot of tattoos... imagine you are sitting on a bed, receiving a really good BJ, it's so good, you don't want to come right now...just look at ALL of the colorful colors to distract you a bit :)