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  1. 6 points
    The keys to making encounters extraordinary is actually quite simple. First, do your homework to ensure you understand your guest's expectations then do follow thru to make it happen before he arrives to the best of your ability. The next thing is THE key... STAY IN THE MOMENT from the minute you open the door until you close it after he leaves. By staying in the moment I mean... 1. Do not allow random thoughts floating thru your head to take hold. They are clouds, just let them float thru while you focus your attention on your guest. Don't allow the "am I doing this right?", "does this angle make my stomach look fat?" or "I need to go grocery shopping as soon as he's done." to interfere with your time with your guest. This time is about the two of you together and nothing else matters at this point. There is time to process a worthy unrelated thought after he's gone. 2. See the humanity in your guest before all else. This is the part of him you want to touch deeply. He isn't a business guru, construction worker, accountant, father, brother, son when he is with you. He is simply a man, with all of the qualities that makes him strong and vulnerable at the same time. Recognize this, let him be himself with no expectations that he is anything else. The human connection is the one that he will feel and not forget. 3. Follow the bouncing ball. Watch, listen and respond to the story that his body and tone of voice tell. Words can be deceptive but the body always tells the truth. He gives you all the clues you need to make a visit spectacular, you just need to be open to seeing them; to do that you need to follow the moment and trust your intuition to decipher what he is actually needing rather than just what he thinks he wants. It's easy once you practice it a bit, like karaoke. Just watch the little red bouncing ball of "right now". 4. Remember the humanity in him first and foremost. Make a mental file on him. After he leaves, think about what you learned about the real him and file that gold away. If you connected with him, he'll be back and you then have the keys to getting him to shed to masks he wears in the outside world, allowing him to once again just be himself but more efficiently than the last time leaving more time for genuine connection. Follow these steps with every visit and before long you are the Sanctuary he seeks when the outside world is closing in on him. You are who he turns to, to forget, to reconcile, to release all of the stresses that hunt him. These may or may not be conversations of words but more often with my guests they are a ballet of touch, movement and physical expression... Remember that this interaction isn't about you, it's about the both of you. It certainly isn't all about the sex. The physical is simply a vehicle to express ourselves together; it's about releasing what is needed and renewing one's life energy so we can meet the world another day from a positive frame of mind. A man comes to us because of a physical urge but that is merely symptomatic of the underlying need for connection without negativity whether your guest realizes it or not. He never needs to understand your process but he will never forget the time he shared with you if the connection to the real him is made... This is what I think makes an experience memorable... cat
  2. 4 points
    I think you just need to be you, find your own style, niche and be genuine or scripted, whatever works and remember you can't please everyone. There will be those who like you regardless, some will adore you and others will move on. We all have our fans but even though, that still won't guarantee a return visit. Because believe me you can give the best service, look great, talk sweet, be genuine, have a great locale that still won't be enough for some. There are types of men that want a regular girl, those who like variety and those who will try you because someone said you are great and some you just can't please. Just do for you that way you won't drive yourself crazy wondering:) Realistically everyone that sees you will form an opinion, good or bad. The most important one is the one you hold of yourself:)
  3. 3 points
    How beautiful, and there can't be any better advice. You surpass yourself with every post. Men should be lined around the block for you and women should follow your lead, once again I bow to your eloquence and thank you for contributing. This post has helped me and made me realize something new-thank you
  4. 3 points
    Anything done with love and kindness is memorable. We may not remember the specific person or events, but we remember that it happened with sincerity.
  5. 3 points
    Maraena said it .... a real experience. "Make it real.....don't fake it real" A sense of mutual enjoyment in spending time together. It can be sensed by both parties !! and results in us guys coming back. And as time goes on and repeat visits happen ... chemistry, comfort zones and trust builds and it becomes so very easy and fun. Dates to look forward to. :) It just takes time. You have heard "be yourself" Jade eh ? ;) Well truth is it will play a big part in keeping us coming back !! Genuine smiles, sense of humor and personality is huge in repeat business for Me as an example. It is hard to fake a smile time and time again. It is hard to be funny when you are not, and it is hard to be someone you are not. and Hey. Maybe even make friends. Can never have too many of them.
  6. 3 points
    I noticed while reading this thread, that everyone is saying "Be Yourself". Great advice, but if you're new to the industry and you're not familiar with things that men like, it's a good thing to start this thread to give you some things. Look at some of the recommendations that people have written about some of your peers, some might not have much information, some of go into great detail. I like everyone who is politically correct on this website will say be yourself, that's what we like, though there are also little things as well. Myself, I remember if a lady asks me if I want to set an appointment up in a certain way ( outfits, etc,) and sometimes the lady hasn't worn what was agreed upon, I don't write a bad review, I don't bring it up with the lady because it's not super important, I can get over it without making a big deal. If you are doing incalls, my opinion is that you have a nice location ( decorated, has a lived in feel), I feel that a room with a bed isn't all that exciting no matter how charming I feel you are. I think the environment reflects on the situation just as much as the person regardless of what you're meeting for. A stark room with a bed is just too business like in my opinion. Again, good points from everyone, the overwhelming theme seems to be yourself.
  7. 3 points
    Give into your sweet tooth and indulge in a bit of me...I can make you feel like you deserve to feel... Book a duo before Friday and experience myself and my sexy little vixen Scarlette for our exciting duo Fridays!!! Erotic massage kink and fetish play couples bdsm nuru massage hydrotherapy in a jacuzzi ***possibilities are endless*** pm me for details and booking or call 613-298-2029
  8. 3 points
    What makes an encounter truly Memorable for me is when ,for a short while ,I forget I am a "client" and I become her intimate companion her suitor her friend and lover during our time together, the embraces warm the kisses real and that feeling stays with me until well after I,ve left and reality once again sets in !
  9. 2 points
    Please note the ad Bp have a hot and wild time is by the same user that was demanding cam shows b4 we meet. I noticed similarities immediately and sure enough the cam fee was requested . I doubt the user is in our province
  10. 2 points
    Hello, I was wondering what's your advices on how to be memorable? What makes you come back? I know the service is very important but what else? I welcome friendly advice from you guys. :) Thank you Jade
  11. 2 points
    PLEASE, I urge all of you thinking of trying these type of drugs to visit your doctor and not be embarrassed! Honestly, they really don't give a shit about anything other than your health! If you are that self conscious, go to a clinic. The most important factor should be surviving the act and not how hard your dick gets! Life is more important than an orgasm! I have many friends over 50 who's doctors have even brought up the subject. It's not the fifties, it's a normal request now a days. Be safe, protect your health, become informed and THEN enjoy!
  12. 2 points
    Mosquitoes that are as big as vultures!
  13. 2 points
    I gave a very patient man $50 back last night. I arrived late for an outcall, we had plenty of time and weren't rushed, and he offered the full amount but I offered him a reduction for his patience. I'm sure he appreciated it although he certainly didn't expect it. What a sweetheart he was :p
  14. 2 points
    I generally write recommendations for providers who have made a positive impression on me. This is my way of saying thank you and of letting others know when a great Service Provider is operating locally. I try to be selective on which enounters are recommendation worthy. If I haven't penned a recommendation it is either because the encounter was not that memorable or because life and other considerations have taken priority. I have written recommendations as late as 12 months after the encounter. In one case, I was seeing a special lady regularly for close to a year, frequently as often as weekly; when I realized that I had not offered up an endorcement of any kind! They say memory is one of the first things to go! My hope is that a well written recommendation will bring new business or renewed business to the lady in question.
  15. 2 points
    4 more working days between this week and next ( check my schedule below) then please take note that i will have vacation starting wednesday afternoon, if you have any request to see me now please let me know :) come in to see me any time today at angels 3:30 - 11 pm schedule (angels) thursday may 22 - 3:30-11 (angels) (angels) friday may 23 - 12-11 (angels) (angels) sunday may 25 - 5-9 (angels) tuesday april 27th - last working day then off for vaca !! 613-274-7073 to book or private message me my specialty is entertaining even the most discriminating gentlemen..and i have an unstoppable desire to give affection i love to show off my heavenly body..and maybe you are in the mood to admire me.. But why stop at just that when you can meet me in person, up close and personal and see every detail in real life and experience me in a way that you just can't imagine.. i can't promise you anything. Its what i can show you that matters. By the time we meet, my playful, carefree, attitude will already have won you over. I could tell you about how young and tight my entire body is, but showing you would be better. I am in fact offering you great adult style entertainment. Crazy hot would be the understatement of the century! Whether you are the gent who wants a little tenderness or the birthday boy who wants to celebrate another great year of being alive, or perhaps you you thrive on new excitement. I could tell you all about it, but showing you would be the best! schedule (angels) thursday may 22 - 3:30-11 (angels) (angels) friday may 23 - 12-11 (angels) (angels) sunday may 25 - 5-9 (angels) tuesday april 27th - last working day then off for vaca !! 613-274-7073 to book or private message me entertainment in a relaxed environment
  16. 2 points
    I enjoyed talking with you as well Zorro1990 and am thankful for all the times we shared together! I am going to be back and here to talk anytime! Thinking of you P.S..... you guys are all awesome and always there for me. I appreciate you guys so much! xoxoxoxox
  17. 2 points
    hi there, thank you for checking my ad. You will not be disappointed with my A+++ services ( the lady, the services, the place) My name is Vivian. I'm 26 years old. Gorgeous, i am a classy looking Lady with long black hair, seductive cat eyes and full sexy lips, beautiful silky soft, tanned skin. work out body with all the right curves in the right places (32C, 24, 34) You have finally met the sweet girl next door, also the naughty girl in your dreams... I greet you at the door with a lovely smile then lead you to the massage room...I will start with a deep soothing tissue massage to relax all your muscles then follow with a soft, sensual, tease touch to invigorate your whole body then the fun time ... It will be the most relaxing, creative and passionate session for you ever. So amazing that you cannot help yourself from thinking about it and want to come back for more ! http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=92146 For relaxing massage $40/30m $50/45m $70/60m appointment only, call/text me at 613 712 1200 mon to sat 10am to 7pm
  18. 2 points
    I like introducing myself through PM; text messages are too short to compose much of a greeting and introduction. Being a member may not automatically mean you're a gentleman, but it is yet another bit of information a lady can use to look up for references. Ads which state "phone or text only" wouldn't get a PM from me (I'm interpreting it as the lady not wanting to watch her inbox), but I do find myself wishing I could do initial contact through it, even if it's just for the first message. I don't know just how much a CERB reputation can be worth to a lady; probably doesn't matter that much, I'm just being who I am here too. Okay, maybe I'm a little bit less shy on here...
  19. 2 points
    A lot of has already been said, and covered but for myself it has been being good friends,admiring,trusting,laughing,chatting, cuddling, saying hello to each other when you're not together and mutual admiration for each other but knowing when not to cross the line. Setting up plans for each repeat visit with longer durations, you get very comfortable, relaxed in each other's company.
  20. 2 points
    New Pics Chasity http://www.angelstouchmassage.ca/site/chasitys-profile/ NEW MA Ashley Brand New 19 year old cutie ....sweet, innocent girl next door look you will not be disappointed! http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/album.php?albumid=9073 New Sophia http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/album.php?albumid=9034 Come have some fun at our Private Meet & Greet May 30th ....More details here http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=179562 Ottawa's Largest Spa...Top Selection of MA's.....7 rooms and up to 18 ladies daily! Paradise Spa Pics http://www.angelstouchmassage.ca/site/paradisesparooms-profile/ Schedule Updated Daily .....Happy client comments too available on our website found under our sexy ladies profile!http://www.angelstouchmassage.ca/site/schedule/ Thursday Ashley 9-3 NEW Chloe 9-4 aka "XChloeX" April 9-4 Chasity 9-11 aka "Chasityxox" Sasha 9-11 aka "Sasha-Paradise" Mandy 10-6 aka "CandyMandy" Avah 11-6 aka "Avah" Holly 12-4 NEW Cherry 12-6 aka "Cherry Blossom" Kandice 4-11 aka "Sweet Kandice" Riley 2:30-11 aka "Riley Parks" Jamie 3:30-11 aka "Jamie-xo" Hannah 3:30-11 aka "Hannahxo" Samantha 3:30-11 aka "Naughty Samantha" Sabrina 6-11 aka "SabrinaXOX" Come for a 4 hand massage in our getaway room....an experience you will never forget Ottawa's Best Room! Regular Room spacious and in room shower Single Massage: 30 minutes $55. 45 minutes on special for $65. 60 minutes $80. 90 minutes $120. Duo Massage: 30 minute on special for $80. 45 minute on special for $100. 60 minute on special for $130. Getaway Room Fee: Room Features a hot tub,6 ft custom shower and fireplace for your enjoyment Single Massage: 30 minutes $70. 45 minutes $85. 60 minutes $100. 90 minutes $150. Session time @ Discretion of MA Duo Massage/Couples Massage: 2 Attendant 30 minute $100. 45 minute $120. 60 minute $150. Couples Massage: 1 Attendant 30 minute $70. 45 minute $85. 60 minute $100. HST included in all door fee prices Longer Session times available and at the Discretion of MA Chloe's Recommendation***NEW RECOMMENDATION http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=165602 Avah's Recommendations http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=169284 Riley Recommendation http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=162336 Kandice Discussions http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=168841 Jamie's Recommendation http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=104412& http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthr...ltr=J&t=114727 Samantha Recommendations http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=N&t=142241 Mandy's Recommendation http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=120757 Chasity Haylee-Back this Sunday :)
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  22. 2 points
    I am fairly new, therefore haven't met many friends, but I did post a reco before and I always ask first if it's ok. I agree, it's always nice to read a beautiful review. On the other hand ppl should refrain from negative comments. If you have nothing nice to say, then dont say anything. Thanks
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  24. 2 points
    I ended up dealing with Trish again over the recent robbery. She was very helpful in explaining how to proceed and what information I need to provide and what information I did NOT need to provide.
  25. 2 points
    After an amazing 1st meeting with a wonderful CERB Lady I popped her a quick thank you message and said that I hoped to see her again... she was very polite and professional as she replied that she thought she had wine on her breath when we met and that for our next meeting we both might want to freshen up with some mouthwash... lol... yes she politely told me my breath was not great.... i learned from that lady and now alway have mouthwash and toothbrush and toothpaste in my vehicle... when I get to hotel I head to one if the public washrooms brush my teeth...use monthwash ...wash my hands and then text the lady to say I have arrived. I am quite thankful to this lady for being so honest yet tactful with me.
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  28. 2 points
    This is probably something that has been posted before. I don't know and am too lazy to check old threads. But it occurs to me after the last couple days that we sometimes take for granted that an escorts life is all peaches and cream. They set up a nice incall location, post an ad, the calls come in and the clients show up. They pay, play and everybody is happy. The lady tidies up and ready for the next lucky fella. Kind of a lather, rinse, repeat scenario. Or the lady goes on tour, sets herself up in a nice discreet hotel location and pretty much the same thing. Well, yesterday, I came across a few things that made me realize that this isn't always the case. I read (on a different board) a story of a touring lady running into one mishap after another and because of it all, actually barely breaking even while on her first week on tour. Another story of a lady who received a man at her door who rudely told her she wasn't as hot as her pictures and too old (although her website is clearly defined with her age, body type and well laid out photos). The loser walked and business lost. I posted something on here that cheered someone up (no names needed) who had a rough go this weekend and was feeling a little down. I didn't even realize I was doing something nice at the time but glad I did. I guess my point here is that we all need to step back sometimes and put ourselves in other peoples shoes. We say things on message boards and do things in life possibly without any ill intent but our words and actions often effect even the strongest of people. We all get our feelings hurt and lose our self confidence and it might behoove all of us to say a kind word now and then for no other reason but to just help our fellow human beings out. Most on here are pretty aware of all of this and are pretty good at keeping things positive so this isn't directed at anyone. Just a general thought is all. Okay, my rambling is over, lol. Go back to having fun y'all.
  29. 2 points
    I was awakened last night by a severe calf cramp. White hot pain lancing up ones leg is a great way to break the sleep cycle. When the alarm roused me from sleep's embrace this morning, I still had the echo of last night's agony pulsing up my leg. Short of waking up with a migraine, this is my least favourite way to start the day. Additional Comments: Aww RG, we will always be here for you. I realize this may be a weak substitute, but I like to think there are men & women in this community who truly care about each other. Not a bad definition of a family, even if it is a virtual family.
  30. 2 points
    Yes retired. Her account is not active anymore. She will be missed...
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  32. 1 point
    Anyone have any experience with her that they could share or should I TOFTT? Here's her ad: http://winnipeg.backpage.com/FemaleEscorts/victoria-day-specia-only-with-a-beautiful-south-american-mixed-25/1992731
  33. 1 point
    Hello gentlemen and ladies, I am just curious to find out what makes U decide to write a recommendation on a lady U spent a great time with? And if U R not and or never doing it would just like to find out, if U don't mind sharing, what is or R the reasons? And to gentlemen wanting to do it, do U ever suggest to the lady U will or want to post a reco on her services? I am, as some other ladies I am sure, never asking for a recommendation but it's always great to find one or be notified by a gentleman that U have another nice reco! And U lovely ladies here, why U don't U want the gentlemen to post a recommendation on U and your services for I know some ladies don't like or want that? Many thanks everyone! A curious to know Barbara! xxxxoooo
  34. 1 point
    I am officially announcing my retirement as of now. With that I caution you to avoid all my ads ESPECIALLY ONES WITH OLD NUMBERS. Several have been reconnected and are running multiple girls off them. How do I know this? I have reason to believe that some of my old numbers are not only bait and switching my cllients but also strong arm robbing them possibly. I find it very odd that threads that have suggested this is happening have all dissapeared along with a thread about another fellow that was bait and switched. (on other erb board) I suspect this thread is going to disapear as well but I refuse to not attempt to warn clients that this is happening. I have been prevented from making any cash to leave this city safely. I've been bad dated, kidnapped, threatened harassed and warned to stay the hell off these sites. Being the stubborn outspoken woman I am and considering I've lost everything due to the many individuals profiting off exploiting me and attempting my ill fate I bid you farewell and caution you that I WILL NOT BE THE PERSON TO RESPOND ON ANY ADS WITH MY PICS FROM HERE ON FORWARD SO YOU WILL BE PUTTING YOURSELF IN A POTENTIALY DANGEROUS CIRCUMSTANCE SHOULD YOU CALL ANY ADS FROM HERE ON. Also the cops are not only aware they have treated me like a criminal and also outed my location more than once to individuals who have harmed me. Be warned. Let's see how long it takes to make this thread dissapear. Oh and I find it amusing that after speaking with an advocate in calgary yesterday that 2 men from the same area code then attempted to book me and I now read that there are threads suggesting calgary is to be avoided by sp's. I AM LEAVING THIS INDUSTRY COMPLETELY DUE TO ATTEMPTED EXPLOITATION BY NUMEROUS INDIVIDUALS. I have had first hand experiences in what leads up to all the missing woman here and also the police corruption that ignores and covers these facts. I sincerely wish all the other ladies the best. With all the cops on this board you would think we would be much safer! And I spoken to multiple advocates across canada about what is happening to me here and I will not be your victim any longer!
  35. 1 point
    I made a batch of good old fashioned Shake & Bake last night. I had a tray of chicken legs that needed cooking. They turned out better than I had hoped, all golden brown and crispy. The first bite told a different tale. The meat was off! :sm48: I had bought the chicken only the day before. Spat out the first mouthful and tossed the whole batch into the trash. Ended up having cereal for dinner instead.
  36. 1 point
    During my near 8 years here the number of recommendations I've written would be less than the fingers on one hand. Two maybe three. No real reason except I believe YMMV big time and because I'm not looking for services that others may be. So no real point from my perspective. Though I've chimed in with on some I've agreed with. Peace MG
  37. 1 point
    I actually went back and re-read some of my reco,s before answering this and I was somewhat surprised at what I found. First I give them out rather sparingly less often then I thought, secondly they all had a couple of things in common, not in what I wrote but in the experience itself. Thirdly they were at very different times in my hobbying experiences and lastly for each that I,ve been with more than once, the experience has remained recommendable or was even better than when I first reco,d them. 1. the experience at the time I reco,d it was truly memorable ! 2. the ladies were all genuinely interested in getting to know me and were very intuitive in what I would enjoy and clear verbally in what they liked ! interestingly they all had exceptional senses of humor ! 3. As I Gained experience the truly exceptional encounters I have had became more memorable as I realized how rare they were. 4. Those that I have reco,d have all surprised me in one way or another and continue to do so to this day !! Lastly these are my experiences and mine alone, I share them regretfully at times because I,m selfish, but like a fine wine or great meal I owe it to them they deserve and have earned their accolades !
  38. 1 point
    Finished and passed all my MidTerms with an average higher than expected.. taking in count the circumstances :) yay
  39. 1 point
    Was out last night with a lovely client and didn't kennel one of my dogs, came home to a shredded bag of dog food I forgot to pick up and she peed on my new rug:(
  40. 1 point
    Come have a Playdate with a Goddess; a True Canadian Beauty Today @ Luna 9-3 3049 Carling Ave. 613-721-4173 I am a sensual, playful, passionate, erotic, adventurous, and open-minded lady whose curves are all in the right places. Being naughty, tempting, warm and sensual comes natural to me. I am genuinely interested in satisfying your desires and making your dreams come true. So allow yourself to surrender to the firm but gentle touch of my hands and body. I Love to Tease but my goal is to Please, so each and every one on of your desires will always be met with me. My Deep tissue, Full Body Massages will make your Body Tingle, while my Smooth and Silky Warm Body Slides will make you want to Moan out. My sensual Erotic Touch will give you the Ultimate GF Experience and keep you coming back for more MA Services Include: ***Erotic Nude Massage **Genuine GF Experience **Erotic PS Experience **Sensual DFK **Sensual Body Slides **Reverse Massage **Teasing**Flirting **Extreme amounts of Touching Everywhere **Soapy Showers for 2 **Foot Fetishes/ Worship **Couple Friendly I look forward to Meeting and Pleasing all of you Gentlemen Call or Text Me Directly 613-700-5273 See You Soon!!!
  41. 1 point
    I do! I offer as much as possible. I have lulus that I have for those who like yoga wear... also shorts & tight boy shorts...(aka the el suave ones in paticular.)
  42. 1 point
    Just saw Kellyxo from CMJ for the second time this year. She was better then ever. Best session to date. A very beautiful tan woman that seduces your mind then your body. Very Sensual massage techniques. always a different experience, she keeps it interesting :)
  43. 1 point
    Hey!! Gorgeous women can be brilliant geeks too you know :) xo
  44. 1 point
    Re opening my account on CERB! Missed you guys a bunch! Happy to be back ;) :boobies:
  45. 1 point
    I suppose you could reply ... "Wassup ? ....My foot up your ass fucknut"
  46. 1 point
    the easiest way to avoid after-hours bs is to simply not answer your phone. I don't book via text unless it's someone I know, and although I have an outgoing message, I have my phone set not to accept incoming voicemails. I post in my ads that generic ("what's up?" type) or rude messages will probably be ignored, and that's often what I do. I don't engage at all with those people, trying to educate them or train them in etiquette isn't fun for me. Turn offs for me are people who try to tell me how to run my business tell me I don't advertise enough (if I'm booked why advertise??) cancel last minute or no show have a sense of entitlement take 17 emails to book an hour visit
  47. 1 point
    Agreed, what goes on behind closed doors between two consenting and naked adults is their business. Problem is some girls offer some services whereas others don't and guys sometimes expect that it's the same across the board. I worry about the MA's who have to deal with pushy clients expecting more when they only provide basics.
  48. 1 point
    I think its totally fair and makes complete sense to consider BBBJ along with other services (Greek, DATY, kissing...) part of a spectrum of services SPs have every right to refuse to provide for any reason as a legitimate claim on their rights to optimal health & safety. And, yes, while this thread is about gonorrhea, it's also become about issues of risk relative to BBBJ and other services as well. The NZ model represents the most ideal model in practice which we can draw and build on here in Canada. But, it does not mean a copy and paste approach is warranted. The idea that we will see success by outright banning sexual practices such BBBJ is nonsense. Again, creating markets, and expanding the rights of providers, including those who work for agencies to refuse ANY services they feel uncomfortable (or any client they feel uncomfortable seeing) with is alot more realistic. Aggressive educational campaigns and access to services that promote personal responsibility for ones's sexual health, including clients doing so will be another important piece. Along with increasing access to STI testing....hassle free clinics etc, and better educated and more receptive GPs. To go with this, mandatory health testing will also be a huge mistake despite many people saying it's a great idea, as it will create illegality where it did not exist before....where those disenfranchised from the formal registered system will be on society's shit list....and where all of the blame and medical control will be placed on the bodies of sex workers, instead of on clients and the general population. So, what's the connection between the mandatory testing and regulatory measures against BBBJ? What are we going to do?: Start fining workers who provide BBBJs to their clients?....How do we go about determining their 'risk levels'? Do we start tracking all SPs sexual partners in private to see whose bare cock they are sucking, maybe who they have screwed bareback on their own time and then use that as a reason to say, hey, no kissing and no daty with your clients....cuz you COULD have gonorrhea and/or you COULD give your client herpes. Banning BBBJs is going to create a specter of illegality and stigma. Bad idea! Sex work is not and has never been a level playing field. And standardizing sex acts like McDonald's happy meals is not going to resolve that.
  49. 1 point
    As someone who does most of my communications, including all first-time interactions by e-mail, I would never feel comfortable answering an introductory e-mail (or any other, to be honest) with a one line response like that. For this reason, e-mails always wait until I have sufficient time to sit down and write a personal, thoughtful response. E-mail goes to my phone, but unless it's time-senstive, it won't get answered until later on when I get home, after dinner, after I'm done entertaining, or after I'm done whatever else I need to do right now. I consider my communications as part of the whole experience I offer, and so I don't half-ass it, or rush it. Good communication (on both sides) can set the whole tone of a potential encounter, and I know that my e-mails have made new clients, or nervous folks feel 100% more confident about what may come. I don't like receiving one line e-mails, so I don't send them. But while I make special time to properly answer e-mails, I may still have spare moments throughout the day, while waiting for a guest to arrive, or waiting in line at Loblaws, to send out a tweet, bump my BP ad, etc. Also, for me, I actually do my due diligence with potential client's information, including their name, e-mail, phone number, and other information I might have about them. It takes a bit of time to run it though different bad date databases, Google, and do a few other top-secret hooker tricks. So I need to sit down and pay attention to doing these things, before I can respond to the e-mail. Also, if there is a reference to check, this can bring another party into the mix, which might also extend the response time. As well, e-mails that have all the proper information, included with a friendly introduction, always get answered much sooner the other ones that I dread answering where I have to press for more info. Sometimes I also take a day or two off, when I often cut myself off from non-essential work-related communications. If I get an e-mail on Saturday, looking for an appt next Thursday, I might not answer instantaneously. At this time I might be hanging out with my family, or Tweeting online, reading and responding to threads on CERB, or whatever else I feel like doing. Then on Monday when I consider myself "back to work", I'll take the necessary time to thoughtfully respond to gentlemen's inquiries. :) I say this, but I still often reply to e-mails on my days off; I just don't feel like I am obligated to be available 24/7 to answer inquiries. Overall I think I'm a pretty good communicator, and very good with response time. The only reason I'm responding to this thread, is that I have encountered situations exactly like this, (and I know many other ladies have too), where I've had clients who I haven't even met yet, e-mail a second time questioning me because they saw me do something online before receiving a response to their initial e-mail. While I want to be reliable, accommodating, and communicate well, a while back I made a promise to myself never to be a slave to my phone, e-mail, money or clients. Because this job can sometimes be unconventional in terms of hours & scheduling etc, it's important to set personal boundaries like this. I need time for me, otherwise I'd go crazy and wouldn't be useful or fun for anyone.
  50. 1 point
    Your not going to see Carley back anytime soon if ever. She has moved onto another chapter of her life and is quite happy with her decision.
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