Leaderboard

They are the part of the female body most often critiqued, sexualized and lusted after. Some will comment to augmented breasts as being fake, some will comment to saggy breasts as being gross. Many of us are so hard on one another and can cause some to want to change, to feel insecure or unworthy. We are made to believe by todays standards and the media that they should be big, round and point to the sun. But in reality they are as different as our faces and age doesn't dictate their perkiness nor does a body type dictate their size-ie: a larger woman will have larger breasts and smaller will have smaller. Natural or augmented all breasts are beautiful, but should we put as much importance on them as we do? After all if a woman were to loose hers, due to illness, accident or however, should she then feel less than a woman? If you go by todays standards and ideals, she might, but there is far more to making a woman feminine, beautiful and worthy than her breasts, especially in many other cultures. I wonder why North Americans base so much importance on them? What's your opinion and do you? Are breasts what you think make women sexy, beautiful and why? Be honest;) http://www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php I will add the biggest reason that caused me to want to enlarge mine was to look more like what the media, magazines and advertising depicts as beautiful breasts, along with growing up with a father and brother, male friends and boyfriends, who I often heard talking about breasts and that their opinions were larger was better. Some of my decision was also based on the fact that and for whatever reasons beyond the above, visually, I find that large augmented breasts look more beautiful than smaller or larger natural breasts. It's sad that as women we can be made to feel less than by such unrealistic standards, yet many of us can be.

One of the elements that brought me to this profession is the sheer number of UNhappily married men. Many men are married to women that they love, or did love. But the pressure of both working, not having time for each other, mortgages, naughty children, aging parents, and long commutes take their toll. A man faces the back half of his life wondering if it were all worth it. They probably haven't had sex in years. He wants to feel like a man again. But if he has an affair, he is going to lose half of everything. This is where the courtesan/mistress comes in. Compensation is the best thing ever. It keeps the lines drawn succinctly in their relationship. I didn't say that love won't creep into it! We are all human. But cash helps. True story: if the man left his wife, he'd lose the house - so he slept in a bath tub for over 2 years. A man sneaks downstairs when his wife is asleep to get on the net and "talk" to a woman with blood in her veins. Sneaking around in their own homes! And if they are busted, they are called monsters. We all need love, affection, and a damn good badabingbadaboom. Life is very good; lets enjoy!

I absolutely agree! While I often say with tongue in cheek "I love HMOPH's!" it is completely truthful. Happily Married Other Peoples Husbands make up my favourite guests for so many reasons. It's a perfect fit for my preferred business model, the ME (mistress experience). It means I never deal with the bad habits, annoying idiosyncrasies and daily grind; that is left for the woman who will inherit his estate and I get to enjoy all the delights without the trials and tribulations of day to day routine. I never have to worry they are going to arrive in a mood, never deal with him not pulling his weight around the house and he'll never steal my covers in the middle of the night, every night. I don't have to pick up his dirty laundry, deal with his family or struggle with keeping the passion alive. These parts are non existent in the relationships I indulge in. HMOPH's will never assume to be a part of my life outside of the negotiated parameters, never arriving in the middle of night thinking I will welcome him in, never assume an invite out for dinner off the clock is an acceptable thing to do. They seldom see blurred lines when paint is neon yellow clear. In my privileged experience, HMOPH's is always positive, he's always happy to be here, I'm always glad he is here. Our time together is focused, we ONLY do the important stuff like touch, talk and feel in an honest, nonjudgemental way. We spend time together knowing how truly precious that time is; we both savour every moment and when it's over we are grateful to have experienced it. We look forward to the next visit without it being a painful yearning or need. It's having all the best parts of a relationship without any of the head aches or heartbreaks. So yes Delilah, I LOVE married men... cat

Thanks for all the lovely birthday wishes I started off my 50th birthday with a bang... a threesome! And then breakfast in port credit on a patio. Champs convention in Toronto with my brothers and then back to my new home with family for dinner. Lovely sunny day

The WHO's recent report isn't really talking about the same thing as the latest headline-grabbing bug. Things like SARS, H1N1 and now MERS will inevitably crop up every so often, and we just have to deal with them when they do. What the WHO is talking about is the unfortunate coincidence of two things: the gradual evolution of drug-resistant pathogens, and the fact that there's very little research into new antibiotics. The first is more-or-less inevitable, but the second isn't. it's an unfortunate consequence of the fact that pharmaceutical companies exist to make money, and these days the money is not in treating infectious disease; it's in treating the chronic diseases of the affluent West. If you invent a drug that cures MRSA then you can sell it to a patient that will take it for a few days or weeks and then stop because they're cured, but if you invent a drug that reduces cholesterol you can get decades of continuous revenue from each patient.... and so that's precisely what happens. The WHO is saying, "this needs to change, and here's why". There's no deadline... yet. There will never be a sudden moment when this becomes a huge issue. It'll just get worse and worse and worse, until we realize that we have a major problem on your hands. Of course, the real threat is of something evolving that's as deadly as HIV or ebola and as infectious as the common cold. When that happens, there's a good chance that Homo sapiens will become extinct, as so many other species have done before.

I make my living on repeat business. So if, for whatever reason, I'm not comfortable going through with a session, I will refund 100% cheerfully with my full apologies. My attitude is that neither of us wasted anything more than our time. But too, he's not welcome back in this case. Ever. But there are times when someone bites off more than he can chew. I try to prolong pleasure whenever I can, but sometimes they're just not receptive to such efforts. If someone books an hour and he's done and over with in 25 minutes, I'll rebate him down to half an hour. And in this case, he is welcome back. Just next time, we'll either book a shorter session or agree on what we need to do to make it last longer.

Herein are my notes from the strange evening with the Americans. This evening they were at a sports bar watching the Montreal - New York playoff game. I arrived shortly after 10:00 pm to pick them up. I was due at 10:00 sharp but who leaves a playoff game that is tied 1 - 1? Well, actually, two of them. Took them back to the hotel. Foreshadows of things to come. Returned to the bar. Game ends. Fourteen gents in varying states of inebriation load into the back and are ready to PAR - TAY! Mt direction is to take them back to the hotel unless they want to go somewhere else. Whatever - take care of them. I advise the group of this. The response is instantaneous. Titty Bar! Titty Bar! Titty Bar! Titty Bar! Good Lord! There is the desperation of starving baby birds in their cries of Titty Bar! We have to go "Across The River". This spoken in tones usually reserved for describing the Holiest of Holies. Titty Bar! Titty Bar! Titty Bar! We arrive at Pigales. The moment is upon us. The car is strangely silent. Reverential silence? I open the car door and stand back so I won't be trampled by a hoard of inebriated hormonal young men. No one gets out. I stick my head in and announce we're here. No one moves. Most of them are staring with great interest at the floor. One guy looks at me and asks "What's it like in there?" "Well," I reply, "There's naked women." "Is it clean in there?" "There's naked women." No one moves. Exasperated, I go to the doorman, explain I have a bunch of shy Americans on board and ask if one can come take a quick peek and report back to the others. He agrees. I relay this offer to the boys and ask who wants to take point. No one moves. "I hear there's a casino." "Yes, there's a casino." Casino! Casino! Casino! Casino! So we drive away leaving the nude flowers of Quebec womanhood unviewed, untouched. And my head hurts between shaking it and smacking it. Americans can be odd people. I know. Because I are one.

I believe that people that have a great repore with each other, introduce sarcasm as a further advancement of those relationships, often it is when people are comfortable with each other. I would say sarcasm into an unknown circumstance, more like introduces the fine line between good nature bantering, and maybe a bit more truthful messaging. Anyway, I think sarcasm can be a great tool, but understand how it can be misused too.

You are right:) all these scenarios happen or can happen. We are dealing with a sensitive business after all. Pleasure and companionship can sometimes lead us into misinterpretations of feelings of our partner and even of our own. This business of closeness can also create feelings even when we think we are protected from them, married or not. What makes or breaks the ability to continue seeing the same person, or different people is how you handle and understand your feelings. It is never right to take advantage of someone or to lead someone on. I can only speak to what I've experienced and feel, others will speak to their experiences and feelings and so on. I won't live on what ifs, maybes or possibilities. I'll deal with what happens when it happens and hopefully in a mature and respectful way. In saying all this I still, from experience and, as someone who has personally dealt with a stalker for 6yrs, who btw was a single man, feel I'm less likely to be emotionally challenged with married men:)

Now a question? What if the married man who sees an SP does develop feelings for her...she's not an SP to him, more than a exclusive paid mistress from his end, she is the "other woman" More the woman that this man is having an affair with (in his mind) than a paid companion and there is an underlying business relationship The lady is willing to continue seeing the man, even though she has her head on straight that this is at it's core a business relationship. The married man, deludes himself that the business aspect of the relationship will end and they will live happily ever after Or he will string her along, and she will believe he will leave his wife for her and never does BTW a similar type of thing could happen with a client who's a single man and a SP who's a single woman My point, the relationship risks, they are there, whether SP/Client (either, or or both) are single or married. A rambling RG

Fortunately for me, when I spend reasonably, I don't have to worry about the financial aspects of this. So as far as what's better for me, when it comes down to repeats and one timers, whoever is the better match for me at the time I book, I'll see. Both are good and enjoyable. But, just because a guy finds a lady attractive doesn't mean he's going to repeat with her. There are plenty that truly enjoy their choice of sp but have only one desire to fulfill and only want one time to do it, never do they repeat with anyone, nor do they collect;)

Oh of course.. I'm not saying I advocate gov't influence.. I'm just stating that it's possible. Same as my feelings in the rates thread.. I want always to be my own boss.. I think if it ever came down to the gov't telling me what I can and can't do with my body.. I'd move to live where I once again had freedom.

Carrie, I am quoting you but my comment is not directed at you ;) We all draw the line somewhere, and as you stated, that line varies from person to person. To each their own. I am not going to debate the rights and wrongs of BBBJs (or DATY or kissing) and risk levels but I will say this: As an independent human being, I do not want nor need the government telling me what I can and cannot do in the privacy of a bedroom, as a companion with a patron or as a grown woman in her private life. Whether or not I receive money when sharing intimate time with someone is no one else's business but mine. I value my rights and freedom of choice. (I hope my post makes sense)

Some days it just seems like the world is full of assholes...

re: sex work and bbbjs it isn't a case of morality, as i express in the comment i made about. It is a high risk activity for stds, and it is treated as a high risk activity at the Work Safety level. This is a 'commercial' sex work issue, and work safety standards protect the worker, that is what those policies are in place to do. If it came only to the case of government imposed morality, believe me the difference of cbj versus bbbj isn't what they are going to focus on, it is sex work in total they will morally object to. In commercial sex work ALL oral services, and all other services, require barriers. This means both cbj and cdaty, but i am not sure if kissing is actually mentioned in the regulations. The regulations are about the safer care and handling of potentially harmful fluids, in other words :) In other words, sex workers are not contracting chlamydia or gonorrhea in their throats with cbjs, nor are they spreading it to clients with cbjs, even if they may be doing high risk activity in their personal lives.

Not disagreeing, but unless you have your head square on your shoulders, be it as a married or single man, or married or single woman, whether in the SP/Client relationship or outside of it.....when in love/lust/infatuation, the grass always looks greener from the other side...till you get to the other side Throw in adult kids from both families (speaking as an adult kid who first hand witnessed this) there is short term and long term fallout not even thought of But I just wanted to make the point that married men are not necessarily risk free for SP's nor are single guys, relationship wise I suppose for clients, there is the same that could be said about some companions, who may want to have a relationship. But I do believe it is less marital status that determines potential relationship risk for an SP/Client than the individual person...you are no more safe or at risk if the companion/client is single or married...how she/he's head is wired is more a determining factor A rambling RG

Thank you for that, Roaming Guy. Delilah, thank you for this post! Some escorts actively invite mistress scenarios, be it for an hour, or for months on end. Some non-pro gals do the same. The men promise to leave their wives. Fortunately, most of us know the score. Play the tape through: if he really DID leave his wife, first thing you know, you are stuck with His Lordship 24/7, someone else's divorce, social ostracism, hostile offspring, and his laundry. Run! Hide! You pay a very high price for love. Compensation says that you are a professional. If he stops paying, you are not a professional, and your boundaries are shattered. You are having an affair, and we all know where that ends up. Your mom wasn't joking. Escorts/courtesans/mistresses have existed for at least a thousand years because they are compensated to have an expiry date. Some did very well, and some made history, but all had a strong sense of self preservation and self integrity. Cheers!

I'm definitely a fan of oil over cream for it's slip and slower absorption. I favor organic cold pressed oils. They allow the skin to breathe with healing properties that are highly beneficial. What I like about these oils is they can be customized with a few drops of a natural aromatherapy scent if requested. I have two types of coconut oil. One is in my kitchen to add to smoothies and to condition my hair and skin. I love the tropical scent. The other is unscented for massage purposes only. A few recipes for making home made massage oil. http://www.ehow.com/way_5267938_homemade-massage-oil-recipe.html

Certainly a sexy woman with great breasts will catch my eye but lots of things about women can catch my eye.... to capture my interest and my willingness to engage I need more than just great tits. For me the beauty of a woman is very intangible.... it's that wholeness that encompasses how she acts and how she carries herself... it's her self assurance and her knowledge that she is sexy that I think makes her sexy regardless of how she looks.... Just my opinion

Loneskater, I think you misinterpreted what Cristy was suggesting. She didn't say that married people aren't going to find other women attractive or won't be interested in repeat encounters; she's proposing that married men are less likely to push the boundaries of the SP - client relationship, and try to turn those encounters into something more.

Very good point, Cristy. We can express our likes, desires, preferences, etc and not always be PC. I think most intelligent people understand that and accept it for what it is. Nobody should ever be offended by honesty as long as it isn't intentionally harmful. It seems most of the guys and gals on here understand this aspect pretty well.

"Are breasts what you think make women sexy, beautiful and why?" To that question I can honestly say no. Now, if you'd asked are breasts one of the things that can make a woman sexy, then I probably would say yes. There's no way I could deny that I absolutely love breasts. And yes, for me at least "the more the merrier" but I've never met a breast I didn't like, regardless of size and shape, and just like most things there's different people that will prefer all different sizes. But as much as breasts turn me on so do another 100 things about women! Many of them are other physical attributes: nice eyes, nice legs, nice smile, nice hair, nice ass, nice feet. Everybody has at least one nice feature! And then there are the non-physical traits which are at least as sexy if not more. I don't care how perfect I think your breasts are, if you're a cruel person, I'm not going to find you sexy! But a generous person, one with confidence or a sense of humour or sincerity, that's always going to be attractive. So yes, I like looking at breasts. I like touching them even more. I find them a huge turn on, and the bigger they are the more I'm turned on. But breasts aren't what makes a woman a woman, nor do they determine her value as a person, and even if tomorrow every breast on the planet disappeared, I wouldn't have any problem still finding ladies plenty attractive!

Whaaa? Delilah this is over my head could you explain:)

And none of these screenings have anything to really do with getting clean blood. The only ABSOLUTE way to ensure you get clean blood, is to test it first and scientifically see if it is clean...which I believe is what they end up doing anyway.....frankly I'd hate for the blood supply's cleanliness dependant on the word of people who fill out a questionnaire. But some of the questions are really more based on the government's "morality" if you will...and I wonder how many politicians'/lawmakers' would pass the questionnaire? BTW I flunk off the top of my head around six areas A morning rambling RG

I usually see her Saturday day at the fax...

You make some great points. I'm also not allowed to give blood anymore because I lived in the UK for six months. I might have mad cow disease. Yeah right :p The idea that seeing a prostitute precludes you from having the ability to give blood safely is antiquated

Happy birthday Carrie.

Happy Birthday my beautiful friend.... I hope your day was amazing....

Happy Birthday, pretty lady :) I hope you got to drink lots of good wine in your new location ;) xox

Carrie!!!! I had no idea!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I thought you stopped having birthdays when you were 23! Happy birthday hun!!! xoxo

Happy Birthday Carrie! Hope all of your wishes come true ;) xx

I swear I do not understand government "thinking" at times. In Australia BBBJ is illegal for providers to provide as part of their service. Why is the government so paternalistic to it's citizens? Is this restriction on BBBJ just to providers, or to everyone? I mean the risk is the same whether it is a SP/Client, or two people dating in a non committed relationship, or non monogamous relationship or well you get the idea My point, what makes BBBJ such a risk, a risk to be outlawed, only when it is done as a result of a monetary transaction. BTW Canada isn't much better. Take for example the Canadian Blood Services requirement on being a blood donor. Certain sex acts (although some do) in and of themselves don't bar you from donating blood, if you paid for sex in the last twelve months, or had sex with someone who takes money for sex, then you can't donate. What is it about money that makes sex acts so risky...if no monetary transaction, then those same sex acts OK....??? Anyhow, a lady should just establish her boundaries and restrictions and the gentlemen respect them...no need for government to be involved BTW maybe all these restrictions on this lifestyle have less to do with concerns about sexual health, I mean if the politicians/lawmakers truly cared about sexual health, wouldn't BBBJ, well any BB be outlawed, and only BB sex allowed with two consenting adults done in a sterile medical environment after thorough testing only if the sex is intended for reproduction. Making such restrictions might be the government's roundabout way of eliminating prostitution. Sorry, just had a quick brain fart there, but then again, it seems that's how the government runs A rambling RG

Happy Birthday Carrie xo

Happy Birthday Carrie! xo

Happy BDay sexy!!! Enjoy your day and have lots of fun chérie !!! Hugs and kisses babe!!

Happy Birthday to you, Carrie! May this day be a wonderful one.... :)

Happy Birthday Carrie Enjoy your special day RG

Like I said in responses to your Pms..Good for you !its great that they are attractive to you. You started the tread with a strong opinion about the québécois clients..Which seem by posts that you resented them for a while..Like we say in French ""une crotte sur le coeur" in last 2 days you met nice québécois ..Good You say they are attracted to you.. Good not sure what else you want me to add to your tread:icon_question:

Why not simply offer some options for him to stay, leave, or revise his session. One expeciting FS with certain services can revise their session to a hj session, and a reduced rate. Or the option to wash up, with tips as to how to improve things. I'm with anyone who says that making sessions conditional on certain things must be in the ad or website, so that the onus is on the client to either arrive or get up to minimum standards after arrival. I've had guys coming from work do anything from a sink wash up, to a lower body washup in the shower to a full 10 minute hair, nooks and crannies exfoliation probably showers before starting their sessions. On the main question, i refund money when the clients expectations don't match their reality. Such as paying for the hour with the idea of 2sogs, and within the half hour deciding that there is only one sog in them, and they are ready to go. Returning the amount over the half hour donation gives good karma and encourages a return visit. Refunds encourage good karma, avoid confrontation with angry clients, and reduce the chance of a angry review posting. Additional Comments: And if this hasn't already been mentioned, a yeast infection is not considered something transmittable when using a condom, it is not always accompanied by discharge, and is unlikely to smell like anything other than yeast. You would not want to do a bbbj on someone with yeast, but then, there are a ton of stds that you can get and transmit via bbbjs anyway, why limit it to the one you can see? I would suggest that someone prone to yeast infections would cut back on yeast intake, like bread and beer. Increase consumption of yogurt. There is a comment on this link that suggests Monistat cream will work, and someone adds that adding vinegar helped more. https://www.msu.edu/.eisthen/yeast/men.html

How beautiful, and there can't be any better advice. You surpass yourself with every post. Men should be lined around the block for you and women should follow your lead, once again I bow to your eloquence and thank you for contributing. This post has helped me and made me realize something new-thank you

Anything done with love and kindness is memorable. We may not remember the specific person or events, but we remember that it happened with sincerity.

Like most other people said be yourself otherwise it seems phoney. Also I know its a job but don't make it look like its only for the money. At least make it feel like you are enjoying my company, I don't expect you to fall in love with me and I'll do the same but make me feel I am more than a source of money period.

Be yourself. And has already been said, for me too, it's about a connection, chemistry if you will. Treat the encounter like a date, and you want to be there. As much as this is the lady's livelihood, during the encounter, after business is looked after, you should have an escape, and both forget it is a business transaction. It is instead two people on a date. This btw is why professional companions are special, they make a paid date be an escape. And again, be yourself. Don't worry about other ladies and what they do. The gentleman seeing you is seeing you because there was something about you that interested him. He wants to see you A rambling RG

Very good point. Every man wants to feel wanted, desired and not like a paying customer or just another 'john".

What makes an encounter truly Memorable for me is when ,for a short while ,I forget I am a "client" and I become her intimate companion her suitor her friend and lover during our time together, the embraces warm the kisses real and that feeling stays with me until well after I,ve left and reality once again sets in !

This is probably something that has been posted before. I don't know and am too lazy to check old threads. But it occurs to me after the last couple days that we sometimes take for granted that an escorts life is all peaches and cream. They set up a nice incall location, post an ad, the calls come in and the clients show up. They pay, play and everybody is happy. The lady tidies up and ready for the next lucky fella. Kind of a lather, rinse, repeat scenario. Or the lady goes on tour, sets herself up in a nice discreet hotel location and pretty much the same thing. Well, yesterday, I came across a few things that made me realize that this isn't always the case. I read (on a different board) a story of a touring lady running into one mishap after another and because of it all, actually barely breaking even while on her first week on tour. Another story of a lady who received a man at her door who rudely told her she wasn't as hot as her pictures and too old (although her website is clearly defined with her age, body type and well laid out photos). The loser walked and business lost. I posted something on here that cheered someone up (no names needed) who had a rough go this weekend and was feeling a little down. I didn't even realize I was doing something nice at the time but glad I did. I guess my point here is that we all need to step back sometimes and put ourselves in other peoples shoes. We say things on message boards and do things in life possibly without any ill intent but our words and actions often effect even the strongest of people. We all get our feelings hurt and lose our self confidence and it might behoove all of us to say a kind word now and then for no other reason but to just help our fellow human beings out. Most on here are pretty aware of all of this and are pretty good at keeping things positive so this isn't directed at anyone. Just a general thought is all. Okay, my rambling is over, lol. Go back to having fun y'all.

I'm a bit surprised with how passionate this thread has gotten. There are a couple of things that I'd like to share. Someone mentioned that it takes 7 and a half minutes to start (donations, clothes, etc). I just want to say that there was one person that I visited where we had gone through that, and were quite in the thick of it after probably 5 minutes (Memorable moments of my life :) ). It was also the first time I met her. But since I like longer appointments, I had an hour and 25 minutes left! 15 minutes are great option if there are two willing participants, who have already established a chemistry. If I worked somewhere close by an SP, I'd be more inclined to make a sort of arrangement for repeated visits. Financially speaking, it would be great. Plus there is a bit of a thrill with just having one thing in your mind. I don't think a lady should offer it if she feels uncomfortable with it, but for those who are, great! And for the men who want those appointments, as long as they are respectful, I have no issue with them. I get the feeling that some people are projecting their anger for rude people who seek 15 minutes appointments, with everyone seeking 15 minutes appointments.

I find these kinds of threads about BBBJ really irritating. Not because conversation about shared intimacies and health matters shouldn't be had, but because of how talk about sucking dick quickly shifts into the 'politic of the ick' (a term coined by sexologist Carol Queen). I will speak for myself. I love making out, I love having my pussy licked, I love sucking cock, alot of the time BBBJs and CIM (oh yeah baby), and, yet I do not identify as a PSE at all. Not a meaningful term to me. I'm GFE all the way. I do not make clients wear a dental dam to give me oral, and I do not put saran on my face when playing tonsil hockey. There are plenty of service providers, including popular and highly reviewed SPs who do not do BBBJ (understandable, and a very personal decision), but the idea of being concerned over providers 'being compelled' to provide BBBJs, and then omitting the way we normalize and by and large broadly accept DFK and DATY as meaningful and commonly provided services inherent to the work, (providing GFE), is problematic. Assessing the risks, negotiating the fun to be had, and getting regular health checks including throat swabs is a must. Let's not turn all SPs into victims of risky clients, and let's focus on empowering workers to enjoy working conditions where they can refuse work they deem unsafe....not to mention increasing access to non-stigmatizing STI health screening, and ongoing education. Signed, Cum lover

Theres nothing like taking control, non stop until he cant control himself and explodes deep in your throat.