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heading out for a morning paddle .... happy saturday everyone!

There is NO desperation in self care. If you were ill, you'd see a doctor. If you hurt yourself a physiotherapist or chiropractor, if you had things in your head you couldn't sort out alone, a psychologist or psychiatrist. these are all forms of self care. Sex and intimacy and the need for it as well as the desire to be better, is all self care. I find it interesting science and society can admit that sex and intimacy are important to our well being but then put moral limits on obtaining it. There are many clients who choose this route because it fits better within their own lives and restrictions. Some don't want the entanglements of a relationship or because of their job or career focus, don't have the time and believe it's unfair to date. They still want sex and intimacy just in a different way. There is nothing desperate about logical, well thought out choices. Plus...what MightyPen said because he's right some sexy smart.

Honestly, spending time with an SP is a very open, honest, non judgmental way to explore, learn and enjoy. You don't have to worry about many of the things associated with meeting a "real" person. By this I mean, you go into the relationship knowing boundaries and knowing that they are there to keep you safe and comfortable. You don't have to worry about someone thinking the wrong thing, seeing something that's not there, expecting too much etc. This could be looked at as therapy because if you choose the right person, they will help you with whatever it is you need and want, the focus is on you within whatever limits are discussed. There is no need to "perform" or live up to any sort of expectation. It's wonderful you have a friend you can be so open with and who cares about your well being. However, YOU are the one on CERB and seeing the true identity of the industry. Seeing what it can give you as opposed to all the fallacies attached. In the end, it boils down to what you want, desire, need, the risk you're willing to take and what is in your best interest. Listen to your inner voice as it will provide the right answers.

Making potato salad and listing to music....

I don't fault your friend for trying to look out for you (as she understands it). But she seems to have the cliché, streetwalker view of SPs. That is NOT what you're looking for, and that's why I suggest you start with an SP from CERB. I think that offers the best chance to find someone responsible and caring. Legalities aren't much of an issue (for now...). Check out the legal threads for specifics, as there's a change of law possible which MAY soon alter the legal landscape regarding prostitution in Canada. STIs are a manageable risk; there are threads here for that too. Finally... you aren't required to provide a complete sexual resume to all your future partners (nor they to you). We all get to choose what to share from our past. There's no shame in what you're planning, but it will be your call whether, and how, to deal with that and a future partner when the time comes. Don't let some hypothetical future partner's possible prudery* keep you from taking positive action for yourself, today. * alliteration -- it's fun!

Got back home a short while ago and enjoying a beer (no alcohol) after an afternoon fishing on the Bay Of Quinte. Three largemouth bass, one smallmouth bass one pike and one walleye caught. RG

I guess it's MY business at the end of the day...I'm trying to think of it almost as a therapy/training exercise should I go through with it. Thanks everyone!

I use Petro Can and it has worked out to way less than $10/mo and my annual top up of the plan looks just like a fill-up on the credit card! I think it's one of the simpler/cheaper carrier options for hobbyists.

It can absolutely do that, with the right SP. (I think starting with an SP you find here on CERB would be a good idea.) And I think Midnite-Massage is exactly right. Choose an SP who appeals to you, explain to her your situation, and go into the encounter with a positive and honest mindset. Be ready to take things slowly and learn as you go. And communicate, communicate, communicate. If things go well arrange a series of sessions so that you can continue to learn beyond that nervous first encounter. Just remember that your main goal in this case is to learn, to find your feet and grow a little in a way you can carry into your other relationships. There's a real risk of getting overwhelmed by the intense emotional experience of caring sexuality. Be careful to keep your balance. One more thing: be PROUD that you're taking positive action to tackle something you perceive as a hurdle for yourself. Now you have fun, and work, ahead of you. I wish you all the best in both of them!

Carlosage, I most definitely believe it can but it honestly depends on how YOU approach the situation. If you're up front, honest and willing to put yourself in the moment, learn and be open to suggestions then you will most definitely gain confidence and experience for dealing with women. There are a number of threads on CERB discussing this exact thing and there have been many men who have gained so much from their interactions with an SP which is a safe open environment to do so. Like anything in life, what you put in you can potentially get out. You have nothing to lose by trying and potentially everything to gain! Good Luck!

Very personable, pretty and genuinely fun to be with. Amber was a great dinner.... before dessert companion. Massage offered and taken with amazing CBJ (you will not feel the cover, very skilled) and CFS, DATY is awesome, offer of MPOS and MSOG for longer visits. All safe play, has incall local location..but we saw each other at my hotel. Mature milf with great attitude and we clicked over dinner and when we went upstairs it was very comfortable and a great GFE experience. Will repeat...as often as possible....

What a perfect way to start your week but to be in arms of a gorgeous lady, and after some great communication back and forth last week, Beautiful Delilah and myself booked our 2 hour session for this morning. Delilah capture my eyes and mind,by her erotic photos,but most of all through our discussions we enjoyed a lot same things. Once I walked through her door this morning I knew that my heart/mind was so correct, Delilah is beautiful, in fact she is drop dead gorgeous, and has one very sexy body. Her smile can light up a room her eyes mesmerizing,her voice gentle but yet strong at times ;) She had me very excited and I was hooked on her looks, and her demeanor throughout our great session. Delilah is very passionate,and I loved exploring her body,and kissing her soft lips,it was rewarding to see her enjoy the foreplay of me exploring her sweet sexy desirable body. We spent the next 2 hours, exploring our desires, it was so sensual and so erotic. Delilah is confident,classy,intoxicating,hot and breathtaking ;), and she certainly knew how to arouse my senses, it was Monday April 7,2014 a date that I will not forget, as it will be in my memory until the next time I visit the Beautiful Delilah. Thanks Delilah, you are a genuine classy lady.

I was very fortunate to be Miss Evangeline's last client at CMJ! We had been talking back and forth via PM for sometime and were finally able to set up an appointment a while back. When I arrived at CMJ, I was greeted by a true "girl next door". Evangeline is cute as hell and I was really looking forward to getting her alone in to the room. Once in the room we chatted for a bit, realized we had clicked and off with the clothes! I must say Evangeline is very sexy. Nice toned body and an ass to die for!!! I just couldn't resist getting my hands all over her glorious bum...truly it was a sight to behold. As always it's YMMV. I certainly had a great time with Evangeline and would definitely repeat should she be around again.

Good morning folks I would like to know some recos for a MA who includes anal play in their massage. To me nothing feels better than having a finger or two inserted in me as part of the massage especially with some slow anal teasing. I thank you in advance. Posted via Mobile Device

http://worldpridetoronto.com/ I have been to the last 2 Pride celebrations so far and enjoyed each minute of it :-) Can't wait for this years Grand Finale!!!

That's not an uncommon view ("I'd never PAY for it!") but it's based in a ridiculous, shallow, and outdated view of human relations. You don't have to answer to such narrow-minded people, when you've already made your mind up for yourself. From what you've described, you have some concerns about your interactions with women and you'd like to learn. You've made a perfectly reasonable decision to do something about that, in a way you can control. That's not desperate -- it's insightful, positive, and action-oriented. Carry on forward! I think you've probably had a chance by now to look around this site and see that people here are actually pretty cool and normal. Intelligent, thoughtful, and caring. Compare that evidence of your own eyes with the cliché judgments of others regarding sex workers and their clients. You have better information that them. So make a decision for yourself, know why you're taking the action you are, and proceed... and damn the nay-sayers.

I'm a little late, but Happy Belated Birthday! I hope you had an amazing day!

Not to be Missed.... very sexy

There are things you can do to reduce your risk but to be honest I would be way less concerned about STI's with a SP then with random encounters with people you meet in a bar. In regards to legalities that is not a huge issue right now but if Mr. Harper has his way that will change so if you want to pursue this do it now. The potential partner thing boggles my mind... i hope u never have to explain my sexual choices to a future partner if I do perhaps they should not be my partner. Good luck with it. Just my opinion.

Definitely a turn on to see my load shoot out on to her feet, breasts, face, ass, back, belly or wherever...knew a girl once who absolutely loved to see guys loads fly into the air, the further and heavier the better, was such a turn on to watch her so totally enjoy that moment. She loved to edge play because she knew it would result in a nice powerful ejaculation, such a fun girl to play with!

Masturbating to an interactive MMF porn clip

The one you been looking for (downtown Ottawa) hi there, thank you for checking my ad. You will not be disappointed with my A+++ services ( the lady, the services, the place) My name is Vivian. I'm 26 years old. Gorgeous, i am a classy looking Lady with long black hair, seductive cat eyes and full sexy lips, beautiful silky soft, tanned skin. work out body with all the right curves in the right places (32C, 24, 34) You have finally met the sweet girl next door, also the naughty girl in your dreams... I greet you at the door with a lovely smile then lead you to the massage room...I will start with a deep soothing tissue massage to relax all your muscles then follow with a soft, sensual, tease touch to invigorate your whole body then the fun time ... It will be the most relaxing, creative and passionate session for you ever. So amazing that you cannot help yourself from thinking about it and want to come back for more ! http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=92146 For relaxing massage $40/30m $50/45m $70/60m appointment only, call/text me at 613 712 1200 mon to sat 10am to 7pm

I went to 172 Boulevard St.Joseph in Gatineau. She gave me a great prostate massage. She blew my wad ...I mean ...my mind ...she blew my mind. It was pretty intense.

Kim does an amazing finish and yes, she does

I am glad to hear that your texting problems are sorted out. :) I purchased my phone from Petro-Canada a few years ago. I like the convenience of the Anytime Plan. I go to the Petro-Canada service station once or twice a year to top up my account. It is a great convenience not having to use a credit card. http://mobility.petro-canada.ca/default.aspx

I'm with you there. That is kind of fun. Kim, an asian with ad on Kijiji, has been known to dabble in this kind of service.

Listening to the coffee being brewed in the coffee maker -- it sounds like an orchestra intermixes with what sounds like a dog whimpering...and... anticipating a great cup of Java! :icon_biggrin:

Couple things, not sure if like Asians and also, it's been over a year since I've been in Ottawa, but there was this Asian lady on Somerset who really exercises your balls nicely and plays with your ass while you're lying on your stomach. She will do a prostate massage as well. Not sure the number on Somerset but there are 2 Asian places almost beside each other and if you're going down Somerset it is the first place on your right. Hope this is helpful.

http://www.thebeaverton.com/national/item/1412-lady-expert-peter-mackay-explains-how-menstruation-cycle-effects-judicial-decisions Since he is the expert in Lady parts.

I do too!!!! But Twitter deletes them.

jafo105, I did! Thank you. Looks like my problems are finally sorted out. (I didn't know Petro-Canada is a carrier!)

I am feeling a little naughty and can't wait to play with you next week!! Come see me this Monday or Tuesday 9 - 4:30 to see what kind of trouble we can get ourselves into! I can think of so many fun things we can do! I hope you have some ideas too! :wink: xoxo My diverse personality lets me be everything you need and more! Sexy, funny, intuitive, and passionate. I cant wait to be your girlfriend for a little while! I want to play with you and see what is special about our little connection! About Me: A down to earth lady who loves to have fun. My interests are varied and I can find enjoyment in any situation. I am told that I am genuine, charming, and much more than just a pretty face! I enjoy both the finer and simple pleasures in life and look forward to each encounter and the special moments they bring. Don't be shy, send me a message and I will lead the way. Your satisfaction is my mission!! xoxo My Schedule this Week Monday June 23th 9AM - 4:30PM Tuesday June 24th 9 AM - 4:30PM Not a Member? Be my special guest.... PM to make arrangements Call 613-523-6199 Book Online www.clubcmj.com or PM me

I am so freaking excited for this!!!!

Well, it would be even LESS helpful if all the replies were useless to the OP (eg. they were all suggesting providers that were in another city/province)...

Wondering if anyone has seen Bella, she looks fantastic and there are no reviews on her at all. Information would be nice.

An Australian sex worker posted this and I wanted to share it. "So, You've Met a Hooker" Remembering my first steps in this industry made me cringe quite a few times reading it. I'm pretty sure I've asked/said many of the things in there. Amazing how a few pre-conceptions and stereotypes can make you say some incredibly insensitive things without even realizing it. Plus, the video links to 'Shit they say to sex workers' and 'Shit they say to strippers' are hilarious.

I suggest that you figure out how much time you need to be able to ejaculate twice by masturbating at home. Personally, MSOG is pointless because I can ejaculate once a day; thank you, good night, Elvis has left the building. If you can ejaculate twice within an hour, that is great and amazing! I cannot do this. After I ejaculate once, my penis is flaccid. If I try to force it to perform a second time, I just get performance anxiety and I do not enjoy myself. Masturbating in advance is a great way to avoid ejaculating too fast when you want to last a long time. The trick is knowing when to masturbate and how much time your penis needs to recuperate. For example, my penis needs several hours to recuperate; so I will masturbate the evening before. That way, I can last a long time when it counts.

For those who like to see the load.... what do you think about Snowballing?

Having been involved in this business for 3+ decades I definitely agree and found this out a long time ago. I have made many friends in the community now and before CERB and do keep in touch with quite a few of them even though some have retired. It was through my involvement in this industry that I long realized that you don't judge people by what they do but by who they are. For the OP, all I can say is go ahead meet some ladies. Having different experiences will enrich your life!

Don't bother. It's just that diamond goddess girl again, back to her shenanigans, stealing pics and what not. Avoid this one like the plague

I think it can be... not as an end itself, but as a means of helping you to make other, more permanent change in your life that will make you less lonely. Loneliness comes from the absence of people who share in your life. It's not the absence of people -- you can be surrounded by people, even married to someone, and yet still be lonely because they're not truly sharing who you are and what you care about. So the question becomes -- how can you add such people to your life? That can be tough, especially if your experiences to this point have resigned you to your fate; if you don't believe you're capable of emotional intimacy, or you feel you've lost that capacity you once had. Time with an SP is only temporary and brief, but the effects can be long-term. Just spending some time with someone who can be intimate, who can be sexual, who can be focused on you and pay attention to your desires and your body... that's therapeutic. It can remind you that you're capable of that kind of intimacy, and of its importance to you. It can also teach you some lessons about handling yourself in intimate situations -- not just sexual, but in conversation and in interacting with someone in a caring and open way. If you've been afraid of such things the SP can help you overcome those fears. And then you can take those lessons and apply them to your non-SP interactions with people in other parts of your life. So... does a relationship with an SP fix loneliness? Not by itself. But it can be genuinely valuable in equipping you to overcome whatever obstacles are keeping you from finding someone, and which are leading to your loneliness in the first place. Don't look at time with an SP as just a brief respite from the symptoms of the problem -- look at it as a cure for the cause, if you're willing to take the opportunity to learn and then do some work.

I think it depends on the type of person you are, if you are able to separate feelings and get back to your normal life then yes seeing a SP is a good way to cope with loneliness. but if it becomes a regular habit then that is where hiccups could happen. I know I've expereinced it on both sides now and it can get complicated. I've also learned it is unrealistic to go in thinking you can separate feelings and try and ignore them. I think setting boundaries is a little better, because you always have them to remind yourself why you are seeing a SP in the first place.

Everyone is lonely at some point it's the cause that should be the important thing. There are those who aren't comfortable in their own skin or with who they are so lonely follows them. Other have picked the wrong people to be their friends so find themselves lonely in a crowd. Some find it a challenge, for whatever reason, to sustain a meaningful relationship. All these require personal change in order to change the circumstance. In these, an SP might make a very short term impact but in order to maintain it, it would cost a lot of money. It would be like an addiction, you crave to feel better even if for a short period so do anything to get that "hit". Definitely not healthy. Now for those who are between relationships or have a very healthy social life, content with who they are, adding an SP to their lives as a companion, then yes, very much a way to cope.

I think any time you can experience companionship with someone it can help with loneliness Unfortunately we tend to think if loneliness as the absence of people in your life... i can tell you from experience you can be surrounded by people but still live a lonely existence.... if a regular meeting with an SP helps meet that need then yea it us a great way to deal with loneliness. Just my opinion.

If it's temporary loneliness, as in-between relations, sure. If it's because you've always been alone, it won't help the lonely part. Mostly because, unless you're very rich, you won't be able to see an SP as often as you'd want someone. There's a lot of very good reasons to see an SP ( for your first time, to get better at sex, to get confortable with yourself, to try new things, cause you're horny, etc) But loneliness isn't a very good one from experience.

The second part of my recent trip to South Asia was an encounter with Anjali at Vibe Urban Spa. My first visit - same level of ambiance / comfort I am used to from CMJ, which was nice. Another wonderful experience ( I don't seem to have that many that go south - innuendo unintended ). Again, my recent "interest" in ample breasts (see Part 1) was immediately satisfied. Anjali has glorious tits and I must say I found myself quite hot and bothered. I'm usually a bit more laid-back... an "enjoying-the-moment" kind-a-guy.. but boob play in the shower soon turned into some acrobatics that I didn't have proper time to stretch for. Yes, I'm getting old! LOL! And Anjali also has an adorable, spankable ass.. so I did. And that was fun too! : ) Hope to repeat before she leaves at the end of June.

I saw Lexy a few weeks ago. I've seen her ads and recommendations for some time and when she was offering in-call at a hotel I thought I would take the opportunity to meet her. Corresponding and booking was straightforward and professional. Lexy is a good conversationalist and was attentive to making sure I was comfortable and at ease. She wore attractive lingerie and after chatting for a while we transitioned into the physical part of the encounter. She was anxious to be sure I was introduced to her exceptional oral skills. What she says in her ads in no exaggeration. Definitely an intense deep throat experience and she actively encouraged face fucking from multiple positions. An experience I haven't had before. The encounter progressed from there and continued to be thoroughly enjoyable. Lexy is definitely not a clock watcher but I had to get back to work as it was a mid-day appointment. Final comments: great kisser; sensuous; intelligent; offers and expects respect; and of course the intense oral experience is exceptional. I hope to repeat when she next offers in-call.

I just love COB, especially rubbing it all over my breast and the almighty fun Facial!! That would be an awesome fun picture to show!!