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It has happened.. today I received a text from a guy's wife. I do not know who this person is.. she didn't tell me and I didn't ask. I don't know if I actually saw him and all I know is they was a texting history between us. Obviously she found it and saw the texts. I NEVER put the address in a text message. Never! I know I am probably preaching to the choir here but I will say it anyways. After you have seen an SP, PLEASE delete the texting history from your phone. I do not need these kinds of problems and its one of the BIGGEST reasons why I keep a separate incall location apart from my own residence and do not give out my incall address by text. I have to tell each and every client this when they ask why I will not text the address which seems so convenient for them. Then it actually clicks. If this sensitive information gets into the wrong hands like it did today, it could have caused a lot of problems. When a client coming to see me and asks for the address via text, I do not know the person who is texting me and like the situation above, if it were to get into the wrong hands, it wouldn't be pretty. Secondly, a random texter is a stranger to me and I am aware of all the tricks someone will try to play if they want to remain a secret agent type. I am onto all of it. I am paranoid when it comes to my safety and have turned down many appts because I got a bad vibe or they didn't follow my protocol when following up on meeting in person. Needless to say I am very annoyed with this unknown person at the moment and their lack of discretion which has ruined my day. I do not need this b.s. or some angry wife telling me I have ruined someone's marriage. She got an earful from me and I told her that the fact that her husband is contacting ladies is something she should talk to him about. Trying to put the onus on the SP is just a way to blame someone and I'm not having any of it. Someone else's marriage is none of my business and it is not my concern. We are offering a service. I don't judge clients in regards to their marital status but people should be discrete about in their own actions. She did back down after I became snarky with her and I think she realized she shouldn't push it with me. I will not back down. I don't care if it's someone's wife attempting to harass me because it's not my problem. Even if I knew who this person was, I wouldn't admit it. I would never give up a client because I am discrete to a fault. Unfortunately this individual didn't do the same for me. It is the client's responsibility to get rid of any info or dealings he has had with an SP. The SP should not have to suffer as a result because a person was careless. I am very upset about this. Now I have to ramp up my protocol even more. I am experienced in dealing with these situations but they are few and far between. Thank-you to the gentlemen who do take the time to delete any contact with an SP and cover their tracks. Please delete texting and browsing history off computer or cell phone to avoid getting burnt! Also, think twice about asking for the address by text. Lastly, delete it off your GPS. It will save us all a lot of trouble in the end.

Ok -- there are a few things that jumped out at me as I read this thread, both the OP post and the comments. 1. A woman needs to disclose when it's that time of the month? That seems awfully private, and extreme. 2. Women in this industry REGULARLY, and SUCCESSFULLY, work through their period with things such as sponges or soft cups. It happens ALL the time. 3. How mortified this poor woman must have felt by the completely immature way you reacted. Clearly the sponge became dislodged. And you know what? Menstruation is a fact of life. She didn't know that happened, or mean for it to. She's likely worked through her period COUNTLESS times with no issue. 4. Asking women to not work during their period is ridiculous. 5. Taking the donation and insulting her further by leaving $40?!!?!! It was an unfortunate incident that wasn't planned. It was dealt with poorly by you, and that poor woman wasn't given a chance to correct the situation -- and then ALSO had to lose out on her pay for that booking? Complete and utter disrespect. SO much wrong with this!!!!!!

Unless of course, you want to meet an SP. lol.

Airing out dirt laundry is not allowed but discussion on this topic is permitted. If the name of the lady is not released (private or public) then we will allow this discussion to continue.... If the ladies name is released i will issue infractions and possibly suspension/bans

That's your prerogative. But when it comes to hobbying, don't expect a lady to circumvent her screening procedures to accommodate you if having a cell phone is one of her requirements.

Yep, I only ever give my address verbally. Even today, a four -year reg texted asking for an address reminder and I had him call me. You never, ever know who is seeing the texts . I delete my text history every few days,for client discretion . They should do the same .

Have to give credit where credit is due...and a classic piece of advice from Sara MQ http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=298018&postcount=3 Even now, still laugh at that one RG

Here's a method to avoid :) http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=90098

Much of this industry revolves around the revelation of things that are generally considered private, from the revealing photos and self-descriptions posted my many (if not most) providers, to the very detailed reviews and recommendations posted by their clients, to the questions and answers about what may or may not take place during an encounter. This doesn't strike me as being any worse than a lot of other stuff that's just accepted as part of the way the business operates. But then, I'm a guy and nobody's paying much attention to my body on a daily basis, so I may simply not understand... Fair enough. And when it works well and the client is none the wiser... no harm, no foul. But there's a chance that things might not go so smoothly, and in this case having been up-front about it would probably have been the better option. It's up to each individual lady to decide for herself what the chances are of things slipping, and what the consequences might be, and therefore whether or not to disclose things in advance. Perhaps guys who feel very strongly about this should mention it when booking so that they can delay until next week if need be, but that opens the door to a whole other pile of awkward... Three things on this. The first is to simply note that there are some folks out there who don't deal with blood at all well, irrespective of its origin. Second, there's the health angle. No encounter is risk-free from this point of view, and we all make our own decisions about what level of risk we are or are not prepared to accept... but I don't think most of us consider blood-exposure when doing so. Saliva, sweat, semen, vaginal mucus? Yes, all the time. But urine and feces and blood are not things that most of us would expect to encounter unless something had been explicitly arranged. And of those, blood is by far the most efficient at transferring pathogens. It opens up a whole load of new things to worry about, including many things that aren't usually considered STIs. It doesn't strike me as unreasonable to be unhappy if a health-risk that you hadn't expected is suddenly thrown at you, no matter what sex you are or which side of the client-provider relationship you're on. Finally, to quote the OP: "I felt something touch my lip I moved back to find a bloody spunge slipping out of the ladies vagina." I've never had anything remotely like that happen to me, and I can't honestly say I'd react gracefully if it did. Reactions to this sort of thing are likely to be immediate, visceral, and not the result of some well-thought-out reasoning. It's not clear to me that calling the OP immature is either reasonable or helpful.

I read this thread very late last night and I wanted to reply with a clear mind...I guess you have a right to be disgusted...everybody reacts differently to that situation... There is something though that bothers me and really ticked me off here is that you took the donation and left 40$! Thats what bothers me the most...I'm sure there will be lots of different opinions on this issue but if you decide to leave because you are disgusted with the situation, the donation should stay there...yes maybe she should have been upfront about it but, for me, its not a reason to take the donation and barely leave Pocket change... Personally i do work with sponges ( for what I have left of period lol) and there is no way you could ever tell coz they are really deep in there. But yes I started my period many times during sessions...that i could not predict... Just my opinion... BJ

I think it's unrealistic to expect a provider to take a week off every month given the prices here in Canada. Can anyone imagine losing 25% of their income due to an unavoidable, naturally occurring event? In the past I have worked thru my period and never had an issue. Some clients I informed if I knew they may have an issue, others I didn't. I've used sponges for most of my career because penetration often caused break thru bleeding which was not part of my menstrual cycle. Life happens, especially during sex. Obviously the provider needed the income or she wouldn't have been working thru her cycle. Taking the donation back certainly gives clear indication of character and shows someones view of providers clearly. I for one, appreciate when clients post situations like this and their reaction to it as it allows me to see who they are... cat

Bad that a man who spent intimate time with a companion would cause her problems by carelessly leaving contact information for his wife to see. The SP didn't sign on for that needless drama And, (not judging any marriage/relationship, only two people know their own relationship) why subject your SO to knowing you see companions. Your reasons for seeing a companion can be very valid, and again, I'm not judging anyone's relationship, but why put your SO in the position of knowing you see other women. That must hurt her So be discrete, delete all history, be it on your phone and computer. The only person who should know you are seeing a professional companion is the companion herself. She wouldn't leave any text or other history for others to find out about you, you should do the same A long winded rambling from a single guy, nothing to risk by being discovered, but gets it RG

I don't mind it when my guests don't have a cell phone, it actually ends up being a more secure way to confirm my guests as many use a 'hobby phone ' which may not even be registered to their name. If my visitor doesn't have a cell, I ask for their home number which I verify on canada411, or their name and hotel room number. I then call them at an agreed upon time with info. I've had gentlemen request the call an hour or two before our encounter, so rather than give the address I'll direct them to a nearby pay phone, and ask them to call me 15-minutes before our time for the info. Others request the call 30-minutes before our time, so I give the address and ring number. Apartment number is given when they ring in. No cell phone, no problem! But no phone at all would mean no encounter; if I can't call you at your home or hotel then it wouldn't work.!if you don't trust me with your phone number, I don't trust you with my address

To be honest I don't like these old and worn out questions . All of this is chemistry and a relationship built over time. In NS I have many reccos that I am the best at this or that, anyone that says anyone is the best at anything is simply meetings another's request, either on Cerb or in every day life.... This can be a relationship built over time or a very skilled SP that has learned her guests needs. Forgive me but the best of this or that is quite prosperous. Enjoy what you are doing or get really good at following instruction . Hmm, is that so hard ? For slow learners I can run a program!! Katherine

Prostitution is the world's oldest profession. It is NEVER going away! Are you listening Peter Mackass Uh... I meant Mackay?? Even the Cons need a hot woman every now and then to release them of their uppity, uptight moral values.

Lee you know the time in NS and you also know the " Habits " of your eastern GF's . Especially this mouthy one, better save my replies to PM's on this and I bet you know I will be sleeping in tomorrow !! Looking forward to your travelling news. Cathy. Yup... xoxo Additional Comments: Stand by tomorrow or at least Monday for questions. :)) Gee better shut my mouth or will get those infarctions we all hate . Boo, Talk soon.. Additional Comments: I have seen that chest and agree you speak the truth. On that social meeting you were a tease, wore alluring clothing and walked the walk . I'm going to be a lady ( rare) . I must say however that you acted very tempting that night and Boo Hoo me , my bad luck. An operation ensued the next day , lol they told me not to drink, hmmm. Any how Lee Richards , get off your oil patch to move and get ready. Yup call....... Additional Comments: Some how Lee Richards it bed time for me . Bhah I hate typing . But Gee I somehow enjoy typing you. Must have been that one or two drinks Oh boy tomorrow could m oo nig

So Lee Richards you have not told us of your hair removal system???

Just one more thought from me on this issue. Funny how issues evolve . I had unexpected spotting today which can happen at any time with us woman. I was somewhat embarrassed but treated it lightly and it was taken just as lightly. Accidents happens , gosh while making love one can need to pee and God forbid we fart. |We are human beings and the unexpected functions happens at times and as adults I am able to laugh these accidents off. All this is really small compared to the issue at hand. End of day, all women menstruate. Is this sexy ? Not necessarily so unless you have a fetish that makes it really desirable. I really think end of day, just be honest. If you are having your period and using a sponge tell your guest, then its his decision and all stress is taken away . Easy , honesty goes around the world and back. Now I am trying to think of a parallel situation that a gent may want to share with us to make the date stress free . Both men and women have an obligation to disclose anything that would make a date uncomfortable for either so lets just be honest and talk. August 16th, 2014 . No need for surprises that are unpleasant.

Bacon lover's dream come true.

Well said Miss Lane. I'd say also that the SP disclosing the fact in advance would probably be best, to allow the client to make an informed choice to receive the service, which could alleviate any potential self-consciousness on the part of the SP to provide her time and service. Consent is everything.

I can't see how surprising a client with this could be expected to end well. OK, there are doubtless some who would see getting it on at that time of the month as a positive thing, but I think they're probably a minority of the population. I'd have thought most reactions would range from neutral to strongly negative. However, expecting SPs to take one week in every four off is quite possibly going to make life difficult for them. In the past I've seen SPs offer BJ-only or BJ+greek appointments for a few days at a time on a regular basis, which seems like an entirely reasonable thing to do. There's no reason not to do FS appointments, provided everyone's OK with that. But whatever you do, the most important thing is to be honest and up-front about it. If a client wants to avoid that, then there's always next week... As a side note, it strikes me that what the ladies really need is to get some sort of button installed that they can press and just flush everything out in one go, rather than this messy process over a few days. This seems like an obvious design enhancement to me.

My take is that it is a legitimate discussion topic as long as you are not trying to expose or reveal the identity of the lady. Of course, I am no Mod and he has the final say. Personally, this had happened to me twice - and I won't disclose who were the ladies. I agree with you that when it happened it was shocking and unpleasant, not to mention that it is highly unsafe. As Katherine and Suite Escapes say, the ladies may have the need to continue working but full disclosure is really important and other services could be offered in lieu of FS and Daty.

I find it extremely sad as well. I am starting out in this industry fully aware of what I am choosing to do. I am actually choosing this lifestyle of paid companionship because I enjoy sex immensely and wish to continue to have it without being in the confines of a "typical" relationship. I am not interested in a single partner, and I enjoy variety as well as many men I know. While I can go to a bar on the weekends to look for a DTF hook up, I would rather spend a little time getting to know my lovers in a safe way. In a way that allows me to exchange ideas, information details and place a boundary on the distance the companionship will go in the future. Since a monetary amount is exchanged, in my opinion, a boundary is placed on the emotional components that often arise in on going sexual based relationship. This is what I want to do. This is 100% my choice. I have done the research, I know the pros and cons, I am ready and willing. However, that is now all at risk thanks to Peter McKay and the Conservative party. I find it very sad that someone with an opinion (not fact) and in a political position of temporary power (since parties change power all the time) can suppress my sexual freedoms and desires for companionship that work for me and that I am happy with in my life. I find it sad that someone I don't know, did not vote for, and truly wish to never meet, entertain or interact with, gets to set laws prohibiting who can enjoy my body, my fantasies and my sexual needs simply based on whether I get a monetary donation or not.

Once in a while, I like to meet some of the new girls that make their appearance at CMJ. Jasmin really has a flair for finding the perfect girls. I have to admit that I rarely repeat with the same girl (I have with one or two). I saw Bre's pictures and was intrigued and thought "why not?". I booked online and asked if she could wear some sexy lingerie. Boy did she ever oblige. When she opened the door I was speechless. My title says Bre...ware because this girl will knock the wind out of you. She is incredibly beautiful and fit; articulate and intelligent (she's working on her Masters degree in English lit); and sooooo amazingly sexy. Need I say more. Oh yes and she works out every day (every body part is a living witness to that fact). She can squat 180??? Wow!! All I can say is that our time together (1 hour) went by much too quickly. Bre loves to dress to impress and succeeds at it beyond your wildest expectations. I think I might be in love...again. ;-) Gentlemen, you owe it to yourself to meet this amazing woman, who in my humble opinion will become the next MA superstar in Ottawa. Thanks Jasmin (and Gwen) for this amazing discovery.

Shaving, waxing, epilation/depilation, laser, or pulling them out wildly, Ladies (and gentlemen) please share your hair hunting secrets!

Well, looking at that list of foods, some that jump out (for me anyway) as a hell no are asparagus (makes my pee stink), bananas and figs (make me fart) so those things would make the experience worse because it would make me nervous. Nothing worse than being in the middle of coitus and have a loud fart come out the other end or worse yet, during 69, omg, omg, omg.:icon_eek: In all seriousness though, I think it is nothing more than a placebo effect. Oysters have never really done a thing for me as far as enhancing the desire or experience.

Hi everyone: I was at Playmates recently. It is a social club as patrons appear to know each other well and chat with dancers. There were two girls who were the star of the bar. The main one was a young girl by the name of Hayley. She was a blonde spinner and I had the pleasure of having dances with her. Very cute face, soft silk like blonde hair, small boobs and great mileage and very friendly. I waited for her for long as she was always busy at the back of the bar talking to regular Playmate patrons. Another cute ebony girl I had dances with (actually she was Spanish like Dominican). Very cute face small mouth, lips and nose. Nice average size boobs but sexy areola. Very friendly and good mileage. I hope I could help to contribute.

Hi everyone: I was to Barbs a few days ago. I met a dancer name Nikki. Very pretty, model like. Average mileage. Another by the name of Stacey. Average looks and mileage both friendly. This bar has pretty girls. Additional Comments: Yes I had the pleasure of dances with Daisy last Sunday. She dances every day except Saturdays. She is a very cute blonde spinner (likely not natural blonde but looks like one for sure). Pretty face and young. She is a new addition to Barbs. She has typical Barbarellas mileage which is a bar known for its above average look girls and low mileage and classy bar.

Hi eveyone. I was to Taboo lately and met a dancer for those who interested in natural redheads, she was the one. Her stage name was Ginger. Freckles on face and shoulders very talkative and friendly and great hygiene and good mileage too.

I agree with Jay's post, technology is a tool that too many fail to use properly. I think our society is replacing the act of living in the moment with gadgets, gizmos and trinkets. I have used my smartphone to distract myself in moments when my mind doesn't want to deal with the situation and when I look back I've realized I missed something I should have been present for. When I replace technology with interacting with the now, I realize I've failed to stay present. The challenge for me is maintaining the awareness while taking advantage of the tech that can free up my time so I attempt to do that by exercising discipline with technology. My laptop causes me far more headaches in this practice than my phone ever could because I fall down the internet rabbit hole when I'm alone. I get up from the desk and realize I ate the cake and drank the bottle, I've been little and giant; hours have passed that felt like a few minutes. Those are hours I have to justify to myself as being time well spent and seldom can I do that. From a literal vantage point of this industry, it can be hard to arrange a rendezvous without a cell phone but it isn't impossible. It simply takes more patience which is something the OP pointed out he seems to have in spades... cat

.. the downside of not having a cell is that the wife cannot contact me at any time of day................................................................................... come to think of it that's not such a downside, especially the time I was balls deep inside a cute little biker chick and trying to read the tattoo on her ass while banging her doggie-style and then the darn phone starts ringing ....very distracting....

Ha !!!!!! Well what didn't fall out of my head in the shower 20 some years ago now gets Mach III'd I use really dull scissors around the bits n pieces and I still have HAIRY CHEST LIKE ANIMAL !! :) Chicks either dig it .... or dig in and run like hell !!! ;)

Further and as afterthoughts to you . If you are not aware these things happen . I feel badly you were put in a position that perhaps horrified you in this way. Please just be assured that we never, ever want this type of thing to happen but..... it does . Is has happened before and it always will in the future. This certainly can't parallel to what happened to you but it has happened in my personal life and perhaps it was not met with total appreciation. Here is my answer and its quite " pat" I am a woman and yes blood comes out of my vagina on a monthly basics , you need to expect this and if not perhaps a MTM would be better for you. Please I am not trying to diminish your situation but this is life. I try really hard to make sure my dates are stress free and without trouble . But oh my I am constantly reminded and shown things rarely turn out how I plan . Soo, I have learned to smile and sometimes be embarrassed but at the end of the day I am a fragile human being. I hope this helps ! xo

I'm a waxer all the way. It has its advantages in that you are baby smooth for at least two weeks. However you can really only get great results if you wait at least a month before repeating. The disadvantage is if you have an aversion to even fine peach fuzz this is not a good way to go. I'm very upfront with new people that this is the case and its rarely a problem. So many choices out there and that is mine. I think I'd need to take anti- anxiety pills if I had to take a razor down there every day. :icon_smile::icon_smile:

Oh my god! So hilarious... and so painful. Thanks Cato ;-)

Thanks for the advice. Ill be honest, as someone who hasnt used services before, its overwhelming. Your recommendations are outstanding Rebecca.

Private communication between a SP/Client is OK and at least for me would be respected. But no need to publicly disclose it I could see where regular clients would like to see a special lady, for some gentlemen it's the overall connection/companionship a lady provides more than individual menu items she offers. Also for some it is the menu the lady offers and a client might feel upset that the lady couldn't offer everything. If he had known he could have reschedule their date It's a matter of mutual respect. The lady respecting the man enough to tell him so he can make arrangements knowingly. And the man respecting the lady to understand "life happens" If that makes sense A rambling RG

Fantabulous!

Mirage is a reputable agency from the GTA that's expanding to Ottawa. So far all their ladies are from Mtl with a few from TO. They are professional, offer a loyalty program for repeaters and I've only used their incall location. I have had nothing but good experiences with them. Reviews and ads are all over at the other board.

SexxxyRebecca would certain fit what you are looking for. Her skills are second to none!

It's against cerb rules to air your dirty laundry in public. You know full well guys will be pm'ing you to ask who the lady is. Not cool.

OK. Here are about mines: ordering a coffee at the drive-thru and having to repeat several times my order, and still getting the wrong order... Oh, and this one: not being able to swim lengths at the swimming-pool although the schedule mentions it is THE time for swimming lengths. Really? Arrgh!

I contacted her once, agreed upon a time for the next day. When I tried to contact her the next day, no answer, and never heard back from her. Curious to see if anyone else has tried.

I have clients that use them and I like them. They reduce friction from facial hair if they have that. Go for it.

UPDATE: I'm delighted to announce that my article regarding Bill C-36 has now been published on an independent media site. You can find the link here: http://rabble.ca/blogs/bloggers/views-expressed/2014/07/real-exploitation-sex-industry-its-distortion

If you are looking at being a provider, are you seeing women? Men? Both? or are you looking to find a lady to perform with? If you plan on being available to women, have you any experience in massage? Also, if for women, you must know it is far and few in between, and you will probably need to travel, as I can assume Thunderbay would only have a very small clientele that you could depend on. Are you prepared to travel long distance? Like anything, you cant get results unless you take the leap and try it out. Get your album together, and make ads and see where it brings you. Be sure to know the rules on this site for male providers, as far as I know you can not have album in the public setting.