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Whatever your field is, I would be curious to know how many times other professionals have been asked this very question. Dear gas attendant, it is my birthday today, can you charge me less per liter or in total? Dear mechanic, it is my birthday today, can I get a discount on your time and/or car parts? Dear dentist, it is my birthday today... Dear cashier at the grocery store... Dear psychologist... Dear landscaper... Dear babysitter... ... ... ... Would you ask those people for a discount for your birthday? Why not? So why does it always seem acceptable to ask this famous question to SPs aka sex workers? Because restaurants give you a cake with a candle on it for your birthday? The best way to "have your cake and eat it too" is to go to a restaurant and then go see an SP! Additional Comments: I almost forgot... Happy Birthday to the OP!

to politely decline the request for an encounter, for whatever reason, please accept her decision politely. Please understand these decisions aren't made lightly and are the result of a number of considerations, often including but certainly not limited things such as... scheduling conflicts, personal reasons, communication styles, reference reports, posting style & history, a simple lack of chemistry... or a combination thereof. It's important to remember that a lady is balancing her requirement for income with her comfort level and her compatibility with suitors, and when the scale tips too far the wrong way, she is then faced with the delicate task of informing someone that they'd not be a good match. Interrogating a lady, insisting she provide reasons for her decision, & asking for reconsideration will rarely gain you ground, and will almost always result in a lady being very glad she made the aforementioned decision. It makes an already awkward situation even more unpleasant. Please know that a lady makes this decision carefully, and is considering your best interests as well as her own. Accept it graciously. Thank you :)

I really don't think you will have any luck on your search. May be if you had seen an SP fairly regularly then you might get some thing extra, like a slightly lower rate but highly unlikely. More like you would get a cupcake or cookies (both items I had received as birthday gifts) but that was only with SPs I had seen regularly over the past few years. Another question, is how were you planning on "proving" your birth date. To really prove the date you would have to show some id. The only reason I received my birthday cupcakes and cookies was that in previous meetings I had mention which month I was born. No exact dates just the general month. Hopefully, you really are looking to celebrate your birthday and are just trying to see if you can swing a "deal". Lots of SPs hate that stuff. I would recommend you play the long game and start seeing some of the fine and generous ladies here on CERB and see what happens in a year from now. Happy Birthday and good luck on your search.

With all the negativity happening all around us, I thought a thread to focus on the good and positive might be a good thing. So share those things that make you smile or that you are grateful for. These are not highlights but rather more simple things that perhaps you overlook but add to your day. When someone thinks of you and says hello The smell of fresh brewed coffee The funny things that children say as they figure out the world around them The ability to play music anytime, anywhere for any mood The first touch of sun on your skin after being indoors An unexpected picture posted online that makes you laugh, better if a snort! Homemade brown bread

I think the OP's original request/suggestion is not to 'wait til tomorrow' but to simply move on.

Client first time caller: Hi, I've never seen you before, but today is my BD and i'm looking to see if you do any Birthday specials. SP: "zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz Like I haven't heard that one before. It's is second to the "I'm a student' (therefore i should have a discount) and close in line to "I'm a senior" (and therefore I should have a discount). " Here's how it really works. Client first time caller: Hi, i saw your ad, are you available on X at Ypm? SP: yes I am, thanks for calling, see you then. I have to ask, you have seen my rates yes? Client caller: Yes, it all looks great. It's my birthday, and I am planning this for a special treat for myself. SP: happy birthday, see you soon. OR Client 106th time caller: Hi, you available on X at ypm, it's my birthday and I'm looking to treat myself. SP: absolutely, see you then. And then sp proceeds to pick up something special for her long time regular, even if all it is is a cupcake with a candle.

Gawd - great idea in theory, but difficult to finalize. I would never want someone to approach me to barter my services. Period. If however I choose to ask my regular if he wants to barter with me, that would be my decision. I would never do it though. I would prefer to pay for things with cash. Easier Imo.

I don't offer birthday specials but once I have established regulars and they tell me it's their birthday, I will do something nice for them within our session. I think this is only appropriate if you know the person. How is an SP going to know it's someone's birthday? Are they going to show her their driver's license? I'm thinking probably not. Many people ask for discounts.. I'm a student.. okay, good for you but I charge equally to all my clients. A lot of entitlement these days imo. I hate to poo poo this idea and ruin the fantasy but this is our job and how we make our living. I've noticed lately that a lot of guys calling are expecting way less for than what we offer. We also have bills to pay. Would clients go to work for less than they want to be paid for? I highly doubt it. If I gave everyone a discount for whatever reason, I wouldn't be able to pay my bills.

My dogs and cats playing. Friends helping others Beautiful weather

Listening to my son playing guitar. Chatting for hours with a very special someone :))) receiving a random text saying "thinking of you" Special friend you can reach out too A very happy Bianca xxx

When one of the dog's, cat's or bunny comes up to you to play with you.

I have notice that it happen more lately that some gents have extreme reactions to our refusal to see someone Guys bringing pictures of the sps and went to the front desk and gave her room number to get kick out,contacted the landlord of the building to give them unit and advertise lady. Info ,treaths of bad reviews,harassments,insults,try to book under other numbers names This type of behaviors have increase the past few years.. Almost like the clients has no fear and feel completely empower of not leaving us the choice..Which is scary I think it's part of any human being to dislike been decline services,intimate,well rejected however we all need to understand that in such circumstance it should be accepted and move on as it's usually for the best interest of both parties VJ

- receiving a friendly email, a text or a PM from a SP ( eg. saying Hello) - at a time other than regarding a booking of an appointment - smelling the fragrance of flowers when stepping into the yards - seeing the pics of my favorite little doggie

Seems to me that some clients demand 100% satisfaction or else they consider they session a total failure and want their money back. These are the same goofs who waste time at the cashier because they want five cents off their potato or whatever. If you cannot allow that occasionally things don't work out then grow up. And if losing $200 or $300 is a financial disaster you shouldn't be seeing escorts.

wow really? this sure appears to me to be a vent .... aka dirty laundry... disguised as an inquiry about others' experiences. If I'm right, you're insulting our intelligence, it's rather transparent and against the rules of CERB.

I gotta stay away from these threads, they make me jealous! 2-3 times a year, I'd say. 2-3 times a week if you count my dreams. ;) Ah well, at least those times sure are memorable!

Well when I started it averaged one date a month. Because of personal circumstances in my life it is reduced to a date once every few months My days of disappointing encounters is long gone though. While many guys use recommendations as a guide on who to see, what I found works for me is when a lady I trust and respect endorses (if that's the right word) another lady. Also, I repeat with ladies I have seen and have a good time with, which all but eliminates disappointing encounter. I've found one trick to avoid a disappointing date...stick with the ladies from CERB. All my bad dates were from CL, Er*s, and other sites. The ladies on CERB have a board presence, profile, recommendations (sometimes) and so on. Anyhow, a rambling RG

I want to share with community as someone I find it quite funny Recently to try to pay my taxes which had hit me very hard this year.. I decide to trew some incentive specials on my Gfe sessions even overnights It's has Been few months I do this and for the first time yesterday someone call me stupid and told me that was ignorant as it doesn't make any math sense..That I must be that ignorant xxxxxxx Anyways..his logic was to calculate my half hour rate special+my hour special and because it didn't total my 1.5 total I'm an ass Now my logic when I did my specials was that guests would see how much discount they were getting on the actual fees not making math of Hh 1 and 1.5 and 2 Fixed the problem..I higher my HH fee discounted lmaol You would think that some people would be greatful on fees been more affordable than normally..And I think most around the country have been so far that why they have book and stay quiet. Tonight I have " potential client" Asked me how come it was 180 and now 190 for Hh I explained that I tried to accommodate to more people and be lower ..But it's a special and I dont have to do it..So I raise the Hh special to quiet those that will call me stupid ass,whore etc Lesson from this: Nothing good to say..don't lol I'm sure now many men will be upset at that fella for saying what he said Xox VJ

In this instance, MsSarah, "outing" refers to an SPs working identity being linked with her personal one, and her being "outed" as a sex worker in her personal life.

The OP is asking if a provider has birthday specials. He's not asking for a freebie. He has only 4 posts to his credit, so some allowance could be considered for the "newbie" factor. The beauty of this industry, is that each provider can choose to run his / her business exactly as it best suits him / her. Be it rates, screening requirements, services provided...or anything else. Consider for a moment, that the OP has perused the ads from our wonderful ladies, and is simply looking to save himself some time...because after all: We have ladies with long weekend specials http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191654&highlight=special We have ladies with special allowances for later bookings or overnight rendezvous http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191648&highlight=special We have ladies with specials of the day http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191639&highlight=special We have early bird specials, and specials for bringing wine http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191629&highlight=special We have month end specials http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191629&highlight=special We have specials to help pay for taxes http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191446&highlight=special We have pre-booking specials http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=191045&highlight=special We have specials for "$50 reduction for a rendez-vous confirmed before " deadline http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=190144 Clearly, specials are a common thing. So my question is this...why is it ok for providers to have specials, but frowned upon when men inquire about specials? IMO, the OP is not looking to negotiate a ladies rates, he is inquiring if a provider has a birthday special...nothing more. Either a lady has one, or she doesn't. I don't see why it needs to be more complicated than that. After all, cut him some slack...it's his birthday ;)

All of my best clients are CERB guys ;) BP did not work well for me at all since most of the men, not all - but most are looking for everything and anything at the most cost effective price-and the bs filled text messages that follow-such an annoyance. I can honestly say I met 2 nice guys from BP. I refuse to give any money to that mismanaged site that also has the worst customer service EVER.

Seeing the happiness in faces of my grandchildren. Seeing an ad that one of the special ladies here on Cerb that you have being flirting with is coming to PEI:)

Katherine (aka Cathy hfxdom) is a Halifax provider who passes through here sometimes, and on her most recent stop I made my very first appointment with her. She is only my second such encounter, and it's going to be very, VERY difficult for anyone else to top her. She was sweet, kind, extremely patient with a nervous customer, and more than willing to accomodate my desires. She shows genuine enthusiasm for what she does, and gave me enormous pleasure. Her massage talents are amazing. Lads, she's also HOT. Fit and hot and very enthusiastic. I can't say enough about her. She has pages upon pages of recommendations over at the NS board for very good reason. Treat her well and make some appointments so she comes back to our city more often. She definitely is worth the time. There can't be many out there this awesome.

You shouldn't approach seeing a SP on your birthday as a chance to get a "birthday special" Instead, especially if you have a lady you see regularly, you might want to spend a day or evening out with a lady to share your birthday with her...but because you know and like her and that her company would make your birthday special But a call out on CERB makes me think your looking for a birthday discount...don't be surprised if you get no ladies "jumping" at the chance, they could spend the time better with a client who pays the full donation Just my opinion RG

No! Titcoin!

I think it's totally fine if both parties are comfortable with it. What two people choose to exchange is entirely between them. After all, what's the difference between asking for $500, versus something you both agree is worth $500? Part of the trick, though, is agreeing beforehand on what's really worth $500, plus ensuring that Service B really does get performed following the delivery of Service A. There can be a lot of practical problems making service-barter work in real life. Currency is immediate and convenient, which is one of the reasons it's so popular in general. ;) Incidentally I voted "no opinion" because I don't think is a bad idea, nor a great idea, just a bit tricky and situational.

Love this chéri!! Keep your libido going not necessarily to have U spend money but just to be alive!! And possibly for a VERY long time love!!!! Barbara xxxooo

Hi there. I can see where you would get turned off absolutely. Most women in this business will use a sponge that time of the month while working. Sometimes it is quite effective, other times not. It works great for some women and not so great for others. I, myself have tried this method before, and did not find it helpful. So now, I opt to take that week off. As I would recommend to other ladies. Native tradition, this is supposed to be a sacred time, your moon time. So, for the women that are regulated, and know when it's coming, plan to take a break. You deserve it and probably need it. If you are working regularly and budget properly, saving for that rainy day, than a week off won't affect you. It's not much fun working anyways if you are crampy, bloated and irritable. Although this is the one time a month women are most horny. God has a funny sense of humour. My comment to the men reading this, please go easy on the ladies. It's a natural part of life. Maybe your service provider just checked into a prime location and is out $200 or $300 in hotel fees, and surprise she got it early, and has to make the most of it. I do agree with the fact that perhaps she can offer other services than full. I have, myself, done this when in that predicament; offering oral or a nice tantric massage is a great alternative to full service. Another quick note; this is a fetish for a few men, a turn on, although some men are shy to admit it. I had an old boyfriend that absolutely loved going downtown on me that time of month. I was weird about it at first. But of course, I want to do anything to please my men. And sure enough, I loved it. And we connected really deeply. I am not suggesting this as a marketing strategy, messing around with blood is very risky. But keep an open mind. Different strokes for different folks. Thanks for reading, Sylvia Star

This type of stuff happens all the time, I show my face yet people ask for full nude photos - not going to happen EVER. You offered them Skype as an option and that was not feasible for them. Sounds like pic collectors to me, however I could be wrong. Why not offer a social rate for any meet and greets that way your being compensated for your time and if they are serious about booking, they won't balk at this. Or like anyone else if they are not happy with how you do things and how you present yourself, they can seek other company - anytime you have to adjust your policies for anyone they fuck you over.

Well, that was a smashing experience. Jordan is a super friendly girl with a high sex drive. Definitely not a spinner type. But warm, welcoming, and accommodating. An orgasmic experience all around. The most fun I've had in a long time. Say no more....nudge nudge...wink wink...

This is a review of Crystal X found on BP. I saw Crystal a few weeks ago and I was not disappointed. I have followed her ads and website for a while waiting for the perfect time to see her and I'm glad I did. Booking was done via text and I met her at a downtown hotel. She met me in a tight fitting dress that looked so sexy. We began kissing and caressing almost immediately. Crystal has dark hair, tanned, and is about 5'3, 110 lbs. Nice size breasts that were lots of fun to play with. The hour moved along quickly with kissing, DATY, CBJ and MSOG. She was non-rushed and it felt like I could have stayed longer, but my hour was up so I dressed and left. I will see her again shortly, as she is moving to a more stable local downtown. She was a lot of fun.

I think if two consenting adults come up with an agreement, then no one else needs to concern themselves with it. The same sort of logic for cash would apply here obviously - an SP/MA can set their requirement, and it would be up to the client to decide if he/she wants to engage in that agreement.

I don't know Joseph but his insightful post makes me like him And anticipate more posts !

Itotally agree .. in GTA there are B'day specials.. Ladies .. dont be so offended (pious)

I like Boomer (Hank) for being a helpful, generous and very patient friend.

Basically under ALL circumstances, this is libel. That's the basis for libel, stating something that is a lie as a statement of fact, in order to tarnish someone's reputation. What some people mistake as libel is when an unflattering fact is made public, they call it slander, but it isn't. As long as it is true fact it isn't libel. The anti who posts lies (which is basically ALL the time) is guilty of defamation, libel, and when they are interviewed, slander. The person slandered has a good case for a lawsuit. Before C36 was presented, the media and attention was fully behind them. They pranced around spouting off their misinformation and misleading stats, and the papers gobbled it up and parroted it out. then the hearings, and the C36 came out, and all the lawyers and all the organizations, and even the UN or Aids research groups all come up, and finally the media is thinking, hey, this is really stupid this C36. And suddenly like June 3 you wouldn't see one reporter do one article without showing 3 antis propaganda versus one single sp comment. June 5, they almost all of them swing completely to the other side. The antis started freaking out. I've seen a few of them whining and complaining about media bias, and how 'they" (as in us, as in 'the pimp lobby") are getting all the attention, all the stories, and shockingly, the general population is starting to LISTEN. Suddenly many of the human trafficking organizations (that get donations and fundings) are being investigated, and revealed to be made up of lies and fraud. It is drawing attention to the rescue industry in Canada. Are we to expect the same, people ask? Are these people inflating stats and putting up fake ex-sps to talk about things that never happened? Are we being duped? And if we are, shouldn't we start listening to the sps who will be affected by C36? I think that is what the reporters started asking. And that really stung the antis. They were so horrified, they are beside themselves. The name calling and jibes they started while the pro sex work speakers talked during the hearings crossed over to the internet, twitter, they created a website about the evil johns (as in p erb/ t erb type reviews alot from 2005), and another one the day Chris Atchison (http://www.johnsvoice.ca and sex research study (can't remember the website)) spoke at the hearings to discredit him and susi (sue davis, sp advocate) because they were so afraid of the research he presented (shockingly, chris wants us to believe that all clients are not monsters, and that some clients have suffered some form of violence at the hands of an sp or sp encounter ... THAT one really infuriates them :) ) /ranting about antis

Super hot. Worth the call. She's outgoing, friendly, fun and very energetic. Will definitely be calling her again.

I don't think the intention of this thread and that are the same. Sure some negotiation would be involved with a barter system, but not in the way the other question was asked. That had to do with haggling down prices, which is down right insulting in my book. That implies a hobbiest looked at a posted rate and asking for a lesser price. Bartering simply implies alternative means of compensation than money that is agreed upon by both parties. So what if an sp posted in an ad saying: my rate is x $, however "if you're a mechanic, I'm having trouble getting my engine revving", or "if you know about roofing, I'm getting wet in all the wrong places", would there be an issue with that? Obviously it would have to be agreed upon by both. Showing up with a vase that you figure is worth a certain amount would not be cool if she is expecting cash. But otherwise, why not? Modern currency is merely a means to standardize transactions and ultimately, make them fairly taxable. I don't see an issue if it is good for both and agreed upon. It may however open doors for the other type of haggling mentioned above. Edit: sorry, meant to quote rg's original post. Stupid smart phones. ;)

True. Plus the need to spend time haggling every time you do it, since you can't have an up-front rate for your time if you don't know what you're going to be exchanging it for. I get the impression most ladies aren't fond of haggling.

I looked at the pics and I smell fake... be careful.

I saw her over a month ago. Pics are fake, which I don't understand as she is an attractive girl. Service was good. I would repeat.

I advertise on both, as well as here. I try to make a point of asking clients where they found my ad and most of the time it is bp and they just made the decision from there. If I was spending money to see a companion I would do more homework than that! There must be so many men out there getting ripped off or getting poor service.

Speak for yourself ..I don't remotely enjoy neither than provide script session :)

I'm a two to three times a week guy. I blame my libido.

Everyone else on the road. All of them. When I become dictator for life, I will have my own private highways.

Two things I want to say on this. The first is: congratulations, and thanks. To everyone. This thread had only a few posts last time I looked at it, and I must admit I had thought it would inevitably turn into a shitstorm. But.. it hasn't: we have instead had (mostly) an interesting and useful and civilized discussion on a subject that really doesn't seem to come up very often. That's a rare and precious thing; you have only to look at comment threads on news articles or even some of the other boards to know that. And if that lot sounds patronizing... honestly, it's not meant that way. I've tried to avoid sounding condescending, but I'm not sure that I've succeeded. The second is a more general and non-specific thought on GFE, and what it is, and - more importantly - what it isn't. If we're honest, we clients don't want to have an experience that's exactly like we'd get from a girlfriend. We just want the good bits. The highlights. We only want to give as much as we feel inclined to give, rather than giving as much as is necessary. And the ladies know this. That's why, when you go to see a SP, she won't tell you that your shirt doesn't suit you. She won't spend the first hour venting about what a bad day she's had, or fretting because her puppy's off his food. She won't decide that no, she just wants to cuddle this evening (unless you want that too) and she sure as hell won't have a headache. She'll give you the impression that she enjoys your company just as much as you enjoy hers. You get all the positives of a girlfriend, and none of the negative stuff or the stuff that might require effort on your part. Is this selfish? Of course! And that, of course, is one of the reasons that there's an envelope on the table. And that comes back to this thread. We guys know that menstruation happens, just as bad days and sick pets and headaches and all the other things that might make things less than stellar also happen... but, if we're honest, we don't want to have to deal with that - and part of what we're paying for is not having to deal with that stuff. It doesn't make the slightest difference to our enjoyment whether it's that time of the month or not, or whether today's just a bad day or not, or whether you're faking or not... provided we don't find out. But if we find out, that illusion of the perfect girlfriend is shattered. We're quite happy to pay no attention to the man behind the curtain, provided we can plausibly ignore the man - and, preferably, the curtain too. This also comes back to something else mentioned on the board recently; one of the ladies mentioned that she'd had to cut off a client or two for trying to cross the boundaries and get too close. I think the idealized, no-negatives "girlfriend" that we guys meet goes some way towards explaining why this happens; it's easy to forget that the "girlfriend" that you experienced and had a wonderful time with has a real, three-dimensional person underneath, and that you don't get to meet that real person at all just by putting an envelope on the table, and that the fact that you're slightly in love with the idealized GFE doesn't mean you'll feel the same about the real person, or that she'll feel the same about you. Where the hell am I going with this post? Honestly, I'm not quite sure... I guess that really makes it what RG would call a rambling. I think what I'm really working towards is a thought that much of this thread is the result of a disconnect between the day-to-day reality of being a woman on the one hand, and the guys' expectations of a paid-for girlfriend experience on the other. Most of the time, it all works out. But sometimes it doesn't. And then you get... this. And slightly incoherent late-night verbal diarrhea from the likes of me.

I hope the antis keep up with this. It shows their true colours. Plus, this is nothing new. They've been at this since the 70's. I've been called a traitor to the female sex, a collaborator, in collusion with the patriarchy, a racist, supporting colonialism, a liar, a member of the pimp lobby and just a plain old whore. The best course of action is DO NOT ENGAGE. Ignore and block.

Since your fee is very reasonable, their risk in booking a session is miniscule. No need to overcomplicate things with social meetings/skype/pics - if they're not willing to just book, I'd send them on their way.

You could set a fee for this that if you want to, comes off the session fee. or 50% of it is deducted from the session fee. YOu have to keep in mind that you cannot meet in a public place and discuss rates and services anyway, so if that is their intention, you can simply decline by pointing that it is considered 'public solicitation' which you and they would be guilty of it you agreed, and the discussion took a turn towards fees or services. A few things come to mind with these kinds of enquiries. One has been mentioned: the picture collector. They want all your info, but provide none. They want a face pic, then arrange for you to show up somewhere, they know what you look like, but you don't know if they are watching you from somewhere, what you drove, etc. Don't do it. The other thing that I suggest is it is supposed to be a couple. You have to speak (on the phone in other words) to both halves of this couple. you have to verify that it is actually a couple. You have to verify that she really is on board with this and not just 'going along'.

That's funny, because all of the news media articles tell us a different story: Johns: shady individuals who lurk in their cars, dark interior and roam around the streets in the darkness of the night. Prostitutes: High heels, short skirts, short jackets, if they are wearing one, but also roaming around the streets in the darkness of night. sometimes they will be seen leaning into a car window. This picture has actually been used in more than one story recently lol http://news.nationalpost.com/2014/06/09/calgary-overstepped-its-role-when-it-spent-21000-studying-prostitution-laws-abroad-taxpayer-federation-says/