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I totally agree with Gwen. In fact, I do not like to receive a picture of a gentleman prior to a rendez-vous, and this for many reasons. First: it does not say anything about this man; second: if I receive a picture by email, is it really his?; third: although I understand that your intention is positive and would be to reassure a lady, it is a bit like saying ''I look good or handsome or classy or funny (or I don't know what) and I am better than another guy (hopefully your pic will transpire this message because sometimes our pics are not necessarily perceived the way we think they are...); fourth: no, no, no, it is not at all about you being handsome (you could be a total jerk). It is about: being on time, being polite, being clean, being respectful, being in the moment, being interesting (veeeeery important quality for me!) and we will have a wonderful time together. OK. I will admit that if you are the total package deal then it is the lottery when we open the door, and inside of us we are jumping like crazy. But we stay composed... and hopefully this feeling will last until the end of our time together... But, winning the lottery does not happen everyday... and it is totally fine. ;-)

I'd have to agree with RoamingGuy. It seems interesting in theory, but may be a disaster in practice and could lead to a series of systematic abuse. The whole idea is bizarre. Why get married if it is only for 5 years? Why not just cohabitate then? A marriage is meant to be 'till death do us part (or 'till we get divorced). In addition to RG's concerns about divided families, there are legal ramifications to consider. One of they key legal issues with marriage is the division of assets along with the obligation to take care of one's partner by providing and maintaining a lifestyle they are accustomed to. In a fixed-term marriage arrangement, the ''escape clause'' (if I can call it that) after 5 years would IMO legally necessarily have to involve a waiver of the right to spousal support. Otherwise, it can be disastrous. Now I realize that even today there are many cases out there of failed marriages within the first few years, and one partner sees nothing wrong with seeking spousal support forever (I am not criticizing child support; I view that as a different and legitimate claim). It seems to me that the concept of the fixed-term contract (like any marriage contract) is to afford an early escape if it is not working out without having to carry the other person financially. Think about it: Anyone can get divorced at any time. The fixed-term marriage contract would simply be a trick to avoid the financial repercussions of a divorce as the law surrounding marriage contracts as it stands now does not allow for a complete clean-break from a spouse. Perhaps the author of the thesis was trying to suggest legislative reform.

What's the point in getting "married" if you might opt out after five years? Just live together.

Interesting thread. I had never thought about what it must be like for the lady opening the door not knowing what we look like. Must be a little nerve wracking. I generally try and tell a lady some of my attributes (height, weight, age) before I book the appointment. That way if she doesn't like older men or heavy set men she can veto the booking. I am an average at best older guy, but I would truly be devastated if a lady opened the door and I observed disappointment on her face because of my looks. As for albums of me on here, the Mod would need to worry about the "good taste police" more than the silly federal governments stupid new laws trying to shut him down !!!

Don't try to be someone you are not. Don't try to be what they expect you to be. If someone does not love you for what you are your relationship is doomed. Be yourself and accept the other as they are.

I agree with you and think the same applies to all the ladies out there... there is certainly nothing wrong with physical beauty but what I find truly beautiful is a real woman who treats me like I am the most important person in the world even though I know I am not. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

I just want to point out that this might not be entirely accurate. I will never have a website. Or post my number anywhere. (Personal reasons) And just because a person does, it doesn't mean they are any more serious than someone who doesn't. As someone who is new, I don't think it would have mattered if I had made a website. Until you get that first recommendation, you are a risk to see regardless of wether or not you have a website. A new girl with a new website does not make her more reputable than a new girl without a website (in my opinion). Don't get me wrong though. Websites are great. I just don't think they make a person more legit. Anyone can make a website. And without those risk takers out there, a new girl has no chance in this industry. So I thank those of you that took a risk on me! I say trust your gut, and if it's someone new, be careful, but don't shun her out of the game.... speaking of games... did some one mention naked oily twister?! What a blast that would be!

Gents (and Ladies) Here's another newbie question but probably everyone is interested to see what you think on this topic. Obviously all of us are aware of the notion of tipping for great service received, however tipping often has customary practices that are unique to the surrounding circumstances. What are the 'best practices' re: tipping in the SP space? For example... - always tip except in the face of worse possible service (like tipping in a restaurant) - only tip if the service was 'blow you away' good (Not a BJ pun!) - never tip because the donations are "all inclusive" (this would seem unlikely to me) And lastly, is tipping generally percentage based (like a waiter or a cab) or a fixed amount based, or whatever you think it was worth based? Sorry to bring up money when so many more fun topics are at hand, but these Ladies deserve Best Practice and personally, I definitely do not want to miss the mark on this important point. Thanks in advance for all of your thoughts.

For myself, like to keep my balls and shaft area clean shaven and my upper bush trimmed to a manageable length. On a woman, I'm not really that picky, whatever you decide to do is fine, I'm just happy I get to play with it! But my preference is clean around the lip area with a small, well maintained "landing" strip or any other fun little design up above. I find it more visually pleasing to have some hair, but a clean underside is far more functional. Just my 2 cents, but Mia, I'm sure yours looks and tastes amazing regardless of hairstyle!

I am not married and have no children but have been with the same woman for more than 25 years. We have an annual review where we set a time to talk about us and how we're doing, plan vacations and review finances, RRSP's etc. It's work well for us. Once you go through the loss of parents and friends and mourn together you become bonded in a different way. Sometimes the grass might look greener but you're too old to try and jump that fence and you've learned that when the going got tough neither one cut and ran and that means a lot. Peace MG

I am married... yes we have major problems in our marriage... not things that I would blame on either of us... life happens... issues arise some we are equipped to deal with some we are not... do I love my wife less than 30 ago certainly not... she is the most important woman in my life... the mother of my children... my soul mate and only true love of my life. Sometimes Love is just not enough. If i was to think about what the major challenge to marriage is based on my experience it would simply be our inability to effectively communicate. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

I don't want to sound too pessimistic (or simply realistic?) but I am surprised that the institution of marriage even still exists. All I heard about in my life was not about how being married makes for a wonderful and loving partnership/family for a lifetime. I have seen and heard a lot of sadness and unhappiness, and still do. Family, friends etc...There are a lot of singles out there, of any generation, and the number is growing. It is a social epidemic. Whatever the problem is, it is not a contract that will guarantee anything. Whatever the conditions are (and everybody can make up their conditions. Why not creating a new trend with marriage contracts where partners state on a paper all their specific rules, duration for this contract etc... before they say yes? We can be very creative about it if we open this door). But the real problem is this awful and painful incapacity for the big majority of people today to find partners because we do not know how to love each other anymore, we do not know how to commit to a relationship. And it is not necessarily our fault, it is not my point. Many changes in our Western society in the last 60 years have deeply impacted the dynamic for couples - especially between men and women - that force us to reinvent loving relationships/committed partnerships. And it will take some time for us to figure this out as a society, and as individuals. Hypothetically, everybody is ''free'' now. The question is: when we are two, how do we manage this freedom?

Very easy answer Miss S. Lane... you absolutely cannot go wrong with this lady. Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

Sipping wine and day dreaming about January in Cancun :)

waived all the conditions on the purchase of my new farm. 76 acres with a stone house. my best Christmas present ever :)

I think it's a rather unpractical idea. You still run into the same problems of divorce during the life any contract. Also, I don't think it's a very strong starting point when one goes in knowing there is an easy way out. In making the decision to get married, I think there are several positive factors which are the basis for going ahead. One has to consider that the institution forms a stable long term platform for having kids. Also, in bad health and difficult times it provides a committed partner to provide support, and one has to assume you're totally committed to the venture long term. Being a widower and of advancing age I had a fleeting thought that maybe this might be for me. But with a little sober second thought it became apparent that the issues were probably more problematic, issues of potential ill health and estate planning come to mind. Better to just have a live in girl friend.

I am married for 30+ years so I would suggest that anything I might say about marriage might be seen as biased.... however that said I don't think the problem people experience with marriage results from it being open ended... so I don't see how a fixed term would change much. Marriage should be for those individuals who choose it as the way they want to make a commitment to each other and like any other contract the parties should have the right and ability to end the relationship when it no longer meets either or both parties needs. I am by no means anti-divorce but would fine it a little demoralizing to think that the start of my relationship was like, a carton of milk and had a predetermined expiry date. But you know what to each their own if that type of arrangement suits your needs wonderful. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

It might seem great at first glance but some thoughts occur to me I take it marriage would then be five year fixed term. It sounds ideal for people in their twenties, thirties, even early/mid forties but as you get older the dating world changes, single older ladies and gentlemen find fewer single ladies and gentlemen to date. So marriage options as you get older change (hope that makes sense) Community property. What five year married couple would buy a house together, for example, knowing in five years it could be gone. You buy a house to be a home, not five year temporary accommodation. What about children. Husband/Wife married and have a child. Five years up. Husband moves on to Wife 2. Wife moves on to Husband 2. Wife 2 and Husband 2 each have kids from previous marriages. It could get confusing for the children. Especially if they all get along then when five years up, husband and wife move on to wife 3 and husband 3 and so on I don't see the advantage in marriage for five years. It sounds like you are married with one foot out the door when you take your vows My take on it RG

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Since September, I've seen Jewels from CMJ quite a few times. She is a beautiful older woman that has the body of a 20 year old. She is a very giving and caring woman, that desires to cater to your needs. Her only goal is to make you happy. She understands what a man wants and know how to please a man. Great massage and body slides. Best of all, a great kisser. A very sexy sensual woman that is not only beautiful, but athletic and intelligent. Have had some of the best sessions with her.

Just finished re watching Desolation of Smaug in preparation for one more trip into Middle Earth!

My sister just sold a pristine stone house on an acreage near Ottawa.

Oh my...I'm addicted to Netflix... The last one I watched was "The good wife" very good series.. besides that I watched: Dexter, walkind dead, Breaking bad, Lost, Homeland... I was told about the son of anarchy but it's not on the canadian version...maybe some day...

I finally recently had the opportunity to meet this wonderful lady... i had always been impressed by her personal connection with people here on LYLA... and as I expected she is even nicer in person.... while today she is sending hugs out under this thread the reality is she has been giving us all hugs in her many posts over the years... THANK YOU For being who you are and know that I am sending hugs right back to you. Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

Do you mean Lindsey lohan and Paris Hilton are here?

76 acre farm with a pristine condition stone house. Omg I am on cloud 10

The benefit of no picture is they get to remain positive and hopeful right till the minute the door opens instead of dread and motivational talks to themselves when they have my picture lol Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

Last year, the premises of certain Ottawa MA location was attended by the police. No doors were busted open, no disturbances. They knocked on the door, asked permission to come in and check things out to make sure it was safe, clean and no human trafficking. If those criteria are met, LE walks away. I do not see the amendments to the Criminal Code changing that approach and do not subscribe to paranoia or hysteria. If there have been cases where LE breached a premises, it should not have been done and any charges laid proposed by LE would have been dropped by the Crown prosecutor. I understand what Rubjunky is saying though about being named if LE crosses the line.

Daydreaming of meeting Emily Rushton someday in Ottawa. Just saw her profile. My heart melts, sigh. :icon_wink:

I will take a man that's not conventionally attractive and sweet than a gorgeous jerk every single day of the week. And I honestly think most of us are the same. I'm a glass half full kind of girl and I've certainly answered the door and had my socks knocked off by gorgeous men, but it means nothing to me if they don't treat me well. I love having my brain tickled too so a good conversation goes a lot way in regards to me having a good time. Then there's subtle things that a picture can't show, like smell, taste and touch. I'm actually able to tell a guy's age and a bit about his personality by the way he messages me. The girls think it's an odd talent lol but I'm almost always right on. That being said, pictures don't hurt :)

For what its worth this is what I know from a reliable source. He hadn't paid the rent for almost a year. The landlord finally had the Sherriff's office lock him out. The cops were there at the landlord's request. He was taking inventory of the contents for seizure and auction and came across a couple of items the police may have been interested in. Not sure what. Don't know if the cops took anything else such as the computers. Nothing illegal about having your name in an MP's database but the cops may use it to squeeze someone. Most guys would be smart enough not to use their real name for their membership but I'm sure there are a few sweaty brows out there.

I have only shared my picture before meeting with Two CERB Ladies. In one case a few years ago I would suggest it was part of her screening process... we had chatted on text for a few weeks and I was comfortable enough that I agreed to share my picture with her before we met. In the second case it was with a lady I chatted with on here but really never expected to meet as she did not tour and I did not get to her city very often... we chatted on and off for a few months and at some point... and I don't really recall why I shared my picture with her. In the end I was lucky enough to meet the lady and was very glad we had chatted it was a great session. I can't see myself posting pictures here on the site and don't think my sending a picture will become a common thing... lol... Strange ladies who have met me never as for a picture lololololol Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

In the past I did send pixs via email. One reason was to ensure we didn't know each other from another life (it happened) and so they could practice hiding their disappointment when I arrived at the door :) Peace MG

T'was the night before Christmas, when all through the city, It was cold, it was snowy, but she was so pretty. Her stockings were warmed by long, gorgeous legs, In the hopes they'd be touched before she begs. They then nuzzled up in a shower so hot, With visions of things, they knew they could not. But dreams aren't forbidden, so imagine they did, Of things sexy enough that their eyeballs hid. When out of the shower and rules were the matter, They had a great time with big laughs and chatter. He rubbed her long legs, right up to her back, She returned the favour, and she sure had a knack. The hour went quickly, and pleasure was had, Her steamy, hot talking had driven him mad. With an extravagant smile, from left ear to right, His thought ran right wild, all through the night. Closing the door, he stood weak in the knees, Wholly impressed by how she likes to please. Santa climbed in his sleigh, with a sigh so slight, Saying "Merry Christmas to all, boy she was a sight." Happy Holidays everyone. Mad love, Gwen

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In response to RiddlerMan's post: I agree that the term ''sexual services'' is very broad. It makes me laugh, like when Bill Clinton was trying to define the term ''sexual relations'' with respect to Monica Lewinski. IMO, the new legislation does not practically apply to strip clubs with respect to lap dances and such. These are licensed establishments and it would be very difficult to enforce. Sure, if a stripper is offering to do a guy in a VIP room (which seems to be more and more available these days; not that I participate in this), there could be a criminal offence there but LE would not have the right to just bust in the private room without a warrant (which may prove difficult to obtain). That being said, I have never heard of any legal case in Canada on that issue. Am I wrong? Has anyone ever heard of LE going into a strip club and actually arresting folks?

Cops may not be allowed to commit sexual acts on duty, but that doesn't mean they don't. Cops commit some of the worst assaults against sex workers. This is honestly the dumbest thing I've ever heard.

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Malibu and I had this conversation last week. The input is candid and valued and I'm grateful to each and everyone of you that chimed into the conversation. Here are my thoughts on some of the things posted. I can really only speak from my personal experience at CMJ, as it's the only place I've ever "worked": Privacy: walking into the building - our building has the right amount of people coming and going for it to be comfortable and there is zero labeling on the outside of the building at all that it contains a Hostess Lounge. If there was a beaming sign outside that said "you sexy neighborhood rub n tug" I could see it being a bit horrifying. meeting someone in the hall - an incredibly rare occurrence that we, as hostesses, try to prevent at all costs. Sometimes I wish it wasn't so awkward shuffling someone back into a room, but we usually just laugh it off. We peek into the hallways and can hear the doors open and close so we typically know if someone is wandering the halls. cameras - we have cameras only in common areas and definitely not in the rooms or bathrooms. That's for our safety and security, not for our pervy viewing pleasure ;). Experience: bonding with your MA - I absolutely love getting to know my guests. Do all indies take the time to get to know you? I would say some do and some don't. I think it's the same with a spa. Thankfully we have CERB so we can chit chat about what you like prior to a session. Longer sessions are also very accommodating to cerebral massage. clock watching - even when we're having a great time (which is most of the time) we still have to be mindful of the time. If you're concerned for time, we encourage you to book more time. I/we want you to have the best experience and enjoy yourself and not all of us are made with exceptional internal clocks. Sometimes we're booked back to back, sometimes we're not and have a bit more leeway with time. I'm mutually concerned with not being late for my next appointment and making sure my current guest doesn't feel rushed (which I don't like either.) Concern for the MA: scheduling her own time - for the most part, we make our own schedules. If we need to be somewhere before or after and it's not a common last-minute occurrence, Jasmine says "no problem." If we want to run down the street to grab a coffee, bite to eat, or shop at bit, we do that too and give her a heads up that we're stepping out so she can let the members know we'll need a few minutes to get back. I've even gone to yoga class in the middle of a shift because it wasn't particularly busy and there were enough ladies on to cover. I can't speak for other spas, but CMJ is very accommodating. I even book sessions when I'm not scheduled because I can :) making sure she gets all the proceeds - to be completely blunt: this is our choice to make. The MAs that work in an establishment do so for a variety of reasons: safety, security, marketing, camaraderie (which is big for us), having a set schedule, not dealing with "idiots", not having overhead, running much smaller risks both personally, legally and financially, and the list goes on. If you're concerned for us and are staying away because we might get a smaller paycheck, we're definitely going to have a smaller pay check if you don't come see us at all. WealthyCowboy is very kind and generous to tip well, but we understand that isn't an option for everyone. Having heard the indy/spa discussion from a hobbyist's perspective, I definitely have a better understanding, so again, thank you for sharing. Malibu, thank you for asking. I could sped some light on team spa ;) Mad love, Gwen xoxo

I prefer indy also. They are more relaxed and sometimes I have been asked to hangout and chat for a while. It's more private. But most of the indy's now work at spa's or retired. I go to spa's also because the women I like work at the spa. So far they are pretty discreet and have great facilities. But there is clock watching, as the rooms may be booked one after another.

I have been a very long time member of a local club and have enjoyed the familiar surroundings that an established club offers but at the same time I am there to enjoy the company of the woman and it doesn't matter as much whether they are working for an establishment or working on their own. If I enjoy being with the MA then I would see her in a club, at my place or her own location in the city. I would also add that location plays a big part of how often I see an MA. Meaning that if I have to drive across the city during the daytime to see an MA that only works daytime then it will never happen. There has to be some convenience in where she is working and the hours she works.

I have to disagree to a certain extent. Yes, naturally we are not monogamous creatures, so open relationships would seem to be a better option for most people, and they've been increasingly popular these days. But by saying that monogamy isn't humanly possible, or that we're in denile by thinking it is, is ignoring all of the many, many couples throughout the years, and ones who are even living now, that are in happy relationships with just each other, and are perfectly content that way. Many of the married men or one's in relationships that come to see us, have reasons why they do. But not everyone cheats, and not everyone would be happy in an open relationship. Every person is different, and their wants and needs are all different too, so while monogamy may not be for a large number of people, neither are open relationships. Personally I'm very much a monogamous person, I would never be able to do an open relationship, which is pretty contradictory of me, I know :P Then again, as you mentioned, if I were married, I would much prefer if my partner needed to explore other options, that he do so through escorts, where the boundaries are usually pretty clear between both people, rather than starting up a relationship with another women he could potentially move on to(I get jealous like that :P) Posted via Mobile Device

just wanted to mention that i try to please and sometimes im trimmed and sometimes bald, i always take requests :) thank you for the reference

I really like this question. I don't have a complete answer. But the main thing: seduction is an activity performed upon the mind of the subject, not the body. Everyone's concept of sexuality sits within a complex web of mental associations -- some of them common, some unique. These associations aren't about how sex is done; it's about what sex means to that person. It's about who they think they are sexually, what they desire, what they think sex promises for them, what they'll admit to and what they won't, what they're eager for and what they're afraid of. Tug on those threads, and you trigger deep responses not just about sex but about identity. Seduction is about pulling gently on those threads, and the better you know the person (or can predict them), the more effective the seduction will be. Ultimately you're creating an intensely sexual state of mind. But it's not just about making sex happen, but about making the subject want that sex to happen, so that they invest themselves fully and deeply in what follows.

I started in this business when I was eighteen, and I have always been painfully aware of the perceptions some people hold of young SPs. I cannot address the circumstances of other young SPs in this business, but I can talk about mine. Necessity was a factor that led me to this work, but I have never felt trapped in this situation. I know the risks of my occupation, and I still choose to do it over other jobs because this job allows me to be creative and independent, teaches me business skills and allows me to connect with people I wouldn't have otherwise met. Is it really necessary for me to have access to other high-paying, 'empowered' positions to make this choice valid? I am not a child. I am a young adult with an enterprising spirit who hates doing shift work for minimum wage and would simply prefer not to have to answer to any boss. At last, I have found work that does not leave me feeling exploited. Please don't belittle my agency, maturity or intelligence with sweeping ageist statements. My age does not make me a victim by default. I have tried to de-emphasize my age in advertisements because I am concerned about the assumptions clients will make about me as a young person. But that isn't really something I want to have to conceal, and I would prefer if people would make the effort to see me as a whole person, and not an age-based stereotype.

I think we all have multi identities and many ways of being in the world. I'm an escort, but I'm also a lover, sister, friend, student, and yogini. Some things aren't relevant in certain contexts, and we all have things we would simply prefer not to discuss. All of my friends and family know what I do; unfortunately, being able to live life openly is a privilege only few share in this industry. The only time I've ever lied is with an intimate partner who did not support me seeking my financial independence through escorting. Suffice it to say, we are no longer together. For some people, the 'double life' is necessary for their mental, physical, and emotional health. It's not necessarily bad, and it doesn't necessarily cause dissonance. For some, it can be very healthy and I've heard many gentlemen echo (both on the board and face-to-face) that the experiences they have with service providers help create and maintain a balance in their lives... Despite the 'double life' at times (managing/mitigating risk and making sure not to get caught), I think that's a really beautiful thing.