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Some things that may be of help for both of you. If you can, talk to her doctor's. Some medication only works for a short time for some people. Maybe she needs a medication change. Some times multiple medications are required. Exercise is very important for many medications to be most effective. If you are in the Ottawa area, see if the doctor's can get her a referral to the Royal Ottawa Mental Healthcare Hospital. They have some great in and out patient programs and services. This is covered by OHIP if you do not have private insurance. They even have support services for you. CBT or Cognitive Behavior Therapy can be a big help, but it takes lots of work on her part. Believe it or not, getting out of the house for daily walks together would be a big lift to her mood. http://www.theroyal.ca/ I have suffered from depression and other mental health issues for most of my life. I have been on dozens of different medications before they finally found me a good fit.

Do two parties have to have something to offer in a negotiation? It appears the ladies hold the cards on this one. Begging comes to mind here. I don't think the ladies should be making the donation to the monetarily challenged. I hope the ladies don't feel bad when this happens. Its sad but it always will. Hopefully it just helps with your screening so you know right away not to invest time. You have to shake your head a little though when you think about it. I spend so much money renovating, vacations, fancy meals etc. Etc trying to create memories so when you look back it feels like you lived a good one. Well all I know is when you can trade a few hundred roses for an hour of time from an angel there should be no begging, you should just pay the rate if she accepts you because you will be lucky to have a life memory. They are by far my most vivid and happiest. Ask a girl to turn a dream into reality and if she can knock 20 bucks off cmon....do u want fries with that?

Most cases of depression and/or anxiety have a biochemical basis that affects brain functioning. In other words your brain does not allow you to think and feel as you would normally. Worrying, brooding or being anxious about small or normal things in daily life is one symptom of depression and/or anxiety. You can't "just get over it" and move on. A healthy person would not necessarily become unreasonably upset about whether or not they're travelling business class. They may prefer business class, but if they can't afford it, it's not a big deal. On the other hand, a person who is already ill with depression and/or anxiety may obsess about travelling business class regardless of whether or not they've ever experienced business class before. The illness can lead to seemingly irrational thoughts and behaviours. When evaluating a person for depression/anxiety, a rating scale is used to determine the severity of the illness' symptoms on daily life. The ratings range from "no impact in daily life" to "debilitating impact on daily life". When the ordinary routines or challenges of daily life cause more severe symptoms, that indicates a more debilitating occurrence of depression and/or anxiety.

I am new to this but I cannot understand why anyone would be dumb enough to try to negotiate to save $20 or $40. It shows a complete lack of respect for the ladies and I assume they would respond in kind. This is not like buying a car where it has become accepted practice. When I contract for a service such as hiring an indoor house painter (which I just did) there was no dickering over the price. I wanted exceptional service and I got it. Contracting for a lady's time is the same thing. If I accept her rate as is I hope I am going to be well treated by her. How would you negotiators feel if the lady upped her rate once you arrived at her place saying it is extra for this or that. I would leave. Finally I am a professional accountant and I charge $x an hour -- if you try to dicker me down you are a dick and I wont have anything to do with you. Just saying.

In a previous business, I got haggled to death almost every day. Depending on my mood, I either dickered or I raised my voice and said, "The price is low enough as it is.... F you and get the F out!" I feel your pain. There are things in life which you can negotiate, typically the purchase of significant tangible assets, but when it comes to services (mechanic, plumber, etc.), I don't negotiate because I figure they'll get the price they want one way or the other (if one were to dicker for a lower hourly rate, they'd just bill more hours). When it comes to services I go for reputation, not price. This industry is unique of course, but if you lower your asking rate once, you'll get caught in a downward spiral (the discounted clients won't see you again unless it's at the discounted rate, and even worse, they could spread the lowered rate they received to other potential clients, thus snowballing into a bunch of drama: "he got that lower rate, so why can't I?!). I'm just an average Joe, but when I play I prefer a quality experience, so I have no problem paying the posted rate. I go for quality over quantity. If I have to set aside spare cash for weeks on end, I'll do so. If I don't have the full required amount, that's my problem not hers, so I'll be patient and wait until the piggy bank's full again. Only you can decide your own policies. Anybody who haggles with me now gets a polite "I'm sorry, I can't do that" the first couple of times; if they keep pushing and they push the right combination of buttons, once in a blue moon I'll still explode (I'm getting mellower as I age though). And you want to F-ing know something!? It's the fckers with the BMWs and the Acuras who are the worst! The richer they are the more they think they deserve a special rate!

Denying or lying about your feelings is only a temporary fix, and, as you've said, is causing you additional stress. Would you consider a couple's therapy session, with the aim to help both of you communicate more effectively? It can be exhausting to be the sole support, whether that is physically, emotionally, and/or financially, whether the causes are physical or mental illness. It's okay to have these feelings. It's okay to take care of yourself. There is support out there for both you as a family member, and your wife. In Ottawa we have the Psychiatric Survivors of Ottawa, which is peer-led and offers supports to both individuals experiencing mental health issues and their family members (WRAP programs and peer support). They also have quite a number of links to supports like the Mood Disorders Support and CMHA. As Jafo has said, there is also the Royal Ottawa, which can be an excellent resource, but usually does have a long waiting list for referrals. If that is something you might be interested, it is always easier to get on the waiting list and change your mind or not need it later, than to try and get that support when you or your wife is in crisis. There is also the Mental Health Crisis Line (613-722-6941) and the Distress Centre Line (613-238-3311). Good luck :)

So I am 31 years old, newly married and my wife is suffering from long term mental illness. She has always struggled with depression and anxiety but things have really taken a turn for the worst over the last 12 months. She currently on stress leave from work and is seeing a doctor and a psychologist. It all seems to help a bit but no silver bullets yet and things remain hard. Basically living with this is what pushed me to start seeing escorts and massage providers. For the last 12 months everything has fallen on me, cooking, cleaning, caring for the pets, taking her to all her appointments and handling all the money issues that arise from going down to one income. This was all combined with the need to always be the positive one and never, ever show if I am sad or mad about something. Seeing escorts is a break. For an hour every month my life didn't have to be about caring for someone else, it could be about me. I really think that this release was the only way that I stayed sane. Take tonight, we are booking tickets to go stay with some family we have somewhere warm. This is a luxury for us because, as I mentioned, the wife is not working right now. Instead of being happy that we are going to get away somewhere warm, she is depressed and teary that we can't afford to go businesses class. I have no idea how do deal with this. I am doing the best I can not to show anger as it will send her into a depressive episode that could last days. So instead I fake positivity and try to distract her with tea and pet talk. Hopefully her mood improves before we go. Anyway I started this thread because I felt it might help to write about stuff as it happens. I am going to keep adding to it as I feel the need.

biggest turn off? cheap guys, cheap guys, cheap guys.... if you are that broke, that poverty stricken, used to cheap rates or resent paying for company THAT much - then do not contact me. if u are used to cheaper rates, keep seeing those that provide them

Being threatened to be violated in a certain way when I say I have an age restriction, using explicit language because a person can't asccept the word "No". I do not see anyone under 35 anymore. Accept it and move on. And I don't take threats lightly so if a person wishes to go down that road...I refuse to deal with any bull$it of the sort. Don't tell me how many inches you are. That crap doesn't impress me. What will impress me is if you act like a gentleman. When I don't respond back, it means I'm busy or not available. Ever hear of a day off? Dont send me a barrage of texts demanding a response. A person won't get one this way. Calling up and asking for the address ( not the intersection but the actual address) and insisting on it and not asking for information, rates or anything of the sort. Suspicious much? Not going to happen. Don't try to take the potato out of the steak dinner so to speak. When I offer a massage package, there is no cutting corners to get a discount on the rate. If a person only has X amount of dollars, don't try to make it my problem because it's not. While I enjoy what I do, what I don't enjoy is someone attempting to negotiate my rates like I'm some sort of product. Thats where I end the conversation. As the saying goes "No money, no honey."

Home after two amazing weeks with family. I love my kids and my grandson is a really special little boy. :)

Some tongue in cheek advice http://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/clean-your-peen?bffb&utm_term=4ldqpgp&s=mobile#4ldqpgp and for the ladies http://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/how-to-actually-clean-your-vagina?s=mobile Also, anything to do with bottom play requires a whole different buzzfeed article ;)

Men who say they don't want it to feel like it's a transaction but really it's just a guise for manipulation when they want it THEIR WAY which is best for them by the following: A) They want to negotiate the rate but will still see the escort after she says no which leads to... B) They ask to do unsafe things which the escort will never do and try to make them feel guilty in the process. Not her problem. C) They want to see the escort outside the paid arrangement D) They overstay their welcome This is a mentally overwhelming nightmare type of client because the entire session is about guilt tripping.. As someone who is more experienced, I am assertive enough to say NO to all of the above but many women who don't have that experience may encounter that as a big problem and very unnerving. I find it extremely annoying and will never repeat with people who attempt to ask for those types of things.

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Those that think they know everything about this industry. Even when many others try to explain they are wrong in their idea or belief, they keep saying the same thing over and over. Unless you are - A woman - has taken that first call - have had a client try to hurt you - have been threatened because you refuse to do what they want, you will never understand this industry from the escorts point of view. So, for those listening to the guy who says "listen guys this is how you can get her to do ...I've been in this industry for x number of years and know everything, so follow my lead." If you would not want your wife, mother, daughter or friend to be treated like being suggested, don't listen to it and don't do it.

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Getting sworn at / being called not nice names :confused: Big, BIG turn off

I confess that...well, let's just say I have pitched many a tent in Cristy's honour when I see her photos LOL

Good afternoon, Thank you for such a great time back in Saint John, the 186cms of snow was a lovely welcoming touch. I am looking forward to being back in my favourite city soon. xoxo Emily

I took a nap after work. i seldom remember my dreams but this one I did. I dreamed I saw my second oldest son and got to hug him. I have not seen or heard from him in 4 years. I miss him so much. He now has a facebook account and I saw a pic of him on there the other day. I dare not send him an email or he will block me from his account. He looks good and healthy and happy. God I miss my son

Here is how I see it: If I go and see a massage therapist, I will not negotiate their rate. If I go and see a psychologist, I will not negotiate their rate. We are in the "human" services, that can be considered both as a luxury and as a necessity, as much as the previous professions mentioned are. If my service is to offer you all in one appointment: my time, my educated and sensitive personality, my ability to listen to you, my intelligence to know when to speak and when not to, my delicate touch and much more than that, which is precious, then if you still need to negotiate, you need to re-think about what an escort and their services mean to you.

Don't you want to escape the ordinary? Enjoy the company of a sexy mature woman with killer curves, wisdom, skill and who is lots of fun? Don't you want to escape to a comfortable, very clean, quiet, upscale retreat? Don't you want some time for you? Where you'll be perfectly pampered, catered to and entertained. Don't you want to meet Cristycurves? One of Halifax's sexiest companions! Don't you want to have lots of fun? Come on, it's time, you deserve it, and I'd love to show you just how much:) I'm accepting appts all week-preferred pre-bookings but will allow some within the hour, depending on my availability. I prefer all contact by phone-902-453-6323 and PLEASE no texts-thank you I have 3 companionship options 200-hourly-buisness mans 300-hourly-elite 400-hourly-vip Multiple hour options for elite and vip only Don't you want to.....

Thank goodness I haven't had to endure that yet(not that human bowel movements are anything unusual, but it's not too sexy to smell it!), but I have had someone use one of my fresh towels to wipe his butt, and then shoved it deep under my sink so I wouldn't find it until after he left, was certainly a surprise to find! :P Posted via Mobile Device

CLASSIFIED ADS - EDIT THEM OR LOOSE THEM! UPDATE BEFORE NOVEMBER 25th !! I noticed a LOT of classified ads still advertising things that are going to now be illegal. You either have to remove anything from the ads that is now illegal for us to advertise for you or we will need to delete your ad completely. If you previously offered prostitution related services you must remove such things (or hints of such things) from this site. I will NOT edit the ads (that would take too long) so I am going to go over them and start deleting any that DO NOT comply with the new laws. I will check to see if you have read this post and if you have and did not bother to update your classified ad you will get a infraction and possibly a suspension from the site. Leaving the classified up makes more work for me. I am very busy making sure the site conforms to all the new laws so it can continue on for you all. Please do your part. BY NOVEMBER 25th If you see a classified ad that is breaking the law PLEASE REPORT IT! I REMOVED THE "SERVICES" that you can NO LONGER ADVERTISE off the check list as well. You will see them as NA1 NA2 NA3 etc... those need to be UNCHECKED at this time (Till I can add some new ones to fill those spots) the system will not let me just delete them.

oh my gosh, I received the most hilarious book today! it was specifically made to be destroyed.. I LOVE IT! XD I'm having sooo much fun! lmfao

Lady: Just say three words, eight letters, and I am yours. Man: I am Groot.

Eat me please!

I had a hamster that stood out from all the other pets so much because she was sooo intelligent! i used to let her wonder around my room and when I called her by her name she listened. when she had to pee she would come bug me to put her in her cage to go to her little corner potty. she escaped a few times from her cage and I had to run around the house yelling for her so she would come out. damn thing was too smart I had to lock her cage up good. I even gave her my baby blanket, she loved to sleep on it. RIP. Tasha :( none of my other hamsters or bunnies were ever as smart as her! after she passed I got one that looked just like Tasha & named her Natasha. well she turned out to be an evil twin.... I ended up getting rid of her cause she was very mean and bite me everytime I tried to clean the cage or feed her.

Vader you an awsome person & thank you for that! I love talking to you :) I also like to thank everyone else here for being so wonderfully welcoming!

http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=90187&highlight=dalhousie

Kelsey was already used and I like stars :) I also have a beautiful tattoo on my hip / bum of a tiger lily and stars

Laundry is done...

I had a girlfriend many years ago and when ever she wanted it she would just whisper in my ear: "I'm gushing"

It's how much??

I said please ....lol

Playtime now please?

Blue briefs. And I wont complain if the ladies add pics of what there wearing ;)

Do you have an update on the book?? Looks like so much fun. I think im bored enough I want one lol

Now at Auqa on booth ;)

I have seen two of the ladies mentioned on their websites, ie. Sara and Yumi. See their reco. threads here - http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=S&t=119652&page=2 http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?ltr=Y&t=182995 As Asuran says, Sugarland and AsianPassion (I will also include Moonbay) are some of the reputable agencies here in Ottawa.

Today, Thursday was day 2 of my special rate for our Lyla members, the site was off line all day. So as I know some have only certain days to get away, I will extend my discount till NEXT THURSDAY!! Feb 16-20th THIS WEEKEND NOT BOOKING FOR VALENTINES DAY. Special rate applies only to Hour rates and the 90 min Spa session. $30.00 off regular rates. To qualify for this special offer please PM first. If at anytime site is down you may txt with your Lyla name please. 506 261 7313

No worries with Felina shes a well established lady with a stellar reputation!

I'm not an SP, but a gentleman and a real gentleman would never try to negotiate a lower rate! Show them the door and kick them in the a$$ on the way out :)

I completely agree with Cristy and Miss Jessica. As someone who is fairly new to the game, I don't have many reco's. And I do not find them particularly useful (other than to highlight that I am legit). I have two so far, and although they speak very highly of me, I cannot guarantee that everyone I see will have the exact the same sentiment. It puts a lot of pressure on the lady to live up to those standards, especially when what makes an encounter incredible for one person, does not do anything for someone else. I know why / where my reco's came from and I know they speak the truth - for their experience. However, if gentleman #1 had partaken in encounter #2, and vice versa, they may not have written those recommendations. This is very important to remember while reading recommendations, although their sentiments are basically the same, they are for completely different reasons, and you might not find those reasons to be worthy of such praise (though you'd be nuts not too!;-)) This exact thing was highlighted by Miss Jessica's post. I propose changing YEMV (and similar acronyms) to YEWV (Your Experience WILL Vary). Also, Someguy, just because a lady doesn't have a lot of reco's, doesn't mean she isn't absolutely amazing.

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Pics are 100% she was @ Moncton recently...i'd see her again :)

I totally have a girl crush on Phoenix, she's absolutely beautiful isn't she! She usually starts at 6pm, and I think later in the week is a better bet as I see her more frequently on thursdays and saturdays.

Keep the faith ladies. One thing I've learned is if you create fear and worry, those feelings stand in the way of what you really desire such as creating more business. When worry and fear are constant thoughts, you are blocking abundance from coming to you. The universe will ALWAYS take care of you. Just know that. You just have to believe that you will always receive it while believing it. :) https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=how+to+attract+abundance+abraham+hicks

This has probably been said but here it is: Don't text saying you have x amount and ask what you can get. This only ends badly.;) it's not something we would answer these days anyway.

The smell of a camp fire.