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I love breast play especially when someone sucks on my nipples. But play as you describe it, grabbing and squeezing doesn't sound enticing. Breasts are sensitive, at least mine are. They love attention but nothing harsh or rough.

My wife and I were on vacation last week in a tropical location... in total the vacation cost us about $8000, because we took our adults kids with us. We were doing the beast with two backs and I noted to her that I wish we would do this more often. So she says "well I guess you'll just have to take me on vacation more often." I replied, that's an expensive way to get s_x. She replied, "Cheaper than if you had to pay for it". I thought it best not to contradict her... it was difficult enough trying not to laugh out loud.

I found this list on a tumblr site (http://free-speech4sexworkers.tumblr.com/.) It is quite an exhaustive list of sexwork reference resources including biographies, Sociology texts, documentaries, how-to guides, novels, magazines, movies, TV shows, etc. I thought it would be worthwhile to post here. Here is the URL for the list: http://free-speech4sexworkers.tumblr.com/post/112850462653/swer-media-club

A magic wand... LYLA WOULD BE ABOLISHED!!! That's right. The legal issues surrounding paid play will be gone in Canada. Fret not fellow members, your needs will be looked after. Upon arrival at our new home in the virginless islands. It will be a wonderland where we meet at the "social" in the evening where you can meet mingle and be merry with all the wonderful men and women that make up this community. A few things will be different here however. Your physical appearance will be exactly as you wish with few exceptions. Ladies no exceptions for you (really though seriously you need not change a thing). Men, you will all be 9inches I will be 10 (ladies don't worry, real math that's probably 7 and 8inches, respectively). Also, I will be a little thicker and last a little longer...it is my wand!!. Exercise will make you fat on this island, unless it's sports or fun than it is okay. Since you can look how you want you can eat whatever you want so no worries there. The chore fairy's will keep everything neat and tidy, food fairy's will look after your culinary desires in your new luxury living quarters. There will be no hospitals because there is no sickness here. You are whatever age for as long as you wish. Same goes for your pets. Amazon delivers to this island and we have internet because I know the ladies will require shopping and they have an unlimited card for this. Men, you need no card, you have all you need. that is a few things I would do with my wand.

I think children have things that they are just naturally drawn to do or be, and that the main thing is encouraging that. I think that if you have a girl who is clearly pretty, she is going to get compliments on her looks. It is super important for parents to not just accept that but also reply something like 'beautiful on the inside too' and/or 'smart and skillful too', always adding in that compliment that offsets what others see, and remind them of what they are. Same with boys, probably will get he's so athletic, or whatever, and a counter point is that he is smart, or kind, or a great big brother to his younger syblings. Place value on the things that can't be seen, or that society doesn't automatically seem to place higher value on like looks or sporting abilities, and you offer a balance to them. Then when they are older and someone says how pretty they are, they automatically hear another inside voice saying' just as pretty on the inside."

I believe children should be raised to be themselves, whoever that "self" may be and to be accepting of that self. Raise them to think for themselves and understand actions and consequences. Let them make decisions and mistakes and teach them how to learn from both. Teach boys it's okay to be sensitive and thoughtful, there is power in both. Teach them to be gentlemen and respectful but not be walked over. Teach your daughters that they can do anything they want and be anything they want. Teach them it's okay to be soft and feminine while still being powerful and strong. Teach them they can be sexual and that's ok. That if they are labeled for it, it has nothing to do with them, it's the other person with the problem. Teach them both that true beauty is inside and everyone has it and deserves to be treated like an amazing being. Society is not right about many things and they much think for themselves. Teach them that their opinion of themselves is the most important. Teach them to find the silver lining in every situation and to believe in something especially themselves. Teach them to always have hope. Love them, accept them, tell them you will lay it on the line if you have to. Teach them that everything you do that they might not like is to make them into the best version of themselves they can be. That's a start anyway.....so much more. Teach them to be people not genders!

Ever go to a hockey game when pucks aren't allowed ? Go deep !!! Ooops No football...sorry folks ? Ever hear the announcer yell GOALLLLLLL when there is no soccer ball ? I have never been on a date without making out a lil / allotta bit :)

Love kissing...for me it's what brings the connection.

I like to kiss and I find it very off putting as SC stated. Its few and far between with guests but there are a some that for their own reasons do not partake in this wonderful activity. The first time it happened I thought, hum, do I smell bad of I wonder what is wrong? Now I accept it as a personal preference . As a SP its very awkward though as I forget sometimes and it just makes me have to remember not to do something that is very natural. ( for me)

A 150 year old table complete with 6 chairs for my 175 year old farm. I think the center of a household should be the kitchen table and not the TV

I think I can safely say that almost all guys have some kind of performance issue at some time in their life. It might be "getting there" too early, it might be a case of "getting there" not happening and any one of a number of things in between. The advice to select someone and make your arrangement is good. You can mention your concern while making said arrangement or wait and see if you are more comfortable talking about it once you're there. You won't be the first person concerned about this and I suspect you will find the issue well handled. At this point in my life, I truly enjoy the journey and, on occasion, don't arrive at the destination. A dear friend was concerned about this a while back as she'd "arrived" several times and I had not. I laughed and told her I was totally having a wonderful time, that I could arrange "getting there" all on my own any time but my time with her was here and now and all the more special because I can't arrange that all on my own. :) So take a deep breath, review the various people in your area, and go for it.

Don't forget that an encounter is not all about the "main event". There is a lot of fun to be had before, during, and after that. (Marriage can let you forget that sometimes). Maybe even consider extra time with her. A "second round" may not have the same issues if you've left yourself time for that. Sometimes we feel a whole lot of pressure for the perfect experience. Relax, have fun and don't worry about your "performance". There is no stage and you are not being graded on this. (And remember, the porn we grew up with is mostly a lie when it comes to what is "normal"!) If you have enjoyed yourself, then it was a successful encounter. An sp is the perfect way to get back on the horse too in my opinion as I find there is less pressure. They are not there to judge you. Just to make sure you had fun.

I agree with Cristy. Our breasts are as individual as we are and they can also change and vary based on numerous factors. My suggestion would be to communicate openly and often. Ask the lady if this or that feels good. Pay attention to cues and reactions and do more of what gets a good reaction and less of what doesn't. There are days the wispiest of touches drives me crazy (in a good way) and other days that tickles. Sometimes I like it firm or even rough and sometimes I don't. And you thought it would be an easy answer! Enjoy breasts, nipples and the ladies they're attached to.

Both. Raise your daughters to be like your sons and raise your sons to be like your daughters, if done conventionally, then girls are sure to be independent, strong, take charge people and your sons will be sensitive, giving and not afraid of their emotions. The most important trait I feel you can instill in your children is confidence and that they can accomplish what ever they put their minds to, also to be kind, accepting and understanding of others. Instill that and you'll have self sufficient, happy successful adults, I hope:)

UNF I ADORE kissing and when someone is a good or even great kisser....it can take me just about anywhere. It's not a deal breaker for me although I do wonder and I do have to keep myself in check as it's a very natural thing for me to do. I would not want to make someone feel uncomfortable because they don't partake. I understand that it can be a very intimate act reserved for a wife or GF. Mind you it gets very difficult when there is someone you want to kiss and for whatever reason they don't. I'm not sure if frustration or need become the larger emotion. Mmmmmm think I need some kissing!

Love everything about it, from the soft & tender to the raw & aggressive. No kissing is a definite deal-breaker for me.

from the point of view of an sp, it is true, we do not judge you or use a scorecard, lol The 'main experience' is not all there is to an encounter, there is much more to it. Remember the point when your marriage was fresh and exciting? That is what an encounter with an sp should feel like. No worrying about bill payments, household items, the car problems,kids etc. Time with an sp should be invigorating, sensual and exciting. There are no ties with an sp, no having to worry if you are 'performing' to her satisfaction. Any sp should be able to make you feel welcome and give to you the best experience you could possibly have. Take a look around in your area, talk/text/email to the lady of your choice and get a good idea for what you may feel is the right person of your choosing. Not any one sp is going to satisfy everyone, as you know, ymmv, but that being said, I am sure there is someone out there that you will connect with that gives you everything you need, want and desire.

If I had a magic wand, I'd immediately hand it over to LadiesFirst. I don't think I could do any better than that!

my dads birthday was yesterday. he would have been 81. he passed away at 76. me and my dad had a falling out and I saw him once just before he died after not seeing him for 25 years. He had Alzheimer's when I saw him and eventually figured out who I was and told me he loved me. He had forgotten how much he hated me at that one moment. Even though he hated me all those years I loved him and tried many times to reach out to him. Him and my mom wanted nothing to do with me or even my children. My mom is still alive and I have an excellent relationship with her answering machine. I can call and talk into it and tell her I love her and I guess she can just press delete.

So I am 31 years old, newly married and my wife is suffering from long term mental illness. She has always struggled with depression and anxiety but things have really taken a turn for the worst over the last 12 months. She currently on stress leave from work and is seeing a doctor and a psychologist. It all seems to help a bit but no silver bullets yet and things remain hard. Basically living with this is what pushed me to start seeing escorts and massage providers. For the last 12 months everything has fallen on me, cooking, cleaning, caring for the pets, taking her to all her appointments and handling all the money issues that arise from going down to one income. This was all combined with the need to always be the positive one and never, ever show if I am sad or mad about something. Seeing escorts is a break. For an hour every month my life didn't have to be about caring for someone else, it could be about me. I really think that this release was the only way that I stayed sane. Take tonight, we are booking tickets to go stay with some family we have somewhere warm. This is a luxury for us because, as I mentioned, the wife is not working right now. Instead of being happy that we are going to get away somewhere warm, she is depressed and teary that we can't afford to go businesses class. I have no idea how do deal with this. I am doing the best I can not to show anger as it will send her into a depressive episode that could last days. So instead I fake positivity and try to distract her with tea and pet talk. Hopefully her mood improves before we go. Anyway I started this thread because I felt it might help to write about stuff as it happens. I am going to keep adding to it as I feel the need.

It's the little things making it larger than the sums of the parts (and its not over); -A great morning filled with chuckles with a lady friend i hadn't seen in a while; -Taking a break from the gym to recover from a week's training; -Nice weather to be out; -Going out to a spice shop i know to Re-suply my kitchen cabinets with spices and herbs -Visiting, after too long, the Atwater Market and got hot sauces; -Later tonight, out to get a hot coco at Cacao 70.

Most cases of depression and/or anxiety have a biochemical basis that affects brain functioning. In other words your brain does not allow you to think and feel as you would normally. Worrying, brooding or being anxious about small or normal things in daily life is one symptom of depression and/or anxiety. You can't "just get over it" and move on. A healthy person would not necessarily become unreasonably upset about whether or not they're travelling business class. They may prefer business class, but if they can't afford it, it's not a big deal. On the other hand, a person who is already ill with depression and/or anxiety may obsess about travelling business class regardless of whether or not they've ever experienced business class before. The illness can lead to seemingly irrational thoughts and behaviours. When evaluating a person for depression/anxiety, a rating scale is used to determine the severity of the illness' symptoms on daily life. The ratings range from "no impact in daily life" to "debilitating impact on daily life". When the ordinary routines or challenges of daily life cause more severe symptoms, that indicates a more debilitating occurrence of depression and/or anxiety.

Some things that may be of help for both of you. If you can, talk to her doctor's. Some medication only works for a short time for some people. Maybe she needs a medication change. Some times multiple medications are required. Exercise is very important for many medications to be most effective. If you are in the Ottawa area, see if the doctor's can get her a referral to the Royal Ottawa Mental Healthcare Hospital. They have some great in and out patient programs and services. This is covered by OHIP if you do not have private insurance. They even have support services for you. CBT or Cognitive Behavior Therapy can be a big help, but it takes lots of work on her part. Believe it or not, getting out of the house for daily walks together would be a big lift to her mood. http://www.theroyal.ca/ I have suffered from depression and other mental health issues for most of my life. I have been on dozens of different medications before they finally found me a good fit.

Or, raise them to be people and teach them they can be and do anything and to respect other people. Gender roles are outdated and dangerous, not to mention a complete social construction.

I am an excited new escort in Montreal. I am refined for my age, with a demeanor that calms those who choose to spend time with me. I am offering a genuine intimate connection, in a discreet location. I do not enjoy playing games, drama, or complications; like you I am here to have a good time. I care about you and your experiences (in and outside of our RdV space), and I hope to invigorate your life with my charm. When considering a special rendez-vous or a new experience that be exhilarating for both of us, please do not hesitate to tell me your dirty little secrets. I am very liberal about all of my interests, and encourage my dates to be as well. I am openminded and adventurous when it comes to sensuality, as I hope you are. If you are looking for an open and warm woman to spend time with please do not hesitate to contact me. xox height : 5'8 weight : 145lbs eyes : green hair : black tattoos : +15 xx Ms Dillan Wolfe dillanxwolfe.wix.com/xoxo 514-800-1423 (txt only)

Just raise them to be good people to think and care about others as much as they think about themselves ensure they have the necessities of life and that they get a good education ... and most of all make sure that they know for every moment of their lives that they have your unconditional love... that you love them through good and bad... that even when you are mad at them you love them... in life we never know how long we will have the ones we love with us so never miss an opportunity to show them your love. As for raising them like a son or like a daughter... it's not in my opinion a material consideration. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

Yes. If you like tall, slim, sexy spanish ladies with a beautiful smile then you are in for a treat. Sofia is a lot of fun - you will not be disappointed.

Sometimes I forget the eye contact because I'm really tuned in and turned on to other reactions. I find I sometimes lapse into a trance like state, feeling the different sensations, hearing the reactions....it can be an amazing experience for sure.

I'm sure the ladies can and will answer for themselves, but... I get the feeling that this, like many things, is something that varies a lot between individuals. Some seem to love it, some don't seem at all bothered.

Is there anything better than the first kiss with a new partner? I think not, the anticipation, the newness and the potential are intoxicating. No need to rush into it, slowly cup a hand behind her next and start with a soft peck then slowly start to move together sort of like dancing, you lead, she leads, stop and maybe brush the hair out of her eyes and kiss her forehead, neck and shoulders. For me kissing is all about the lips a little tug on the lower lip the light tongue on the corner of her mouth. Just slow and soft. You'll know if your doing it right lol. Good kissing can become great, bad kissing is bad kissing. Deal breaker......absolutely. Peace MG

I love the thought of a soft hand making that grip...It's even hotter if she throws in the occasional smile :)

I agree with Cristy here. Lingerie from different manufacturers have a size equivalent that makes zero sense. For example, I am a perfect size 36D at La Senza, a perfect size 36C at La Perla, Christian Dior I am a perfect size 6. I wear a size 5-8 in clothing, because the manufacturers do not use the same sizing charts, go figure. For someone who wears a size 6 in clothing, why on earth do I have to purchase corsets in a size 2XL (equivalent to a size 24 in north American standards)? A gift card from the store of your choice is a wonderful idea, the lady can then choose an appropriate size for herself. But on the other hand, I wouldn't mind at all if someone were to ask me what size I wore should they be thinking of purchasing me something like this. I would simply inquire as to where they planned on purchasing, this way I can give an accurate size according to store :-) Additional Comments: If I were offering something particular, was booked, you appeared and now I could not offer that particular 'item of choice costing extra', I would be letting you know so that your donation for time could be readjusted by you. The fact that this lady has done this to two people that know each other, therefore a reliable source, it looks like a form of 'bait and switch'. Taking for a service that is not available without readjusting the fee. Wrong, in my eyes! I offer different things at different times. If I find that I cannot provide something that has been requested by you at the time of you meeting with me, then I am going to tell you that with as much advance notice as possible, so that you can readjust your donation before your visit. This is where communication is key in this world. I have no problem in letting a gentleman know I cannot provide a certain 'item' should that be the case. It is his choice then to re-schedule, cancel, or have a readjustment in donation. A lady that does this consistently, may not have 'offered' that particular 'item' at all, but rather just a ploy to get a larger donation, figuring your there now anyway, so you will go ahead. There is nothing wrong (I see anyway) in asking for a reduction in donation if a particular item is not available for you which you are booked for. From my perspective, it looks as though you, and your 'buddy' were taken advantage of. Not a good way for a lady to earn a good reputation on this board.

Up having a coffee and surfing Lyla and Twitter... I think this clock change is going to have it's effect on me this afternoon though, and I foresee a nap in my future LOL RG

Maya was also there on wednesday

Nobody recognize the # ... the ad is for VIPOTG ... always worthwhile visiting! Especially enjoy the korean ladies. Every lady I visited has been petite.

Haven't had Donair til you've had one in Halifax with that special sauce.

Pub food tonight... And beer, maybe a couple.

Info on Perb indicates this may be Stacy:http://winnipeg.backpage.com/FemaleEscorts/im-sexxii-lexii/2371727 Cheers,

I've never heard of any rule that says you have to post if you have an account. Pretty much all online forums have way more read-only folks than active posters, and this one is no exception. Glad you've taken the plunge, jobe130 - looking forward to many more! Okay, end of hijack. Back to the matter at hand... I've seen it advertized occasionally, but not often. You may simply have to be patient.

I agree with what's been generally posted here ... and it sounds like you do to as you say that you paid the lady in full and excused yourself ------ this tidbit was missing from your first post in this thread and could have contributed to the tone you are feeling that people are trashing you. Had your story been different and you'd arrived to find someone who clearly wasn't the person in the pictures you had seen or had been sent ... I'd perhaps respond with different thoughts .. but it doesn't sound like there was any misrepresentation going on. Last year .... I had an experience with a sp that is the subject of a thread in the bait and switch section. My experience was different from the situation presented in the post here but it was still negative. I'd seen pictures of the sp , they were of her for sure but they were in no way recent. Her hair was a foot or more longer and she was considerably more heavy than her pictures ..... to the point that if I had those pics and was tasked with finding her at a mall foodcourt I don't think I could have. On top of this she had a few more restrictions that weren't revealed to me until well after she had been paid and I was trying to make the best of a disapointing / uncomfortable start to our encounter. In the end it was lesson learned for me and I was even fairly restrained and polite when she asked me for a "tip" before I left. Honestly I wish I had just paid her and excused myself .... but that has less to do with how she looked and more to do with how she acted. With the exception of this one My most disapointing experiences (and their haven't been many of them) have always been with service providers who were very very attractive / stunning / gorgeous etc ... and if one was to be able to put a theme to that disapointment it is when a SP comes off in such a way that for the most point it feels like I'm spending time with someone who is just thinking "Lets get this over with" ........ I can't say for certain how often a sp finds herself feeling that way , I know I feel that way in my job some days ...... but I can say that it's possible you missed out on a terrific experience had you rolled the dice. How do you ploitely say no thanks? I think you did just fine, the way you did it.

I would have my own time machine. Move over Dr. Who!

Hello "____", I saw your ad on ____. Is a perfect way to start. Bad ways to start: Hey How much You free Wots up sexii (avoid text speak) Yo Wanna f*ck I actually had a template of a sample email for contact and I took it down because I thought I was being too a nal retentive lol

If I had a magic wand I would go back in time and save a loved one who I lost long before I should have. Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

Well for fun- I'd create a vibrator that didn't break, a guy with the perfect penis(my idea of perfect that is;) ) make all food calorieless and last but not least allow my dogs to live forever:) In seriousness- If I could- every animal abuser would get there come uppens when I waved it and the animals they harmed would heal!

I have a magic wand and I practice spells of love healing and peace. My magic wand allows for every impossibility and I have witnessed miracles. I am a white witch and I have stood beside people that have healed themselves . I set the spell and let the universe work. Please understand this has very little to do with me but more of a persons belief in their ability to heal them selves. Again I am nothing and will give just a couple of incidences where I stood and watched folks heal. I had a lady in her 60s that did not tell me her condition and this is best as I don't put myself or hopes into the healing . She was totally deaf in one ear and after two treatments she healed herself and now she hears perfectly . I had a child two years ago that is very learning disabled and was considered a total failure in school . He is 10 and his parents were told he would be held back in school . His parents never accepted this and always believed their son would excel. I worked with this child and he really worked in conjunction with me and now he is a B plus student. Now this is a personal story . My nephew will be 11 years old on Saturday. His mother is a deputy minister for out lovely government . As a result she is trained to think one way that is and that of course is the policies of our wonderful government. As a high ranking bureaucrat my sister always thought government was there to assist in every way possible . Hmm, my nephew needed help and unless my sister knew what strings to pull he would have fallen between the cracks and as anyone with a learning disability he would be labelled as bad, stupid or worse. In fact this wonderful child has gifts we would all hope to be blesses with . Now finally this in monumental . Let us not forget I am nothing here but a channel for a person to decide to heal or not. Here goes a very inspiring story I still cry with happiness. Some of you know that I am a Reiki Master and practice healing . This is a really big and important part of my life. I will try to be open and ready for every difficult eventually. In 2009 a man contacted me for healing. his was no ordinary healing . 25 years ago this gent was involved in an auto accident that paralyzed him from the chest down. He was sent home with a wheelchair and was told he would never walk again. His reaction..... He took his chair and threw it away. He make his way around on crutches and never , ever gave up. Before we met he had stem replacement therapy and no difference. This was the biggest treatment he had and the most costly but David never gave up. He contacted me in 2011 and explained his situation. He told me he was finally ready to heal and he choose me to stand beside him as he healed . I was daunted as I never had such an enormous request. I was terrified and he knew it . Once day he called me and said " do not worry I am healed already". So we decided three treatments was his plan . The first treatment he had to have help out of his wheelchair. It was very difficult for myself and his wife to even move him. The first treatment I was worried as I noticed no difference . Day 2, David helped himself on to my table and he , myself and his wife could sense something different. Yes!! Day three, so far this is the first miracle I have ( not me but the universe) David's wife helped him on my table and I nervously completed his last treatment. I am going to tell you exactly what happened next . The treatment was over, I was nervous( should not have been ) David looked at myself and his wife and just sat up on the table . Then he took miraculous steps and walked on his own for the first time in 25 years Why did this happen? Because he never gave up. No matter what is wrong we have the capability to heal . David did it and so can we . I spoke to him this week and he is enjoying his passion of restoring old cars. Moral of the story, we can heal almost any disease or malady . Lets just support each other and heal........ Blessings and love.

Why, oh why would you want to get notice in a stripclub? Once you do you can forget about having a quiet beer!! Lol Seriously stripclub are no different then any other places, go in enjoy yourself, be pleasant and nice with everyone and just be yourself don't try to be something you're not these ladies see enough men that they can detect BS and wannabes from the other side if the club. Treat them with respect, understand there job and most important inderstand that they are there to work and respect that. Altought it's there job it takes alot of nerve for a half naked women to come and see you some are natural at doing it and others are very nervous every time they do it. If there is someone you really want to talk or spend time with, as other said eye contact and a smile will usually do it, or ask the waitress to bring your lady of choice her favorite drink this will usually get a visit at your table;)

Denying or lying about your feelings is only a temporary fix, and, as you've said, is causing you additional stress. Would you consider a couple's therapy session, with the aim to help both of you communicate more effectively? It can be exhausting to be the sole support, whether that is physically, emotionally, and/or financially, whether the causes are physical or mental illness. It's okay to have these feelings. It's okay to take care of yourself. There is support out there for both you as a family member, and your wife. In Ottawa we have the Psychiatric Survivors of Ottawa, which is peer-led and offers supports to both individuals experiencing mental health issues and their family members (WRAP programs and peer support). They also have quite a number of links to supports like the Mood Disorders Support and CMHA. As Jafo has said, there is also the Royal Ottawa, which can be an excellent resource, but usually does have a long waiting list for referrals. If that is something you might be interested, it is always easier to get on the waiting list and change your mind or not need it later, than to try and get that support when you or your wife is in crisis. There is also the Mental Health Crisis Line (613-722-6941) and the Distress Centre Line (613-238-3311). Good luck :)

I doubt you're going to get many of the type of responses that you're looking for. This is the most subjective question I've ever seen. I know you're interested in seeing "why" people feel a certain lady is their favorite, but I don't believe this post is going to work towards that goal. I understand that you're new, but go to the advertising forum (http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=18), go to the recommendation forum (http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=137), and go the individual websites (where applicable). Make your own decision on who to see. Good luck, there are a lot of great ladies out there - You should decide who you want to see, recommendations are great, but ultimately it's your call.

University students who can't spell. On blackpage. Two strikes against them right there.