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I have to disagree here, just because you met someone in a paid arrangement does not mean a real friendship cannot develop. The business arrangement is for business and if a friendship does develop out of the business relationship, it then changes the rules. While boundaries are to be respected, the friendship started as a business decision but developed into much more. I personally have found as long as both parties are clear and upfront, there is nothing wrong. I am one who would take the value of a friendship over the business relationship, however thats just me and being happy is more important than any dollar value. In fact there are past clients who I no longer see as such because I enjoy their friendship and I for one would rather have them in my life as a friend. In order to have a friendship both parties need to be on the same page. Things only get blurred when communication is not clear or one party takes advantage of the other.

I think it varies quite a bit, depending on what age the lady is (really) and what kind of clients she's after. Full disclosure: the following is nothing more than my own impressions of the industry and may well be absolute crap. First, there seems to be a significant chunk of the market where the demand is for younger ladies. Not for anything illegal, but... young. FortunateOne mentioned earlier that 22 was the magic age that agencies had discovered, and so I think you get a lot of people between 18 and mid- to late-20s advertizing themselves as being in or around this bracket. After that, you get the clients who are more interested in the whole person than just a perky pair of tits, and who tend to go for older ladies, and once they're advertizing to this market I don't think there's much for the ladies to gain or lose by tweaking the age they claim to be. Of course, I'm grossly generalizing here, and there are plenty of exceptions.

When I began this lifestyle I certainly didn't expect that a true friendship could happen with a companion. It was after all at it's core a business relationship right. Well I have met a few ladies that I have connected with, and one very special lady, who has become a valued friend. Yes, at it's core, there is a business relationship. But friendship and business relationship, why are they mutually exclusive. Two other friends in my life, I met through work. Does that mean they aren't real friends...because we met through work? BTW we're all retired and stay in touch, at least once a week This lady is in fact one of four close (close defined as trusted without reservation) friends in my life. Friendships can develop in this lifestyle. Both the companion and client need to have their heads on straight emotionally. There has to be mutual respect and the relationship, both friendship and business wise must be mutually beneficial. Friendship is it's own reward, and boundaries still respected. The gentleman shouldn't expect "extras", and the lady shouldn't try to manipulate the man to get more money. I guess when I see this lady, I view it as a date with a friend, a friend who just happens to be a professional companion. Anyhow, a rambling. Hope it makes sense RG

I "outed" myself back in 2013 in a similar thread about age and I was not ashamed to admit it. 09-19-2013 Late night confession... I still believe it was the right choice to make for myself and I don't regret having done so.

I have been hobbying off and on for a few years, and have met some fantastic ladies. I also tend to gravitate to "the one" like many others...(in my case it is more like "the three". I primarily see these same three ladies for multiple reasons. I believe that I have developed a cordial business relationship with these ladies that is very unique to this business, but its a business relationship nonetheless, and while I may not see them for some time due to scheduling conflicts, once in a while I will send them a quick message to ay I hope they are well...I genuinely do hope they are well. I also see these same ladies because I know what to expect. I have really enjoyed the time I have spent with these girls, much more than anyone else I have ever seen, and I honestly feel like they enjoyed the time we spent together also. I have spent time with other ladies and they are all special in their own way, I must confess I have my favorite, I'm sure that is a very common occurrence. As for relationships outside of the business...it would be as awkward for me as it would be for her I am sure. One of the wonderful benefits of this hobby is the discretion. We both get to have a great time, and then get to go back to the real world...NSA Personally I have some ground rules that I follow in the hobby, they work for me, take them for what you will... I travel for work...a lot...so I never see anyone in my home city. I realize that is an easy compromise for me as travelling is about 75% of my job. Not seeing anyone in my home city ensures that there is almost no chance of our social circles overlapping. I generally communicate a maximum of 48 hours before a visit, sometimes frequently (depending on the boundaries of the lady) in the days leading up to an appointment, some friendly banter, flirting, etc. adds to the excitement, but I never worry if the ladies I see don't get back to me (they have other clients who enjoy them as much as I do I am certain), and I don't reach out again until they respond...must respect the ladies time, what if (heaven forbid) I overdo it and she doesn't want to see me again...can't have that! I ALWAYS text or email the following day to say thank you, and let her know I had a wonderful time...end of communication. Long winded I know, but its always worked for me. Jobin, I know what you are feeling, I have felt it to, my feelings on it are this...changing the relationship in any way, including the changes you are talking about would result in just that, a change to the relationship...and I would want to change these relationships, they are each perfect in their own way!

I would appreciate a note saying your sorry you can't see me this time but look forward to my next visit. It shows your still interested and enjoyed our time together in the past.

Communication communication communication. If in doubt, ask. If you aren't sure if she's open to the occasional email then just ask her :) and don't "assume" anything! Xoxo, Miss Lane

As long as YOU are not soliciting sexual services, no worries. Nothing illegal about seeing escorts. Just in soliciting sexual services. Time and companionship is the motto of the day.

I have a few game acquaintances that for a variety of reasons I most likely will never meet and we kibitz a bit through email and twitter. There a couple of companions that I have seen and communicate with but most likely will not see again professionally or socially for that matter but we do banter, communicate and have a similar world view. I'm open and genuinely interested in people and have learned lots of personal stuff but by no means do I consider these to be friendships. After all it's a business relationship and when the business ends I have no expectation of anything else. Peace MG

Unless you are a Maritimer or Atlantic Canadian, I'm really not sure that you would understand or believe just what is going on here unless you could see it. The pictures do not do justice at all when compared to the real thing. Yesterday Halifax and NS were the ones to really get hammered with 70+ cm. PEI only had in the 20 + range but the winds have shut us down yet again. The plows have not even been on the highways since suppertime yesterday and as much as it hurts mainland Canada, we cut you off again by closing the bridge. The main highways were generally open, meaning lots of places only one lane and the secondary roads have been almost impassable since Sunday and the smaller roads are blocked completely. It's been the winter of a lifetime and the scary part is that we did not have our first snow until well into January. Word is that we are looking at systems for next Sunday and then again on Tuesday! Geeze. Found this little video this morning that gives some idea. Stay safe everyone. Just for fun.

For me I am 40 and love it,I have reached a certain Peek shall we say in my womanhood that I enjoy and I am comfortable being me. To each their own though and the glamour world hasn't always been kind to over 35 year old women in tabloids so maybe in their way of thinking younger is better.

urrrr, I'm using google chrome today and as before it won't allow me to use font size/color etc. When I click on those prompts this shows up (sorry I copied and pasted what appeared but when I post it disappears) not the font I want to use. It works properly when I use IE. Another issue I'm having is when I log into my eastlink email account and click on my user name and password it brings up cristycurves . I can't seem to figure out how to erase that as I log into that acc with my real name-for those who didn't know;) it's not cristycurves. I'd appreciate any help. Thank you

Good question Magician.. Personally I prefer silence but that's just me :)

This is the latest instalment in the tale of my journey down the road to wherever this leads me. There are things and people I'd like to get to before The Big Event. I get an extra week as the surgery is put back to the 9th. At this point I've almost done everything I'm going to do from a Hobby standpoint. Just a couple of very important items left. One of which is the Social. I found a great way to distract myself so I don't dwell on the unknown. I quit smoking. I was getting to the end of the last pack of Duty Free smokes. I had to decide if I was going to quit when the pack was done or buy another carton. So I decided to quit. Enjoyed the last cigarette in the pack and that was that. Probably a good thing since I can't smoke in the hospital. One less thing to have to deal with. Thinking up ways to distract myself when the urge pops up keeps my mind busy so that's a good thing, too. At this point, I have a new medium - range goal. Waking up on the 10th.

Nice to hear everyone's thoughts! RG - I am not actively looking to develop a friendship going into an encounter, but seems like I always pick awesome girls as most of the time we seem to connect really well. Then what's difficult is to determine if this is a manufactured feeling or if it's genuine (from both parties). The way I've been approaching it is by initiating contact (if possible) with the lady post session (to thank her) and seeing if there's any interest on her part to maintain a chat of sort. If the responses stop or are very short then I definitely don't pursue it any further. Hope that's appropriate...

Certainly true in all respects. While I believe LE is taking a prudent, sensible approach at this point, it is still early in the game. I wish these types of articles were not written, as they put pressure on LE to enforce C-36, lest they are seen as "not doing their job" by some, as it were. That said, we may still see the occasional bust on the streets, and perhaps even a situation where LE pose as incall escorts to nab would be clients in hotel rooms at one point or another. However, by and large when compared to the States, LE has had more of a 'laissez faire' approach to the sex trade. As such, it is much more likely that C-36 will suffer the same fate as the 'bawdly house' law of old - e.g. technically on the books, but rarely, if ever enforced / acted upon. I often wonder though, if this turns out to be the case - on what grounds then, can C-36 be successfully challenged and overturned?

Bingo Cristy!!! Human interactions, emotions, feelings, perspectives, etc ARE complicated. We all have individual circumstances with individual people and hopefully all do our best to find our way. with regards to the OP, communicate and be honest. And if the lady you see isn't comfortable with what you've had to say, she will let you know :) good luck!!! Xoxo, Miss Lane

Exactly! I'll also add in situations like the op is facing even getting advice may confuse his emotions, needs or cause him to questions himself more. Human interactions are complicated even when we destruct them down to $$'s and cents.

I don't disagree with you Emily - none of these views can be construed as RIGHT or WRONG. Everyone is different. And every situation is as unique as the two parties involved. It really depends on the people, on the situation, etc. Xoxo, Miss Lane

Isn't there an expression "never ask a lady her age":) Let me quote a "guy" that, when I was running services, said. He called looking for a girl/female/woman, I described who was available, they were all between 20 -29, slim and very attractive. I told him I have girls between 20 & 29.....29 he said, "she needs to be put out to pasture"! I'd get those types of replies multiple times a day. So yes I'd agree with Fortunateone, services did fudge a bit on details, what choice was there! If I described a 23yr old, 5ft5 girl at 120lb, they'd feel that was too big and too old. Yet the girl in front of you, that 23yr old, would be tiny, pretty, very young looking, sweet and available and deserved of an appt. She was never sent away. Many guys have certain illogical images concerning ages, sizes and over all appearances. I've worked with 20's that looked 30's 40 that looked 20's and late 20's that looked 20 and so on. So to me numbers should be irrelevant, as you just can't generalize. Older, younger, youthful, mature, mid age, senior, and so on should suffice. Because if you are to be honest, perceptions change with each decade. 20 is thought to look a particular way, as is 30, 40, 50 and so on and each decade eludes to something as well which isn't always reliable or positive. Now with the internet and pictures it's my feeling that many of us reveal far more than necessary when advertising, but that's just my opinion. It's become so that men seem to think they need to know everything about a companion, right down to the number of moles or freckles on each square inch of her body, every action or thought she makes. We are after all, not proposing marriage, we are spending time with one another. I feel if a man can't decide on whether or not if he wants to see a woman/girl/female from her posts/pictures or website then perhaps she or this hobby isn't for him. Yes, some pictures can mislead but in general most are as they appear so you would think that should suffice. If we are going to be honest, age, in this business does seem to matter, if you are going to listen, believe and read some comments, posts and reco's and reviews. Older isn't as respected overall as some have posted in this thread, generally speaking and younger can for some, be suspect. As far as what others do or say about their own age is their business not mine, it would be catty to remark on. I will say, that if all the men who said they liked mature actually meant chronologically mature, more mature women would post their age. But to most guys, and this is just from my experience, mature means over 25. So to end, I also tell my real age. I tell my age as being mature:)

Good morning, naughty gents! Do you want to start your day with this awesome lady? Well, you sure do! I'm a well experienced and nice lady that can help you start your day the way it should be... In a nice, cozy place, discreete area downtown, with a shower available. Beyond average, I can definetly make your head spin... Check out my reviews! Sometimes, it's not too good to be true! You can PM me for all the details, and it'll be a pleasure to have a little chat with you.. http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=17994&highlight=Grass_Hopper

A wise lady I met years ago told me she always uses her real age, and she looks amazing at 57 (you know who you are). I decided to follow her example when I turned 50 and started using my real age and it has worked in my favour, rather than against me. This year I will be 55 and my oldest client, a 95 year old man, says I'm a "youngin". I can live with that. Not to criticize any mature ladies who advertise younger, but there are definitely more ads for 40-something ladies than 50+. I do chuckle though when I get the odd person asking me "If you're advertising 54, does that mean you're really 60?"

This industry is in large part driven by disposable income so it's not unrealistic to think that many of the more active clients are people who are more established financially which in a lot of case is when they are older. As an older guy in my mid fifties who has some degree of financial independence and who enjoys the company of a beautiful sexy intelligent woman I have seen ladies in the age range from 19 to mid 50's and all I can say is I tend to have the best connection with women who are mid thirties and later. I am not saying I have never connected with someone younger just that in general the connection has been better with ladies in their 30's. Now don't get me wrong the younger ladies I have meet have been wonderful... the sex has been great and their bodies have been the thing guy's constantly fantasize about but with the ladies who have had a few more years of life experiences I have just shared a greater connection in addition to the amazing sex. Let's face it... if I am booking for a couple of hours there will be lots of time for other things besides sex and it is that companionship time that often makes the difference for me. Beyond the sex the more mature ladies have generally understood me better.... they had the life experiences that were more in common with me. I will suggest however that these more mature ladies are I think with out exception younger in spirit and outlook then their age might initially suggest and yes they were all extremely sexy. In life as we get older I think we often come to learn to appreciate as sexy things that we might not when we are younger... aging with grace and showing that in how you carry yourself can for me be very attractive. So bottom line I can understand why a lady might choose to market herself to the demographic that she feels she best connects with just like I might select who I choose to meet. As long as the lady who opens the door is genuine to the image she has portrayed in her ads then I don't think I would care that she fibbed about her age. Just my Opinion.... makes sense to me might not to anyone else. Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

I kind of get the feeling that you're looking for more than a lady here can provide. This is a physical hobby, sometimes chemical, but emotional? That's looking for trouble if you ask me.

" In seeing that Jersey on Gabby up close and personal while at a Habs game recently I guarantee it looks even better in person."

I post my true age, I am proud of being 40, love this era of my life. Besides I like posting my age, so that I can attract clients who are closer to my age group. Although I am 40, I feel much younger than that!

Trying for an appointment tomorrow , will let u know.

I would add just one thing. Don't go seeing a companion with the expectation that it will turn into a friendship. Just go into an encounter with the expectation that you are paying for companionship for a set period of time (ie an hour or two) If a friendship develops that is mutually beneficial and has mutual respect that is a bonus RG

As the ladies replied suggest research, look at pics and their descriptions. A few extra pounds, from my experience can be someone 5ft 8 at 140 lbs to someone 5ft 120 to someone 5ft6 180 and so on. I've been called big by some small by others and everything in between, lol. Size perception in this business is not the same from one to the other.

http://www.eroticpostreviews.com/p/273530?modal=2893280&i=truemodal-tab This link is to an ad she had last year in Ontario. Some more 'revealing' photos for those on the fence. (Myself included)

Should be within a decade I figure, in the "neighborhood" like a double play in baseball is fair. While Dog years or counting every second year is not. Peace MG

http://montrealgazette.com/sports/hockey/do-sports-teams-have-an-obligation-to-better-inform-their-players-about-sexual-consent

The prevalence of fear and authoritarianism is quite depressing. Unfortunately, it's by no means unique to Canada; all over the world, governments are realizing that they can use technology to dredge up unheard-of quantities of information on the population they control, and if they talk enough about terrorists or whatever the bogeyman du jour happens to be then nobody will object. Or not enough people, anyway. The thing is, I have no clue what to do about it. No politicians that we might reasonably expect to elect will roll back any of the power they've inherited from their predecessors, and all of them will be rapidly purchased by wealthy corporations and individuals who will ensure that their own interests are served. Perhaps it's time to get the pitchforks out...

I have seen ladies from their mid twenties to fifties The majority of ladies I see are in their thirties and forties For those ladies dialing back their real age because they think younger is better, and I'm speaking just for myself here, well any lady below mid twenties, and teenager (eighteen/nineteen) I'm not attracted to Not said condescendingly but I'm attracted to women, not girls Said from a fifty three, almost fifty four year old (emphasis old LOL) man RG

I certainly do! In fact I get disappointed when there is either very little or NO breast play involved.

Had a wonderful visit with Pepsi today. She is not to be missed while she is here. Great location, great personality and AMAZING service. Gorgeous body as well. I will be repeating as often as I can.

Welcome Seanw19... regardless of our level of experience we all bring something to this community... sometimes that fresh voice brings the enlightened question or reply that enriches all of us here... glad you joined us. Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

Oh gawd, I'm sorry I sounded harsh in previous posts, but really, "Who she is, how she got here, where she's going"? None of your God-damn business! So how about you? Are you willing to tell her, "Who you are, how you got here, where you're going?" Thought so.

Check blond goddess on bp.

Word is that they're moving to Henderson and Redwood in that little strip mall on the corner; used to be a massage place called "What You Knead" in there. Gonna be a phased in move from what I hear.

Thank you for sharing. So you have substance and feelings and concern, nothing at all wrong with that. This isn't a sign that you aren't meant to hobby. Every woman you meet will cause different feelings and create different outcomes, they'll all be original and what comes of them or how they continue is a private matter between the two of you. There are rules we all follow as far as discretion, but just as we all look and act differently we all have different boundaries and rules. You sound like a lovely gentleman, it would be a shame for you to stop hobbying or caring for a friend you meet. Enjoy and bask in the fact that you have feelings and aren't afraid to demonstrate them, just when doing so respect the boundaries of the one you are sharing with. Additional Comments: I used to think that too, when a married man I'd meet would confess his love for his wife. but I have wavered. Who am I to say. I'm am not in their head or heart so I think it best to allow the one speaking to sort out their true feelings without judgement. I appreciate and like your frankness and straightforwardness, lol, though:)

You can certainly speak for yourself but not for me... I have been happily married for over 30 years and hobbying for more than 20. Perhaps your just applying your personal moral standards on others. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

You know your own answer: you just have to reverse the order you've said things. It shouldn't be: "Because my rational side is telling me that from the MAs perspective it is a business transaction after all. But I just can't help but feel a genuine connection with some of these amazing girls I've met." Rather, think to yourself: "Because I just can't help but feel a genuine connection with some of these amazing girls I've met. But my rational side is telling me that from the MAs perspective it is a business transaction after all." There are several very pleasant and exciting women on this board (at least one of whom is reading this thread!) with whom I would happily chat regularly because I've enjoyed my time with them, and I don't take them to have been merely pretending in seeming to enjoy my time. But that has occurred in the context of a professional relationship. I see a physiotherapist frequently who is a very affable young woman, but I wouldn't expect her to carry on even casual non-romantic conversation with me on an ongoing basis by text or email. I think she likes me well enough, but as a *client*, not as a member of her social group. It is the same thing with anyone on this board, though they might provide companionship rather than physiotherapy. Personally I would feel like I was simply exploiting an MA's expectations if I carried on regular private social conversation but did not have relatively short-term plans to engage her professionally. I don't mean I wouldn't banter here on the Board or wish someone a happy new year privately, but trying to establish a social relationship is, I think, either misunderstanding the situation yourself (by thinking that's what they want) or misleading the other person (by creating the impression you are planning to seek professional services). (now to hit post and see whether I've inadvertently included banned words!)

i travel to Sault Ste Marie often on bisness. iv visited most of the girls and as a rule the sault is bad for agency and local girls but recently iv been seeing the hot blonde on great northern

Does anyone know anything about the gal posting sexy fantasy on CL? Thought about seeing her until she gave me an in-call on Gore St. Google earth showed a commercial property.

I was going to take a chance on the local SP's last weekend until I saw Juelz was coming. Her pics do not do her any justice. She is one sexy, unrushed, GFE lady and I can't wait for her to come through again. I almost had a stroke with her BBBJ talents! As to the locals I would still like to know that quality as well

I find that experience and experimentation helps. there are certain 'signature' moves that I do because they get great feedback from the majority of clients. Others complain about it tickling, so one size does not fit all lol. Additional Comments: No. I've been very lucky. There have only been a couple of rare times when I have questioned why I agreed to see the person in the first place, just because it wasn't a good match and somehow i felt that i should have known that at the time of enquiry. Additional Comments: It is hard to know how to deal. I don't get a lot of reviews, but the only bad one I had seen was the first one I saw. it led me to join a review site in order to insist they take it down (someone had posted a fake bad review then was linking it to CL posts about me, in a harassing way. To put it short, the review site refused to remove it, even tho I could clearly prove it wasn't true. They had issues with this kind of defamation, in other words they permitted it to happen.) The review description of me in other words not done by someone who had seen me, but was extrapolating description in the ad. So that was how i dealt with that, reporting it as fake and having to deal with the fact that that review site preferred to harass sps rather than recognize their part in the process and do the right thing. In other reviews, i found the reviewers honest and accurate. In some maybe the 'looks' part stings, only because lets face it someone over 40 isn't going to get the same rates as someone younger, no matter how they look. I appreciate a review that lowers expectations because I can live up to lower expectations, it is much more difficult to live up to high ones lol. I've got two reviews fairly recent on a US based site, and those are pretty high marks I now have to impress people who might book based on those. Additional Comments: Attitude comes through in initial contact. That to me isn't an issue, i don't see guys with attitudes. Looks i could care less about. I'm not here to be wowed by someone's appearance, and it isn't about dating either. I am turned off by someone doing 'sexy voice' in the enquiring process, and/or promising me how great they are. It is a service, not POF. They don't have to impress me, and if they try in that way, chances are good I just won't bother to see them. Life is too short to deal with someone who thinks they are so great, no doubt I will probably accept a short changed donation or want to see them for free. I won't. I have guys who book and pay the rates who remind me of TV/movie stars, so i have a hard time believing anyone is so great that i will forget what I am here for lol

This might be a bit of a touchy one and we don't allow it here on Cerb but how you you ladies deal (mentally) with a bad review? Typically, we all know it's an issue with the unrealistic expectations of the client (for whatever reason) and not the lady. I mean I couldn't do it, just put myself out there like that. It's a business yes, and I know people strive to be professional but we're human and a critique of something as personal as your body, intimacy and sex is brutal. At least it would be for me. You ladies are far stronger than me, that's for sure. Sorry if this is too deep or dark an area but it's something I've really wondered.

I started because of school, at barely 21 years old and having x amount of debt when working at 8.25 an hr about 15 hrs a week...despite having loans and a schoolarship I was living on ramen noodle and always late in my bills. Now 4 years later, it has gain me lots of independence (how many 25 yrs old do you know who can say that they are in school and no debt at all and not being help by their parents?) I plan on doing it for at least another 3 years to finish my master, and maybe an extra year if I take some time off...after I'll see. But I like what I do as it afford me tattoos and travel also :D

For me is the stigma that surrounds it. Although I have become rather outspoken about my profession, it is difficult to make new friends. I am fortunate now, as I have an incredible relationship, but before he came along I really did not like to date, was too tricky to have a double life, or to be honest to my date in fear he would use it against me if we fought, etc...so lack of intimacy tends to be there.