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It would also limit what you could do in your future and where you could go. Just as an example the US would not allow you to travel there if you are identified as a sex worker in Canada, if you had another job and did this part time you would not be able to travel for your work to the US and that would certainly limit many people in their careers. Then of course there would be the many Islamic countries where you could be put at real risk for being a sex worker. Unless of course you think that this information would be kept confidential... but in this day and age that is an increasingly difficult promise for governments to make even if they do believe strongly in the individuals right to privacy and Harper has not been the best advocate for the rights of sex workers nor individual privacy.

It depends on if you're booking in advance such as hours in advance on the same day or days before. Personally I have given up on booking days in advance and I no longer use email because it's useless for me and just one extra step of going back and forth. I like direct contact with limited texting which allows me an more of an understanding of who I'm dealing with and a phone call to officially book. If they don't call to book, I know they're not serious and I end the texting conversation immediately. I have found a lot of men want to see someone when the mood strikes and I figure that's something you can't schedule. Unless of course they really do want to meet an escort if they are coming from out of town for example and are working around an itinerary. I will only book appointments in advance now if they are a regular I have been seeing for a long time. There are a few of my clients who do this but they are very consistent. If it's anyone else, I don't know them and I tell them if they want to meet me a certain day to call or text in the morning to schedule a time. This way I know they are half serious. The likelihood of a client cancelling on the day of meeting as opposed to days in advance is much slimmer. If the person doesn't schedule a time that morning, there will always be someone else who wants to book. If they do book a time the same day hours in advance, I will get them to confirm with me by text an hour before meeting and of course I tell them that if something comes up to please give me as much advanced notice as possible. If I don't hear back after they specifically asked for time then they are considered a waste of time to me and I will not bother to book with them again. My cancellations are very low because I like to schedule within the hour or two and if they cancel or no show it's not as great of a loss as if it was income that was anticipated in advance. I do mostly massage now and most of the men who visit me stop by on their lunch hour, after work on their way home or on a weekend when they're out running errands without their spouse. These are the type of clients who have been good because although it is short notice that is how I'm running my business now and it works for me with a lot less headaches. :)

Disrespect is disrespect... I see nothing wrong with asking repeat canceling client to either pay a deposit or pay full in advance. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

I'm starting to get a headache in regards to clients cancelling. I have no idea what to do to prevent it or if I CAN prevent it. Lately, my only method has been to mention that cancelling adds a small amount to the next time they want to meet, as that weeds out guys that would reschedule repeatedly and keep not showing up. And, clients that act like I've personally insulted them for doing so I probably wouldn't have wanted to meet anyways due to that absurd sense of entitlement. I mean, I get it, but I wish they'd understand it's also my job. When you cancel, that's me throwing away money. Like your boss calling you into work and then burning your paycheque in front of you and saying "lol never mind you don't work today". If you're going to schedule, make sure you actually have the time for it. On another note, is it at all possible that people fake accounts out of spite to book with girls they don't like and then back out? Has that been a thing, ever?

Just had a thought. Let's reverse the situation and ask the same question. Would you as a client, who I assume values discretion, send a picture of your face to a complete stranger who may or may not end up meeting you? Be sure to send a pic. everytime you get asked to!

Hang in there girl we all feel your pain on this one ,for me the real butt burner is the ones that don't bother to cancel and just no show but I agree this is happening much more often now not sure why. I find getting them to call the hour before as suggested earlier helps but it isnt fool proof. Good luck and drop me a pm anytime if you have question or just need to bend an ear.

It sucks, but sometimes cancellations are legitimate and a fact of life Speaking for myself, I cancelled last minute on a touring lady due to illness. What I did was still pay her in full for the encounter...why should she be out plane fair, hotel fees etc due to my illness Another time I had to postpone on a lady but when I re-booked a few weeks later I increased our time together and increased her tip...for the inconvenience What I would suggest, is first implementing screening/verification for prospective clients. What it has involved, and only seen from this guy's vantage point, is providing a lady my real name, board handle confirmed by PM, email and phone number. You likely could ask a lady (or ladies) how screening/verification works. To this end there is a Verified Independent's Section (Ladies Only)...contact the Mod about how to gain access Second is you could insist on a deposit from a prospective client before booking. Someone is not going to be a no show if he has paid a deposit Just a couple thoughts A rambling RG

My mom was into the late stages of Dimensia in 2007, and subsequently was put into a manor , mom loved it there, our family was very fortunate to have such a loving and caring staff. The times I went to visit mom, I noticed that many of the residents did not have family or friends visiting, and at Christmas time, especially it broke my heart! Mom passed away, in the summer of 2008, every Christmas since then, I make it a point, to buy gifts at random, for the residents that do not receive any, I sign the card " In Memory Of Mom"

not all that use bp are bad, I have had some very good clients through bp and other advertising, but you learn how to screen them and get a 'vibe' for the genuine ones. Don't be afraid to let them know that you will give the location 15-20 minutes before the appointed time. If they are truly serious, they will be there, but, there are a lot of timewasters out there. Try giving a location that you can perhaps see from your windows as an area for them to contact you in. Or if there is some kind of landmark that you can use,, and have them describe it to you once they reach it, preferably not too far from your actual location. I did this in one of my locations. I could see directly into a parking lot (where they could park their vehicle safely) but it also gave me the opportunity to see if they were indeed serious, lol The 'I'm in the area' bs, you have no way of knowing, especially if they do not know your location. If you haven't given out the location, even a general area, they could be anywhere. bp can be quite a lucrative marketing area, if we could get the scum of the earth to stop wasting time, lol. Don't be afraid to put in your ads that you are looking for serious inquiries. If it takes a lot of texting, calls or looks like timewasting, it probably is. Hopefully this helps a little, but hang in there, you will find a solution :-)

Cancellations and no-shows are a fact of life, not just in this line of work but in all lines of work. Dentists, physicians, hair dressers, etc.... they have all had people not show for appointments or cancel without rescheduling. It happens. You can't control what other people do but you can sure as hell control what you allow them to get away with. Many ladies have a policy where if a gent cancels with less than a certain amount of notice given, he is to pay an additional fee on his next visit. Other ladies have a policy where a deposit is required to book again. Both are useful and will help weed out the chronic timewasters. And the point about having a gent confirm the appointment shortly before is a must, in my opinion. Don't give out your location, just your general area (nearest major intersection) and have clients phone you when they are there to get the address and directions. Clients who have no intention of showing up will often just not bother to make that confirmation call and you can go ahead and make a note of their number so you can decide if you want to bother answering if they call again. Don't be afraid to impose rules on your clients. The ones worth seeing will be happy to oblige.

Another thing I do, is I don't confirm on their first call. So if they call me, and just want to book without asking any questions, I ask them to call me back 15 minutes before our appointment for the details of my location. This way if they don't intend to actually come over, they don't have my location. For repeat offenders, I ignore or ask for a deposit. I very rarely get cancellation. Feel free to pm me for specifics on what you do to make sure you're not missing critical steps. Good luck.

sorry to hear that is happening to you. We all go through that. I use the two-step method. Client emails, texts or calls. I take the booking, and then I confirm with them the morning of the appointment. Once I receive the confirmation back, I let them know I will call them with my exact location an hour before the appointment time. (This eliminates those that had no intention of showing from having your address.) At this point, if they confirm, they receive the address. If they are rescheduling, I make the changes with the same information. If they need to cancel, I thank them for their interest, and leave it at that. If they repeatedly cancel at the hour before, I let them know I won't book them without a small deposit. I always ask for a phone number in order to contact a gentleman, and for a convenient time to call since that phone may be answered by someone else. If it's for an outcall to a hotel, have the gentlemans name and room number, most hotels are screening all the calls that come in and will ask you for your parties name if you just ask for a room number. It's always good to check with the hotel that the person is actually there, unless it is a trusted client that you have seen before. I found out through trial an error what works for me. And yes, there are those that book with you with no intention of showing just to fill up their own girls schedules, unfortunately. Had it happen to me. Hang in there, you will find a solution that works for you.

I've found that there are two camps in relation to the magic wand. Those who love it and would never be without, and those who find it way to powerful or prefer a more "inner" experience. There are certain ways I love the wand and at times need it. There are other times I prefer something else. Definitely a great tool to have in the toy chest!

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Perfect answer!! A lot of guys waste SP's time with endless txtin and for what?? Now some want a selfie, what next?? Posted via Mobile Device

I don't understand why people ask for this.Picture this.. I get a txt asking for a selfy right now... Little do you know I have on miss matched pj's and hair is messy because I just woke up. Eyes tired with bags under eyes, skin still has pillow marks and I am on the way out the door to pick up what my dog left behind last night. So do you really want real time photo??? We don't wake up looking like a movie star! This is why we have pictures on albums, some have videos on sites, I am not taking pics and sending them when I already have too much time being used up txt back and forth from enquires. Same goes for feet pics, if u want to see my feet come on over. Why would I send that ? So you can use the pic for personal pleasure and not book me? I get nothing out of it!

I bought one as a present to someone I was with once. She was initially quite intimidated by its size and unsure. If I recall it took about 30 seconds after turning it on for her to declare it the best present she'd ever received!

I also am thankful for Miss Jane's post as I actually think it is good that we talk about these issues openly... Positive change only comes from open thoughtful discussion with many perspectives shared that influence and inform the dialogue and help form a best path forward. We learn from hearing the perspective of others... In regards to Miss Jane's comment about what hobbyists want... I accept that her experience informs her opinion and therefore it is her reality but similarly my reality as a hobbyist for 20 plus years is that I have never seen "my" participation in this hobby in the way she describes and think it is valid to express that... you are correct she never said "all hobbyists" but to be accurate she also did not say "Some" or "Most". Like I said...I like the diverse dialogue... we are all better for hearing other opinions. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

Your alarm clock will also work, lol! After you've showered, had a healthy breakfast and completed your day's to do list why not add something special and enjoy a date with me :wink:Cristycurves. As you can see I'm nicely curved, cute and I'm also very accommodating, always fun, unscripted, sincere and absolutely discrete. There is never a dull moment with me:shock: I prefer contact by phone-902-453-6323-by reliable and mature respectful gentlemen only. I'm looking forward to hearing from you * I don't keep set hours so feel comfortable contacting me at your convenience. If I'm unavailable or busy just leave a voicemail and I'll follow the instructions left in it- thank you*

If we aren't offering sexual services, why would we offer sexual tutoring?

Wouldn't the pics. on their profile/website/ad be enough?

Poutine Tornado Where's a frier when you need one? Here's how to make a Poutine Tornado. I'm hungry now.

Just wanted to say that after being on Cerb for 4 years and meeting many SP's and MA's over the years that I have learnt a lot about the women who have chosen the is path as a career. Most of them have chosen this career because they enjoy the independence and financial freedom that it can bring. But this job is not easier. Many of them have families or kids to support. University educations that they are trying to complete. This job is demanding as it involves many hours of marketing, emailing, posting ad's answering text and PM's. Trying to get hotel, schedule appointments. The women who are most successful at this job are the one's that truly enjoy their work and like to please their clients. I've met many of these women and have truly enjoyed my time with them time and again. This can be a stressful time as they need the time to prepare the room and prepare themselves for each encounter. Some day's it can busy and other day's not. Some day's they meet some really fun gentlemen and other days, maybe some creeps. Some have been robbed, or beaten up or cheated. Sometimes there no shows or other girls that make fake appointments. This is a hard job. Sometimes it is physically demanding. They give their most intimate moments. It takes a certain kind of woman to handle the emotions and sexual activities that this job may entail. One SP, told me that it's not the physical aspect that is tiring. But the emotional aspect. To be able to pretend to enjoy themselves when they are not. She was saying that in this job she had to be the giver all the time and that most of the men were takers. Her Job was to give them pleasure and most men just used her to get as much pleasure for themselves. These women deserve more, they deserve to be treated kindly and with respect. Respect their time and their contact protocol. Be a gentlemen and be clean. Do not try to negotiate their rates, or push them for more then they are willing to offer. Give them a massage to start, make it about them in the beginning. They may have had a hard day, and appreciated a little kindness and tenderness and relaxation. Talk to them, they are people also, not just objects of your lust. Treat them well and with respect and kindness. I've been told by them, that it doesn't matter how old or what you look like. As long as you are a gentlemen and clean, you will be treated well. Remember, that they are there to make you happy and are providing a very intimate service, so you should appreciate they company they provide. If the chemistry and connection are there, you will have a great time. If the connection is real, it pays to return for repeat sessions. I have repeated many times with many of the women, and have found that each session get's better and better, as you get to know each other and are more relaxed with each other. I have had several good friendships developed over the years and have maintained them. Just wanted to say this to thank you to the women of Cerb for the fun and kindness that they have given us men over the years. I hope to meet many more of you over the next few years if I can :) Remember guys. Be a gentleman, be clean and respectful and you shall be rewarded. Oh yeah, one more thing. The woman should always cum first :)

Yeah, I know, I rant a lot and it looks like I have a solution to everything... But check this out! Why don't we have a liscence (just as SmartServe), but for the sex industry? For us: In any event, this would be an easy piece of I.D.; Some courses (such as Laws and How to react when it goes bad, or whatever subject you want to put in) would be mandatory, giving us more tools to ''defend'' ourselves in awkward situation; Would help keeping a track records of sex workers (numbers and/or location); Would help control sex trade, if not help to irradicate; Would control the age of sex workers... And there would be so much to add to this list... Just saying... I would'nt mind putting money out to have peace of mind regarding laws...

Just one word of caution, when a lady books a client and gives the building address, only give the guy the buzz code. Do not give them the apartment number and tell them when they do buzz up to NOT address you by your working name as others may be coming through the front door. If your real name is on the buzzer list, ask the building management to change it to "occupied" because of privacy reasons or a former relationship gone bad. And if you have a monitor on the t.v. to watch people come in, even better. This way you can see if they come through the front door when you buzz them in. Anyone can claim to be in the area but if you want to take it one step further a landmark like a strip mall, gas station close to your place with a payphone will suffice. There are gentlemen out there who jumped through my hoops because they respected my safety. And I appreciate that. :)

I don't want to steer the conversation in a different direction but I thought I would add to Kate's point about the address and location when giving it out to clients. Sometimes if I have doubts I will make the person call from a payphone to make sure they're in the area. Many ladies who used to escort years ago and before cell phones would make clients call from the nearest payphone to make sure they were in the area. In fact, I knew one gal who told me that she had a bird's eye view from her balcony apartment to the payphone she would get her clients to call from. With technology these days, spoofing numbers and texting apps, privacy is always a must but you still have to go with your gut instincts which is why I always make sure I speak with them on the phone and I ask to call them back. It's kind of like being a bloodhound sniffing them out so to speak and if my intuition is yelling "No!", I excuse myself and hang up without booking them. I know within 20 seconds whether I want to meet a person or not. They could sound like the nicest person in the world but if something really throws me off whether it's how they speak to me, the type of questions they ask, I listen to that inner voice, always! Same goes for text with the type of questions they ask. I will never book strictly by text or give out the address in text in case someone's wife were to find it or people who have no boundaries, etc.

meeting someone new and feeling the connection, nothing better:)

Senators are in the playoffs-life is so good.

Last year, my landlord answered one of my ads. He used the same email address he uses for everything else, so I knew who he was, right away. I was just honest and said it was too close for comfort, same as I do for all the guys in my own town. Around that time, we were planning to move out of the house that we'd previously rented from him, but which his ex had taken from him in court after their split. He was very keen to have us move into another of his premises, despite now being fully aware of what I do. (He insists that he had no inkling prior, and I believe that, as I'm ultra discreet.) We did move into our old landlord's other place, but it's not the same as renting from him before. He seems determined to gouge us on the rent, charging us a much higher rate than he previously charged for this apartment, and nearly as much as he does for his other place, which is a better apartment. It really sucks the way people suddenly get dollar signs in their eyes when they find out what we do. It also sucks that they suddenly get the attitude that we have no rights under the law (like the landlord/tenant act, for example) because of it. They're going to get a big surprise on that last point! But it's especially hurtful when the person behaving this way is a customer. Of course, he insists he's not. He just happened to see my ad and responded to it, for, you know, no real reason. Uh huh.

this has happened before not sure if it's still going on where pimps were booking up ladies to try get biz for there ladies....just saying

I'm sorry for you Jenny, but hang in there we all get them. I know that hearing this won't solve the issue but hopefully it will console you a bit. To answer your last question, I believe so. But cancellations happen for a myriad of reasons from the legitimate to the down right felonious and spiteful. I find asking for an email money transfer for pre-bookings helps and have potential clients call an hour or so before meeting to confirm, if they don't call move on. That way there isn't much time wasted. I believe it was Nicholette who recommended this to me and it helps. Remember the good times when the bad arise, that'll make them pass more quickly and know you aren't alone:)

Good morning, Thank you for a delightful time back in Thunder Bay, the snow upon my arrival was a lovely welcome back. I look forward to seeing you again, hopefully when the snow is gone. xoxo Emily

Yesterday, I had the pleasure of meeting Freddigirl for the first, but not last, time. Following some e-mails and texts to make arrangements, she welcomed me into her conveniently-located, clean apartment in Fredericton's southside. Freddigirl is physically attractive with nice curves, long hair and a pretty face highlighted by a great smile. Her pics are all real and recent. Her friendliness and confidence put me at ease right away. She is intelligent and has a variety of interests; conversing with her was easy and interesting. I found Freddigirl to be eager to please. She often inquired as to my needs and certainly satisfied them. While she showed me that lips can be used for more than smiling! At the same time, she seemed to be enjoying our interaction. Positive feedback works both ways. Highly recommended to those who've yet to have the pleasure of Freddigirl's company.

The key word being the past lol....I was only joking.

Some time ago I learned an important life lesson while spending time with a beautiful dancer. After being approached and spending about 20 minutes with this beautiful young lady she asked me "would you like to go for a dance" to which I replied "of course, I was just looking for the right moment to ask you". She let out a huge sigh and replied; "Thank you. You have no idea how nervous I was to ask you to go for a dance". I was stunned. "Why would a beautiful, sexy and intelligent woman such as yourself be nervous about asking a shy middle aged guy like me if he wanted to go for a dance"? Her reply changed me forever. She asked; "how many times in your life have you been shot down by a girl in a club, or asking her for her number.....30-40 times total in your life". Well it doesn't matter how beautiful you are, we dancers can often get turned down for dances that many times in one night. Rejection hurts and I feel it each time I approach a customer.......especially one I've never met before". I've always been highly respectful and appreciative of the times that I've spent with dancers but before that encounter I'd never given a second thought to a dancer's insecurities or vulnerabilities. That encounter changed me as a patron of SC's but more importantly it changed who I am as a man for which I'm eternally grateful.

I have never actually done this but I have to say it does sound interesting... probably not something I could ever do here in my home town... just too small a community and too much chance of running into others I know in the bar. That said it might be something to do on a trip...hmmm This is one of the great things about Lyla lololol it really gets our dirty minds thinking :)

Had to post this pic. I mean is there a sweeter face!! This is a pic of a dog available at the Halifax spca named Khandy, she is a white boxer.

It is absolutely "an acceptable practice" ;) A lot of us offer social dates and are always happy to start off a date over a drink or two at the hotel bar, even for a first-time rendez-vous. It's actually a great way to meet for the first time! What I recommend you do, especially if you prefer not sending a picture of yourself to the lady is to describe yourself in details so she has an idea of what you look like (tall, medium height, slender, husky, short hair, bald, complexion, etc.) and what you'll be wearing. Also, reserve the seat next to you by asking the bartender to place a glass of water where she will sit. Place her gift bag next to it. These two are excellent cues to let her know exactly where to join you at the bar ;) Don't over think it and just have fun!

today is my birthday and all 4 kids of mine forgot again. its not like they are young ones. 25. 23, 17 and 15. my 17 year old daughter who lives with me I let it slip it was my birthday so she said she was sorry and wished me a happy birthday from behind her bedroom door when I told her good night. at 9 tonight I got a facebook message from my 25 year old son to say happy birthday. I guess its nice he took the time to message. A phone call would have been nice. Not one of them did a darn thing to try to make my day special or show they care.

I'm sure I speak for all saying we're all glad you are OK Emily :-) And that the injuries sustained by some passengers wasn't life threatening No fatalities, in what could have been a disaster a blessing Limbo sucks, but it could have been worse RG

My motto is, when in doubt, ask. Usually body language and expression is good feedback but if you're not sure, just ask. Heck, I have interactions even afterwards where I'll PM a lady and say, "Hey, you know that bit where I did the penis helicopter move and yelled, 'Woohoo!! I'm a sex pinata!!'? Was that okay with you?" Then, if I'm lucky, she says, "Yeah, that was super hot. If you could just bring a polish sausage with a miniature hat and skateboard next time, we could have a really good time." Once that happens, you know you've got a real love connection and she'll have a repeat customer for life. Good times.

My experience, let the lady take the lead. Definitely ensures you won't do something to cross her boundaries. If you continue seeing the lady, in an ongoing client/companion relationship, you'll both get comfortable with one another and just know One thing, what works in one client/companion relationship won't necessarily work in another. All people are unique and all relationships are unique too. Even different dates with the same lady are special and unique, and not clones of one another. But with an ongoing relationship and date, you'll just know. One lady may always like to take the initiative, another, the man, and another, let the encounter just unfold naturally Just my experience RG

I loooove DFK I feel like it makes sessions more intimate and it makes me wet :) but I am only an MA not an escort do take it how u will lol xoxo sierra

Jeesh we all been one both ends of this one!

Love this quote!

Super nice lady ,very professional,excellent rates and good location....