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I actually did a blog post recently about the double standards of female sexuality and I did point out that sex sells. However, comparing using sex to sell companionship and sex to sell beer is a stretch. Using one's own sexiness to advertise her companionship is an exercise in total control and autonomy. Advertisers being paid to think up ads that have sexy women in them to sell beer, cars, makeup and everything else is not comparable I don't think. You could argue that women who are in those ads are knowingly participating in using sex to sell, but so what? That is also their choice. This is a form of shaming, in my opinion and I get pretty ranty about it on my blog. Shaming women for choosing to allow their sensual, sexual nature to shine is not okay. If a woman chooses to show her body, that's her call. If I want to sell my new soap (this is an example, I'm not in the soap-making biz) by having racy commercials with sudsed up women in bikinis that's my choice, and the women in that commercial are aware of what they are involved in. Why shame them and imply that they are somehow to blame for society being a-holes about it? A much better investment in time and energy would be to remind people that a human being's sexuality - man or woman - is natural and should not be a basis for shame or negative judgment, nor a basis for superiority. How many times do you hear people - men and women - making snyde comments about a woman's clothes? Oh, look at what she's wearing, what a slut... etc, etc. How many times do we make bullshit judgments on someone's looks? Oh she's gorgeous, she must be an airhead... etc, etc. Oh man, did you hear he scored with ___ chicks last week? *high five* Etc, etc.... THAT is what needs to change. People's perceptions, attitudes and stereotypes about sexuality. We all love sex, that's why it sells so many things. But we also have a lot of hangups about sex. It's more socially acceptable for men to be promiscuous than for a woman to be. If a woman doesn't have enough sex, she's frigid. If she has too much she's a slut. If a man doesn't have sex he's defective or undesirable, if he has a lot then he's a stud, someone to look up to. These are generalizations, but they are common enough. Can we take the focus off the women for a while and focus on society's beef with sexuality? It's not a weapon, yet it's been weaponized as a tool of shame and degradation and as a platform to raise oneself up on (mostly the guys). I think this is less about the message that things like this are sending and more about the message that's already been received.

Interesting conversation. I don't think there's necessarily anything wrong with sex appeal or even using sex appeal as a strength or to help sell something. But of course nothing is ever so simple. The problem comes when someone is reduced or viewed as *only* a sex object. I think most of us would like to be thought of as attractive, and many of us work hard to try to keep our appearances in good shape (and not just for health reasons!). But it's one thing to want someone to view you as a person with sex appeal, and another thing to be viewed as nothing but a sex object. Unfortunately it's that blurred line a lot of people have trouble with. It's why you get guys who assume if a women is well done up it's OK to catcall her, and then degrade her as a tease/bitch if she doesn't accept the "compliment". I mean, just look at the pet peeves threads on this site; it doesn't take long to realize that this profession is no exception to the fact that people don't like being approached and propositioned as if they are a toy to be used. There is nothing intrinsically wrong with sex appeal. And in certain contexts there's nothing wrong with admiring someone's sex appeal and complimenting them on it. What our society isn't great on is not reducing someone to only their sex appeal, especially in situations where that isn't the trait they want others to focus on. And what society needs to accept, in my opinion, is that there's nothing wrong with a lady who sometimes wants to feel and be treated sexy but other times doesn't want that to be the focus and talk of every guy she passes by or deals with. I also think ladies are too often blamed for men's actions. It may be that ladies using sex appeal on their own terms and when they wish does lead to some guys treating women as sex objects in general. But if a guy can't make the distinction then he is to blame, not the woman. Otherwise, isn't it a bit of a slippery slope before we start saying all women need to stay covered up head to toe and stay at home out of sight of all men lest you tempt us and corrupt us with your wily ways? Anyway, just some thoughts and opinions off the top of my head. It's a complex topic.

Thank you to those who responded, your opinions have enlightened and educated me. Kate your explanation certainly caused me to see things in a different light, as did Brads. Being raised by a mother who always sided with the male, no matter his indiscretion. I've often blamed my self for things I shouldn't and viewed negative stereotypes as sometimes being right. My mother, as wonderful as she is in many other ways, has a very misguided view on sexuality and sex. If a female was raped, she'd blame her, her clothing, her actions for enticing the male, if a guy is a perv, she'd blame the women for making him so. Twisted I know, but probably because of how she was raised. I think what is important in the end is being a strong role model for others and educating our young on issues such as personal empowerment, sexuality, confidence and knowing right from wrong.

OMG lol You guys call that a "slash"? Yes, PK gave Stone "un p'tit coup de baton" but nothing to make the guy fall head over heels. There was some good acting and faking involved! Video link After all, it's the playoffs and every penalty counts!

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All of us ladies post pictures that we all individually feel comfortable sharing. But at the end of the day, our 'sex appeal' does sell. On lyla (or anywhere else that we post), that is what attracts the men first and foremost, is our pictures. Whether we are naked, half naked or fully dressed. Sex does sell. No matter what.. Of course our amazing personality is what makes them stay, but the pictures is what makes someone interested first :)

We all catch some flack from time to time it's not really that big a deal... when we ask questions or give our opinion we open ourselves up to replies from others. I have learned over the last couple of years that sometimes it all about how you ask the question or give your opinion and not so much about the topic itself..... I for one am ok with people raising topics and stimulating discussion so don't over think yourself. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

and if you tell a guy who is asking for certain type of pics or more pics "no" you often get a similar reply like above " if you want my biz" threat in other words. and while some sps are green enough to comply at first eventually they wise up to this game. eithr that or the ones sending out nudes and face pics may not be the sp herself but someone runing her who could care less about what is being done with those pics. something to consider

The key to this issue is it should be the individual in question who chooses to use their sex appeal to market their specific product or service. The problem comes when others choose to objectify someone without that person's consent and in doing so risk demeaning that person's Professional credibility based on how they react or behave solely based on the person's physical characteristics. In my opinion there is certainly more to everyone then how they look. Cristy you have chosen to work in a industry where sexual image is a major (but not only factor) so I would assume you accept that others will look at you in that frame of reference... I hope they also see you as a strong independent business woman too. If you had chosen to be for example a real estate agent and prided yourself on your competency and professionalism in that field but people chose to treat you only as the sexy lady I think you might object. Of course should you choose to use your sexy image in your ads to attract clients that should be your choice. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

I agree... shit happens... it's emotional playoff hockey... I am pretty sure Subban did not intend to hurt Stone but it was a stupid careless play... If Ottawa was smart they would use it to motivate their play but stay away from payback because in the end that will just hurt them more as the refs will be looking for it. You have to love the emotion of playoff hockey... two great Canadian teams locked in a battle to move forward toward bringing Stanley back home... Love it Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

Such animosity! No need to get hostile with me. I posted what I did based on the video replay I saw, before learning Stone got injured and might be out for a game, or longer. I'm sorry this is happening to him and the Sens. I hope Stone recovers fast and gets back into the game quickly. Let's keep this thread fun (like it has been so far) and lighthearted as it was intended to be!

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business is business, very well put! We are not selling ourselves, but an experience, a fantasy, and you are so right! Hopefully someday, the majority of society will view it that way! As for sex appeal, I feel every woman has it, it's if she chooses to use it or not to her advantage, and how she uses it. Sex appeal can be used in many different situations, from the industry I am in, where of course I use it, or at least try too lol,,, to a woman being interviewed for a position as a bartender, or a woman trying to get to know a gentlemen better at an event,, in my opinion, it's all about how she wants to portray her sex appeal, when and how ,,and again if she chooses too

Ice4fun pretty much got it! It's only fair, acceptable, okay, etc. when the individual is doing it herself, since she is in control of her body and what she chooses to do it. If she wants to use her sex appeal to sell some houses, cars, clothes then she has every right to. However I think the lines get blurred a bit, and if someone in a specific profession is very good-looking, many people may blame their success on their looks or say they were using their sex appeal to sell, even if that person is hard-working and never tried to come off as "sexy" to get a job done. No, we are not as companions teaching others it's alright to sexualize women in other professions. This is a profession where literally sex sells, and while there are some similarities to other jobs, this one is very different is how we get business done, and we have to give enough credit to men that they aren't stupid, and know the difference between this profession and others. In the same sense, we deserve just as much respect as any women in any other job, so when we're being "sexualized" it's only okay when it's on our terms, which should be the same anywhere else in the world. Posted via Mobile Device

Are you looking for free nudes? If yes, then don't bother asking at all. Are you willing to pay the lady for these pictures? Then say that straight off the bat when asking in a polite way, some ladies will be okay with this. This is the lady's business first and foremost, so if you're trying to get freebies, then everyone is right in saying they don't need your business. If you want nudes, you should be willing to offer payment for them. Even then she may not agree, but it's certainly more likely to get you them. Just make sure you actually pay up, and not dangle the possibility of payment in front of her for photos. Posted via Mobile Device

I hope you didn't take offense to my comments. I was careful to say that I was not referring to your intentions in particular. I have known you to be a respectful commenter in the past and I don't think that there is anything wrong with respectful open discussions. I was therefore trying not to sound judgemental in my response. We "dark siders" have to stick together after all. As a businessman, whenever any question like this is asked, I always go to the immediate question "why would they?". A business is always run on the notion of mutual benefit. Otherwise it is a charity. There may be reasons I have not thought of that it would be adventagious for her. A thank you gift for a regular perhaps. I can't speak for the ladies. It just doesn't seem like there would be much benefit to her in my mind. I guess the answer to the question "is there a correct way to ask this" is: it depends. Some will find the question offensive no matter how you ask. Some may not. Some may even comply. I wouldn't risk it myself with those odds though.

If you had to pick a verse or a few lines from a song that you find very sexy or that gets your mojo brewing what would it be? Here's one of my favourites: 'I want to spread the news That if it feels this good getting used You just keep on using me Until you use me up Until you use me up' - Bill Withers - Use me up

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Most likely junk food as I think this will be a later night at the office....not sure vacation is worth it lol Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

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you shouldn't feel put off or take any of the responses personally.You, as anyone here should, feel able and entitled to ask any questions that fall into the realm of legality. We all have differing points of view and strong opinions, some more so than others. This doesn't make anyone more valuable, rightor wrong. We should all want to educate and help one another here. But sometimes some questions can hit a soft spot. Especially those that concern companions personal belongings, work ethic, etc. You should understand that the question you asked is something that many of us get asked quite regularly and often by unsavory and not good intentioned people. I hope you'll continue to post and ask when you need a question answered:) As many of us here are still learning and can only learn when questions are asked and answered.

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So maybe some people haven't heard but the Silver Dollar is currently closed (and the property for sale). That's unfortunate because it had some great people, however, lots of the dancers are now working here. In the past, you'd often see very few dancers during certain hours at Tease but now there's a good turnout whenever you go. If they could just make the back room area a little more discrete that would be great (no, not asking for anything out-of-bounds but it's RIGHT there--the Dollar had a good layout in that regard).

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Ya...I offerred him an opinion....by PM lol

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Well-said! I always find these types of threads informative, educative and amusing. Even with my many years of hobbying experience, I still find that hobbying is a learning curve and that there are always things that I can improve myself on. These threads are a great way to get helpful information from.

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Well I'm sure the ladies of Lyla are just lining up eagerly awaiting the chance to send you pics on the chance you might give them your business Actually I'm quite sure the ladies do just fine without having to send you pictures at all RG

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Being rushed...nothing s worse than paying for an hour and feeling she just wants you to leave and when you do realize your hour service was actually 35 minutes. Another huge turnoff...blatantly obvious disinterest and no conversation, trash talking other MA's/S ' s etc

I'm not sure that there is any advantage for the lady to do so in most cases. Most of the photos that are provided already show enough to get a good idea of the body, the size, and the fitness, of the lady. There is enough information to determine if you are attracted to the body type. I don't see how being able to see 'everything' would change someones choice on who to book. There may be those out there with a preferred shape of the naughty bits, but most I'm guessing do not. We all like to look at them but at the end of the day, there just isn't that much variance. I'm not questioning your particular motives, but I suspect that in general, many who ask for this are merely looking for some free spank material, not trying to decide on who to book. These ladies are running a business after all, so you always have to ask yourself what is in it for them? Just my initial thoughts on the subject.

I don't think I would ask a lady I have met many times to give me nude pictures... lol... I might secretly hope she would but I don't think I would ask... so I definitely would not ask a lady I have never met as I think in most cases it would mean you would never get the chance to meet her. Just my Opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

I hope you dont catch slack as you say, since your question seems asked in good faith and I think it is best for everyone if people feel like they can ask questions (better than not doing so out of fear and making a mistake in my opinion). I would say though that it is not a question you should pose. Rather, it is likely a safe bet that if a lady was comfortable sharing nudes that she would be doing so. Yes, there is always a chance she might share some upon request, but there is a much, much bigger chance you will just make a poor impression. Not worth the risk of unintentionally insulting someone or souring a potential relationship in my opinion. Cheers.

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