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I have a real name for those who needs a reality check. Bradley Barton. Bradley Barton was recently found NOT guilty of killing an prostitute by letting her vaginally bleeding to death after, and I quote "rough sex". Bradley Barton is a free man. Hell, as far as I know he could be here posting on this very thread! This world is full of Bradley Barton. He is not an exception. Now before I hear someone wining that not all men are the same, let me tell you something: If "losing" the business of a hundreds clients gives us the chance to avoid only ONE Bradley Barton, we win big time. There is no lost here. Two-way street my ass. Boner vs Murder.... Read the full article here: http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2015/03/30/cindy-gladue-protests-bradley-barton-not-guilty_n_6966806.html

Perhaps a different perspective will help with this "two way street" debate. Couple questions: How many escorts or providers have been killed, stalked, threatened, beaten, blackmailed etc. from a client? That is to present time with no real names being utilized. How many clients have been in the same position from an escort? Some providing real names. If a providers real name is out there, . what do you think the increase rate for harassment or other negative behavior might be? A real name links to FB or an address, real phone number, info on kids, job, parents etc? How many other may be on the receiving end of negative behavior from being connected to someone now known to be doing this? How many may have an impact via schooling, another job, losing a job etc? Many ladies work from hotels or an Incall location. They keep business separate from personal usually for a number of reasons. MY point is that saying it is a two way street and that a client having a real name is the same as a provider having a real name and being NO big deal is absurd. If it was really no big deal, this would be a legitimate business, acceptable as any other form of work, fully accepted by society with no stigma attached, would receive rights and benefits afforded regular workers and not be the focus of so many people wanting to out, save, slam etc. This is the point, it IS a big deal to many of us. If it's not a big deal to you, great, find those who agree with you but at least acknowledge that it can and is a big deal to many.

Reality is that most gentlemen who see companions are respectful people who would never hurt an escort. The reality is also that bad apples exist everywhere and not just in this industry. For some reason, this industry seems to attract some of the less desirables... The reality is that we screen to the best of our abilities to avoid those bad apples as much as we can by using various methods. Reality is that some of us are passionate about this topic because it is an issue that involves our own physical well-being, safety and lives. No one is being verbally bludgeoned. We are simply trying to show you the reality we deal with when we accept to see a new patron. And it's the best way to go.

It is your opinion yes, and you have every right to stick with providers who do not require a name or any information from you whatsoever. I hope everything works out for you. However, fanning the flames on purpose is disrespectful especially after the numerous comments about risk and safety here. These ladies provide a service and as with ANY service, there are conditions and safeties in place. What you choose to do or not do is your business however your comment had no relevance except to create animosity. The situations are not comparable and it is NOT a two way street.

When I first began in this lifestyle back in 2010 I booked a date with a lady who had verification/screening procedures which included providing my real name OMG!!! I thought, she'll know my real name. Seems all too funny to me now, but I remember the feeling in the pit of my stomach after providing ALL verification information...what if she contacts my workplace, she could call the papers, etc etc etc Well reality kicked in. This lady was very appreciative of me being open with her. And I have found EVERY lady who has screening procedures in place appreciates it when a gentleman provides all information requested Most ladies I see have screening procedures in place including providing my name There is nothing to fear from providing a lady information. In my experience ladies are far more trustworthy with my personal information than say businesses who have my information, such as cable companies, phone companies, the government etc etc etc Ladies use this information for their safety I understand the real concern for a man to be concerned about his privacy, but a lady equally has a real concern for her safety and a lady's safety trumps a man's privacy each and every time Screening including providing your name goes a long way to establishing trust between a lady and gentleman. When you first meet a lady after being screened it makes the date all the more special and intimate...because you took time to establish trust. And intimacy comes from trust, trust comes from verification Don't be afraid of providing your information to ladies guys, seeing professional companions isn't about anonymous encounters. It is about a date with a lady, a real live three dimensional person. So if a lady you wish to see requests your personal information, provide it. It is becoming more and more the norm. A quick morning rambling RG

On a two way street everyone is equal and you wave at each other.....or honk and give the finger....but that's the extent of it. This industry is far from a two way street. Ladies CAN get hurt, taken advantage of........and worse. We all know !!! A fact. A dude may lose his anonymity, personal perception, family heartache and maybe business financial losses....etc. Big difference. That said. Ladies run their business model different ways. Whether it be by receiving a clients real name and info.... or by other screening methods, that is Your chosen method. If it works for you and economically then Yay. If the fellas don't work with your method then move along....as the fella's do. To throw a thread out there asking why guys won't give up their real name ? and it should be that simple....won't be Mary Poppin'ish....it's gonna be a shitshow. Those that are willing.....already do. Those that won't....never will. Sorry peeps.... But Wow !!

I completely agree with you Mid, Maybe I was a bit to indirect with my previous comments. What I meant to say is: from a person on the other side of the table whether my name be Eric, John or James has no bearing on the outcome of the situation. Maybe it does when it comes to background checks and other information that you like to collect. But not from my end, if I chose to see a lady; whether her name be Mary, Janice or Melaine again doesn't matter for my outcome (Although it might be a bit selfish). I understand that for certain people it's quite important... point taken. My issue is privacy; my real name can be linked to many article on the internet that are career/work related. That being said, everything is done with an alternate name and I haven't had any issues. I do however understand that the rate of crime/unnecessary voilence is greater for a service provider than a person like myself. I just don't understand why many individuals choose to say that privacy is something that's taken with a higher regard then safety of the service provider. If you are a true person who enjoy's the hobby the provider's safety will always be your top priority. Just my two cents...

Assume, as the saying goes it "makes an ass of u and me". That said, I have never had to give up my full name to any companion, here or traveling abroad. I think the screening methods put in place by companions, and the type of gentleman you are, dictates how you are approached by ladies, and how the lady will ask you for further details about yourself if required. When I hosted, they came to my hotel room when I was down south, I had no issues ever. I guess you can say, I'm just glad that I am using a preferred screening method widely used by companions here in Canada and abroad,which gives some details of my "real" self, but never asked for it when meeting took place. I'm ALL for the ladies discretion and safety and certainly understand the circumstances as to why they have it in place. Lastly, when I give up my contact info, as it has been said before in this thread, I also certainly hope that my contact info is discarded after that said appointment. Happy HUMP DAY ;)

My biggest turn off is when I arrive and the "business" vibe is emanating right from the beginning (face buried in a cell phone), where you feel like you're talking to the Tim Horton's drive thru window, and then at the snap of a finger, they try to morph into character, or worse, they don't, and expect you to be excited about intimacy with someone as enthusiastic as a minimum wage employee at 5am. I understand it is in fact a business transaction, but I still like a little fantasy and illusion with my commerce :p

I don't wear perfume because it tends to linger. I only wear it when I'm not working. My clients always tell me they love how my hair smells and I also use scented body washes but they don't linger. I guess that's good enough for both of us. lol.

Why is it that when some think a topic is not for discussion they'll refer to it as a shit show or inappropriate, or something other than a simple discussion. Which this is, a discussion. There will always be differing opinions and opposing sides in any discussion concerning any subject, that shouldn't cause it to be a shit show. The subject at hand is something we as companions deal with daily so discussing it is appropriate or how else does one understand or get resolve? "Throwing" this thread "out there" as you put it, was done because of my and others need to know and to inform. A topic shouldn't have have to be "mary poppin'ish" to be discussed. I don't think anyone has been overtly rude, sarcastic perhaps, but not offensively imo. To comment to your last statement "those that are willing already do, those that won't never will", none of us can speak for everyone, nor should we and I've gotten many gents to give their name after explaining why it is needed. Quite a few aren't aware of our needs as companions to screen, nor do a lot understand what info is needed to do so or why. So part of the reason for "throwing this thread out there" is to give a general explanation to those who may read this that aren't in the know or who may be reluctant simply because of that stupid new bill, which I feel has caused some to be more nervous than before and sorry "we" all don't know. There are many new members joining here, many who are new to everything so it can never hurt to discuss subjects that keep us all safe, sorry if this discussion offended you.

Contact info.. WELL yes of course like a phone number as per any said appointments how else does one know room number, on time etc etc etc, in fact some ask to speak to the real you days prior to the appointment... OH an like an email address too...how many times do you think we may get an email from someone stating they are coming to your city...or even sometimes a text right of the blue from a lady that I removed from my contacts in my phone after our last appointment over a month and half ago but she texts me saying she is coming to town, I kinda of chuckled, as I was in Mexico when that came through. So yes Cristy THAT IS personal contact info required too. ;) And I like to be quite clear, it IS NOT a MUTE point. Happy Hump Day ;)

;) I haven't changed the way I conduct myself whatsoever and haven't felt any additional risk either. Could it be because I only see independents, so I feel safer? not sure. More like adding gasoline lol! you should quit while you're behind. :)

Happy Earth day and to all those who in their everyday activities, have the environment always on mind by recycling and reducing their foot print and more. I say thank you. http://www.earthday.org/ http://www.ibtimes.com/earth-day-2015-activities-15-ideas-ways-celebrate-mother-nature-become-environmental-1891090

I already said it in this thread, but I feel that it is important to say it again: As a Kingston Escort, 95% of my business comes from BP. I repeat: 95% of my business comes from BP. And I must not be the only one!Therefore, implying that BP only/mostly has fake ads, bait and switch etc... is putting fear in potential clients, strongly suggesting them to stay away from girls who advertise there. Meaning to stay away from girls like me. Only about 5% of my clients ALSO have an account here on Lyla. But even this 5% often found my ad FIRST on Bp. So you get it, without BP = no business for me, no business for other girls who work in Kingston too. Funny enough some people who have participated to this thread encourage this fear of girls while they do advertise on BP... So all the other girls are bad, but they are not? Hm... Instead of searching for what is wrong with the others' ads, or making up fears hoping that it will attract more business to them, I personally prefer to focus on HOW I ADVERTISE MYSELF. I have no time nor energy to loose on being BP's police to check which girl is real or fake. I am not to be taken responsible for fake ads on BP. I don't manage BP and cannot do anything about it. The fact is that it is the first place where men go to look for an escort. At least it is true FOR MY CITY, Kingston. And I do advertise or have profiles/accounts on many other websites, whether them being boards, or simply advertising sites for escorts. If some disrespectful men try to negociate donations, acts, or avoid my screening process, then end of discussion, no meeting, that's all. And I have never had any issue with my clients so far. Of course there are WOTS and no shows, but we ladies all experience that. My website link is always in my ads. My observation is that less than 5% of guys take the time/make the effort to visit it. So it is a lot of biases to put on ladies who use BP to advertise their services, when we know that we all have to do it! BP is what it is, I cannot change it. Can you? And one last thing, again about biases. I am going to quote what Leprechaun1957 wrote: ". I avoid certain locations or hotels (e.g Montreal Road or Rideau Street)" Why? Because the ladies you might meet/have met who are located in this area are not trustworthy? All of them? Are you absolutely sure about that? You might miss some wonderful experience by making this idea a general rule, and mostly, you might insult some who live/work in this area and who are known to be reputable ladies, welcoming gentlemen in very nice locations... And by writing this, you might put fear in some potential clients' minds who will conclude that they must not see girls who are located in this area. We have all said that: do your research. Well, people, please do your research, and avoid spreading fears and biases, it is insulting, and I am personally fed up with this. Thank you.

Personally speaking only, I haven't experienced any changes since C-36. The gentlemen contacting me still provide me will all the information I request for a first-time rendez-vous and none have tried to negotiate my screening process. It's pretty much "business as usual"...

Out of interest... I know this has always been the case (this is far from the first thread on this) but... has it become worse since the laws changed before Christmas? Absolutely. I really, REALLY hope that all the ladies that ask for names, contact details and other personal information make damn sure they get rid of it once the meeting has been satisfactorily concluded.

You have absolutely nothing to worry about. This is what we call a parasite or nuisance site, designed to reel you in by recopying ads from legitimate sites and reposting them here to create traffic etc.. All of the profiles have links to other sites, such as AFF, so that should tell you something.

I really don't get what all the fuss is about. You give your name out to dozens of companies (for example, I just signed up for a gym membership and they wanted to see my driver's license) but you balk when one of us asks for it? Let's be straight here, this isn't about your privacy, it's about a stereotype that s ex workers are dishonest and untrustworthy. And if I'm being honest (and I always am, to a fault), if you think that lowly of me, you can go yank yourself off.

Your response is part of the reason for my thread. We as companions are known, by aliases in most cases, yet we have viable information readily available to those looking. This information is enough to satisfy any intelligent person that the professional companions advertised are reliable, trustworthy, discrete and reputable. Yet those who contact us anonymously have shown nothing, if they haven't responded with a name, and this should cause us to want to meet? You should understand we have proven ourselves through our business practices, etc, a client, male or female needs to prove their trustworthiness through providing details that are verifiable. That is simply how it works. Perhaps another can explain it better, or for some perhaps they'll just never understand.

too true, this is why we ask for names, the hotels require that when we call to verify you, the HOTEL will ask for the name of the party you are trying to reach. I don't know why guys don't get this. But when a lady calls into the hotel to verify you are actually there, the hotel does ask us this information. Too many times, in my early days, I have been told to go to a hotel only to find out the person was not there.

From my Opinion this has been a good discussion it has highlighted why many ladies require the real name of their clients... they have devised a business model that incorporates safety measures that meet their needs. Of course there will be other ladies who choose other methods and guys who choose for their own reasons not to want to give out their name... that's life people need to respect the respect the decisions of others... it's ok to disagree on approach and to just see those clients / ladies whose approach we are comfortable with. This for me was a topic about safety... There will be no perfect answer and in my opinion no way to 100% ensure safety for either clients or ladies but I think the risk pendulum clearly weighs heavier on the ladies side and that has been reflected in the strong comments about their safety that have been expressed. That said I do think we are at times all a little overly sensitive to the comments others make (yes i am including myself in that) I think we all could take a few deep breaths and accept that hey its just someone else's opinion... I don't have to agree with it and yea he / she may be wrong. But I do like these types of debates... really makes me think. Just my opinion Sent from my Passport using Tapatalk

I am in full agreement with Mia Adore here. But I have to say that 98% of my business comes from bp. I found on here, that unless someone has tofft, no one wants to see you, well, there has to be someone that is first! I have seen a few gentlemen from here, none of which have had the courage to write a reco and many of them have been repeaters, that is their decision for various reasons, but it shouldn't be a reason to dismiss someone. Also, there are girls that request no reco's be written about them. I for one like to use bp, especially if I am touring, it is just another avenue of marketing for me. Yes, there are girls that do bait and switch and just outright lie about info and use fake/other girls pics. But to state that everyone that uses bp is not good, then tell that to the elite and very reputable ladies right here on Lyla that use it! especially when they are touring, it's how the gentlemen of the area know they are here! I get told from gentlemen that they don't want to come to me due to my location, but they live in an area that I wouldn't walk through in broad daylight without protection. I have a very clean, neat and welcoming incall location, extremely private and discreet that is just for this business. It never looks as though someone was just there, and I don't live in it. Until the fakers and liars are outed on bp, there will always be the misgivings that everyone is the same. I, like Mia Adore, have my website listed in my links, does anyone use the foresight to actually look at it? usually not! We advertise where we see fit, and since bp is worldwide, I uses it wherever I travel.

I was the second post in this thread, before Genevieve Marceau posted. I posted MY OWN OPINION not to look good, not for nominations, thanks etc...but because I posted my own opinion. Pretty condescending of you to assume any post in agreement with Genevieve Marceau is to avoid being flamed My opinion is my own RG

She must have a clone of herself, to be in two places at the same time... http://newyork.backpage.com/FemaleEscorts/gentlemenavailable-for-outcall-in-manhattan-lovable-22yr-blonde-american-dreamgirl-100real/57984845

That's not surprising - based on own personal experience! lol..

To have dinner at Grotta Palazzese in Southern Italy. Restaurant by the water inside a limestone cave.. I mean COME ON! Any takers? :)

I agree, I am willing to give them as much reasonable information to make them comfortable, I won't give out my SIN number though lol! But out of all the ladies I've seen, all but one required my name and some personal information (which I didn't mind giving). All the other ones have known only my first name, not that I didn't want to divulge my last name, it just never came up. I was frankly really surprised that these ladies agreed to see me just from one text. Yes I was polite, but crazy people can be polite. Google is a wonderful tool but it's not that difficult to create an Alias online, it's very easy to create Facebook, Linked in, Twitter accounts etc... Even though I couldn't imagine someone going through all that just to hide their identity from an Escort, but it really is pretty simple. Some of them don't seem to screen as thoroughly or at all.

I know it may sound silly but as some previous posters have noted that for the lady in this situation there is more to have go wrong then with the guy. Not everyone keeps to the expected boundaries in this industry and for that reason I can easily see why ladies want to keep their names private. There are situations where over time if you are a regular client and the trust level is there, you will actually be given the honour of actually knowing a real name. I have been in situations where one SP gave me her real first name (but not here last name) and in another case the SP gave me her full real name. In both cases, I had seen the lady multiple times and had build up a rapport with them. The funny thing, was even though the gave me their real names, I still called them by their "escort" names. I didn't think of every using their real names. I only noticed when one of them pointed that fact out to me after I had sent her an email message to check on her availability. I still keep using her industry name, it just felt right.

The only time I ask for a gentleman's real name is when I am meeting him at his suite. Part of my screening process is two-step verification when I'm going to an outcall. I will ask the name the room is registered under, so that I may call the hotel to verify that he is indeed actually registered there in that room. Too many times, we receive calls to go meet someone at a hotel only to find out that said person is not there, never has been and perhaps (worse) someone else is actually in that room! We all have a screening process in place that works for us individually. We do so for our safety. I have a difficult enough time even getting gentlemen from Lyla to give me their handle when they contact me by text. I have no idea of who you are when you inquire, it's nice to know who I am chatting with. I want to know a little about you so that our time together will be more pleasurable. I don't believe that any reputable lady is going to use any of this information for ill will. Once I have verified that person, I erase the information as it is no longer needed. When we have you as a guest for incall, we are revealing to you our address. You already have our phone number/email/website etc, you know what we look like, why is it so difficult to know a little about someone we are inviting to our private sanctuary? I have noticed that a lot of gentlemen here on Lyla don't even have the region they are located in on their profile, making it difficult to know if I am even in the correct region for them. They don't have to list the actual city, but knowing if they are in the same area as me would be nice. I've had quite a few gentlemen inquire to me, only to find out that I am either in another province or across the country from where they are. Makes for a waste of time when I am trying to setup something from them when they don't even take the time to see where I am located.

This is a generalization, but often the more information an SP is seeking to verify your identity, the more established and professional she is. If you want to see a higher end provider, a lot of times, you are going to deal with more red tape, because these people often have a business plan that accounts not just for their budget, but also for their safety.

I never wear perfume for intimate encounters.. many of my clients are married!! it's a huge no-no. Even a shower doesn't always remove all strange scents.. it's not worth the possible consequences

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LOL if you want a real name, get a girlfriend. Ladies choose to protect their name because we want to avoid stalkers, harassment and good-clients-gone-bad. I am sorry (not) that it ruins your fantasy. FANTASY being the keyword here. Some of us require the client's real name to avoid this exact same individuals mentioned above.

Another point to this story is that as a client, you really lose nothing by providing your name to a reputable provider. However, if a reputable provider who has a website, advertises, puts her face out there etc. provides a real name they are then open to some VERY negative outcomes. Being judged, having their family and friends aware whether chosen or not, being open to restricted travel, having any business or school affiliations impacted, potentially having negative impacts on children whether in school, receiving some sort of assistance or just in general, having many personal things about you called into question and even potentially having your life or way of life put into jeopardy. As was mentioned, we build our reputations slowly and the right way to be known for discretion, trustworthiness and as a professional. We put in effort each and every day. We give based on what we are comfortable with and the risks we are willing to take. Clients have a world of information on us even if NOT our name. Asking for a real name from a client is part of a screening tool for our safety. I don't know many ladies who, right out of the gate, would feel secure providing their name to anyone with all the risks associated. The risk factor is minimal on the client side but maximum on the ladies. If a client is not willing to take a minimal risk but demands a maximum one, perhaps they should rethink their participation and also how they view risk.

I'm all set. Jersey is on. I have mixed feelings tonight. If the Habs don't win it will give me more games to pile up points in my hockey pool, but that being said, Go Habs.

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I used to go to school with a guy named Seymour Weiner. :)

I used to work with a gentleman named Peter Hands and he had a very squeaky voice to help the matters. Now there's a name you can't help but laugh at.Lol. But a real good guy tho.

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Forced myself to take a break from the office and met a good friend for coffee :)

As a co worker I agree with all that's been said, despite the lack of recos she's a busy girl and that speaks for itself. She's good at what she does and stunning, and maybe you can pop her cerb reco cherry if you enjoy yourself as much as I think you will ;)

I am pretty sure that is just a troll website/marketing gimmick to get you to sign up. If you go to the home page for that webaite they have ads of a loottt of sps, Pretty much half of backpage. And some of the ads are from sps who are very well reviewed here and are long time members as well. I would say, nothing to worry about.

As a Habs fan I have seen this happen when we were down 3-0 to the Bruins, Yes it is possible confidence builds with each win, hands on the hockey stick get tighter on the other team trying hard to win the fourth game so I am hoping Montreal wins in four I respect the Ottawa team enough to think this a little.

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Nooooooooooooo Valentina! Have you heard his standup? lol