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I think the best way to get "rid of bad apples" is to just focus on your own business and promoting the visions you want in the industry - be the change you want to see in the world.... wasting time and energy on others is pointless - "the bad seeds" as you call them.... they always self destruct anyways. Cheers

Okay well seems I posted in the wrong category my mistake I was simply venting and asking for advice from others that maybe have gone through this type of situation...I consider a lot of the members here on Lyla friends and I always appreciate any feedback given to me especially positive ones I have not.mentioned any ones name nor have I slandered anyone

This week is Mental Health Awareness Week in Canada and I have come to understand as I have gotten older that Mental Health Challenges are going to impact all of us at some point in our life yet we are often unwilling to seek the help we may need.... afraid of the stigma of being seen as needing mental help. A number of years ago I experienced a significant loss in my life that I still deal with every day and struggle with every day. I have started to talk more openly about my challenges but yet still have not really sought professional help in dealing with the grief I feel. I have not gotten the help for a few reasons.... 1. I truly feel that this burden I carry is rightfully mine for not doing more for the loved one I lost ... I know that is stupid but it is how I feel. 2. I was raised in an environment where men were the strong ones.... they provided help... they supported other in need they bottled up their feelings and looked after others.... so it is a sign of weakness to not be able to cope with what life throws your way 3. A lot of who you are is how you are seen in the community and in your workplace and in your social circles and while by no means a high profile person I have a very good senior' management position... I am active in my community on several charities and boards and amongst my social friends I have always been the person they come to for advice and frankly I am somewhat afraid of how all of that would change if they knew of my daily struggles. So why am I even posting this... well like I said I am trying to talk more about it and strange as it seems the fact that I am just Ice4fun here makes it somewhat easier. I am also posting this because I think we all have a responsibility to look among our friends for signs that they are struggling and give them our support to seek help. Of course as I know only too well it is often way easier to give advice then take it yourself. I hope Mental Health Awareness week allows you to give some thought to this issue. http://www.thetelegram.com/News/Local/2015-05-04/article-4134588/Mental-Health-Week-gets-underway/1

Half hour rates are NOT half of the hourly rate. The discounts start on multi multiple hour encounters. The more time you book, that's when the rate goes down. I have a minimum rate to see you. Please don't make an assumption. If you are not sure of the rates, please ask.

It's the start of iceberg season here in NL and we all know the annual arrival of the Whales to the waters around NL is not far behind.... Ok you ask why even mention that here on this site??? What do Icebergs and Whales have to do with this hobby??? Well I am throwing it out there as another great reason for some of the amazing touring ladies of LYLA to consider putting St. John's on their schedule... just think you get to come see all the spectacular Icebergs and the Majestic Whales and well us guys from here get to meet amazing ladies. Sounds like a win-win to me :) Hey... just a thought. http://www.icebergfinder.com/

Well clearly the only person who seems to have an issue regarding my post is you so if you feel I have in any way abused this thread then hit the abuse or take to mod And honestly speaking you have in no way come at me in a positive way But thanks for your advice ill defiantly take it into consideration! Have a wonderful day Cristy

I agree! I have a throw away phone for work to keep costs down so it doesn't even have an image plan but I've got a good phone at least. I tell them this to those guys who ask for this sort of thing. What I do to keep these people at bay is like you said with the positive energy. When there is something I don't want, I will rephrase my comment about this in my ad. I should probably update my website too. lol. Instead of saying "I will not give out pictures on request", I will say "The pictures on my ad and/or website are the only ones I have. I take it you know from your previous comments that you know what you put out is what you attract when you mentioned positive vibes, etc. When a person says they don't want something, that's all the universe hears and it will give you that exact match. So I think it and rephrase in a way that it comes back to me favorably. The same with negotiating. Instead of saying "Rates are non- negotiable", I say "Rates are Firm". By doing this, it has cut down on the WOTS including the ones who ask for pictures. lol. "Rates are Firm" or "Pictures are only available on website/ads" is a more positive one that will attract the clients who respect this. I study law of attraction way too much often listening for a few hours everyday lol but it has helped me significantly in terms of maintaining a positive attitude and as a result has changed every aspect of my life. I still have my moments but they are less now and I'm able to deal with it a lot faster.

A beautiful sunny, dry and warm 28C accompanied by a soothing wind! A perfect day :)

Some guy books an appt 5 days ago...never confirms, no text nothing so I just called it a no show...the same guy texts me today asking "weren't you suppose to come to Moncton...Duh!!! yes I went and left. He says I was waiting for your text...yeah right 5 days after you Wake up!! Do not expect a reminder for our appt...you have the responsibility of confirming. Shaking my head....

Danielle was seeking advice on how to deal with a matter. There is a community here that can offer support and advice She did not mention names or specifics, she did not start a fight, all she did was seek advice. And the advice, generally speaking was not to bring the dispute to the board but offered some ideas on how to deal with the matter Just my opinion, but nothing wrong that I can see with Danielle's thread that I can see RG

If you take the time to read Danielle's post, you will clearly see that she is looking for advice on how to handle the situation best. If you personally believe the thread doesn't belong on the board (which it does- it's not the first time someone looks for advice on different situations), you should use the report option and let the Mod deal with it.

I absolutely agree and that is exactly what I have been doing and staying positive Misery does like company and I have totally reached that point in my life where I want nothing to do with it Just sad that we have to go through so much when all we want to do is provide some happiness into someone's life

Okay! So yeah lol When I have pictures posted in my ads but yet i get asked for pics because he cannot make them out on his phone(ummm no) Same guy by the way...gotta love pic collectors Positive energy people xo

Contrary to what others have suggested about my previous post I agree there is absolutely nothing wrong with any duration of meeting as long as it meets the needs of both the client and the Lady. You hit the nail on the head Daniel its all about being respectful which is just as true for longer appointments. Just my Opinion

I'm watching a documentary about sex work and it is bringing up a lot of feelings. It is looking at some of the most vulnerable women in the industry and different perspectives... And all I can think about is wanting to have millions of dollars so I can create non-profit organizations to help with housing problems, detox if they want detox, and even a booking agency that workers can use to screen clients on their behalf, to book drivers, to rent apartments... There is so much people could do, so much we could do, if our goverment didn't suck so much and if people actually cared about the safety of sex workers.

Texts that go like this...."hi I read your ad on such and such, may I see a pic and can you tell me the rate?" If you actually saw my ad, there are numerous pics and as short as the verbiage is it does include the rates! Oh, and for the record, some half hour appointments can be supremely hot just as some multi hour appointments can be extremely tedious!

Going into work in shorts today! Loving this weather! :)

Yes indeed! I am learning to control the urge to not respond at least in a negative way to add more fuel to the fire It's draining and not necessary I have so much more to focus on than that *smile* Additional Comments: Awwwww sexy Pete always puts a smile on my face Muahhhh xo

I just recently sort of went through this myself. But I was not targeted on line. Instead, heard some far fetched claims and lies that came from someone. Thing is this person has also 2 others on their list, spreading lies about each one to who ever wants to believe them. In my case, I just cut off all communications. Like Nicolette says, starve them. And if people want to listen to the lies and believe them, well sucks for them because they will miss out on knowing the truth and probably become a victim as well. Cream rises to the top as they say. And they will eventually be proved wrong in their slander, if indeed you are not these things they say. Stay steadfast in your truths, and don't let others weaken your spirit. Don't read what they post, don't fight back just focus on your own day to day life. They will run themselves into the ground eventually.

It's no secret.. I have never been much of a Therrien fan. Few may agree with me, but I think he was out-coached in the Habs/Sens series (two OT wins against Sens and a bunch of one-goal wins will mask coaching deficiencies). While I remember his fiery antics in the 2013 series with the Sens, I am not sure what to make of his Therrien 2.0 act since. Habs need to find the back of the net... an issue they have had all season. I think it's fair to say that the Habs' four playoff wins so far have been 100% Carey Price. When the team scores only 14 goals in 8 playoff games (four of those goals in Game 1 against Sens), it isn't going far, even with a world-class goalie in Price. Only after two payoff games, Bolts goalie Ben Bishop is already messing with the Habs' minds (ok, he's been messing with them all season). In comes 'tough guy' Prust and the war of words through the media ensues. It might be a short series if Therrien can't find a path his players can buy into. Entertainment-value wise, I think the Sens/Habs series was more entertaining (even though my Sens lost). CM

Danielle, Silence is golden in this case. People who live for drama need their fix. It's like a drug to them. What kills them is when you dont respond. ALWAYS starve the trolls!

I thoroughly enjoyed the first two games of the Habs/Bolts series. The double-OT was exciting and tonight's 6-2 Lightning win. Yes, Montreal finished the regular season with 110 points and 50 wins. But it has become crystal clear that it was almost all Carey Price. Habs power play and even-strength goals have been totally absent in their eight playoff games so far. And Prust... hmmm. He's not exactly a Lady Byng Trophy candidate. That said, I wasn't impressed with him going after Bishop in the regular season nor was I impressed with his play this evening. I wouldn't be surprised if the NHL's Department of Safety had a look at his antics ce soir. Things are looking rosy for Tampa to advance... but... stranger things have happened in the playoffs before.. so this series is not over... yet. :-) CM

I will choose my thoughts and words very carefully as I too can relate to this situation. Whether it is done online and even via email or PM's, we either always see/read it or get told about what slanderous things are being written or said. It is very hard not to respond online or contact that person. We are human and the first thing when someone attacks us is to defend ourselves. What I have learned is you can't have a civil conversation with someone of that mentality and it's like communicating with a rock. It does make you question their motives and want to ask why but truthfully in my experience it's useless to even bother. You have a wonderful community of friends, fellow companions who also understand and have dealt with being the target of simply put a mean spirited person. You know who you can confide in and that you have a safe place to vent, there is no denying that these things are hurtful and upsetting. Don't ever let someone try to break your spirit and that is what I feel the motive in my situation among other distasteful things was and currently is based on. You are an amazing, beautiful, kind person and keep your head held high, do not give anyone that type of power over you and shake it off. Easier said, I know but this is beneath you. The best thing you can do is ignore and contact the sites where this slander and harassment is being posted to have it removed. This is cyber bullying and a crime. All my love!! xoxo

I just had the pleasure of seeing Paige. I've been waiting to get a chance to see this lovely girl. All I can say is WOW!!!!!!!!! Everything everybody has written about her is true. She had a killer smile, and body that words can't describe. She is a very positive person with a great personality. Hands down she is the best girl I have ever seen during my hobby years. Treat her well folks, she is a rare gem and I plan to see her again and again.

I think I would have to agree with Magician... the highlight of today would have to be the weather... I am not sure what the high temp was here in St. John's today but it's 6:30pm and 15c

20 Degrees on PEI today, finally.

Thank you for this post. I'm sure most if not all of us have someone who has mental health problems or even suffer from it themselves. Mental Health Awareness is a lot more important that many imagine, I recently opened a group to discuss topics about it or simply find support. If anyone wants to join it send me a request. If someone here needs the support but doesn't want to post in the group feel free to PM me and I'll post on your behalf.

When a gentlemen calls we have a conversation book a time and about 20 minutes later I receive a call that he has to cancel something has come up....I'm pretty good with my intuition and i just smell b.s ....I honestly feel at times some men shop around for rates book with a lady and still shop around for cheaper then cancels the confirmed appointment Trust me I realize that life happens and I do respect that but at times I honestly feel other wise and its very frustrating especially when you get ready for the appointment or have to postpone or put off another possible booking Please shop around check rates and services offered then call to book!

I know in the summer I definitely need to wear less makeup, it gets so hot in the city it would all come off anyways! I love BB creams for the summer, they're perfect, and I like to try a lot more funky colours on my eyes or lips too :) My freckles always come out in the summer too, so I'd hate to cover them up, they're too cute! Posted via Mobile Device

Indeed, there is nothing wrong with a 'friendly' hello. I reckon most of us (providers and hobbyists) know where 'the line in the sand is'. Many PM's I get are to say "hello" or to provide a private comment to my response to a thread. All good... no spams.. no insensitive comments.. just an electronic conversation.. CM

Planning an out-of-town outing with my favorite and lovely lady. :D

Exchanged a few PM messages with the sexy Maraena Blackwell from Nova Scotia... while I have never met the lady I have to say she was an absolute delight to converse with... almost a Religious Experience (ok the religious experience thing is an inside joke) ... We are very lucky to have a great site like this to connect with such wonderful ladies so easily.

It is a nice thing, saying Hello, but as some of us are taught reaching out isn't proper protocol as it could be misconstrued as trying to garner business. Sometimes learned behavior is hard to break and not all Hobbyists appreciate the reaching out. So for me I only reply to hello's I don't initiate them even though I do believe we all should do as we see fit.

That's a pretty good price for a playoff ticket lol...I would pay that. Tough game tonight for the habs, did not expect this thought they would win... Need to get the top scorers on the board!

Just text him back a link to one of the phone suppliers (Telus, Bell, Rogers) sounds like he needs a new phone LOL

Please... if you are going to chastise someone for being condescending then please don't be the same way. He did add in his comment that "he didn't know what he was talking about.".. So why would it then be conceived that he was bragging about his longer sessions and condescending towards those who take shorter ones? I didn't read it that way at all and I'm one who offers both! May I also add, that you've never lectured another member, who constantly lets everyone know how long his sessions are and with whom and who tends to offer his opinion to every topic warranted or not. Can't we be fair and accepting towards all members here? If this is a community and we are all here to help and support one another then if someone feels a community member has erred then shouldn't they be approached in a friendlier fashion and not bashed? Especially and when they are simply adding their opinion. I believe in fairness and in a community such as this there shouldn't be a hierarchy but somehow here there often feels like there is one.

I made an appointment with this Asian cutie early in the morning. I was surprised to actually talk to her and she was awake. :icon_lol: Made the appointment for later in the morning, and she showed up more or less on time and highly pretty. Although I saw her pictures here, you don't really have an idea of how tall or short they are from those pictures. I was pleasantly surprised to find out that she is a tiny little spinner, probably doesn't even weigh more than 100 lbs soaking wet. As you can tell, I like tiny girls. Asian fans should also take note. Vivian provides erotic massage. She works out of two locations in the west end. One is near Meadowlands, somewhere between Woodroffe & Merivale, which is where I saw her. Her other location is in Kanata. She is pretty easy to talk to, and quite open.

Christina to me is a wonderful GFE SP in Halifax.Has a nice clean private in call location..a very non rushed erotic always satisfying experience.She enjoys her work and is very open minded YMMV.I've seen her several times and will continue to see her again.Young ,blond,tall and a body that gets better every time I see her.She's a must see in HRM:-)

I have to say, after listening to the Social ( and other media) today I was left a bit frustrated at the media! The statement that caught my attention was.... " what kind of fashion icon will should she be" LIKE REALLY???? is that all a princess should aspire to be? Diana did so much for: human rights in the most oppressive countries, brought women's equality to the table of everyday people shown support to her soldiers, personally worked for clean water in many countries, food fairness and education rights of girls everywhere! So... Princess Charlotte will be viewed as a mere fashion statement??? I find this a sad day for young women looking up to the Royal Family for what to aspire to be! Princess Charlotte can be anything and many things! To reduce her future as merely a fashion statement is a disgrace to the intelligence and power the Royal Family could have good or bad! What was your thought upon hearing this?

Well you were watching the Social and look at the fake, pretentious women who host it? In all reality they have nothing better to talk about, and who would watch their awful show if they don't talk fashion? Im sure with Will and Kate for Parents both George and Charlotte will grow up with the proper values instilled in them. They have done a great job keeping George out of the media and trying to raise him as normal as possible. Im sure it will continue with Charlotte as well. Charity will be a major part of both of those children's lives, Will and Kate while royalty are as grounded as it gets.

Hickory sticks and coffee! Trust me, best combo ever. Used to have that at break when I had an office job. Completely forgot about it until today. Nommmm!

I agree with CMJ. It's just best to be as good as you can be and let those who are in this for no good self destruct or move on to other professions. No one can police this industry, it would be impossible. They'll always be ones who steal clients, money and even reputations and many of them get away with it. Some people in this business are great actors and have no conscience. But this happens in all professions. Forget the bad, promote the good and hopefully others will as well.

Desperately needing an antihistamine at 1am, and there's none in the house. Spring really isn't my favourite season.

Yeah, that 20 is not a 'tip', it is a sign you need to be more in control of your clients & sessions, to the point of actually telling them 'all good things must come to an end' at the half hour mark. Don't worry about being called a clockwatcher or getting a complaint, this is a guy who knew exactly what he was doing, and pushed to see what he could get away with. I had a friend who actually would stop and collect the extra $$ for extra time when a client seemed to need more or was at that point of going over, because she knew that there was a good chance he would not either have it, or pretend he didn't or 'forget' that he owed more for going over time. regarding a real tip, then repeat biz, being on time, not double booking, not going overtime unpaid, these things help get repeat biz. if you allow one to make you go overtime, and you are not being compensated for it, you get a sour feeling which can affect other client experiences with you. If you allow someone to make you go overtime when you have already set up another appt for a certain time, and this overtime guy didn't compensate you, you may also miss that 2nd appt and the 2nd guy thinks you are flakey. You get a poor reputation in his eyes as well, he doesn't repeat because he couldn't rely on you to be on time for prearranged appts. Those loser guys who make you go overtime then don't compensate do a lot of damage, being called a clockwatcher for allowing a guy to only stay the time paid for is just something to ignore. If someone asks when first contacting you and they use that term, just decline the appt. Anyone who mentions it or asks about it, to me, is a clockwatcher, who watches the clock in order to try to stay longer than the paid amount of time. All new sps get the predators. It would be better to not use any words in any of your ads that indicate you are new to the biz or young, because that is when they come out of the woodwork lol

In an ideal world, we would all have a savings for these very instances. It's not always that simple -- well, not for me. But I am working on it :) my actual hope is to start paying for private health/dental insurance!! :)

Some of the best things I love about my work (there are just so many) are the freedoms and the flexibility it allows me in my life...I can work when I wish, take time off when I wish, and choose the people, the gentlemen I wish to spend time with. I also love turning men on for a living; doesn't get better than that in my books!!

I think it's best to be honest. I never ignore anyone if they're polite and I answer all inquiries from those who again have been polite and haven't caused any issues. I'm not great at being diplomatic so however I'd word it I'd let them know we aren't a good match and perhaps suggest another lady who they might be better suited for.

LDBF123-my words describe only me-everyone is different. The only person who knows how your girl feels is your girl. If you've asked her if she loves you and she hasn't replied, perhaps she is still undecided, if she answers no well then time to move on. But ask, and accept her answer. Love is wonderful, it can happen with anyone in any vocation. If you have to move on fear not it will happen when and where it's supposed to, most likely when you're not looking. Hugs