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I wasn't sure if I wanted to post on this topic... I've wanted to for some time, but they are loaded matters that can make a person feel vulnerable; that can result in hurtful and dismissive remarks, even if they are worded in what one may think of as a 'polite, PC' way. However, BBW as a term and descriptor for companions is currently being discussed/debated elsewhere and I thought, ok, 'giver'. I also tried searching the terms BBW (too few characters for a search) and Big Beautiful Women and came up with nothing. I know there are threads on this topic with lots of valuable commentary, so if anyone wants to post them in a reply so we can all benefit, that would be great. The particular thread I'm referring to is: http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=219642 And, so, while I will indirectly make reference to it, because it spurred my desire to post on the topic, I want to cover more ground than this, and to do so separate from this above thread because it is supposed to be for recommending Big Beautiful Women in the industry. I wish to do so though relaying some of my experiences. BBW is a loaded term. It has a history of having both positive and negative connotations. At its best, it signals to a way of describing beautiful women of ample body sizes; women who sport very generous curves. There are many men who take great delight in sumptuous, super curvy women and there are plenty of women who capitalize on satiating those desires... of catering to and inviting a clientele that appreciates these physical qualities. At its worst, BBW becomes a catch all phrase in this industry for just about any woman who is not thin... and often a derogatory way of putting women down... of degrading value, of patronizing. The term is also often used to describe women who happen to have hourglass or pear shapes, or curvy thighs, or a juicy looking bum. It is used to justify (or delegitimize) bodies as a disclaimer and an over-qualifying term in reviews and recommendations. How many times have you seen commentary like: "she's a BBW, *BUT* with really nice curves".... or "she's not really a BBW... I like em curvy...and she's really great... totally my type, *but* *just a heads up*, *she's not a spinner guys*". In the first example, it's clear that BBW is often understood as not really indicating attractiveness, even though the descriptor "beautiful" is part of the term. It has to be qualified to justify that even though she's "big", she's big in the "right" way (as though the general description already provided and a lady's photos are not enough for a potential client to judge for himself). In the second example, any woman who is not thin, who has remotely any body padding, or curvy features to her frame is subject to the BBW term being used as a qualifier to describe her, whether its to provide reassurance that 'she's not too big', or 'you should really see her, but I'm warning you, she's not thin. I've witnessed this behaviour from both BBW 'enthusiasts' and BBW bashers alike. In pretty much any thread that is supposed to promote a BBW or seek recommendations for ladies advertising as BBWs, you will almost always see full out nasty comments about bigger women, insulting remarks towards the men who enjoy them, or at least commentary that has to dig at some sense of inadequacy. It is not unusual for this to be done in medicalized terms, such as "she is overweight"... and 'by this much'; as though a BBW's mere existence in this industry entitles certain hobbyists to get out the scale and Body Mass Index chart to start making their calculations. Regardless of intention, it's not ok. It's actually harmful, including to those of us who make every effort to embrace our bodies and to show and share them in the best light. If you don't like it, move on, and, if you do like it, please don't dig an ugly hole with over-qualifying remarks about what makes a lady a worthy companion, as beautiful, or big or small enough...or make assumptions about whether she wants to be called a BBW at all. When in doubt about whether a given woman wishes to market herself in this way, do the considerate thing and ask her first. Fat-phobia is everywhere. There is no escaping it. Some cultures, some segments of culture, some individuals are very receptive to generous bodies, but, even then, those forces are interacting. We are all capable of expressing fat-phobia and we harbour it in our thoughts about ourselves, about pleasure, and bodies...about food, worthiness, race, and desire. It does not fully dictate desire, but it often shapes how we experience and express it... and how we share about it in the presence of others. [Note: I will be referring to men in the conversation when it comes to talking about clients, even though we know there are female clients out there, and women who love Big Beautiful Women] I can think of a non-industry related experience that really stayed me; one I think can help illuminate discussion in this context. When I was in my very early twenties, I was in a long-term relationship. I was with this man for a couple of years and things were great in every respect, including sexually. One time, we were fooling around in bed watching an adult movie together. There was a scene with a sexy, curvy blonde. She was about a size 16, and she was going to town with a couple of guys. I was like, "wow" what a turn on... she came across as being totally into it, and it the whole thing felt authentic and made me feel sexy and in the mood... like the woman on the screen did not have to be some disparate image from myself (I was about a size 14 at the time). What surprised me was when my boyfriend, who was totally turned on at first, got this embarrassed look on his face. He said something like "I can't believe she's in this movie"... I knew what he meant, and, as my insides clutched back in shame, I still challenged him. I said, "she and I are pretty much the same size. I don't understand. What's the issue?" And, he said with a perplexed look, "I guess, it's because she's in the movie. It's different. I dunno..." That was fat phobia in action. This man totally embraced my body... every inch. His previous partner was quite curvy as well and he had been crazy about her. It was this notion of 'watching'... of knowing others were watching, that rendered this woman's body, of desiring her body, as wrong, shameful...not good enough. I have dealt with some very complex dynamics in this industry, in terms of my body size and the politics shaping how it has been received. And, so when I talk about it, I am simply giving a sense of my experience, and not in any way inferring how others should interpret or respond to their own struggles with these matters... it's also not about wanting to shame hobbyists, but rather, asking for greater sensitivity and self-honesty on the matter. When I reentered the industry a little over two years ago, I was about a size 14/16. I have since lost a considerable amount of weight (a little over 50 pounds) and am now about a size 7. I have never had any trouble whatsoever attracting clients. In fact, my body size has made no difference in the income I generate. When I first began marketing myself as an independent, I had to make decisions about how to describe myself... to convey an image. I knew very well that I would be considered by many to be a BBW, but it was not and is not a term I ever want to have applied to me. I chose instead to use descriptors like "plush, sumptuous, juicy, curvy". It felt meaningful to me. I did not want to make it easier for people to catalogue me by my body type, and, instead I wanted to attract a clientele based on what I saw/see as a more holistic image of who I am and what I offer/ed... as inviting, as desirable, as playful and delicious and wonderful to touch and hold and relate to. It is about self-definition. I find my work to be very meaningful, and I care about respect, giving and receiving, in all of my interactions with clients. I so often experience tenderness, excitement, joy and laughter with the men I see. However, there is still some violation that occurs. Hatred has no fee...needs no fee, and yet there are those that feel entitled to transfer their own sense of personal inadequacy on companions... to act as though they have a right to deconstruct and scrutinize us bit by bit, part by part, just because they are paying for our time, or even just because we have ads posted. I have been subject to comments like "you'd look even better if you lost some weight" (the nastiness is obvious here), or, just as bad, "don't worry, I like bigger women". I'm thinking to myself, I wasn't worried buddy, but thanks anyway (while cringing on the inside). It's telling, how clients who behave like this will shell out copious amounts of money to be with really curvy women, and yet feel a need to cheapen the experience with such shitty commentary. One time I had an inquiry from a guy who said "hey, you're a nice looking BBW". When I said, "I don't consider myself a BBW", he took on a patronizing tone, and in a laughing kind of voice he was like, "awww, don't be like that. C'mon, you're a baby BBW". This guy got off on my discomfort and making me inferior by deploying these terms. These are the conditions under which he wanted to enjoy my company. I have had many regular clients who have continued to see me over the course of two years and who consistently appreciate my beauty, even as it has changed shape, taken on different features over time. It's about an overall experience... about shared chemistry... about the way I package and present myself, my personality, my kisses, the way I dress to flatter my figure. These are the kind of dynamics I want to share in with clients. I do my best to encourage that, to invite it in my direction, and with great success, but those forces are never fully in ones control... and there are the hurtful moments... Since having lost weight, I've gotten reactions that have ranged from silent surprise, to low key "I see, you've lost some weight", to "Anna, you look amazing, as always", or "wow, you look soooo much better". I have clients do things like size me up at the door and say stuff like "looking good, Anna; losing more weight, I see" (like they are grading a side of meat), or even 'better', giving a little pat to my sides and commenting "keeping the weight off, eh?". It would be all to easy to say, yeah, I don't put up with it, but it's not that simple. I do take moments to challenge fat phobia when I feel I have the opportunity. I have refused to see men who have come across as fat-phobes, but, in many instances, fat-phobia expresses itself in the context of already established and otherwise positive client relationships. I understand that it's a big physical change and that it will get noticed, but it's not too much to ask for kindness and sensitivity. If you want to get alone with me (and, believe me, men do want that....over, and over , and over), to share space and pleasurable moments together, be the best version of yourself; receive me as I am, not as a deficit scale that has been resolved. I am not your fat apologist. I have had the great pleasure of getting to know hobbyists here on Lyla, as well as gentlemen who have become clients who totally embrace curvy women... who appreciate a range of body sizes.... who sensualize and are tantalized over nice, big thigh jiggles and rawkin' big bums... bodacious women with sexy smiles, eyes that invite, and figures to flaunt. Rawr! Right on! I am so happy when I see these gents (and some of the ladies too) making an effort to engender respect and appreciation for the curvier ladies on this board. There are companions who feel the outside pressure to describe themselves as BBWs when they are as small as a size 9 . There are some who are aware they have a generous figure who refuse to do so (like I have), while others rock the term in a way that pretty much says: I'm fucking hot; come get some of this goodness. We all experience and respond to these matters in a different way. I think it's important to check ones assumptions... to reflect on what ideas we are buying into... to reconsider how we talk about other peoples bodies (how we imagine our own), including in reviews and recommendations. I also think it's important to respect a given companion's sense of self-definition, and to check in about that before throwing around terminology a companion may find hurtful, or at least not in line with how she markets herself. Whatever the day, however tough it gets, my truth is that I love her ALWAYS :-D

I must say thanks for the free press lol. People can argue this till they are blue in the face. Some people think I am, some don't. So what? I was being called a BBW at 130 lbs at one point which is a healthy weight for my height so it's just laughable to me. I even once got called overweight at 118 lbs so there you go. lol. Men are visual creatures. They see what they want to see. Go figure. And then I've seen men who like BBWs and they tell me I'm not big enough. I will ALWAYS prefer to carry some weight on me because that's they way my body is built with large breasts, a round ass and hips with a smaller waist. I look terrible and gaunt at 105-110 lbs looking very elf like and I didn't even look like an adult! It doesn't look right in my eyes and I didn't feel pretty or beautiful at all. I felt disgusting at size 2..I should post an old picture in my picture album just for the hell of it because i look very weird. lol. While thin may look good on other people, I feel more beautiful with fuller features. I shouldn't even be defending this but as most already know, I tend to say what's on my mind. Yeah I have extra weight on me. What's the point here? To use a certain term such as BBW is subjective in every person's eyes. No one is ever going to agree and honestly I don't care what people think of me whether I'm considered BBW, thick, slim, skinny...whatever with the labels...

Anna, I understand where you're coming from. It is tough to balance what we do and then deal with this sorts of comments. To be quite honest, I have been where you are and your comments echoed my thoughts years ago. Now I just don't care anymore. I am who I am and I will NEVER apologize for that. Much like what celebrities deal with, I don't read what people write about me. I know who I am, I know I don't have to be an escorting personna and that I can be myself. I also know what type of service I offer and I attract people I know will enjoy my company. I enjoy my business and my repeat clientele speaks for itself. Forget the haters. They no longer exist in my world.

I'm bringing back the Cerb Goddess of the Day thread and nominate Vanessa Vale who is a gorgeous, intelligent and lovely lady. You are a gem my dear! xoxo

Want to send a few hugs today to those dealing with a lot ion their lives in different ways. Lady Sophia NSguy76 OldDog Warped88 And to anyone else who just needs one....I have plenty, take all you need!

This year my niece and I are going as one of the Ghouls from Monster High. The costumes came with everything besides the stockings, face make-up and shoes, I bought the stockings, make-up and we'll be wearing solid black sneakers. (No time for shoes with all that walking, running and going from home to home with treat buckets/bags) We are going to have a ball!! Frankie Stein:

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I have now seen Malena a few times. She is a sensualist beyond compare. On my last visit she greeted me in the sexist business suit ever... I quite nearly poped right in the doorway. Malena knows massage and knows teasing and suspense. It is not uncommon for my mind to wander; but not with Malena.

My family is all grown up so I dont do anything for Halloween but I have the police costume in the back of the closet somewhere. Now if I can only find those damn handcuffs. Lol. Posted via Mobile Device

Dude, you must be really new to this. Be a sceptic and you may survive being suckered. Download Google chrome as your browser on your computer and or phone. When on backpage on your computer all you have to do is right click on any photo and it will give you the option to google image search. When on your phone all you have to do is hold your finger on any image for more than a second and it will ask you if you want to google image search. either way If you find the same pictures popping up on other sites than you know its bull and you can save yourself headaches Good luck :)

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It is sad as a proud Canadian to see a government so desperate to keep power for powers sake that they are reduced to sewing seeds of fear and hatred as their means of doing so. It's even sadder to see the newest polls showing that it is working.

The pictures likely look awesome because they seem to be Colombian fitness model Daniela Lanio. So technically speaking, the pictures are, as the ad states, "real".

For a math Exam Monday morning .. and working on an assignment :(

Damn I have to get a life. Back again this Friday. Missed Jenny as she "punched out" at about 5:30pm,I was told. No surprise there. However, got to revisit with Stacy which was all good. Looked for Bridgette but I guess she left at or before 7pm. Chrystal, the shooter girl left as well...she is hot. I love doing a shooter with her when I can������ Sophia is here too! Met Tasha , full of optimism in the back room. You go girl!

Hugs are sometimes hard to come by so thought that I would send one out to anyone who can use one.

Today a man hit my car. I could tell by the look on his face he was expecting me to start screaming at him. There was a little tiny mark but nothing to get mad about. I could see his expression change for the best when I reacted the way I did. This made me think........... .... I am starting this thread in hopes that we can create a positive vibe. Not only virtually but in our every day to day life................... This thread is for, "A Good Deed Of The Day". It can be helping an elderly lady with her groceries or doing something special for someone with out them knowing. Just about anything that sends a good vibe for the day! So I will start.............. ************************************************************ I reacted kindly in a situation that typically someone would be angry in. By reacting this way, I brightened someone elses day!

elbow-length black gloves and new ties for my black corset... (which I'm wearing to a party tonight hehe) a bottle of wine and fresh strawberries to bring as delicious munchies to share ;) ....*thought* about panties..to go with corset but.. why start now? <grin>

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The only place I have ever "participated" was over on Ellice ( not sure if its okay to post their name...) was not overally thrilled with the service. I was wondering if anyone would be willing to take the time to PM me the rates and tips etc, that way I am not an utter bonehead walking in without the proper funds. Thanks in advance!

tineye.com is also a great resource. Copy and paste the url for an ad and it will bring up all the pictures. Click on the photo and it will search the web for the image and tell you where else it has been used. I usually use tineye and google image search before considering trying someone new. (One might miss something.) It at least rules out the lazy scammers who just rip off images from the web to make bogus ads.

The US of A may be rather messed up but it also produces brilliant artists like Cheryl Wheeler, Christine Lavin and Loudon Wainwright who all deserve more attention as they provide thoughtful commentary on their (our?) society. Cheryl Wheeler apparently received threats from the NRA for this one: Her ode to the NRA's typical American family on vacation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=23Zw8NmxItE Enjoy!

they probably do it because bait and switch works for them. its unfortunate but i think part of the reason is Johns not wanting to cause any trouble because of the way the law is currently set up so they go for it anyways even after seeing its not the same person. If you really don't want bait and swich i am sure there are tons of ladies right on this board you could choose from.

Christina still there?

Freddigirl posts regularly on cl and has an account here but I'm not sure how often she checks it. I'd highly recommend her if you like college student-aged blondes. She's very friendly and talented. I haven't met Lucy Diamond yet (just hasn't worked out) but when I've communicated with her she was very friendly and professional and she has a great reputation.

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I've been asked questions a couple of times about extended services by guys who have been on the board for a about decade with zero posts. Never replied. it's started to be very difficult to exchange information this days. Maybe we need by invitation only forum.

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Well at least with the Google Apps for Work or Business (whatever they are calling it these days), you can turn off Google+ entirely. It's completely disabled on my account. An associate of mine uses Bria (SIP client) exclusively with is smart phone (he has a tablet plan with data only, no voice but bell gives him voice anyways) and uses SIP with a LES.NET account (finds it much less expensive than paying for voice on cellular the normal way) and Bria lets him send and receive SMS via his VoIP number. So right there he has something of interest to many ladies -- I know you can have a phone with dual SIM cards but only one of them can be active at any given time. His VoIP account and his normal cellular telephone number are both active at the same time. Different phone numbers active at the same time on the same phone. He can make calls from either but chooses not to use the cellular side at all as it's 0.20/minutes as he doesn't have a meaningful voice plan.

hello gentlemans, I am a moroccan/spanish girl born in montreal and i love to have fun. I have a very sweet and energetic personality. I like to be tender as much as i like it rugh! i like to dominate as much as i like to be dominated but always in a respectful way. I'm 5'6", 130lb., 34c, nice round bottom... Long black hair, brown eyes and a caramel skin. You can contact me by txt mess(my preference) or calling: 613-777-7945-melissa- Ps: i have a lot of nice reviews you can read here and on another board too check this out! https://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=90307

Seen her today and walked out with almost as much as i went in with save your $ not even close

Farewell gentlemen and thank you for such a lovely time as always I will miss you and think of you til I return Hopefully soon...will keep you updated with details on my next visit Have a beautiful weekend and stay dry lol wink wink

I would. There is a comment on another board advising to "stay away".

Hey there, kathy & Megan would love to thank you halifax for being for being so awesome. Once again are stay was welcomed and was filled of classy fun gentlemen . So to all are friends we wish you a wonderful year and see you guys soon. kathy :)

I have always lived by the old adage that age is just a number. I have known people who were young at 80 and old at 25. What really ages someone is their outlook and attitude; their energy shifts with their thoughts. I enjoy my age and have earned every one of my years; many the hard way so fully embrace my age. Many think I'm younger looking and I won't complain about that. I have chosen to do this because I enjoy it and feel I have something wonderful to give. I bring myself honestly to the table and that includes my age. The way I see it, each person participating is an individual with an idea of who they want to see and what they're looking for so there is someone for everyone.

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My children are now adults but I don't have any grandchildren yet so on Halloween I tend to just stay home and try to make the experience for trick or treaters at my door a really fun experience... usually interactive with lights, music, fog Machine and anything else I can find to make each year a unique experience.

Finally I met lovely Isabella after driving from Ottawa - my second drive this month in search of gems. She is more beautiful than I had imagined and possibly she is the best young spinner blonde in the business. I had nice time with her - lots of kissing etc and then the finals. Also had a great shower together with her. She can hold a decent conversation despite her age of 20 years. She is not a full time escort and is a student which I really appreciated and liked about her. The location is also awesome. Her all information on her website is accurate - hard stuff to find these days. I have invited her to Ottawa and hope she can make it some time. Good that she is not in Ottawa otherwise I will be seeing her every week. She has 16 pages of great reviews on the local review board.

Hypocrisy, lying and deceit go hand in hand with politics I am afraid. That is a very sad statement to make but I think reflects today's reality - maybe a reality that has always been there. All three of the major party leaders have been caught in outright lies and all commonly use misleading statements or pick and choose selective, "facts." In relation to your representative government comment, there is no way that in our present climate any of the three parties that might win a minority government will be representative, but they will be the government under our present electoral system. Bring on election reform please.

And she's a redhead! :)

Back when the whole Ashley Maddison thing happened, over 50 people asked to close their Lyla accounts within a week! So we want to give you some tips to avoid your personal information being exposed if a hack like this happens again (we're sure it won't, but just to be safe). NEVER USE YOUR PERSONAL EMAIL ADDRESS FOR SITES SUCH AS LYLA, ASHLEY MADDISON, LEOLIST ETC. If you use your personal email that others know and a site gets hacked like Ashley Maddison did, you're just asking for problems if you don't want people to know what you are up to! We use ALIAS emails here and the only piece of personal information asked for is an email - so make sure you have hobby emails. Servers get hacked! Even MULTI MILLION DOLLAR COMPANIES so please take precautions in case the worse happens.

Accuride, was your experience with Sherry like the others had with both "Anna"s?