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Like "openminded" and "ymmv" it can mean slightly different things depending on who you ask, but overall it seems to mean exactly what it implies: the lady is open to requests of at least some activities considered a fetish. It's probably easier to clarify what it doesn't mean: it doesn't mean the lady will do everything or anything! But there are certain activities you're at least more likely to find someone who is willing and interested to indulge in. Like feet? Well, someone who is fetish friendly is probably more likely to discuss your interest. I tend to interpret it as permission to feel comfortable discussing certain activities considered less vanilla (though that too is a subjective term). Again, it doesn't mean anything goes (there are, after all, about as many fetishes as there are cats on the Internet), but you can likely at least feel safe asking the question/making the request/expressing your interests. Of course, this is the "ask an escort" thread, not the "ask random guy killing time" thread; so no doubt the ladies can add more or correct me if I'm off base. :)

Two hotel rooms in Ottawa. Ottawa, Illinois. On our way back from my father's funeral on Thursday in Northeast Iowa and his interment service this morning in Northwest Iowa. He got a fifteen-gun salute. All very impressive and emotional.

What a great thread... Thank You for starting it. We unfortunately live in a society that places hugely unrealistic expectations on females in regards to their appearance... the fashion and advertising Industry with rare exceptions has generated the idea of an ideal woman who really can only exist through massive photoshopping of images of already amazingly beautiful women so I guess it is not a stretch to see men and women accept these images that they are bombarded with as the ideal and to place negative views and comments on images that move away from the fashion and advertising fantasy image...unfortunately I think for this to change we... men and women... need to do exactly what this thread is doing stand up for the reality that people come in all shapes and sizes and are all beautiful and desirable. As a child I was told that beauty is in th eye of the beholder which I understood at the time to mean what one person sees as beautiful might be different then other... well when we are young I think we get that correct until we start to get conditioned by t media about what is "ideal" it's time for us to all find the non discriminating child in us and to demand better from society. As I read the OP's initial post I started to think about my own usage of terminology when posting reviews or posts on threads when referring to ladies and I realized how right she is... I am not saying that I have deliberately used hurtful terms but just that I can see how perhaps I hav not thought very deeply about how my wording would be heard by others or the specific lady in question. It's good to be reminded Thank You While the original poster is correct that I venue like th it is usually men clients using these descriptors I have to say that this issue is not limited to just man as I often see ladies who post very negative comments about the appearance of other ladies... not so much on LYLA due to the rules but check out twitter any day. I guess the nature of this industry will in fact often encourage discussions about people's appearance but in my personal experience in this industry I think it has opened my eyes to the beauty of women who years ago I would never women considered beautiful... this of course my be as much a factor of my maturity as a person but I do think meeting so many amazing women all different has opened my eyes to the beauty and sexiness you can find in everyone. As a result of this thread I hope i am even more conscious of the word I use in the future... thanks Just My Opinion

I echo Boomer's comment. I remember the hesitation and being nervous in the beginning. I've talked to Jasmin a few times; and frankly; I have NEVER, EVER had a bad experience at CMJ. It's by far the best and most consistent for higher quality of the places I've tried in the city. People worry too much. Go. enjoy. Life is short; just have a great time!!

We are a sex worker's organization in Halifax, NS serving current and former sex workers across the Maritimes. Check us out at http://www.steppingstonens.ca! We are trying to broaden our reach to provide services to more of our online clientele. We offer support, advocacy, counselling, legal advice, food and clothing bank, harm reduction supplies, court support, and outreach to anyone presently or with past involvement in the sex trade. We are, of course, choice-based, and non-judgemental.

Today a man hit my car. I could tell by the look on his face he was expecting me to start screaming at him. There was a little tiny mark but nothing to get mad about. I could see his expression change for the best when I reacted the way I did. This made me think........... .... I am starting this thread in hopes that we can create a positive vibe. Not only virtually but in our every day to day life................... This thread is for, "A Good Deed Of The Day". It can be helping an elderly lady with her groceries or doing something special for someone with out them knowing. Just about anything that sends a good vibe for the day! So I will start.............. ************************************************************ I reacted kindly in a situation that typically someone would be angry in. By reacting this way, I brightened someone elses day!

Nefertiti (Cleopatra was an asp!) Victoria or Vancouver?

Just wanted to say hi as i join this wonderful group. There is so much great in formation, great contributors and too many lovely ladies to count. Not sure what I can contribute right now, but hope to do so soon. Living in Gatineau are there many ladies working on that side of the river?

just use http://www.clubcmj.com looks like http://www.clubmadellynjae.com is not re-directing to http://www.clubcmj.com anymore

hello gentlemans, I am a moroccan/spanish girl born in montreal and i love to have fun. I have a very sweet and energetic personality. I like to be tender as much as i like it rugh! i like to dominate as much as i like to be dominated but always in a respectful way. I'm 5'6", 130lb., 34c, nice round bottom... Long black hair, brown eyes and a caramel skin. You can contact me by txt mess(my preference) or calling: 613-777-7945-melissa- Ps: i have a lot of nice reviews you can read here and on another board too check this out! https://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=90307

A full tank of gasoline

The website seems to be working for me.

I wasn't sure if I wanted to post on this topic... I've wanted to for some time, but they are loaded matters that can make a person feel vulnerable; that can result in hurtful and dismissive remarks, even if they are worded in what one may think of as a 'polite, PC' way. However, BBW as a term and descriptor for companions is currently being discussed/debated elsewhere and I thought, ok, 'giver'. I also tried searching the terms BBW (too few characters for a search) and Big Beautiful Women and came up with nothing. I know there are threads on this topic with lots of valuable commentary, so if anyone wants to post them in a reply so we can all benefit, that would be great. The particular thread I'm referring to is: http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=219642 And, so, while I will indirectly make reference to it, because it spurred my desire to post on the topic, I want to cover more ground than this, and to do so separate from this above thread because it is supposed to be for recommending Big Beautiful Women in the industry. I wish to do so though relaying some of my experiences. BBW is a loaded term. It has a history of having both positive and negative connotations. At its best, it signals to a way of describing beautiful women of ample body sizes; women who sport very generous curves. There are many men who take great delight in sumptuous, super curvy women and there are plenty of women who capitalize on satiating those desires... of catering to and inviting a clientele that appreciates these physical qualities. At its worst, BBW becomes a catch all phrase in this industry for just about any woman who is not thin... and often a derogatory way of putting women down... of degrading value, of patronizing. The term is also often used to describe women who happen to have hourglass or pear shapes, or curvy thighs, or a juicy looking bum. It is used to justify (or delegitimize) bodies as a disclaimer and an over-qualifying term in reviews and recommendations. How many times have you seen commentary like: "she's a BBW, *BUT* with really nice curves".... or "she's not really a BBW... I like em curvy...and she's really great... totally my type, *but* *just a heads up*, *she's not a spinner guys*". In the first example, it's clear that BBW is often understood as not really indicating attractiveness, even though the descriptor "beautiful" is part of the term. It has to be qualified to justify that even though she's "big", she's big in the "right" way (as though the general description already provided and a lady's photos are not enough for a potential client to judge for himself). In the second example, any woman who is not thin, who has remotely any body padding, or curvy features to her frame is subject to the BBW term being used as a qualifier to describe her, whether its to provide reassurance that 'she's not too big', or 'you should really see her, but I'm warning you, she's not thin. I've witnessed this behaviour from both BBW 'enthusiasts' and BBW bashers alike. In pretty much any thread that is supposed to promote a BBW or seek recommendations for ladies advertising as BBWs, you will almost always see full out nasty comments about bigger women, insulting remarks towards the men who enjoy them, or at least commentary that has to dig at some sense of inadequacy. It is not unusual for this to be done in medicalized terms, such as "she is overweight"... and 'by this much'; as though a BBW's mere existence in this industry entitles certain hobbyists to get out the scale and Body Mass Index chart to start making their calculations. Regardless of intention, it's not ok. It's actually harmful, including to those of us who make every effort to embrace our bodies and to show and share them in the best light. If you don't like it, move on, and, if you do like it, please don't dig an ugly hole with over-qualifying remarks about what makes a lady a worthy companion, as beautiful, or big or small enough...or make assumptions about whether she wants to be called a BBW at all. When in doubt about whether a given woman wishes to market herself in this way, do the considerate thing and ask her first. Fat-phobia is everywhere. There is no escaping it. Some cultures, some segments of culture, some individuals are very receptive to generous bodies, but, even then, those forces are interacting. We are all capable of expressing fat-phobia and we harbour it in our thoughts about ourselves, about pleasure, and bodies...about food, worthiness, race, and desire. It does not fully dictate desire, but it often shapes how we experience and express it... and how we share about it in the presence of others. [Note: I will be referring to men in the conversation when it comes to talking about clients, even though we know there are female clients out there, and women who love Big Beautiful Women] I can think of a non-industry related experience that really stayed me; one I think can help illuminate discussion in this context. When I was in my very early twenties, I was in a long-term relationship. I was with this man for a couple of years and things were great in every respect, including sexually. One time, we were fooling around in bed watching an adult movie together. There was a scene with a sexy, curvy blonde. She was about a size 16, and she was going to town with a couple of guys. I was like, "wow" what a turn on... she came across as being totally into it, and it the whole thing felt authentic and made me feel sexy and in the mood... like the woman on the screen did not have to be some disparate image from myself (I was about a size 14 at the time). What surprised me was when my boyfriend, who was totally turned on at first, got this embarrassed look on his face. He said something like "I can't believe she's in this movie"... I knew what he meant, and, as my insides clutched back in shame, I still challenged him. I said, "she and I are pretty much the same size. I don't understand. What's the issue?" And, he said with a perplexed look, "I guess, it's because she's in the movie. It's different. I dunno..." That was fat phobia in action. This man totally embraced my body... every inch. His previous partner was quite curvy as well and he had been crazy about her. It was this notion of 'watching'... of knowing others were watching, that rendered this woman's body, of desiring her body, as wrong, shameful...not good enough. I have dealt with some very complex dynamics in this industry, in terms of my body size and the politics shaping how it has been received. And, so when I talk about it, I am simply giving a sense of my experience, and not in any way inferring how others should interpret or respond to their own struggles with these matters... it's also not about wanting to shame hobbyists, but rather, asking for greater sensitivity and self-honesty on the matter. When I reentered the industry a little over two years ago, I was about a size 14/16. I have since lost a considerable amount of weight (a little over 50 pounds) and am now about a size 7. I have never had any trouble whatsoever attracting clients. In fact, my body size has made no difference in the income I generate. When I first began marketing myself as an independent, I had to make decisions about how to describe myself... to convey an image. I knew very well that I would be considered by many to be a BBW, but it was not and is not a term I ever want to have applied to me. I chose instead to use descriptors like "plush, sumptuous, juicy, curvy". It felt meaningful to me. I did not want to make it easier for people to catalogue me by my body type, and, instead I wanted to attract a clientele based on what I saw/see as a more holistic image of who I am and what I offer/ed... as inviting, as desirable, as playful and delicious and wonderful to touch and hold and relate to. It is about self-definition. I find my work to be very meaningful, and I care about respect, giving and receiving, in all of my interactions with clients. I so often experience tenderness, excitement, joy and laughter with the men I see. However, there is still some violation that occurs. Hatred has no fee...needs no fee, and yet there are those that feel entitled to transfer their own sense of personal inadequacy on companions... to act as though they have a right to deconstruct and scrutinize us bit by bit, part by part, just because they are paying for our time, or even just because we have ads posted. I have been subject to comments like "you'd look even better if you lost some weight" (the nastiness is obvious here), or, just as bad, "don't worry, I like bigger women". I'm thinking to myself, I wasn't worried buddy, but thanks anyway (while cringing on the inside). It's telling, how clients who behave like this will shell out copious amounts of money to be with really curvy women, and yet feel a need to cheapen the experience with such shitty commentary. One time I had an inquiry from a guy who said "hey, you're a nice looking BBW". When I said, "I don't consider myself a BBW", he took on a patronizing tone, and in a laughing kind of voice he was like, "awww, don't be like that. C'mon, you're a baby BBW". This guy got off on my discomfort and making me inferior by deploying these terms. These are the conditions under which he wanted to enjoy my company. I have had many regular clients who have continued to see me over the course of two years and who consistently appreciate my beauty, even as it has changed shape, taken on different features over time. It's about an overall experience... about shared chemistry... about the way I package and present myself, my personality, my kisses, the way I dress to flatter my figure. These are the kind of dynamics I want to share in with clients. I do my best to encourage that, to invite it in my direction, and with great success, but those forces are never fully in ones control... and there are the hurtful moments... Since having lost weight, I've gotten reactions that have ranged from silent surprise, to low key "I see, you've lost some weight", to "Anna, you look amazing, as always", or "wow, you look soooo much better". I have clients do things like size me up at the door and say stuff like "looking good, Anna; losing more weight, I see" (like they are grading a side of meat), or even 'better', giving a little pat to my sides and commenting "keeping the weight off, eh?". It would be all to easy to say, yeah, I don't put up with it, but it's not that simple. I do take moments to challenge fat phobia when I feel I have the opportunity. I have refused to see men who have come across as fat-phobes, but, in many instances, fat-phobia expresses itself in the context of already established and otherwise positive client relationships. I understand that it's a big physical change and that it will get noticed, but it's not too much to ask for kindness and sensitivity. If you want to get alone with me (and, believe me, men do want that....over, and over , and over), to share space and pleasurable moments together, be the best version of yourself; receive me as I am, not as a deficit scale that has been resolved. I am not your fat apologist. I have had the great pleasure of getting to know hobbyists here on Lyla, as well as gentlemen who have become clients who totally embrace curvy women... who appreciate a range of body sizes.... who sensualize and are tantalized over nice, big thigh jiggles and rawkin' big bums... bodacious women with sexy smiles, eyes that invite, and figures to flaunt. Rawr! Right on! I am so happy when I see these gents (and some of the ladies too) making an effort to engender respect and appreciation for the curvier ladies on this board. There are companions who feel the outside pressure to describe themselves as BBWs when they are as small as a size 9 . There are some who are aware they have a generous figure who refuse to do so (like I have), while others rock the term in a way that pretty much says: I'm fucking hot; come get some of this goodness. We all experience and respond to these matters in a different way. I think it's important to check ones assumptions... to reflect on what ideas we are buying into... to reconsider how we talk about other peoples bodies (how we imagine our own), including in reviews and recommendations. I also think it's important to respect a given companion's sense of self-definition, and to check in about that before throwing around terminology a companion may find hurtful, or at least not in line with how she markets herself. Whatever the day, however tough it gets, my truth is that I love her ALWAYS :-D

Groceries...have to cook a special Dinner for a family member this week so needed some outside the regular weekly purchases.

elbow-length black gloves and new ties for my black corset... (which I'm wearing to a party tonight hehe) a bottle of wine and fresh strawberries to bring as delicious munchies to share ;) ....*thought* about panties..to go with corset but.. why start now? <grin>

Yes, that's is Nikki. She's back in town.

So today my pay it forward was... I was out doing my grocery shopping and decided today was a good day to pick up my annual Turkey dinner donation for a family in need. The response I got for families in need this year was overwhelming and I most definitely will be picking up some more turkeys to help some more of this families.

My family is all grown up so I dont do anything for Halloween but I have the police costume in the back of the closet somewhere. Now if I can only find those damn handcuffs. Lol. Posted via Mobile Device

Probably a good idea to get in as much as possible this fall and for the remainder of the year as things seem to be a bit uncertain. Whatever the future holds for Barb's in general, changes can always take place in the shorter term as well such as an ATF moving on at some point. Hoping to be in more often as the mercury falls and the year winds down.

Want to send a few hugs today to those dealing with a lot ion their lives in different ways. Lady Sophia NSguy76 OldDog Warped88 And to anyone else who just needs one....I have plenty, take all you need!

Hi there, thank you for checking my ad. You will not be disappointed with my A+++ massage... My name is Vivian. I'm 28 years old. Gorgeous, i am a classy looking Lady with long black hair, seductive cat eyes ...., beautiful silky soft, tanned skin. work out body with all the right curves in the right places. You have finally met your dream girl... I greet you at the door with a lovely smile then lead you to the massage room...I will start with a deep soothing tissue massage to relax all your muscles then follow with a soft touch to invigorate your whole body then the fun time ... It will be the most relaxing, creative and passionate session for you ever. So amazing that you cannot help yourself from thinking about it and want to come back for more ! http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=92146 For relaxing massage $40/30m $50/45m $70/60m appointment only, call/text me at 6l3 7l2 l2OO mon to sat 10am to 7pm

Saw the incredibly cute sweetheart again last week. The memories of her sweet smile, friendly personality, great service and the feeling of her lovely body in my arms and while caressing her got the best of me. So, off I went to see her again. As I mentioned in my previous reco. post, our connection seems to get better each time as we see each other more and therefore understand each other much better. The level of service remains top-notch and her dedication to please is second to none. These and many other factors entice me to repeat with her again and again. What was different and interesting this time around was that one could choose to have a duo with her partner, the lovely ******. I was lucky to be introduced to ******* while I was there and she is hot, friendly and personable. Although I didn't have a duo this time, this may be a tempting option for next time. :biggrin:

I have met Lady Sophia a few times now and would highly recommend her....

I have been in and out over the last 15 years and I tried to quit, many times without success. With a relationship going cold I still didn't want to break if off, happened anyway eventually. It all started when traveling for weeks and not wanting to go to bars to try to hook up with a random lady, I decided to go this way instead. My first experience was in Edmonton and I still remember the feeling when I left, it was like a drug. Someone that would be so pleasant and so focused on making me feel like a king was such a rush I had never felt before. During the many years I have met a number of amazing people and even have made some friends that I still meet on a friends basis. I never regret getting involved in this business as it has always filled a void and the people I met have been just amazing. I have attended socials in Montreal and Ottawa and met all you amazing people of this community. I respect the work you do and your decisions in life and I wish all of us would do that so you can feel safe during any encounter. Too bad there are always the select few that can make a mess and cause harm to people. Stay safe and have fun!!

Seen her today and walked out with almost as much as i went in with save your $ not even close

All the time but if you're looking for that it's usually a fetish and is more money.

Everything you post on the internet can be traced back to the device used. If you ever used the same device to post something with your real name or identifying information, or through your home network then it can be traced back to you. However not everyone has the capabilities of the NSA or other government level agency. A really good hacker could also trace it back but someone screwing around on a SO is simply not on their radar to check out. Disposable emails are only good for making it difficult for the average or even above average level of knowledge to trace. 99.9999% of the time that is good enough. The other times is for stuff far beyond what I'll ever do on line so I am not at all worried. Mb

Dont take it personally I'm sure it's not just happening to you. Your doing it the way we wish all guys would text us. How long did you wait for a reply? Are you sure the ladies accept text messages? Some ladies don't. Check their website or ads to make sure they accept bookings through text. If they do then perhaps you should look for someone more professional. It only takes a second to reply with a yes or no from them. Hugs,Emma

Far as I know, she's no longer in the industry,for personal reasons.

Agreed. Kathy is amazing. Hot body and gorgeous face. Haven't been with Megan, but the last time Kathy was in town, she had a jaw dropping gorgeous friend with her.

Who doesn't have valid ID? No offence intended but this is a question that comes from a place of privilege. Live on the streets? No ID. The ID you had until you lost your job two months ago and lost your home is no longer valid. Student? Does your ID have your current address? Unless you want to fly home and vote in a riding you really no longer live in, sorry, no vote. Victim of domestic violence and forced from your home? Does your ID match your current shelter? No vote. The list goes on. Middle and upper class people comfortable in their situation have no problem with the Fair Voting Act. Hmm... Wonder where the Harper folk get most of their votes? This whole issue strikes me as a Canadian version of the voter disenfranchisement laws the Republicans are enacting in the States. Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk

Saw her last night. She is totally legit. Beautiful lady. Very pretty face, B cup, slim waste and great booty. Best of all, she loves to show it off. Nice skills and personality. Her location was an downtown hotel. http://halifax.backpage.com/FemaleEscorts/catalina-la-cubana-new-and-the-best/2230983

Just call me "Niagara Nicki". lol.

Indeed I do squirt but sometimes, for some reasons it just won't happen. I do provide guidance on how to literally soak my bed or your face!!! And, let's say, if U R very good at it, it will most likely happen but I don't control the amount of squirting juice that will cum out. If U don't point at noon or 2 it won't happen when U penetrate me so because I do love squirting and the way I get off when squirting, I ask U to stand on your knees and I do the same thing and I ask U to finger me real well and very fast and intensely and well it will most likely happen. But like I say if U or even I put to much pressure on myself it just doesn't happen. And lot of the times it just flows rapidly (within 15 seconds with a few regulars that were quite astonished and so was I as a matter of fact!!!!) but sometimes my poor babe can end up saying my hand is sore....!!! So just have the lady feel nice and she might give it to U but in no way should U disregard her if she can't that time. If she either advertises she does squirt or U have asked her and she said she did, she is squirting for there is no way one respectable SP would advertise something she really can't offer for it would, at the long end, hurt her career because word to mouth spreads really quickly. So I can only suggest to develop a relationship with the SP advertising and or saying she does and in no time it should happen! Barbara

I certainly didn't get the idea that the OP was trying to force anything. It seemed like a genuine respectful request for information, to me.

A great thread! I read this story earlier today, and this seems like an appropriate place to share it... http://thechive.com/2012/06/07/the-story-of-julio-diaz-kindness-breeds-kindness-4-photos/

I always like to be a kind gentleman and do good deeds for other people. Just the other day an older woman was at the trunk of her car with a shopping cart and a sizeable package in the cart. I was on my way to ask her it she would like some assistance placing the package in to the trunk, when she glanced around. I knew that she would like help. The lady was very appreciative of my offer and I felt great doing something good for someone.

Well all I can say Carley, you have brighten my day by posting this thread :) it is so nice to hear from you. :) ***************************************************** This is a very true story , happened here in Ottawa a SP very recently checking in at a hotel using a prepaid Visa Card did not have enough to cover the additional 50 dollar security deposit. For what ever reason they would not accept cash,only a credit card. I drove downtown to help her out and put the 50 dollar security deposit on my Visa. She was for ever grateful and there was no extra play time for me, in fact I was to be at a dinner function,I just pushed the dinner to a later start time to help her out. It put a smile on my face, for helping out someone in need. We met the next morning as planned I had no higher expectations nor looking for a discount. I was told that I was a very sweet and caring man, and that my friends is how you establish a good rapport with women. *****************************************************************

That was very nice of you ... so I held the door for a little old lady :-)