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That's fine you don't use it RG because you give necessary info to the lady you visit here in Ontario. Others use it as a mechanism where the ladies verify a client by his "okays" or his given information if he has very few or none. As I said it before in other threads. I travel state side a few times a year, companions I like the term MUCH more than escort that's my view, I want to see I will book through the system or identify myself to them as a potential client. Not once have I had to give more detail, or show proof of identification when meeting companions. So the system works if you are verified and screened already. Some companions won't SEE you if you do not have a P411 profile or in fact a TER profile (I don't belong to it) as P411 works very well for me, in fact I was in DC end of November I planned a dinner date a sleep over with a beautiful companion. The companions like the system in the states, as the system works for them, private messages are sent for follow up, screening, verification, they advertise on there as well, as a gent I browse through city listings that I might be traveling too, and make contact. A hell of lot better than guys using BP or whatever. It's safe, reliable and it's starting to grow some what in Canada. For example Toronto may have over 100 companions listed, I think Ottawa has 7 only. There is a annual fee for clients, the money in my opinion is well spent. BTW the reason companions need to be verified so P411 doesn't have that bait and switch crap, fake photos you see on BP. I won't vouch for a provider unless we have met.

I agree how you greet each other sets the tone for the rest of your time together. Priming is the word used, I believe. I have a couple elegant, sexy and very ladylike dresses I wear to greet clients in. They are classy, cocktail style dresses which suit my personal style very well (I just can't pull off the stripper dresses and tawdry look .. it's so not Kate but others can pull off the more modern styles beautifully). My lingerie is on underneath. I greet clients this way because on the off-chance a neighbor is in the hallway and sees us, I look like I'm ready to go out on a date or a nice dinner out. Also because it helps set the tone of "I am a woman, not a sex doll", which is important to me. And getting a client to unzip my dress is a fun way to help create the "girlfriend" atmosphere, at least insofar as my personal way of doing things goes. Depending on nerves and "feel" I either hug them right away or show them in and then hug them or move in to rub their shoulders. Sometimes I kiss right away, sometimes I don't. I go by feel and sometimes a client seems nervous so I slow down the physical connection a bit and ease them into things. Very rarely I get a bit flustered from attraction to a client and forget to be "Kate" and revert to my awkward, overly chatty self, completely forgetting that I'm supposed to be a seductive woman and not this dorky girl. So if I'm awkwardly blathering on during our session and making really lame jokes it's actually a good thing. I don't really have a set way that I greet clients. Maybe I should kiss them sooner. I will try kissing my clients when I greet them for the next week and see if I like the results.

I'm on P411 and it has been very useful in screening. For those with privacy concerns, we're not able to browse *all* clients on there; we can only see your information if you send us a pre-screening or appointment request, or provide us with your member number. It's easy as I can see in one quick glance your provider okays, rather than waiting for your reference to email me back (most providers have been prompt with their responses, but every now and again I'll run into a wait). I find American clients are more likely to use P411, although recently more Ottawa gents have been signing up. I didn't need a client reference, I provided my website and links to my recommendations/reviews and was accepted.

Dr. Peggy Kleinplatz is a practicing therapist and sexologist in Ottawa. I don't know if she is taking on new clients at this time, but she is a professor and director of Couples and Sex Therapy Training at the University of Ottawa. I learned a LOT from her. You can only reach her by phone during the day (she teaches at night): Dr. Peggy J. Kleinplatz , C.Psych. noon to 5 pm 161 Frank Street Ottawa , ON K2P 0X4 Tel. 613-563-0846

I had asked a white female provider from Quebec, who was visiting Halifax, why she had "no black males" on her ad and she said she had a number of times found herself in a situation with a man who ended up not wanting to be a client but rather wanted her to work for him and it was a scary and intimidating experience. Then a short while ago I had a nice visit with a black female provider in her 20's and she had "no black males" on her ad. I had asked her why and she eluded to the same issue. I personally can't speak to the accuracy of their experiences but I do find if very unfortunate that a few may have ruined it for the rest of the respectable gentleman who would want nothing more than the rest of us, a respectful and mutually rewarding experience. In the end I Believe that it's not race that makes the person, it's the person that makes the person. But I cannot and will not judge as we all have our own perspectives and experiences we draw from to survive. It's too bad some of these providers wouldn't join Lyla then they could ask other providers about potential clients. Back page on its own can be a scary place for both sides. What ever the case (and with no judgment) I find these race specific ads unfortunate.

Best gift: passes to my favourite artist's farewell tour, including a pre-show meet & greet and soundcheck. Bonus points: money for these meet and greets went to a charitable fundraiser. Worst gift: a (now-ex) partner offered to give me lingerie he had purchased for his previous girlfriend. ("But she never wore it!") Best gift given: Taking a friend on a vacation after she ended a very long-term relationship.

Actually wearing the ones in my current avatar: pastel/mint green with little white polka dots. Additional Comments: Out with the old and in with the new! The mint green ones were yesterday.... Today's ginch are plain black boyshorts.

Just wanted to see how people were being greeted for the first time. How a woman greets a man at the door at their first meeting will set the mood of the session. It can either with a hug or a passionate kiss. This will break the ice quickly. Or it can start off awkward with the guy not knowing what to do or is allow. It could be his first time or even her first time. Is it up to the man to make the first move? I assume it is the woman that should initiate how the session starts. Some women don't allow kissing, so how is a guy suppose to know if kissing is allowed, if he hasn't asked. Now if she starts with a passionate kiss then it can be assumed that kissing is allowed. My 2nd encounter opened the door naked, and I'm still seeing her 5 years later lol. Starting off with a hug and kiss is the best way to start. and guiding me to the room by holding my hand is a great way to start. What if the girl who open's the door is not the same one that is in the ad. This happened to me once, but I went ahead with the session, and had regretted it. No chemistry, just mechanical play. I've had some sessions that started with with no words, and just passionate kissing to start. This led to some great passionate sessions with no awkward momements. Some of the women I am still seeing. Just wanted to know if you had any interesting welcomes to talk about. And to the women. How do you generate meet and greet your clients at the door if it is your first time meeting with him?

I had the pleasure meeting Kali, this past week. Just on whim that she was on the schedule and my schedule worked to quickly see her. This mature sensual lady, is also a dancer and has a body made for dancing or in my case, one very sensual massage. The encounter was wonderful, from communication or pure silence, and with a sexy shower for 2 beforehand and afterwards. The main event was sensual,pleasurable and with a most beautiful finish. Kali, is attractive and has a great friendly personality, and wow that smile and laugh is something I had recalled the next day.She is also a very honest lady, she contacted me afterwards, and said "You overpaid me" I told her "Nope, no I didn't, enjoy Kali, Merry Christmas " ;) Kali certainly has a body to match her looks, if you are member, search her photos, you will enjoy them, better yet, go and see her in person, I can guarantee you will be happy you did. ;) Thanks CMJ and Kali, you have another beautiful lady on your roster.

I may be wrong but there is no way those are 34 C's.

Hello Ottawa Come get cozy before I'm back on a plane...Just like Christmas, I come but once (perhaps twice?) a year. Get those thoughts out of your head and come experience my soft hands, warm embrace and sultry, sassy spirit. In case we haven't had a chance to meet yet, I'm a down-to-earth, natural 32 DD with linguistic talents and an inquisitive + open mind. Ohhh-Town..... To add some holiday cheer to the season, I will be offering a $160 half-hour rate from 6-9 am and 8 to 11 pm while I am in Ottawa. My standard hourly rates apply for longer bookings. Availability (updated) is on my website. See you soon xox Miss Lacey Grey http://misslaceygrey.com

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Well, one thing it seems you have going for you is communication. You both want to make sure you feel safe talking about ideas and are equally comfortable saying what you think you might like and not like. As long as you're safe and keen on communicating as you explore, it will help a great deal. I'd also advise based on your phrasing and tone is to remember you can go slow: Thinking bondage might be fun? Try a blindfold only or perhaps gentle restraints before ordering the whips and leather gear! Wondering if roleplay or a toy might be fun to add? Again, start simple! Considering adding a third person? What about seeing if someone would let you just watch them first before having them join you. And if you do have someone join you make sure you've talked in full about what is allowed and what is out of bounds, and again reassure that at any time anyone is allowed to slow or stop things. You get the idea. In any event, happy exploring!

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I've preached this exact point many times. If we always leave it will stop happening. I have been guilty of staying a couple times when the situation was really awkward and found my self feeling somewhat violated after.. But I have left more times. Takes some gumption but gets easier.

I agree with OP sentiments and think they're most applicable in massage because there's such a wide range of experiences provided in these sessions (and where y.m.m.v. seems to play a big part). For me, I love kissing and it really makes (or breaks) a massage session. I've done a number of CMJ intro sessions - they're fun and a great way to see if you want to book regular sessions with a hostess. Most of my conversations have been pretty casual, though, as I never thought to ask more direct questions ("do you like to kiss?", "would you rather spank or be spanked?", "so other than gay rape porn, is there anything else that turns you on?"). Now that I know better, next time I'll be more playful. :)

I tend to go about it in a friendly manner. I LOVE intimacy, but would like to chit chat get to know a bit about each other. I offer Massages first before kissing or hugging as I know how scary it may be seeing an escort. Regulars get tackled to the floor in kisses, nothing more, nothing less. Additional Comments: That's a good way to look at it. Smart cookie over here!

I'm a gift card giver to, when I'm stumped. This year I even gave a multi-gift card to my friend. This year was about trying to get something lovely for al those special in my life. I'm giving my friend a 100$ gift card to get some groceries as he was mugged last week and a new hand bag, hoping it be very thoughtful to him. I love trying to get all creative and deep and ALWAYS write a page long story about mine and the other person's relationship. I always try to bring others up and never down and giving is my strong suite. I give with my entirety of my heart so when I am stumped, I feel like the biggest ass. Now I just have little detective interviews with my loved ones if I need creative ideas. Works MUCH better. Additional Comments: You sound like an AMAZING friend. Makes my heart melt :)

Best gift received: a Dobsonian style telescope with a five inch mirror, which is pretty good for an amateur scope, back in 1998. As a massive astrophile, it was the best gift ever. Sadly I do not have the scope any longer, but do plan to buy a new one; though I am leaning away from Dobsonians and into the more compact - and fully computerized - Meade scopes. Worst gift received: a Bible. For someone who is an atheist and values scientific reason and logic over pseudoscience, logical fallacies and fairy tales, it was an astoundingly poor choice. I am polite but don't mess around when people get pushy with me so I told the person that I will not accept their gift. They didn't make a fuss but we never spoke again. I actually would loved a dictionary or a proper encyclopedia set. Best gift given: a $300 sleeping bag to a friend who was preparing for an intense wilderness survival/training something or other course. It was practical and luxurious. Worst gift given: probably all the gift cards I've given people when I half-assed things over the years. I try to give gifts that are practical and well-suited to the person I give it to. But even I have a hard time figuring some folks out, so I get lazy and just give them a gift card. They're happy enough with it, but secretly I know I could have done better.

One of the most memorable... I stepped in, she is unusual and beautiful, sparkling smile, look in my eyes like she was waiting especially for me forever, passionate kiss, my hand in her hand leading me to the room, hugging and kissing.... No word was said but it was amazing!

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OK RG: You posted it - so was that or was that not E____ R______ in that clip? lol !

In the spirit of the new Star Wars. Safest car around, will not hit anything.

Ask before trying anything with the other person. I think the other person would truly value that about yourself and it would show great respect :)

Stopped into 340 briefly on Saturday afternoon (12/19) about the time things were just getting going for the day around 2:00. Saw Francesca, Bridgette, Montana and Sin onstage (2:00 - 3:00) and by 2:30 or so the club was moderately busy - about average for a Saturday afternoon. There seemed to be a fair number of dancers arriving between 2:00 and 2:30. Departed at 3:00 as there was no sign of Jenny or Ariel.

I just want to take the time to wish everyone in this wonderful community Happy Holidays and hoping and wishing all the best 2016.. I have been very grateful and sincerely appreciate all my clients thus far and I also want to thank anyone who has shown sincere interest and inquired about my business.. For those who know me and have given me the opportunity to get to know them I want to let them know that I truly feel blessed to have had such amazing experiences and some very memorable times with them.. Each and every single one of you I hold a dear spot in my heart. I want to thank you for your business and your friendship and your support throughout 2015.. I also hope that 2016 brings many more enjoyable memories with all of you and hopefully new memories made. Again A Very Happy Holiday and may everyone be blessed and showered with Love Hope Prosperity Health and New Great Memories in the coming year. THANK YOU CERB/LYLA and THANK YOU EVERYONE!!! XOXOX

Pink, purple, blue, aqua! I love hair colour that you can not found in nature. Basically anything that is "mermaid" hair get my vote. I mean how can you not love "sunset hair" ?

Hi, its Karina from Philippines. Text or call me for more info or book now . 4389377745. Thank you. PS, I don't answer blocked, private calls , and e mails.

I use to do a duo with Sexy_Sammy. What a hottie! I remember she use to put a raincoat on, boots, and a purse. That's it. Audacity at its best! As for myself, I like wearing a sweater, with long acrylic socks, knickers, and nice bra, prefferably red or white. And the very first kiss is the confidence test, for me. If you kiss me, 1. You're not a cop on duty; 2. You probably mean me no harm. This is when everything kicks in...

bottle of red wine.. 2 grapefruit raddlers and a gift card for a squeegie kid I know who's a coffee freak :)

I never used the term hobbiest until I saw it used extensively here on this site and assumed it was a commonly accepted term to describe the lifestyle choices we have made... I stopped using the term earlier this year when I started a similar thread to discuss the term and got feedback from several ladies that indicated that they did not really like the terminology so that was good enough for me... http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=218552&highlight=hobbiest I thought why continue to use the terms when it was not welcomed by the people I hoped to continue meeting. Just my Opinion

If the lady isn't who she advertises as, leave. There is way too much of this 'bait & switch' going on,everywhere. If there are pics posted, and the lady is not who is in the pic, then you have the right to turn around and leave. I don't see the point of 'going through with it to save a fight' scenario, that makes no sense at all. Gentlemen make their choices based on varying factors, pics being one of them. It is false advertising to have pics that are not yours and leading people to believe that you are someone that you are not.

I don't think I have preferred client age, but I do have a preferred client attitude, lol I have met some 20 year olds with more respect and diligence than those of advanced years, and also some very distinguished gentlemen that are very childlike in responses. To each his own I guess.

Good for Stlitz for leaving . This ought to never be tolerated. I have spoken with many gentlemen and when they showed up the lady was not even close to what he booked. If all men walked out eventually this problem would be erased. I have been told by most that they went through with the appointment to save a fight. There is nothing to fight about. If one misrepresents themselves they deserve nothing less that a fast turn around and out the door.

I will be hosting from downtown Charlottetown: -Tomorrow Friday (afternoon/evening) the 18'th of December -Saturday (afternoon/evening) the 19'th of December -Sunday (morning) the 20'th of December I'm also available for out calls to homes and hotels during the week. Clean, Discreet, and Professional, Please contact me for more information. Preferred method of contact: [email protected]

With out a doubt the usage of email transfer creates an electronic trail of the money transfer that could be tracked by law enforcement if so inclined. The email address while in most cases can be discrete does not change the fact that the payment processing organization keeps records of the transaction that could be used to link the two entities carrying on the activity. So if you are worried about being caught up in a police sting that tracks the money then don't use electronic transfer. Now with that said I think while it is important to identify the a potential risk (someone tracking the payment) it is also important to consider the likelihood of that risk actually happening which in this case I would argue is virtually zero unless you are involved with trafficking or underage prostitution. Law enforcement is never gonna utilize the type of resources we are talking about to go after independent escorts who operate reputably. Perhaps the bigger risk with electronic transfers are less legal and more personal... the likelihood of your spouse or significant other stumbling across etransfers in your bank records... that is a real risk and highly more likely if you don't take the necessary precautions. Just my Opinion

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I am fairly strict on my working hours. If someone wants to book at such and such time after my hours that I allow, I won't see them. However, some nights I don't mind the rare client if I am willing to stay up. Typically I am in bed by 10pm and I leave my working phone in the living room. During the day, I am awake and ready because those are my hours and someone could be booking. I go to bed so I am refreshed for the next day, if I am not feeling up to it, I don't advertise but sometimes clients do message me and I do see them. I am not the person who has her phone on all night and waits for someone to book, I am not the lady to stay awake for them. I've had a few who literally got pissed off because I didn't answer their text messages at 11pm and I wake up to missed calls and then they're mad at me for not answering them when they wanted to see me. See me when the sun is back up. Most of them, I laugh and shake my head.

I hear you. My wife and not only no longer kiss, we don't have sex either, going on 3.5 years now. She doesn't want to separate, so I search out warm passionate sps to fulfil my needs. When I meet with an sp for the first time, I rarely go for the passionate kiss as soon as I step through the door. I prefer to get to know her a little first and gradually transition to kissing.....I guess I treat it like a first date, the difference being that the outcome is known.

As one who usually sees ladies in my hotel room I open the door, let the lady in and we greet with a hug and kiss once the door is closed. As a sidebar, I keep doors (bathroom, closet, bedroom if a suite etc) open and lights on so the lady can see for herself that there is only me in the hotel room, no one else A very early morning rambling over cup number one RG

If they are working out of a hotel, the fear is that housekeeping is there instead of the guest. That's why some hide behind the door if wearing a revealing outfit. Always a big hug, a sexy kiss, and an opportunity to take off their coat, shoes, I love doing a little twirl to let them see everything, then off to have a great game of naked twister.

Barney, you need some SERIOUS education on escorts. Have you ever heard about independent escorts? I agree with what has been written previously, this naive statement is offensive. Please, inform yourself.

A sample from RHAG, our redhead social group :)

Been a number of heated threads on this topic already and no matter what anyone answers it never is the correct answer it seems JMO but no need to bring back a heated discussion on the subject, here are a few threads on the subject http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=181140&highlight=blacks http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=151618 http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=143689 RG

Saw her before christmas, the best of the best!!!

This board works like that, people leave recommendations only when they feel the lady deserves that, having no recommendations speaks for itself.