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I think there's a big difference between special needs/special requests versus rude menu inquiry. SP's that clearly state they don't offer menu's and don't like being asked won't like the following inquiries: "Hey babe what's on your menu?" "Rates/restrictions?" "What do I get in a session with you?" "Hey baby do you x, cuz if not that's a deal breaker" "So is it safe to assume you offer x,y,z?" A better approach would be: "Hi Bailey, I was really intrigued by your pictures on your website and I was hoping to find out if my request would be appropriate and amenable to you. You see I am unable to do x, and while I enjoy the company of a woman, my fetish leans more to the Y side and I wanted to ask in advance if this is something you would be comfortable with." Or "Hi Janice Perhaps I have an unusual request for you, and I absolutely respect your preference for not being asked about your menu. The problem for me is that I have x limitation, and I have a particular fetish. I was wondering if I would be able to inquire if my fetish is something that you would be open to? It's in regards to z. Thank you" Generally Sp's are not heartless creatures, and we do understand some guys see ladies for alternative or limited interaction sessions. But it depends on how you approach them and come across. Making a simple polite request with a brief explanation as to why you are limited and looking for something you are unsure of them being comfortable with is different than just asking for a menu and likely ignoring them when they do bother to respond to you. Some ladies do not want to discuss a list of services because of the new law, and others don't want to list out services to be reduced to a menu card, because generally guys asking are really asking for WIDE OPEN MENUS and sometimes unsafe services, and regardless of what we respond they either don't reply or can push "well if you don't offer x then i'll go somewhere else" I'm pretty sure you're not acting like that, so just be honest and use a polite approach and describe what the issue is and what your fetish is as best you can. If however it's something like you can only "finish" in a certain way with a porn star type of act, then you may put off some providers in the end, but based on what you've said i'm not entirely sure what it is you are looking for.

Castle, the questions in your post cover several aspects when communicating with ladies, as mentioned by other members in this thread. Here is my point of view about a few things, and it is only my point of view: - I don't like when someone asks for "my menu". I have a big issue with this expression. I am extremely picky with communication and words. A menu for me is about food. I am not a meal or a piece of meat, therefore anybody who will ask for "my menu" might get no answer from me, or a short/cold answer, depending on my mood. I know that some people do not use this expression with a bad intention, but I do hate it. - Because of Bill C-36 there is not much room left to discuss the details of private encounters. But I agree with you and other members that it is best to know what to expect on both sides. Therefore... - We can all find our own ways to discuss these details like adults using nice words and subtle ways... A phone conversation might be better than texts or emails in this case?

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If you really have to ask then I would suggest to avoid the word "menu" and ask directly about the service(s) you are interested in or do the reverse: ask politely about her restrictions. If something is not restricted then it is safe to assume it is allowed. You will always get an answer if you ask nicely :) Happy Hobbying. GM

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Remember, under the new laws, a provider can advertise specific services. She can be as graphic as she wants. Where the issue arises, is that the advertising site cannot allow us to advertise specific services. As well, a hobbyist cannot ask for specific services. So, this is where the dance begins. If both are not sure if it's the fox trot or the waltz, it can be confusing. So, view her recommendations, view her website, then if still unsure, as her if you can ask some questions via phone. I personally wouldn't do it via text or email, as you are leaving a trail. Instead of asking do you provide this, create a scenario you would like to play out, and ask her if she is interested in participating. Of course, there are well reviewed ladies that would prefer you just come out and tell her what you are looking for. Her website and online persona will let you know how she wants you to approach her. However, the biggest thing to remember, is if the lady is well recommended, she does not work for LE, so therefore, the issue is more about respect then the whole legal issue. The new girls no one has seen, has no website or online presence are the ones you must be very cautious with. If she is asking you, "so, what specifically do you want to do for $x", that you need to be cautious with. I have never asked a new client what he was looking for prior to money being exchanged. Once the money has been exchanged, I will open the discussion up to make sure he has an amazing time. I know ahead of time the obvious of what he wants.

For the record, I never use the term "menu" when contacting a SP. I used it for the purpose of this thread because the restrictions put onto this site have limited the terms I can use....and also because it's the term most often used by ladies in their disclaimers...but I agree that it's in very bad taste to use it when referring to a woman's time and services. Thanks everyone for your feedback so far!

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Regarding this topic, I have come across sites where there is the usual disclaimer such as : All money exchanged is for legal adult courtesan services; time and companionship, or entertainment only. Anything implied or inferred on this website is NOT to be taken as inducement for services other than this. Any sexual activities that may/may not take place are between two consenting adults. However, instead of just listing rates for time, such as 1 hour for $300 let's say, they will list rates for time under specific headings such as GFE and PFE for instance. So, doesn't that imply purchasing a service instead of just time? I'm confused and just wondering about the legality of this set up under the new legislation. If anyone has any input, it would be appreciated... thanks! :)

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Instead of saying to the lady "do you do....?" Why not just say what it is you are interested in and asking if she would be interested in accommodating you? And if that is just too much like asking for a 'menu' why not just state your interests and see how she takes the conversation. .... Now that I think about it, sometimes just yammering on about what interests you can be viewed as just wasting time instead of you being taken seriously about your preferences. I guess there are sometimes you will just have to except what a lady interprets to be the best experience, with maybe not a total fulfillment of your wishes. Until you find your gem ;)

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Thanks for this post. It's true.

I will speak for myself, as not everyone feels the same way. I wrote a blog once about feeling like a McDonalds drive thru. "I'd like a ... And ... And ... And ..." "Would you like to supersize your order?, drive to the first window please." The funny thing is, what they want is what I love, but I felt like I was being broken down into a sum of parts and not looking at the whole experience. So, when the laws changed, I decided to take control of how communication was done. It's not that I have an issue with LE, but I finally have the ability to determine what is and is not acceptable. Yes, I loose out on some invitations, but they are the ones I don't really want to meet. Personally, I would approach it with first asking if she would like to have a discussion about how you envision your encounter. That is completely different then someone texting me out of no where saying I want X, y, and z. It can be a bit of a shock when I'm expecting "hello, my name is ..., how are you doing", vs "I want X, y , z. So, if you open the communication first, ask if she is interested in a discussion, you will find that she might be open to the discussion. Good luck.

You were looking for the ladies to reply but here's my two cents... it's all in the way you ask... if you have special needs or considerations and you discuss this with a lady respectfully then in my experience there is normally not a problem. That said you do need to keep in mind that with the new laws since Dec 2014 many ladies have adopted an approach of not discussing services at all prior to the meeting... you are purchasing time everything else is between two consenting adults at the time of the date. While this can be more of an issue now it can usually be managed.

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I was a dancer for many years. Had many requests for those parties. So did a lot of girls I worked with. Promise of big money. Lots of people attending.... Never been worth the time. Ask any dancer who has tried it once .... because that is all it takes to find out it is not worth it. Just a wasted night for you and alot of apologizing from the guy who 'hired' you. (I use 'hired' loosely because they will not pay up front and if you ask them who is paying for this you can find out they are only counting on the others to reach into their pockets... without actually asking them...and that only puts the other attendees on the spot... and you look like a fool begging to be paid.... and you have wasted a night on nonsense.)

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I wouldn't even bat a lash. I'd get up and tell him to leave immediately as I would be appalled and wouldn't wish to see him further. I have had many encounters, with clients who were "in the zone" and would never try to manipulate me into going bare, and go against what my restrictions are, to better suit them. If someone sends me a message that's demeaning or disrespectful, I ignore them and block them on my phone or email. Nobody deserves to be talked to like a show dog or be expected to do anything on their command just because they are paying for your time. That shit pisses me right off. I used to be a pushover and give chances in those instances. I ended up with a client who would sneak the condom off and I didn't know until it was too late. This resulted in him gloating about getting what he wanted. I asked him to leave immediately and and I yelled and got my message across quickly. I ended up with a saddening and heartbreaking situation, months later which involved me going on deperovera. I definitely don't regret this form of birth control. This is why I screen people and talk thoroughly, before booking. Some one who isn't willing to get to know me better, is probably someone just looking for a penis hole. I'd also like to add that rape and abuse is common in this industry and a lot of men are not aware of that and seem to think we have to be SUPER "come do me" when speaking to them, even though I am human and need to get to know a person before flirting heavily. A lot of men seem to think this behavior is okay simply because of the profession itself. When a girl says no its no. Get off your high horse! Sorry for the rant that triggered some next level anger lol

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It's one of those questions. It reminds me of the time my mother went to watch me recite something at school in the third grade. She had a couple of fur coats and wore one that day.. one boy in my class ( he was a total idiot who would hang the shortest kid upside down for his lunch money) went up to her and said to her "Where did you get that fur coat?" Her response as she turned around looking him square in the eyes saying... "I stole it!" Yeah, that shut him up right there and he walked away speechless. Same thing going on here.. If you feel someone is getting too nosy and sigh... there are a few, shock value works best. To be fair, they may just not know what else to say and most are just being polite and trying to make conversation but it's really an awkward question to ask in our business. Every guys likes to think they are the only one or want to be the first client that day or whatever. I try to offer that fantasy so I prefer someone not ask that question. If they do, I will go on about general things but not how appointments I have or will be doing. It's really no one's business but my own. Like the old saying goes, "If I told you then I'd have to kill you."

Unless you are rude or disrespectful a lady will always want to see you again. Don't confuse business with personal, just because you click with a lady doesn't mean she wants a personal relationship with you. Take it for what it is and enjoy it, keep it real, the lady is a professional.