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There has been a lot of activity in the "turn off's" thread so to increase both the positivity and titillating factors, let's talk about what turns us on. I for one love a vocal partner. One who makes noises of pleasure, who encourages or directs with desire and who loses themselves in the moment. It is even a bigger turn on while using your name! ! What turns YOU on??

Don't EVER stop being yourself and keep on your path. We only have the present moment to live in. I always live by the rule that it's none of my business what people think of me and with age and maturity, I have really grasped that concept and apply it. You can't control what others will say and do but you can control how you feel and react to it. Those are the most important things I've learned during my time in this business. That and learning to have a VERY thick skin. You get used to it after a while and what people say will usually run off of you like water from a duck's back once you actually give up the control and throw caution to the wind when you stop caring what people think. As for trashing people in the industry, I've seen my fair share of it all around whether it's men or women. There are people out there who don't like me..men and women in this business because they think I'm a bitch, I've been of accused of being an "elitist" and for saying what's on my mind too much. I don't mince words but they don't really know me and they don't need to. If a person wants to judge an SP, let them go ahead because when you really think about it, they don't know you personally unless they take the time and even then they still don't completely know you so does it really matter? Others have judged me for whatever reason but who are they to me at the end of the day? I don't know them and they are not my friends so what they really think of me has no bearing on me. They can all f*ck off for lack of better words. After all, is a belief really a fact just because one person has said or even a few? It's their opinion, it's all subjective and to me, one size doesn't fit all whether it has to do with opinions, looks, service or personality. Yes, Nicki is my alter ego and she is feisty, sexy, sweet, thoughtful, kind, says what's on her mind and the real me is the exact same person. I will never apologize for who I am. I am genuine and authentic and you should never have to pretend to be "everybody's everybody" as I like to put it. I've been told I'm too fat, blah, blah, blah. Just more superficiality bullshit from people with a chip on their shoulder for whatever is going on in their life where they have to take it out on someone else. Once you stop caring about this, you will attract the clients and other people in the business that like you and appreciate you for you. I've heard it all but I actually stopped giving a damn and I'm very much like celebrities in the sense that I don't listen to what people are saying about me. I've just stopped caring and live my life. In this business with the hating and the drama, ignorance really is bliss! I've learned to attract the clients I want through a positive mindset and it really has worked. Forget the haters because you will only attract more. The vibe you put out is what you will get back. Remove yourself from the drama of this industry and live your life according to your rules and trust me, you will only then find inner peace. I no longer associate myself with many others in the business because I don't want the drama. Don't fight it, just leave it.

Women who truly know how to and love to kiss !

We just hired a drop dead gorgeous Asian who is 20 year old - Reika is her name is she could be a super model!

Intelligent men Someone who can make me laugh Men who know what their doing. Actually the jobs some men have can turn me on. I'm not necessarily saying the high paying ones.. it could military..firemen,men in uniforms..guys that have interesting stories to tell.

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If I want to feel sexy I'll wear it under my clothes. When i am working its always on under what i'm wearing.

I am sure Felina would be up for that.

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I have seen a lot of issues with this kind of medication. Up and downs, irregular. Being a provider, I would highly recommend Viagra, as it is possible, if it doesn't work the first time (happened only twice or thrice in numerous years), you can take another dose after 24hours. Impossible with Cialis (have seen issues with this one before) to take another dose. Choice is yours and I'm not a pharmacist, but I would recommend Viagra, available in single packages, with a prescription. And please, stay away from the fake stuff, it's dangerous!.. From a SP point of view, anyways...

And I completely agree. I know which clients i do and don't click with and am more than willing to wait for them. I wrote this post not to bash those who had written those things, but because to me as a humanitarian, I think that calling out someone's flaws is a very inhumane way to treat others. I am very confident in myself and will never adhere to societal norms just to appease people who don't understand me. I am getting the augmentation for myself but that doesn't mean I'm not upset that it's considered a necessity for women. People are comfortable telling me i "need" surgery to be a successful escort... and that needs to stop. No sp "needs to be anything but themselves. I will never agree with the practice of saying irrelevant things about a provider. Did i treat you well? Did you enjoy our time? Did i do anything that was rude or uncouthe? Those are the important matters. But detailing our personal interactions via the internet where anyone can see them is rude. Just because I was comfortable with that person does not entitle said person to speak of what transpired within our time together. I am so glad for Cerbs ruling on positive feedback only because at the end of the day. Positive interaction should be the most important part of every meeting. We all have flaws, but that doesn't make us less. What makes us less as people, in my opinion,is being that person who only regards someone by their physical representation. i don't want clients who see me just as a shell. I want people who treat me as i would treat them. Anything beyond that seems futile. Additional Comments: This is a problem as well... I have had similar experiences with clients at clubs who have tried to say that I treated them poorly in the VIP, but neglect to mention their treatment of me or unwillingness to accept that i am not willing to perform the acts in which they (usually rudely) demanded. Sometimes it isnt the girl.

Men who challenge my rates who insist they saw me 1.5 years ago for x amount for the hour when that is actually my 45 minute rate. I would never charge my 45 min rate for the hour. I dont allow clients to negotiate but he insists he saw me at my 45 minute rate for the hour saying my rates have since gone up. My rates have never changed since that time. Definitely a way to never see that person again and I'm not hard up for cash that I would actually agree to that. Yes, ok you know my rates better than I do. Politely told him that I'm not getting into words where rates are concerned and to have a nice day. What a turn off! And also some men who try to say that I also charged them my hourly massage rate for companionship. I dont think so! Lol. Trying to finagle someone and telling a lady what their rates are isn't going to get a person anywhere. People like this are just trying to get a deal and I will no longer deal with them again especially when they try to tell me that I basically don't know what my rates are. I may have been born in the night but not last night. Lol.

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To the OP - congratulations for having the courage to not only post your thoughts (in a VERY constructive way), but also having such a positive outlook on life in general. By no means is the verbal/written abuse you see/overhear limited to those in your profession. I am overweight (due to a number of unfortunate circumstances, but I'm getting healthier day-by-day), and in MY profession, I rear remarks such as "He's just a fat f$%^"; not even considering my knowledge, skill, experience, etc. You mentioned augmentation surgery. You also mentioned that you are having it to please YOU - not anybody else. That, IMHO, is the best reason do undergo such a procedure. I wish you the best of luck both now, and in the future.

A lot of this happens, sadly. It does happen to me. Clients being very nice and loving, complimenting me, then those who don't like my body, or a certain aspect. Most are in the head space of a certain level of what they aspect but really they should all aspect kindness, respect, trust, etc., back from the lady. This goes with the client side. I don't stand and judge my clients based on what, because they are uniquely different than other clients I see? Everyone is different. No one is the same. Some gentleman like a certain type of lady, that is okay. Some gentleman like ladies who are educated. Some gentleman like ladies who are "spinners" or skinny/thin, or have some curves with a little flare, or BBW. Comments based on that should be kept inside on the clients perspective but they give reviews on different boards, they talk to each other, they even tell us the truth about our flaws before they leave or some don't. For me, not everyone will like me, I understand that. Comments happen and they sometimes do hurt because it could be a flaw within myself then someone else has the same flaw, it becomes a little depressing. However, don't take anyone's comments, put them in their place make note of them, if you don't want to see them because they are disrespectful but continue to see you and disrespect you, tell them you won't see them because of their negative degrading comments. You don't need the extra stress because it gets to you, then you believe there is something wrong or you aren't good enough. Every lady is shapes uniquely and you shouldn't be pressured into surgery to change that. Deep down do you like your body, nevermind the negative degrading comments, do you like your body the way it is? Do things that you want to do or change not what someone wants you to look like or be.

Ladies? Maybe you have shared some of these feelings in regards to the way we are frequently spoken about.... I have been working in Ottawa since December. Previously, I had been a dancer and had not ventured often into the provider side of things (outside the club of course, I don't believe in Strip Club extras as it's unsafe and in poor taste. I go there to perform) For the most part, my 5 years as a worker of the adult industries has been a great, lifechanging experience. Where there was a lack of confidence, I grew into a strong and bold woman. Where there was a shyness, I now shine in a crowded room. Where there was anxiousness, there is now a re�������� calmness. People don't really understand what it's like to be in this industry. They don't know what it's like to be constantly judged, picked apart, mocked, looked down upon.... Actually, they probably do. But that's probably the most quizzical part of the problem. We are not as worthy because we are shameful in our choices. Do I agree with this? Absolutely not. But not everyone has lived the same path and so I understand that to some people there is no forgiveness in our liberties. Now... I would consider myself a partial libertarianist. I believe that we should be free to do with our lives what we will so long as we do not hurt others. But more importantly I'd like to add that I believe in the power of also caring for yourself, and to always seize the opportunity to better the planet whenever you can. So, now that I've introduced this... let me clarify a few points. I have overheard that I "...come across as a real hustler." If you mean that I am overly ambitious and have strategized a way to multimarket myself to broaden my overall impact on the industry? Then yes, by all means... I am the hustliest hustler ever. But I treat people very well, provide light and attentive interactions filled with laughter and sensuality. I entertain with flair. I will never stop driving towards my goals. I have overheard that I have "...some sag in (my) boobs", "...some sag in her belly as well", "...kinda floppy" ..... May I add that these were comments from people who have indeed admitted enjoying my service in the same reviews? I get it. People can be superficial. But people have also loved my breasts, despite the fact that you didn't. I am getting a breast augmentation not because I want one, but because it hurts to hear people constantly pointing out my flaws, no matter how wonderfully we have gotten along during our session. I have overheard some lovely things! From some people who have backed me up and said that I'm doing a great job and they respect me. People who have applauded my need to become an advocate for the industry. People who saw beyond a shallow misperception of who I am based on judging me by my outershell, or a small glimpse of a slightly grandiose personality via the internet. Why all the negativity? And it's not just me! People feel comfortable talking to me, which is fine. I shall never judge nor share those things... but the fact is that they tell me similar awful things about other dancers, providers, women, friends, girlfriends. I don't like it. Can we all please just try to be a little more human? And girls, stop taking advantage of, or mocking clients in the same way. We all just need a little happiness sometimes, so why not make it easier to find?

I adore it when someone listens and takes direction. Nothing better then someone who wants to understand what I want vs what they've been doing for years, and thinks their way is the best way. Everyone is different, and what works for one person might not work for someone else. Also, I adore it when they tell me what they want - not whispering, but actually voicing their wants and desires. Whispering implies they are ashamed of what they want - I love the self confidence when someone tells me what they want.

Maybe this sounds strange, but attention to me as a person. When Lady makes me believe that she is happy to see specifically me by some small signs of caring and attention. For instance, I did not ask for specific outfit but mentioned in the conversation she looks fantastic on that photo - and next time she reproduced it exactly for me. Or I told her about something important for me - and next time I am asked how did situation developed. Small signs but they mean a lot...

so it is true then, you do go blind

I got the chance to spend time with this beautiful young lady and honestly it was an unforgettable experience as she states in her ad. She isn't available all the time so she is definitely a girl you need to see if you get the chance.

Ksenia/irina is back now exclusively at Bliss

At the price I pay my lingerie, you can be sure I only take it out on special occasions ;b Also, my garments must be hand-washed so I don't want to give myself the trouble, unless it is for a gent. I would not take a chance to damage my precious silk and lace with cooking oil or harsh house cleaning products.

Agreed! Worth the visit. Friendly, not a clock watcher, safe. Would repeat.

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Good morning gentlemen! I am available today starting at 10am until 10pm for incalls to my private residence located near fallowfield station. Outcalls will be available until 12am. Ma or Sp, I promise you wont wanna leave. non rushed service no door fee parking access to shower Come see for yourself why I am one of Ottawas favorite! 5ft6, long red hair green eyes, sunkissed tan incredible soft skin and so much more! recommendations: https://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=37195 You are welcome to contact me via pm OR TEXT ONLY at 613 261 4169 ***** specials for the hungry ones in a hurry***** *****I ALWAYS PLAY SAFE! NO EXCEPTION!!***** Au plaisir! Lany xxxx

"O" for Obvious <grin> O for all the lovely toe-curling, spine wrenching.. sheet-soaking, back arching face-contorting "I can't freaking walk right now" reasons you make that particular sound...from the low in the belly grunt to the scare-the-neighbors (or make them wish they were you hehe) bellowing of this one oh-so-powerful little letter ;) <...bounds into thick trees... gone.. for now....> ;)

I've met with Amy before - pictures are definitely real. I had a great time with her and plan to repeat for a longer visit than the first.

Happy Birthday RG!!

Happy birthday Roamingguy!

Happened to be not too far from downtown Vanier on Monday afternoon (4/4) and took the opportunity to drop into the 'Mate briefly. Seemed to be a typically slow Monday atmosphere but a few of the regulars were present. Candy seems to be in quite often and she was the first recognized by me today. Then I was quite struck by a dark-haired, fairly curvy lady wearing a 'cut-out' black dress - a really very pretty girl, but did not catch her name. She spent a bit of time chatting with a quite curvy ebony girl I don't think I've seen at the 'Mate before, but then I'm not really a regular there. Then leggy, busty blonde Vegas emerged from the CR - she was the second dancer I recognized on this occasion. No sign of Delicious, Bianca, Adora or Morena (Marina?), although I'm told Adora is in most afternoons (perhaps she's on vacation?) and Morena is reputed to be seen many Mon./Wed. afternoons.

She uploads a new photo! So I just did or tried to, when hit the preview button all I see is the link and not the image but it's in my albums now awaiting for approval so one way or another you'll be able to see it very soon and if you don't want to wait you can find that same photo on my Twitter @MsElissaMarie Now, you may be asking yourselves what did I mean with the title of this ad. It turns out I did finish my website's changes and was ready and excited to launch it but there was a problem with my domain and it hasn't been linked to my site but hopefully that will be resolved very soon too. In the meantime there's information about me in my profile and you can message me with questions you may have. ElissaMarie http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/picture.php?albumid=11377&pictureid=78121

Good morning toi! I have few availabilities this week :) pre booking is recommended I offer MA or SP in Barrhaven (near fallowfield station) from a private residence access to shower no door fee discreet clean I also do outcalls within the area recommendations: https://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=37195 this week: Monday: from 9pm until 12am Tuesday: from 10am until 10pm Wednesday: from 8am until 10am and back from 9pm until 12am Thursday: from 6pm until 11pm Friday from 6pm until 11pm Saturday from 6pm until 3am Sunday from 10am until 10pm You are welcome to txt me at 613 261 4169 (no calls) and ill answer as soon as I can. ****I always play safe! NO EXCEPTION!!!**** A bientot! Lany

I like your post. Many times I have read unneeded words written that hurt. I think to myself does the writter know or care the effect their opinion has on the person, their feelings & possibly damaging their reputation. We are all unique & beautiful in different ways. As service providers in an adult industry we are judged in every way. I urge you you not to make decisions that will effect your future based on the words of other people but how & what you feel in your heart that is best for you. In the end you are the only person you have to make happy. How you feel about yourself is what matters. I wish you well Selena

I just wanted to take a moment to formally recognize Meaghan for the wonderfully supportive woman she is. I have noticed many instances lately where she stepped up to help others, offered advice, leant an ear, offered personal support and resources and even posted to try to keep others safe. She has always been this way however, lately, she has really stepped up her efforts to reach out to those around her and really put herself into this industry. Thanks for all you do Meaghan, it does not go unnoticed!

Personally I would limit hashtags to those that either directly hit industry folks or hobbyists or at least the people who are open and into the same sort of interests (IE: bigbooty, datass etc.) especially as you stated you wnat to be discrete. To my thinking, if you do a lot of outcalls and show your face, creating a broad hashtag for your city has the potential to open some not so good doors. I know from working in hotels that they have people flagged with pictures to keep an eye out so anyone hashtagging certain locations or cities could unknowingly put themselves on the "aware" list. This doesn't mean they can't follow an escort hashtag but it does limit exposure. At least you're limiting where you might get re-tweeted to. There are those who are very open and have weighed the risks for themselves personally, and it is a personal choice. Good luck!!

Buffy still does the full deal. Saw her just recently.

she is a sweetie. hosts in a nice and clean location. and she has a great attitude.

People who want long conversations (outside of charging time), who won't provide information or who challenge me on my rates.

She is a rockstar! 100% real! And extremely inviting and fun!

Never give up on Your dreams, they keep You motivated!!

Though I do not ever condone the use of fake pics, she has a very good reason to be doing this and since Kelly has been nothing but a rock solid member of my team since 2009 with a reputation to match, I have overlooked the use of these fake pics on such a public website like backpage. The pic is 100% accurate of her - she is not trying to mislead anyone or bait and switch, it is reasons to do with real concerns for her personal safety and privacy. I am sure you can understand that! The pics of her on our members only website are 100% Thank you for understanding and I hope that you don't let this prevent you from seeing her, CMJ

Milla is good to go. Saw her for the first time. Too much hotness for the club...better off site.

Honestly I wouldn't even intertain what anyone says on CL it's always he said/she said and the more you respond to the drama the more they will go on Trust me I have been through it enough times on there and it's not worth my energy Everyone gets bashed on there simply because people are miserable and have nothing better to do with their time Either a jealous sp or an upset guy I sometimes question myself as to why I still post on there but because I do still meet a few great gentlemen I pay no mind to the drama Like today for instance my d was deleted (why only the flag get would know why right) Just thought I would give you some advice about CL *they thrive on drama*

Okay, a couple of things to say here. First... I've found that massage rates tend to be reasonably consistent between the major spas (including P/AT) and independent providers. You're usually looking at 180-ish for an hour; it may be a bit more or less depending on where you go and what options you want (or don't want) where those exist. For the spas that only publish a door fee rather than an all-in rate, you can do the math yourselves. Don't ask me about other lengths of appointment because I tend not to go for those :) Second, a word to those people making snarky comments about people with long-standing accounts asking questions like this: it's perfectly possible to have been involved in this industry for a long time without ever going to a spa. Maybe those folks have only seen escorts in the past. Maybe they've stuck to indy providers, where it's much easier to ask questions directly of the person who you'll be with. Or maybe they haven't been involved with this industry for a while; people do end up doing things like having monogamous relationships, sometimes for years at a time, without playing away from home while they do. An account with few posts that's been around for a long time and hasn't been to a spa is not inherently suspicious. None of that means that anyone should feel obliged to answer PM'd questions from people with no posting record - hell, I quite often don't myself, and I'm far more likely to help out other members who do things like post recommendations - but if we could hold back on the open scorn and hostility, it'd be nice.

Life sometimes throws us a curve ball and we have to cancel but there are some real gentlemen here who realize the work you go though to get ready to spend your time with us and how you can't immediately book someone else to take our place, so if we have to cancel we still donate in full, at least I do (and I know there are others that feel the same way) on those very rare occasions. We also greatly respect what you do for us and treat you with the respect and admiration you deserve. Very sorry to hear you have encountered a few men that are still boys and haven't grown up yet. Hopefully as time goes on you will find regular clients who are more worthy of your time.

I do believe there are those addicted to sex. I can't comment on if many, any or lots are involved in the adult industry as I don't have any stats . For anyone to be helped, no matter their addiction, they have to want and seek the help themselves. Any addiction can lead to risky, sometimes shocking or dangerous behavior as the addicted will often act beyond their norm to get their fix of whatever it is they are addicted to. But only trained professionals can and should be the ones to offer help, support or advice. It's no one else's responsibility.

I'm currently studying psychology and neuroscience, though I'm by no means an authority, and am actually academically interested in exactly this topic. It's a complicated topic! First off, to address RG's question, a "normal" behaviour can be the focus of an addiction if it has certain characteristics. Addictions involve biological, neurochemical and behavioural components that can all be observed and measured to some extent, and involve specific structures in the brain that are generally termed the "reward centre." Behavioural addictions can activate and affect the reward centre of the brain in very similar ways to substance addictions. That's why gambling addiction is a recognized disorder in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM-5). Sex addiction is a lot more controversial, and it has been classified in previous DSM versions, but removed from the DSM 5. Escalation of the type of sex a person seeks isn't necessarily a sure-fire sign if addiction on its own, as there are a lot of other criteria that need to be met for a diagnosis to be confirmed. One study I just finished reading actually found very little correlation between the level of "deviance" of a person's sexual interests and their level of compulsive behaviour. Most people investigating the sex industry are interested in the motivation that drives the ladies to work in that field. I would bet that there are as many variations of motivation that drive clients to be consumers of their services. I'm sure addiction is a part of the demographic. An abnormally high percentage of the demographic? I dunno. I'm not there yet, but I'd love to research it. If we believe our illustrious leaders in government (I'm unconvinced), it would almost definitely have to be the case. And, if it were, how does criminalizing clients address what is essentially a mental health issue, then? As RG would say, just some ramblings.

We are happy to announce Ksenia is back at ALO VIPSOUTH!

I never had the pleasure to visit Ksenia until she became independent. She is incredibly sensual and offers a really amazing massage. The view of her silky soft ivory skin pressed against your body makes you think of a geisha intent on pleasing and igniting all your senses. She offers one of the best services in the city in a very nice and modern condo downtown. Be sure to book early as she has limited availability. You won't be disappointed!!