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There's at least one piece of research out there that suggests that wearing socks during sex (keeping your feet warm and comfortable), increases the likelihood of the-big-o: http://www.sultrydish.com/2013/10/23/sudy-wearing-socks-sex-increases-chances-orgasm/ Something to consider - does pleasure trump style?

....preparing to have the normally quiet and serene den.. wonderfully invaded by a dozen lovely belly dancing friends ;)

I would say why you are declining to be his executor. It just might give him food for thought.

Good morning gentlemen! I have very few availability this week. I strongly suggest you to pre book as I wont be able to take last minute appt. I am available... Today until 4pm Thursday from 9am until 3pm incalls in barrhaven clise of fallowfield station MA and SP offer. dont be shy to TXT only at 613 261 4169 for more details and booking. I ALWAYS PLAY SAFE!NO EXCEPTION! a bientot! Lany

I think I get asked if I will do DFK more than anything else. It felt so strange when I was first asked as i never considered not offering that. Scientifically speaking, kissing is an amazing way to sexually bond with somebody. It releases tons of endorphins and makes the experience closer and better in most cases. Since a connection matters to me all sorts of kissing is important. We are all different though.

Thank you Ladies. And I'll thank you for us older men too. Your all lovely.

Brody Here! Back by popular demand! I offer the full, laid back,quirky girlfriend rendezvous, along with several types of massage . I have big blue eyes and hour glass figure, to go along with a marvelously cheeky and nerdy side! I am a nurturer and a giver and am not well suited with suitors who prefer a quick fix. I am attracted to the whole concept of intimacy and am also into several fetishes, which include feet. I definitely would have to say, that I appeal to several personalities as long as you are respectful and clean. I offer a laid back, sensual tone but also a tone of 'Let's get weird", to the appropriate occasion. I offer out and in calls. In call is offered in our Nation's Capital at a non- commercial, private residence.

The first thing to do is communicate well during the appointment. Maybe she's forgotten some of your favourite details. No problem; bring up the topic of the missing bits with a smile and a laugh, and guide her and the session on the course you had discussed. If you haven't established friendly, positive back-and-forth communication with your provider, then that's your first problem right there. Then again maybe there's some reason why, now that the moment is upon you both, she doesn't really feel comfortable following through. Again, communication during the session is key. Raise the subject in a friendly way to make sure she hasn't forgotten, and if she's not comfortable with X, work together to find another way to have fun that works for both of you. But ultimately, if all of your discussions to resolve the problem fail, then you need to remember that the contract between the client and provider is solely for time spent together in which things will probably happen, but there's never a guarantee. She's a human being, not a vending machine; your money gives you no claim over her body. So all of those details you discussed are requests, but there's never an ironclad guarantee they'll be fulfilled. If you ultimately aren't satisfied with a session, and your conversation with the provider hasn't resolved that to your satisfaction, then just don't go back. Chasing after your money with "but you didn't do X! Give me Y dollars back!" is crass and fruitless. And, last of all: don't compare sex work to other industries. The comparison is always misleading when it comes to these types of up-close human interactions. Your SP is not your mechanic.

I was perusing a thread requesting spinner recos and spud271 mentioned a lovely young lady I hadn't visited and hadn't come to my notice..... that put me on third base.... and then this lady's colleague, gwengrail, chimed in and knocked it out of the park for me: in fact, such a spectacular homer that I made it to home and went around the bases again. I saw Lacy on Wed. evening and had a very sensuous and sexy visit. She is a gorgeous, slim, young blonde with absolutely spectacular itty bitties and sexy, perky nipples. I was in heaven from the moment she first greeted me! Started off with a lovely soapy shower, then on to the table for the massage and bodyslides - oh! oh! oh! wow! oh! oh! omg... where was I? OH yes.... a most pleasant sharing ...... we eventually retired to the shower for clean up - I don't know what happened during the second shower.... I was somewhere in heaven..... Lacy can also rock the very sexy librarian glasses though she hardly needs them - her sexiness hardly needs any boost! I'm, of course, looking forward to my next visit! She is on the schedule this Sunday at CMJ West (I'm busy) but I suggest that kind and respectful gentlemen start the line-up - once I've won the lottery on Monday no one else need apply - I'll have her fully booked.

I had a wonderful time with Tamika! I missed her on her last visit to Halifax.I'm so glad I made it this time. Tammy far exceeded my expectations.. She's friendly, jovial, and straight forward, and is very eager to please. Her skills are to be marvelled at. She currently advertises on BP, under body rubs. I strongly suggested to her that she join Cerb/Layla. She would be a great addition to this community. I'll repeat as often as possible.

I write this 24 hours after my first experience to share what I went through, figure out what I went through for myself, and maybe help a few other gents along in the journey of their first time. I'm not going to name names as this is meant to be a review of my experience, not the specific girls. Stage 1: Justification This step, although it took some time, was somewhat easy for me. I was looking for a particular experience that my wife is not willing to give me. Does this make it any different than seeing an escort for any other reason? Maybe not to some, but it did the trick for me. Although justification was easy for me, it was by no means a quick process. I had done plenty of research on this topic before I was fully able to wrap my head around it and decide it was a decision I was OK with. Stage 2: Research As I just mentioned, a lot of my justification and my research happened at the same time. This is not a concept I have ever looked into before a few days ago. I'm not even 100% sure what made me decide to launch Chrome in incognito mode and type my search into Google. I also could no longer tell you what the first dozen pages I looked at were. I can say that over a few days I spent close to 20 hours getting used to the lingo (google "escort terms" if you haven't already), reading and rereading articles (both from the hobbyists as well as ASPs points of view), browsing ads (backpages and skipthegames were my two primary sources, although there were several others I went through) as well as agency websites, and finally I wound up finding this gem of a forum. I spent a lot of time googling girls' phone numbers to see what other ads they have posted over time, trying to find ones that seemed reliable. I also spent a lot of time looking at prices in the area. One tidbit of wisdom I found again and again is "you get what you pay for". While I didn't have a huge budget, I wanted to have the highest odds of getting what I was looking for out of it. I eventually found a price range I was comfortable with, both from a wallet and a quality from other reviewers standpoints. This is when everything became very real for me, and I started to wonder.. Can I get away with this? Stage 3: The Fear I was in a good position to go through with this. My wife and I were both vising our own families, in her case in a totally separate country. I was not close to home, and had no chance of her showing up to surprise me. I spent some time thinking things through: What breadcrumbs might I leave? How can I minimize them? What do I do if I miss something? Will the girl randomly call or text me someday and ruin everything? I'll admit right now, I have a fairly narcissistic personality, so my first instinct was "of course I can get away with it!" I still spent a great deal of time thinking about this part though. My final decisions to get over my fears were as follows: 1) I was doing my research on my work laptop, in incognito mode. Even if my wife found something incriminating on my laptop somehow, I've already done a ton of research so whether I go went through with it or not, the laptop is a real rislk. 2) I decided to only contact girls I could text, and I did so from my regular phone. I turned off iMessage on my iPad, and I knew it was already disabled on my Mac, so I had no worries of messages syncing. I could delete them from my phone later. 3) For every girl I would text, I would block their number at the end of this experience. This would prevent the possibility of future messages (even though, really, what are the chances of them reaching out to me unsolicited? Basically zero), and also giving me the option of finding them again through Google down the road if I so decide. If, for some odd reason, my wife is ever going through my blocked contacts list and asks why I have numbers from this particular area code blocked, my excuse is they were old annoying clients (I ran my own business) from when I used to live here. 4) I switched 'Find my friends' to track from my iPad, which I left at my hotel room while I was out, and promptly switched it back after. This gave me the excuse of "I'm going to bed early hun" and after "Can't sleep, I'm going out for a drink". With these plans in place, I send my first message.. Stage 4: Disappointment Unexpectedly to me, my first message to my first (very well reviewed) choice got a response, and after a few messages back and forth wound up in an appointment the following evening. Knowing the lingo was super important here, and I'm sure knowing what to/not to say played a huge part as well. If you haven't done it yet.. Do the research! The plan, since it was booked 24 hours in advance, was to confirm two hours before the appointment, and then she would send me the address 30 minutes beforehand (at this point I only knew the general area). Two hours before, right on time, I send her my confirmation text. A few minutes later, reply of "Can't wait!" 30 minutes to go, I hop in my rental and start heading in the general direction. 15 minutes to go, with no address, I follow up with what I was hoping was a playful text of "Did you forget about me? ;)", only to receive a "Crap omg yes, I'm so sorry! Can we meet at 8 instead?" I agree, she asks me to text her at 7:30 for her address. I kill some time, send said text, and never hear back. I briefly considered sending a second text around 7:45, but figure if she isn't responding she likely had a better opportunity come up (a regular, maybe a longer booking, who knows..), and I didn't want to start my experience by being a bother to someone else, so I left it and moved on. (Never did hear anything back). 8:30, after sitting around pondering for a while, I get back on the interwebs and start pulling up my other choices from before. Since this was now pretty much a last minute booking, I figured I would contact two at once and see what happens. One never did reply, but the other did and we quickly had an appointment set up. Stage 5: The Experience (aka Stress and Nerves) I'm going to back track for a quick second here - I mentioned before I was looking for something specific, but for the below to make sense I need to point out I very much enjoy intellectually connecting with others. I went into this with the hope that a good ASP could provide me with that experience, whether genuine on her part or not. About the exact moment I knocked on her door, all the nerves hit me at once. I knew, theoretically, how the general encounter ought to play out, and I knew how I wanted ours to. I had even thought through how to communicate this to her so that she could help make it happen that way. But from that moment on, the calm part of my brain took a vacation and I may as well have been on my first ever date with the hottest chick in the city. I decided right then to be upfront about it - Why try to hide what she was bound to figure out when she could help make it easier? She was good about it - Gave me my space to get boots and jacket off, paid no attention to the envelope I left on her table. She spent a few minutes chatting, massaging my shoulders, then quickly changed gears onto what I was looking for. Things progressed fairly quickly at this point, which I wasn't totally expecting but went along with. Got exactly what I had asked for. Then, desire and reality parted ways. I had about 20 minutes left on the clock, but in retrospect I could have just left at that point for all I got out of it. We spent about 10 minutes chatting about movies and then her tattoos, but I had the feeling she had already disconnected and had no real interest in talking. With about 10 minutes left, I thanked her, she mentioned next time I was in town, and I was on my way back to my room. Stage 6: Reflection I did my best not to analyze my entire experience right away. I got back, showered, and thought about the good half. It wasn't until this morning that I started thinking about the experience as a whole. It took me until this afternoon to realize that although she looked exactly like she did in her photos, she was not quite what I was expecting - I was aiming for petite but she was a bit ... "petite-er" than I thought she would be. I pulled up her pictures again, and perspective is everything. My reflection eventually wound up with the question, "Was I happy with what I got?" Eventually I decided, not quite. I don't regret it by any means, and if I were back I may contact her again - But maybe not as my first option, I'm honestly not sure at this point. There's something to be said for knowing what you can expect. Stage 7: What's next? Oh boy. My main issue with this question goes back to the 'Fear' stage. It's one thing to do it in a remote location not needing to worry about the wife. But the idea of back home where I need much better excuses of where I'm spending my time and money means I'll need to totally revisit that stage. I'm also almost 100% happy with my home life, so I don't feel I will have much of a desire to go through the hassle. For me, in my current life circumstances, this will most likely remain a "now and then, when I'm safely on a business trip" hobby. ... Maybe.

Ladies? Maybe you have shared some of these feelings in regards to the way we are frequently spoken about.... I have been working in Ottawa since December. Previously, I had been a dancer and had not ventured often into the provider side of things (outside the club of course, I don't believe in Strip Club extras as it's unsafe and in poor taste. I go there to perform) For the most part, my 5 years as a worker of the adult industries has been a great, lifechanging experience. Where there was a lack of confidence, I grew into a strong and bold woman. Where there was a shyness, I now shine in a crowded room. Where there was anxiousness, there is now a re�������� calmness. People don't really understand what it's like to be in this industry. They don't know what it's like to be constantly judged, picked apart, mocked, looked down upon.... Actually, they probably do. But that's probably the most quizzical part of the problem. We are not as worthy because we are shameful in our choices. Do I agree with this? Absolutely not. But not everyone has lived the same path and so I understand that to some people there is no forgiveness in our liberties. Now... I would consider myself a partial libertarianist. I believe that we should be free to do with our lives what we will so long as we do not hurt others. But more importantly I'd like to add that I believe in the power of also caring for yourself, and to always seize the opportunity to better the planet whenever you can. So, now that I've introduced this... let me clarify a few points. I have overheard that I "...come across as a real hustler." If you mean that I am overly ambitious and have strategized a way to multimarket myself to broaden my overall impact on the industry? Then yes, by all means... I am the hustliest hustler ever. But I treat people very well, provide light and attentive interactions filled with laughter and sensuality. I entertain with flair. I will never stop driving towards my goals. I have overheard that I have "...some sag in (my) boobs", "...some sag in her belly as well", "...kinda floppy" ..... May I add that these were comments from people who have indeed admitted enjoying my service in the same reviews? I get it. People can be superficial. But people have also loved my breasts, despite the fact that you didn't. I am getting a breast augmentation not because I want one, but because it hurts to hear people constantly pointing out my flaws, no matter how wonderfully we have gotten along during our session. I have overheard some lovely things! From some people who have backed me up and said that I'm doing a great job and they respect me. People who have applauded my need to become an advocate for the industry. People who saw beyond a shallow misperception of who I am based on judging me by my outershell, or a small glimpse of a slightly grandiose personality via the internet. Why all the negativity? And it's not just me! People feel comfortable talking to me, which is fine. I shall never judge nor share those things... but the fact is that they tell me similar awful things about other dancers, providers, women, friends, girlfriends. I don't like it. Can we all please just try to be a little more human? And girls, stop taking advantage of, or mocking clients in the same way. We all just need a little happiness sometimes, so why not make it easier to find?

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Have to jump on the Felina bandwagon as well, she would be your best choice!

Doesn't bother me either way (some people suffer from cold feet) but I don't want dirty socks all over my bed Mmm tough question lol

I would agree with you on this one. This should be a family matter and you do not want to get involved with that drama. As Meaghan said, tell him your thoughts about the situation from an objective point of view and it might give him something to think about. If it were me in this position, I would tell them thanks for thinking of me and trusting me with such a matter but it's a family issue that I wouldn't want to be entangled with.

This thread reminds me of a wedding ring on/off. So many decisions. Ring on socks off. Ring off socks on. Ring off socks off. I'd rather save save a few minutes and do something more fun and I don't think my favourite notices anyway.

Don't mean to brag but I am amazing at what I do :) I like to start off with a relaxing massage and great conversation. I never get tired, and I hope you don't either. Let's have some fun on this wet, cold day. Let's warm each other up. I love regular visits, so I always try my best to make sure your time is well spent My basic rates are: 100/hh 180/h 240/1.5 I love to also go out and have fun! Open to dinner dates or drinks! Want to just relax? Stop by my west end location and receive my 5 star treatment! No blocked calls/I prefer texts/I don't like to send nudes 613-917-9572

Add to that the Felina's now advertising duos with Lisa (Curvy Woman). I mean, phwoah, talk about a dream team of voluptuousness. I think I'm going to have to save up my sheckles.

Hope nobody went to the Grant location for a massage.

Hi all, She's posted before on BP. does anyone have any info. http://halifax.backpage.com/FemaleEscorts/80hhr-special-available-wed-fri-w-et-n-wild-petite-and-fun/1786602 Thanks in advance.

I always have to chuckle at the vehemence most people have towards this, usually the "off" side. You rarely hear from anyone on the "on" side. I for one don't care; it doesn't impact my arousal level at all unless of course they are dirty or smelly and that is a different story. For me it's personal preference for the gent. I know some who have circulation issues and without socks their feet end up freezing which detracts from the pleasure of the moment. Some see them as a security thing. Either way, I'm more about the person being comfortable and focused on either me or what I'm doing to them. As to the whole "graceful" thing, don't worry about it. Socks are one of those things we all deal with and neither putting them on or taking them off is a graceful thing for most people. Whip em off, fall over, have a laugh and then get to the good stuff lol.

Only women could pull off wearing socks and it would be sexy. Guys, no. It's like the equivalent of wearing socks and sandals...you just don't do it RG

Socks are a no go. If my pants are off socks have to go off. For the ladies stockings or knee highs are all good

Very sorry Guys We are doing certain changes on the site right now, which is why we havent made the big announcement yet,we had problem with our old server, our gallery and schedules will be now posted here: http://WWW.BLE-LIST.com We are improving our mailing list and putting our main focus on our regular clientele, so feel free to join the mailing list for a VIP experience and exclusive offers :)

its been down for like 2 weeks

These types of incidents are known to happen at pretty much any night club (stripclub or otherwise) on peak nights (Friday and Saturday). That being said, I've been a pretty regular visitor of Barefax for years now and I've never heard of this type of thing happening on a Wednesday, let alone as early as 6:30pm. If I had to guess I'd say this was a fluke occurrence, and would have been just as likely to happen at any club. Even Playmate had to eject some people after a fight broke out at their Christmas party this year. And back when I was a frequent visitor of Barb's I saw similar incidents go down at night time. It shouldn't be seen as a reflection of Barefax or its staff IMO. You get enough drunk people together in any enclosed location, these things will occasionally happen. I think you can still go to Barefax on a weekday day time or early evening and not worry about getting shot or stabbed, at least no more than at any other day time stripclub.

All these points are valid, and definitely understandable.. from both sides...(SP/MP/client)... and I usually will ask, when I send my initial information out to an inquiry.. whether a person has particular things they like/don''t like being done to them during a session.. whether they can 0rgasm more than once... as well as certain things they may have always thought about, but had never the opportunity to experience.. as these things can make the session even more pleasurable... be it a MP, Ds, or a SP scenario.. to me that just makes sense... and asking for this information has turned most of the sessions into something amazing...(one man came 3 times hehe... some simply enjoy being held at that looovely razor's edge the entire time ;) As for knowing what the person I am going to see looks like.. hehe I have found that just through a few emails they do tend to divulge at least the basics.. and in all my years, I have only ever had one person that I would just really rather not have on my table again.. and that was mainly due to hygiene... or a lack thereof..... I used to post a bit of a restriction but removed that once finding out my table can easily handle 700+lbs ;) If I am meeting with someone in a public place, pictures are usually exchanged (even my face! (hehe) other than that.. I have had very young to very old clients.. some of which I was more attracted to than others.. which is just a given as we are human ;) but for me, as I believe it was said already, it is much more a mental connection, and/or the simple fact that I have been trusted by someone to have them put themselves in a rather vulnerable position and *that* is what I appreciate and enjoy most... puuurfectly lovely on all counts ;)

High end service provider that is worth every penny.

This, as well as what have been mentioned, passionate kissing, good hygiene, a friendly, respectful and good attitude, and last but not least, an occasional " miss you.." and "can't wait..." phrase -- will do it for me.

Where oh where has Skylar Heart, the drop dead gorgeous, thin beautiful playful, experienced professional to die for with a world class #$%@^A disapeared too???? Anybody...

Don't EVER stop being yourself and keep on your path. We only have the present moment to live in. I always live by the rule that it's none of my business what people think of me and with age and maturity, I have really grasped that concept and apply it. You can't control what others will say and do but you can control how you feel and react to it. Those are the most important things I've learned during my time in this business. That and learning to have a VERY thick skin. You get used to it after a while and what people say will usually run off of you like water from a duck's back once you actually give up the control and throw caution to the wind when you stop caring what people think. As for trashing people in the industry, I've seen my fair share of it all around whether it's men or women. There are people out there who don't like me..men and women in this business because they think I'm a bitch, I've been of accused of being an "elitist" and for saying what's on my mind too much. I don't mince words but they don't really know me and they don't need to. If a person wants to judge an SP, let them go ahead because when you really think about it, they don't know you personally unless they take the time and even then they still don't completely know you so does it really matter? Others have judged me for whatever reason but who are they to me at the end of the day? I don't know them and they are not my friends so what they really think of me has no bearing on me. They can all f*ck off for lack of better words. After all, is a belief really a fact just because one person has said or even a few? It's their opinion, it's all subjective and to me, one size doesn't fit all whether it has to do with opinions, looks, service or personality. Yes, Nicki is my alter ego and she is feisty, sexy, sweet, thoughtful, kind, says what's on her mind and the real me is the exact same person. I will never apologize for who I am. I am genuine and authentic and you should never have to pretend to be "everybody's everybody" as I like to put it. I've been told I'm too fat, blah, blah, blah. Just more superficiality bullshit from people with a chip on their shoulder for whatever is going on in their life where they have to take it out on someone else. Once you stop caring about this, you will attract the clients and other people in the business that like you and appreciate you for you. I've heard it all but I actually stopped giving a damn and I'm very much like celebrities in the sense that I don't listen to what people are saying about me. I've just stopped caring and live my life. In this business with the hating and the drama, ignorance really is bliss! I've learned to attract the clients I want through a positive mindset and it really has worked. Forget the haters because you will only attract more. The vibe you put out is what you will get back. Remove yourself from the drama of this industry and live your life according to your rules and trust me, you will only then find inner peace. I no longer associate myself with many others in the business because I don't want the drama. Don't fight it, just leave it.

A lot of this happens, sadly. It does happen to me. Clients being very nice and loving, complimenting me, then those who don't like my body, or a certain aspect. Most are in the head space of a certain level of what they aspect but really they should all aspect kindness, respect, trust, etc., back from the lady. This goes with the client side. I don't stand and judge my clients based on what, because they are uniquely different than other clients I see? Everyone is different. No one is the same. Some gentleman like a certain type of lady, that is okay. Some gentleman like ladies who are educated. Some gentleman like ladies who are "spinners" or skinny/thin, or have some curves with a little flare, or BBW. Comments based on that should be kept inside on the clients perspective but they give reviews on different boards, they talk to each other, they even tell us the truth about our flaws before they leave or some don't. For me, not everyone will like me, I understand that. Comments happen and they sometimes do hurt because it could be a flaw within myself then someone else has the same flaw, it becomes a little depressing. However, don't take anyone's comments, put them in their place make note of them, if you don't want to see them because they are disrespectful but continue to see you and disrespect you, tell them you won't see them because of their negative degrading comments. You don't need the extra stress because it gets to you, then you believe there is something wrong or you aren't good enough. Every lady is shapes uniquely and you shouldn't be pressured into surgery to change that. Deep down do you like your body, nevermind the negative degrading comments, do you like your body the way it is? Do things that you want to do or change not what someone wants you to look like or be.

For those that may not have made the connection. I posted this in the Winnipeg Massage Discussion Section. This is very specific, as this area seems to have issues with being discrete. Stating graphic services in a public forum. Saying "hey does Sally give oxo?" - this is what I am talking about. Why would anyone post publicly that they are seeking a service that is no longer legal - and why would someone post that they purchased illegal services. If you would like to discuss other issues, fine, start a new thread - however, I would like to keep this particular thread simple to the issue of discussing services via a public forum. It is not allowed on this site, so please, just don't do it.

Unfortunately, Trish has left SACA and will no longer be able to be a point of contact for us. (I don't know where she is going or what she will be doing, just that she is still with OPS, but I hope this is a positive for her.) Here is her replacement's information: Sergeant Alison Cookson Sexual Assault and Child Abuse 613-236-1222 ext 5463 [email protected]

Actually i'm watching the voice

I drove from Moncton to Truro to see her and I will many more times. She is great.

Robotic sex workers would be a fancy way of saying sex toy. Don't see anything wrong with a sex toy. Won't beat the real thing. Nothing is like a real person.

I would try it, at least once. Sex is viewed differently by a lot of people. That's just my opinion.

Does not sound like something that I would be interested in... Just my Opinion

She's amazing, nothing bad to say. Great location, unbelievable skills. Extremely easy to talk to

I've seen Tammy in Truro. Lovely lady. Curvy. (A bit more than photos show) . Very nice and great massage and other skills. I would definitely repeat!

Interestingly enough, Donald Trump's presence, and domination of other GOP possibles, almost assures that Hillary Clinton will become the first female American President. I think this is a good thing in many ways. I'm not so keen about the "stand by your man" martyr bit she played regarding her husband Bill, who, regardless of how charming, thought he could lie and BS his way with the American people, and who has pretty much succeeded in doing that. In truth, Hillary probably had her own ambitions in mind all along. And maybe that's ok. So the Trump will continue to make loud noises. And we shall see...

It is a strange state of affairs that needs to search for police that will help SP's. The average police officer should protect and serve sex workers. That should be the standard.

I ended up dealing with Trish again over the recent robbery. She was very helpful in explaining how to proceed and what information I need to provide and what information I did NOT need to provide.

It is a very fine line and one that must always be re-defined and re-established. For myself personally, I prefer to get to know my clients on a deeper level. I encourage conversation and sharing prior to appointments and continued communication after the fact. For me, this deeper connection improves the time we spend together for me as much as for them. As humans, we have emotions. And I have learned over the years that human connection and emotions are something that I require. I have also learned not to let emotions control me. I feel what I feel, but I always keep things in perspective. This is just what works for me :)

Mighty Pen's words speak truth. There are times a provider hasn't prepared for the appointment by keeping track of requests. That would require keeping records and that is something quite discouraged by hobbyists. I don't provide a menu or promise a single service when I book my appointments for this reason. If a guest has a check list of activities that must take place during the playdate, I'm not the provider for him and I'm clear about this upfront. If a guest let's me run the session the way my intuition tells me he will leave smiling and completely satisfied. Walk thru my door with specific services demanded and you will be shown the door but I don't keep the envelop. I think it's dirty money at that point and brings no good to my life from a karmic level. A good provider trusts her instincts and if her spidey sense is tingling, the agreed upon services are at her discretion. She needs to be honest about why she won't provide the agreed upon services if she wants to make the appointment work. Won't kiss? Probably a hygiene issue at hand. No shower? She has probably booked appointments after you that weren't on the books when you set up your appointment and won't have time to redo her hair after you leave; or she feels it's a bad judgement call from a safety perspective. There are a 100 reasons the menu will change. Has the contract been broken? Yes. Is she required to give you a refund of some sort? No but if she's smart she will make it right. It's good business to be honest and keep clients happy. This business is only viable if you can build repeat business and violating the agreement doesn't accomplish that... cat