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I think this would classify as a scam and a dangerous situation so can be reported in that section including a name. This goes beyond just not having a good time. It could be a B&S scam where there is a lure into comfort and then the theft happens. I'm sorry this happened to you and I hope you won't let one incident taint the rest of your life.

452 today! Happy Birthday, Will, and may your fame last forever!

Why? It was pretty clear she wasn't given the password until she had actually arrived at his location. That seems like a reasonable action on his part.

It is my belief that a transgender woman is a woman, and not a man playing dress up or pretend. Nor--and I think this is key to your question--do I think a transgender woman is being deceitful simply for presenting herself the way she is. I gather from your post the ladies you're speaking of have transitioned, and now have a body that matches their identity. I'm glad to live in a society where people can truly be themselves. And if these ladies happened to have some surgeries in the past, well then no, I don't think I as a client would have a right to that information any more than I expect any other lady I spend time with to disclose all of her medical history. I don't mean to be flippant or dismissive. I understand why you'd ask the question and why some might struggle with this topic. But when you say "many unsuspecting clients would be very upset if they found out that the person they thought was natural woman used to be man", my thought is that is their problem, not hers.

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Wow I can't believe that I missed this thread. There are some really interesting stories here and for me the post by johnybird on page 1 was powerful and resonated so very much with me. He and I have some similarities and also significant differences. My wife and I had been together for 40 years and unlike his wife, her death came suddenly and totally unexpectedly. It was something that I had virtually never considered as a possibility because unlike me she was the poster girl for healthy living. It should not have happened that way and it was wrong. After five years I still do not understand the why of it. I found that I missed companionship and yes, the touch of a woman. Little did I know that the experience would evolve into ever so much more - very frequently there was I believe the reality of each of us caring about the other as people. Not always, but more often than not. After several years I left this site, what at that time was called Cerb, the main reason being confusion over what was real and what was not. Gotta say I was pretty confused. A year later I came back with perhaps more of a sense of reality of what this is. Right or wrong I have tried to be more distant and I don't like that part. I am pretty well resigned that I shall be alone 99% of the time and barring the miracle of happening upon a second true love that is what shall be. Most people don't have it the first time as I did for so long. For that I am grateful and for some of the women that I have met here I am equally grateful.

I don't frequent SP as much as some people here, but when I do, I always look for a good review. However, Claudia's ad caught my attention and I couldn't find any review on her. So I TOFTT. Initial texts and set up with Claudia was good. Replies were not as prompt as I'd have liked, but I was glad I didn't dismissed her. In retrospect, maybe I was too impatient She was honest when I asked about specific stuff she said it depends on how comfortable she is with the client. I give her credit for her honesty instead of just saying what the client wants to hear. Anyway, I set something up for an hour. So, I got to the room and with my heart pounding not knowing who will open the door, I knocked on the door. Claudia opened the door and I was glad to see that she was really the girl in the picture ad. Claudia is a young very pretty SP. She is somewhat petite and hmmm her body is one of the best I've had a pleasure of touching She said she is 19 but her service equals that of more seasoned SP. She can carry conversation well, playful, and very open. We spent the hour having fun. She has a GND look, but she is a wild one (in a good way). Overall, I had one of the best sessions ever ! If you are on the fence about Claudia, don't be. She is the real deal. I think with more experience, she can be one hell of an SP. My first TOFTT is a success and I will repeat for sure!! Link: http://kingston.backpage.com/FemaleE...night/37243188

Hi thought that I would start this tread as we have a "Ask a Escort" and "Ask a Hobbiest" thread. Since a MA and SP provides a different type of service then an Escort. And there are always questions from newbies about getting a massage. I thought I could start this thread so that all the questions and answers would be in one place. I've been getting massages for almost 6 years now. And have found most of the massages quite enjoyable. Most MA's are beautiful sexy women. Most offer begin and ending showers which sometimes can be a lot of fun. I have many happy memories of shower time. Then there is the massage itself. It can be theraputic, or sensual. It's great if the MA knows how to give a RMT type massage. Enjoyed the body slides also. Then there is the finish. The girls have there own style of finishing you off :) The best time's I've had is when there is connection and chemistry and the woman enjoys kissing and cuddling. I am sure there will be a lot of question and answers here. Such as Spa's vs Indy's and people are interested in rates and tips. So looking forwards to seeing some conversations here :)

I'm not sure I'd completely agree. She is a professional service provider and you are a potential client. Certainly it won't come as a surprise to her that people she might know, from all walks of live, visit SPs. I also wouldn't think she's likely to go off to her ex husband to tell him who she has as a client. I do think, though, that this is an instance where total disclosure might be required. She might feel just as uncomfortable as you, and prefer not to see you as a customer. So if you did try and book, I'd disclose that you think you might know her from your personal lives, and see what she says. This might involve disclosing more information than you are comfortable with,but if that's the case, then staying away entirely is the best option.

I entirely agree with you on this but I think committing is a very strong word when it comes to something as intimate as kissing with someone you've never met. I personally never commit to anything especially with patrons I've never met, I do enjoy kissing but I wouldn't feel comfortable kissing someone with poor dental hygiene and if I commit to that then I'd be failing to provide something I promised, I recently read a thread about how there's no contract between us companions and our guests and having to commit to kissing or any other activity does sound like a contract to me. I like how someguy phrased his question 'if kissing may be allowed' which is a nice way to discuss his preferences with the lady he's planning to visit without making her feel obligated to it. My suggestion for those that want to make sure kissing is offered is to offer the same kind of commitment you're expecting from your provider, make sure to have impeccable hygiene at the time of your session and if she offers mouthwash use it even if you think you don't need it or bring your own,the travel size bottles are awesome for that and they sell them everywhere. Happy Kissing! :makeout:

I enjoy kissing at the beginning but I usually let the gent make his first move because I don't know if he likes it. Besides, I think kissing will help both client and SP feel more comfortable .

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If it were me, I would tell the co worker that you can get together for coffee or lunch during the week. But you can't be away from your wife on the weekend or after work. That's family time. It's not rude, it reinforces that you are first and foremost married. And this is not looking for more than a casual platonic get together between co workers. You are just getting together to offer support RG

You didn't mention if she was attractive and your type of lady. What does your wife think of her? If she is younger and more attractive than your wife then your asking for trouble. Even if you two just talk and go out publicly as friends people at work are going to start rumors, new feelings for someone can start out of nowhere too. If you cant get out of this date then keep it short, like a 1 hour lunch break to get the message across without having to turn her down.

When I want to keep a psychological distance with someone, espescially from the opposite sex, I keep a physical distance (of about half my arm) with that person. This way, the non-verbal is pretty clear, and no unecessary harm is done...

Go, have coffee. Be somewhere public. See what happens. She may just want to talk with a friend who has been supportive. If she suggests anything else (takes your hand,etc.) just be polite and explain your situation and that you really value and want to continue being her friend. If you go straight to "i don't want you to think this is a date" she might actually be offended that you misinterpreted her intentions.

It's hard to give advice without having all the details but for what I read, it doesn't seem to me like she wants to go on a date. You told her she can talk to you any time and she must have interpreted it as you'll be hanging out all the time. She probably doesn't have many friends. If I were you, I would just ask her if she's okay and tell her that you have plans with your wife but that you will see her at work next week and chat then. That will make it clear to her that you're not really available any time (unless is something serious) and that it would be uncomfortable and difficult to spend a lot of time with her because you have to be spending time with your wife. If you agree to see her this weekend it'll probably be harder for her to understand that this won't be a constant thing and for you to make her understand that.

Well, I'm afraid open communication is always the surest bet. But I understand that is easier said than done sometimes and you want to avoid awkwardness. I would suggest.... --chat about how you appreciate being friends. --as often as you can allude to your marriage and wife. "Oh yeah, that reminds me of when my wife and I..." Basically, if you don't act like you're on a date then hopefully she'll understand. And this is of course all assuming she even does think it's a date. Are you even sure she is expecting or needing it to be just the two of you? Maybe you should ask her what she'd think about inviting a couple other co-workers along. Heck, you could even say wherever you're going is somewhere you're wife would enjoy and would like to invite her along! Even if she says no she'd rather just it be you so she could feel comfortable discussing her issues, the fact that you thought about inviting others along would show you don't see it as a date. But end of the day, if dropping hints doesn't do the trick, you're going to have to blunt and just accept a bit of awkwardness. Good luck!

I saw her, she is a sensual dynamo!

Well-got a training duo with Analeigh and Quinn-and it was FANTASTIC. Analeigh is a long, leggy, stripper, and if it weren't for her height, she'd be classified as a spinner. Quinn is new to CMJ, almost finished training, and has a co-ed/girl next door look to her. They work EXCEEDINGLY well together-and even though I was only able to get half an hour, they were pretty affectionate with each other. Highly recommend them together or separate.

Greetings, sisters and brothers, I would like to suggest a forum for how you came to be involved in the business. I trust I'm not repeating anything, but I have found that many of the people on Lyla/CERB are very interesting. I would love to hear your story. That includes the clients, too. I am sure that they have a story to tell. My story begins when I was a child. I was born in England. My mother always told us to respect working women, because they provided a valuable service. That attitude has prevailed my entire life. That life has been rich, fulfilling, and successful in the real world. As an older woman, I found myself becoming a counterpart to mature, successful men. A connection of mutual choice on an intellectual, sexual and even spiritual level, without the dross of expectation. Simply put, I love men. Compensation is the boundary. What is your story? What brings you here; motivates and stimulates you? Why do you love what you do? I'd love to hear your story. Cheers, Ann XXX

Very interesting topic. Kissing is enjoyable when someone has a fresh breath and healthy mouth and teeth. Another thing makes it very enjoyable too: when it is delicate, done at the right moment when we feel like doing it, and not forced with the full tongue deep in the throat, and just that for a whole date. I have noticed a growing trend for a request that I would call the "Deep Diving French Kiss" which is pretty much swallowing the mouth and tongue of a lady during a whole session! Although it is understandable to want to be kissed during a session with a lady (although some gentlemen do not care about that), I find this growing trend overwhelming. Because it can also feel very mechanical for a lady to be kissed during a whole date as if you were visiting the depth of the ocean... Not that pleasant! So there are probably ladies who enjoy kissing, others that don't at all, and those in between. This has to be checked with them. As for me, it will be under the conditions I mentionned above. But it seems that the request for a Deep Fr ench K iss is becoming something else, such as something more. Never forget that the most intimate things we all share in life are our feelings... and our kisses!

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Grew up old school, intimacy wasn't there. Did right by my family, children fulfilling their dreams and healthy. Family will be taken care of. Still searching for intimacy, friends splitting up, family members passing on. Old conventions and institutions to count on ,not anymore, failing expectations. Fought the reaper beat him this time, he'll be back. Deadlines , emergency calls 3 o'clock in am, intimacy, soft touch not found,still looking, a passionate kiss maybe. Did everything was supposed to.Put in 60 -70 hour weeks. A softer age, would've been nice 40 years ago. Calloused hands, knees are going can see less years ahead than behind. Same wieghts at the gym getting heavier.Still don't drink, drugs, no gambling . The one true joy for me even for a short time and find myself again, touch of a sensuous women. Thanks Ladies , your beautiful. Add on: A special young lady asked me to elaborate on something I said during our encounter, as a rule our time is ours alone. It was this, if you read this, thanks little one.

Let's get to know each other or reconnect over a drink while watching beautiful dancers grace the stage at Barbarella's. Then we can get cozy in the Champagne Room. With my long auburn hair hiding us from the rest of the world, we can share a sensual escape of eskimo kisses and soft caresses. Come and play with me at 340 Queen Street this Saturday, April 23, 2-7pm. I'll be off for a couple of months after. ;) XO

What a thoughtful thread with so many touching circumstances. I want my kids to grow up with both parents in their home. There's distance when it comes to intimacy. Often it's like the obligations of running a household together just kill the mood. In some bizarre way I feel like I'm a more accepting and even supportive husband now that there is another outlet for some of my wants. It is an amazing feeling to spend time with someone who is so into the chosen activities. I'm quick to admit this is 110% selfish on my part and hope to keep it compartmentalized. I do drift between the SP and sugar baby worlds as I enjoy longer visits.

I don't have an age restriction, as long as the client is of age (I check ID for young gentleman) and who are respectful. Nothing else should matter. I don't have an ideal age bracket that I connect more with. I am more connected to personality. They can be anyone, a 20 y/o can see me, we hit it off, sweetest client ever, we got along well, then if a client in his 30s sees me and no connection. Any age this happens, think about going on dates with someone... or your co-workers. It depends on the client and how he is, his personality and I am sure clients have seen me and didn't feel they connected, I could feel the same way back. Age is just a number, in most cases it's very irrelevant to me (again, need to be the legal age). Some gentleman before they see me, even though they've confirmed, they tell me about themselves. What I mean by this is they give their age, height, weight, body shape, etc., and ask if I am okay with their appearance over text. It's very irrelevant to me, I don't care if the client is fit, obese, smart, blue or has grey hair. It is common for older gentleman to ask if I am comfortable with older gentleman, I always respond I am comfortable with older men (I always am asked, "is it weird seeing me 'cause I am much older than you are?") I don't have an ideal age bracket because everyone is different. I could hit it off with a 70 y/o, 30 y/o, 25 y/o, etc., to see me, respect is needed. If someone is rude there is no need for me to see someone regardless of their age or what they look like. Respect, kindness, and a little bit of caring into contacting me goes a very long way. Summary: Age doesn't matter to me. (as long the gentleman is of age)

I am at the A.L.O locations (Bank and Montreal) even though there isn't room showers at those locations, there still is a shower. I'd love to shower with a client. The 30 minute appointments is a bit to short for a time to shower, massage, then shower again; for me I would find that very restricted and rushed (which isn't that good). Showering with the client is fun. I know some are shy to walk out with a towel on back to the room, but it's not like your walking out the door for the general public to see. I would walk out with a towel around me (if the case in point I would just walk out without a towel, I'm not shy). There is that issue or concern. Some don't even care, they are comfortable to really care about that, or rather, don't mind. 45min and 1 hour appointments seem like a better option for the shower. Less rushed and restricted. More time, allows me to enjoy your company rather be more conscious about the time. I am fairy new to the SPA world but I do have experience and common sense around showering with clients.

What can a new client do to make a session better? I know that hygiene is very important. And it takes time to build a connection or have chemistry. What makes it easier for you to relax and enjoy your time with a new client that you know nothing about? I usually communicate with the the woman thru PM here or email for a few days before I meet them. Like to get a feel for they are like and whether we have something in common. So by the time we meet, we have some knowledge of each other's likes or dislikes. It must be hard to meet complete strangers an then try to spend sensual time with them without having awkward times. So what can make as great session with a complete stranger possible?

I forgot to mention in my last post that it doesn't bother me that a client wears a ring. Most men I see are attached and I like it that way. As long as they are clean, polite and respectful like other ladies have mentioned, who am I to judge?

Well if it were me, I'd stay away, if only because she is the ex of your friend. Not worth losing a friend over an encounter. If she was someone you knew/know in civilian life, but no issues of coming between friends, and you really wanted to see her, I'd say yes, with the major caveat, tell her before hand you knew/know her in civilian life, that you would like to meet her, would she be comfortable meeting you?...or words to that effect But with the issue that she is the ex of your friend, I'd say stay away. A rambling as I head out the door RG

I had this experience at a Montreal massage parlor last fall. I seen their ad on the bp site and noticed this young lady with a sexy body working that day. I book a time and show up at the location ready to go, she asked me to take a shower(I took one before showing up but what the hell I took one anyway). While I was in the shower she comes in the room and lays down on the massage table and looks at me showering(I don't mind I'm a bit of a exhibitionist), I come out dry up and she asked if I would massage her first, no problem I have offered to many ladies before and they often accept. What happens next was a real turn off, she is laying on her stomach so I did her back and her legs and also her bum, 15 minutes go by and then I tell her to turn over, she does. I rub her legs and she is falling asleep so I decide to speed things up and go to her breasts she does not open her eyes and goes picking in her nose for gold, not once, not twice but about 6-7 times. I lost my erection and I packed my stuff and left while she was sleeping and picking her nose.

These particular sites actually steal ads and pictures from providers. They then extort money from the providers in order to have the information they stole in the first place removed. In my opinion, they are online pimps. Forcing legitimate providers to pay money to have their pictures removed. As these sites do not own the rights to use these pictures - it is extortion - plain and simple.

They probably can't commit to something like that on behalf of someone else, given the number of variables in play. But many of the MAs at spas have accounts here...

I have only been an escort for 3 months. I started when I separated from my husband of 8 years. We have two young children together who we each have 50% of the time. I have a "real" career that I love and am passionate about. Before my separation I was hired for a position that I had only dreamed of doing. Unfortunately, I took a cut in hours for this new job. It was doable because my husband was working and we were receiving a lot of help from his wealthy family. When we separated this financial support came to an end quite abruptly. I found myself alone and struggling financially. I decided that I had to do something quickly or I would end up homeless. I searched the Internet for local escorts and contacted one who was kind enough to give me a lot of advice and encouragement. I placed an add and to my pleasure I received a lot of responses. I carefully chose my first client and he was a dream client. Now I am starting to establish myself as a trusted and appreciated provider. I have some wonderful regulars and rarely need to see new clients at all. I feel empowered knowing that I can take care of myself and my children while continuing to excel in my career. Not only that but I am able to enjoy intimacy at a point in my life when I have absolutely no desire for a traditional relationship. Thank you all for being such a supportive and lovely group! You make this new adventure of mine so much less lonely.

I had a very active sex life with my wife and she expressed the desire to enjoy another woman. Well we discussed it and I indicated that I wanted to watch and perhaps play with both of them if the vibe was right. We didn't want the potential hassle and drama of looking for a participant in our home town for discretion reasons so we decided that a professional companion would be best. We both searched and she chose an amazingly beautiful companion and I contacted her. This particular companion had the preference of meeting us individually first to develop a rapport before having a MFF date. I met with the lady first and had my date and discovered that I really enjoy the tingle and excitement of meeting and exploring different ladies. The rest as they say is history and I've been super fortunate to have enjoyed the company of many wonderful ladies across this country. Although, initially I enjoyed the diversity, life circumstances evolve and I've found myself drawn toward finding one select lady that I can connect with on a deeper more intimate level. I've been lucky enough to have found two ladies at two different times who I chose to see exclusively and the last one I grew particularly close with before she decided to leave the scene. The loss of her as a genuine friend, confidante and lover hit me a little hard so I took an extended hiatus after that. Lately, I've been feeling the need to find another muse. Cheers

I have been in and out over the last 15 years and I tried to quit, many times without success. With a relationship going cold I still didn't want to break if off, happened anyway eventually. It all started when traveling for weeks and not wanting to go to bars to try to hook up with a random lady, I decided to go this way instead. My first experience was in Edmonton and I still remember the feeling when I left, it was like a drug. Someone that would be so pleasant and so focused on making me feel like a king was such a rush I had never felt before. During the many years I have met a number of amazing people and even have made some friends that I still meet on a friends basis. I never regret getting involved in this business as it has always filled a void and the people I met have been just amazing. I have attended socials in Montreal and Ottawa and met all you amazing people of this community. I respect the work you do and your decisions in life and I wish all of us would do that so you can feel safe during any encounter. Too bad there are always the select few that can make a mess and cause harm to people. Stay safe and have fun!!

I came into being in this from curiosity. I saw other girls at college having a lifestyle that was way outside their known income. Living off campus, lavish apartments, fabulous clothes, how the hell were they doing it? Curiosity got to me. Now, being in college, I think we all know what happens. Frat parties, dorm parties the whole ball of wax. Hooking up with someone at these events is practically considered normal. A few drinks, all of a sudden you're in bed with someone. I did eventually talk to one of the girls, as we were in a couple of classes together, and she told me. I was invited to her place for study and was completely astounded at it. Here I was, living in a shared dorm room and not loving it, but it was all I could afford, and she had this absolutely fabulous place. After talking to the girl with the great apartment, and having a tremendous argument with my roomie, I decided why the hell not get paid for it? If I'm going to have one-night stands, they may as well be enjoyable and with someone that wants to be with me, rather than someone that just figures I'm an easy lay! lol The next term I moved out of the dorms into my own apartment and have never looked back since :-) I enjoy the passion and the touch that I receive from gentlemen, and the thought of giving them what they need out of this, without a long term commitment, is very appealing to me. This life has had its ups and downs, it hasn't always been wine and roses, but there have been more good experiences than bad ones. Encounters that are several hours in length, where you can talk, touch, get together and cuddle afterwards, is a life that I can't imagine being without now. It gives me great joy when someone becomes a regular, and little gifts for me of appreciation. They have no idea what that means to me :-) For those that are married, if what I do with them gives them more intimacy in their marriage, then I feel that I do a great service.

Very similar to most here, I love my wife and we are still very much in love but we were never very compatible when it came to bedroom matters. Mostly it seemed she participated to please me and probably she wanted to start a family. Once we had the family, our bedroom activities disappeared. It slowly dropped off over a 10 or so year period and then I realized that I was constantly needing it and pleasuring myself to keep the desire at bay. I was becoming bitter and miserable and thought long and hard about asking for a divorce but could not see myself happy without her in my life. I went through some serious meditation and soul searching and realized that having an affairs was out of the question. In the end, I decided to get a non-RMT massage because it did not involve any "participation" on my part and that was how I rationalized it to myself that I was not cheating. I was travelling for business a fair bit in Europe and Australia which gave the opportunity as there were many legal establishments to choose from. That lead to meeting some amazing ladies who provided the release and over time, I participating by touching them back and then the reverse massage and then seeking out the full encounter. My frequent business travels to Europe and Australia ended about 8 years ago but I was still travelling within Canada and that is when I found this website. I learned the norms of how to behave and to participate safely here in Canada, so I owe this site a debt. I try to contribute where I can even though I haven't been able to participate much since the stupid new law came into effect. I'm currently back to self pleasuring again but hope to re-enter the hobby soon. One final note, my relationship with my wife over this time has improved dramatically. I'm no longer resentful of her for not wanting to be active in the bedroom. We enjoy each other's company, we attend the theatre, concerts, museums and galleries, we started hiking again and travelling for pleasure and have rediscover the activities that brought us together in the first place. This is the life that we had wanted with each other.

Being the East Coast .. I was born out of wedlock and legally adopted by my grandparents in NL .. life with them was perfect .. i had and did everything a child would want but they never told me that they were sick .. I was 15 when I said good-bye to both of them .. Yes .. 6 weeks apart .. Cancer is cruel .. well I was soo scared that welfare would take me and put me in a foster home .. I hitch-hiked of the island to Halifax .. 15, scared, broke, and ALONE .. well .. i went the catholic church on Spring Garden Road ( I was raised in a strict Catholic Home ) to ask for help .. within a day I had a job 11 - 7 at Tim Horton's by the base and went to high school by day and struggled to pay for food and a rooming house in MusGrave Park .. Well, I graduated high school and joined the military to have stability but lack friends and adult guidance .. i met 2 lovely ladies in my apt bldg who danced and we became friends, they knew i wanted a 2nd job so they invited me down to the local strip bar to apply as a waitress LOL .. well the regular patrons put money down to see me naked .. haha .. boy it was scarey yet exciting and for the first time since my parents died .. I FELT IN CONTROL .. POWERFUL .. That power has taken me across Canada and USA as a feature Attraction dancer, of course .. it never was enough .. so magazine shoots, soft porn, voyaguer cam shows, Seeking Arrangements, to the " Escort High Life " lol .. The people whom I have met during my 30 years in the sex industry has been from all walks of life and each and everyone of them has taught me something and has touched my life .. I hope that i will continue this road for a few years still and meet many of you fine people of LylaLand .. Thanks for listening xo

I first joined here when things weren't great at home. ...lacking affection, mostly. I kinda just lurk, but really enjoy reading people's posts here. I love the openness of such a usually taboo subject. I'm a man of very few words usually so I don't post much at all. I've never booked anyone's services yet for a few reasons. First, I'm very very picky because I don't plan to make it a hobby. So if there is one that might be it. I might try to fit a few outstanding bucket list items so I need to pick wisely... But things are getting better at home now so who knows... I'll play that by ear I guess. I still find the discussions interesting so I might stick around a while.

Like many of the married man here I am happy in my marriage but lack the intimacy with my wife. I don't want the wham bam thank you mam' kind of sex, I look for finer things that a lady can bring me. I love kissing and holding a lady close to me and to be appreciated for being me. I'm a bit eccentric but isn't that a quality? I have been a member here since 2008 because the girls I have seen from other site where just that "girls". NJ

Thanks, Johnnybird. It`s good to know that our gals made a difference! ;)

I was with my wife for 24 years, happily married for 17 of those. I truly believed that we would grow old together, but unfortunately life has a way of throwing a monkey wrench in your plans. She past away almost exactly a year ago from a rare form of cancer. She was diagnosed 6 years ago, even though they said it hadn't spread and they were confident everything was out, it came back 3 years later...& it came back with a vengeance. Our marriage wasn't perfect but like every relationship there are ups & downs, I had always remained faithful to her and never had a sliver of doubt during those bad times that I still wouldn't spend the rest of my life with her. She was the Yin to my Yang, we couldn't be more opposite lol! but I truly & deeply loved her, even after 24 years together she was still able to give me butterflies whenever I would glance over and look at her or especially during our intimate times together ;) The last year of her illness we couldn't be intimate with each other (cancer was in her bones) which I was fine with especially considering everything she was going through. A few months after she passed I started going through what I call "Affection Withdrawal", I'm a touchy feel person by nature, love hugging, kissing, holding, etc.. all the good stuff :). I really didn't want to start the dating scene just yet or even go to bars or clubs to pick up women either (not really my thing anyway), so I looked into the Escorting world. Now I'm not going to lie and say it wasn't for the sex but it wasn't 100% for the sex, I was just missing holding & caressing someone. I was fortunate enough to have a very sweet Escort as my first encounter, which made me see this lifestyle in a completely different light. I was also very quick to realize that 1 hour dates were way to short :) Like I've mentioned on other threads, seeing Escorts has helped me and brought me back to happy :D I have been getting the itch to get into another relationship lately though. I am far from being needy but I just miss having that connection with someone and it would be nice to have someone around without having to book an appointment to see them :icon_razz: When I do find that special someone it will be really difficult to lose touch with some of the wonderful women that I see somewhat regularly in this business. I have gotten to know some of them really well.

I have been a client in this industry for well over 20 years... I started primarily as a bit of fun when I traveled for work... many of my coworkers would hit the bars when we were on the road drinking and hoping to pick up someone for the night... I was married and this never really appealed to me so I would often head off to the casino or the strip clubs (ok ok more often the strip club) I considered this harmless fun and frankly got to meet some amazing ladies this I think naturally transitioned into seeing escorts which has in my opinion been great fun. I am older now and approaching retirement in the last 10 years our family has experienced some significant challenges which undoubtedly has impacted the relationship between my wife and I. I love her as must as I ever did and will never leave her... she will always be the one true love of my life but our situation has changed and the companionship that once was there is not any longer so I have sought it more frequently with wonderful companions in this industry. I have met so many wonderful ladies some of which I can honestly say have made a dramatic impact on my life... this industry with all its negative images and stereotypes has so many amazing.... giving... caring participants... so many other sectors of our community could learn a thing or two about life from the ladies of Lyla. As I do head into retirement I hope i have many more years of meeting people in this industry. Just my opinion.

Wow!!!...talk about a mountain out of a molehill Speaking of context, the post that out of one side of your mouth you found funny and representative of your thoughts yet in the next breath telling people to abstain from violent imagery. Here is OD's post in entirety (copied/pasted) not just a line taken out of context BTW the chilling imagery about "if she had been a bitch...." didn't come from OD, it came from you "Turn offs? Not many. At my age, I am always pleasantly surprised that a woman will not throw up when we are naked in the same room. These are more general observations than anything else. If there is any advice I can pass along, these would be a few things that I would suggest: 1. Time: Hobbyists are consistently reminded that they are not compensating a provider for a specific service, they are compensating her for her time. Keeping that in mind, the idea of "shoot and scoot" just doesn't fly. A two hour appointment should last two hours unless the hobbyist leaves early at HIS discretion, unless of course he has been a total dickhead. If he has been a dickhead, you have the right to kill him and dissolve his body in the bathtub. 2. Punctuality: These days, everybody has time pressures. As much frustration as it is for a provider when a client is late, it is equally as frustrating when a provider shows up late. Life happens. We all make mistakes. We all get delayed. Just remember, when things start on time, everyone is a lot more relaxed and happy. 3. Social Media Interaction: This is a biggie for me. Whether you are writing here on CERB, on Twitter or on a subscribed Blog, your words are a window into your provider personna. The most beautiful person becomes ugly if they express themselves in a hateful manner. It cuts both ways. Some providers use what we say here as a screening tool - they don't want to deal with assholes and misogynists. Keeping that in mind, we won't see you if you have shown that you don't respect us. We won't see you if you are mean spirited. We won't see you if you twist our words against us. Food for thought. 4. Live rabid monkeys: Don't have them in your incall. They are intimidating. 5. Divided Attention: Everybody has a life. Sometimes we have stuff on our minds that we can't shake. The mark of a true professional in ANY line of work is to put that stuff on a mental shelf and get through the day. It's especially true here, where intimacy is so much harder to achieve when a provider's mind is obviously elsewhere. 6. Unnecessary commentary: Eeeeek. This is a tough one. Have you ever been in an intimate moment that has an undertone of soft and romantic when all of a sudden the badly delivered porn movie dialogue starts? I'm getting the shivers of discomfort just thinking about it. Ohhhhh... and please. Don't speak if your mouth is full... mid BJ commentary is kind of a boner killer. 7. Turkey Bacon: Only if every pig on the planet has died of a horrific flesh eating disease will turkey bacon be acceptable. 8: Outside communication: Turn off your cell phone. Do it. Now. Unless you have a friend or family member that is dying, your attention is with me. I've ended two encounters early because the provider was constantly checking her messages. In virtually EVERY other business, that kind of behaviour would merit discipline or termination. It's a disservice to your professionalism if you can't give me our time. The person on the other end of the line is NOT paying you now. I am. 9: Talking badly about other providers: This is tough. It's a very competitive business. Like many other hobbyists, I don't necessarily provide reviews or recommendations for the majority of providers with whom I have spent my time. Keeping that in mind, you have no idea of the nature of my relationship with nearly any other provider. I may absolutely adore a provider that you have just torn a verbal strip from... and that really doesn't help your cause. 10: Just another client: The biggest mistake any provider can make is to treat a client like "just another client." I have chosen you because you represent something desirable. I have brought my hard earned cash with me because I think you are special. I sought you out because I think you are going to be wonderful to and with me. Treat me like more than a donation envelope. Act as if you want to be with me. Make me feel like you want ME. The best providers (and we have so many great ones) know that the encounter is so much more than an intermingling of moistened body parts. They understand that the fantasy is passion and desire. If you want hobbyists to respect the fact that you are so much more than just a series of desirable body parts, treat HIM like more than a penis with an envelope. Jeebus. I was on a roll there." OD takes the time and effort to write insightful posts with both good useful tips and a sense of humour at the same time. His writing is original and a contribution to this community Please OD continue with your humorous insightful posts. Most of us don't tear apart your posts to criticize them, we appreciate and value your contributions. Hell I wish I had your knack for humorous prose A rambling RG