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Spent some time with Lexi today and can honestly say that she exceeded my expectations by a long shot. She's smart,witty with a great personality, truly a pleasure to be with and has skills that are at 10 out of 10 for me. She is one sexy attractive woman. Treat her right and she will do the same. Looking forward to seeing her again.

This is an incredibly complicated question that depends on a lot of individual factors, as well as what we believe it means to be "physically a woman." If you're asking if it's possible for a trans woman to be consistently read as cis (identifying with the gender they were assigned at birth), even by people who are physically intimate with her, then the answer is yes, absolutely. This isn't true for all trans women, and not all trans women care about or want to be read as cis. Not all trans women are interested in bottom surgery. But it is definitely possible for some trans women. Hormones can have a very dramatic effect on the texture of skin, distribution of body fat, body smells etc. Vaginoplasty and labiaplasty surgical techniques can construct genitals that self-lubricate, are orgasmic, and that you could not tell by look or feel were surgically constructed (and keep in mind that there's a lot of variation in the way that vulvas and vaginas look and feel.) Things like genetics also play a huge role in how hormones influence the expression of typically male or female traits. There are plenty of people who naturally look very androgynous, have very little body and facial hair, fine bone structure, high voices etc. And for people who figure out that they're trans very young, puberty blockers can completely prevent the "wrong" secondary sex characteristics from developing. I think in discussions like these we also need to think very critically about our assumptions about what makes a person a man or a woman. Culturally and socially there are a whole lot of assumptions about these categories - assumptions about biology, never mind things like social roles and expectations - that are just plain inaccurate, and fail to account for normal human variation. Biologically, females produce eggs, males produce sperm. That's it - that's the criteria for an individual being biologically male or female. Things like hormones, secondary sex characteristics, genitals, and even chromosomes do not define our biological sex. While we can say that certain characteristics typically go together, we all fall on a bell curve, and those tail ends of the bell curve are still part of normal human variation. So a few examples: Androgen insensitivity syndrome can result in someone who is genetically XY to develop phenotypically female. They may be assigned female at birth, identify as a woman and never even know that they are XY. Poly cystic ovarian syndrome (PCOS) is very common among women and one of the symptoms for many people is growth of facial and body hair that is coarser and darker than is typical for women. While most people will have either XX or XY sex chromosomes, some people are also only born with a single sex chromosome (X or Y) or three or more sex chromosomes (polysomies - for example XXY, XXX, XXXY, XXXXY etc). At birth babies are typically assigned a gender based on the appearance of their genitals, however, a small percentage of people will have ambiguous genitalia at birth. They may have their genitals surgically altered shortly after birth - usually to resemble a typical vulva (not best practice, and often considered a human rights violation), or may grow up with genitals that don't resemble a typical penis or vulva. They may or may not opt for surgical reconstruction as adults and the gender they were assigned at birth may or may not fit their actual gender identity. Beyond biology, we also should think about how the ways we are socialized influence our ideas of who is a man or woman, and what is feminine. Largely, western ideas of femininity and beauty are strongly constructed around white European phenotypes, cultures, and beliefs about class. It's not just trans women whose womanhood and femininity is constantly challenged, but also women of colour, most notably black women (see all of the awful comments about the Williams sisters' bodies as a prominent example.) These messages about what constitutes valid and real femininity are everywhere and deeply ingrained in our cultures. We are not at fault for internalizing them but I do believe it behooves us to look critically about how these ideas are influenced by things like racism and classism, how they are built on false beliefs about biology, and how these ideas harm and constrain us all. Trans women often bear the most severe consequences - discrimination and violence - of these narrow definitions of who is a man or woman, and what is acceptable femininity, but all women and men are impacted negatively by them. If you've ever felt insecure about your masculinity it's these very ideas at play, and you too would benefit from us collectively reexamining them.

Shocked by these:

It's quite obvious from your post that it's not about their safety or anyone else's but YOUR COMFORT, so I fixed your post for you. And before you get all riled up about the insinuation that you'd cause violence, well, no offense, but men who are "upset" by "scars where their dick used to be" are usually the ones who get violent. A transitioned trans woman, or a trans woman who has had top and bottom surgery is under no obligation to disclose to you. If you are so insecure about your own masculinity that you need to know if someone used to have a penis, you need to deal with that shit yourself.

Missing in Action People who have been members here for a while know who it is that I am talking about. I myself plead guilty as I have posted very little in the past six months or more. CERB or now LYLA was a place that I used to log into every morning with my coffee, and then again multiple times daily. Now I have become complacent and truthfully rather bored. I know now and always have known the basic premise of what this site was about but it used to be a place where one could engage in good discussions on all sorts of things, both inside and outside of the sex industry. I miss those discussions a lot. I will not even begin to name the people who have stopped contributing to discussions here, but men and women members alike who are intelligent, well spoken, humorous, and who contributed ever so much more to this site than what I see here now, I miss you.

I've got these nice comfy black panties that tuck in at the back and show off the curve of my ass. Same as the ones in this pic:

I use postimage.org and you can use the size of your choice. I often find that uploading the picture ( that is already Lyla approved in my albums) from my own files on my computer makes it bigger. I just uploaded this avatar from my computer without resizing and it made it way bigger.

The operative word here is "transition". If they are going to live their life as a woman including being intimate then should there really be the need to disclose their former genetic makeup as man? IMO, no. Unless, they advertise as transgender, then it's really no one else's business. For men who visit, they need to look inwards and ask themselves why does this bother them so much? It's someone else's life and business, so what is it to anyone else? Yes, people may come up with variable as to why THEY think it should be disclosed but again, they need to ask themselves why is it so important to them?

Hi Allin, Not to argue (I hate arguments as much as I loathe drama) but I wasn't aware it is considered to be unfriendly and *shock* unreasonable to ask to have our privacy to be respected (esp after we leave the biz) in the same way we do yours. I actually think its unfriendly and unreasonable not to. I would never do this to a client. And... as much as the revocation of the poon licence cracked me up (which it did so thanks for that) I think I was being extremely friendly, reasonable and understanding, offering the benefit of doubt that nothing bad was intended and simply offering an explanation on why this isn't the right way to go about things. I am sure SPs whether in Manitoba or LA would feel exactly the same about having people pass their phone number around when they have clearly moved on with their life. Im also certain clients in Manitoba would not appreciate our contacting them by phone without them having contacted us first. Friendliness goes hand in hand with respecting each other's boundaries. Forgive me, but I think you're confusing the word friendly with free-for-all, the word reasonable with disrespectful and entitled that once an SP, always an SP and you can feel free to contact us and pass our info around whether we are retired or not. I actually feel your are misrepresenting MA here. As far as I know, this is not common practice in MA. I also feel you are being hard on us who have handled this matter with polite understanding, empathy and an effort to offer valid explanations to why this mutual respect exists, rather than attack. I actually made it clear I wasn't attacking and I admit I didn't read every post but what I did read wasn't any worse (again I may have missed it). I honestly feel that the one who wasn't being friendly and was being unreasonable here was you. You turned my laugh into a frown as I kept reading. If she isn't available.. it means she isn't available... you honestly think you are being friendly and reasonable by dismissing this? Itd be friendlier and reasonable to respect it. Wouldn't it? But perhaps we have a different opinion of what is friendly and reasonable.. but Id say this has little to do with what province we live in. Every Manitobian I have met has been respectful of privacy &boundaries... well, until now. I just hope your post doesn't give people the wrong idea. MA is having enough trouble with girls not wanting to travel there from what I've heard and its due to severe unfriendliness actually...the few ruining it for the many so... *shrug* I dont think where you live has much to do with whether or not you show mutual respect any more than race or age does. If you were referring to something specific that I had not seen, and weren't referring to posts like mine, I apologize. In my defense, you did throw us all in the same statement by saying 'they' and not adding the offending quotes in your post.. so my assumption has merit but apology (if valid) stands. And OP dont worry, your poon licence has not been revoked, you didn't get so much as a point. Just a friendly and reasonable explanation of why the rules or the road exist to keep us all safe and happy. I cant speak for others, but you are welcome to contact me... as long as I am available. lol Seriously, I hold no animosity toward you. Have a great day everyone. xoxo

Yeah, Im going to echo what many of the other ladies have already said. I look completely different heading to an outcall than I do when you come to me. I just look like Im visiting a friend. The heels and sexy attire is in my bag for only you to see. On sort of a side note, I've never really liked the term 'donation'. I don't collect donations, I collect a fee for my time, like any other professional entertainer would. A donation is not only negotiable, its voluntary... I choose to donate to the SPCA but if I fail to, I haven't violated anyone... This is not the case at all with an SP and I feel the word can lead to a sense of entitlement to mess with it. I know its the word commonly used by the majority but I've never understood why. At least 'contribution' would be better and wouldn't devalue me or what I do nor create a sense that its optional. I prefer fee or rate.Once its clear that the money isn't for a specific service but for my time, we are good, so I don't see why we should minimize the value, solidity and status of our rates. This isn't directed at you as I of course realize you are using established lingo. However, as you said, the money is for our time. If I didn't spend time with you and it is because you cancelled, yes I will expect to keep it as I do not misrepresent myself and have many who have vouched for me. However, even then, I wouldn't just leave. If the gent wasn't being alarming in anyway I would discuss this with him and explain my stance so that we could reach an agreement. I would NEVER just run off unless I felt threatened. If I had to cancel once I got there and it isn't because anything is wrong or has been misrepresented, (IE I got an emergency call while on the way) I wouldn't expect a cent as this isn't the gents fault. He's already been inconvenienced, I can't fathom why he should pay. If anything Id apologize for wasting his time and offer a discount should he wish to give me a second chance. Now if I did misrepresent myself IE photoshopped my pix and claimed to be 18 or a spinner or whatever is clearly BS once Im seen, Id know my guilt when the gent calls me on it and I couldn't bring myself to even ask for travel fee let alone run off with the full payment. But it goes with the personality type right? Someone who lies in their ads isn't an honest or caring person, so they are the type to feel entitled to running off. The issue is, how to know the honest SPs from the dishonest. I would recommend only seeing reputable SPs while you are new and only give the new SPs a try once you have a little more experience and knowledge of what red flags to watch for. Just as their are predatory 'hobbyists' out there who lie in wait for brand new SPs they can take advantage of, sadly there are also predatory SPs (or those claiming to be SPs) lying in wait for new and vulnerable hobbyists to take advantage of. I wouldn't say to only ever see established ones because how would new comers ever gain a rep unless they are given a chance... but while you are new, let the vets review them before you see them.. same for SPs, at first, only see reputable hobbyists until you know the ropes and have a knowledge of the dark side &its scams. I'm very sorry that this happened. While this is a recommendation board, there IS indeed a section for dangerous encounters, bait and switch and I believe lacking discretion is an included aspect in that section. This sounds like all 3. There are also other websites and forums you can go to to warn others. It isn't bad-mouthing, its simply telling others of your experience so that they don't have the same befall them. Its up to you if you would like to share but I do encourage you to. The more its reported, the less that person can get away with it. Im basing my assessment on what you said. I've only heard one side of course and Im not hear to judge what really happened. But this sort of thing does happen so Im basing it on what was said. A lack of discretion is not appreciated on either side. Everything in this industry is about mutual respect and reciprocation. Having a girl in crazy spiked heels & a stripper-outfit climbing the steps to your home for neighbours to see is no way less exasperating and potentially damaging than it is to have a gent walk through the hallway with a bank envelope in his hand shouting Hi Jessy! (which is not the name those in the hallways know me by) nice to MEET you!" *facepalm*. We both need to consider not only our own discretion, but the discretion of the other. Everything needs to be reciprocal. This is another way C-36 has endangered people. Many scamsters now feel they can get away with it having a 'go ahead, call the cops' attitude which..they have a point! How can a gent report a theft or even an attack without also incriminating himself? Again, I'm sorry that this happened and it is CERTAINLY not the norm/common practice. Hope next time goes better for you, and if you pick someone reputable until you've learned the ropes, it will be a world of difference. xo

I don't use windows Edge, I prefer to use either Firefox or Chrome. It's easy to copy and past photos using either one of those. I would suggest you try installing one of them. Plus as discussed several times before on here, Firefox and Chrome are a better alternative to the windows browser.

Glad to see you back again! It seems that some are slowly drifting back. xo

That you're mature, curvy & genuine Italian sweetie is waiting in anticipation for you! I'm availabe most days between 9am-10pm. in my quiet, relaxed foxes den. I've always reiterated that the best way to get to know someone is slowly starting with a sensual massage. Always huggable, kissable, passionately yours. I do prefer a phone call as opposed to text msg. (Unless we've had the pleasure of spending time together). It's much easier to reach me by phone for shorter notice. I consider myself an adventurous lady, and always very approachable. In lieu of my time for my unique genuine massage/companionship: 100 HH 140-45 mins 180 exciting H Please feel free to contact me @ 613-404-7437 new pics are coming and if you seek, you shall find. Thank you, and may your day be wonderful &....all the best

The answer to that question is always CHOCOLATE, even if it's vanilla the answer is Chocolate! Chocolate Pudding or Chocolate Mousse?

Greetings Gentleman, Do you fancy a fun and sexy escapade which captures the true essence of sumptuous relaxation? Please allow me to introduce myself. My name is Erin and I'm your delightful distraction from the day. Care to experience sensual femininity that is sure to delight your senses? I invite you to join me in soothing away your worries under my roaming hands and warm body. My schedule this week: Thur-Fri: 10:30am-7:00pm Advanced bookings are always welcome I'm independently located in a comfortable and upscale location in the west end. I enjoy meeting new people as well as reconnecting with old friends. My recommendations. http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=43994&highlight=sensual+erin Please feel free to pm or introduce yourself by email, [email protected]. I look forward to hearing from you! Yours, Erin xoxo

She posts every couple of weeks on BP so she's still around. It looks like her last ad went up on April 18th.

Hey Lovelies! I'm April a tall, athletic and sensual girl who loves to chat play and tease. Today I'm working at a location in the west with beautiful spacious showers and a private professional environment. I speak French and English and would love to get to know you. My rates are 130/hh or 180/hr. Please don't hesitate to text for more info, or to book, at 613-702-8066. xoxox April P.S. You can check my recommendations here: http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=203785

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finally home after a seriously gruelling and crazy dress rehearsal for saturdays show.. totally forgot I wanted a cigar <grin> BUT.. I finally got my pawz on a new and hopefully lovely showerhead, which I installed myself as soon as I got home.. soo happy!! I love my bubble baths, yes.. but.. not much beats a well-working, moveable showerhead ;) ...off to test it out ;)

"I'd like to know" is not the same as "I have a right to know". There's always an element of the unknown when you're meeting someone new. Pics vary in accuracy. Sometimes things like tattoos and piercings may be hidden. Personality is always hard to judge before you actually meet someone, and things like chemistry are downright impossible. For those who think this is a big deal... why not simply ask? Yes, you may offend someone - you'll have to weigh up the pros and cons of asking for yourself and decide whether it's worthwhile, or whether you don't actually need to know after all.

Greetings Gentleman, Do you fancy a fun and sexy escapade which captures the true essence of sensual relaxation? http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/picture.php?pictureid=78499&albumid=8075&dl=1461598954&thumb=1 Please allow me to introduce myself. My name is Erin and I'm your delightful distraction from the day. Care to experience energetic feminine vibrancy that is sure to delight your senses? I invite you to join me in soothing away your worries under my roaming hands and warm body. http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/picture.php?pictureid=75604&albumid=8075&dl=1449705683&thumb=1 My schedule this week: Today: 12:30pm- 7:00pm Thur-Fri: 10:30am-7:00pm Advanced bookings are always welcome http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/picture.php?pictureid=76748&albumid=8075&dl=1454621779&thumb=1 I'm independently located in a comfortable and upscale location in the west end. I enjoy meeting new people as well as reconnecting with old friends. My recommendations. http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showth...t=sensual+erin Please feel free to pm or introduce yourself by email, [email protected]. I look forward to hearing from you! Yours, Erin xoxo

If she hasn't been advertising, there is a reason for it. If you cannot find any older ads, then she may have well left the business or is not entertaining new clients. I know in my own personal experience in the last 6 months, I have not advertised a lot because I have my regulars and other work and let the ads expire. When I came back advertising again, people I had known found me. Some ladies do not advertise regularly. Try doing a google search with the keywords being her name, "Winnipeg" and "escort" to see what comes up and that way, you are not infringing upon her privacy by asking others to post it publicly if she has in fact left the business or just seeing her regulars.

As Jessy has posted...she may have decided to semi-retired and only want to see regulars. She may also use her personal phoe number related to her real name How would you feel if I gave your phone number to a random person, that you don't know and can vouch for, online on a publiv forum?

I am interested in knowing (without naming names), if she is the same person you originally cancelled, and then re-booked? I wish that you felt more comfortable. I understand you are new and learning, however, I also suspect you are like the cat on a hot tin roof. Easily spooked. With the laws the way they are, I totally understand. However, if someone comes in, guns a blazing, showing a total lack of discretion, I would also be leery. One of the reason I don't wear my incall outfits to an outcall. I look like a normal sexy woman when going to see someone. At my place, it is different, as I am in control and can wear what I want. My communication is always discreet. I just wish others did the same thing - it would make everyone's life easier. Especially guys asking for details. This is always where the plan falls apart. xo

Manners go a long way. It's a shame that the rude inquiries are sent to you gents as well. But it sure is insight into what some of us ladies get bombarded with simply because many are too lazy to introduce themselves, act polite and say thank you Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

A person's surgical and medical history is literally no one's business but their own. If you are not okay with the possibility that someone might have something in their history that makes you uncomfortable but has zero real impact on you, then you should both do some personal reflection on your internalized homophobia and find a different hobby. Trans women and sex workers, particularly trans women sex workers, are already at incredibly high risk of violence, criminalization and poverty. The idea that they owe anyone any explanations about their past and medical history is ridiculous, and increases the likelihood that some entitled person is going to be violent toward them or out them and damage their business. Trans women sex workers are extremely aware that there are people out there who would be angry if they found out that they weren't cis. The "trans panic" defence has been successfully used by men who murdered trans women, as recently as 2005, in the case of Shelby Tracy Tom (and possibly more recently.) When a trans sex worker decides to not disclose her status, she is making a strategic risk-reward evaluation and business decision. There are very specific expectations that most clients who see trans sex workers have, and that almost always includes having a penis that gets erect. Post bottom surgery, it makes pretty much no sense business-wise for a trans woman sex worker to advertise that she's trans. And for those of you who have outed trans women on this site - and I have seen it happen, stop it. Cut that shit out. You are placing the comfort of strangers on the internet over the real life safety and privacy of a vulnerable woman. That is not an okay or humane decision. Trans women are women. Full stop. No woman owes her clients information about her irrelevant medical background. dragon66_61: Have a little respect, and treat trans women like human beings instead of objects or animals. It is never appropriate to refer to someone as "it" and I can't imagine what would make you think that was okay. If you can't recognize the humanity of sex workers don't see them. Find another hobby and stick with jerking off. 500 Pound Gorilla - being trans has nothing to do with sexual orientation, nor does being a sex worker who has male clients. There's zero reason to assume that a trans woman was having sex with men prior to her transition/work.

I totally agree with Emily, just add the fact that I want to avoid meeting someone in my circle connection, clients who are 37+ is preferred ago for me. And yes, I have similar experience with young gents. Someone emailed me "I have 60 bucks, European, super handsome you would f*** me for free" or "Today is my 20th birthday and I would like to loose my virginity to you, can you see me for free"...

It is my belief that a transgender woman is a woman, and not a man playing dress up or pretend. Nor--and I think this is key to your question--do I think a transgender woman is being deceitful simply for presenting herself the way she is. I gather from your post the ladies you're speaking of have transitioned, and now have a body that matches their identity. I'm glad to live in a society where people can truly be themselves. And if these ladies happened to have some surgeries in the past, well then no, I don't think I as a client would have a right to that information any more than I expect any other lady I spend time with to disclose all of her medical history. I don't mean to be flippant or dismissive. I understand why you'd ask the question and why some might struggle with this topic. But when you say "many unsuspecting clients would be very upset if they found out that the person they thought was natural woman used to be man", my thought is that is their problem, not hers.

Happened to be not too far from downtown Vanier on Monday afternoon (4/4) and took the opportunity to drop into the 'Mate briefly. Seemed to be a typically slow Monday atmosphere but a few of the regulars were present. Candy seems to be in quite often and she was the first recognized by me today. Then I was quite struck by a dark-haired, fairly curvy lady wearing a 'cut-out' black dress - a really very pretty girl, but did not catch her name. She spent a bit of time chatting with a quite curvy ebony girl I don't think I've seen at the 'Mate before, but then I'm not really a regular there. Then leggy, busty blonde Vegas emerged from the CR - she was the second dancer I recognized on this occasion. No sign of Delicious, Bianca, Adora or Morena (Marina?), although I'm told Adora is in most afternoons (perhaps she's on vacation?) and Morena is reputed to be seen many Mon./Wed. afternoons.

Can I just say how wonderful this is... The level of support in this forum makes me feel so much stronger. Just knowing I'm not alone and I can sign in any time and there are people who have shared my experiences and care about my venting... It's uplifting. Thanks to all of you! Many virtual hugs are being sent your way :)

Bumping your ad for free won't guarantee it will stay up for long. After you have bumped it for free, wait a bit and then click the link in your confirmation email and when it shows the "move" feature showing, then you can pay $1.00 using a paysafecard to bump it to the top again. You can purchase a paysafecard at any Canada Post outlet or certain Esso Gas Stations for as little as $10 plus service charge. You need to go up to the cash and actually have the cashier punch it in and they will give you a receipt with a pin number on it which is basically the card. My advice is not to rely on free bumps to keep your ad going.

Well, you seem to have already worked out where to advertize, and how the shoutbox works, so that's a good start :) Read the FAQ if you haven't already. Other than that, all I can say is make sure the people who come to see you go away happy, and hopefully a reco or two will happen as a result (although I suspect most people don't write them, alas). If you really want to raise your profile, get involved with the rest of the board and join in the various conversations that are happening at any given time... there's usually something for most people, be it serious or silly, and if not you can always start something new. Also, have a play with the search pages to find previous threads on things you might want to know about Given where you work, hopefully you have access to some other ladies who can give you a good start in the industry as a whole... and I've always been amazed by how helpful and supportive people here are to each other, so don't be afraid to ask about stuff.