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There are probably a lot of answers to this problem on here already, but I thought I would bring this up in a new thread. Some people do not know the lengths that providers go through to make themselves available for you. 1. we have a profile and/or a website that requires maintenance to keep up to date, taking up some of our time. 2. we have ads that we place elsewhere so that we have a variety of avenues in which you can communicate with us, which also require maintenance. 3. we spend many hours of a week just answering texts, phone calls and emails to your inquiries. 4. we keep ourselves fit, meaning we are spending time working out, whether that be at home, or going to a gym. 5. beauty is not instant, so we take the time to have manicured nails, hairstyles, spending time shopping for just the right products and articles of clothing. 6. maintenance of our locations, whether they be where we live or a place we rent just for these occasions. (cleaning services are not free, or we do it ourselves, meaning more hours in a week dedicated to what we provide) 7. we purchase professional photography so that we have nice pictures to display for your pleasure. 8. we ask for a little bit of notice to prepare for your date, as we all have a life outside of this. 9. communication and understanding on our part for discretion is very important to both gentlemen and the provider. 10. we have almost zero information about you coming to us, but we are expected to reveal all about ourselves. So why in the hell is it so difficult to let us know when you can't make it to a booking? We provide you with our addresses, our time and our efforts to be able to entertain you at your request. I have noticed over the last several months that more and more bookings are no more than a ploy to gain access to our whereabouts and have nothing to do with actually wanting to see us. Why is that? Do guys take pleasure in making us run around so that we can accommodate you when you have no intention of showing up? Is it a thrill that you get from the fact that we are getting ready for you and you are just sitting back at home kicking back on the sofa watching tv? I don't know about other providers, but I spend an average of 12 hours a week just answering twitter and emails. I go to the gym everyday for an hour at least. I spend to keep my appearance up. I provide a nice place to entertain you (at a cost). I take the time to confirm and/or reschedule so that it can fit into your schedule (with no regard to my own schedule). So why can't you follow through if you have made a commitment to see me? I find it very inconsiderate and disrespectful when someone makes a booking and then just doesn't bother to show up or let me know they can't make it. All it takes is a little effort on the guys part to do this. Just look at the efforts that the girls are putting out there. When a booking is made and confirmed, we do not book another person for that time. It is made for you. Not for a bunch of guys and going to whatever one shows up first. I do know that perhaps traffic can be bad, accidents, s/o suddenly appears, but you can always go to a bathroom/hallway/garage and let us know you can't make it. Guys make a big stink when providers don't show up, sometimes it is for the same reasons above, bad traffic, stuck somewhere, meetings that go over time at work, but we take the time to let you know we are running late, why can't you show us the same courtesy? For some providers, this is their livelihood, it is how they survive. For others it is a fun side business, but nonetheless, would it kill you to let us know? There is nothing more frustrating to me than to go to a restaurant somewhere and find that I can't get in, it's why I make a reservation! If you are going to make a reservation with us, please have the courtesy to let us know asap if you are not able to make it. We spend hours to prepare for you, take a minute to tell us. I have had some wonderful encounters from the gentlemen on Lyla, and from other sites, but also some frustrating ones that pull this crap. Be courteous to us, we are to you. My rant after a very frustrating 2 weeks.

at an event last night, ran onto a woman I had helped in my professional capacity.. received the most amazing hug.. tears, compliments from her.. I not only got 'through' to her, but made a change in/for her that she took and ran with and is doing phenomenally well now :) sooooo entirely makes my day when that happens, and I am fortunate enough to have it happen fairly often, but this was something pretty special.... (she is now proudly 72 days clean.. 'situated' and feeling/appearing more like a 'person'... f*cking lovely to have been a part of that!)

Sending out huge hugs and healing energies to mrrnice2 today as he goes through some challenging moments. He posted in another thread but hopefully everyone will join me in sending good vibes his way today! <HUGS>

Try to keep looking in her eyes.....I can't myself !

homemade cookies....(still haven't eaten them all.. and am actually *sharing*!).... rain (storms especially!).... close-quarters conversations... good wine... better food.... my new Hitachi <grin>..... kitten kisses ;)

It all boils down to respect. Respect others, as you would like them to respect you.

......ummn... invisible ones? ;)

This may be digging up an old thread but here goes: I recently had my first experience with an SP and as a newbie I choose to book more than 1 hour. For me I had an idea of what I thought I would like to do and then do again! I knew I would be nervous for the first time and I was but the extra time definitely helped to slow things down and enjoy the whole reason why I was there to begin with!

Thongs forever! :) Additional Comments: How did she get into these? More importantly, how will she get out of them??

Thank you so much :)

I GOT COOKIES FOR BREAKFAST!! literally... just now! a whole box of homemade cookies post delivered right to my door ;) ....and me still with coffee hehe how entirely lovely <hugs> made my day and it isn't even 10am yet :)

Makes no difference to me what some one advertises, I am a smoker and a regular toker and understand that not every one is so I partake prior and since I'm always coming from home I take a shower right before leaving. Much like general society many more partake than advertise the fact. Peace MG

Is that Cato peeking in the window behind the girl?

The lovely Katinka, with thanks! Check out her albums!

Jambalaya soup! with a side of toaster strudel?

The Canadian legal system - sometimes it emphasizes the rights of the wrong party and isn't sensitive enough to its impact on the victim's family...

I have been.

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Not what I am saying or trying to accomplish at all. I have been on boards long before this one existed, the board some here are leary of used to be the only one for Ottawa and hobbyists & SPs got along fine. It had the same rules then as it does now. I met lots of great SPs on there and see some of them to this day. I am simply saying if a provider blacklisted all members because of a few members I wouldn't care and would move on. It would be their loss as most of the more active hobbyists belong to both boards and more. Just as I said wise users can determine what posts are useful or not, so can wise providers. If they would decide not to see all members because they didn't like what a few members said, I wouldn't call that a wise business decision, but they are free to do that. It's their decision and in this highly personal hobby they really do not need to explain their reasons. I personally have never had a provider turn me away for being a member of any board but as the OP says some have done it to others. To me I would not worry about an SP who did that, nor would I want to see her. Like we all agree, everyone is free to set their boundaries and comfort level, both clients and providers. If an SP decided not to see me because of actions of others I would figure I was better off not seeing her. Right or wrong, my decision and no one can fault me for it just as no one can fault the SP. I have had providers tell me they have met bad clients from this board just as they have from the other boards. There is this odd "us vs them" mentality and it goes both ways. The general consensus is that this board caters to providers while the other caters to clients. I find that was more true in the past but does have some merit still. My experience goes way back before this board existed and we all got along fine and had good times. I have had equally good times since this board came along. I expect if any boards cease to exist in the future I will still have good times. There is good information everywhere, you need to learn where it is and how to use it.

Hey all I seen this gorgeous lady no to long ago and was amazed. I fully recommend her full hour session it is the little added touches that make the difference. When I was setting up the appointment I was not sure what to expect but was blown away by the experience. Now I know the area where she hosts may shy people away but very clean and inviting. I recommend 100% and would definitely see here again..

It is rude. Espescially that you have paid for her time. You should be able to enjoy it... My two cents...

I'm probably "old school" but I think it's rude in any social situation to be pulling out the phone all the time. (A pet peeve of mine actually. ) In an encounter as intimate as this, it's even worse. I like to get lost in the fantasy of the moment. To feel that I am the most important thing right here and now. Checking the phone every time it makes a noise drastically takes away from that illusion.