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as far as the Christian faith goes, sex outside of marriage is also frowned upon, but I'm not Christian... ha ha. I like my wife. She's a good person and the mother of my children and financially we are much stronger together and able to travel, put our kids through college etc.. I do not wish to hurt her. But we have very incompatible sexual needs. She for example can't even imagine sex when under stress, and I can't deal with stress without it... I love kissing and she hardly wants to kiss at all... she's very boring in the bed... blah blah blah, and after she has an O about a third of the time ruins my climax... So it was either continued frustration, divorce, an affair, or escorts... eenie meenie miney moe... frustration didn't seem like much fun...and as I past my 45th birthday I didn't want to wait any longer; wanted sex while I'm young enough to do it!! Divorce is messy and expensive and would harm my children. Escorts seemed the easier solution as an affair requires the cooperation of another lady who just wants sex (not a permanent relationship). I actually had an affair once, and my wife found out... advice, if you have an affair, don't let the gal give you a hickey... But I was faithful after that for about 22 years until a flirtatious friend drove me over the edge... in part because she would flirt, but then back off... and even though we didn't have an affair she validated every reason for choosing an escort instead... she told me she loved me, send me text messages in the middle of the night, and would act very openly sexual in public when drunk... She did invite me into her house to have a bath together, while she was very drunk (I was sober), but I suggested maybe another time when she was sober -- which never happened). Another problem with affairs is most of the Lady's I meet are at work and I can't get involved with them without getting into employment related to hassles... so hand off. So anyway, now days I stick to escorts because they are less complicated, less stressful, and actually know what they are doing... I don't have to worry about midnight text messages or drunken calls form love sick lovers.. 0000 said "Specifically I end up questioning whether the intimacy is real because it is bought and paid for." For sure, if you are seeing someone for the first time, she is trying to be intimate, but you can only expect so much because she doesn't know you... I can assure you that with the ladies I've developed a rapport with, the intimacy is real... we are friends (in an unusual way)... one lady who I've now been seeing for 4 years, I treat as my relationship advisor... because she is wise in the ways of love. someone else noted how the escort doesn't get jealous and that is one of the delights about talking to her about relationship problems... she takes marriage very seriously...

In my case it's a bit different than others on this board. I'm a woman seeing a female escort. I discovered in my 40s that I wanted to experience being with a woman. I have no desire to be in love with a woman but I wanted to experience sex with a woman. I've been with my husband for almost 30 years and I'm still very much in love with him but obviously he wasn't able to satisfy the curiosity I had to be with a woman! I tell him every time I go visit her. He is very happy that I'm fulfilling this need I have in a way that is not threatening to our relationship. He also very much enjoys when I tell him all the details after! Obviously every relationship is unique but what I do know is that every relationship is work. Work and family pressure, kids, aging parents. It all adds up. I'm pretty sure that many relationships have been saved by a man visiting an escort. Spouses can certainly remain in love and care very much for each other but have different views on the frequency or type of sex they want to have. In my view seeing an escort is better for the relationship than having an affair where emotions can develop, jealousy can cause problems. I'm not sure that the majority of women see it my way. At least not the women of my generation and older. Just my 2 cents!

I had the greatest pleasure to meet up with Quinn at CMJ very recently. Though it took a bit of time due to our schedules not being overly compatible, we finally managed to make something work and it was so worth the wait! First I want to say how impressed I was by the renovations at CMJ West. The place looks fantastic! When I opened the door I was greeted by a drop dead gorgeous blue eyed bombshell! I'm pretty sure my eyes popped right out of my head like a Bugs Bunny cartoon! Quinn has those Hollywood starlet type curves. Just right and exactly what you want on a classic beauty like her. She is very easy to talk to, relaxed, funny, intelligent and just all around down to earth. Can't forget to mention Quinn has one spectacular ass! I couldn't stop looking at it ;) She turned out to be everything I hoped she would be and went way beyond that expectation. I am not the easiest person to impress, but Quinn certainly did! I will definitely be repeating with the Mighty Quinn ;)

It was so easy to park in the giant underground garage at the CD Howe building in downtown Ottawa and to nip across the street to visit The Brass Club. I had an appointment with Rose. Actually, she calls herself "Mistress Rose" and I found her to be the ultimate spinner. Her red hair and freckles along with her east coast accent brings Ann of Green Gables jumping into my mind. We slid around on a double massage table lubricated with Nuru solution, and it was such a blast, but what too away my breath was watching her pour it on herself because even though tiny, she is perfectly proportioned with sensational boobs. It was sooo hot. I earnestly recommend The Brass Club and especially little Mistress Rose.

Really I couldn't resist. Not sure if this will go over as well as the "How to be a good client" thread, but it's worth a try. Not really too much difference between this and the other thread, but I'm sure plenty of people will have good suggestions that I haven't thought of. Here's my personal list: Honesty, client's should want to see you for who you are, not for who you want to imply you are. Cleanliness, that includes yourself and your incall ;) Be respectful, and attentive, make sure your client feels comfortable with discussing their desires in your company. Be on time and communicate, can't put into words how frustrating it is when someone is 2 hours late and won't even return a text, grrrrr. That's it for me, have fun with it folks!

I didn't skim much other replies past your direct reply to me 0000, so that in mind as I respond: Granted, regardless of her 'tone' and all, I really honestly wouldn't say you have any fault here. Submission is a heavily altered mindset and a complete power imbalance, it's possible she was entirely aware of her manipulation of you which isn't safe. In essence, there's nothing else you could have done, except LEAVE- but that doesn't put you at fault. The safe word was your way out. That deserved to be respected and it wasn't. She ignored your requests and did as she pleased in a power-imbalance BDSM play, and put you at risk. Etc etc. i.e; in personal experience, hearing a safe word just means IMMEDIATE stop of whatever was going on and checking in on my/the sub, right? To reduce any possible harm. Again, sorry that happened. I hope you have good luck in your next session and don't have to go through that type of trauma again :(

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My opinion only but let's remember something. �������� is risky. If the provider is offering there is most likely an underlying need for compensation. For the sake of both yourselves and your provider keep it covered. Let's not be naive. This isn't your girlfriend in a monogamous relationship. There are certain things we don't need to share. Be safe. Additional Comments: berrie backa you get what I am saying.

What sort of 'verbal domination' were you looking for? And did you say as much? I've never heard such a term before.. usually when someone wants verbal domination- they want exactly what you got.

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As to the 'not a real domme if there's cuddling et al' comment....I dote on my submissives. ....very much enjoy doing so....as they enjoy being.doted upon....and have no intention of ever denying.either myself or.them that part.of things. I've always done that....and find it rather insulting....both as a pro-domme...and one who is very much immersed in that lifestyle and.culture, to have it inferred that I'm not (or those who may be like me)...a *real* domme. Ask the man who's jaw I grip in my hand, whispering soft comforting thins to as I drive my knee.into his testicles hard enough in one shot to knock him to the.floor....if I am not real.... Or purrrrhaps the lovely little man who adores when I coo harsh words, call him names....while stuffing his @ass to the point of having him in tears....softly stroking.his hair the whole.time....if I am not *real*..... or...hehe the wonderful man who lives in new York, who sees me.when hes here...and who's every move I still control....while.referring.to him as 'My Beloved'....if I am not *real* (I could.go further hehe but....) As many different people there are out there...there are as many different dommes/subs....and dynamics.....yours or your 'idea' of how they 'should' go...is likely.just as different. Does not mean they don't exist..or aren't *real*.... yikes.... no one person should (or can) say someone is wrong to be happy or.enjoy what they are obviously excited about. As to the 'contract'....it is *not* the same.as.getting.something in writing outlining soft/hard limits....comfort. zones, expectations (from either party...not just one)....this would be what is more.known as written consent.....a *contract*...mostly.in the traditional sense....means you are *owned*....not what you have agreed.to and/or have previously.discussed insofar as how a scene is going to play out.... most experienced domme/doms would know that ;) I he is pleased.and feels.comfortable with who he has found.....then again I have to say *yay*....and enjoy all that the experience can/should bring you *both*..no matter what the dynamic ends up being. Nay-Sayers be damned ;) (Brief Internet access tonight so...hehe) <....stalks softly into dark warm trees....under millions.of stars..... gone..... for now...>

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Feather light massage. Not even remotely therapeutic. Pretty steep upcharge.

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Classy, beautiful, intelligent and loves sex! Anything I should add?

I got introduced to the concept of polyamory only last year. If I had been 20 years ago, that would probably have allowed to save my marriage. I had a beautiful relationship with my super handsome loving intelligent sensitive husband, best friend awesome communication. But I was not attracted to him, well, my hypersensitive olfactory sense could not stand his pheromones. He, however, was very attracted to me. I was a model when we met. Somehow, subconsciously, i created tons of poor adaptation mechanisms: repeat vag infections, weight gain, vulvodynia... I wanted to be faithful to him and it made me feel terribly inadequate as a woman and as a wife. I even thought I was frigid. I started to drink wine in order to sort of get myself in the mood. Yet it was so seldom that I can tell you at what time and in which position we conceived, a child that I lost. Thankfully. One should never be thankful to loose a child but if I had not miscarried, we would have stayed together. And become more and more miserable. Our friendship was suffering. My belief at the time was "love supercede anything, love is more important then sex". Until one day, unexpectedly, i got the whole sex attraction butterfly etc while I was working on a paper for univerity with a collegue (ugly as f*). That was really unsetteling. I negociated permission with husband to try to seek sex outside our marriage. We arranged an evening where I went out with colleague and he had an escort comes at home. I guess I was so "starved", too young, too endoctrined in my faith principles and because the experience confirmed for him, I was the one regardless of the hardships of our sexuality, I decided to leave him. After 7 years together, I divorced not only a person but a life I loved, a step family I adored, financial security, dreams and projects our companionship had formed. And I knew I was moving into a relationship that would die. (it did within 3 months). Hubby proposed for me to come back. It took all my courage to refuse. It was best for both. Given what we knew of life and what we did not know about other options... A year later he remarried, had 2 kids and the entire story we had tried really hard to build together. I have been mostly alone for the following 18 years. When I was introduced to polyamory last year, it strucked me that it could have been our relationship salvation. Yet, I was then still very judging of people "cheating", either by having lovers or seeing escorts. Until 6 months ago when I opened my mind to kinks and discovered my inclination for ANR. My views started to change. And since I made the switch to become MA, I discovered a world of psychological and emotional pain and suffering I had not realized existed. Because something has not been addressed yet. It was discussed earlier about the don't ask don't tell and the openly agreed upon outsourcing of sex. But something was not addressed. The jail relationship model. Some men are litterally micro-managed by hypercontrolling wives (and it certainly isn't a kink they'd chosen) who will not have sex with them but won't allow them to satisfy their need (and btw sex is a fundamental need see Maslow, the modality to satisfy that need is called a referential need aka hunger=fundamental need to be feed, referential need is pizza or steak). Multi-millionaires men find themselves scraping change to be able to save up until they can afford an Escort. In the past, I considered that it was a lack of courage or spine to not divorce; but I came to realize that it is not that simple. In many cases, there are children involved and these men love their children and were threatened to not be able to see them if they even thought of divorcing. Or, sometimes, life and companionship was cordial or friendly and the financial loss would be tremendous to recover from in the last leg of a professional career making it a big deterrant. If you marry with someone because over all it is a very happy relationship, even if the sex is in the vanilla and just enough category, you evaluate that if things remain the same, you will have a happy life. But when one of the two changes the rules like, being less available sexually, or experiencing an increase of libido, without proposing acceptable accomodation to meet the partner's need, yet requires or threatens retaliation should the partner seeks a way to meet his need, the dilemma becomes very individual and I have come to think one cannot judge how someone will try to meet their needs especially if trying to be as gentle on the whole system as possible. I don't judge anymore. I give unconditional Love. I tap in that very special kind of Love in my work as a MA. I accept unconditionally the human being who entrusts me to help with alleviating his or her need. Massage is a selfless act and gift. I cannot judge anymore. I only Love.

I still remember myself in my twenties. I was single, I was free like a bird, could have any type of relationship with any available girl around - from casual sex to deep emotional involvement. I simply didn't need escort dates at that time, never thought about this. I started it being grown up man after many years of marriage, which I still consider to be happy marriage. I wouldn't consider to be together with any other woman than my wife. And again I completely agree with this. I believe, not just intimacy in real life but escort date to be enjoyable needs open dialog and communications. I had an interesting experience regarding this. I have met once wonderful Chinese woman whose English was very limited. I prepared for each date what I wanted to tell her and printed out Chinese translation. First time she was very surprised but very happy and grateful for my efforts. I would say this moved our dates to next level :-)

Think of the need for intimacy not as a need like air or water, but as a human drive that -- generally speaking -- most humans crave or require to be fully content. I would put it on a similar level with our drive to socialize. Even most introverts occasionally want to interact or spend time with others, and those with no social circle tend to be unhappy. Or compare it to the impulse to get out into nature, even if it's just to walk through a park or feel the warm sun on your skin for a stroll. Who hasn't noticed that the longer they're shut up inside during cold, dark stretches affects their mood and well-being? Another example would be the desire to experience art, music, culture, or even pulp entertainment. A person can physically live in a dark a cellar by themselves and no belongings, but you can see how they'd say the sun and company and things to engage with are "needs." Simply put, there's a reason solitary confinement is considered such a severe punishment! Of course, not everyone is the same or going to crave these sorts of things--intimacy or just pure physical sex included--to the same level. Indeed, plenty of people are perfectly content without one or more of the things I've listed. But when we say that companionship and touch are needs, I believe most of us are putting them at this sort of level.

I would like to wish an amazing birthday to the beautiful Nicolette Vaughn. I hope you have a fantastic day filled with all the blessings you deserve. I'll raise a glass in your honor with a huge smile *muah*

happy birthday Nicolette.

Happy Birthday Nicolette

Happy Birthday Nicolette! Have yourself a fantastic day!

And people with accounts with under 5 posts and under cannot start new recommendations threads (i.e. in the recommendation section) on the board.

Happy birthday beautiful.

May your day be purrrrrrfect! Happy birthday :)

Happy Birthday Nicolette, I hope you have a wonderful day beautiful !

Happy Birthday Beautiful Lady!

Happy Birthday ... I hope you hav a great long weekend

Happy Birthday Nicolette have a good one

I don't justify it, I believe it's wrong and that it will hurt my spouse immensely if she finds out. I do it because, although I love my wife and want to spend the rest of my life with her, we are no longer compatible in bed. After 20 years of marriage she no longer needs it in her life. I, on the other hand need it regularly still. I tried going solo for a few years but it was not satisfying so eventually had to decide between an affair or a SP. With a SP, there was no commitment and not emotional. That was about 11-12 years ago and we still have a happy marriage, it's not perfect in the traditional sense but so far it's worked for me.

I'm with Mr. Green on this. I don't justify my behavior nor do I ask my wife, whom I love, to explain our complete lack of intimacy.

The passionate "I may die if I don't have sex with you right now" early phase of a relationship is wonderful but not sustainable. Later It becomes the " I'm tired and not necessarily horny but grandma took the kids to lunch at McDonald's" phase and that is where couples need to make decisions about their sex life. If too many small opportunities are not use to have sex it may be hard to get that back with time. Just my 2 cents!

Myself, I have been in relationships where the person was mentally/emotionally *actually* not even there... but the sex was fun... and the other way around.. and would opt for the emotional/house/mental support over the sex any day of the week. Polyamory... the word itself.. implies an emotional connection as well as a physical one.. a loving relationship.. and for the most part.. although a certain level of friendship develops between a client and who they see.. it is not the same as with one who shares your life... so polyamory doesn't really fit in this scenario.. but.. that's just me being picky <grin> If two people have found a way to make things work, and wish, for their own reasons, to be together...then they should be.. if it's 'above-board' and honest, even better. I know several people who would be much more comfortable if their partner chose to spend time with an SP/MP.. even on a regular basis, rather than cheat... and from what they say, it is much more to do with the fear of them developing an emotional relationship with someone else... with a 'professional'.. you don't get that.. at least, not at that same level...

I have the attention span of a gnat and quite frankly just quickly gazed at the responses. My two cents....if we could all just accept that sex is sex and love is love we would all be a lot happier! To me, if an emotional attachment is created, then it's cheating. Purely physical encounters mean nothing in the grand scheme of things!

If you prefer a massage that is more firm, something like a real RMT, I would suggest seeking another MA. There was no doubt that she is attractive and beautiful, but the massage is not therapeutic. I play lots of hockey and i like leaving with all my muscles relaxed, not just "the one". However, if you fancy a very light touch non therapeutic, then by all means she is your girl. I agree with the previous post, door fee normal, tips were pricey. No repeat for me.

Although at first I was the only one visiting her we do now see her (and her male partner) on a fairly regular basis. It was not part of the original plan but we both enjoy it very much. I quite enjoy seeing my husband with her and because I know the boundaries that come with seeing an escort, I'm not at all worried that this will go further. She is not a threat to my relationship with my husband because it is purely physical and not emotional. I love when he tells me how good it felt or how sexy he finds her. Keeping a sex life active and fresh after many years is one of the toughest things to do in a relationship... Seeing them actually helps us keep it fresh. It may seem odd or even completely baffling to some but I feel emotionally closer to my husband after he has been with her. You may be young but you've made me think about things ;). I've never really thought about it but I'm not sure that in all cases seeing an escort is infidelity. Some men are lazy at working on their marriage, 3 hockey leagues a week and not doing your family chores is not conducive to maintaining a healthy sex life with a tired partner. Those men may complain that "the wife" doesn't like sex or that the worse thing for a sex life is marriage when in reality they just need to step up, do their share and be there. I would have far less sympathy if that man decided to see an escort. But I also happen to believe that in a marriage there is a reasonable expectation that sex will be a part of the equation. There are many very good, loving and caring husbands out there that are not getting what they need sex wise from their wives. I know many women in their 40s and 50s that have lost interest in sex. It almost becomes a chore. It is no longer important to them. Having different sex drives is quite hard on a relationship as it can easily lead to frustration and resentment. Also, what if a man had a particular "thing" he really wants to try but knows that his wife wants nothing to do with that. He brings it up casually and quickly realizes that she thinks that it's not "normal", or it's gross. This can easily start consuming this man's thoughts. This is what was happening to me. I kept thinking about being with a woman and it was always on my mind. I'm not sure that in these cases seeing an escort is infidelity. Perhaps getting his physical needs met elsewhere makes him more happy on the home front. Sex and love are 2 very different things. You're right that human are fallible and the lines can get murky. I guess I've never really thought about it for myself. To me it is very very clear in my head. Seeing an escort is never about love. Of course because we are not emotionless robots I do care for her and I hope she is happy in her work life and personal life. I think that if a person seeing an escort develops more feelings they should probably step back and reevaluate the situation.

Most of us who offer this type of activity, are quote fine with a 'mix'.. perrrsonally I think that works best in most scenes.. save for those with a definite taste for it, as well as preferrrrence ;) As for the 'contract' thing... I don't think something that 'serious' needs to be implemented between a client and their Dom/Domme.. but certainly going into great detail about expectations/limits et al.. is. Whether via email, or a formal form to fill out.. benefits anyone involved for sure.I have had several people simply say they are into 'anything'.. hehe and have to admit, I took a bit of perrrrsonal pleasure in asking them to clarify then for me.. about some very specific types of 'taboo'/bdsm things.. to which they looked at me like I was nuts and almost screamed NO hahaha so.. guess they have limits after all <grin> Contracts between submissives and dominants have been around in all sorts of forms for centuries.. even today.. formal contracts are done up, outlining the expectations of (usually) both parties (or more if poly).. the date the contract was initiated, even the date (if applicable) that it expires. I have a few friends who proudly display theirs framed on living room walls :) You might be pleasantly surprised at all the wonderful and strange things out there ;)

Love and sex are two very different things. It's easy to judge from the perspective of a single 23 year old, (trust me I was there), but until you walk a mile (or 20 plus years) in someone elses shoes, be careful with the finger pointing ;) . Needs change and so do people. We do what we have to, to get by and live a balanced life, while maintaining balance around us.

Ah I remember being a 23 year old university student who knew everything! Very sure in my knowledge and beliefs. Then actual real life taught me way more! Be strong and let experience be your actual guide!

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I went there the other week to check out their swing. I couldn't find it, I guess it was broken, so I went home. Seemed like everyone else there didn't mind the swing was gone.

48. Lingerie leftovers So. Alotta Fagina and Anita Dickens-Hyde have left your home. You are spent. Three solid hours of cosplay, inflatable sheep, cookie dough debauchery, wrestling in a pudding filled wading pool and a film about donkeys have left you completely exhausted. Three days later when you recover and have finally commenced the cleanup, you notice a sheer lacy bra and a pair of exquisitely silky panties on the periphery of the scene of your greatest triumph. They do not match. What to do??? NO. Do not do that. That's just nasty. No. That too is nasty, and yes, I thought of it too, BUT I STOPPED BEFORE I PUT THE PLAN IN ACTION. Sicko. Yes. Yes you can wear the panties on your head for a brief time but ONLY if you pretend you are a masked Mexican wrestler OR the Silken Avenger. Okay, you can also use the bra as a dual coned headdress or a really large ears for your Silken Avenger outfit. You are not allowed to use the bra to augment the Masked Mexican wrestler personna. That's just silly. After you have done that. Make contact. Seriously. Don't wash the articles. Contact the providers and let them know that they have left the articles there. If they wish to retrieve them, keep them safe and do not cry when you have to let them go. If they don't, you have years of Silken Avenger adventures to keep the memories alive. Oh... and don't let the providers know about the Silken Avenger, the Masked Mexican wrestler or the dual cone heads. That's our little secret. 49. Pancakes. Did you know that you can eat these babies for supper AND serve them with bacon??? I was blissfully unaware of that until just recently. I mean really. Pancakes, maple syrup and bacon all on the same plate and served willy nilly during the course of the day??? Revofuckinglutionary. What does it have to do with the hobby? Um... duh. Are you a hobbyist? Do you want to be happy??? Pancakes, maple syrup and bacon make this hobbyist very happy. It's not all about sex you freakin' pervert. Unless you could mix it all up with an encounter. That would be AMAZEBALLS. Sticky?? Sure. Delicious? Absolutely. Hygenic? Meh. Two outta three ain't bad. 50. Wolverines. Nope. Don't even think about it. Hugh Jackman is ridiculously expensive to book for an encounter as your stunt double and live wolverines tend to pee, spray odiferous musk and are generally unwilling to take commands. They also have ill tempers and tend to be ummmm... bitey. Trust me. Wolverines and encounters do not mix.