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Remember too that it is possible (It has happened in the past) where the photos tin eye found are actual real photos of the lady, we have had actual content models who are escorts as well, photos from peoples personal photos that they used (I know it's silly) as a working photo as well but it does happen. We even once accused a PLAYB0Y model on EC for stealing photos from PLAYB0Y to pass off on her own, she sent a verification photo and she was the actual PLAYB0Y model. Ooops. So be sure not to actually ACCUSE anyone of using fake photos but it's ok to point out that they are found on other sites as 99.9% of the time it indicates fake photos.

The bottom line is that, under the new law, it is illegal to pay for sex in any way. And it applies to all of Canada. However, the new law is not enforced equally in all cities and provinces. In Vancouver, for example, the Vancouver Police Department has publicly stated that their enforcement efforts will be focused on underage prostitution, human trafficking, streetwalking, and pimping. Men seeing independent escorts as consenting adults will not be targeted. On the other hand, a guy in Medicine Hat was recently charged for seeing a prostitute in a hotel after contacting her on Backpage. Some cities, like Regina, have many Asian Massage Parlours. The police are fully aware that "extras" are being provided along with the massage. But as long as everyone is discreet and no one causes problems in the community, they turn a blind eye to it.

In my opinion, in this business I find it very applicable... I am, and I find most women in this business are; highly intelligent and don't fit into the proverbial "box" societal norms have laid out for us, thats why we became ladies of leisure to begin with. This business comes with very unique challenges in both professional and civilian life, and over the years i've come to find that the majority of established ladies in this lifestyle are above average intelligence, witty, fun and outgoing...all skills you need to be successful. From my own experience and observations, intelligent people like to spend time with other intelligent people, and they like to be stimulated mentally ( being able to converse at their own level, not having to dumb down coversations or get blank stares when they bring up a topic other than current events) and its a real turn off when your sexual partner won't or can't meet you on that level intellectually. Although we've evolved tremendously as a species, many human primal instincts remain including the fact that men are aroused visually, while women are more cerebral , i.e. talking and non verbal communications such as gestures to show interest and affection... if you are a sapiosexual and in this business, it can be difficult at times to find genuine connections as many potential clients simply don't understand this... (That is why you see a plethora of ladies complaining about short,curt or explicit communication... they aren't trying to be difficult, its simply a turn off... ) For myself, I've found that my best frolics are with those I've built real connections with; the gents who have taken the time to converse with me and are genuinely interested in spending quality time with me...those who actually want to get to know me as a person, and this is because I want to know them... Theres nothing I enjoy more then spending a few hours naked chatting about someones hopes,dreams, fears, family, pets, vacations, shows, songs, theories about whatever, problems and joys... Thats why I love this industry so much... it allows me to connect with people at a level that is hidden from most around them, a side they genuinely want to show however cannot due family and societal expectations and the roles that men especially must play. Actually communicating ( not just listening, but really hearing and engaging ) has enabled me to not only build lasting relationships that I value but also to learn from all these different experiences and outlooks which has given me such a widened perspective on life. As a sapiosexual , the knowledge and wisdom I've gained as a result are my most valued possessions, gems of insight if you will..in my eyes it is truly priceless and except for a select chosen few is virtually unattainable... I love that I'm an entrusted friend and confidant, and that my career is making people happy and fulfilled...the physical is just the icing on the cake compared to how I can literally blow your mind... I satisfy, mentally AND physically, which is what it's all about... "Great minds fuck each other"- "Sapiosexual" by ABSOUL

I am definately a sapiosexual.. I truly think that attraction is not something only physical, but also intellectual .. Someone that stimulates my brains will also stimulates my libido .. Intelligent people are also very curious by nature and curiosity leads to many possibilities in bed so of course it will be better in every ways possible ..

Most definitely! I've been with those who, at first glance, are a 10.. just stunningly attractive- and then they start talking and it all disappears, (almost as if their lack of inner beauty shows through.) And the opposite is true.. I've been with those who wouldn't be considered 'hot', just to find them become so as they talk. While intelligence certainly plays a role, I think how it's presented (attitude) has a lot more to do with how well it's perceived. ;)

Thank you, toine! I always appreciate your support, especially because you have such a good eye.

I entirely agree with you on this but I think committing is a very strong word when it comes to something as intimate as kissing with someone you've never met. I personally never commit to anything especially with patrons I've never met, I do enjoy kissing but I wouldn't feel comfortable kissing someone with poor dental hygiene and if I commit to that then I'd be failing to provide something I promised, I recently read a thread about how there's no contract between us companions and our guests and having to commit to kissing or any other activity does sound like a contract to me. I like how someguy phrased his question 'if kissing may be allowed' which is a nice way to discuss his preferences with the lady he's planning to visit without making her feel obligated to it. My suggestion for those that want to make sure kissing is offered is to offer the same kind of commitment you're expecting from your provider, make sure to have impeccable hygiene at the time of your session and if she offers mouthwash use it even if you think you don't need it or bring your own,the travel size bottles are awesome for that and they sell them everywhere. Happy Kissing! :makeout:

Most of the time I have read reviews and the reviewer had mentioned that the woman was a great kisser. Usually when I go see a new woman I would have communicated with her thru PM or email or twitter. I usually ask if they allow kissing or not. Many women don't kiss and some just love kissing. It is a personal thing with them. It all depends on your hygiene also and chemistry. Many times upon being brought into the room. the woman would usually hug and give a little kiss. A few times the kisses are very passionate. A couple of times, they just brought me to the couch and we would kiss passionately for a few minutes. These are signs that I am going to enjoy myself. But a few times I have dropped in on women that I had no previous contact with and they don't know who I am. I find these sessions sometimes awkward as I am shy and don't like to make the first move. A good sign that they don't kiss is if you try and they turn away or let you kiss their cheek. Several times I've had no kissing during the session, but at the end I asked if they kissed, and they all said that they did, but that they were waiting for me to make the first move. Then they would give me some nice kisses at the end before we left. Several of these girls I have returned for many visits and had great kissing and cuddle sessions with them. So question to you woman? How do you let the man know that you allow or do not allow kissing? Would you perfer not to kiss during the session but will if asked? Or only kiss if you feel some chemistry. Or never kiss at all? Should they guy ask if he can kiss you, or should he pucker his lips and hope you kiss him? lol Guy's Have you gone thru this awkward experience, do you make the first move? or are you too shy to?

I copied this article from this site. http://www.examiner.com/article/how-many-calories-do-we-burn-per-hour-during-sex As with any strenuous activity, having sex will burn calories. But it's one of the few activities that should be tiring and fun at the same time. This should excite you. Having sex can include both foreplay and/or intercourse (or coitus). Depending on the couple, different amounts of time are spent engaging in either or both activities. These results are in relation to a 200-lb. adult. One Hour of Intercourse One hour of intercourse will burn more calories than any other combination of sexual activity. A total of 385 calories will be burned if you and your partner can engage in coitus for 60 straight minutes. This is the hardest workout you can experience when having sex. One Hour of Foreplay Foreplay can include kissing, caressing, genital stimulation and oral stimulation. Basically, foreplay is anything that precedes intercourse. Sixty minutes of foreplay will invoke a great amount of stimulation from both partners, and can result in a decent number of burned calories. The average amount of calories burned from an hour of foreplay is 130. 30 Minutes of Foreplay, 30 Minutes of Intercourse Splitting the amount of foreplay and intercourse in the course of an hour will burn approximately 260 calories. The foreplay will burn about 65 calories in the first half-hour, and the intercourse will burn 195 calories in the second half-hour. 15 Minutes of Foreplay, 45 Minutes of Intercourse Some couples only need a little bit of foreplay to get aroused, followed by a longer session of intercourse. You will burn about 320 calories this way--30 calories for 15 minutes of foreplay and 290 calories for 45 minutes of intercourse. This is the second-highest amount of calories you'll burn in an hour of sex, after 60 straight minutes of intercourse. 45 Minutes of Foreplay, 15 Minutes of Intercourse Some couples need to spend more time engaged in foreplay, and don't last as long during intercourse. This is a perfectly healthy way to have sex, and you'll still burn quite a few calories. The amount of calories that you burn in 15 minutes of intercourse is about the same as what you would burn in 45 minutes of foreplay--approximately 97 calories for each. In an hour, you'll burn about 195 calories. Below are Some Just for Fun Facts for Humor Purposes Only: OPENING HER BRA: With both hands.................................. 8 Calories With one hand....................................12 Calories With your teeth.................................485 Calories PUTTING ON A CONDOM: With an erection..................................6 Calories Without an erection...........................3,315 Calories POSITIONS: Missionary...................................12 Calories 69 lying down...............................78 Calories 69 standing up..............................812 Calories Wheelbarrow................................216 Calories Doggy Style..................................326 Calories Italian chandelier..........................2,912 Calories ORGASMS: Real........................................112 Calories Fake..........................................1,315 Calories POST ORGASM: Lying in bed hugging.............................18 Calories Getting up immediately.........................36 Calories Explaining why you got out of bed immediately...816 Calories GETTING A SECOND ERECTION: If you are: 20-29 years......................................36 Calories 30-39 years......................................80 Calories 40-49 years.....................................124 Calories 50-59 years...................................1,972 Calories 60-69 years...................................7,916 Calories ***** 70 and over........................Results are still pending DRESSING AFTERWARDS Calmly..........................................32 Calories In a hurry.......................................98 Calories With her father knocking at the door..........5,218 Calories With her husband knocking at the door......8,775 Calories With your wife knocking at the door..........13,521 Calories Results May Vary ===================================== So based on your average encounters, how many calories do you estimate that you burn :) My estimate is based on this 30 Minutes of Foreplay, 30 Minutes of Intercourse 265 + 200 estimated calories, so about 500 calories per hour. Could be more depending on the woman :) Let's have fun with this, how many do you think your burn during an hour :)

Just wanted to know what your definition or experience is with seduction. Seducing or being Seduced. This seems to be a lost art these days, most of the time it is, you meet a new woman, take a shower and start having sex and then it is over. For me the seduction starts at the email or chat, where you get to know the woman before you meet her, You learn about her and she about you. There is chemistry between you before you even know what each other looks at. She tries to entice you by her words at what she will do to you. Then you make your date, and the anticipation between the time you meet becomes unbearable. When the door opens she hug and kiss like you already know, she holds your hand and brings you into the room, while looking deeply into your eyes. You start with a bit of wine and little chit chat, while you stare at her eyes. A little bit of touching of the arm or cheeks thru out the getting to know each other period. Then the first kiss, a little kiss, that leads to deeper kissing, then the slow caressing of each other's body as you each get excited. As the clothing drops, you start exploring each other's body with you lips tongues and hands. More kissing and , sucking of each others nipples, tongues in each other mouths and ears. Then passionate love making. Then post-coital cuddles and kissing. More talking, and maybe a shower together. Then time to get dress. The good bye is long and full of hugs and kisses. At this point in time, you know you will be back again and again. Not many girls do this, I have found several that MA's that still practice this art, not to the extent of my example above, but they seduce you first with their minds then their bodies :) So far most of them are Ex or current CMJ MA's. I've mentioned them before in other threads. They offer an experience like no others and are all strictly MA's. Being seduced is fun. Or maybe I am just easy :) Let's here your thoughts of the art of seduction, Have you experience it, What do you think seduction is?

"Please fondle my buttocks" From the Hungarian-English phrasebook sketch.

The picture with the crossed legs shows up on a Hong Kong site via TinEye.

For me, a woman is at her most seductive when she's at her most vulnerable. I'm not one of those men who can be taken by a brute force approach. But, vulnerability is my achilles heel. It brings out my protective instinct, and she really doesn't have to do much after that. I'm more or less, helpless.

Dropped on the way to the Sens game and was served by Jenny across the bar. It was fun seeing her adapt successfully from another perspective. All good. The game was not. 4 to 2 for the Leafs and the CTC was dominated by Leaf fans and what looked like a sea of Blue. I have to admit I was surprised but understand the phenomenon. Waiting for the men's room......

I was having a CR session with my ATF dancer on her last day of dancing at Barb's and over the piped-in CR soundtrack came an obscure song that she very consistently used for her stage routines one summer a number of years ago when I was first falling under her spell. (Perhaps not altogether coincidental though, the DJ may have put it in the mix to mark the occasion.) It was simultaneously stimulating and nostalgic to hear it in that situation. Instantly recalled years of memories. "Yes Boss" - Hess is More.

Uh Vacation time from Nunavut soon. Can not wait to hit up the fax as I do every time I am on vacation

I'm not saying she no longer loves to play with a girl or two (or three!) from time to time; I expect she does. But no more curly hair - she's gone for the Cleopatra look!

My latest session with JackieGilcrest can be best described with this song: The Corrs - Breathless You can read my reco about her too. https://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=225764&page=3

Works for me :icon_biggrin: "Give me a deep conversation or a passionate debate over brainless beauty any day. Someone who makes me reconsider my long-held beliefs and challenges my mind is a person I can easily fall for. There is no doubt that I'm a sapiosexual."

This is indeed a tendency for some and I include myself. Frankly we all know how to self pleasure but seek more. So for me it is an interaction with a whole woman that is of interest. Intelligent conversation and intelectual curiosity in a woman makes me feel more comfortable and compatible; like we are jointly exploring rather than me simply self-indulging. That offers a much more satisfying experience. I am also more comfortable with the ethics and discretion of intelligent women, although I may to be justified in that. I highly recommend the memoirs of Casanova which are available in English translations on the internet. Women liked and bedded him because he loved and respected the company of women. I believe he was sapiosexual. These quotes may explain: Henriette could not open her lips without my discovering some fresh perfection, for her wit delighted me even more than her beauty. .. The happiness which filled me, if I can express it in that manner, was much greater when I conversed with her even than when I held her in my arms. She had read much, she had great tact, and her taste was naturally excellent; her judgment was sane, and, without being learned, she could argue like a mathematician, easily and without pretension, and in everything she had that natural grace which is so charming. She never tried to be witty when she said something of importance, but accompanied her words with a smile which imparted to them an appearance of trifling, and brought them within the understanding of all. In that way she would give intelligence even to those who had none, and she won every heart. Beauty without wit offers love nothing but the material enjoyment of its physical charms, whilst witty ugliness captivates by the charms of the mind, and at last fulfils all the desires of the man it has captivated.

I know it's a typo BUT... "one of the pictures is flake", I chuckled

And speaking of Judy Garland (Meet Me in St. Louis), I just discovered her in another terrific Christmas movie this past year, In the Good Old Summertime. Doesn't sound Christmassy, but it is! Garland introduced the song "Merry Christmas" (not to be confused with "Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas", which she introduced in Meet Me in St. Louis!!). Buster Keaton is another reason to watch this gem.

I'm hoping to share in an experience with a mature companions. Preferably someone over 35. I find older women sexy and they also seem to have a better sense of what it means to be passionate. A tame fantasy perhaps but the experience hopefully won't be.

I've always liked the idea of simultaneous finishes... Does that count as a fantasy? Happened with my wife maybe 3 times EVER in 33 years together.

@ Prufrock Cummings I actually saw 10 random ads provided by BP now that the ad is gone... Your not understanding how BP works is actually a compliment to you. I hate these inane threads on lyla seeking info on random, often fake, BP ads. Perhaps I need to train myself to simply ignore them. I have been looking at them on the off-chance I can share intel on a lovely lyla woman.

I guess "I didn't write a reco" isn't a strong enough sentence anymore. Read the yellow text at the very top of this website.

Get the east end MA's busier and more will move there. We don't appear to have too many in central/west Ottawa as they're not leaving. Besides, if there's a deficit of MA's in the east end that doesn't necessarily mean there are too many in the west! Location doesn't really matter to me (though rush hour timing does....) by the time I've driven to Kanata I'll gladly continue on to downtown or the east end.

Some asked how do you find out if she allows kissing or not, I try this from the movie Hitch, I go 90% of the way and let her come the last 10%, if she does not go then I know there is no kissing. Here is the scene from the movie if you never seen it Is it fair to say that if she advertise GFE that kissing will be allowed, I would say yes.

I join the chorus to say that when kissing occurs it accentuates everything else that occurs physically as well as emotionally, as it feels so much more intimate. At the same time, it is for this very reason that some women may prefer not to kiss. And of course, kissing should not be expected as a given and the ���� rule applies as always as it is at the woman's discretion. I would clear it with the lady, if possible before we meet and if OK would start slowly to allow her to show her preferences as well. Found this quote below that raises some points why kissing may not always be accepted by all. One way or another there is always a reason. "Some escorts prefer to take kissing off of their services lists, because they have a partner or significant other who may feel uncomfortable with a stranger kissing his or her sweetheart. Kissing is deemed as one of the most intimate acts between two people, as it involves the mouth, tongue, breath and intense skin contact. Engaging in sexual ����������� is one thing, but kissing is something entirely different reserved strictly for intimate partners." (Skipthegames.com)

I love kissing but because I advertise primarily massage, the kissing activities are kept for those I have built a rapport with in my companionship services. I have noticed a trend where men I have met for massage tend to set boundaries with intimacy..many aren't that comfortable with those activities so I prefer to build a rapport with people first and then if it happens, it happens. But I do love kissing....

I know this has been covered, but without kissing, what's really the point of all the rest. For me, this hobby is about intimacy. I realize that this is precisely why some providers would prefer not to kiss, but for me it really is crucial. Without it, no matter how great everything else might be, I'll be disappointed with the session. It doesn't rule out a repeat, as I've found with some providers kissing gets better over time, but it definitely makes it less likely.

I love kissing! I enjoy when a man has full soft lips with tiny nibbles! The sweetest thing ever.

I have found when I initiate contact with a woman. I politely ask if kissing may be allowed during a session if there is chemistry or connection. And most of them replied that they may allow kissing or some will say not at all and that they are saving kissing for some one special, which I understand. I usually also try to get to know them a bit thru pm or emails which allows us to feel more comfortable when we first meet. I've been very lucky and have met mostly women that allow some kissing and have many that allow a lot of kissing. A few times I did not make the first move and found out at the end of the session, that she would have kissed me but did not want to make the first move :( But then they would give me a nice passionate kiss, maybe in hope that I will come back. If they are a really good kisser and I had a good time. I probably would make a return visit some day :0

I absolutely love kissing, but as others have said, there has to be chemistry and a basic level of comfort. It is really something that I want to talk about with the MA in advance, to insure that I understand what she is comfortable and interested in.

When I first make contact with a woman these days. I ask them if they may allow kissing during the session. They either say they don't kiss at all or depends on chemistry. So if there is a chance that she may allow kissing I may take a chance. If there is no kissing at all, I will probably not see her unless she is highly recommended. But like many of the older men here, Kissing is a big part of the experience that we are looking for. We all need human contact and passion in our lives. Touching and skin to skin contact is great. But without the kissing it becomes mechanical. Nothing turns me on more then a nice long passionate kiss. Don't need a tongue down my throat either, but a little tongue roaming is nice :)

All you have to do is ask lol Most ladies ( i would think ) if they offer GFE they offer kissing I could not ever think of being on a date without kissing it would be like getting a chicken caesar salad without the chicken .. just not right .. if you see me you better love to kiss .. and i mean DFK xox

I agree with OP sentiments and think they're most applicable in massage because there's such a wide range of experiences provided in these sessions (and where y.m.m.v. seems to play a big part). For me, I love kissing and it really makes (or breaks) a massage session. I've done a number of CMJ intro sessions - they're fun and a great way to see if you want to book regular sessions with a hostess. Most of my conversations have been pretty casual, though, as I never thought to ask more direct questions ("do you like to kiss?", "would you rather spank or be spanked?", "so other than gay rape porn, is there anything else that turns you on?"). Now that I know better, next time I'll be more playful. :)

Ask before trying anything with the other person. I think the other person would truly value that about yourself and it would show great respect :)

For me, passionate kissing is very important... it's a huge turn on and makes our time together more genuine and unforgettable. I have met ladies who are not into kissing, they prefer light kissing which is fine but will make me think twice before rebooking. I totally agree with the ladies and gents who replied above, communication is key and it's better to ask before making the move :)

I want to thank you right away for broaching this subject. Kissing, like many other activities that happen within session, is best to ask for consent before taking action. If a MA is respectfully asked before actions are taken, everyone will have a good time. If she feels like she is control and can opt in or out, rather than being pounced at, she will get more into the situation. If you are concerned this is "not sexy" there is always the option of intro sessions. For a small investment you can meet the girl and discuss what her limitations are so you can make a decision if whether the full package (personality, looks, limitations) is what you are interested in.

Can't really add more! I also LOVE kissing as part of the building up but.. Bad breathe is a killing for me. Especialy smokers one... Please rinse your mouth and dont smoke right before appointment! I dont smoke so I dont have pleasure kissing a ashtray.. Lol

I won't kiss a man who has a rough beard, bad breath, or lesions in the buccal area. Or bad hygiene in general, which is not your case. As stated in your comment, chemistry plays a big part, and interpretation of the act is also a factor (one may kiss you on the couch for 10 mins before entering the main course, as another will kiss you all action long. There's also the whole BS bullshit. But all and all, don not take everything you read for granted. You may be mislead.

I am upfront on my website about what I offer and do not offer, and I remind my guests during our first session together. If at any point a gentleman is unclear about something, I find it very respectful when he asks me. I dislike the "I'll just go for it and see if she stops me" approach. Please, just ask. Communication is key to a wonderful experience together!

I'm a bit shy about asking or to pucker up and approach a kiss in the event of a refusal, it's a tough turn down to accept and I don't like the rejection. I always appreciate the lady to do the first move or I will only do it if I have read in her review that she loved kissing.