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Here's a little graphic I made up years ago for situations just like this.

Cato! I owe you waaaaay more than a beer! The thing I most want to congratulate you for is not so much the quantity of your posts but on their quality and contribution to our Lyla/Cerb community. You are a star, a positive one, and a tremendous contributor. I'm (still) looking forward to connecting with you at Barb's!

Tonight at barbarella s untill 12 am Then monday to friday ! Please note i will be tryin pigale soon ! Many updates on my website too!

No debate after this :)

Hey Miss Pandora, I'm no expert here...very new in fact but if it's any help I can tell you what I would be looking for. The name is a bit irrelevant...if you're still offering domination keep it...if not, then you can change or keep it, I wouldn't stress over that. What I generally look for is a current ad somewhere...the reco section is nice to find a lady but I think there's just too many in there and some might not be taking new clients, some may have retired...it's just not a reliable way to find someone (it's good to validate once you've found someone you're interested in...). I suggest you list your ad on this site (ads section or schedule announcement section) or on the other popular ad site...The information I look for in an ad is: clear pictures, description (height, weight, etc), in or out, availabilities, LOCATION TYPE (this is huge for me, whether it's a hotel, private apartment, spa...) and if your willing to list, rates (this is helpful to accelerate the hobbyist's research). If there are any restrictions, list it and stick to it. When I see something like "safe only" I expect the lady to stick to it and I'm not offended by restrictions, it just reduces the possibility of getting a surprise once you show up. The more info you give the less back and forth texting is required and it saves everyone's time but I understand if there are somethings you prefer to not post publicly... If you offer something that is unique or hard to find...make sure you indicate that the option is available...that will definitely make you stand out vs other ads. so basically...as far as im concerned it's about visibility (the ads), level of information (details of your ad) and of course, recommendations (to make sure what's claimed in the ad is legit..) hope this helps...good luck with the change in service!

I think it was because Windsor had a bad rep in the past with bylaw before the laws changed and barely anyone offered incalls as a result. I've been told outcalls are popular there but this is why I never visited for this reason. I don't do late nights and outcalls. Unless incalls became more prevalent there, it may take a while before you see a change.

Went to see Licia today. This is one of those ads I was very skeptical about, but super glad that I went. Her rates is reasonable, and communication made me feel comfortable, she sounds very real. She did get pretty pissed when I had to delay our date, I feel it was very personal and cute in my eyes. Location is about 20 mins from downtown Halifax, in lakeside. Be patient with the front door, u only pull it after u see the message on the screen telling u to do so. I buzzed 3 times to get the hang of it and it was freezing... Apartment is nice, lots of her things, she has cats, we played in her bedroom, nice big bed, a mirror on the side, quite small but if the angle is right it can bring extra sensation. She is 5'1, petite little thing perfectly proportioned I thought she was 5'10 before she opened the door. Her breast is super nice perky and soft, super small waist, snow white skin, cute little feet, bouncy and perfectly shaped butt, and I did spend quite some time there. Ask her about the details Id say she is very accommodating. She is very into the entire play, very good at what she does, non rushed, she is one of those girls who understands man and what they want, and very attentive at that. I asked for a position that I thought most girls don't like but she made me feel like it's something she wants to do, when her big beautiful green eyes look into my eyes, those were the more and more rare moments that I feel living in the moment. I was very impressed. I couldn't wait to jump into the finale, so instead of her asking I asked for the condom. The few positions we tried, I was very content because of her perfect fun size, I'm a shorter person at 5'8 so she made me feel more complete being able to reach all of her when I feel it. She has silky soft hair felt great in my hands... it's just a beautiful scene whichever angle you look at her. Even though she does not advertise as a gfe but this is more gf than lots of my previous experiences, she touches and hugs, the entire experience was sensual and intimate. I told her I am sensitive so she was super gentle with that area lots of soft touches that felt sooo good, and that's just a gesture you can't help appreciating. Her face is pretty, late 20s I'd say, independent, and I'd definitely repeat and recommend anyone who is interested in seeing her. Ps, she likes it gentle. Be gentle and have a good time!

Greetings Cerbians ... I must confess to harbouring a secret these past few months, ie the lovely Candy. http://ottawa.backpage.ca/FemaleEsco...cture/43719234 I am surprised that no one has reviewed this lovely sweetheart yet, so allow me to break the ice. I can vouch for the fact that the pictures on her ad are definitely of her, although she looks much younger, sweeter, and more lovely in person. She was based Downtown from September until recently, and was conveniently located between my place and some frequent haunts. Also she was located across from a store with an ATM machine and ample parking, which I used a couple of times on cold winter nights when I was in a hurry and wanted to keep the boys warm. Her Love Nest was an easy 5 minute walk from my Crib, and even faster biking distance, all depending on the lights and the need to cash up, of course. All these factors, plus the fact that she is devastatingly beautiful, created a perfect storm of visits since she first graced the neighbourhood a few scant months ago. Strangely, I am no closer to understanding Candy than the day we first met. She is very intriguing, a mystery shrouded by riddle and wrapped in enigma. Candy has a restricted menu with me ... no kissing, BBBJ, or DATY, although others' mileage may vary. Still, I love her and we get along well. Candy does have a pleasant disposition and a lovely slender frame. Her skin is soft and smells nice, and she is very gentle. This lovely butterfly has fluttered down in Kanata. No doubt her phone is buzzing as the lucky lads try to get dates with this winsome beauty. She does have some protection, though, a little puppy who will kill you with cuteness. So there it is, gentlemen. Candy is a sparkling diamond in our midst. My loss may be your gain. Carpe Diem.

Good evening ladies and gents! While I have been a service provider for a little while now, I am quite new to the escort-related section of the internet. A little about me: Outside of this world I am a belly dancer and pole dancer, and I dabble a little in theatrics and performing. My dream is to become a burlesque showgirl! Anyway, I look forward to meeting you all and networking with you :) xoxo Venus Reign

I prefer a landing strip, but a light dusting is fine by me

Congrats Cato; I especially appreciate your posts in social groups. I never get to Barbs-some guy always monopolizes my choices.

Anyone have any experience? http://backpage.com.halifax.listcrawler.com/post/20440430/

I was watching you getting close:) Congratulations, no small feat with everything else going on in this world. Thanks for your interest, camaraderie and bringing a bit of fun into our day.

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Actually the very first time I saw your name I thought, Great! I found myself a mistress (lover). Then when I read your ad I discovered a whole new world I had not considered. Which was intimidating. Another story for another time. Why would you want to change your name on Lyla.com? Since"Mistress" has more than one meaning, like, "secret lover". Which is kind of more fitting. (From an older gentlemans point of view). "He has a mistress (lover)." or "She is a kept woman - a mistress." The word or term "mistress" is interchangeable - "dominatrix" or "lover". Depending on how the individual interprets the word. Just my two cents of ramblings. Cheers,

I am not sure a completely new name is the way to go, especially if your current name already has a positive rep associated with it. One website with 2 distinct webpages is all you need. That way some clients have option to have both? I got one would not be scared off

A definite milestone, indeed. Thank you, Cato for being a valued member of Lyla. I always enjoy reading your posts, and here's to many more!

Hi Lyla, It's been a while since I've been active on here but I came to announce an exciting re-launch happening in a few weeks (mid March 2017) along with some new photos that I've posted on the imagery page of my website! I hope you enjoy! For more, follow me on Twitter www.alexandra-sky.com

As a bisexual woman, I'm personally attracted to the full bush on other women. Especially those who have dark colored hair! I am indifferent about my own style. I keep shaved/bald as it seems to be the most popular among clients. For men I like the look of hair, but for practicality reasons I suppose shaved is more convenient. This is assuming everyone keeps good hygiene, of course!!

I had a big disappointment a few weeks ago (of a very different nature). She made up for it the next week and I actually think I know what happened.

This may be said in jest so sorry if I misread, but in case it isn't: It is unlikely a provider will physically be unable to eat if you cancel, but you have to understand YOU are providing the income. She's not paid hourly. There's no business to pay her. As well, you just ruined a chunk of her time that she can now no longer use for appointments unless maybe she miraculously gets a last minute call... but that's rare, so assume what you did was rip away her income for that day and then make it difficult to make back that money. As well... providers charge high rates as this is a luxury service. It does not mean she's getting 10+ guys a day and a freaking millionaire. It could mean she's getting maybe one a day and living off essentially minimum wage. Who knows, and who cares... but the point is if you cancel, yes, you are hurting her financially... in more ways than just your missing payment. Sadly too many gents do not understand this and throw hissy fits when asked for cancellation fees- sometimes shit happens and girls will let it slide but empathy should be felt if a girl asks for a cancellation fee. Many business make you pay them, so I find it odd the entitlement felt ESPECIALLY in this business. :/ And thanks to all the gents that do understand this conundrum and either cancel with enough time for the girl to replace your appointment, or pay a fee if it's too last minute. Y'all make the world go round. :)

Actually a have a huge variety of pictures, some are older and reason being is I get many many requests for certain outfits in those pictures that I still currently have and wear when requested but if you look at my profile and website the dates are on my pictures. My most recent albums posted on my profile/website were taken July 1st and October 10th of 2016. My most recent recommendation just on here alone was in January 2017. I do have a photo shoot at the end of this month so a new picture album will be available early March. I hope I've enlightened you with regards to your questioning my numerous pictures/albums, dates of them and the reason why I keep a variety of the past and present. I like to refer to my albums as "The history of Lexy" I do realize and take in to account that you both are fairly new members with not many posts/contributions to the board and may not have done your full research regarding me, my pictures/correct dates they've all been taken and my numerous recommendations on here being so new to Lyla. All that information along with links are located on my profile, ads and my website. As a long time member of this board and community since 2009, I am a highly trusted, reputable and very established companion. So welcome, have fun and enjoy this wonderful community! All the best, Lexy Grace (Lexy with a "Y"):icon_wink:

I agree with Sophia here in NOT promoting lades that are clearly not a part of this group. If someone wants a recommendation of someone who is strictly on BP and not on Lyla, then it is up to that person to find out for themselves. I, for one, would gladly pay a monthly fee to be part of a group where we can have these open discussions. Why should this site support those that don't want to be a part of this? I've been contacted in the past about other girls having a listing here, and they 'can't be bothered'. But they will pay to have their ads on BP. I have ads on BP and several other sites, but I get more feedback and a better quality of gentlemen from here. There are too many rip-off artists on BP, at least here on Lyla, we are protected from this sort of thing. Things have changed from the threads that I have been reading from before I joined this. It seems that the governments 'wandering eye' has taken a lot of people out of the game. This is entertainment, and as such we should be free to choose to offer this. This is a great site, I've looked at others and still am here. Keep up the good work Lyla, I love it here.

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That she did, honey color and fun to play with !

I like to call it a hat trick.

I'm a new member and just wanted to introduce myself. This appears to be a respectful place and I've enjoyed reading the many contributions.

welcome cltaesl001 , there is a TON of great info here. Read the FAQ, use the Search function and there are quite a few threads that answer questions most newbies have Have fun!

Whoohoo. Love you and your posts. Congratulations!!

Great topic Summer, thank you for starting it, I've learned so much! How do I find out what really pleases a lady and what she actually likes or dislikes? (In person, not on the phone/email) Things like to be stroked here, touched there, don't whisper the word "bongo" in my left ear. I've tried various ways of asking and I'm often told "Whatever you like". I'm a giver and take direction well - what I really like/get off on is to please a lady! My perfect encounter is leaving knowing that she was pleased. Also, how do I find out what I'm doing right, and more importantly, wrong?: faster, slower, harder, softer, more to the left, ow! you're knee is on my long hair, the left one needs some attention too, etc.

I have been a sexual creature right from the beginning of womenhood. It is a natural way for me to be. Men and women. Practice does help, you learn how to slow it down or speed it up. I learned men are visual creatures, so by giving him a nice view can allow you to get him aroused much easier. Also, I learned many men in their home life is missing the " nasty or playful" aspect of sex, so I try to fill that fantasy for them as I know he is not getting that at home, such as squirting, ball licking, dirty talk.

Very well said Roamingguy. YMMV has to be included in everything because we are all individuals. What one person views in one way, another my view completely different. Not only that but even two people together can interact different depending on the day and the activity. This is part of what makes being human special. Extraordinary experiences that are never the same twice (even if they kinda are). To me, being with someone is about connection, pleasure, joy and fun. There are certain factors such as hygiene, nail care and respect that lend themselves in major ways to the experience you can have with someone. After that it's also about the person and how you relate. You may have said you do a certain thing but then realize that an adjustment is needed due to things like height, weight, cock size etc. You may expect one thign but get another. that doesn't necessarily make it negative or bad, just different and sometimes in a great way. The best encounters for me are the ones where someone wants to be with me and is interested in exploring with me. They don't have a lot of expectations besides enjoying their time and things flow naturally. I love when you can be lustful and passionate and also playful and joyous. Sex is bloody enjoyable...whoop it up! Additional Comments: I'm looking forward to Savannah's answer (if she wishes) on your question Chuck. For me, I couldn't be in this industry without genuine caring, desire and want. Everyone has something wonderful and beautiful about them and seeing that in every person is an amazing thing. Discovering what makes someone beautiful, amazing and sexy is intoxicating to me and I love when I'm allowed to fully express that.

Excellent question as us ladies come into this for different reasons and leave for our own reasons too!!! For me, I originally got into it for the thrill factor, the fantasy factor and the plain and simple fact that I absolutely love sex. However, that has changed slightly for me... But for the better!!! I still love the thrill, the fantasy, and oh yes the sex!!! But I have also discovered a way to use my ability to connect with people in a very real and passionate way. I absolutely thrive on these connections, and find these interactions as emotionally and mentally good for me as I'm told it is for my clients. I have met some amazing women who I may not have had the chance to otherwise -- and continue to meet wonderful people. And I have also discovered my ability to become financially independent and stable -- something that hasn't always come easy to me :) So really, my answer is that I'm not sure. But I won't be going anywhere in the foreseeable future. :)

I am a straight forward person and I like those who I deal with to be the same. No one has to be crude but tip toeing through the tulips about questions, do's and don'ts is silly. Just ask! Most of us can tell when a question is being asked out of sincerity and for learnedness and when one is being used for perversion or a guy just being a pig. Having knowledge of both parties boundaries, likes and dislikes, do's and don'ts will only imo lead to a more successful and enjoyable time and I think very helpful. There can still be mystery after all, especially with a new client , his looks, characteristics, smell, abilities are all going to be things to look forward to and unknown until you meet, even with a known client a session can be like you've never met-new again. They are what we- client and sp- make them after all;) Additional Comments: Tell your friend fear not. Did you know that sometimes an sp can feel intimidated and not good enough as well. We too are human;) but also very caring and I'll speak for myself - I'd rather have you walk away feeling better as a man because I made you feel better mentally about yourself rather than you walking away thinking damn she gave great head! I know what it's like to feel insecure, uncomfortable and unsure. Pleasuring someone is easy making someone feel confident, secure and comfortable takes genuine care and concern. All clients should know their comfort in all aspects is the goal of an sp. We aren't here to judge we want to get to know YOU and make you feel glad you came;)

This is a great question! For me, the answer has nothing to do with anything remotely "sexual". Conversation, conversation, conversation!!! Before and after :) I absolutely love the conversation before, and consider it the greatest of foreplay. I also absolutely love the cuddling at first quiet, and then relaxed conversation afterwards. In regards to the "in between" conversation time ;)... I appreciate when a gentleman is genuine. Enjoys himself, immerses himself in the moments with me. :)

I love discussing desires, wants and needs prior. It gives me an idea of the gentleman and what he enjoys. Just because I know things beforehand doesn't mean that our date is scripted in ANY way but it's much easier to follow the flow of desire if I know that you might enjoy this or that and you're giving indications of wanting that as opposed to stopping in the middle to ask and then determine boundaries. I have discussed some things ahead of time only to have desire lead in a completely different direction during. Knowledge is simply a basis on which to build mutual exploration!

Great thread, great question, great answers! It is, in a word...terrific. ;) I'm curious how ladies feel if a potential client mentions their particular turn-ons and sexual preferences ahead of a first encounter (assuming it's not in an overly crass way, of course). Is that kind of information ahead of time helpful in terms of preparing for a better encounter and knowing if there's likely to be chemistry? Or is it presumptuous and off-putting? Or put it another way: if a potential client is interested in knowing if you enjoy/offer a given activity, is there a "best" way to ask?

What a wonderful thread, I've enjoyed reading all the responses. For me, I got tired of always giving my best to companies that didn't deserve it. I love sex, sensuality and intimacy and had a couple people tell me that I would do well doing this. My first few encounters were definite learners and I really enjoyed that aspect and the thrill during preparations, still do. I started out mostly as massage but found that while I loved it, I also loved more so now I do a free for all. I love pleasing and experiencing and meeting new people. I especially love connecting with them and as Savannah has said, it's those connections forged over time that make things better and better. I don't shy away from emotions, you can care for someone with no strings or expectations, as long as everyone is honest about boundaries. I love communicating and exploring with someone over a longer period of time. Finding new sensations and interests and sexual/sensual pleasure. There are so many amazing people in this industry and I've enjoyed getting to know them and learning from them. It is rough when it seems like there is back stabbing or undermining going on especially if you're not completely aware of the depths of it. There is so much stigma in the industry you want to believe that everyone watches everyone else's back. Thankfully I've been blessed with a couple friends who fully support me and think it's great. One of the hardest parts for me is when people just fade away. If they have been a connection especially and then nothing, you're left wondering. this isn't an industry where there is feedback on improvement or cheat sheets on market. lol. I have had amazing experiences, ones that I continue to think about and that make me smile. Not only experiences but people. I think anyone thinking about trying things out as a hobbyist should just do some research to find someone they are drawn to and then jump in and enjoy. We're all just people and out of all the women in the world, SP's understand and support the need, fear, desire, longing, anxiety etc. and make you feel alright.

I always think it is like getting ready for a performance, on stage lol. But it is more like when i taught fitness classes. It starts at a certain time, which is coming up soon, everything prepped and ready to go, and people who are counting on you to not disappoint them lol.

As Joy says...ask away! Yes, my first orgasm was with a client! I had a very very hard time to get there in my personal life, and yet here a client did it for me! I was shocked, and it took me till 5 years later when for the first time it is my BF that get's me there rather then a client. This is somewhat normal, as with a client we do not have the baggage of our day, life etc...so relaxing to have the big O I think is the key!

Some of my most valued friendships are with other providers. Partly it is due to the stigma of being a sex worker -- very few of my civilian friends know what I do, so it has been invaluable to have those friendships where I can vent about frustrating situations and ask for opinions from others in the industry. And, it's not a secret that I offer duos with one of my best friends. It makes the chemistry that much better, that we connect on a level where we are comfortable with each other (and, lesbihonest ;) I think she's hot) and I think it shows in our sessions together.

What would you say to a guy that would love to visit an SP but feels very intimidated and don't think he is good enough! (lol....And of course I am asking for a friend!! ) ;)

This is a great question. In going to be honest here so no judgments lol I was scared. I was a dancer for a long time and SPs are often looked down on by them. When I made the leap I was expecting to hate it. I wanted to be disgusted, I wanted to be ashamed. But guess what? I wasn't and that scared me. It's been an awakening for me in many ways. I an finally able to admit to people that I enjoy being sexually empowered. I can finally be proud of it and be able to have a venue to express it. It's scary to go against societal norms but it can be so freeing too.

It is a very fine line and one that must always be re-defined and re-established. For myself personally, I prefer to get to know my clients on a deeper level. I encourage conversation and sharing prior to appointments and continued communication after the fact. For me, this deeper connection improves the time we spend together for me as much as for them. As humans, we have emotions. And I have learned over the years that human connection and emotions are something that I require. I have also learned not to let emotions control me. I feel what I feel, but I always keep things in perspective. This is just what works for me :)