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Even though I'm not a SP (although I play one on TV - sorry, bad 80's humor), I may be able to chime in with info I know. I've spent many-a-night texting with a friend who works regularly (I would usually drive her home, so I needed to know when she was wrapping up for the night, etc.). We would text throughout the nights and I got a pretty good feel for the flow of clients/when it was slow, etc. I can't count how many nights she would be upset and want to go home early because nobody was booking or even texting. I've seen her go full nights with only one client....seen slow weeks, etc. But I've also seen really busy nights, where she would go home early cause the night was so good. I've seen nights that even shocked her (and she isn't new to the business), they were that good. First off.....I will say, do not, in any way, take it personally (even though that's probably pretty hard to do) - do not allow slow times to mess with your mental physique. I've seen your pics on this site and can say you are very hot (and I'm one who usually goes for the spinner type). You ooze a certain unobtainable sexuality (I see it come through in your pics) - YOU'RE fine, trust this...... Now, as for why there may be slow times.... 1. End/Start of the month - bill time = less spending money. In the same vein, you may see a slow-down around "spending times" ......like when school supplies are being bought or Christmas. 2. Concentration of competing ads due to time of year. For instance, this nicer weather is bringing out more girls, expecting more business. Summer is busier than winter, etc. 3. Quality of competing ads - sometimes there will be an influx of girls coming from out of town/new girls, which draws clients away from local girls. The guys really like trying something new sometimes.....which leads me to..... 4. This business (like the bar/restaurant business) is pretty circular. I used to own a couple bars and had the same feelings I think you are displaying. Why was the bar so dead this month....what are we doing wrong?? If you spend any regular time in bars downtown, you will see this pattern of highly busy....then a taper-off, then back to busy. People like change in their entertainment and tend to follow others.....if a bar is the hot spot, it's the hotspot because it's the hotspot. If it's dead, it's because it isn't known as the hotspot of the month and people walk in and end up leaving cause there is nobody there. This slightly transfers over to the escort world in the sense that there are just up and down times, depending on many factors like good/bad reviews, newness to the business, etc. If it's bad for you now, it will get better....and there will be down times again. :) 5. Location plays a factor too. If you use one location over and over that isn't the best in guys eyes, you may not see as much repeat business or if you book a hotel that is lower-end, etc. On the flip side, sometimes staying in a different spot/higher end place will comfort the client more so, bringing in more business. Sometimes, after a clients sees you in a "good" location, they may be more apt to visit in a less than stellar location the next time. Perceptions/familiarity play a role. 6. How much you work. Obviously, if you are available/advertise all the time, there is no "rush" to try and see you and you will tend to feel the effects of the circular pattern more. If you work, say, one or two days a month, those days WILL usually be busy. The escort I lived with only worked/advertised a couple days a month. In the days in-between, she would be contacted by a lot of regular clients....the odd time she would do an outcall, but didn't prefer outcalls. I've seen guys pay $100 more or even double the regular price to get to see her in the off weeks. A lot of the times, when she would go back to work, she had many clients already waiting for her return or even pre-booked. Unavailability is good sometimes, but not an attractive plan when things are slow, sadly - but it has to be done from time to time. 7. Ads and pics!!! Some men have the attention span of an after-dinner mint. Once they see your ad one time, they immediately form an opinion/choice in their head. So, every time they see that same ad, they think the same thing. If they get a positive opinion, you're set, but if you get bumped down to the "maybe" section or even the "no way" section, you are kinda stuck there. Adding new pics/different ad wording can sometimes shake it up and give those maybe/no way guys a chance to rethink things. If your current ad is working fine, don't mess with it too much - I've seen ads on Backpage that haven't change at all in years. Those things may help explain down times, and here are some solutions I've seen used..... 1. Changing pics/ads/posting more ads. I know on Backpage, if you use the free ad option, I don't think your ad shows up in the Gallery view, which is the most popular section guys will go to. If you go to the "Date" section (where free ads run), you will see how many more ads there are vs the Gallery view. I believe to put up a full ad is like 4-5 bucks and you will have to pay that amount again to bump it up/make another post....but you will be viewed by a lot more potential clients. I'll tell ya.....until I read that you worked, I thought you were just a girl who liked posting on Lyla.....I go on Backpage/Lyla a lot and never saw your ad (I usually use Gallery view on BP). I had to kinda dig a bit to find you. :) 2. Changing rates/services. This usually happens when things are slow/competitive. If you see one girl offering "$80 specials", usually more will pop up doing the same thing. Like in all commerce, people want deals and sometimes you have to offer them - but that is your choice. Also, you may see girls pop up that are offering services they didn't before. There is one girl on BP who doesn't look like she struggles to find clients, but lately she has been offering a service she didn't before and it's a rather big jump type service. Maybe she evolved to doing that in her personal life and has added it to the menu now that she is comfortable with it, or........ maybe she is adding it to trump up more business? Most girls are pretty set in what they offer though and it would take a major change/lack of business for them to deviate from that. It's an option though.... 3. Providing an excellent service/Communications. If you are offering a great service, sometimes, ya just gotta stick with it and hope word spreads......conversely, if you find things are realllllly slow, it could stem back to the quality of the visit for the guys (not saying this is the case with you - I have never seen you). Some providers are, well, just not that good at what they do and word spreads and they slowly lose clientele. In cases like this, an option is trying another city/travel to where you are not well-known and milk that areas as much as you can and move on (hey, it happens lol). Other than those things, I guess patience is your best recourse of action most of the time. You will have down weeks....even months, but if you provide a good service, visibly get yourself out there, are somewhat consistent and keep a good attitude, the good times will come. Heck, there will probably be times you will look back on this thread and say, "How was I ever that slow???". :) :) Hope any/some of that helps!

Safety and security are a huge issue and usually the reason why many don't show full face. There have been a number of people outed on different sites, real names revealed, personal lives impacted from close minded judgemental and vindictive people. There are those who take great glee in causing drama and chaos in the lives of others. Some is personal, some is business but either way, it's still an issue. Not everyone is "out" in their regular lives and discretion is a must. There can be many issues in regular lives where this type of work could greatly impact life. Unfortunately society is not at a point where "work is work" and everyone is concerned only with their own lives. Many people have no clue the impact one bit of judgement or gossip can in lives outside the person they are griping about. As has been stated, if a face pic is a deal breaker, then find someone who shows their face, don't complain about it. It's highly unlikely someone will create potential utter chaos in their lives for the sake of someone unknown. There are ALWAYS reasons for everything: rates, face or no face pics, hours of availability, locations etc. Most are not in this business to upset people for no reason. Just as those who partake have lives and responsibilities that limit when they can see people or how much they have available. Respect is needed on both sides.

I don't have any issue with this statement. I used the term undertone with the specific intent you describe. If others attitudes are more nuanced, that's okay. I feel a pretty obvious perspective is being overlooked in this discussion and interjected: purpose of a discussion forum, yes? Despite a lot of noise in this thread, the OP seemed to be miffed about the relaxing of a policy that allowed a dancer to choose to keep her panties on for public and unpaid part of her gig. Before = policy with no choice Now = dancer has choice OP interjected that the vote was about original policy - his own clarification. Second issue is the bogus economic argument. Strip clubs are suffering for many reasons including accessibility of porn, ease of finding escorts and ma who give more for less (ie this forum) - not because dancers aren't dropping panties on their third song. Bottom line - if you want strip clubs to survive and have quality dancers ,then respect the dancers, pay the dancers. I think we all agree that when you're in the CR the panties are dropped, so what's the problem? A problem only exists for those who aren't paying and respecting the dancers.

I'd surmise that nobody is highly against a dancer removing her panties, so a more accurate comparison would combine 'no' and 'don't care' results, which narrows the gap considerably. The disturbing undertone of this thread is about a 'policy' that 'forces - This subject has a troubling undertone of male entitlement - and I say that as a man. If a dancer chooses to place limits on what she reveals on stage, I fully support that. If I find her attractive, interesting and fun, I will fairly compensate her in the CR for the privilege of expanding upon mutually agreed boundaries. Demanding 'rules' around 'required' panty removal is just creepy and disrespectful, in my opinion. You don't own a dancer because you purchased an over priced beer. Dancers deserve to be treated with respect and are entitled to impose their own limits. If you don't like it, choose a different dancer for the CR. if you're not taking anyone to the CR, then what right do you have to complain? You aren't paying her. Strip clubs attract a lot of people who do NOT contribute to the financial well being of the club, or the dancers. Guys who sit in the front row and nurse a beer with no intention of springing for the CR. These people have an over inflated sense of their worth to the club and dancers.

its infuriating how a few "Lazy dancers" can ruin it for the good ones!

The first time I met Jennifer Jade, she gave me a kiss that made my knees buckle. Fortunately, her warm and comfortable embrace kept me from crumbling down.

I'm not sure if many of you know about the particulars of strip clubs but many of them tend to have a Black Girl Rule. A Black Girl Rule is basically the cap they put on how many woman of colour are allowed to work in an establishment. ( usually 5) There is no white Girl Rule and that is made very clear. There's something about this Rule that makes me feel as if we're in the mid 1900's. I had called the club I normally work at and asked if I could come in early ( I start at 6 ) however there is a friend of mine on here that I wanted to see and could make it in at 2:00. I asked if I could come in early and the response was we're full and have no room for black girls. However, a "white girl" does not have to call in as they will never be too full. Why should I feel sad, guilty for being who I am ? It really hit me today. Racism sucks! What are your thoughts on this ? Shouldn't we all be equal? I mean we are in Canada shouldn't I have an equal opportunity to work? Please I'd love to hear your inputs and thoughts on this touchy subject

I just spent some time with Kimmy Castro. First off - she is genuinely one of the friendliest people I have ever met - very easy to talk to.. This immediately put me at ease. She is a pretty girl and her service is great. Hopefully she spends more time in Kingston. Posted via Mobile Device

ust noticed that today is my 7th year on Lyla. 7 years ago I signed up as a member. Spent the first several months, reading the various threads and discussions. Finally got the nerve to meet a SP. Very nervous about it. I was only going to try it one time. I picked a highly reviewed girl. I was nervous when i met her, but she was great and had a lot of fun, so much that I saw her again. This got my confidence up so I met another one, which did not go so well. I did not give up and met another one that I connected with, so much that I am still seeing her 7 years later. This was meant to be a one time experience. But I was addicted. Being a shy guy for most of my life. And been able to spend sexy time with beautiful gorgeous women just built my confidence. I soon started meeting new women and repeating with them. Many of them I had become friends with. Then I tried some MA's at the spas, and enjoyed the experiences. Some of them left to become independent and I met them at their incalls. Several of them became friends with me, they gave me extra time and special treats. One of them even made me dinner and lunch a few times. I got to know many of them by their real names and heard their life stories. Most were students or ex-wifes with children that they were trying to support, some were in pretty bad situations. But many that I met really did enjoy their jobs and great at it. I learnt a lot from them and respect them and their life experiences. It is their experiences that make them the strong independent women that they are today. I spent the first several years making friends in the chat rooms. would spend hours each night chatting away. Too bad people don't use the chat rooms anymore. I then started participating in the threads and started posting many of my own. I was happy to start topics of all sorts. Many of which are still being viewed. But then came Bill c36 which changed the whole mood of the board, censorship came and less people were posting. But soon life went on, but not as openly as fun as before. Thankfully not much had changed. I still continue meeting women and having fun. In the last 7 years I have met many of most reviewed women. I have managed to meet many of the legends of Ottawa. Some which are still around, but many have retired and left the business. Hopefully with happy lives. However some I have heard had passed away . I have found in the last 2 years that many women have been joining the business and many beautiful young women have been joining the spa as MA's. I've started to meet many of them. Most are very beautiful and sexy. And I have been enjoying myself meeting them. Just wanted to thank all the men and women here for making Lyla a great community I've enjoyed myself here and have met many great women and chatted and pm'ed with many of the great gentlemen here who have made Lyla the great community that it has become. Hopefully with the new future owners of Lyla, we can keep this a positive community. 7 years here has made me a older more confident man. Have had many great experiences with beautiful sexy women. Hope to meet many more.

Do you ever have slow weeks? Or weeks were you don't have any clients at all? What do you do about that? How does it effect you? I haven't had any all week and it's really taken a toll on my mental health, it certainly doesn't make me feel good. I'm looking for suggestions, or tips and tricks I suppose, but also just want to know what YOU do when you have no clients.

Hello lovely people! As both an escort and a doula here in Ottawa, I often get asked how I manage to keep up both personas. I wrote a blog post about it here! https://www.lilithdelacour.com/single-post/2017/05/04/Sex-Work-and-Birth-Work-Go-Hand-in-Hand Cheers! Lilith xo

It was a quiet afternoon at Barbs as I was expecting (because of rain likely). I recognized the following dancers: Harley, Juice, Natasha, Joy, Jenna and two other ladies. About half a dozen to a dozen patrons. I had dances with Harley (already reviewed in a separate thread especially for her) and another lady who I used to take dances 2 years ago (Juice) a lovely young blonde late 20's or early 30's not sure and we chatted for a long while about various subjects before heading to Champagne room. Juice has a very fair skin (well she is a natural blonde) and very soft natural blonde hair and is quite intelligent. I found her compatible as she loves Hugs and Kisses. Both Harley and Juice gave very entertaining dances on stage even though it was very quiet and I felt that they deserved to be rewarded with private dances. Both dancers I spoke to also commented about lack of business recently so gentlemen please drop by this heaven and support the angels. The food (from upstairs) however is getting worse by day. I used to order from upstairs but will not anymore. I ordered stake last time (because Cheese burger was becoming like leather gloves) and it tasted nothing like stake and pizza this time (in which pepperoni was half burned and tasted awful). There were stage dancing with fair frequencies (having short breaks). All except one dancer entertained the patrons with nude dances on the stage.

Warning, there is a scammer advertising on Barrie BP this weekend using photos that actually belong to one of our lovely ladies here on Lyla, Taylor Devine. This is a link to the current ad: http://barrie.backpage.ca/FemaleEscorts/exotic-portuguese-dancer-curvy-and-tight-avail-now/65137963 This is the second ad this weekend and the photos are exactly the same as the photos found in one of the albums in Taylor's profile page. I have contacted Taylor to let her know what I found so she can take action.

strip clubs have had the ladies strip down to their bottoms for as long as a i remember and its been part of the experience. Nobody likes change. The ladies have the rights not to take off their panties just as i have the right not to go. And here is why i had such issues with this....it was one thing that nobody took off their panties on stage but the same night I had an experience where the lady didn't take off her panties in the champagne room after 2 dances and all I'm thinking is what the hell (i didn't say anything and politely declined another dance). This practice is creeping its way into the champagne room as well. Anyways in the end it just means one less option when i go out with friends. I usually have a much better time with ladies at CMJ during their parties (both in and out of sessions) but it isn't something i'm going to do with friends. Additional Comments: I can't agree with that considering what happened the last time i went in the CR room. I'm always clean and respectful when i go so.... it was the first time its happened to me in the CR but then again its been the first time i have been there since the panties policy changed

Great post Lilith! :) It is really weird how people don't see the connection. It's like they think we are all clones or something. Almost all of us are here because two people fucked and had a good time doing it. I think your focus on both sex and birth makes you more knowledgeable and better at both with more complete knowledge even of the anatomy of a woman. I'd bet you know more about vulvas and vaginas than any OB.

Pics are of a model named jo jo babie.

However your views may differ from those of the OP or the "majority" of those responding to the poll, I'm not sure that any of the posts in the thread expressed demands for rules requiring anything, leave alone the suggestion that patrons "own" dancers, even as one understands that the verb "own" is used here in a rhetorical sense. Use of the term "undertone" (in the context of discerning a whiff of "male entitlement") suggests that this is less than explicit in the posts and may not fairly characterize the attitudes of all (or even most) posters. However, it may be true that certain expectations have been built up over time and many clubgoers will be far from immune to such expectations, thus leading to a certain disappointment or uncertainty when things appear to be changing and the expected experience differs from that of the past. In general, I would think that "demands" and "policy"-making would be the prerogative of management (within the bounds of reason - which could provide controversy for some i.e. what is reasonable?), although management (at any business) would be well advised to consider the effects of any hard-and-fast policy on the attitudes of clientele.

You need to read the posts carefully before commenting. Nobody is claiming male entitlement or forcing a dancer or demand rules or claims that he owns dancers as YOU claimed in your posts that we had. These are character assassination of myself and the majority who commented or voted to agree. I did also clarified it is a trend (after realizing that I mistakenly called it a policy in my first post title but I was unable to edit the title) but you likely purposely decided to ignore my clarification. It is regrettable that an interesting thread on a very positive board and interesting poll results meant to gauge opinions should be so blatantly sabotaged in such manner by twisting the facts about what has been said and false allegations by someone who has admitted he almost never posts or cares about sharing his experiences on this board!!!!!!.

Your reputation proceeds you... that's good... I've reached a point in my career where people introduce themselves to me to network... which is good because when it comes to networking, I'm lazy.

The twisting of the facts of what has been said in this thread into false allegations and lies in order to gain popularity with some dancers or a few members by pretending to be a defender of women's rights (at the expense of others) and linking the topic to women's rights of choice (or the false allegations suggesting that this thread is somehow forcing them into doing something against their will or demand rules on dancers) or anyone saying that they own a dancer (which nobody even remotely said that) or false allegations of male entitlement or resembling watching a nude dancer on stage same as vaginal inspection (GROSS and disrespectful) is what is unfortunate, disturbing and creepy. Basically this thread carries a poll asking patrons whether they agree or disagree with a recent trend (not a rule or policy) that some dancers don't take off their panties on stage in a strip bar (or in the Champagne rooms for first or even second song to prolong private dance) . The original post also made it clear that if it was a lady's choice then i would have fully supported it but it is for economic reasons which a few examples were provided. I am now forced to provide more extensive real life examples: Among those examples were cases when I asked several dancers on different occasions as why they didn't take off their panties on stage and they all told me they will in the Champagne room but wish to keep the audience curious. Another example is another dancer who told me straight that if patrons wish to see more then they have to pay for it in the Champagne room. Another example when I took a dancer who didn't take off her panties on stage to the Champagne room (At first I refused but later i took her when she told me she is not shy about taking off her panties) she offered me using my cell flashlight (which I instantly refused) if I pay more (double) after she took off her panties. I have NEVER come across a case when a dancer did not take off her panties and told me it was because it was her choice or out of shyness in which case I would have unconditionally supported her choice. If anyone has a true example when a dancer told him that it is her choice or that she is too shy or uncomfortable or does this against her will on stage or Champagne room then please share those example(s). Another logic I used was the fact that some dancers leave panties on in the Champagne rooms for the first or even second song and take it off later in private dance if the patron decides to keep her long enough. So they are only shy or uncomfortable for the first and second song?? It has been a choice to work in a strip bar same as a taxi driver choosing to drive a taxi (even though he may hate driving in the city) or a software engineer may hate to use computers or a construction worker to have to work in the cold and heat on the site. These are all choices but most of us will have to do as part of the job descriptions. In spite of that I repeat in bold letters that i (and likely all those who voted yes they agree) fully respect women's choice (if that was what it was) and it comes first and foremostt as we ALL support a women's right to choose so please stop twisting and manipulating what has been said and voted on in order to score points at the expense of making a majority look bad.

Being shown respect by people I don't even know for a reputation I didn't know I had earned. It's really kind of a weird feeling when people recognize me and feel comfortable enough to start to chat me up like they know me. I guess that's what fame is? Nothing to do with this board, but that's happened, too.

Congrats on your 7 year anniversary !

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Headstones - Smile and Wave https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VclaeaajDiU

I think it's her too. Pretty sure too. Just saying. Posted via Mobile Device

My vote goes to Pigale. Best girls are there. Nice champagne rooms. Second place would be Bare Fax. Girls are good but not as good as Pigale. Third place would be Nuden. I do not like the openness of the Champagne room and the chairs in the champagne room are horrible. I am boycotting Barbs because of the video cameras. I have not been to the other ones so I do not know about them.

The hours of operation, in mho, say it all.

Gentlemen.... I know I promised to announce the winner today. Unfortunately, I havent been able to reviewe all my entries. My backyard is a lake and I am afraid my house will float away any minute. I wish I was joking, but I am not. On the bright side.... I will extend my contest until Monday.... You may text or email your entries to.... 612.315.9969 or [email protected]. May the best man win.! Sacha

last pic looks like Cleo's lips...just saying

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I guess I'm in the minority on this one. I could not care less if a dancer removes her panties on stage. A free vaginal inspection is the least important factor to me when looking for a CR partner.

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I fear for the upcoming years. I mean, we live in a disposable society and that has leaked into the dating world now too. Its sad sight these days. Everyone... Male and female are out to fulfill thier own needs at no cost to them selves! " you mean You want me in fullfill duties of a woman while playing the man too??? Hard to be a woman when I am busy being the man too" Or.... " so you want me to do all the gargage, cars, snow and lawn. Plus pay all bills/ checks, then go grocery shopping too? " And Yes the porn world has made it even more difficult. " so now you want me in high heels after I worked all day and cleaned house and worked all day? Then u want sex 5 times a week too" Or " so I worked hard all week to helpbin house and my job...and is it too much to expect a wife with perfect hair and heels and act like a pornstar" We have lost our balence and expectaions have become too much to handle on both sides of the fence. Its funny, when I date, I will never sleep with you on first date! You might have a kiss. You need to develop real connection before you get in my bed. I am proud of this. And ppl think cause I am Sophia ...an escort....that I must be easy. Hell No! I am such a prude when it comes to dating! You got to earn the right to be with me. Lol.

I found Essence at the Brassclub to be an amazingly, natural, enthusiastic and generous kisser. Can't wait to see her again for that talent and many more.

I can't say that much for the latest trend because I have not step foot in a strip club in over a year or more. What I can say is that back in my days when I was 18(actually I was in SC at age 16 but...) and until about 5 years ago the ladies that went up on stage took off there bra during the first dance and took off there panties near the end of the second dance and for the third dance they would come on stage with an evening dress or lingerie and slowly took it off around the middle of the dance and this was the way to do it. I always enjoyed seeing it that way. If it's going to change I might never go back to a SC again.

Far as I know, not a rule, not a policy... I've known many dancers over the years and they've all skirted with this issue, some leave it till the last few seconds. Some do feel like keeping it mostly under wraps till you get in the back. I always figure how you sell your show is up to you; some girls do things onstage that make me want to see more; some catch my interest with a little convo... takes all kinds. But yeah it used to be a hard line fine if you didn't take 'em off at all. If Megan says it still is, I believe her. Bottom line, if you're at a club and seeing more than one girl leaving them on all the time, I'd say you're probably just seeing the management getting lazy.

I know I may get bashed my Club Lovers but the scene is slowly dying out. If you look back at just over the last 20 years, it has been on a decline. Yes, the panties rule would not be a good thing at all for the dancers industry, but I don't think they should come off at all. Let's face it, clubs are not the most sanitary places. I think a thong or g-string is still very nice to look at and leaves a little to the imagination. It is called a strip club but that doesn't mean you have to strip naked. Love camel-toe! Just my opinion.

Hey Ottawa Sex Workers! POWER holds monthly socials for sex workers of all industry sectors (erotic dance, massage, escorting, webcam, etc.) and all genders and gender expressions. Come chat over snacks about business, relationships, clients, whatever we want :) The next social is Wednesday May 3rd, 7:30-9:30pm. PM me for the private location! XOXO Megan

I saw this image on Twitter and thought it might be handy for guys to look at before firing off a direct message to one of the lovely and busy women of Lyla. While there are certainly many legitimate reasons to message: to obtain information that is not available elsewhere; to confirm a booking etc; we should all be aware that the considerable amount of time the lady spends responding to useless enquiries, is time taken from her personal life and probably adds to the stress and frustration in dealing with time wasters. Of course if the lady has given signals or her OK for more frequent messages that should pose no problem. In any case, in the course of the most frequent style of communications with SPs, it helps to limit the number of messages to a minimum and to be clear and concise when obtaining or providing information. Note: The source of this cute little diagram is MsAvaStClaire who I thank for inventing it!

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For me it would be to have the "dream women" and the "dream sex" as I find that they both go hand and hand but hard to find.

Kilt Boy, you should charity those buttons. All proceeds go to your local black strippers ;)

Probably best way to help, as a client, is start mentioning to the managers that there aren't enough black girls at the club, and you prefer seeing a more diverse group etc. Least confrontational option and it will hopefully be taken seriously. Sadly I'm not in the best of positions to influence a change either (not running a club or working there myself) but maybe talking to other white dancers and asking for a bit of help here and there (can you give me a shift? Etc) and if any girls agree that the BGR is stupid, they can offer you the occasional shift... I mean, hopefully you'll be allowed in especially if no one else will take that slot.

To put a fine point on this topic, what we're really talking about is race profiling. That's really dangerous material for discussion. EXTREMELY FLAMMABLE. I'm not a moderator, nor any kind of influential voice here. Still, I'm going to ask that we keep in mind to keep our conversation civil. Take a few deep, calming breaths before hitting that submit button. The BGR is a real thing. I also happen to believe it is a real problem. We've been posting about how much we disagree with it, that it shouldn't exist, and how to possibly use it since it does. Maybe we should try to actually DO something about it. We've (I've) heard from those affected by it and how it impacts their ability to work. It suddenly occurs to me (duh) that posting something here on a fairly obscure message board isn't going to do diddly squat to fix anything. We're just slapping each other on the back for being morally upright. The people who are actually affected by the BGR won't be able to convince anyone to change it for the very reason that it exists. If you are a patron of a club where this rule is in effect, talk to the manager or the owner and see if you can get it struck down. I have no idea if that will be effective, or change anyone's mind. You won't know until you try. One easy and fairly anonymous way might be to call the club and ask if they have a Black Girl Rule for scheduling. If they say yes, tell them that you'll start coming back again when they don't. Repeat. Boycotting is meaningless if nobody knows why. Deep, calming breath ...