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I just wanted to wish the Father's on this site a happy Father's day!

Ok. I'll start by taking a peek at who is in town along with the ones I know for sure. If anybody has any information they'd like to share, send me a PM and I'll include it. I'll update frequently. I just think that identifying any false ads will only be beneficial for everyone.

Gentlemen, By popular demand, I extend my stay in town! For more info http://www.lyla.com/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=252456 Dont be shy! 613-315-6354 Xoxo

First of all, I'd like to acknowledge that I've pushed this topic into a bit of a tangent. It was initially meant to be a broad discussion on porn, the current porn industry, and potential societal effects, rather than a tangent discussion on my own potentially problematic hangups related to porn. I do appreciate people taking the time to try and help me with my own personal issues, but I also don't want to discourage people from the wider reaching discussion of porn in general. While technically true, it's also true the DSM has in the past, classified BDSM as deviant and unhealthy behavior in all of it's forms. I tend to think of the DSM and psychology in general as an ever evolving set of guidelines, which don't always apply perfectly to any particular individual. It's interesting that you have pointed out the lack of recognition of porn/sex addiction, and then you form your thoughts in favor of that position. It kind of indicates to me that you have chosen a position, and the concrete evidence for that position is then of secondary importance. In other words, it's analogous to putting the cart before the horse. How do you define a "real" addiction? I am inclined to believe that there is certainly quite a difference between substance addiction, and behavioral addiction, but are either of them any less real? Getting back to the DSM, they are still dragging their heels/deliberating on how/whether to classify compulsive and potentially harmful sexual activity as a behavioral addiction, but when you take it logically at face value, sex is a human behavior just as gambling, or internet use are also human behaviors. I'd say it's important to avoid getting hung up on the terminology, and focus more on the lived experiences of people who have difficulty controlling their sexual behavior. Morals plays only a small role in my own compulsive use of porn. Certainly it does come into play when viewing porn that to me is "extreme", but the main issue is the compulsive behavior that overrides my other goals in life. The compulsive drive for porn leads me to avoidance of other important responsibilities, it leads me to seek out porn for which I can't always verify ethical production, for increased variety and the accompanying dopamine high of novelty (free porn tube sites), and it leads me toward viewing content that I am increasingly uncomfortable with for a greater dopamine hit. It also leads me towards risky sexual behavior in real life, for which the compulsion overrides safety precautions and potential consequences. If you take porn that I have moral issues with out of the equation (there is very little of that), we are still left with the other indicators of addiction. I'm not at all surprised. I can certainly understand how a religious background would be conducive to self diagnosing as an addict, even when many of the indicators of addiction are absent. However I feel it's important to point out that just because there are many who self identify as porn addicts and lack addictive tendencies, doesn't mean behavioral sex addiction doesn't exist. The number of people addicted to sex/porn isn't really important to me on an individual level, what's important to me is the knowledge that my own porn use is compulsive, time consuming, overrides ethical considerations, is unrewarding in relation to the time invested and even potentially dangerous. I am not ashamed of the majority of content I watch (aside for that which may be unethical), I embrace my sexuality in all of it's forms, as long as there is no harm to anyone involved. Unfortunately the religious moralists on the porn addiction forums make up the majority, and it makes it very difficult for someone like myself who is sex positive to have an open and honest discussion there and actually figure out a solution. They don't seem to understand that abuse of porn is the problem, not porn itself. Abstaining from porn seems to be the catch all solution, whereas I see it as a bandaid that doesn't treat the underlying problem of behavioral addiction. The goal should be to alter the behavior, not to do away with it entirely, binge eaters don't stop consuming food. This seems like a misconception regarding how addiction presents. I don't think it is so much the amount of time spent engaging with an activity that defines an addictive behavior. I can, and often do spend hours a day playing video games, but there is almost never a point where I feel as though I can't spend less time doing it when I really want/need to be doing something else. There are no serious negative consequences to gaming for me, it feels far more rewarding, and it doesn't effect my mental state to nearly the same degree as binging on porn. I don't feel compelled to seek out increasingly violent video games as I do for bdsm porn, I don't ignore the well being of the performers on screen to get my fix (because video games don't have real people on set). I don't spend hours sifting through new and exciting video games, getting bored every 10 seconds like I do with porn videos. The addiction markers just aren't there for video games like they are for porn. Masturbating to porn and escalating through increasingly novel/extreme content is a dopamine high for me that just doesn't happen elsewhere. I can literally feel the dopamine surge flowing through my brain, it's more stimulating than any other activity, even sex. Orgasm further alters the chemical balance in the body/mind. Stringing together 6 orgasms in one night leaves me feeling absolutely terrible, depressed, weak and emotionally numb, and that feeling extends well into the next day. It's funny that you say I should do something about it, I think that's what truly separates an addiction from normal behavior, when you realize how difficult it is to stop/alter the behavior. I've tried many different ways of dealing with this, I've gone to such extremes as cutting the internet for 3 weeks. I've tried masturbating everyday in an attempt to substitute it for porn, I've tried having sex more often. It just doesn't work, out of all the things I've tried to cut down/alter the binge behavior I haven't found the answer yet. Even when watching porn normally once per day I still feel the need to binge twice a week, often when I'm feeling depressed. This is how I know it's an addiction, when I'm not craving a porn binge, I want to change my behavior, but when I am craving it, life isn't worth living without a porn binge. It's not about the time spent on an activity, it's about how stimulating and potentially destructive the activity is for a particular individual, and how difficult it is for them to change when they want to. The problem is my concern for performers seems to only be present when I'm not craving extreme porn. Once that craving hits it overrides everything else, suddenly I'm back on pornhub (or sketchier sites), and it's all about one thing, getting that fix, feeling that rush, and numbing any depression. As far as people who might enjoy extreme bdsm, what I rationally believe has little to do it, It's what I feel after watching it that matters. Sometime I crave being severely beaten by a woman, beaten until I emotionally break, cry, scream, etc. I know that I wouldn't fully enjoy it, not because I am ashamed of submitting to and being broken by a woman, it's actually quite a turn on, but simply because I don't find excruciating pain to be at all enjoyable on any level. It's a craving/compulsion that compels me to engage in the activity, or to watch it happen in porn, but I know I wouldn't be able to handle the level of pain that I crave, and it would probably be traumatizing long term. That's what I am projecting on to these people engaging in extreme bdsm, because I know what it's like to crave something that you don't really want, to be conflicted on something and yet driven towards it at the same time by some invisible force, it's the difference between healthy engagement and unhealthy engagement. Healthy engagement in bdsm for me is relatively tame pain limits, I mainly enjoy the aspect of submission. Unhealthy engagement is craving the pain even when I'm no longer enjoying it, and that's why I can't watch this type of porn and assume everyone is in a healthy state of mind. I'm not saying those people don't exist, I just can't wrap my subconscious reaction/emotions around the concept of enjoying extreme pain. Exactly, it is impossible for me to know how healthy any given interaction is, and particularly difficult for me to believe that someone in a 24/7 slave relationship is mentally sane. It is difficult for me to determine where consent ends, and Stockholm syndrome begins, which is why I would never personally engage in such a relationship. Many people have the opportunity to leave abusive relationships, and they choose to stay regardless, this is what we call Stockholm syndrome. I agree, and I appreciate the advice.

Hi! Been with Lyla for a year and a half but am mostly a lurker. Anyhow, I thought I would pipe up here and lend my experience and knowledge - happy to answer questions! In addition to being a provider, i'm also a Registered Nurse and have worked in Family Medicine and sexual health for years. There are a number of misconceptions about HSV. HSV has 2 different 'strains' basically - Type I and Type II. HSV also has 2 different sites that it can affect - the oral area and ant-genital area. *Either* type can affect either region. That said, *most* cases of oral HSV are Type I strains and about 60% of genital cases are Type II (meaning 40% are Type I). Generally speaking, break-outs associated with Type I HSV tend to be shorter and less severe (fewer lesions, less pain, etc...). Prevalence rates for HSV are about 75% orally and 25% ano-genitally (for Type I and Type II) meaning MOST of US have HSV. If you've EVER had a cold sore you have HSV. There is no way to absolutely prevent HSV however some general ways to reduce the risk of transmission. You can abstain from kissing (and oral sex) if you have cold sores or if you feel them coming on (as transmission risk is greatest right before it becomes visible)! If you have recurrent outbreaks you can take anti-viral medications such as acyclovir on a daily basis to reduce the "asymptomatic shedding" that occurs. Generally speaking the more outbreaks you have the more asymptomatic shedding there is. So reducing the outbreaks not only increases your comfort but also reduces the risk of transmission. There is no way to definitely TEST for HSV either. The only test readily available under OHIP/Public Health system is to swab a lesion and send the swab off for testing. The challenge of this is that testing can only be done when symptoms are active. HSV is a lifelong condition - it never leaves your system however it can be very well managed and a non-issue in most cases. The issue that often arises for patients (and lovers) with HSV is when to disclose (or to disclose at all to partners). For those of us who have had cold sores (I haven't, thankfully and I let partners know this so that if they feel symptoms coming on then they can refrain from kissing me or from any oral to genital contact (as ORAL - i.e. Type I - can be spread to the ant-genital area - i.e. Type I in the ano-gential area if one were to contract HSV thru oral sex). Anyhow - putting this out there if folks have questions! Happy to answer as I don't want to overload y'all! Additional Comments: As a nurse and provider, I STRONGLY encourage all fellow providers to get the HPV vaccine if they haven't already. There is a newer nonavalent (i.e. 9-strain) vaccine (Gardasil-9) that is available and covers the 7 most common strains of HPV that cause cervical and other HPV-related cancers (including penile cancer, anal cancer, throat cancer, etc...) and the 2 most common types that cause warts! It takes 3 shots over 6 months and you're basically immune to HPV! Because condoms do VERY LITTLE to protect us from HPV, if we have frequent partners, we're at risk for acquiring HPV. Over 95% (likely more) of people have had at least one strain of HPV at some point in our lives. Basically if you have sex with people who have sex you're going to get HPV. So I suggest to women working especially to get the HPV vaccine. It's a health expense and can even be a business expense as well (not sure if it can be both - hunch is no but talk to your accountant)! Guys too can get the HPV vaccine so I would definitely encourage y'all to get it too to protect yourself and all your lovers. Because none of us ever get tested for HPV (exception if we have an abnormal Pap test and we are over 30 then sometimes the cells are "typed" for the specific strain of HPV. But generally speaking, an abnormal Pap test is a "positive" test for HPV as almost universally this is the cause of cell changes on our cervixes. Anyhow, be happy to discuss further and answer questions! Your nurse/provider Rebecca Winter

Go ahead! Toot your horn! Personally I couldn't imagine NOT kissing. It's the best part of a great encounter!

I normally avoid tooting my own horn as everyone has their own taste and preferences. However, Ive been mentioned in several 'best kissers' lists and this subject is mentioned in many of my recos. You can find links to all on my site... well, all except for any that may have been made in the past 6months as I haven't updated. I cant tell you if I'm a great kisser, I've never kissed myself lol so you will have to refer to the assessments of those who have. What I can say, is that I am a passionate person and love melting into kisses. I am however not an ebony beauty, I'm Caucasian and quite pale so... I may not appeal to you. It sounds as though your match is already listed here but I thought Id speak up anyway. lol Actually, the reason I found this thread is because 2 people told me that my kissing has been discussed here as of late and I'm trying to find it. When it comes to compliments, like most, I am highly addicted heehee. I do love knowing that I've made a person's day that much more enjoyable. :-)

Probably like you, I like to have a variety of masseuses depending on my mood and for the sake of variety. Sometimes you want deep tissue RMT quality, sometimes a little fun, and other times just a cheap, competent massage. I'd like to throw this out there and have you all suggest some massage providers that offer a good competent massage, at a great price. I'm looking at straight-up massage only, on those days when you want to only spend $40 or so (with the option of a $5 tip, let's say). I'll start off with Yin Chen, a massage provider in the Fort Garry area, off of Pembina Hwy. She offers services out of a private residence, a comfortable table, and gives a medium deep massage, in my experience. Actually as good as some RMT's that I've visited. For the price, it is always enjoyable. What's your favourites?

Hi , wanted to share my experience with this amazing French lady from Quebec . She's currently on Bp in Fredericton . If your looking for a real gfe experience with a smoking hot lady she's it . I was so impressed I'm re visiting . Hope you have a chance to go visit her , she's the real deal !

It seems on the east coast we review the Reviewed. With so many scams from fake or as i call them counterfeit pictures, bait and switch, e transfer scams and just really poor attitudes no one cares to take a chance on new girls coming into town, at least not on Lyla. I have met some really great people over the years and sadly missed the opportunity as with Charlotte I understand is leaving the business. Tried several times, our schedules just never agreed. A respectful farewell to Charlotte and a thank you to the other legitimate SP's that make the east coast a great place.

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Here is my schedule for the week of Monday June 19 to Saturday June 24. Text or call 902.456.2898. Email me as kyliejane0505 at gmail dot com. Mon June 19...Incall 1pm-12am in Halifax Tue June 20....Outcall only Wen June 21...Outcall only Thu June 22....Incall 1pm-12am in Halifax Fri June 23....off Sat June 24.....off I'm ready, willing and able to please you in every way possible. To meet your needs and wants. Whether you want a fun playtoy, a fantasy brought to life, or an exotic date for that social event you are attending. Well I can meet all these wants and more. My body, my attitude and my skills are at the elite level and I take pride in bringing it to you to enjoy. My location provides a great sultry atmosphere that will set the mood just right. So let's make us happen, Kylie Jane xo

The pics also come back from an agency in Saskatchewan, so I would say proceed with caution.

I had a thought about trying to compile some sort of list for our region. While certainly trying to identify the trickery and bait & switch scams that are out there, maybe we could also identify the real providers for Kingston and the region. I know that when I first came across this board, I didn't join right away, choosing to simply lurk to try to pick up whatever info I could. Sadly (as I'm sure the vast majority of us are aware), not everything in this hobby is as it seems. With some experience under my belt - pardon the pun - maybe pooling our resources could limit some of the surprises that are out there for rookies and veterans alike. I'm willing to start the list using my own personal experiences as a reference, but I'd like to get input about as many of the providers as possible. Keep in mind, I'm not considering reviewing everybody, but just noting if they are in fact who they say the are, how accurate pics are, local vs traveler, etc. I'd also be willing to try to maintain it. Is this worth doing, in your opinion? I'd be appreciative of any feedback you might provide. Thanks, Limestone4612

VIP Oriental Travelling Girls. They used to have a webpage in addition to their ads. It seems they only use BP and Lyla now to advertise. I've been a fan for a while. Only had one girl who was definitely older than her pics. The rest have been accurate. Many are stunning young girls who have fairly reliable skills. They have a fairly scripted routine (shower before and after, which is a good thing for you and her) but what happens between the showers is up to you, in my experience. They are a bit selective of clientele, usually they only reply to numbers they recognize as previous customers. Obviously, they are not hurting for new clients when they hit town.

Hey gents, Located at a discreet, private location in Centretown. Available today and all week. Just a text/call away... 613-255-5904 I'm 27 y.o, 5'7, 150lb, 36C smooth tanned skin Bright green eyes blonde hair, mani/pedi no tattoos Please contact me directly at 613-255-5904 Text is welcomed and preferred. Please contact me by phone rather then pm for quick reply. If you want more pictures and info text me directly as well. Outcalls and consecutive hours are also available. Please contact me directly for further info 220/hour incall 140/hh Limited Restrictions Clean and private location, shower and towels available, ac Have a great summer xoxo

Had my first session with Kimora. A beautiful, classy young lady who provided a an excellent service in an upscale apartment. I asked for an "edging" session and I was not disappointed. I will definitely repeat.

Saw her last night, and again tonight. She's awesome and definitely loves what she's doing. Pics are real, shes super friendly and non-rushed. Had a great time. She doesn't have a reco and I can't post one. This will have to suffice. Definitely recommend.

I had a great visit with Hanna yesterday. Very real, very legit, and I'd recommend. It was my first time using VIPOTG, and I would not hesitate to see her again.

She is great. Trying to get her to join Lyla - she had no clue she had good reviews here.

I want to congratulate my bestie Charlotte Quinn on her new adventure as she leaves the escort world. I know you will be great and will rock. I'm proud of you and you worked hard to move on. Love you. I will miss our working times together and you are and always will be the best. Even though you were in NS working a short time you set it on fire. Your legendary in my mind all over. You are the best duo partner anyone could ask for. Love Kylie Jane

It is with heavy heart that I will announce my retirement from the wonderful world of escorting. As I start my new quest in the mainstream world. I've been in the area for a short time but have thoroughly enjoyed this. I want to thank all the wonderful people I have met and been with, all of you have been amazing in your own way. I've learned so much from every one of you, and whether good or bad I will always feel you as a part of me. I've had fun, struggles, ups and downs and some weird adventures lol, but wouldn't trade any of them. To my regulars I hope you understand and there are a lot of amazing girls on here to take you on. Thank you to Lyla.com , great site with alot of opportunities. I will miss working with my best friend Kylie Jane most of all, we have had some wild times you sexy girl. I wish you all the best and will keep memories of all of you. Love Charlotte Quinn xo

Unfortunately, this can vary greatly from SP to SP.. Checking ads and/or sites can be helpful as some will have their preferences/ways of/general times for replying listed on such. If I cannot reply to a text message within 2 hours of receiving it, (because I'm with someone or otherwise busy,) I typically won't reply.. You never know where they are or who they might be with by then. This being the exception, of course! If someone sends me a text, (that says more than just 'want see you soon. msg when avail') that gives me a time frame for a reply or states that it's safe to reply whenever I am free and can do so, I'll reply as soon as possible.

I thought only I did the different phone charges thing. LOL I have a little section set up for it and everything.

On a day like today, air conditioning is one of those extras that are appreciated. It's nice to be able to walk in from the heat into an icebox. When it is hot out like it is now, I'll keep my location at 17 or 18 degrees. Lol I have a few different types of body washes but mostly everyone goes for the ivory body wash and I'll also have mouthwash with the little plastic shot glasses and a can of aerosol unscented deorderant. I also have a few cans of beer stocked in the fridge for my clients.

Magic wand. Favorite toy by far... but thanks to Notch's post I'm putting the womanizer on my Amazon wishlist pronto!

90% of communication is non verbal. Kissing is a conversation that requires no words.

This is where you should really post then: http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=271

Once your an avid member you will see the advantage of the moderation period, it stops a lot of shill (fake recommendations), it stops the spam, the cl/bp type of posts, the guys who log in just to vent or slander a lady, other non-ethical compitition (ladies and agnecies) who falsely post nasty things about the compitition to knock the compitition out.... Etc. Its a important tool and gives this website incredible value. Most important to me.... It also is to stop people who do not read the rules!

Nope, OVER 5 PUBLIC POSTS in total and a MINIMUM 5 days as a member. Pm's, guestbook entries, photo comments, etc.. DO NOT count as posts. - You are up to 3 with this post needfun.

Mod.. I have been reviewed by women on another board (which shall remain nameless :) and by couples.. I think she'll make it clear. She does say hobbyiest in her profile although most guys wouldn't see that. Welcome newbies! now get a postin!

Do you mean recommendations? If so I do not see any under the name "Fine wine Diva" are you sure they were placed in the recommendations area buy the guys or where they just posted in the discussion threads? This is where they need to be in order to be considered a recommendation here that is search-able by your name http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=125 Second, if you did have TWO made they would have been merged together as we only allow one recommendation thread per lady. I suspect someone posted a nice comment about you but did not post it in the recommendation area. You could always contact them and ask them to post the recommendation in this area http://www.cerb.ca/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=125 We only remove the recommendations when the ladies retire or are no longer available in a particular city.

I think it's a great idea! Afterall the board out west (PERB - which was the best acronym as everyone called themselves Perberts LOL) was full of shills and people trying to blackball and ruin each other. Even on a friendly, respectful board like Cerb there are bound to be a few who try to pull antics. We're lucky to have such a good Mod!

Yes, it's a new thing. We have had a LARGE increase in new members trying to SHILL post recommendations (Mostly asian ads that are known bait and switchers) so I just made a minimum to post a rec... that stops the lame shill accounts and also gives some credibility to those who make it to 5+ posts and 5+ days. I may make a page that explains the moderation period more clearly and set it so that all new members are asked to read the page. I just don't have time right now to set that all up

Hi Phil, New members can not post recommendations right away. New members must get past the moderation period first (5 posts and 5 days) meaning you must post at least 5 posts and you must be a member for at least 6 days before your account will move to a non-moderated account. WHY? This stops people from creating SHILL accounts (Accounts that are FAKE members trying to post fake recommendations to falsely promote someone). We can usually spot the SHILL posts a mile away and close the accounts and with this 5 day 5 post rule... it makes creating fake accounts a lot less appealing for those who try to do this. The moderation period also stops people from posting Negative/slanderous comments, posting in the wrong area and generally breaking the site rules. To get past the moderation period simply join some conversations, ask some questions (or answer some) and the 5 days and 5 posts will be done in no time... this will give people some post history so that when they read your recommendation is has a little more history to show your not SHILL posting.