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The initial lie is a problem given the need for trust in a relationship but understandable given the stigma and potential harm that could come if the relationship ends. Providers are most at risk from people close to them; physically, mentally and socially. We are outed by "less than loved ones" 95% of the time so I'm inclined to believe lying about our work is a much needed survival instinct. It's a job, all be it a more challenging occupation for relationships. My gentle suggestion is if the work bothers you in any way, walk away now. It's never going to sit right and will taint the relationship in ways you don't realize yet. Men who can participate in relationships with sex workers either need to be completely neutral or completely supportive internally for the relationship to have a chance. There is no room for a negative gut reaction and you need to be honest with yourself about how you are feeling. This is indeed work, it can be incredibly empowering and gratifying in so many ways. There is aspect of service that most people don't consciously relate to but it's the foundation of this industry. We help people smile and feel better about the world, every time we provide service. It offers us the opportunity for independence and control in our lives which breeds confidence and strength. It gives us the permission, experience and time to grow as people; faster than any other occupation imo as long as she has genuine support from her partner and loved ones or at least a neutral home environment. If she doesn't, it creates an inner conflict that will influence her very soul in devastating ways. I went thru the same thing with my husband when I decided to go back to work. The deception was where the damage came initially but we worked thru that aspect quickly. The next several years were difficult because I could work as long as I didn't enjoy it. I was forced to continue living a lie at home because I couldn't take pride in the work I was doing, I couldn't have a great day or an experience that fed my soul without it turning into a problem. I can count on one hand the number of truly positive relationships I've seen in the industry. As I've said before, it's like finding a diamond in the Gatineau river. I can't even count the number of relationships where the partner uses the work as leverage to guilt and manipulate the provider into paying all the bills, support unhealthy habits, buy him toys and spoil him, all to keep him happy because he has to share his pussy. It's a finely honed form of extortion because if she were a lawyer or an engineer at the same pay grade, he wouldn't feel entitled to such things. The provider ends up wasting the money she should be investing for her future because she wants someone to love her when in fact she's been turned into the most lucrative client and he has become the most insidious prostitute. The man who seemingly supports but contributes nothing is playing the "I love you" con at its worst; it's the traditional pimps most successful business model... smiles, cat

I've posted this before. I've dated a couple SPs and a Dancer, even lived with an SP for a while. I don't look at it as cheating, it's their business. It's not for everyone nor is it the easiest to accept. Not everyone will agree with what I'm saying here so I'm not expecting that. Don't overthink it or talk about it. If she has something she wishes to discuss with you in regards to her work simply let her initiate the conversation. Don't ask what you don't really want to hear the answer to. Obviously, if it's too much for you to handle you need to do what is best for you. Never use what she does against her, you can't do that. The ultimate choice is yours. Best of luck no matter the choice you make.

I think cheating has nothing to do with the fact that she is a MA (or any kind of sex worker for that matter). So your question:"My GF is a MA, is it cheating?" is misleading. She's not cheating BECAUSE she's a MA. I believe some MA have perfectly healthy relationship and it doesn't necessarily means they're cheating, even when they're providing extras to their clients. The fact that she hid it from you, though, might be the problematic part. To me, cheating is simply lying to the other. Some couples are perfectly happy to be in an open relationship. This doesn't even have to be symmetrical. In some couples, one of the persons is sleeping with other partner(s), while the other is not. For this to work, everybody involved need to be consenting to the specific terms of their relationship. And, to be truly consenting, one needs to know every aspect of that relationship. Now, Cat makes some very good point about the lies in the initial relationship. I think we all do it when we start going out with someone, consciously and unconsciously. We want to look good so we present the best side of ourselves. We dress up, we hide the dirty clothes under the bed, we don't swear, or burp, etc... Basically, we keep secret a lot of the things we feel might be detrimental to what is originally a fragile relationship. It's not dishonesty, just a desire to convince the other that we can be worthy. It's fine, as long as the true personality come out eventually. If one of the person is a sex worker, she/he has a much bigger secret, and she/he will likely hide it at first. The personal and social risks involved with telling the truth are much bigger when your secret is that you're a sex worker, then if it's that you don't floss everyday. The thing is, once the relationship gets past the initial phase and trust is being built, at one point or the other, this secret should be shared. You don't say how long you've been going out with her, but since you say you live together, I'll assume you're past that initial phase of your relationship and, since you "just found out", I'm tempted to say she cheated on you by actively lying to you. Now, does that mean you should dump her? Not necessarily. It's not because someone cheated that the relationship is irreparably broken. I think you should definitely talk with her about it, not so you can intrude in her professional life, but to make sure you're on the same page on how each other feels about the situation. Communication is key here. Then, figure out whether or not you feel comfortable living with someone who's a sex worker. Only you can decide that.

Is it cheating? This will all depends on how you feel about it. It is her job after all and if she comes home and does not seem happy then it's not for her. You have to support her in her decision if you love her but first you have to accept that it's her JOB. So she lied about it, she said she was a barmaid/waitress, did you accept that she was doing that as a job? If it's too hard for you to accept it then best to leave her alone and let her do what she wants to do.

I don't know; this is kind of alluring...

Any trusted local recommendations? I see the same few ads posted day in and day out. Looking for something or someone different.

Been meaning to post a recommendation for this beautiful girl for a while, but I find it's best to post a reco when the lady is available (nice to read a reco and then be able to see the lady) and I believe Amarra is working tonight and tomorrow night (July 13th and 14th). I will post a link to her BP ad as soon as she posts. I stumbled upon Amarra in the threads here on Lyla. She is sometimes quite active in the forums and I found her attitude/intelligence alluring. She came across as a people-pleaser (a paramount trait in this industry). I'm not one to try unfamiliar girls or "TOFTT", I have my favorite that I stick with and rarely venture now-a-days; but Amarra intrigued me. I'm attracted to intelligence/communication and the fact that she was smart enough to make a profile on Lyla was a good start. Communication was very good - responded fairly quickly to texts and was very pleasant during exchanges. Comparable/average rates. Location was on Bedford Highway off Larry Uteck....easy for me to get to. Now, I have to point out right away how tiny Amarra is. Her pics on Lyla and those in her ads give you a slight idea of her size, but she is just a lil' thing. 5ft and 105lbs. If you like the spinner type, she is for you for sure. I'm going to include the following pics from her Lyla profile that I think are best representative of her body. :) Un-blurred pics are in her profile. P.S. - you must add her as a friend to view her profile album. Tiny and terrific! With this particular lady, it's more about how she approaches her work and how attentive she is. From the time you walk in the door, you can tell by the look in her amazing eyes that she is completely engaged. Very bright girl and very aware of what it takes to make you feel important..... ....but here is the kicker....she is nauuughty. She knows her size/look and knows how to work that angle. Her voice is soft and cute and she is a master of turning it to baby-girl tone that is irresistible (and I'm not one for that kind of thing usually). She likes to talk you into a frenzy and has a few tricks up her sleeve that will put your eyes in the back of your head. I've seen her a few times and have only had the basic service. I believe she may offer extended options. The service I received was as close to GFE as you can get with all safe play/no kissing, but like I said, I believe she offers other options to push it more towards the GFE. As for juicy details about her body/skills, you will have to PM me. Can't post that stuff here! :) Here are her details... (902) 702-1809 [email protected] Don't hesitate - she doesn't work much, so opportunity to see her (sadly) is limited.

This reminds me of a post on this board. She posted "my husband is cheating with providers and I just found out". People chimed in, offering various opinions. He was a prolific reviewer, and I guess didn't close out his computer. So, she discovered by logging into his account. However, when he offered his opinion, the thread went dead. He didn't realize he was replying to his wife. They both sort of stopped posting and I've wondered how they made out. So, to the op. Is it OK if you see providers behind her back? Are you upset she is providing services, or that she didn't disclose this up front. Was she doing this before you got together or did she start after your relationship started and you just found out now. Everyone has a tolerance of what constitutes cheating. Their opinion doesn't matter, it's what you feel comfortable with. Only you know the answer. Good luck.

cat and rocky racoon said it best. "We all hide things about ourselves at first." I highly doubt any one of us is exempted from this. Even depending on the length of the relationship at this point does not necessarily determine if she was lying or even deceived you since all relationships move at a different pace. If she is the one who informed you then I feel she must truly care for you and is willing to face you judging her no matter the outcome. Keep this in mind when making a decision. If such is the case you need to not only be honest with her but just as importantly with yourself. IMO, this is the most crucial part of this situation. Perhaps she is willing to take this relationship to the next level. We don't know, only you do. There are too many 'what ifs' involved here with not one of us who are posting knowing full details, nor is all of it our business. For this, we can only assume and/or presume. On the question...is it cheating? "My" final answer remains, NO. As I have read here before, "We are all human, no matter our profession. We all have the desire to love and be loved."

like the other post read, what type of services is she offering. I would like to know how you found out. Were you looking for an MA and came across her add, if so then are you cheating?

It sounds like you're bothered more by the fact she deceived you rather than her line of work. Not a very good foundation for an honest relationship. You might be asking yourself what other stuff is she lying to (or will lie to) me about. These are the seeds of discontent. I've been there too. This is who she is. Can you live with that? Although, I have a feeling you've already made up your mind, overall I would say follow your heart of hearts in good judgement. Good luck to you both.

I agree with Rocky on this. This relationship speed bump should be dealt privately with an honest conversation. If that's the only lie and there's no actual signs of cheating, you two should be able to work this out. But if far more skeletons are discovered, then you may have more good reasons to end the relationship.

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If she gives extras it is not wrong in itself, but the fact that she hid it definitely is.

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Chipping in late, but... I'm sure you could do a lot worse than seeing a professional. The v-card is something that people can get really hung up about, and if it gets to the point where the fear that you don't know what you're doing is going to impact your ability to meet or become more intimate with someone in civilian life, dealing with that is probably a good idea. I'd say: do what you think is right, and what you're comfortable with - because if you aren't OK with it, it probably won't be good. And be honest with whoever you see about your age and circumstances - things will be better if she knows what to expect. And bear in mind that "saving yourself" for someone in real life may not be all it's cracked up to be. Not everybody's first time is all rainbows and unicorns.

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Like sport girls like Maria Sharapova, Eugenie Bouchard, Michelle Jenneke and Allison Stokke.

Great menu for lunch today, ladies and gentlemen. Let me see - Claire, Catalina, Adriana, Natasha, Eva, Jade, Delicious, and Karma. The first two enjoyed some quality time with each other, plus me. :-)

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I met her last year but she left for Ontario, but is back for a visit. If you have ever had a thing for Jennifer Lawrence, this is your girl. She is hosting at a local hotel. She responds to texts and is fairly easy to book. She likes to book an hour session to enjoy herself and get to know you. She is quite the conversationalist. She can be addictive. She has some unique qualities and they pictures are hers.