Being an SP is like being in the Mafia. Deny, deny, deny is often the name of the game for many as SPs and hobbyists. I'm sure many SPs who have friends and family who know but outside of that, no one knows the secret.
Looking over my shoulder is something I've learned to deal with in my time as an SP. Bad clients, stalkers, jealous competition or just plain haters. They are all out there...Take me as I am and accept who I am as a person and not what I do for a living.. otherwise you won't be included in my life. I am a mature enough woman and have come to realize over the years that I do not need approval from anyone but myself to tell me I'm a good or bad person. I know better...
Your job does NOT define who you are as a person whether it is morally acceptable in society or not. We all do what we do for various reasons. People can talk but unlike the Mafia, I can't shut them up or shoot them. In some cases, I wish I could! lol. So carry on...