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Hold up.. Sorry to threadjack here, but your comments on "these girls" are a little uncalled for.. If a guy friend/boyfriend/spouse is ok with us escorting, he doesn't care about us? You can't be serious.. This just shows the lack of respect you have for the women you claim to support here Are escorts actually expected to be loners, with no spouses or partners outside of the industry? Many sw do actually have partners, and are even married, with healthy, non exploitative relationships.. What about friends? Should we not have friends either because some are users and it's hard to choose who really has our best intentions in mind? I get that this situation with Kiarah is noteworthy and warrants discussion to help keep you safe, but to throw all sp under the bus as silly women with low self esteems, dating shitty people because they think they can't do better, is EXACTLY the mindset that went into the laws that now criminalize our clients.. Yourself included Good, and bad relationships exist in every occupation, and in every walk of life. No need to make such generalizations about sw relationships like we're some kind of non human, sustained only by our jobs.. We're complete multifaceted people, and just like any other section of humanity, we have good and bad experiences with each part of our lives Sorry to rant, but I'm in awe that I just read that on lyla

Well said MsManda! I have a long lasting relationship throughout my entire career!My life partner is NOT involved in my business, no more than a housewife is involved with her husbands accounting office lol. My partner does not live in the house I work in. We have our own lovenest! That being said, I tire of explaining ( well no I dont often explain myself away lol) "why dont you book ...." or awww I can ONLY do Sat...etc... Sorry dont what to tell ya all but I reserve 2/3whole days a week for me and my family and loved ones! And as soon as I say, no I do massage only, they say ....oh you have a BF????? I say.. Soooo i see your married! My restrictions have NOTHING TO DO WITH MY PERSONAL LIFE ! I have decided that this is my comfort zone, and I have decided this as a GROWN ASS WOMAN! Not as a surpressed and oppressed girl. Sorry but not sorry. ROAR

Hi :) I love this question! I started this smack in the middle of the year of anarchy (when old laws were suspended and new laws yet to be made) Of course review boards are the source of the problem!! The boards have a wide reach, they can influence the readers and since the alphas on the boards demand respect, many readers will do everything they can to appease so they can accepted. The problem comes when readers cannot think on their own and buy into the long held (sometimes erroneous) beliefs that these boards have propagated, all in the name of saving some poor soul from some bad girl. Even lots SW have bought into it. The original reason/excuse for the existence of reviews boards has morphed into a place were males (only males who are willing to be part of this world) can partake in locker room talk, share their methods on how to get the girl, and trash talk their last 'mate' with no consequences. Geez it may not even be true, but for males it is what they are socialized to do. It's a night out with guys at the strip club. Men being boys ;) When a group gets together in real life, and trades barbs and 'bull' stories, it stays within the group. Whether everyone in group believes it to be fact or fiction remains to be seen but they can leave and don't basically stay to be 'brainwashed' to think what everyone else in the group is thinking. When a large group gets together on the internet, and trades barbs and 'bull' stories, it stays around for less knowledgeable people to believe. And can influence them and their thought process and beliefs. Also males can compartmentalize this industry as it not real life for them but just a portion that can be turned on and off as it fits or doesn't fit into their lives. And the females (etc) for them, truly do not exist outside of their thoughts. So because of the atmosphere of review boards, it brings out the side of males that females usually don't want to see or know about. That side can show itself when meeting a SW and depending on the person (client) can manifest itself in any number of ways. That side can be present when males want to be part of a group. So, yes, they are the source of the problem. If they didn't exist then males would not be confident asking for things they shouldn't be asking for all because they read about it, a million times, from many anonymous men on the internet. It has set a norm and has created pressure because if a girl doesn't do what males on a review board have decided what should be included, then she will feel it from not getting enough business (that tells guys to punish the word "will" by not patronizing her)... or my favourite : "She shouldn't be in this industry and should find another career." That it just laughable.

This is a very good overview and I agree with all of it. Another aspect that I'd like to add to Sophia's words is the impact offering unsafe services has had on public opinion on the industry. The fact that uncovered services are promoted by providers and preferred by many clients has undermined support from the very people we need to vote for our industry legislation. Public support is key in getting our laws changed. The very idea of our indoor industry willingly providing unsafe services triggers the Righteous Mind of the square population and without their support at the polls, we will never get the decriminalization laws we need. I remember heated conversations in the private SP area concerning this and all safe providers were vilified for standing their ground and calling out unsafe providers. The "I am woman hear me roar" mentality of providers who were ass kissing to reviewers adopted the mantra "I don't like how a condom tastes/feels in my mouth" as if that was up for discussion. Construction workers must wear steel toed boots and a hard hat. Drs and nurses must scrub in for surgeries, firemen wear oxygen tanks and fire retardant equipment. Safety is an inarguable labour right which sex workers who are financially unstable will forego and predatory, brain dead hobbyists know this. The thing about rights is people don't think too much about losing them until they need them. And funny enough, those vocal proponents of unsafe services have all pretty much disappeared. I'm not sure if the correlation can be made but I find it curious. I'm well aware that we can't control what goes on behind closed doors but I believe that the review culture is the main factor in where our industry currently stands both in the US and Canada. Reviews and blatant service listing advertisements were used extensively to influence MP's into the passing of C36 and I believe helped pass FOSTA/SESTA. I hope the emergence of antibiotic resistant gonorrhea might help self correct this situation. Moving forward we need to readopt the safety standards and discretion of years past... smiles, cat

I thought this was an interesting read From another Sp's Blog so I added the link here. I know I felt the same pressures as what this SP is talking about when I first started up again after 15 years of not doing this. I started without offering specific services that i now offer because of feeling this pressure. I think a lot of women new to the industry do feel this pressure as well as women that have been in the industry for a while now. I definitely think this lady has a very good point. https://courtesanfashion.wordpress.com/2018/04/16/the-sex-industry-cannot-go-forward-by-repeating-the-mistakes-of-the-past/

I find that no one actually reads anymore. Not even a short paragraph unless it contains those annoying emojis. Cursive writing isn't a thing in schools anymore. Spelling is irrelavent because wtf and btw are easier. Oh, and predictive text is annoying!

I loved the article; inciteful and opinionated. I really appreciate the thesis. Well presented, informed and forthright. If I understand correctly, the author advocates banning (and I paraphrase) review boards entirely. She equates the review boards with a mentality that has: - Increased pressure to offer BB service - Diminished respect for workers as a whole - Encouraged a dehumanizing effect through rating system - Escalated disrespect for people - Escalated disrespect for boundaries - Escalated demands on services and rate competition - Dis-empowered worker rights and protections - Encouraged disrespect for treating the industry as a business - Driven a generally coercive behaviour toward providers Do I agree with her? Let's just say that as a reviewer on another board, it gives me points to ponder. I will examine my own behaviours. I get it and I'm grateful. I think the blog also reveals a dark side of media (review boards) and, human nature. Reviewers can hide behind relative anonymity to trash reputations and heap abuse. While that, I believe is the exception to the rule - it's also that perverted 10% that overwhelms the respectful majority. In this way, while media serves the income generating needs of the industry, it also bites the hand that feeds it - injuring the humanity and safety of service providers. I speak in black & white terms - there are other arguments too. Question - do you believe review boards are the source of the problem or they merely a reflection of something deeper?

@Sky6666 if you are looking for legit providers, try clicking on the person that posted right after your last post. No need to wonder far to start your search for lovely legit providers!

Thank you karmakiss for sharing that! I also just posted a comment there on her blog. Many people ask me why I am no longer a GFE provider. Many speculate and I am sure there are many wild imaginations out there. But the truth is, I just no longer could be apart of that ever changing landscape. Went from being all things covered mind of girl. To then some things uncovered, then I was competeting with even more risky behavours! Till one day I was confused on where the lines are drawn! When does my health and safety count? Where does GFE end and PSE begin??? I dropped all escorting service and entered into my massage service. I work harder, make less and I am ok with that! I now have lovely clients who truly visit for my skill sets, and they 100% respect my boudries. And by all means, I am NOT saying ladies who choose to PSE etc are doing something wrong or whatever, BUT we providers should be able to comfortably CHOOSE our services and not be bullied and pressured into providing services ONLY because we are scared about a review. If thats the case I would implement a strict do not review policy. Which I know even that would be tricky to even have controll over! Grr lol.

Being diagnosed with pre-cancer last summer -- but this weeks cancer screening found three polyps but nothing cancerous. YAHOO!!!

That's why it's up to *you* to do more research than just checking out the pictures. You wouldn't buy a car after just looking at the paint job, would you? Take the time to do proper vetting before meeting someone. Do image searches. Search Lyla for posts about them. Google their phone number. This isn't just important to ensure quality of your dates, but it also ensures your personal safety. As for the age thing... Learn to accept it. Us men drive demand in this industry, not the ladies. And guys unfortunately often favour youth. A lady who is honest about her age might see half the clients of a lady who fibs her age by a few digits. I mean they don't give you their real names either and no one flips out about that, so just enjoy your dates because age is only a number anyway. Good luck, and stay safe out there.

We moved this from the recommendation area to the bait and switch area. WE DO NOT ever reward anyone for BAIT AND SWITCH (Stealing someone elses photos and telling people they are your own is not right for a number of reasons) We most certainly will not reward that here. madmenmoncton is a new member, we obviously had a good time with this lady but is not aware of the issues with Bait and Switch. It is NOT something we can overlook. When you are bait and switched you should turn around and leave. Say "Sorry your photos are fake" and peacefully leave so that she gets NO REWARD at all for her deceitful act. If enough people do this they will loose a lot of money and eventually stop doing this. Posting here in the B&S area with a first hand account will also greatly reduce the number of people who see her.

Just realized today that I had passed my 8 year anniversary on Cerb/Lyla a few days ago. This all started out of curiousity. When I found this site I just spent my time reading all the reviews and interesting threads. After a few months I finally got the nerve to have my first SP experience. I had chosen a well reviewed SP and it was such a great experience that I had a second experience with her a few weeks later. I had meant for this to be a one time experience but after meeting many wonder SP's and making friends with a few. I found myself addicted to this life style. I am still friends with some of the girls I had first met in 2010. Since then I have had many wonderful experiences with established and new women in the business. These days, I spend most of my time with MA's and only a few SP's that I had already met. This lifestyle has made me a more confident man, and has given me a more exciting life. I was going to start slowing down meeting women. But with so many beautiful and sexy women in Ottawa to choose from. I find it hard to stop. I am still having lot's of fun. Making a lot of new friends who make my happy when I spend time with them. With the new laws in place in the states. Lyla is becoming more busy again. Many new members joining each day. This hobby has taught me a lot about people and myself. The women who do this and truly enjoy this work are the most successful. They truly enjoy giving pleasure and making men happy. Women who have been doing this for years grow more beautiful and sexier with time. New private massage make it safer for both the client and the hostess to meet and have fun in a safe secure location. These establishments are first class and safe and hire only the best MA's that they can find. But at the same time several have left the clubs to become independent on their own and have been very successful at it, because they truly love this work and like pleasing their clients. Over the years I have seen many women come and go. The site go from Cerb to Lyla. But recently getting many new users. Hopefully we can get this community going again? Maybe get the chat room busy again. So a toast to all the women I have met and will meet in the future. xoxo

Saving up for breast implants within the next year. Mine are getting smaller with weight loss and will probably deflate. Gravity eventually does take its toll. Lol.

Probably better to have it from an RMT then for those who just need massage.

"Review board culture has to end." Absolutely. I have decided not to give one more penny to any review board for advertising. I'm appalled by the conversations going on there. Why would I pay to be talked about like a piece of meat? We, providers, should stop advertising there, because if we pay, we support that. But unfortunately, this will probably not happen.

After thinking about it, I think you are right. No way these guys have any knowledge of statistical analysis. This means that they are just guessing on their theories about "black girl rules" which means that they will not know if their decision is hurting the business or not which also means that they will keep the "black girl rule" in place which is a shame. How do they decide which 3 black girls they will take on a night?

Do your research before just calling anyone then you wouldn't have that problem...and no not all ads are fake with fake pictures

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Unfortunately, you are right Phaedrus. And yet we pay our taxes. The government is OK to take our money, but to give us rights -including the right to advertise to be able to work and earn a living- that's another story. Which makes me rethink how I'm going to deal with my taxes from now on...

From a political standpoint they are accomplishing lots. The idea of saving trafficed kids (as well as saving regular sps from themselves) carries a lot of sway with the Christian fundamentalist right, which is the segment that got and keeps this government in power. Whether or not they are doing any actual good ( or actually even causing harm) is irrelevant to them. It's all optics.

I think it's more a generational gap than technology. Modern smartphones will learn the vocabulary from it's users and suggest words he/she often uses. I rarely use emojis and abbreviations and my phone will suggest complete words after typing one or two letters. If you receive an incoherent text message, blame the user and not the phone. The phone is only a tool and won't change a persons vocabulary. It will only adapt to how it's used. Have a nice hump day.

The legendary Sweet Emily J has to be the reference point when it comes to the art of BJ.

She has a ton of recommendations. Haven't seen her personally, but she sure has a lot of positive responses!

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See reco section. She is dynamite!