I haven't seen anyone in a looong time (also, currently reside with a LL girl, so...) , but when I did (or do in the future), I only see SP's who allow filming. I find the session goes too fast and leaves me in a haze - having a visual reminder is excellent. There will a day where I'll probably have problems remembering basic aspects of life (and will have little recognition of seeing a SP 30-40 years ago), so I can pop in the vid and re-live.
As for it being weird jerking to my own vids, I try to only film in POV-style (so I'm not really "visible") and I sit down with the SP prior and kinda plan out how the video will flow/what angles/position I want, etc. I try to make it look as much as a "real" porn vid vs me just shooting willy-nilly.