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Moncton has some great ladies. Unfortunately, doing what you did has earned you an award as a timewaster. I don't know who you have contacted, but I am pretty certain you will be required to pay a deposit for future encounters if you decide to contact them again. Do your research before making contact in the future. It will save you AND the ladies a big headache. One thing I would suggest is to reach out to others on this board for recommendations. It gives you a good baseline on where to start. Goodluck!

For some reason I can't explain I wake up earlier some morning with a raging hard boner and the only thing to calm myself down is to just pet the little guy until....well you know what?

oh Jessica Rain, very very nice!

First off - take a step back, a deep breath, and try to relax. Now, get yourself centered, and think about how to move forward. My advice, especially when very new to this, is to stick with providers who advertise in your area here on Lyla. Look for a provider that seems to match your mental and physical needs. Emphasis on the first part. Do your research, read the reccos, and make contact with one individual. Now stay calm and wait. Providers do not have operators standing by right now to take your call. They are people with lives and often work in this somewhat secluded and on their own. They don't necessarily sit around hoping for your message. Like all good things, time and patience is key. In the meantime, go ahead with your life, and wait for a response. Most reputable providers will get back to you same day or at least within 24 hours (unless otherwise specified on their site/post/etc). When you do get a message back, be friendly, precise and to the point while showing a little personality. Hopefully you can both agree on what you are looking for and when. If not, then thank them for their time. And start fresh with someone new. There's no need to be in a giant rush. This isn't the Wal-Mart self-checkout lane that grandma stumbled into with nothing but unlabeled fruit This is a conversation between two human beings, and that is really what it is all about.

I love both wow come back to Saint John New Brunswick soooonnnn please ❤️

Hey all. I'm new, I've only made a few posts, and this whole experience is pretty alien to me(not in a bad way of course, ahah). I discovered Leolist around the beginning of March, and being new in the Moncton area I was extremely intrigued. I started doing some research, found these forums, and started reading more into the hobby than I ever had previously. This lead to me eventually having my first SP experience towards March and my second on Monday. So yesterday I decided that I was going to schedule a booking. This is where things start to go awry. So I find an ad that I think looks pretty good. Sure, it's not verified, but reverse image search shows nothing so I'm thinking it's about 50/50. So I text her. Then over the course of the next 45 minutes I start to become nervous, I do more research, I convince myself that absolutely nothing good is coming out of this. 45 minutes later I've convinced myself that the ad is a scam. Then in my warped head since that didn't go anywhere I moved on to another ad, this time I couldn't find any background info. Same deal. I messaged 5 different numbers today. That in itself is a problem, I know. I'd psyched myself into thinking the numbers I contacted weren't genuine when I think I probably wasted the time of one or more SPs already. So a number responds, and I start to go ahead with making arrangements. After doing this, I go back to the ad and start scrutinizing it, keyword juggling in google and such, and I find a discussion topic about a backpage ad with the same name from 2016 where a few people claim that the SP was nothing like the pictures in her ad(which is absolutely her prerogative and perfectly fine), and I became more and more nervous until I canceled. Except I didn't just cancel, I lied. I made up some bullshit excuse because I felt terrible for wasting her time and couldn't tell her why I was really canceling. You would think after all this I'd just take a break, right? Enough of a shitshow for one day? Well, not in my head. So after calming myself down, I take a look through leolist again and reply to yet ANOTHER ad. At this point I'm being reckless and inconsiderate of the SPs that I'm contacting and that doesn't even click in my head until the SP I canceled with texted me to call me out on cancelling and then contacting her duo partner. They're both extremely angry and have every right to be and I feel terrible, like one of those guys they warn SPs about. I feel terrible and think maybe I should just not bother with this anymore. Got into this to have some fun and meet some interesting people and ended up wasting other people's time and possibly money.

Notch: that is simply what happens when you 'live life one orgasm at a time'! Keep doing that buddy, it works :)

Anything you can do to make the administrative factor easier would be appreciated. To do this: - Read the entire site/ad - only contact via the SPs expressed way of contact - fill out all forms to completion. - read reviews to find services levels So that you are not asking the provider - if she screens and you don't want to be, move on. Don't ask her to change her policy for you. There is nothing worse then having to do extra admin work. We are loaded up with emails/texts all the time. Anything that can reduce is appreciated. Right now, during this down time, subscribe to her online virtual services. One other thing that I think would help now, ask her if she likes to be reviewed and if so, review her. It helps her, it helps your fellow brethren and helps reviews sites. It is a win for everyone. That is all I can think of without coffee. LOL. Great question though. Thanks.

Hey guys, I'm not only new to lyla but I'm kinda new to this whole scene, and first off I have to say I'm blown away by how well organized things have become. The way the business is being handled now(at least the online portion), is leaps and bounds ahead of the the rest of the world might think and I genuinely applaud everybody for creating a supportive community for SPs and clients alike. My question is this: what is it we can do to make things easier for you? I mean, obviously, there's the basics: etiquette, manners, hygiene, respect. But I was sitting here waiting on an outcall appointment the other day and I thought to myself "I'd be so fucking afraid, going to this person's house with no idea what I'm walking into." Y'all are some of the bravest people I've ever met and I'd like to do everything I can when contacting somebody new to be above board and avoid putting anybody in an uncomfortable position. Advice?

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Sit on this...

I think that at one point you might have used the wrong head to do the thinking. Like what my friends on here have said just sit back relax and think thing through and consider a local girl that you can find on Lyla which may be on LL as well.

Thank you luxe,. I was always a fan of you on stage, but never trailed much. I agree with your perspective almost completely. I think the club's in Ottawa are unsure of how to define themselves. It's also cheaper and easier to allow thing's than enforce rules, that would require management to plan and manage properly, which is more work than normal bar manager's have... So they resort to lowest effort / cheaper management...

I stopped dancing in Canada because : *Not being allowed to dance to music I like or is at least current. I'm an older Millennial, I know most of these top 80's and 90's songs and it's sucks for me, I can only imagine someone younger who is totally unfamiliar with the sound and vibe. Not sexy. * People trying to touch me inappropriately( grabbing my breasts, pinching/biting my nipples, licking me, trying to shove fingers up me) and without trying to compensate me for it at that. Frankly it's scary and super uncomfortable when someone does that to me without asking. TBH it's assault. I remember the days guys got bounced out of the clubs and their heads for that. * Having to go on stage for free, actually I pay to go on stage with my fees. Anyone who's seen me dance knows I can do some pretty sweet pole tricks. I stopped really performing and do the bare minimum on stage since I figured what's the point? It's pervert row and is usually comprised of the guys who come in and buy 10$ drink to sip all night " I aM jUsT HEre to WatCh the ShOW" Ok well, thats fine and dandy, but you can pull out a few toonies or *gasp* a Laurier and tip for the LITERAL acrobats we are doing right in front of you. In Calgary, loonies are standard, U.S.A ones are flying, it's not unusual to get 20's. Thats why all the millennial dancers are going there. *No enthusiasm from customers. 2005-2010 guys were so over the moon when walked to their table. Now they treat us like the plague because we want dances. Like I'm here to perform for you! NAKED! * "WhAT Do I gET if I Go In the Back?" For 20$? a lap dance. Clubs are avoided by newbies and veterans alike because they've literally become low end brothels. Why would I do that when I can post an ad, stay home, spend time with men that really like me and be better compensated? Strippers are just that, strippers. If they wanted to do more they'd be escorts (like myself). We usually get fired for doing extras, not to mention other dancers are not really fans of the girls that do extras in the club so that makes for a great work environment. Also, if management gets wind, you're done everywhere in that city. I started as a dancer, I left in this country because the vibe is just shit here now. Many of my fellow millennials feel the same way and just host privately or travel, lots less headache and stress for more return on investment. Suggestions: * TIP YOUR DANCERS, ESPECIALLY ON STAGE!!!! This goes without saying. If you paid to go to work and you on stage killing yourself to only blank stares and drooling drunks, it looses it appeal real fast. Make it fun and appealing for us and reciprocate our energy! We love to perform thats why we're performers, we like to go where our fans are. Show us you're a fan by tipping and we will return! * When a lady comes over, say hello! Even if you're not interested, you don't have to treat us like lepers! We have feelings too 🙂 Be polite, smile, ask how her night is. Just pretend its a normal night club and we're normal women. How would you talk to a woman who approached you in civvie bar? Use that. You can decline dances, but still be nice. It's not hard. If a lady sits with you for over 3 songs and you're enjoying her company , tip her. She's entertaining you, and she paid to be there, but is choosing instead of looking for someone else, to spend her time with you and keep you company. It's not hard to appreciate and compensate her for that. After all that's why you're there 😉 * DONT ASK FOR EXTRAS! When I go to dance, I'm there to dance. I'm also an escort so I have different physical boundaries, but many ladies who dance aren't comfortable going further than that, if they were they probably wouldn't be dancers. Many of my colleagues have quit to find other jobs or go to other countries because they signed up to dance, not to perform sex acts. It makes a lot of ladies super uncomfortable and leave a club quickly if they know they will have to do extras to compete. If you'd like more, offer to see her outside of work. Don't expect to pay usual rates, strippers rates are usually much higher since they aren't as accessible sexually as other sex workers. * DON'T TOUCH YOUR DANCERS WITHOUT PERMISSION! All the points above, plus CONSENT is thing, whether I'm naked or not, a stripper, escort, whatever. Ask me before you touch me, don't assume like everything else in life. I'm a woman first. Everything else label wise is secondary. All these points used to be standard, they are still now, but somehow along the way things got shitty, and that's why no one dances over here anymore. Clubs in other countries are booming and women flock in droves. At the end of the day, I guess it's on the clients to make it an environment that dancers actually want to spend their hard earned money to work in. At 40$ to 100$ a shift, for that kind of investment it needs be a good positive environment that I'm happy to work and be in. The strip club used to be my favourite place in the whole world, I'd leave parties in university to go to work I loved it that much. The lights, the noise, the shoes (!!!!!) and the best part, the men smiling at me, telling me wonderful things and so happy I'm there!!!!! Regardless of the money, the energy was fabulous, the patrons were like kids at Disneyland. Now, in Canada, I wouldn't touch it with a ten foot pole. What changed? The vibe, and the patrons, sullen resentful, looking at floor without even looking at us, waving us away without so much as a hello, expecting full service for 40$, the list goes on . You can be doing literal backflips on stage and maybe get a clap. It's depressing ASF and honestly, I'd rather just post my ad and have someone come over who's actually happy to see me. This millennial misses it terribly. I MISS MY CLEAR SHOES!!! 🙂

No luck as of yet, I gave her a text yesterday at 11:30AM and got a response around 2AM. I can't think of any reason for an SP to make it really hard to book unless it's something about the way that I presented myself(and maybe it could be that), so I don't think she's scamming people or anything. In conclusion: Results inconclusive.

These were found on Tinder...

I think you may be misunderstanding me Petra and Tesla, I said I personally have never had an issue not being leolist verified. (Although I sometimes post pictures with a sign that says Jaymie Mae) I can totally see how it’s a good way for clients to see legitimacy but as stated above twice, not all verified ads are not “real” and “legitimate”! I was simply saying I’ve never had an issue not verifying on LeoList and I am a provider who asks for screening and deposits on my appointments! I also don’t take new clients at this point. For girls who travel and are taking on new clientele all the time I certainly can see the importance, but I was simply stating just because someone is verified, don’t assume it’s 100% safe and accurate photos, because there have been instances of verified ads being scams in some way or another! Not everyone is a Lyla member but I highly recommend anyone who is engaging in this “hobby” to join! It’s a great place for SP and clients alike. 🥰 xoxo Miss Jaymie Mae Sparx

THIS.

Rephrase. I do not purchase time with unverified SP's. Was not harm intended in the post. I see no reason for active SP's to not be verified. Are there scams? Of course. We all need to do our best to expose those scams, however, verification is one step of many. Not the perfect system by a long shot, but a step.

dude !! please rewrite/ next time as I don't purchase time with SPs with unverified .. or I don't purchase service with SPs .... thanks. "purchase SP" is not cool, man... even if unintended.