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That was a great interview Phaedrus, Thank you for this this. I think the above quote sums it up for me and it’s a problem in many other areas too. Somehow the goal of helping gets twisted into judging and condemning. A complex issue for sure. Thanks Lydia!

"It is a general truth that the further underground you push an industry, the more problems such as exploitation become more ingrained and harder to combat" Couldn't agree more with you!! Very well put and thank you so much for your time. 👌

Great interview @lydiahardwood good choice in finding @Phaedrus to answer these question. I think he answered them very well, I agree with him.

I recently had the pleasure of meeting @StephanieMystique for the first time when she came up to Sydney. I've been a long-time hobbyist of encountering providers and have lurked on these forums for a while. I've never cared enough to drop a recommendation on a provider, as most of the time is just a usual routine that I stop thinking about within a day or two. She is not the usual routine. If you like what you hear about her and her pictures, you're going to adore her in person because neither pictures or word of mouth does her justice. There is absolutely nothing she does wrong when she meets you. She opens up with a hug that she could probably make a career out of for the emotionally wounded, her sincerity with how she speaks to you can break your social barriers and all doubts fade as her sheer interest in you can make you open up about all of your passions. The level of comfort I felt around her was unreal. To commit to the rules, I can't go into details so just refer to the "There is absolutely nothing she does wrong when she meets you" thing I said in the above paragraph. She's comforting, welcoming and still radiates a commanding authority. After our encounter came to an end and I wandered off to go home, I found myself in a trance that had me standing in the produce section of a grocery store, constantly flashing back to a time well spent and getting lost in a store I've been to hundreds of times; a trance that carried over into me making an account here, sitting down and writing this a whole day after. Her reputation is not a joke or a hyperbole. It was a fantastic encounter and I'll definitely be coming back for more!

Was incredibly thrilled to see Phaedrus' words for the next interview shared! Thank you for sharing with us ❤ Your avatar is one of the most familiar on this site for me, and I am flattered to have you follow me both here and on Twitter. This topic I can not be a fan of enough. Super happy that it was chosen to be discussed. What's happening with communication on the internet right now kind of reminds me of the fight against censorship in music back in the 80s/90s. Controversy has always been something I loved as I feel it pushes us to question ourselves, the way we think and why we feel the need to control others in their expressions. Something I feel I I've been victim of and judged for, well, since the 90's! I am the definition of a loud, wild and liberal personality. The fly by the seat of my pants/DIY personality has definitely helped me learn quite a bit these last few decades. If I had listened to how they wanted me to be, I don't think I would know half of what I do now. Even to this day I still have those I have chosen to share the side of me with try to throw a construct at me to have me question the choices I make. I do my due diligence and know how to take care of myself. I don't need my friends to remind me of what to worry about and how to protect myself. I just need them to accept me as I am. There are a lot of conservative fearful people out there who try to control. Instead it would be nice if we could just focus on our own selves and fears instead. The focus just shouldn't be on them however as there is a lot of control that happens within the scene well. A good reason why I usually keep to myself. A comment that really struck me was when Shape mentioned "Somehow the goal of helping gets twisted into judging and condemning". This reminds me of why I enjoy working as a dom. It's good to test and assess those who claim they want to help as most of the time there is very likely other motive. Those who can genuinely help often continue to do their own thing, until such help is sourced or requested. I do agree however that there could be more done to separate the kind of work we do from one another. This thought is interesting and wonder if brainstorming ideas and applying them may help others fear it less? There is some content I may not be interested in creating or providing myself however I don't feel it's fair to judge those who do choose to partake in it. Provided it's consensual and enjoyed. Even us kinksters have limits. Some things I am not interested in seeing at all. Hats off to those who may. There is just as much work to be done on the other side of the pendulum. Just as much as we are judged for expressing ourselves, we can also tit-for-tat and judge others for being so controlling. Young people are curious. Sheltering them too much will only pique their need to explore more. It did mine 😼 The quote I enjoyed most in all of Phaedrus' amazing perspective "Even if you approve of someone you don't like being shut down today, what happens when the censors decide they don't like you tomorrow? You'd be amazed how likely that is, given that most of us hold views about something that are at odds with what's approved of by mainstream society. The only way you can guarantee your safety is if you're the one making the decisions, but there's only room for one at the top". looking forward to more of your amazing work next month @lydiahardwood 💋

Really great interview!!

This is a fetish of mine as well! Receiving a quick BJ in an elevator was one of my ultimate favorites never knowing when the door was opening. Also feet, licking, massaging getting a foot job (I'm sure many guys enjoy this) Not sure if a fetish or a preference but 69 with daty Yum.

Met up with Jesse in Moncton, she is absolutely a sweetheart.A very ;pretty face,and great personality, she was a delite to be with and loves what she does.Will repete.

Do you have a fetish that you can't satisfy? What are you secret fetishes? I have a fetish of seeing a woman squirt, also like to see a woman get dressed up. Ok maybe not the weirdest of fetishes but that is what makes me happy. What about you? Here are some fetishes that are a bit unusual... Does one or more of these fetishes describes you?

Thanks for the kind words, everyone! What amazes me about this stuff is how fast things change these days. I wrote that lot the weekend after New Year; since then, we've had the riots in DC and this stuff has really come to the fore. I wish I'd talked more about the power of corporations; in the last week we've seen the Most Powerful Man In The World (supposedly) deplatformed and booted off social media, and we've seen an entire social media platform removed from the web entirely. I can't say I'll miss either Trump or Parler, but it's a vivid illustration of where the true power lies these days. And the likes of Zuckerberg, Dorsey, Pichai and Bezos are accountable to... nobody, as far as I can tell. And something new on the section 230 stuff: an interesting lawsuit in BC. I have no idea how it will go, but if we end up in a situation where the social media giants are liable in Canada for what people post... either they could end up pulling out of Canada to avoid liability, or inflicting on Canadian courts a painful and humiliating lesson about who's really in charge if they simply decide to ignore what a judge in Vancouver has to say.

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BOOM! @Phaedrus nailed it. Well thought out, considered, informative, challenging and enjoyable interview. Great perspective offered. A huge thanks to @Phaedrus and @lydiahardwood for bringing this to us. It's Phaedrus' last paragraph that shows us a road forward.

Even though chances were slim that she would feel the same way, I think it was brave of you to try. I’m glad she responded to you with compassion. It brings to mind @waterrat’s interview and his valuable insights on the topic.

Okay, so against popular opinion, I went out and saw Nadia. And although not as bad an experience as I was expecting. There was an unprofessional moment when I arrived, another service provider in the room but she was promptly asked to leave. Nadia seemed to really care about her service and she was very open minded to my requests (communicated in advance). I have my doubts about some of her ad pics and how recent they are but some are recent and really her. And her incall hotel certainly isn't one of Moncton's finer establishment and the room had the "lived in" look. I've never met with Lexus, so I can't confirm if they are the same girl. I am however leaning towards this not being true. They are no ties between the two accounts on LL (number, email, chat name, content, etc.). I've texted with both and one is open minded about my request and the other wants nothing to do with it, and their writing style via text are completely different. Certainly not the same category as some of the professional SP's out there. For a travelling girl, I would say it was a good experience.

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They can't all be RMT's and no professional massage involves her being naked, so they're ignoring the rules. When both kijiji and LL have next to no ads and all the regulars have gone into hiding, it's probably not the best time to be a plague rat.

Hello. Thanks kindly.

Well I notice you said "when YOU fall in love" so the question I have is...is it mutual? If it's not.... remember you went into this as a business relationship so you don't have the right to decide it is something different now. If it's mutual then you need to be talking to her and not us. Just my Opinion.

Shawshank redemption and the Matrix are my all time favorites.

I recently (safely) had the wonderful opportunity to share some time with Alexx. It was, without question, one of the best encounters I have had. Her screening process gave me confidence that it would be a safe meeting and it was a relaxed process. I appreciated that she was careful, it made me feel that all would be well. Safety is a constant watch-word, especially in these times, so when she greeted me to check my temperature I was so comfortable. Alexx’s incall place is wonderful, super clean and comfortable. Alexx herself is a exceptionally classy lady and, as hard as it might be to believe, more attractive than her pictures imply. Beautiful and sexy are words that fail to adequately describe her. Her physical appearance, as incredible as it is, is only exceeded by her intelligence and thoughtfulness. She is so great to talk to, sharing bits of what she likes and taking an interest in what you are into. I would have been happy just talking with her for our entire time together. That said we did move on to other activities. She has extraordinary massage skills that are not to be missed. The balance of our time together was even better...that you will have to experience for yourself… extraordinary would be a close one word description of that part of our meeting. An encounter with her is not be missed. Highly recommended!

With the pandemic still going on and what's going on south of the border (aka the US election) it seemed especially appropriate to wear my apocalypse outfit. Got to dress properly when it looks like a major crisis may come LOL Now I'm prepared for anything LOL A stupid rambling I know RG

Damn guess if I was ice cream I'd be.....LOL Yes I'm vanilla, or in other words boring RG

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Berlin thank you so much for sharing. I’m constantly amazed by how much these interviews surprise and inform. And thank you Lydia for continuing to offer these interviews!

I had the pleasure of meeting with Alexx. She is stunning and very easy on the eyes (gorgeous). At the same time she introduced me to Tiffany, another lovely lady. Their location is very welcoming and very clean. Back to Alexx, her services are hands down the best service I’d received so far and I’m planning on visiting them again in the very near future. Thanks again Alexx.

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Hands down for me A Christmas Story, Miracle on 34th st. The original Christmas Carroll and It's a Wonderful Life, Elf and Rudolf. The last I have to watch every year is the original How the Grinch Stole Christmas.