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Not sure if this is the right place to post this but I'm happy to say my warranted suspension from a few years back has been lifted and I look forward to be able to participate on this site once again. Thank you to Mod and a special thanks to Lydia H. for giving me a second chance so to speak . It will be a kinder more diplomatic version of me I promise , I missed not having access to what Lyla offers to us Hobbiests. With a lot of scams out there I always felt this community offered comfort and security to all parties involved. Now the fun begins !

Well folks, here I go again starting a new thread with a plethora of sexy ladies. This one is with a body suit. Don't you just love how it fits over the lady parts and hugs the lower part of their body? Even if it's a one piece bathing suit...that is just as sexy to me.

She is fine. Taking a break during Covid

Thanks to everyone welcoming me back now and in the future.

Don't believe I've ever interacted with you before @boomer01 as I'm Ontario based but welcome back - and especially because your thank you note above perfectly underlines the benefits of a positive space like Lyla.

A second welcome back boomer01!

#1 how long have you been seeing her? #2 our you a preferred client with her? regular? #3 how long are the sessions? #4 have you had a overnight or longer time spent together? #5 have you ever discussed a sugar daddy arrangement with her?

I nominate @MsMandafor her bold, genuine comments. Proud of her 😎

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Even though chances were slim that she would feel the same way, I think it was brave of you to try. I’m glad she responded to you with compassion. It brings to mind @waterrat’s interview and his valuable insights on the topic.

I believe a love relationship survives long term if both people are mature thinking people who are very compatible regardless of what their occupations are or have been. Do they fight fair and really listen to each other. Many ladies in the sex trade have fallen in love with their clients and worked out an arrangement with them that works for both of them. Those who marry and leave the business just don't report back to the public as a rule so gathering reliable stats on how well they work out is impossible and not really a yardstick to use anyway. If they didn't work out well, it likely has more to do with the characters and personalities of the people than it did with working in the sex trade. Leaving the sex trade would remove much possible conflict clearly, but it depends on what kind of love relationship the couple wants and needs for themselves that is the real bottom line. If you define love as "strong liking" as opposed to the more "forsaking all others" kind of devotion, a couple can still be in love long term and be happy if they have maturity no matter what they do for a living in my opinion. .

Well, if you're in love. then I suggest living together, getting married, have an open relationship.... whatever turns your crank and both parties agree to and find fulfilling. Of course any of these options will be more expensive than the current situation. This is the voice of experience here.... to quote my dear friend Zorba the Greek: "Am I not a man? And is not a man stupid? I'm a man, so I'm married. Wife, children, house--everything. The full catastrophe."

I have never heard of a situation like this ending well, with everyone living happily ever after. Cease all contact, leave the country, and join the French Foreign Legion.

Been a long time 'lurker' on Leolist/Lyla as I was always interested in the services the site provides, yet was always wary as you hear stories of scams and worse happening to people. So I did some research and decided to go with Allie as my first experience. An out of the world experience. A charming woman who is also beautiful and intelligent. Got to know her on a more personal level and you can see that she has drive and ambition in life, in addition to being down to earth and caring. She is worth every dollar spent.

Thank you to everyone for sharing their stories and comments. i had a regular lady that I would see on regular basis. We had an amazing time together. She was able to give me what I was looking for in a client/sp way. Tried to keep everything on a business level. With time we have developed a wonderful friendship together. With time my feeling for her got stronger. It was not love but something close. One day we and talked about our situation. And came to a conclusion that we were going to end the client/sp relationship. And now it has been close to 8 months we talk and text every day. I can not be any happier. I have lost an amazing sp but gained a good friend. Since last October I have been seeing someone on regular basis in the industry. I have developed some sort of feelings for her. But unfortunately she can not fulfill my needs as a client. All that to say Is that this industry is hard one. as plays with our emotions and feelings. Especially when we clients seek services from sp in search for an emotional connection. I have learnt with time for me that is better to stop before you get too emotionally involved. I have to admit that is hard. Wishing everyone a wonderful day.

I've been in this sort of situation recently. I had an SP I was seeing back in 2009 which ended up that we hung out together and we became close. She got caught up in life drama & making bad life decisions and I had to break away from it in 2012. 6 Years later out of the blue she contacts me out of nowhere and wanted to see where I was in life compared to her. I was doing very well but her situation was pretty bad. I made the mistake of feeling sorry for her and lending an ear / attention to her for a few months to the point where I went to visit her in Ontario and help her out a bit which ended up being a huge mistake as she ended up having feelings for me and dragged me into her drama again. Long story short, she's back to being an escort again (even though she's married with kids which I didn't know until I got there) Fool me twice... shame on me. A lesson well learned. As to why some of us men fall for this... I don't even know why. I know I don't have an answer as I'm usually a lot more smarter & intelligent than this so i'm at a loss for an answer. But it happens more than you think.

I also have gotten very attached to a specific sp. a few times. the one that was very special to me I spent a small fortune on. I helped her out with rides, clothes, picking up supplies for her, buying outfits, taking pics for her ads, taking her to industry events. When she quit and went into hiding because of a stalker, I was the only client who saw her regularly. I became very attached. I never had any illusions about a relationship outside the industry, and never had any free sex, although I did treat her to dinner more rimes than I can count. I took her in a small paid vacation and paid for a few overnights. The problem was when I thought I deserved special treatment. She made it clear I was a client and at one point she told me to stay out of her personal life. I think she had friends who told her to keep me at arms length. Every time I bought her a present, she’s tell me what she wanted next. It got out of hand. i took up seeing many other sp’s. And as I spent less and less money on her, she quit texting me asking for gifts and telling me what she needs. Eventually I realized rhat she’s doing quite well without me. It was me who put myself in the daddy/protector role and I don’t need to do that. I haven’t seen her for a few months. I’ve played sugar daddy to a few others, but in a few of those situations, they start taking advantage and drive me away. The answer was to see more and different SP’s. Although I care and appreciate the Lady’s I see, I have no need to get involved in thier lives. There is another one I care for who has a drug problem, and doesn’t want help. I backed away, hope she finds help someday but it’s not up to me to rescue anybody.